Dear Tom&Gi | The One When I Have Problems

[@AllySheehan]

CUTE AGRESSION: It's not about cerebral location, but because we are overwhelmed with so much 'cuteness' but don't know how to express it! We are overcome with these incredibly strong feelings of love and have no physical way of showing them. It's not even so much about the cuteness itself, but rather that it is such a high-positive emotion and our body doesn't know how to handle it, so it creates a behaviour to balance it out. Also why we might sob profusely at something happy and wonderful!

[@BreSinging]

YES!!

[@rocibel]

+Ally Sheehan Thank you!

[@LE33099]

A more morbid fact: the reason we want to squeeze cute things is because the only thing we can do to act on finding something unbearably cute is to kill it.

[@kels95]

'They are all so cute..that i want to drop kick them into the dress circle.' that made me cackle.

[@DavidCruickshank]

It was my favourite part of the episode, i burst out in laughter and had to pause the video =D

[@BlahBlahRainbowFish]

+Kelsey Cooke I choked on my peach and burst out laughing, paused and scrolled down to find this hahah

[@FirstnameLastname-vf9rp]

I almost spit out my tea 😂

[@garyc]

I have a feeling Pete told me the cuteness thing - so either he told you and its a wind up or you told him and its spreading! I have no idea what's in the charts and I feel free for it! :D

[@kat.m1995]

You are the only you tuber I know who I feel as if I'm having a 1 to 1 conversation with!!

[@GeorgiePhilly]

+Moonlight gem 123 thats so true!

[@veramathijssen4199]

+Moonlight gem 123 you should try Jack Howard's or Daniel J. Layton's channels. They give me the same feeling ;)

[@kat.m1995]

+Vera Mathijssen thanks!

[@cherrywallis]

I constantly want to squish the life out of cats and dogs... because I love them so much.

[@katiebarber1046]

I just introduced my best friend to your channel and this was her response: "Ok, before I pressed play, I loved her. HARRY POTTER AND LILO AND STITCH IN THE BACKGROUND! And a mug of tea!!! Can we please ask this family to adopt us?! 😍" Thank you for making us smile. Love from an old and new fan 😁👍🏻😀

[@Ireadbooksinnightclubs]

Fact: I am the pinnacle of comedy. Fact: You are hysterical. Fact: Whoever said they "could see how other people could find your joke funny" is a twonk.

[@eviem2629]

I came to today's matinee and met you at stage door and I just wanted to say a HUGE thankyou. you're my inspiration and it meant so much that you signed my programme and had a conversation with me. (I was the girl with the tardis bag, short hair and the purple sharpie.) I'm a massive les mis fan and I'm dreaming of playing Eponine. and today you just made me feel so so special, and hopeful!! xxx

[@India-ig3hm]

the pillow! i love it

[@ljmastertroll]

Having a unique sense of humor is nothing to be ashamed of - it is to be celebrated! The smiles here come from an original place, and if I have to think for a second to get to that smile, it will last far longer because of the effort.

[@olliehussey64]

There's a 6 year age gap between me and my sister and when I was little I thought that the sun shone out of her... Everything she did I did and everything she said I repeated (much to my mum's dismay). It's only now however, after all the years of fights and scraps have subsided and she's in her last year of Uni, that I now realise how much she trained me up and how similar we are. We know each other inside out and share a psychological link that no one other than a brother and sister can really have! It's nice that you and Tom are kind of similar and that other people are as well :)

[@lucysutherland1470]

Carries videos always make me happy :) xxx

[@MrAnthWard]

'I want to drop kick them into the dress circle' hahahaha brilliant!

[@HannahU10]

I used to be able to rattle off the top 20 but then one day I just... stopped caring. Now I have absolutely no clue what crazy tunez the kids are bopping around to these days! You're not alone!

[@EleishaWithanE]

I honestly can't come away from one of Carries videos without feeling happy or positive or just good about something, also, I am also at exactly that same weird age and often feel too old or too young depending on who I'm talking to! And you and Tom are both hilarious!

[@HeyItsKelsey94]

Revisiting because this video makes me laugh SO HARD (it makes my mom laugh too), hahaha ! "They're so cute that I want to drop kick them into the dress circle"

[@LookyKiki]

Sorry I Danm near shat myself laughing at ‘I want to drop kick them into the dress circle’

[@AnnieThyme]

I think part of what you said about being an adult is so true! but would like to add that it isn't the absence of knowing what's popular but rather not spending your time on things you aren't really interested in simply because the are popular that is really tue better marker of adulthood. Realising life is too short and your brain too full to store information for something that you aren't passionate about- that's the good thing about growing up and being an 'adult'. it's hugely freeing to fill your life with what you love and what interests you rather than trying to fit in with the young'uns. I hope you are having a wonderfully splendid day! x

[@ItsCammiMe]

I have a similar mug!!! I don't know why I find this exciting but I do!!!!

[@lipglossaryxx]

I've just played Eponine is Les Miserables this past summer, and I just wanted to say you inspired me SO much!!! You're fabulous. My favorite Eponine ever!!! xxx

[@twiligh4trinitya]

I just got your book in the mail yesterday in the U.S! So happy that it's finally out here.

[@ladielydkyd1281]

"I'm only just aware that I made that sound like my problem is that I'm too cute, but that's not what I meant." I mean, but you are still incredibly adorable and lovely.

[@EJIsaksen]

0:50 I'm pretty sure this was on QI? So it's safe to say that you can trust Stephen Fry.

[@Lisa-mf5kt]

I love QI!!! :)

[@cloudsandstxrs5755]

ya I remember that, QI and QI XL are da bonb

[@ThereforeStand]

You and Tom make me laugh and I am very witty,clever, and have a twisted silly sense of humor. You guys have got me through these present circumstances I am going through and give me strength. Like King Solomon said,"Laughter is the best kind of medicine." Thank you for using your God given gifts, you guys are a true blessing to me. Sincerely, Sonya

[@cassidybauer1595]

Love you Carrie ❤️❤️❤️

[@kat.m1995]

Love the HP pillow!! x

[@ourdamnchannel99]

I love it! Just as much as you! Carrie Hope Fletcher! xx

[@rachelhesketh94]

I relate to this so much! I swear I have that cute aggression thing, everytime I cuddle my puppy I sometimes just wanna squish her face (I'm currently making that same noise and face you did when talking about the little kids in Les Mis at my computer screen). And I'm in the (kind of) same boat with the age thing- I should know about the music charts and cinema listings and all that jazz yet I don't (and fashion- just no, never gonna happen), and I'm trying to learn things I'll need in my adult life and I'm almost 21. Gah! Also, I KNEW it was The Great Gatsby! The Book Club Box email didn't mention the title but with the little hints I guessed it correctly! :D

[@aliceloosley1519]

I love that her background shows every point of her personality that we see through KZbin : crazy, happy , fun , Disney , Harry potter and awesome. Her videos just make me so happy and when it comes to cute aggression don't worry I get that to ( I have a dog❤)

[@elisenelson5736]

Please do more book videos!!!

[@MaiaTrinder]

Now i'm imaging you drop kicking a little Gavroche into the audience! Your videos always make me smile xxx

[@lunagoodbooks]

I choked on my tea a little when you said you wanted to "drop kick them into the dress circle" XD I'm pretty sure my idea of comedy is the same as yours...at least I find myself hilarious if no one else does so it's all good :)

[@hollytaylor932]

"So cute I want to drop-kick them into the dress circle" is hilarious. I want to use that all the time

[@MS-rv6ly]

Carrie, be authentic! Don't let people say that your jokes aren't funny! Don't let them steal your unique sense of humour! Don't let their voices sound in your head when you create your own thing.You don't have to please everyone! Stay smiling, love you!

[@singingpenguin408]

Carrie I just love you 💗💕

[@hannahcook93]

Keep up with the awesome videos Carrie 💜💜

[@thesauropod2363]

That drawing in the end is really pretty!

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

Ah Carrie your the best I can't even. You never fall to make my every day better

[@tubaforeva]

For a long time I had a very different sense of humour from other people, but recently I found people that think I'm hilarious and it blows my mind every time they laugh at something I say. You'll find your crowd too Carrie. Don't worry.

[@georgiesuffell]

I saw the matinee today and oh my god gavroche was soooo cute!

[@xJulledulle]

Wow. I've been following you for about 3 years now. How time flies! 💙 xx

[@theszmek]

just ordered my first box ! so keen

[@jessicacook4314]

I love you carrie

[@peppermint1017]

I think it all depends on the individual when things like the charts become irrelevant because people grow up at different speeds and new things become more important.

[@MiriamGallacher]

i saw that thing about cuteness on tumblr and could not stop laughing. i think it was something along the lines of when you see something cute, your natural instinct is to squeeze it so hard that it dies, so that it stops being cute and you don't have to deal with the cuteness anymore. i found that slightly morbid and completely hilarious.

[@madcherrywood1]

I have the exacts same problems as the first two you mentioned going on right now.. About the cute-aggresion one: I heard it's because something or someone is quite literally too cute: your brain can't cope with it so it needs to compensate the cuteness by aggression. That explains why seeing a cute lil baby makes you want to take a bite out of their cute lil tummy, their cute lil fingers or their cute lil ears: they're literally TOO CUTE.

[@TaraBroadhurst]

I have the same gryffindor pillow as you do!

[@RivendellPiano]

I love you Carrie!!!!! xxx

[@TheWTFworks]

i totally lost it at 1:31...now 5 minutes later i finally stopped cracking up. carrie youre awesome xDD

[@ScorchTheRedhead]

I have the same issue :) most babies/some small children and animals are my weaknesses xxx

[@sarahwaters5375]

BABY FLETCHER NUMBER 2 WILL PROBABLY BE A HUGE BUNDLE OF CUTENESS IN YOUR LIFE NOW TOO!!!

[@colecerys123]

i found so many things in AIKN funny and im currently listening to the audiobook and loving it!!

[@TheJoshua09]

I think your funny,very funny. I think you have a very innocent sense of humour which I love but my all time favourite joke of yours is the Chritmas video you did with Pete, and u said his jumper was cute as in there's nothing in his head and u need to look after him! Both me and my older sister love that joke so much!

[@moveslikemacca]

My sister is also 7 year younger than me and it's like we're one person. Like, literally. We even look the same. Let alone our humour that nobody in our family really understands! :) It's like those love quotes that say "Everybody's got that person that they can be themselves around, talk and laugh with each other, it will always feel natural". Yeah... Me and my sister, definitely.

[@niamhevans3165]

Carrie, I find you and Tom hilarious!!! I love your sense of humour, I especially love watching the videos with you and Tom in it because of how funny they are haha!! 💙

[@emsharpe4952]

It's okay Carrie, I'm almost 18 and I have no idea about popular music or films at the moment really! I listen to 80% musicals and I am OKAY WITH THAT xxx

[@HelenaYoungL]

I love your hair!! xx

[@laurasmoonstone]

"i want to drop-kick them into the dress circle" I think this is one of the best things I have ever heard you say Carrie!

[@angelinarachie]

I love your videos!!!

[@ToffeeBlocks]

This is the earliest I've been! :D xD ily

[@SarahsStory2198]

I love the Harry Potter cushion in the background! Carrie all my friends know what's in the music charts but i don't really have a clue, i used to watch it on TV but now i just cannot be asked to watch it! My brother and i are exactly the same, i used to think we had a good sense of humor but now he's gotten older I've figured out we don't have a good sense of humor at all and we are just not funny! Love the video as always!

[@TaidaBlue]

I'm currently listening to your audiobook, and it's amazing how much I can relate to it! Where was this book when I grew up??

[@hmilz9775]

your videos are so relatable. I feel like you are a big sister to me x

[@HannahLucyBlake]

Carrie I am also 22 and I don't know what songs are in the charts or what movies are in the cinema, and I also find myself thinking about my childhood and remembering what I did. Then you see children with iPhones and it's like all I had when I was little was outside. It's madness. I don't feel 22, but I don't feel "down with the kids either" .

[@TheJucieeLuciee]

OMG I SO RELATE TO THE SILLY HUMOUR! I think I'm hilarious but none of my friends find me funny other than one. I don't know where I've gotten Tia humour from. It may be my two older sisters because dinner time when we sit down as a family there is always laughter at silly things 😊 don't worry Carrie I feel what you're going threw xx

[@fionahope1216]

I think your funny! I was reading 'All I know now' on the train to London last Wednesday when I was going to see Les Mis and the man opposite me was looking at me strangely because I kept laughing uncontrollably and really loudly 😂

[@HannahTadgell]

This background gives me life

[@eneli5497]

You are so amazing Carrie! xxx

[@rhiannonj8983]

i saw you in le mis and i thought you were brilliant. I love le mis and everything but i never really liked eponine (i cant spell its fine) but after seeing it in theatre i honestly love her so much 💕

[@rebekahstock1746]

I have these exact same problems! I don't really pay attention to new movies (except for new Disney movies, of course) and I haven't got the faintest idea what the newest, most popular songs are... But I can't do many "grown-up" things yet, either :/ And I've very recently realised that I've adopted a lot of my Dad's humour, which strangers really don't get... O.o I'm glad I'm not the only one!

[@dizzystateofbliss]

Minnie's dress got made into that mug[Love it!]

[@mickeymick3919]

it doesn't matter if others don't understand your humor as long as it makes you laugh and you are happy that is the most important thing .I do think you are funny and really enjoy your videos :]

[@emilypickup6927]

''I want to drop kick them into the dress circle'' this is by far my favourite thing that you have ever said

[@nilimaaakhtar7852]

Love how I can easily relate to your videos.. Its so uncanny. And you uploaded on my birthday so I'm definitely happy xD

[@ellenmeabhdhobrienhall4645]

Carrie ( I am a year younger then you) I haven't a clue who is in the top ten, my knowledge of music is slim, I know what I like and after that I dont pay attention, I also couldn't tell you whats in the cinema or coming out.. I think its okay not to know these things.. in the grand seam of things there not really that important, but I do understand your frustration!

[@suchkatie6940]

Love you!

[@englishcowgirl27]

Oh Carrie, I laughed extraordinarily hard at your 'I want to drop kick them into the dress circle' line. Thank you for that 😂 And I have a really odd sense of humour too so don't worry!!

[@hannahcook93]

I can so relate to you Carrie. My brother and I also have our own humour that no one else finds funny. I also have the same with my boyfriend (been together for 6 years) we have jokes that no one understands/finds funny. Also I'm 22 and stuck in that middle stage of being a teenager and an adult. I had to sort out my tax rebate recently and had no idea what I was doing.

[@monirussell9420]

Random thought: I had a stuffed hare animal since birth named Sebastian and he was literally my "best friend" that id sleep with every night and take with me on EVERY trip no matter how near or far from home, and because he was a stuffed toy (dare I say it), the cute aggression thing wasn't an issue and I'd literally squeeze the thing like crazy. But then when I'd see real life cuteness it made it so much harder!

[@ashleyblackburn9630]

Cute-Aggression also derives from old literature. Terms like "Munch"kin and Sweetie"pie" turned up and that is usually how we describe someone that is cute and or appealing to us. Such an interesting topic.

[@MeeraAwwad]

carrrrrrrie! i think (more like know) you're hilarious! and not just -im making a joke- hilarious but just in general! reading all i know now made me look like an idiot as i start snorting at your little jokes and embarrassing situations and when someone asks (or i just force them to hear because i think it's hilarious) they reply "that's not funny!" so this video is now leading me to think, we might just have the same sense of humor! love you lots and lots and lots, and i shall see you whenever you post next, xx.

[@ambersummerx]

'I want to drop kick them into the dress circle' that is the funniest thing you have EVER said hahahaha x

[@laurencotter7333]

Yep The Great Gatsby is my favourite classic book too! Ps. I've always thought that I was weird about the cuteness thing but now I feel a bit better!Pps. I think you're funny Carrie! X

[@idgafiminfinite]

I definitely have that cute aggression thing, it's way too often that my jaw is sore from clenching it when I see something cute (usually my cats) and I feel like I have to put effort into not hurting animals when I hold them cause I wanna squish them so much!

[@georgiachapman1424]

Hey Carrie, I was just wondering, I live in England but did All I Know Now come out yesterday in the USA xxx

[@condragulations8922]

So amazing ❤️💕🙈

[@NHix33]

I think you guys are seriously hilarious!

[@NHix33]

+kryp-tonite (No sarcasm) ...(literally isn't any), well now it looks like I was... Hm.

[@sammiehermiston3089]

I also share your sense of humour Carrie, I found all of the jokes in your book hilarious and I have had so many instances when I'm laughing at things and everyone else is like - that's not even in funny and I'm like oops >.< P.S. I totally get the cute-aggression thing with my puppy. P.P.S. I look forward to the next Disney vlog!

[@DobbysSock96]

I have the same Gryffindor as you!!

[@TheMatschkind]

I heard that cute agression exits, because you get frustrated when wanting to protect cute things, but you can't protect them because they are only on you screen, or too far away

[@blackbird95913]

omg carrie i looked it up a long while ago, but the "cute aggression" thing is actually scientifically proven that like your body has no idea how to handle something being so cute. like as humans we do not have a proper reaction setting inside of us for cute things. so they only response we have is to just hurt it / kill it so it will stop being so cute its quite graphic but also kinda interesting..?

[@JoshuaFletch]

Well I think you're very funny, but I am also a Fletcher and we're back at square one. (I also realize that most of my comments on any of your videos are surname related, so I'll try and stop beating that adorable dead horse)

[@beingfunisfun]

well you made me laugh like 4 times in this video so i guess you're funny to me :) esp with that dropkicking bit omg

[@elevensuperstars2330]

Well, I suppose it's just normal that there is this "in between-age". I'm 22 as well and apart from the fact that I've never known what's currently in the Top Ten or the cinema or in fashion and I still don't, I know exactly what you mean. It's also what I feel - sometimes so very grown-up and independent, managing my own life pretty well and sometimes being a foolish, giggling teenager again, not caring about anything and life's so simple. It's really good to still have that, happens especially when I'm around my brothers who are all younger than me - but they're the perfect excuse for behaviour that's not very grown-up ;) But I quite like this, this "in between" thing - sometimes I think it's when you get the best of both worlds ;) Xx

[@lifeandlifeonly100]

Totally feel you on the age issue. I'm starting uni as a 'mature' student this year and everyone keeps laughing at me because I don't know any of the music in the charts etc and I'm just going to be so uncool, BUT NOR DO I FEEL QUALIFIED TO ADULT YET!

[@etakaria]

I actually really like your style!! I think its so unique and cool! I would love to have the confidence to wear what you wear!!! I actually do think you're funny but that's because my family have a weird sense of humour which I think is similar to yours

[@girlgal123]

Trust me, Carrie- someone out there shares your sense of humor! I bet a lot of someone's do, and it's always better to write what YOU find to be funny than you think other people will find to be! :)

[@mayabrabender8085]

when she was showing the card and flipping it and stuff the entire time I was like NO NO NO YOU'RE GONNA GET A CREASE IN IT!!! it was terrifying and I want one

[@jemimakate2]

You are my favourite youtuber and my idol i love you so much💗

[@Grumpy_C]

"They're all so cute that I want to drop-kick them into the dress circle" That quote had me in hysterics, very funny! :L