Iyanla: Fix My Father With 34 Children: Follow Up Special | Full Episode | OWN

[@lisasimone3271]

So I assume we all came after binge watching for the last 2 days. Great to see you all! Ok let me see what done happen since

[@lisasimone3271]

@@KikiSanders-qr5pj I saw that . I don’t know how this got by me because I loved this show. I love this mass therapy session she holding right now. Because we are all broken in some way .. I’m not judging…well .. a little bit… I’m not perfect.. but honestly I know we do a lot of stupid stuff from a trauma place but I ain’t claiming this man… I’m with sis.. “ um I don’t think this my baby daddy “

[@sanskretro]

I'm here randomly after KZbin recommended the original episode I heard of but never watched in full. Apparently, they must have done this after Iyanla talked to Nick Cannon and was criticized for being lightweight on him about his gang of children. If not, that's a coincidence.

[@lisasimone3271]

@@sanskretro well glad to see you lol did you see the follow up for the men sweet Jesus I was at work crying. This too deep… ugh..

[@sanskretro]

@@lisasimone3271 Not yet. I'm taking a break.

[@tipowanyeeingiem9562]

Basically cause omg

[@Angel4ever4678]

Honestly this is the only time I might say finding out he’s not the father might actually be a good thing 😂😂😂😂😂

[@ssescoe83]

That’s what I said😂😂😂😂

[@CrittneyCee]

I’d literally would rejoice and wish these ladies NOTHING but the best but at the same token what if she is on the show because she didn’t know feel me ?

[@warewellnessco]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂she wanna believe it

[@thehumbleone3853]

Good? Bad? Was he really apart of the child's life?

[@annnganga4602]

😢😢😢

[@brianal7143]

I miss this woman on TV! She is a true healer. God bless Iyanla in her work ❤️

[@rajrichardson8754]

Totally agree I didn’t really watch this show when it first aired on a regular basis but it really was a good and healing show. I always read her books and followed some of her teachings. But there is an entirely new generation of woman who need her voice. ❤

[@thechurchladytm2683]

I admire the older lady in the audience’s courage and honesty. God bless her, she seems like a sweet lady. ❤

[@summerlyric506]

Nicole is disgusted with Charmaine but not Jay who was playing them all. Crazy.

[@mizzbleu29]

right she disgusting

[@annanhlabathi9571]

She delusional

[@iSaidGoodDay]

Because she expected more from her but not him.

[@brandilowe6617]

whos to say shes not upset with him. u telling me if ur friend slept with ur man ans had a baby and continued to sleep with him youd be cordial with her and still love her . yall tripin

[@stars-are-us]

I would not sleep with my FRIEND'S man (PERIOD). So, I understand the betrayal pain... but lying to my face would seal my mistrust.

[@imani6198]

The 34 dolls sitting there in back ..that’s a visual for real.

[@VAULT865]

YESSSS, THE POINT OF HAVING THEM ON THE ORIGINAL SHOW. THE EFFECT IS REAL!💯👍

[@wigginsa09]

We miss you Iyanly. So many woman need their breakthrough. Your teachings and messages are so necessary.

[@BeUr_Best]

All the 34 dolls should have all cried at the same time and it should’ve been his role care for them all for a week. Diapers, fake bottle feeding, bathing, and etc.

[@TheDiscussionWithKei]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@adlihkristopher2906]

True 😂

[@carenesendi4623]

😂😂😂😂

[@RahYisrael99]

They should have been screaming daddy daddy I'm hungry.

[@marvinsworld6160]

Ffs🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 because if u don’t hear u must feel !

[@adlihkristopher2906]

I would rather be alone than to be in this baby mama circus with that fool

[@marieeleonaregeffrard81]

SAY IT LOUDER!

[@ladyteka2430]

We have all been through something but this…ain’t no way!!!

[@vanessashimoni6548]

I don’t understand why women are so afraid of being alone they stay with someone who brings chaos , mayhem and heartbreak. It makes no sense.

[@zaheerahshareef8131]

Facts

[@crystalk17co]

My brother's father has over 30 children too. He's recently passed but I hope and pray he got right with the Lord

[@quetta561]

Most of them don’t get right when u go through life thinking you untouchable they care about nothing that don’t revolve around them. These men’s need to be held accountable and we as women’s gots to get out power back these men’s out here running wild running circles on us and we just taking it. Sad how we going out

[@CrittneyCee]

Sorry for your loss 😢

[@Regenold-o4y]

God 🙏🏽 Forgives Hi Five 🙏🏽

[@ravenna9969]

Oh well

[@bethfraser7518]

Jay preys on women who are not confident and they second guess themselves - he's horrific and even his parents know!

[@misskoren6843]

I don't think Jay preys you know it takes two to be in a relationship and alot of our siSTARs live on hope and illusion of a promising future. I think broken attacks broken. I'm glad that they are all learning to heal

[@breannaanderson3169]

@@misskoren6843I agree

[@breannaanderson3169]

He was broken looking for what he was missing just like us women do. He didn’t prey even after a lot of these women knew they still had more kids with him

[@jip230]

Jay was turned out onto the streets by his parents when he was 15. He likely picked up predatory behavior as a survival strategy. I agree that broken people look for other broken people. We're seeing a sliver of the women he's been with. Only 5 of the 17 showed up for this, and we didn't meet the women who only slept with him and didn't get pregnant, OR who told Jay to go to hell once they found out he had 34 kids by 17 women.

[@Djd271]

Y’all women the problem why y’all have relations with communities deek ?

[@darrellsadler2848]

Seeing all of the baby dolls as representative of the children Jay has fathered was and still is eye opening.

[@erinis7774]

Brave women to come forward, telling truth and learning...together.

[@Sweetaswine604]

It’s ok ladies! We as women have all loved a man …….. continue to heal, when we know better, we do better!

[@GETYOBAGMONIQUE]

I love that beautiful lady in the blue she’s so sweet inside and out and she didn’t come off bitter or angry at the other women

[@dianapatterson449]

My ex's, ex-wife came to be before we got married and said "Don't marry him, girl" I married him because he convinced me that she was jealous, and I fell for it.

[@bluewhales6877]

What did you find out about ya husband?

[@squarebear619]

Same thing I told my ex husband's now ex gf and mother of his second child. She listened to his bs for a few years until all his lies came to the forefront. She's now married to a better man who raises the child with her as my ex husband is a deadbeat.

[@daniellejulien4314]

Im glad I paid attention to the type of man my childs father was to his ex wife and although I still brought a child in the mix Im very glad I do not share the scars of the marriage the way his ex-wife do, and the craziest part is they BOTH still love each other till this day 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@Honey-pv1zg]

I love this, shes asking the questions needed for them to not only understand how they got into this situation and how they need to heal within themselves, but also hopefully, how they can be proactive in their own children’s lives

[@amberwashington7500]

The one in the bright red jacket is gorgeous!!! She settled for less big time!!!

[@summerlyric506]

I promise I was thinking the same! She's beautiful.

[@ciannalewis7251]

They're all beautiful. Most of them even look alike.

[@stars-are-us]

he has a type

[@ntochrist]

They’re ALL beautiful women

[@natoshiapurnell5652]

I know right I've been saying the same thing. Im here because of TikTok.

[@Rebecca-hc5ju]

She knows he's the father. She doesn't want him to be after all the drama. She should have found out the truth 12 years ago!!

[@angelagray736]

I don't have any kids but I can relate to a lot of these ladies pain.

[@simplysaiige]

And that’s where us as women need to let go of the high horse and sticking our noses up! While some of us might not have had children come out of a situation (which is great and highly recommended), we should be more empathetic towards our “sisters”. You might not be the apart of the “babymomma circus”, but some of us ourselves still have underneath the surface alike wounds that cause us to fall for and accept the bs from the sameeee type of men. It might not result in a baby, but it can result in unhappiness and repeating dysfunctional cycles for ourselves as women. We all deserve to be respected & given the grace and room to realize our wounds, mistakes, and worth at some point to move in a better direction going forward. 🫶🏾

[@karenhinton2875]

Iconic!!! There is no one like Ms. Iyanla!❤️🙏💐

[@ayuma4747]

Iyanla mama Bear where have you been all this life? You are healing the nation

[@tinishah.199]

I 18:33

[@lisasimone3271]

Mean spirited, judgmental comments when we talking about ourselves.. I can feel that . We are so imperfectly perfect!

[@skqq3250]

Not sure the Osu in the purple blouse is sane. You can’t make 4 sweet babies with a known deadbeat!!!!

[@lisasimone3271]

Now we know there are issues underneath that honey… we all have them in different ways but honey. 4 baby’s …. By this man…. Come on sis and pull this therapy chair up and tell me about your childhood”…”tell me about that trauma” because this bigger than him baby girl

[@thechurchladytm2683]

this is one of the stories I been waiting on an update from. ❤ I have my fingers crossed 🤞 for a successful outcome.

[@railwaychristina3192]

Iyanla is so beautiful and elegant

[@amydiaz6814]

Feels like church❣️we have to luv ourselves before another.

[@stars-are-us]

Churches don't nurture women. Most use the bible to belittle and shame women.

[@wandarobinson4181]

If they had him on child support that would have helped because he would have been broke😵‍💫

[@Verharri]

If I’m not mistaken once a man has 10+ children the courts can’t place him on child support.

[@francesjavier3113]

​@@Verharrireally? I had no idea! 😳

[@p.gizzle90]

@@VerharriRight! Bc it becomes a point where the mother should’ve taken accountability. The man wouldn’t be able to live, if he had to pay child support for so many children.

[@Qeqezwisdom]

He would be in jail

[@Rebecca-hc5ju]

​@@p.gizzle90then he shouldn't have had so many children. Nowadays it's difficult enough raising children with one salary. The mothers have been taking responsibility for their children. Mr. Man should have stopped a long time ago.

[@sweetpeasurvivor8784]

I feel Nicole is disgusted with Charmaine because she betrayed their friendship, knowing how dogish her child father was. Not only that, she slept with him but she had children by him.

[@queensavage9896]

We have to remember that Nicole's child is younger than 2 of Charmaine's 3 children. That means she got pregnant after her friend destroyed the friendship. Both fools making foolish decisions, with lifelong consequences.

[@anndeecosita3586]

Jay told Nicole he hit on Charmaine and Nicole stayed with him. Her children are younger than Charmaine’s. She was betrayed by common sense.

[@squarebear619]

Nicole is cut from the same cloth as that man and she is in competition with the other wmen more than she truly cares for the serial babydaddy. She wants to win by eventually getting the ring so she can gloat even though she looks like a dmn fool. Too often wmen love competing with each other and the men are secondary if that.

[@GETYOBAGMONIQUE]

The beautiful women in the red has been the realist one through out most of all the other women.. she wasn’t ashamed to take accountability for her actions and I respect that 👏🏽

[@deloriseldridge8549]

She is amazing I love her teaching Grow women grow

[@MiSSPiNk747]

Your deficit and dysfunction is no better than the next... Never believe another woman is getting a better man.... Exchanging temporary relief for a LIFETIME OF PAIN💔.....My God......📍📌‼️

[@sev7397]

Father Abraham would have hated this man!

[@BahtElohim]

Kann because those patriarchs took care of their children 🕎

[@teresalindsey1286]

I'm going to have to disagree with you on that thought. I don't believe that Abraham would have hated this particular man, J. Williams. Abraham was a special man who was loved by God because of his faithfulness to God. He didn't carry hate in his heart for anyone. If anything, I do think that just based on his story and the way he was portrayed in the Bible, and the way Abraham was highly esteemed and blessed by God, I do think that Abraham would have talked to this man J Williams about the blessings of being a father, talked to him about what it means to be a man and father and the expectations of that dynamic in the way that God intended. I also believe that he would have prayed for and with Williams as well. I think that he would have spoken the truth of life and God's will, with love to this man. Abraham was a man after God's own heart. God kept the promise made Abraham the father of many nations. I hope this helps! 💝 Enjoy your day and may God bless you abundantly for the rest of your life and anyone else that may come across these comments. Let God lead you in love. In Jesus name Amen 🙏🏼💜

[@Talon007]

Some traditional values should be kept. Especially getting married first before children. If anything it will be easier to get alimony and child support.

[@phyleciarhodes1421]

His loose with his seed I'm sure theirs other deeply rooted issues with this gentleman.

[@Girlgonewise]

The women are loose with the wombs too.

[@MsQueenpoppen]

They loose with they legs

[@Djd271]

It one man and 17 women y’all ladies the problem they new he had multiple kids y’all careless

[@stars-are-us]

Love it... I am the deficit and dysfunction❣️Can't heal what you can't acknowledge.‼️

[@therealchakrakhan]

I think sis just don't want Jay to be the father...I don't blame her either...it's giving your real dad died lololololol

[@lisasimone3271]

She ready to back out .. She don’t want no parts of this madness

[@therealchakrakhan]

@@lisasimone3271 o fukn k

[@toschajeffries8833]

I felt the same way. She knows her son will never be able to have that father and son relationship due to all the other children.

[@squarebear619]

She definitely wants to disassociate from this madness. It's actually better to say someone else is the father and you don't know than to acknowledge this horrific situation.

[@RN-DNP]

It's all true, but as Iyanla put it, Ayanna lived without integrity. Ayanna's son had the right to know who his biological father was, whether or not it was Jay. Women who intentionally deceive their children about their paternity are usually rewarded with hatred and distrust by their offspring for the rest of their lives.

[@gretamay6938]

This was a very heartfelt message thank you for sharing this with the world.

[@melaninskinn8515]

And what about diseases

[@ravenna9969]

They think it’s only a rainbow disease. Which is why most straight folk don’t get checked out til their damn near dead

[@lanaydavis-blessing]

No one every talk abt that

[@lanaydavis-blessing]

The light skin lady get on my nerves you never wanted that for your children, but you kept opening your legs and letting him knock you up time at the time again cut the tears and grow up because now you’re raising children and I feel for your daughters, because of what you are showing them, it’s not OK

[@luvthslf79]

I'm surprised their all clean

[@mmatshepomphahlele]

We are not sure if they are clean or not. Status diseases won't be disclosed.

[@georgiatenantadvocategroup2822]

I’m so happy I found this video. Healing in the making.

[@extrhaarrogant5486]

Did anyone notice The Six Brown Chicks were in the audience? :) They looked BEAUTIFUL!

[@stars-are-us]

yes.

[@tyrellefrazier16]

34 kids!!!! Did he ever think about getting a vasectomy?

[@HandsofGlory1]

He said he didn't have a problem

[@cocoa_goddess6101]

He said no to the vasectomy, because one day he wants to get married. Should his future wife wants biological children, he wants to be able to give them to her. 👀

[@melissadiamond1268]

​@@cocoa_goddess6101which is an excuse 😂 he's willing to donate and give with no problems to other women with no responsibility. Why would any woman wanna marry him? He just didn't wanna be responsible and getting a vasectomy would've stopped him from being irresponsible

[@ssescoe83]

@@cocoa_goddess6101 i’m kind of curious what woman would wanna marry a man who has 34 kids because I don’t know if I can see marriage in the cards for him😂

[@cocoa_goddess6101]

@@ssescoe83 a fool because there’s nothing left for you or anyone in that manner. Your time nor attention belongs to you but rather 34 other children. It’s a waste of time.

[@janewandaka4847]

🎉🎉🎉we missed you Iyanla. We are happy to have you back. I acknowledge your healing touch and skills. We are learning soo much from your show, and getting the healing too. 🇰🇪 From Kenya

[@florabynum9090]

Great work! Mrs. Iyanla, you’re such a blessing to a lot of people.❤

[@Shush379]

These episodes are gold

[@annikamatthews2156]

Generational curses are real, sometimes the up bringing within the home environment plays a big part on the children's future.

[@3220sunshine]

my thing is his track record. how do you believe someone changed or will be different with YOU when you have the evidence right in front of you. That NINJA played everybody and everyone. We have got to be STRONGER AND MORE DISCERNING WOMEN. Demanding more for ourselves.

[@Dennyswifey]

Why as women would yu make ur children #25,#26,#27 😢😢

[@mizzbleu29]

i love this for them and i see these mothers being really great friends

[@jasmeenjones4852]

Da Woman in red is beautiful ❤️❤️

[@misskoren6843]

TRUTH TRUTH TELL THE TRUTH, FORGIVENESS I love Iyanla, tour work is definitely done

[@marvalousfox5602]

" that leg tells me no", Iyana dont miss anything.

[@sheridandunn234]

Yes I definitely heard something listening to this today that I could take home! I appreciate the wiliness,, the vulnerability and the truth from every woman that spoke today.

[@YOUR-WORD-IS-YOUR-BOND]

This was a good episode...

[@thehumbleone3853]

Thank you for this presentation Took me to a whole new level

[@KeOShAsWoRLd]

This is so great! Even though a lot of this isn’t my reality it’s still refreshing and reassuring

[@CanadianBisdak]

Shantae is like me. A person and a promise! And the hope and dreams that we formed and dreamed together, and would have should have. Those are the things that broke my heart! P can never hurt me.

[@malikahamajid2527]

Ignorence is Rampant in the land, Sad to say ☮️

[@aaronhoward7320]

Accountable is too

[@keneishachristie7664]

Thankful for a follow up,blessings

[@rita4missions]

Excuse me people, the thought that he was going into all of them , it would make me sick. Its pretty nasty, sorry. The fact that he is a good looking man and they are beautiful women, but its sad about what they have been doiing to themselves and their children. If the women would have made him responsible with child support he would cut this mess out😮

[@ebbyloves6055]

I'm sorry he is not a good looking man.. just my opinion

[@jamieburnett9092]

Purple shirt still holding on to that silly promise…. Wondering what exactly did he promise u

[@noreenperez8666]

It funny how this woman thought , they was the one.🤷‍♀️

[@Zeiryen91]

Women's internal compass is off. The biggest issue here is they did not judge his behavior they made a lifetime decision on what came out of his mouth. As women, we have to do better.

[@ayandakhumalo8692]

To think that these Jay women are all beautiful black women😢

[@ramonahamm6292]

All beautiful black women with self esteem issues

[@Djd271]

They get no passes women are the problem it’s one oookue and 15 females choosing poorly

[@famousproducers]

My son father is 50 with over 40 kids.😢

[@rita4missions]

What?

[@katnichelle08]

Wow!

[@MsXenyy1]

I am so sorry

[@famousproducers]

I feel those ladies. I Love my Son. I asked my Son father, would he call the show, when I first seen this show. He doesn't want too. I want all the kids to no each other so they want end up dating a sibling. I never thought this would be like my story. Different Man similar story.

[@ravenna9969]

@@famousproducershave you all got ancestrytested ? Whew chyle

[@ieducate2elevate]

Excellent! The truth will set you free 🎉

[@corrssiaperry]

I can’t take these women seriously

[@fanniekelley5944]

They had to be very lonely women

[@Cindy-gn8ry]

All the women are so beautiful and seem like great people, they deserve great men, but it’s so hard to fine a decent man IMO

[@Girlgonewise]

These women are the bigger problem here. They all knew he was no good. Yet, they all got into relationships with him and had multiple kids with him.

[@rachellegoodwin4868]

They get it now. You never made a mistake ? You're perfect right?!

[@Angel4ever4678]

Both are the problem. Men and women . Both share the blame

[@adlihkristopher2906]

Agree

[@melissadiamond1268]

The PROBLEM is the MAN & HIS willingness to spread his seeds with multiple women. He doesn't want healthy relationships with women. He wants to create chaos and dysfunction. He purposely kept using his private part as a weapon to trap and breed without any thoughts of how his children would feel.

[@melissadiamond1268]

Women have a choice and so did this man and his choice was to impregnate as many women as he could and created too many children that he cannot possibly take care of or raise

[@MsQueenpoppen]

Go head ms 67 u told your truth the girl behind u was scared she sat right on down no stand n your truth

[@cammie8701]

sis had 4 kids by him and is blaming him? One child with him is an accident/mistake, two or more, that's a woman being intentional.

[@rosemaryngugi2863]

Mmmmmmm.... Very many women do this because both the man and woman are broken

[@Djd271]

It’s one pookue and 15 baby mamas

[@SlavicChic3]

They all say they didn't want to be alone... I stayed because I didn't want to be wrong. I wanted to believe he was who he was telling me he was no matter what people told me I NEEDED to believe they were wrong about him not me

[@dianapatterson449]

Raising my hand

[@reginamitchell8400]

Me Too😂

[@AlexusWalston]

They’re in Atlanta the pickings are very slim out there and a lot of women settle.

[@8806Erika]

I wouldn't have even been able to show my face lol what in tf. They blaming that man but really EVERY woman after number 4 or 5 is absolutely insane! 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Rebecca-hc5ju]

Well, there's 13 who didn't. 🤷‍♀️

[@8806Erika]

@@Rebecca-hc5ju smart of them! 👀 lol

[@tianachet713]

Especially the ones that have him multiple kids

[@lauraschwarz4164]

Yay!!! I love Iyanla!!

[@JSS90]

All I see is a whole bunch of crybaby adults who don't know. How to take responsibility for their actions, both the man and the woman. Sorry, not sorry.

[@malikahamajid2527]

Do they All know I, or each other, or about the multiple kids 😮

[@SheLovely2002]

Yes,they have parts 1-3 on the Own you tube channel

[@HandsofGlory1]

Narcissistic to me

[@simoneabundance11]

This is so sad very sad? Non of these woman didn't think hold on? Let me research this? This doesn't make any sense! No judgement. God Bless their families and the kids🙏🏻💜

[@deannawilliams9061]

The 3 P,s. Woo

[@benciaali6104]

THAT WAS AN AWESOME ADMIRED SHOW OF BRAVNEST SALUTE 🍷

[@ArtrishaAnderson]

The one who is not sure about him being the father shoulda been glad if he wasn’t

[@Inprogress_of_newbeginings]

Where is Nicole?

[@reginamitchell8400]

With J😂

[@ChimangoMwandira]

😂😂😂😂😂​@@reginamitchell8400

[@soblessed4844]

Broken women choosing broken men will never end well. Absolutely don’t have a baby marinade in brokenness and disfunction.

[@MsLoveunique]

I really wonder how the young lady in the purple is doing now!

[@daniellearmstrong5372]

ALL the adults are to blame not just Jay. Jay needs 34 DNA tests if you ask me! He’s going wrong by claiming them all when Majority probably aren’t even really his. If he was coming by for drive bys with these women imagine how many other men were too!

[@jadhafairley3889]

THIS! All 18 adults need to sit down for DNA tests. They also need to line up at the clinic because there is no way this many people have been swapping juices without an STI/STD

[@daniellearmstrong5372]

@@jadhafairley3889RIGHT! And just imagine the children can even become sexually involved not even knowing they are related!

[@IAMGROOT4EVA]

I also wondered if he did a DNA test on all 34 children or if he was just claiming them all

[@ravenna9969]

Definitely

[@anndeecosita3586]

I highly doubt 34 DNA tests will be done since several of this older children made it abundantly clear on the show they want nothing to do with him.

[@goldenroberson84]

Sad part is ladies of today are still doing this mess

[@V4Vonnie]

Is that Zondra from the 6 Brown Chicks episode?

[@chuckdaddy6894]

Where are the 12 other mothers

[@jasperdilincoln2341]

Nicole thinks she's the Head of them All 🤦‍♂️😄 smh

[@MisaKeiJune]

Stories like this make me feel so blessed to be infertile.

[@hopelucas5986]

Pain makes a woman sleeps with 2 men in the same month.t trying to feel something .just numb

[@cuqiie1]

34 children by 17 women. Smh What were these women thinking? What were they seeing in him? Why do we accept such foolishness. No man will accept this, so why are we doing it. Have some standards if not for you for your kids . Smh

[@skqq3250]

All dem baby dolls should have been different sizes and colors.😅

[@IdidntAskuAnything]

Sighs... Can't look at Jay like he's the only one who's wrong. Them women play just as much of a part as he does.

[@jimparker2646]

Surprised no discussion regarding how much, if any, money Jay was giving to these women

[@Djd271]

Jay giving the 15 a piece 😂

[@galaxima9735]

End of thebday: Jay is happy still have 34 and all thèse women are lost. Who is thé winner ?

[@Gloryfied]

I bet my tweet it's on that screen 😬😬

[@kahughes1]

What's going on with the other 12 mothers? This story is fragmented. 😮😮😮😮