social anxiety crippled me , until I did this

[@HINDZSIGHT]

anybody relate to having some social anxiety ?

[@lurkwave]

Big yes. Im a musician and its been holding me back.

[@trikkyHUH]

yes 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@desireearsenault8853]

i have realy bad social anxiety and panic disorder and i work so hard to get past it, thanks for the video

[@trinnystarot7601]

yess thank youuu so much for speaking on topics like this, we appreciate your time energy and knowledge

[@legionnightmare5614]

Yea but I finally conquered it

[@LivingALifeOfAbundance]

Confidence is not walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, its walking into a room not comparing yourself to anyone at all.

[@Martina_E]

That's a word!

[@Angelas.Eye_]

♥️👌🏼

[@Lavender_moon151]

Exactly

[@ivycdraws]

That's so beautiful

[@maryo8882]

wow, love this a lot!

[@consciousandaware]

Social anxiety happens when you value other people’s opinions more than your own

[@AliciaHunny]

This is so true😭😭

[@ComfyClozy]

yikes that is true.. the insecurity of interacting

[@holaquetal3925]

Yup but how do you train your body to stop reacting to that fear? I can feel it on my body and the more I try to fight it it gets worse and worse😭

[@holaquetal3925]

@77ranko woww I'll go check that out! Thank u🙏

[@JP.RuizR.]

spot on

[@Jayy717]

“my social anxiety isn’t my final form” love that

[@yolobro2071]

Ok jayy loves that

[@tonieeb9220]

I have yet to go even further beyond

[@saint1563]

how do i get to my final form

[@jimsauce2784]

As a grocery store cashier I can confidently say that one small positive interaction can change my mood for the rest of the day, kindness goes so incredibly far 🙂

[@CHRISTChrysalisInManhaim]

I've been there and it's so true 💕

[@ErikaWolf93]

It really does. I couldn't handle retail or grocery anymore though. I just couldn't. It was hurting. Most people can leave their feelings at home but I cant.

[@mizzmimi3092]

!!!

[@Lisa-qt4hh]

Same as a call centre employee, the way the customer goes into the conversation really affects how I am able to give back (or not) energy, and it strongly affects my mood and attitude.

[@themoonisbeautifulisntit2860]

i love this comment ! also your fluffy hair is so pretty :D

[@felicecancellara4524]

we are not our thoughts, nor our fears or anxieties .... meditating and being what we want to be is the "cure"

[@NaijaPrince15]

My guy

[@megbrie4207]

I agree. I do remember feeling like that idea was crap when I was caught up in the body and mind like an evil unconscious web. Make no conclusion, and remember we are riding in the most complex machines on the planet. The body and mind are great tools, when we don’t use them against ourselves. 😌

[@queenkeisha1832]

Truth!!

[@graziella1224]

I would even say meditating and being who we really are is the cure I truly believe that there’s nothing more powerful than to be honest with yourself and to love yourself unconditionally But yes, it is very true, thank you for that

[@shebuddha]

Natural introverts are usually “sensitives” and the reason we have social anxiety is because when we are amongst society we feel everything from everyone around us which overloads and overwhelms us which makes us anxious and hence we prefer to be home in our peaceful haven

[@pecanpie45]

The secret is: your body can be the home.

[@shebuddha]

@@pecanpie45 you are right our portable home

[@sagewolf8621]

Love that you shared this this totally changed my life, identifying what feelings are yours and what your picking up is such an important skill

[@punis3rr]

@@pecanpie45 yea, but you can't be home while you are out with people, I need to stay out like them.. not home

[@pecanpie45]

@@punis3rr you gotta talk care of yourself. Walk away and look at the sunset for 10 minutes

[@alaynajoline]

thank you for posting so consistently. it means a lot.

[@HINDZSIGHT]

ahh thank u for this, its not easy at times so this recognition means alot 😌🤍

[@alaynajoline]

@@HINDZSIGHT I enjoy seeing you, regardless of what you’re doing or saying, although that is amazing as well, even just your presence has a huge impact. You replying means more than you know.

[@lil.ms.j7156]

It really does.

[@jaymonaz]

What is really powerful to me is the reminder that we are constantly evolving. Sometimes I can get into an unhealthy mental cycle so it's comforting to know that nothing lasts forever.

[@jadascott2260]

Well put 💫

[@tiffanycl222]

Nothing lasts forever. Everything is always changing. Life is dynamic 🌿

[@jaymonaz]

@@tiffanycl222 that's why I love the word DYNAMIC 💥

[@1endlesssoul]

“In the end, just three things matter: How well we have lived. How well we have loved. How well we have learned to let go” ✌🏽

[@chip8565]

I actually just graduated high school and my anxiety flared up in freshman year. It was so bad honestly I was in school and I would shake and my vision was blurry and I couldn’t focus and I honestly felt like crying half of the time...and then COVID happened and I thought I got over it but when I had to go into school for exams it would flare up again. I am a homebody and I go outside maybe once every two weeks to the store but honestly after finding HINDZ and another KZbinr I’ve realized that it’s okay to have anxiety I realized that if I acknowledge those anxious feelings and then let them go through a deep breath I am able to move on little by little...anxiety won’t go away in a day and it’s nice to have someone along the way because I didn’t but if you do then make sure you utilize that someone and talk through it bc it might help ☺️ I hope everyone has a beautiful day

[@rudycruz8814]

Whats your ig! That’s literally how it went down with me. Would be cool to talk about it !

[@chip8565]

@@rudycruz8814 I put it up here but I decided against it because I don’t want random people getting my Instagram

[@gloriaalicia.]

thank you for sharing this:) i have a bit of social anxiety still and have REALLY similar experiences, hearing your slowly getting over it give me so much hope, thank you🥺🤍

[@chip8565]

@@gloriaalicia. absolutely everyone is allowed to share their experiences and views here I hope you don’t let yours run your life because then you won’t be living y’a know but just know you can do this and take your time💜

[@annabischmann9620]

@@gloriaalicia. same by me think it is not so much as hindz described it be myself but very similar feelings

[@alecmosojane1608]

I used to have social anxiety, my solution was to face it through coming to a point of realizing that no one really cares about what you be unless you disturb their peace or enlighten them. So being yourself serves you more, So I started with expressing myself more in clothing and sharing my opinions so somehow I moved from seeking validation to validating myself and that gives me confidence.

[@ojosabiertos8424]

the key to overcome fear is love. Love for yourself, love for what you're doing and love for those who receive it

[@buttaz3000]

Siii ojos abiertos well said

[@caitlyn9426]

the algorithm is ON POINT today, I really needed this

[@Marieven]

Your story about using alcohol in social situations hit home for me so hard. I felt like I couldn't socialize at all without drinking, as everyone around me also drank and were so loud. I always felt so sick the next day, and embarrassed that I couldn't just be myself. I developed a fear that my friends only liked me when I was drunk, and I needed it to be liked, or have fun. I have been sober for 8 months now and tomorrow is my first social gathering since, I am so glad I saw this video. It reaffirmed what I have been working through for the past 8 months and I don't feel as nervous about seeing my friends tomorrow and being around alcohol. Thank you for this

[@ayothecreator1381]

You will get stronger in time with out it as well #belive⭐️💎

[@paige3691]

How did it go??

[@Marieven]

@@paige3691 it went really well!!! It was so nice to see clearly and think clearly. It was a strange but wonderful feeling to be on the other side of things. I didn't feel any anxiety, and handled questions about why I wasn't drinking really well. Thank you for asking!

[@Marieven]

@Greg LeJacques I am not sure what you mean with this comment but I have been sober since October 2020.

[@ranc1977]

14 Traits of an Adult Child of an Alcoholic ("The Laundry List") We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures. We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process. We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism. We either become alcoholics, marry them or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs. We live life from the viewpoint of victims and we are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships. We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc. We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others. We became addicted to excitement. We confuse love and pity and tend to “love” people we can “pity” and “rescue.” We have “stuffed” our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (Denial). We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem. We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings, which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us. Alcoholism is a family disease; and we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink. Para-alcoholics are reactors rather than actors.

[@AshleyFlorestv]

Also to anyone who’s struggling, the book “how to talk to anyone” changed my life ♥️ yellow book cover!

[@ana.jensie]

Thank you

[@dawnateervlogs1112]

Thank you for sharing!

[@AshleyJois]

Thanks 🙏 😊

[@LovelyLavishLeo]

Thanks!

[@mrlanza81]

I was like wait a minute, I have this book! I bought it years ago and never really read it. Thanks for reminding me.

[@indiaalexis16]

Its so funny you said you started talking to others by being present in your mini interactions such as with a cashier at the grocery store because I've literally began doing the same sept. of 2020. I actually started working at a grocery store and thought to myself I see soooo many people throughout my shift i might as well practice talking to strangers to help pass the time by. Im the person that never knows what to talk about with others especially at social gatherings & then wonder if im giving off a weird vibe because im not being interactive. But now having that practice at work everyday, I've noticed it's a lot easier for me than when i first started working in the market. Definitely helps!!!! Even if its just asking about their plans for the weekend.

[@sophiekimery5464]

and you’ll only get better and better and love it more every day. keep doing great things ❤️

[@indiaalexis16]

@@sophiekimery5464 thank you💙💙

[@esmesal6006]

Is a grocery store good enough to work at for someone with social anxiety? I mean by your comment it seems fine, I’m trying to look for a job but I’m really anxious just thinking about it

[@indiaalexis16]

@@esmesal6006 I think so, when i first started it's not like i immediately started up conversations with people. I was still very nervous & didn't know what to say to them so I just started with "hello, how are you" and start ringing up their items. Sometimes we'd both just be quiet and sometimes customers themselves will ask questions to spark up a conversation. A lot of people aren't comfortable with silence and at first it is very awkward. But the more you do it the easier it becomes

[@lindaseynaeve6397]

Ive had social anxiety for a couple of years. It started when i went to college, i was overwhelmed by the huge amount of people and i was afraid what they would think of me so i started being afraid of meeting new people. It spiraled down til i became anxious of leaving my dormroom because i might cross someone in the hallway. I just didnt wanna live like that anymore and that was my motivation to take babysteps forward. I wrote down what was in my comfortzone, what was in my stretch zone and what in my panickzone. And i took things from my stretch zone and tried to do them once week, a few times a week, then everyday untill i became more and more comfortable with those daily tasks. Did a lot of meditation and yoga to relieve my stress. It took me 2 years to get over the anxiety but im so proud i did it by myself, it showed me how strong i really am

[@kaleyjoplinRAWRR]

This is a really good idea! I should try this. Mine got a lot worse during college for the same reasons. It got to the point where I couldn’t go to class especially my big lecture ones. I’m out of college now but my social anxiety still persists. I’m gonna try your method! I’m so ready to get over this for good

[@kristenmurphy4826]

You give off such a calm, soothing, nurturing vibe. I love sitting with you. It feels like we are sitting together and connecting. Thank you for posting valuable content like this consistently 💜 You have helped me so much and inspire me.

[@PrettyOmnificent333]

Same here i always go in this trans of calm and relaxed i think hindz is hypnotising us but with good intentions.

[@ocytocine96]

2:13 so true, having social anxiety is not equal to having low confidence

[@kimrose5387]

I spent all 4 years of high school not saying a single word. My teachers didn’t even know what my voice sounded like. It’s been 2 years since I graduated high school and I’m doing a lot better now

[@ddangerous]

This is me too. i've always felt like an outcast when i was in high school because of this but the thing is I know that I'm not that kind of person and that I'm more than a socially sanxious person

[@nicolejacobsoncovers]

Don't give up guys

[@PrettyOmnificent333]

That was me 2.

[@yourmum552]

i talk in school sometimes but a lot of my classmates say they have never herd me talk

[@cdayadaya]

I was always afraid to speak my mind in classes during high school. Honestly, thank God for the few friends I had during that time because I don't know how I would've managed otherwise.

[@user-jn3zm4lz6k]

This is the first time I share something personal but now I'm going to talk about my social anxiety. Since I was a child I hated when we visit our neighbors or any family because they had kids and I have to talk and play with them. I was feeling so stressed out and sometimes I hide in the bathroom and cry because I couldn't be normal like others. Now I'm 21 and I still feel the same but I accept my social anxiety * as a part of my personality*. After watching this video I realize that it is not and there are many ways to overcome it without any help from therapy or something. I'll try my best to work on it💓 ( I can't thank you enough, I know you work hard to make these videos and podcasts, but trust me, you are helping much more ppl than you can imagine) God bless you 💛🌱

[@ori5010]

You can do it! sending you light!

[@kayleen1562]

if it makes you feel any better i am the exact same way! What helps me is i eneded up finding a couple really close friends who make me feel comfortable going out in public and we dont even have to talk to eachother we can sit in complete silence and its not awkward as all. You dont got to entertain anybody just find people who are down with vibin and being laid back with you 👏

[@user-jn3zm4lz6k]

@@ori5010 thank u 💓

[@user-jn3zm4lz6k]

@@dmuse869 😂😂right

[@user-jn3zm4lz6k]

@@kayleen1562 glad you feel this way and found them that's great, people like them are heard to find. I hope you guys stay together and have a great time together 🌱👍

[@rudycruz8814]

(For anyone who struggles with social anxiety) we should all make a group chat where we can talk about this and help each other out. Nothing helps more them someone going through the same thing.

[@chardaicambriel2544]

I’m down. 👍🏾

[@rudycruz8814]

@@chardaicambriel2544 on what platform :)

[@chardaicambriel2544]

@@rudycruz8814 hmm... i don’t really use social media. Do you have GroupMe?

[@sharundaseagraves2337]

I agree

[@matea3026]

Great idea!

[@juliannagoyzueta3169]

I experience social anxiety when talking to people in person, and I’ve realized this rings true even as we’ve transitioned to a virtual setting. This year at my college I had to host programs for my club and speak at events. I would feel so frustrated, experiencing all the same symptoms of social anxiety but this time in my own room, my safe space. But I know that although unpleasant, these instances serve as a reminder that there is plenty of room for me to grow and also motivates me to put in the work. Your content also continues to play a huge rule in that. Thank you truly

[@Zeus-gb8zi]

This is spot on. When I started focusing on being passionate, presentations not only got easier but so much more fun. I love how you found a way to fulfill the awkward moments. I think once I started focusing less on trying to perfect my words and facial expressions, I was able to focus on the feelings the conversation gave. My social anxiety came from having poor experiences but once I had a good one, it feels like more of the good ones are starting to come my way.

[@reject28]

One thing I found useful with my social anxiety was to assess where I was putting my fear. For a lot of my life I shied away from relationships and people because I was scared of their judgement, I was scared of connection or I was scared of perceived confrontation. Slowly I began to shift this fear and put it behind me rather than in front of me. This simply meant saying to myself, if I DON'T talk to this person or if I DON'T speak my mind what negative effects will this have on me. Projecting into the future and imagining what my life would look like if I continued to be ruled by my anxiety (e.g. no close relationships, resentful of others and isolated). With this in mind I was able to say to myself that by actively talking to others and not letting my social anxiety control me, I was moving away from that fear based future rather than acting to avoid a fear based potential outcome. I wish everyone in this comment's section all the best on your journey shifting perspective and moving beyond fear.

[@mystique3740]

You make me feel less alone in the quirky things I do because of my anxiety, thank you Hindz

[@NsquaredRose]

I appreciate this. My social anxiety has increased due to wariness of other human beings, but also I've had to learn boundaries to protect myself. I think it's definitely ok to be on your own for a while to regroup and remember where your power lies. But people need people. I'll be working on my passion and finding others who have similar passions as me!

[@clairedulo3066]

I think it’s true ...I will also find others who we share something in common...by the way that’s why I am here..lol

[@venn5318]

@@clairedulo3066 absolutely. Same here

[@jarrodmcnish5443]

I know I have a great personality, spirit and energy. Being quarantined while engaging in low vibration entities has weakened my confidence which increases social anxiety as well. I’ve had this issue in the past. I’m now on a journey to follow high vibration activities and now show myself how amazing I am. Thank you for your content you are really helping the world and those that relate to similar journeys.

[@concepttttt]

If your ever feeling anxious or down, always remember this: That you are literally an aspect of everything that can possibly be, manifested into physical form. In every moment of your life including right now, you have the power and the choice to choose love and let your love out into the world. How do I know this? Because love is all you are. Love is all there really is. There is no true force of hate, there is only the absence of love, jus as darkness is the absence of light. You have the power with in you. You have the love within you. There’s a limitless amount of it willing to be expressed. Let it out my friend. Otherwise, why are you here? Love

[@ValentinaCabo]

My anxiety is teaching me to take care of myself more, talking and open up to the people I love

[@virtuousgarnett1367]

Yes, I have suffered with it all my life despite being a seemingly confident person! I learnt to hide it well under the disguise of a "cool persona" so much so not even family and friends were aware of it. I am working on it though... it's not a quick fix but your shared knowledge and experience has inspired me to conquer this demon. Thanks Hindz. 😊

[@johnschoen-mccullough6251]

I've experienced social anxiety for much of my pre-teen into young adult years, and at its worst, it was crippling to me. It kept me from making but a couple true friends in high school, it caused me to struggle with developing deep friendships in college (only made 1), and got more severe as the pandemic was going on. Recently, I've been opening up to people in small ways, like smiling at them, saying hi, or waving. I've come to realize that getting so caught up in what others may think about me, whether its real or perceived, only hinders me. I'm showing up more as my authentic self, and as we enter the summer (in America anyway lol) , I'm really excited to connect with new people, and be together with those I know and have yet to meet. Yet I still want to spends lots of time alone too because I love it. I have the will to keep going and keep growing, and gradually its all being having a positive effect on me :)

[@Sara-bn3wz]

“I believe our highest form of nutrition is in our expression” 🔥🔥🔥

[@3211-r7z]

You are gifted with some serious peace vibes even your voice just relaxes me

[@ronhoang1214]

perfect timing. been dealing with social anxiety my whole life. thank you for this video.

[@Mysticluvvv]

I’m 24 and have had a very similar experience. The more I get to know and love myself, the more of a desire I have to connect with others.

[@Aastha-Sharma]

That dude calms me down ❤yes indeed. Love and gratitude 🌻🌿

[@LakeishaSantasha]

This was so insightful for me! I feel like I rarely hear people talking about social anxiety at this level, thank you Hindz! Im relating...

[@lauraluey]

I've had quite severe social anxiety for as long as I can remember. Spending time on my own within the last couple of years, getting to know myself better, and creating videos that I've been uploading to KZbin has been helping me to see myself in a different light. It's helping me to really see me. I still have times of feeling socially anxious, but it is something that is slowly fading away the more I am expressing myself. Thank you for sharing Hindz 🙏 It brings me hope, that I too can overcome these fears ❤

[@ashleyrenee6362]

My anxiety is overwhelming, i can’t focus or go to places alone with out having a panic attack, I’ll be shaking, crying and feeling so emotional. Constant worrying in my mind and iv had enough and it’s taking over my life. I’m trying to start my journey to self discovery and learn ways to cope with it. I found your channel yesterday and I CANT stop watching. It’s so motivational but I’m scared I don’t know where to start. I don’t have anyone to talk to about it or know how to get help but watching KZbin. I feel so trapped and I’m hoping your channel helps me … wish I just had someone to talk to who knows what I go through.

[@Amirableu]

I really wish their was more people like you around

[@bonniebrown4497]

your voice is very calm and soothing :) really appreciate this video as i'm someone who's struggled with social anxiety my whole life. thank you.

[@kigaigaia]

It resonated so powerfully, when u said introverted people should use their solitude to cope with anxiety, bcs that is what happened to me as well. I always had the feeling of not feeling enough, of being kinda different, of not being able to connect with people, but then it came to me. Until then I judged myself for being introverted and more of an observer, but I forgave and accept that fact first. That was lifechanging tbh. I concentrated on my feelings, where the root is and how to fully bring the authenticity - that happened at the time the pandemic started, which knocked, I believe, many of us down. I started doing yoga, meditations, awareness practices or kundalini that really helped me, but most of all, I just opened myself to this non-judgmental version and allowed myself to not feel attacked by the others' feelings or complexes, it really is out of our reach. Tibetans ave this saying, let me just paraphrase it - if u can't find a solution for something, do nothing, calm down, because worrying makes it even worse. Bringing authenticity, gratefulness and vulnerability into my life exceeded in me loving myself and accepting myself, because we come from the same source, although this reality seems to be claming the opposite. So if you do suffer from anxiety, please know that you are not alone, forgive yourself first and trust and believe in the process even if it takes time. And be open for new experiences, love is all around us, it just depends on our own vibrations. Love ya all

[@aubrilynsherwood9658]

This is perfect timing. I was just worrying about going to work today because of my social anxiety and I was thinking about how to stop it and be more confident. The point you said about learning discovering and understanding yourself more will build up your confidence and help you be able to converse and understand more about others really stood out to me. I’ve always struggled with trying to be more like others so that I never really had a solid, growing identity for myself to be confident in until just a few months ago. Once I started discovering more about my truth i found that the anxiety started to ease. Being present for yourself helps you be present for others. A quote that has stuck with me is that anxiety is just excitement with fear attached. And I think that’s how it applied to me. I love being able to talk to people but I was just so scared about the opinions of others. But once I built a solid foundation for myself to be confident in and keep adding to it, I’ve found the anxiety easing up a bit day by day. And I’ve been freaking myself out over starting a KZbin channel for some time just because I’m so worried about being imperfect but now I know that I can be confident with growing with my gifts. It’s a journey. And it’s one im willing to take. Excellent video, Hindz, and with perfect timing. Thank you.

[@JoshHitti]

Brother, this is exactly what I needed to hear. I really love the positive outlook on such a challenging subject for so many people. Cheers. Edit: "Setting intention" is the best first step for anyone struggling with social anxiety. Spot on.

[@jaysharp7414]

This was pretty much my process getting through anxiety. I used to have really bad social anxiety, sometimes to the point where I would get bouts of sensory overload. Within this past year of me focusing on accepting myself and doing the work to let go of stuff that was no longer serving me, I've found that I'm far more open to conversation than I ever was! And yes, us introverts are excellent listeners, so letting someone else lead is an excellent way to start coming out of that shell :) It takes a lot of time and effort, but it is possible to break the cycle! Be easy, y'all, and learn to love everything that you bring to the table ✌

[@ericanatalie1819]

You are a blessin’ to this earth and to all of us ✨

[@jade77777]

This channel has been a major impact in my journey to self discovery and teleporting my anxiety so far. But I definitely still suffer from social anxiety. I have always had a problem of fearing what others think of me, because when I was in third grade I was constantly teased by a lot of classmates. I turned all of their teasing inwards and it resulted in me having anxiety and depression from built up negative energy. I just recently saw a quote that depression is built up rage turned inwards. I truly believe this is what happened to me. I didn’t know how to express my emotions to the people who teased me or to just people in general. Now, I am learning myself and working through it. I say all of this to encourage anyone out there to please don’t let other people steal your sunshine. You are amazing and you deserve to be happy and healthy. It can be a journey to get better with social anxiety, but it’s called a journey because this isn’t the end. Keep pushing and love yourself. This is what I tell myself and this what Hindz has made me realize so far in my journey 💖.

[@victoriarousee]

When I was in pre-K I tied my shoes together. My teacher noticed and told the class to laugh at me...... I think that’s when my social anxiety developed.

[@decosta1]

what a B! Forgive her and that moment AND things will shift I promise.

[@SooDestinee]

Omg me too sis but my teacher literally didn’t like the way I spoke and told all the kids to laugh at me. I had to switch classes and that’s where it all started 😔

[@clairedulo3066]

I am sure something good came out of the experience.

[@saraperidott2013]

when i was in grade 5 told my teacher joyfully that I want to become a vet. She bowed, looked me in the eye and counted on her fingers. To become a vet you have to succeed in exams and get a degree which takes four years. The impressions she usually gave me was that: I'm not enough. My study performance suffered bc theres so much about the teacher which i kid you not, at least once every year throughout my teens I would have nightmare of her. Forgiveness is key to me, the nightmares stopped! We owe ourselves this ❤

[@lousdinovembre]

I had a similar experience that happened multiple times. I wouldn’t say that my teachers are the cause of my social anxiety but I blame them for making me feel stupid or not smart enough so that crashed my confidence at times. I am walking my way up now and quarantine has allowed me to make peace with myself and others and now I’m going through a healing process. The moment you acknowledge the cause of your social anxiety you’ll know how to get out of it little by little. Meditation helps, but self love helps the most because you start to accept yourself entirely and that’s all that matters. Hope you find your peace and happiness and break free from unwanted anxieties 🌸

[@makaronii_124]

this is so cool because i had the same experience. i started having micro conversations and i started to really really enjoy them and now i can talk to anyone! such good perspectives!!

[@anitarose888]

I'm trying so hard to fight it...in school some ppl learned to respect me for who i was even tho i had this problem, but i noticed that after all my school years my social anxiety become weaker...Now im working with so many ppls around me different age and i chose to not try so hard...i maybe overdose myself bc i liked how ppl talk with me. But i noticed that some ppl next to me being quiet in my own toughs turn to speak to me and not look down at me bc of it. I hope ill come thru it soon bc i hate being so tired after all that pressure...to end up sleeping and feeling bad.

[@hdthepoet870]

My social anxiety comes from my confidence issue but also how I think others will perceive the things I do. I had to let go of fears of how other people look at me. I’m building confidence, knowing that’s where I’m going I need it.

[@HealThyLivingQueen]

On the other side of your greatest fears, will be a major part of your greatest accomplishments. Realizing this helped me so much. Still growing and learning. God bless

[@bailey.james.]

i relate to this so much. my social anxiety is crippling, but i forced myself to go to a party hosted by a new coworker last year. drinking excessively is the only thing that got me to talk to people. by doing that i ended up in a group of friends i couldn’t relate to at all. i changed my personality to be liked by them.. this was so bad for me. it caused me to regress further because i wasn’t acting like myself. i was spiraling out of control. but i realized this and now i’m getting out of that circle of bad energy and focusing on bettering myself. this video helped me really put those confusing feelings into something more tangible. thank you for all your videos, you’re incredibly inspiring! thank you for speaking to my soul! ❤️

[@aesthetenesjah]

THIS MESSAGE WAS EVERYTHING! I've thought I had social anxiety for a while. But I've come to realize that I wasn't on the same wavelength as those who were in my environment.

[@michaellee2478]

I've never connected with a video like I have with this one. It's like you were reading my autobiography; the drinking at parties anecdote was so real it hurt. My micro conversations happen when I'm in the back of Lyfts or Ubers. A lot of drivers are just naturally friendly and talkative, and sparking conversation is so easy.

[@Heyitsdash]

Me growing up being abused and told that I wasn’t good enough gave me a false sense of being... I separated myself from my entire family and found the hardest working, creative, genuine, unapologetic version of myself that I never knew existed. My potential seemed endless... from the work I’ve accomplished on myself, to the love I’ve taken away to give to myself, my fears literally paralyze me... I feel as if I’ll never be good enough. I wish I could let it go... in the middle of Times Square I had a panic attack so bad I couldn’t physically breathe, nor see straight... it took so much work to calm myself I don’t know how I made it through without passing out. I wish I could stop living in the shadows of fear. I wish I didn’t care so much about what others think... I’ve really tried

[@-roni-5673]

I am naturally introverted person too and i know it sucks right now, but if i learn to love myself more and explore things that i really love i know things will change to better.

[@ErickeTan]

When I learned to enjoy my own company and be more confident in who I am, I felt less need to share or bond through trauma or doubt myself. I became a better listener in the process and value quality conversations more now. Love your videos, your channel is so affirming!

[@sarahrutledge6226]

when covid happened and we went off school i felt like i over came a lot of my social anxiety and was getting better and better at expressing myself but as we have come back to school i feel it coming back more and more everyday as i would be in a conversation with someone and then in the back of my mind i would get really bad thoughts like “what are you doing talking” and all theses stressful thoughts then completely shut down and go red and flustered even through i could be having a really good time. I have been trying to let go of theses thoughts when they come up or observe where they are coming from and i will keep on trying . Thank you very much for this video !

[@PragmaticOptimist]

Watching this after I avoided making an assignment presentation via internet today. I stuttered and closed the app while I was sharing my screen (so everyone saw I actually pressed the button to close it). I can't even get mad at myself, it's just hilarious and maddening and sad all together. I think that's one of my worst things to happen while having an anxiety attack -stuttering and flunking out. I had that happen to me another time as well. I guess the positive is that now that I've gone through my biggest fear and didn't die or anything close, I can see that nothing really bad is going to happen. Still it hurts thinking about it. I think your video is some sort of sign.

[@paige3691]

Girrrrlllll... I've been in a class, (cosmetology school) and walked out during a presentation as soon as I felt it coming on. Its like the walls were closing in on me. Same thing while I was at a job taking an order in person again lol... omg the shame. ** hugs** We will get through this

[@paige3691]

Also, I lied and say I got sick both times... I think they thought it was odd but whatevvvv lol what can you do?? I dropped out of school also quit my job bc of it which sucks. Wonder where life would've went from there as I'm very talented at doing hair. Either way its all good

[@steeele]

it's scary but comforting how relatable this video is.

[@cubanita365]

My problem is whenever I try speaking with someone it becomes awkward, and people tend to ignore me or treat me like I'm weird, no matter how hard i try to just be nice and pleasant. I feel like no matter what I do I get rejected. I grew up with a very cruel mother so I actually started out very confident and extroverted, and turned into a social awkward mess because of the abuse. Im almost 30 now and dont know how to reverse it when i feel like all of my social interactions lead to rejection of some form. And if they don't reject me, then they're polite enough but then I never get included in anything afterwards. I don't know how to get over my social anxiety when I see other people's reactions towards me and see that I'm the problem somehow.

[@jawariakhurshid4324]

I have a problem when ever i feel like more than two people are listening to me i feel like I'm gonna drown into my own sweat it's so embarrassing because my voice also starts fumbling and i forget all the things about what i was talking I really want to improve it

[@chardaicambriel2544]

I’ve always wanted to be more outgoing and speak up more, but I just never knew where to start. Thank you for this video Hindz.

[@alexandranun]

I’ve been avoiding the topic of social anxiety, but I’m ready I can’t live like this anymore. Your story is my story. Same thing happened to me I remember standing up there, crying staring at me.

[@ariasyesen]

Had an acid trip on Sunday with the intention of getting to the bottom of my social anxiety and on my peak i felt an immense feeling of belonging. All I kept thinking was “I belong.” And I have SOO much to offer if I would just allow myself to be me. Say what you feel and if people don’t like it then oh well. Nobodies perfect, and we’re usually harder on ourselves than others would be. More often than not people will accept your flaws and love you for you

[@Spiritual_Gangsta]

HINDZ your voice is so calming 😌✨ The beauty of "micro conversions" is It's the small kind gestures of appreciation to Strangers that make the difference 💯

[@layotheleprechaun]

Your story of your confidence growing from strengthening your own weakness is similar to mine. Like you, I struggled with social anxiety and by consistently putting myself into uncomfortable situations and learning from those around me, I also turned me weakness into. a strength. Peace and love brother. Keep delivering

[@kimberlyknight9584]

I literally raised out of bed to write this. I GET this totally because I am the very same! I love my little moments, had one tonight in the hot tub and enjoyed the exchange. I was hanging in the wrong places and now I am blossoming!

[@desakmadewidyacellularisa3795]

Your video always come up in my recommendation with the content that i relate the most, i always feel better after watching it, thank you ❤️ i used to be a very extroverted person through out my childhood, teenage years and maybe until i was 23 years old, then i moved to germany and everything so different. It‘s harder to make friends and especially since i moved in to the city where my sister lives. The friends that i know, i know them through my sis and somehow i feel like they‘re just being friends with me because i‘m my sis‘ sister. And i always being hard on my self because i can‘t have connections with them, i shivered before i meet them, i cannot focus throughout the hang out and can’t be in the moment. then i started to connect with my self, asking my self where this anxiety stem from, then i realize that i have this trauma from childhood that related to my sister and her friends. After this awareness, i‘m not being hard on my self anymore. The situation with the friends not so much different but i give my self more credits because i know that i‘m still struggling with the trauma and it‘s not my fault nor everybody, it‘s just what it is now and it‘ll get better :)

[@InResponseOutreach]

Imagine being this awesome and not wanting to show who you are. Just last week I posted his video to my Snapchat and called him the wisest person in the world. Thank you so much for all you do. Thank you so much for overcoming your issues so you could come to KZbin and talk to us today. You are precious to me.

[@OpalAuras]

i was feeling really anxious this morning for whatever reason and everything you said made me feel better but also the fact that i was listening to jazz and thought my radio had an echo but it was just yours in the background too! it really lets me know i am right where i’m supposed to be in every way even the little ways like this

[@TripleM24]

Thanks for talking about this! It's a topic that is often misunderstood. I have suffered from SA since middle school. I am a screen and comic book writer and putting myself into my characters and story have become a way for me to express myself to the world. Building and honing my craft through the pandemic has helped me find new confidence on my journey towards a better me.

[@aliyah_pratt]

i’ve been struggling with social anxiety and low self esteem all my life. i was always stressed and uncomfortable around people i didn’t know. i didn’t go to events, i would cancel plans with friends, i would barely go in public bc i was scared of society and embarrassed of myself. recently i’ve gotten into a relationship and i haven’t been able to fully have a conversation with his parents and it’s really stressful bc i definitely want them to like me. After this video, everything you said just clicked into my brain. You made me think a whole new way. it’s crazy to think that a 14 min video could change the way i think ab myself.

[@sophie3425]

i’ve been getting so much better with feeling anxious in social settings! something that helped me is just simply realizing that if you don’t put an effort into changing your ways, there is no way that you can change. i started out really small, by laughing more and sharing my opinions in a conversation, and now it’s gotten a lot easier to have conversations, especially ones that you want to remember and that mean a lot to you. i’m still working on it but i hope these tips can help someone else. i’m sending my love to every single person struggling in a similar way right now ❤️❤️❤️

[@simphiwemasilo4567]

I am a big fan of visualisation and so I look to see myself in my minds eye feel comfortable and thrive in certain social settings. I keep visualising that until I feel comfortable with that and I know that I am safe.

[@TM-4444]

this advice has been helpful, i make a point to make small social gestures in environments i naturally put myself in (dog park, coffee shop, local event) and this has allowed me to be more social in general and make connections with new people. the practice also has helped me gain confidence in how i show up/participate in social situations i don’t enjoy as much.

[@bella-hi2ii]

i’ve experienced social anxiety for the past 3 years and it fr cripples me. before this, i had great friendships and had no problem with social situations. but idk what started to happen and it slowly got worse and worse and now i’m totally crippled and i hate it so much. i have so much i wanna do and see that i can’t because my brain thinks im not good enough and i have nothing to offer. that is the root of my social anxiety: feeling not good enough and lower than other people

[@aJ45810]

Thank you for being part if my daily routine. I listen to you last thing before I go to sleep with my starry projector on and listen to you while drinking my morning tea. This started shifting my reality.

[@THEREALCHOLEY]

wow this is divine timing. I was just talking with myself about how my social anxiety has got to go. I entered a doula program and the atmosphere is amazing but I struggle with bringing my internal self out to others. I’ve been like this since a child and it frustrates me sometimes when I don’t allow myself to fully come through in certain situations. I was seriously beating myself up the other day about my social anxiety...thank you so much for this video✨💚🧿🌞

[@AniqaAnjum]

Definitely over the years, as I have began my spiritual journey, taking time and learning to get to know myself from within, I have been better and more confident about approaching social interactions. It’s something my younger self would never believe. People would point out my behavior when I was younger asking “are you constantly nervous?? Like what’s wrong?” And I didn’t understand what gave it away because I tried so hard to blend in with the room. But that was exactly the issue. Once I went within, disassociated from the idea of ever having to blend in, focusing on showing up as my authentic self as much as I could...those are what truly helped me. Thanks for the video.💛

[@supadupafly0]

thank you, I needed that! I experience it sometimes stronger, sometimes less.. but I feel like I avoid people sometimes. especially those who I find Interesting.. which I do not like at all. I think setting intentions really helps. because on days where I am super outgoing I feel really good about myself - because I meditated, read an inspiring book, practiced singing and those kind of things. developing a habit of doing that might be the helping hand I need.

[@Rivahlswyd]

Oh my I needed this! I just finished my shadow work regarding my anxiety 💆‍♂️ thank you Hindz ❤️

[@DaSpiritualScientist]

Shadow work is hard for me I gotta a lot of problems I don’t even know I have Pisces Lilith 😔

[@CoachingbyCade]

Yes bro!

[@333jacquelinee]

I never know what to say, I go blank sometimes during a convo which gives me even more anxiety and wanting to run away. I dread being around others. It’s frustrating, but I am transforming :) Thank you.

[@Tofugirl361]

Meditation really helps. Relaxing in stressful situations. Realizing everybody is human and dealing with their own things

[@nataliciouse994]

Thank you hindz! I have a big social thing this weekend, in the past I would have drunk alcohol to calm myself, however I am currently taking a break from drinking. So I'm feeling very nervous, particularly because I will be on a different "level" from everyone else. Your advice to come back to self and micro conversations have eased my nerves and I'm looking forward to putting it to practice! Much love

[@Lovereems]

You have no idea how much I needed this. I've suffered greatly with social anxiety, public speaking & disassociations. To the point where I've stopped living my life. So thank you for this. This is the nudge in the right direction. Always grateful for your videos 🛁

[@sianthompson8638]

Really needed this bro...been spiralling lately...i really wanna overcome my anxiety that's just gone way too far...i will overcome this...Jah done know I will !...

[@NatureIsleTwins]

first of all, your skin is sooooo smooth and clear, I love that for you. also, when I was in middle school & high school, I would hide in the bathroom & not go to the cafeteria bc of my social anxiety, I was so scared bc I didn't have many friends and would have to sit alone. I also realized I let tv mold me into that mindset. also I had been living in America for a few years now but I was still observing and comparing Caribbean school vs American school & I don't think anyone realized how much of a culture shock it was/ how different and thought I was overreacting.

[@aprildiamond6510]

You sound so peaceful. I swear this is it. I started to talk to people one on one and I’m in a progress of being on a stage. I shake everytime and I can’t wait to loosen up.

[@Justin-be6be]

Hit the nail on the head when you discussed being yourself and free and silly around friends but not knowing how to be in social situations because you are scared of that judgment. Sometimes its comforting just to know I'm not the only one

[@kelseyrae7261]

My social anxiety really comes out at work more than anywhere else! So hard when you’re in that situation monday-Friday!

[@aliikarma7822]

Thank you HINDZ I have suffered through social anxiety most of my life, I am so doing better now and overcoming it day by day. Aloha ❤️

[@Yantel23]

You don’t even know how perfect the timing on this video is🎯

[@aaronallen5936]

Thank you! I really needed this. I’ve been struggling with terrible anxiety for so long.

[@curtisbryant4883]

social anxiety has been apart of my life since a kid as well. as I got older and learned more about what it meant to be an empath. I began to recognize that, my anxiety was caused by the energy I was picking up on in different spaces/conversations. like you mentioned, it's important to recognize that we have power to shift the energy of anything we want. this isn't always easy to remember but remind yourself by placing a reminder in your phone. affirming reminders in my phone is one of my go-to tactics.

[@decosta1]

This video totally revived me into getting back to talking to people more and connecting. I left my job in customer service last June ( was there for 13 years) and all I did was start small talk with people and I felt like I forced it most of the time because I am an introvert and it was just part of the job. Not having to do that anymore since I left was SOOOO freeing and healing but it's been so long I don't quite know how to get back on the bandwagon and feel awkward when even thinking of starting a conversation with a stranger. You just reminded me, it's about connection and the conversation doesn't have to last forever. Thanks.

[@alwaysfindthelean5169]

This video was really uplifting. Thank you for sharing. I used to think my social anxiety was crippling. Each new situation I learn it still lives. When I get socially anxious I sometimes struggle with hypergraphia, which to me manifests into an addictive spiral of writing my racing thoughts down on paper or anything I can find...in these moments. The anxiety doesn't go away, yet the acceptance of it hanging out with me is inevitable. But each situation is an opportunity for growth. My anxiety is tried intrinsically to my being uncomfortable in my body and my self. When I am moving I am free. If I am sitting I often feel chronic pain (arthritis and anxiety-spurred) which fuels a lot. I have found this to be helpful (not curing): to sit with it. Or, to move with it. I try to allow myself the permission to stand up and lift my head if I am feeling anxious. I breathe. Sometimes my breath is shallow. Sometimes my back gets tighter and I get dizzier. Then, I exhale. It's a daily thing. (Obvs, I am not a doctor and am only sharing my experience.) But I tell myself I am worth being here. That I have something to offer. That it's okay to just listen and not talk until I'm ready. And that it's okay to talk, even if I forgot what I'm going to say, I stutter, or my words come out as a whisper. Bc I'm not alone. Finding fellow folx who may share this struggle can be helpful, too. But then I remind myself that Every One struggles with something. And everyone who (seemingly) holds or has cultivated this ability to talk or (especially in low points), exist "successfully" they too, have their very own hurdles I may know little to nothing about. If/until I learn their story, too. It means a lot that you share what you share your story and I appreciate your encouragement. Our presence matters. We are not in this thing alone.❤️