DATING WITH SOCIAL ANXIETY (My Story + Real Advice!) | first Tinder date, first kiss... (Part 1)

[@ItsStyleTheory]

Part 2 is here!! "Things My Tinder Dates Taught Me" Check it out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mouspZqkq6igqqs

[@MrGameV]

Even the simple idea of starting a conversation on Tinder freaks me out. I cannot imagine myself going on a date. I hope one day overcome this feeling of fear. I really do.

[@sunrise8752]

You can do it! I had terrible social anxiety going on dates (like literally trembling) but I got Hinge and started going on dates and it really gets sooooo much better. Not completely gone but way better. It’s something you have to do. If you want to grow, you have to do the uncomfortable.

[@jjbaby2001]

I relate to everything you said so much. Being a hopeless romantic and wanting that perfect love story. My social anxiety most definitely holds me back from putting myself out there. I love watching your progression and how far you’ve come with your social anxiety. You give me motivation to try even though it is very nerve racking😩Looking forward to part 2!💜

[@ItsStyleTheory]

I believe in you girl! I know it’s hard!! 😩 Thx for watching :)

[@andromedastardust3160]

I love your videos. I’m 25 and had my very first date two weeks ago. I met him online. It was nerve wracking. I could barely eat for two days before the date... but I SHOWED UP and it was great ... even got asked on a second date (that is tomorrow actually, I’m freaking out again but so much more calmer than last time 😂) Took me two years of consistent therapy to deal with my depression and anxiety to get to the point where I even considered trying to meet someone. It was (and still is) really really hard and takes a lot of courage. I don’t know you, but I sincerely wish you and everyone struggling with social anxiety and their mental health a happy life full of love ❤️

[@ItsStyleTheory]

Ahhh thanks for sharing!! That’s so awesome! I love that you showed up and then it ended up going well! I definitely still get so nervous for dates 😆 Good for you for putting in the work in therapy to get to this point, that’s admirable. 👏🏽 I hope your second date is lots of fun!!

[@Butterflyyy1122]

I'm so happy for you !!! I hope one day I'll be able to have my first date !!!!

[@sophieeel4478]

IM SO AWK THO WHAT DO I DO, i rlly like him cuz i met him on bumble and hes so amazing and wants to meet friday, i think i might go but i might drink which i hate doing but my anxiety will b terrible

[@meralk28]

My problem is not the date, it's the awful anxiety I experience when I meet their friends and family. I freeze and I decline the invitations. It always end up with a break up because I can't handle it

[@interiorpeople8131]

Yeah, why people always have friends and family? Can’t they just be misanthropes?

[@asaadalshahin6519]

i love this. as a person with social anxiety who just started getting back into the dating world, i’m super excited for part 2!

[@ItsStyleTheory]

So glad you enjoyed! Looking forward to sharing part 2 soon! 😊

[@oxrea]

Naah the hardest part about having a date in my opinion is actually talking TO your date. I'd be nervous getting ready because I'm thinking about how I can't even have a conversation w/ people without it being awkward to me. And in that case i'll always be alone.

[@CourtneyVioletta]

I loved this, it felt like I was chatting with a friend!

[@ItsStyleTheory]

💜

[@isthatyoujaunwayne4183]

Great work getting in front of the camera when you have social anxiety. It was really easy to listen to someone who sounds so nice.

[@HandnMeat]

God i relate to this so MUCH. As a kid/teen I always had this desire to meet someone I love and for them to just sweep me off my feet. I thought it would just come to me. And I never put myself out there to try. It’s so hard living with social anxiety while your peers go about dating so easily and then you’re sitting there like uh yeah....i’m not into that scene 😂. At 26...it’s sad. Anyway I tried that tinder life during these corona times and my anxiety came out even during something as minor as swiping right (or whichever one it is that’s a match). So i would just mass swipe left..sigh. Then when tinder gave free passport to everyone i used that to match with guys across the world from me and talked a little with them because I knew there’d be no pressure of me ever meeting them irl. Lol. Please talk about your first real kiss!! I’m super curious about that. God I DREAD someone finding out about my inexperience in kissing even though I know its not a big deal 🥺🥺 ALSOO (sorry for the essay lmao) but for me, whenever anything involves the opposite sex or anyone I’m attracted to, I use alcohol to relax even though I know it’s not the best thing to do. What do you think about that?

[@ItsStyleTheory]

Aw, thank you so much for your comment! I can relate to so much of what you said!! When I first started using Tinder even the swiping and matching part stressed me out! Eventually I got more comfortable chatting with people on there... Also yes to the alcohol thing!! When I first started dating maybe that’s why I’d always suggest meeting for drinks at a bar... it’s underrated how much easier alcohol makes it (for me) to talk and feel comfortable around someone (I still do that now come to think of it 😬😬 but getting better) I talk a little more about the kissing part in part 2 (already filmed) but now I wish I’d elaborated even more. Maybe in a future video! Anyway kissing is so intuitive and we overthink it when we really shouldn’t. Best of luck with everything!!

[@HandnMeat]

Its Style Theory thank you so much!! Ahh you give me hope ❤️❤️

[@HandnMeat]

Its Style Theory omgg i gotta tell you an update. So me and my girl friend went out last night to celebrate and we meet these guys. One of them was really into me and at one point he kept trying to kiss me. But he was using his tongue, not fully but like idk almost having a taste. I was drunk but i was inwardly freaking out and kept moving my face to the side to avoid the kiss lmaooo. I did like him etc But girl idek what to do because I wanna makeout w him if i see him another time but i don’t fucking know how???? A peck is whatever, when tongue is involved its a different story. And i’m to embarrassed to ask my friends for help. WHAT DO I DOOO 😭

[@ItsStyleTheory]

Hi! Thanks for sharing this update! 😊Not all guys have the best intentions so be careful! 🙏🏽 I hope he was being thoughtful of how comfortable or not comfortable you were about going there.. Especially since he just met you and you said you’d been drinking. Anyway, in terms of the how-to on kissing.. girl!!! Honestly your question made me realize I’m still wondering about some things myself 😂 I’m still having new experiences (more recently especially) and your question inspired me to do a bit of google searching on the topic. All I can say is there’s a bit of good advice out there on the Internet for people like us who have questions 😆😅 Honestly a lot of it is intuitive though and just about getting to know the person and trying things if that helps a little.

[@HandnMeat]

Its Style Theory yeah i’m definitely being careful and i already told him that i’m not the type you can just get with easily like that (not that it’s wrong either) And thank you for the reply ❤️❤️ we’re meeting again this saturday and I plan on being sober (well ok one glass of wine to relax but that’s it) 🥰. I definitely think kissing is intuitive too, that’s why i was so hesitant because I didn’t know this guy and he was all over me like that lmaooo. But unlike other situations i didn’t reject it fully and I felt sort of safe. Gonna explore it better :)

[@trinity3351]

Thank you this really helped me and made me feel not alone like people are actually going through the same thing as me💕

[@phoeberose8124]

Thank you so much for this. I really needed someone to tell me just to say yes and show up because my biggest flaw is cancelling and ghosting. Thank you so so much!!

[@ItsStyleTheory]

You’re so welcome!! Good luck on your dating journey!

[@Rainyploom]

Thank you for this video it's really encouraging for me to hear we can still date and make connections with social anxiety. It can feel lonely sometimes but I guess the key is to say yes instead of no.

[@ItsStyleTheory]

You’re welcome!! Yes, you can definitely date with social anxiety.. wherever you happen to be in your journey! :) And I’ve found that when I mentioned my social anxiety on dates most people were super sweet and understanding about it!

[@rosemarylavendar8607]

Dude, when I started this video I was like "That's an angel." I swear. Also, heavily relate to this--I'm trying to date and am already freaked out.

[@cynnicolely1129]

How do you deal with social anxiety on a date at restaurants? Usually restaurants are really crowded and it makes me feel even more anxious

[@ItsStyleTheory]

That’s a tough one... I guess sometimes you have to feel the fear and do it anyway. So maybe for restaurant dates it’s just about showing up and once you’re there just take it one moment at a time. Deep breaths can help and just trying to stay present and focus on the person you’re with.

[@gloria770]

I always choose less crowded restaurants. That could maybe help.

[@dietc0kebb]

thank u for this video, i have a first date the day after tomorrow and i feel like throwing up just thinking about this but this video really helped!!!

[@ItsStyleTheory]

I hope it went well!!

[@alicecdm1761]

Same thing! I have a date in 4 days and I feel sick ! I can’t eat, i feel like i’m going to throw up… that’s so scary

[@sunrise8752]

How did it go? ☺️

[@angelguttierrez6500]

I really like this girl that has social anxiety & I don’t know what to do to help her out & make her feel confturble doing things like going out & expierence new things & also keep talking with that person but I don’t really want to pressure her on & I really don’t know what to do & this video will help me on understanding her & not make mistakes I will thank you for your help 🙏

[@Sarah-o3v]

You could ask her if she wants to go and if not don't judge her. She will probably open up when she's ready. She just needs you to be supportive.

[@angelguttierrez6500]

@@Sarah-o3v i need some advice since i really like this girl & i want to get to know her before we start a relationship like what advice i need to know when we date

[@xXEmExorcismXx]

Thank you so much :) I talked to this person for like a week before and I think the advice is going to work

[@4TGGuapstar]

I felt a lot of what you were saying. I just started dating this girl but I feel like I’m not enough for her. I feel very insecure when it comes to dating. Our first date was a movie night too but we went with friends and they said I was being awkward bc it looked like I wasn’t trying to be there, which wasn’t the case I was scared asl. And she told me that I seem like I’m not ready for a real relationship and she wants to take it further but she also wants to wait for my sake.

[@4TGGuapstar]

But at the same time I am starting to feel comfortable around her to the point where I want to be with her almost at all times. But I don’t like when we are around other people bc I feel so nervous and out of place.

[@sunrise8752]

I can relate with you 100%. And this is such an encouraging video. Thank you so much 💜

[@ItsStyleTheory]

☺️💜

[@daniellebrien5109]

I haven’t dated in 2 years due to social anxiety ! Thank you for posting girl ❤️❤️

[@ItsStyleTheory]

You’re welcome! Thanks for watching! 💕

[@incubus_the_man]

It's really hard for straight guys with this disorder because it makes approaching women that much more difficult. On top of that, social expectations for men can make it even harder if you have SA. You probably have an idea of what that's like given you're bisexual. SA breaks your confidence and confidence is the main attractant in dating.

[@ItsStyleTheory]

Actually yeah, it does seem like that would be hard! I hadn’t thought about that too much..

[@user-eo9to7wd2t]

I’m a girl and I want to try to approach guys but I’m a little scared. I’ve heard that guys won’t like you as much if you ask them first and you weren’t their first choice if they didn’t ask you out themself. I also have a fear of rejection. But I tend to be attracted to the quieter guys that don’t talk to anybody so it seems like I’m gonna have to make the first move😬

[@howellcori5]

For real dude! We're always expected to make the first move and that shit is too stressful for me. I tried one time and it went horribly wrong and I'll probably never do it again lol

[@tatistone3218]

Thank you so much

[@ItsStyleTheory]

You’re welcome! ☺️

[@ItsNightSky]

Hi 👋😊

[@ItsStyleTheory]

Hi! 😄

[@Rainyploom]

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[@caravan1871]

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