Iyanla's Most Watched Advice : Red Flags

[@QuoronMusic]

“If it doesn’t feel right, chances are it’s not right.” If I don’t take anything else from this video, I’m taking that. Trust you gut. No matter what friends or others say. Know yourself and be grounded so you know when foolishness is coming your way.

[@Monetprays]

So true

[@sxm76]

Going thru this right now! I KNOW this person is deceptive but I haven't caught him completely. So many gut feelings but when I address it, he always denies, gets mad and blames me. "Your past causes you to distrust me. You'll never catch me doing anything." THAT statement alone red flags me!

[@keepitallthewayfunky3448]

She looks great, better than ever.

[@AD_2314]

She’s 67 I believe! 😳 wouldn’t give her a day over 50!

[@karenwalters2007]

Yes she does amazing

[@danielschell6523]

I love this woman

[@AD_2314]

Listen to that intuition, ladies! It will always lead you in the right direction. She’s beautiful inside and out. Her skin is glowing! 👌🏻 🧡

[@Cattitude369]

I never lend, I only give. It I can't afford to give it, or don't want to give it (based on who or the amount), then you can't have it. This has automatically narrowed the list to a few people and has given me piece of mind. It also helps to cut off people who are always needy, the victim, or have their hand out.

[@Tech81272]

I’ve given people $10 knowing they wasn’t going to pay back just so I don’t ever speak to them or they do muck me

[@maureenandrews4910]

I wish I had her advice 50 years ago, love her.

[@AB-wk6sm]

Theses are good❤️ My red flags:: Bad relationship with kids Bad relationship with mother Cheap and stingy Disrespectful to waiters/waitresses Immature at communicating Arrogance Want to rush you down the aisle “wife , wife, wife” Etc lol

[@princesslene55]

My ex was none of that on ya list,I thought he was good until later i realized he just very disrespectful and abusive towards women. No matter how long they hide it their true self will one day come out.

[@bernadette573]

@@princesslene55 You are absolutely right. Reminded me of This Boy's Life where the man gave a great first impression and only showed his true contempt once she said "I do."

[@MindsetSpeakers]

Thank you. I ignored all the above and can’t be mad when he flipped out. He was being true to character it was my fault for ignoring the signs and expecting a miracle transformation.

[@Khazmic_Kismet]

Thank you. I wish my mother had been woman enough to educate me concerning the red flags. Be blessed.

[@Shelleshelly9439]

Thank you for the amazing content!!! I will also say that you look youthful , fabulous and beautiful 💕❤️💕❤️💕❤️💕❤️

[@lenettedavis1655]

You told the truth!!

[@norahkalunda1234]

She does look good. God, this woman!!

[@Zigzagzodak]

Healing makes you glow!

[@lisawilliams9980]

Amen! God gives us intuition for a reason! I know first hand the outcomes of not heeding the warnings and red flags! You can recover but it takes prayer, time/patience and sometimes lots of money! Don’t ignore the red flags!! 💜

[@The_Truth-]

GOD PROVIDED SYSTEM(GPS) LOVE THIS!

[@starskyhutch6011]

So true! Especially those folks who always speak negatively of others. I had a friend who did that, and then eventually I became the target of their negative talk. Even though it was a 30-year friendship, I dropped it like a hot potato lol. Thank you once again Ms. Iyanla for sharing your WISDOM.

[@Gemma0519]

Halo poo

[@TheRonskins]

Absolutely! A dog that brings a bone, will surely carry one back. I've always known that if someone is constantly telling me about another person's business, I'm nearly positive that they'll share my business with others. I'm very guarded with what I choose to share, and given my rather limited track record of friendships, if anyone has heard or saying anything about me, I am positive they're making it up because I spend very little time with folks, especially my colleagues. If I do spend time with colleagues, I'm talking about big issues like politics, and not my personal life issues. Even an ant knows not to come to my home, as there won't be one crumb available.

[@geneviveross4234]

This is my story too... I had to part ways with my ex-friend if 18 years because of exactly the same thing..!!

[@YogirlCharli]

Sadly that's what My sister does. Unfortunately I can't cut her out my life. So, when starts talking negative I switch up the conversation quick. It's exhausting talking to her.

[@APTTMHYforever]

Money is a source of energy🤯 never thought of that before

[@lailamykle]

I love you soooooo so much. I found you on KZbin and I spent all summer, every single day 3-5 hours a day, every day. Could not get enough. Are you channeling!? It looks to me like you are. There is energy that flows you and guides you, and you are totally in the flow. Love Love Love

[@TheRonskins]

Agreed! I was on lockdown in my Host country all summer and created a daily ritual of listening to Sister Iyanla every single day. She has helped me tremendously and I've grown spiritually and am all the better for it.

[@Cattitude369]

Yes, mom relationships are my number 1 red flag. I've seen it with boyfriends and platonic friends. Ladies, LISTEN TO THAT ONE, if none of the others!

[@cece82gemini27]

Looking good Ms Iyanla! Coming with the consistency and brilliance!

[@sabymindbiz]

Many disguise well, just have to use my intuition. Thanks, Iyanla! ✌

[@ZacandDora]

Anyone else frantically trying to read the T-shirt?!😆🥳🙏🏻💙

[@prosperity.]

Struggle is optional, Faith is required

[@maryhornocker3516]

Struggle is optional?

[@kynathomas4809]

I walked straight away from the person in my life who ALWAYS had something negative to say. It's exhausting being around people like that.

[@alliemaxwell8382]

lol... Don’t Invite Crazy In😂

[@flyingcrew2640]

I always use your quote.. When crazy comes cross the street don't invite it to dinner.. When u know, u know.. Its all about being authentic No one can deceive you unless u open the door to it

[@williesmith3466]

Thank you!!! When I was younger, I had a lot of crazy in my life. I still have some, but now I go get a loaf of bread and don’t care when they leave my life. I say thank you god for protection.

[@kiransharma7848]

You look gorgeous when you dress up and do a bit of makeup ! Love you!❤

[@kokodip4l]

Excellent talk

[@shimmeringnickol7495]

You are aging backwards!💕

[@tsunginaomencube4204]

I always seem to ignore these red flags, thank-you very much for the tips 💜

[@krish.5823]

Number one red flag they... can't seem to look UP into your eyes, and if it happens it's only to see what you are thinking, reading your facial expressions it's very very very sneaky.

[@LauraRyan2007]

I just have to say, nothing is "all one thing". There is positive & negative in EVERYTHING. I'm not always negative, but I do point out a negative situation. Am I the red flag? I don't think so!

[@TheRonskins]

I don't believe Ms. Iyanla was referring to these types of circumstances because clearly one must raise an issue that's not exactly favourable should one ever arise. Lord knows I must do so with a few of my staff, but I'm addressing an issue or a behavior that will not work in our place of employment. I don't address personality or personal issues, but rather a behavior that isn't welcoming for the work environment. Also, I think the frequency is another important aspect. I believe Ms. Iyanla was referring to someone who ALWAYS has something negative to say or point out. Yes, I too would wonder why this person always likes to raise something negative or unfavourable regarding my look, my actions, my home, my choices, my whatever. Repeated negativity can work on a person's self esteem and confidence. The old corrective comments or the "hey, you might want to re-examine or re-evaluate or re-think" comments are just fine in healthy relationships, but if one is always negative with me, I might be less inclined to spend any quality time with them.

[@rositayoung9445]

Thank you again for this information. You hit it right on tje point! But, can I add one more, Red flag? The one who is always competitive. If you say, " I'm going back to school for my GED" They will say, I'm already in college or I sign up for college and you know this is not true. This type is never happy for you. Thank you for such wise advice.🌷

[@doreenmakori7245]

This is an eye opener, thank you!

[@williams3675]

You're absolutely correct, I truly ignored all of them......

[@cynthiatramil6579]

In agreement

[@rasun316]

...I’ve always respected your contributions but this video compelled me to subscribe and click the notification bell.. more love to come!

[@EWAMILENAP]

The problem aren't the red flags. The problem is we can't see them in the beginning. Thank you🙏

[@LADYDIVAful]

From the onset, the flags are there. More often than not, people move too quickly to what they want to see. They peruse to what they believe they can handle and bypass the red flags. It a chess move with fingers crossed in hopes the other party will appreciate what they bring to the table. Doing the most to keep the synergy alive will make you collect those boogers and neatly place them away in hope they go disappear.

[@gokaren420]

Flawless skin

[@firstladyj173]

Thank You Beautiful You Are Greatly Appreciated🦋🦋🦋

[@chersono5506]

Love you mama!!😭💕

[@kiransharma7848]

Cool true talk! Love it red flag....🙏

[@susanstarnes580]

This is helpful. Applies to friends too.

[@kiransharma7848]

You're next Oprah! ❤❤❤😘

[@daraccent]

So True Iyanla! Thanks for posting!

[@sunshine-wb7gr]

Thank you 😊❤️🙏 stay safe 🇦🇮

[@motif5775]

Thank you!!

[@valeriebwilliams701]

Thanks

[@thatgirlyami332]

Thank you for this video ☺️

[@kendalhenderson5935]

ding ding ding 🤣🤣🤣

[@RachyNoodleNest]

I ignored so many red flags. A week after chatting to a guy, he 'told me off' because I was online on WhatsApp and didn't reply to him quick enough - I ignored it. Anyway, it was a car crash of a 5 month relationship and I ended it after I started seeing aggressive and manipulative tendencies. Flipping heck - I had a lucky escape

[@jackiebohannon322]

Amen Thank you So Much 💖

[@queenesther1739]

I run late, I love and respect people, and I am a great friend. So that's a little silly..it's more of an anxiety thing, time management issue, and being overly thorough/slow with getting ready etc, I'm kind of a perfectionist. I think that kind of thing is reading too much into things..unless we're talking about ppl who are consistently RLLY late, like 1/2 hour to an hour late type a thing, like out of control

[@lisaburke3878]

Thank you I needed to hear this!

[@jzloveinfinite]

This helped me tonight. Thank you! 🙏

[@teresafreemanparker6967]

Thank you Iylana! Words of wisdom. 🙌

[@mummyremmyuganda5490]

This is great ❤❤❤🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬

[@brittney5563]

@7:45 The relationship with children thing is tricky. Ladies, 9 times out of 10, if a woman is “keeping a man from his child”, it’s a VERY good reason why. Now, I’m aware there are one offs, but that’s the exception. Not the rule. Dig deep before you believe the woman is just keeping him away. It’s probably a lot more to it.

[@sistersister8855]

I wish i could have disinvited him for real..😏

[@mindingmyownbusiness6194]

Dam I'm always late⏰🕓🕒🕐🕣🕦🕥 but I am trustworthy and a good person 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@relebohilemamome6004]

Same

[@LoveNLight1111]

You might be but it’s highly disrespectful so how is that trustworthy person? Inconsistent isn’t trustworthy

[@jeccym8715]

Always late and you are trustworthy? Really now? Doesn't go together my friend 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

[@lelabrooks04]

Trust me I understand where you are coming from.

[@jovonclement]

I disagree about people who are late I had employees that were always late but were always there the ones who were early came early and made sure they had a reason to leave early and they were not available when the store needed them.

[@jovonclement]

Different strokes for different folks

[@mindingmyownbusiness6194]

I agree I'm a late person to a fault 🤦🏽‍♀️. But I'm always the trustworthy dependable one.🤷🏽‍♀️

[@NutsNBerries]

I agree with you

[@kazkazzie3906]

Yes, i agree with you on this 😊

[@LarryBanks85]

I love this.

[@blessedandbeautiful8365]

This truth hurts so badly 😩...that intuition piece. You have to trust yourself. No one has ever taught me that. And those daddy issues...whew she is not lying. The thing is I know that I had daddy issues, he wasn’t there don’t even know him then to find out he wasn’t even my real dad and was abusive to me, but I did not listen to my intuition to heal first then get married. It has been such a rough road. Please pray for me. 😩 the one thing I thank God for is grace. And when Ms. Iyanla says ding, ding, ding and it low key irritates you, that’s your red flag you need to work on and/or walk away from. 😂😂 If you didn’t grow up with sound advice, God will place someone in your life to inoculate you.

[@katierojas8066]

Does anyone know how to deal w the person who ur getting the bad vibe from if it’s someone u have to work with? How do u continue working w them?

[@princesslene55]

two of my ex love their moms,my recent ex talk to his mom all the time,the mom still gives him $ whenever this person is 40yrs old. now from my experience nope he was disrespectful and abusive towards women.(I'm a woman) I will say not all men that have great relationship with their moms are good.

[@katierojas8066]

Borrower nor lender be.

[@miikamona]

❤️❤️❤️

[@joyakahome7594]

How a man is in relationship with his mother red flag I don't agree with. I know men who love their mothers more than their partners.

[@Esther-fh4lf]

I got so many issues

[@KimmieJ1920]

And women will ignore a man's relationship with his kids. Some men flat out lie about their relationship and the reason why they don't see their kids is always the woman's fault. He needs to be doing what is necessary to get back in relationship with their kids by following the proper channels to do so. Also if he legally can't be alone with his kids though he has a relationship should be a red flag because he may not have done anything to the kids but he may be an abuser that abused the children's mother in front of them. Just be leery of men with complicated and difficlty relationships with their kids and or the children's mother.

[@YogirlCharli]

Yes!!!!!! That's My oldest two Dad. He now have 8 kids by 6 different women and doesn't spend anytime with the 7. His oldest is in her 30's hasn't seen her in years (his choice)and don't even try to get know his grandkids. He's a sad human being! Crazy part this man is 52 years old.

[@kellyupshaw6598]

These are the really obvious ones. There's other flags that aren't red. Another important one is someone that has no respect for authority, has no authority figure or mentor in their life.

[@krish.5823]

What you doing speaker? You're exercising or something? You're looking trim and lean.

[@benifalcone]

When it comes to gay relationships, should we be looking to the way our partner deals with their parent with the same gender as ours? Exemple: my boyfriend’s relationship with his father, because I’m a man.

[@bh189]

Yes!

[@evan3007]

So what happens if I am the energy vampire..lol. I guess I need a man completely opposite. 😆

[@lashunburton657]

Well dang I guess I'm a red flag...my father was murdered before I ever got a chance to know him and my mother didn't raise me. Oh well.

[@lashunburton657]

@Carol Mizelle please tell me how?

[@Kenya12891]

She didn’t say that 🤷🏽‍♀️I hope you feel healed and whole so that that trauma won’t hinder your future relationships. God bless you