Iyanla: Fix My Father With 34 Children: Jay Returns | Full Episode | OWN

[@Samlowcell]

I wish some men knew that this level of vulnerability and honesty is so much more attractive than walking around with their chest poking out !!!

[@Rebecca-hc5ju]

💯💯

[@sherei9530]

Tell them. They see who women choose. Look at all these girls silly for these put-ons.

[@MariamRenneBeauty]

Preach.

[@amarjo351]

Apparently chest poking got him 34 children 😂

[@highwaygoals777]

Speaking as a man ....... THANK YOUUUUUU!!!!!!!

[@anneishaJohnson-q5f]

I’m emotionally drained. Did I really sit here and cry for these strangers for an hour.

[@321kush123]

Yes we did baby! Yes WE did. But they feel familiar to me. Smh. All in love

[@keiarapayne3206]

You’re not alone tears that needed to be shed by sooo many this hit harddd🥺😢

[@atlantasfaithsmom]

Yep, you did. 🫂

[@codependentconfessions6201]

If you haven’t seen the first 3 episodes.. then u got another 3 hours…. I been balling for 3 days did u see the audience… everybody hurt and broken… man o man… we all got some healing to do…😢😢😢❤

[@pinkydlamini9414]

Same here may we all find healing

[@minu2701]

This is incredible! I am an afghan woman and wish we could have this kind of demonstration for all nations! Her healing tools are universal! Thank you Iyanla, god bless you!

[@thegreatest3651]

lol your fathers pakistanis?

[@carter_1]

It starts in one house at a time.

[@tinaamariee832]

I think about the youngest man in this episode often. His conversation with his mom was so powerful. I truly hope he got the healing he needed & is doing better

[@toschajeffries8833]

Me too. I feel his calling is becoming an Pastor.

[@gettinItBACK]

I hope they are all showing up as the better version of themselves and for their children

[@toneimarykay]

I do as well

[@Jaz-mh8dc]

Jay was really in the moment with the young man and his mother. What a vulnerable and special moment.

[@tanaraowens4401]

BRING Ms . IYANLA BACK !!!

[@rekeishafrancois2567]

yesssssssss

[@constancebulger7173]

She was getting threats she chose to stop doing the show bc of that

[@awalker8371]

Too much positive thinking and energy. And it’s healing.

[@dollskull86]

This should've been a ongoing segment!!!!! 😩😩😩 A series, if you will

[@auntkera]

Agreed!!

[@themadmillionaire]

Yes! We need healing for the next 20 years

[@dollskull86]

@@themadmillionaire 50!!!!! No bs

[@lorebay2593]

YES

[@willsims5477]

This would be a good series. With All the kids that he’s unable to provide for financially, he needs the money. It would be a number one seller reality series.

[@misslady5029]

There is so much brokenness in our community 😢. We all need healing for our souls 💜....

[@cmichelle6888]

Soooooo much!!!! 😢😢😢

[@naturalbeauty4734]

​​​@@cmichelle6888STOP!!! 🛑 having children with these worthless black men 🤮 PERIOD!!! 👏🍷

[@sherei9530]

Can you imagine the healing that could take place if sessions like this were available in every community? I can only think of replacing midweek Bible study😊. I know of no other appropriate place where people are already gathering. We need healing.

[@sherei9530]

​@@tatijoieit could be because these situations began in wyt suprem@cy. Recall that slave families were sold apart because their owners recognized the strength of family. Also, welfare & shelters were not offered if men were present. Contemporary businesses cater largely to self and not family. Dont let them yt boiz off the hook while you do your work also learn to recognize the signs that you are being manipulated towards self gratification instead of fortitifying your people.

[@MSLILLY4533]

​@@sherei9530 I just want to add also breeding farms for black men and women that in itself is generational trauma that's been passed down. As a people if we know better we have to do better. One man can't protect multiple household's.

[@righteous803]

This made me examine my relationship with my children and how to talk and support them. We have a lot of healing to do before it's too late

[@sherei9530]

Yes. I need to have a heart to heart with each.

[@VAULT865]

Amen!❤

[@saradavis6505]

I.V.: “Why didn’t you get a vasectomy” Him: “ I don’t have a problem with what I created” But, your creations have a problem with you! Will the narcissist in the room please stand up.

[@lorebay2593]

She nailed it 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💯%

[@chunli1143]

RIGHT

[@Mayo...]

🎯

[@mckay57]

This!!

[@jamibeckham4544]

He won't stop unless he continues to get therapy. He is a true narcissist who's been exposed by this show. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@froonamission1013]

I'm trying to get work done and y'all keep uploading episodes😅

[@treanaalfred148]

I know and I'm here for it!!!😅😅😅😅😅😮❤😅😅

[@sha-maisworld7515]

😂😂😂😂

[@rickayeggins]

lmao me

[@mele9131]

Same😂😂😂😂

[@Agape247]

lol me too

[@charchar2983]

We needed to hear from these men. I watched all 3 episodes yesterday. Came in from work and was happy to see this follow up.

[@elaine21bok]

Me too😊

[@rogueacademic]

there needs to be a story on the need for women to enable men. I am not sure what any of these men offered, but they got their moment in the spotlight and their manhood affirm as procreators.

[@dianapatterson449]

This is one of her best shows

[@bdr5518]

This brokenness affects our community more than we think.

[@TheTia3456]

My throat hurts so bad. I’m holding in my tears at work. I should watch her episodes at home.

[@vanessashimoni6548]

I take my makeup off and get a box of tissues because I know I’m going to be ugly crying after 10 minutes.

[@natoshiapurnell5652]

I watched these episodes years ago. But today this ran across my timeline on TikTok. I've been trying to watch since this afternoon. This was so needed. Thanks Mrs. Vanzant 🫴🏿💕💕💕💕

[@natoshiapurnell5652]

I watched these episodes years ago. But today this ran across my timeline on TikTok. I've been trying to watch since this afternoon. This was so needed. Thanks Mrs. Vanzant 🫴🏿💕💕💕💕

[@evolatina]

Hearing Ryan’s mom talk while he is being embraced has me crying!

[@CrittneyCee]

the young man and his momma healing this is so great lord OMG i cannot i want this for me and momma so bad. 😢

[@toschajeffries8833]

I pray that you and your mom come to peace with each other.

[@Versatiletaurusmusic]

Girl me too, but my adopted mother was far gone cry abusive and didn't love me im a mother now thats all that matters I treat my children waaay better

[@sabrinabermudez3737]

Not one dry eye in the room. I cried like a baby 😢this was deep.

[@ladybiz6682]

Brothers fathering each other. Yes. That part.

[@monaabankwa6741]

I've gone thru my whole box of tissue and still have a snotty nose. The part where she was telling the man the perspective of the woman opening herself up... got me... she is a gift to the black community

[@Nille0212]

Damn, I'm crying right along with everyone else. This is deep!!!

[@user-ep6bo3in2z]

At my desk in tears lol

[@dianapatterson449]

Me too!!

[@rogueacademic]

why you crying?

[@Nille0212]

@@rogueacademic if you don't get it, you just don't get it. I can't explain it to you.

[@codependentconfessions6201]

To deep 🥹😢😢

[@laraoneal7284]

Once u know ur damaged it is ur responsibility to fix it and become a better person. If u don’t then ur being a narcissist and manipulating the other person.

[@Mandidzv]

Oh Lord have mercy on us

[@brandilatham7047]

Whoa...this was tough. I'm at work in tears. Thank you Iyanla. These conversations are needed.

[@toschajeffries8833]

Yes.....

[@nontembekokunene6548]

I love you Iyanla, for as we lack mothers who are whole, the man are lacking fathers. You answered a lot of questions and doubt and confusion in me. Thank you Minister Vanzant

[@jeanettedawson8500]

Iyanla thank you for the good counseling. If it wasn't for being willing to take counsel from God's word, I don't know who where I would be. God takes good care of his own, who are willing to heed his counsel no matter what the world tries to do to them. He has a better plan than ours always.

[@divinevisionempire7286]

I wish shed come back. She was and still is a very big blessing to this realm

[@timass9090]

She has a podcast friend. It's really good too.

[@erikaarnold4780]

We need her even more, now! Lord help us…

[@erikaarnold4780]

@@timass9090I’m gonna track her down. Thanks! That is good news❤

[@zxcccccc1]

She told him what his heart already felt but her words allowed him to release the pain.

[@tehonnamallet4353]

This was so good. I asked my son for forgiveness too. I sent him a long message about all the things that I need him to forgive me about this was good.

[@kam1776]

Proud of you

[@vanessagainey740]

So proud of jay williams he was honestly more supportive to the men than the male guest speaker he was so strong and this episode definitely caused the watchers to see him in the light he wanted .

[@cwade1824]

yes! He took Iyanla's advice/teaching and supported them right away It was so goo to see all of the men in a circle supporting the young man with the bow tie I felt his and his mother's pain.

[@mele9131]

I hate like he’s pretending at the beginning that he’s upset how his appearance on the show paints a negative image of his children or that they are suffering from the show. They talking about him and rightly so so and he doesn’t like it.

[@RahYisrael99]

Lack of integrity and accountability.

[@traceydumase]

That's exactly what it was

[@warewellnessco]

Which is why the cycle will continue

[@gettinItBACK]

I just decided to dismiss him as the episode played.Jay was not ready. Still showed with EGO. SMH Broken consciousness for sure. He appeared to feed off the others honesty to show I don't know what. I hope they continue to all show up better.

[@MegTelevised]

Embarrassment/shame must be a new emotions for him

[@tampaflbeastforlife]

that young man touched me and I felt his pain so deeply smh this was a strong episode

[@mizzbleu29]

For the ones saying they don't like Jay this isn't about liking or disliking him this still hits him emotionally regardless because as you see the entire show is crying because somewhere everyone person is dealing with something

[@Sweetaswine604]

This episode had me in tears. I was very enlightened and was astounded to hear how these men became vulnerable. Brothers continue in your healing!

[@neikasworld9513]

I felt sooo good to see all the men and women in one room be so vulnerable... and the ones like me, watching from afar and still be vulnerable... MY GOD

[@TracyShereee]

Over here crying my eyes OUT! This was too deep and real-also long overdue 😢

[@jerikarivers8906]

When those men stood with that young man that was powerful 😢

[@src3360]

I am my mothers only child but 1 of 6 of my fathers children. This is deep and healing 😌

[@skinnydee1886]

@scr3360, Thank God that your mother is a wise woman who has (only) one child! Learn from your mother and continue to heal. May God bless you all🙏🌹🤗😘

[@lindalinda9796]

Fornication is sin, sin has consequences,. We need to start being ashamed of our lives of sins

[@Mrz_trizz]

Yes we all just need to follow the Bible and rid ourselves of unnecessary hurt and pain

[@sherei9530]

@lindalinda9796 Jesus forgives. People will act up as long as he continues free will. We know that will end one day but these folks are more concerned with the men they face everyday and could care less about the hereafter. An unbothered girl, who knows the Jesus as well as Satan said she was going to enjoy every party she knows she'll pay for in hell.

[@teeciewalk]

Absolutely it’s not easy to walk the straight and narrow but it’s absolutely worth it. Not being married I live my life in celibacy. It’s a hard walk but when you focus on the Lord he helps to sustain you. I fall short at times but like you said sin has consequences and it should not be the norm to be comfortable living in sin.

[@RN-DNP]

Pontificating ain't the way. Instead, we need to hold community members accountable for their choices and stress birth control and marriage. The black community alone births seventy-seven percent of out-of-wedlock births. That alone creates disassembled and fatherless households. Miss Iyanla was right, "We have got to do better."

[@rashawndaholmes2651]

Need to start being accountable for wrongdoing.. stop throwing it back on the woman.. the woman takes all the blame.. she's also the one that has to help him heal.. help herself heal, kids, community.. a woman's work is never appreciated!

[@PrettyGirl1061]

I have sat here for the last 5 hours watching every episode. This is a much needed conversation and I recognize more then ever so much healing is needed in our communities as a whole.

[@FitzyS]

That’s the issue. So many broken people that have serious issues having baby after baby! Nothing to offer theirselves let alone another human.

[@risa5874]

The level of vulnerability was so beautiful. The truth does set you free. Wishing everyone peace as they heal through their pains and trauma, especially to all the men.

[@amydiaz6814]

Listening to this beautiful light of a spirit Iylana is like going to church every time! ❣️🛐

[@omara153]

those baby dolls in the background is sending me still 😂😂😂

[@MusicalMe123]

Don't laugh at thr symbolic babies, lol😂

[@mercedes7566]

Literally searched for someone else thinking the same😂 thing

[@Th3NaturalM31988]

I was not prepared to be in full blown tears this morning. I am sobbing.

[@byfaith314]

What the devil meant for evil God turns for good🙏🏾 The growth in Jay I could see him mentoring boys 2 men, this is just the beginning, So good!🙌🏾

[@zahramissy4837]

God calls the unqualified

[@rebasmith15]

I want to personally thank Iyanna for this one, I’m a female and I appreciate every moment. Thank you !!!!!

[@Mz_Ak47]

Girl I didn’t know this was going to be this deep 🥹🤧

[@AishatuAbdullahiAdamu-wr1ni]

When you are broken the light of the Almighty God can heal ur heart and fill it up till you are whole

[@ariellechanel1]

She is a God send!! ❤

[@bribri881000]

I thank GOD for my daddy! Thank you Lord. I'm praying for healing for all families. 🙏🏾

[@tiamarietull168]

This episode has me bawling!! Very good show.

[@TheVow2024]

Mennnn, this is deep. Am tearing up😢 Thanks, Ms. Vanzant ❤

[@brandilatham7047]

Right on time. Thank you!!!

[@louiZiana-Gurl]

Sitting here bawling my eyes out but learned a lot about myself in the process and having two kids with different fathers. So happy my children broke the cycle.

[@etravi5058]

The worst thing a parent can do is give them multiple half siblings. That creates animosity between the children.

[@WNdaba]

100%

[@j.g.3719]

I don't like Jay. The only answer to this problem is for women to stop sleeping with him and men like him because he's not gonna change. Stop giving men like him 😺

[@dememurphy7859]

He is a narcissist and you're right they don't change! He sat up there like he was Iyanla's co-host 😂 he was just glad the negative focus wasn't all on him but fake crying acting like he had the other men's back acting righteous

[@Regenold-o4y]

Forgive us for we knew NOT 🗣️ what we smoked & ranked 😭🤤🤤

[@daisyboafo6778]

Exactly. I don’t like him either.

[@realkemiadeyemo]

Jay signing up for this program has brought healing to these other people I'd presume. So I guess that counts for thing he did cool at.

[@trinityn]

This was very POWERFUL 💜💪🏾🙏🏾

[@maribelru2011]

Thank you all for having the courage to share your story ❤

[@jacorymatthews5024]

By the comments on each episode of this series. I feel like Iyanla fixed a lot our lives. Gave a perspective that we may never realize in the path called life. Thank you ❤

[@misskoren6843]

OMG Iyanla speech protraying rhe woman has totally broke me up. The boxes of tissues are out! This is so powerful! This needs to be a global pandemic for healing all our bakck brother and sisters. OMG hela us

[@nicolenichols8109]

These two episodes were so good omg!

[@carter_1]

You spend the 1st 20... 30...40 years blaming, then examining, & analyzing your upbringing. Many bringing kids into the middle of it all. Don't forget how powerful EVERY day is with them ❤

[@hopehenry29]

This woman has power to tare down walls that you can’t pull down all by yourself

[@BleuReign13]

I love how Iyanla is still open to listening and learning..true wisdom

[@motherofthreeb6337]

While I think Jay's situation is crazy, I must give him props that he's not denying his children. Most men run from their responsibilities and deny, deny, deny.

[@pjustice817]

Please fix the “most” in your comment to some.

[@motherofthreeb6337]

@@pjustice817 Ok. The majority....

[@pjustice817]

@@motherofthreeb6337who hurt you?

[@MareyahJ]

See Reva's speech on Boys in the Hood.

[@odysseywardfite8220]

Not most or majority but too many.. and if it don't apply let it fly 🕊️

[@lindahebb4832]

Thank you, thank you thank you for all the uploads I know I’m not the only one that appreciates it

[@lisasimone3271]

This was powerful and needs to be done more often these follow ups have opened both sides to honest conversations . We are all human and have made horrible mistakes. Talking and taking responsibility rather than blaming is so necessary for healing

[@deegrant9584]

Powerful healing. I needed this.

[@maryroberson7682]

Me too

[@toschajeffries8833]

Yes..

[@amayzinvibzjonez]

Jay don't be afraid to turn 🍋s into lemonade 🎉🎉🎉❤. Encourage other men to make a turn around❤

[@jenniferforbes1257]

Thank u for helping these men

[@rickayeggins]

Jay look like he dont wanna be there

[@alexiawinnieshepard4736]

He didn't.

[@CrittneyCee]

he didn’t but i think it was one of those situations where we dont want to go with the homies to the party but we get there and we glad we came. bc he was a pillar for the young man and her son nobody was going to step up like Jay did because he learning.

[@sherei9530]

I dont think anyone in thecroom really wanted to be there. They needed to be there.

[@zoeb3639]

I can’t stop crying.

[@erikaarnold4780]

Uh-oh. Lemme get my tissue, then. I’m only 2 min in….here we go!😬

[@Zahrainnit]

This is some of the most powerful stuff I’ve seen on screen

[@EricaYE6]

Iyanla, bring Ronyell Wallace on your show. He was on Paternity Court (multiple times) and Maury (multiple times). He is WILD out here.

[@davidcjones3100]

I truly understand why some of his older children don't want absolutely nothing to do with him, he's totally irresponsible, selfish, there are more like him in this world.

[@chrisk2734]

Actually his daughter already had a baby, and he didn't call her. He's already a grandfather.

[@Csaint407]

This was so powerful!

[@frowhatitsworth]

I’m stuck on 34. I’m trying to be open minded and not judgmental. At the same time, I’m flabbergasted. How does this happen? I’m trying to understand where the women are coming from too, not just him. I’m also triggered by how Iyanla is speaking to them & cutting them off.

[@ronalddowdell9231]

My heart broke for these brothers.

[@ViolettaLing]

Why did they all recoil when Iyanla brought up a lack of discipline? What else is fathering children with multiple women? Some truths are hard to hear.

[@321kush123]

Woooo😢 I love these men for doing the hard thing. Be vulnerable as black men❤ standing ovation for that👏

[@IamPetuniaM]

Thank you Mr Jay for sharing your life with us,,,

[@TjaMadison-oh5il]

This is a good topic and showing them that fatherhood is important.

[@derekdrake6027]

My God. This. POWERFUL!!!!

[@evettematthews4083]

He dont have a problem with what he created because he doesn't have to be responsible for them. He can just leave them and it's normal in society.

[@tonilove14]

Facts !!!!

[@MslovelyEssence2021]

Ms.Iyanla I love your show and love hearing the men out because they too have stories to tell, it's very important we here the male expert out and the other men out no one can tell it like it is but an honest man or men they needed to be heard black men and women need healing from untold stories that we've lived with forever, to me this segment of the shows were very much needed I save these particular shows on my Playlist thank you so much I'm about to go pull myself together from the tears😢❤I'm praying for us all 🙏🏼🙏🏼Lord have mercy on us 🙏🏼

[@vanessagainey740]

I did not like the guest speaker he was kinda a yes man and a narcissist n very rude instead of working with her to heal these men, it feels like he was trying to make it a competition. Iyanla was right it’s a lack of discipline.

[@manifestationofgod1379]

No, she asked questions and didn't really allow him to go into depth with his response.

[@Lily-cm3nj]

Lawd Iyanla is on 🔥! Please bring this legend and icon back cause we need her now more than ever!!!!

[@mrsgreengreen5181]

This is real Thank God for this

[@jeffreywagner5234]

Fantastic show. Please keep repeating it. Thank you, Iyanla!!!

[@truebaby5]

Thank you Jay for your support and willingness!! May God bless you

[@lildimplesworld]

Over here crying with them. I couldn’t help it

[@shelbisueno9647]

Damnit- gonna have me rocking back and forth at my desk ugly crying 😮‍💨

[@niylacartermusic]

I could watch this episode over and over again, it's always going to be touching

[@teresamarie7460]

Iyanla didn't need that man there to speak for men. Those men had different reasons why they procreate with multiple women. Jay had to motion to him to stand up and support the man who was crying.

[@AnastasiaBeaverhousn]

You're a woman saying that! You can't speak for them! SHE needed to STFU and let them talk! She doesn't know what it's like being a man so let a MAN lead!! That's part of the problem women want to baby men!!

[@Djdoll2024]

This need to be a nexflix series 😊

[@lorebay2593]

Heal the community, I pray this helps a whole lot, we so need to heal these hurts.

[@inestrickovic]

This is healing❤

[@katlegomhlauli8423]

We really need Miss Iyanla back she was doing the Lord’s work

[@rinikiacearo1961]

Got me crying at work......

[@cassandrafearn3820]

Me to, iyanla need to come bck

[@estheralvarez67]

I am speechless and full of tear's!!! This episode was DEEP