Women Alone - The R Spot Episode 22

The R Spot episodes is where Iyanla shares messages, stories, and ideas to develop healthy relationships, and mend the ones that are broken. If you want to send Iyanla questions or share relationship issues; send correspondence to: [e-mail]
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[@Wilson-vx6ty]

I love the last part where she says "he's looking for you just as hard as you're looking for him". That made me smile. Ok future husband, I'm getting ready for you. I'm not there yet so wait on me. I promise you I'll be worth the wait.

[@gichukimuchemi7164]

mmmmmh

[@gichukimuchemi7164]

yesssss, the last part made me smile too,))

[@god563616]

TheAlpha Femme-fatale WAS JUST ABOUT TO SAY THE SAME THING. THE LAST PART GAVE ME HOPE

[@ririnewt2210]

F

[@shashunrwagner9544]

I am waiting on my future husband

[@appleflower4532]

thank god !!! this women exists on this planet!! shes the great gift. wise, beautiful, charismatic lovely... shes like warming loving mother to me that I had not in my life when i needed at most..

[@asmrunboxxd]

COME ON HERE MS. IYANLA! He's not gay, he's not in jail & he's not married! THE VERY BEST STATEMENT I'VE HEARD ALL DAY!

[@TL-kt2ye]

I HAVE NOOOOOOOOOOO WORDS FOR THIS VIDEO.... SLOW CLAPS.... STANDING OVATION.

[@tammylee3681]

You are such an amazing and gifted woman. I am so happy God allowed me to come across your videos in the nic-of-time. My husband left me (Oct 2016) while I was pregnant with our first child. I am still healing from the hurt. Your videos are helping me in ways you wouldn't imagine. Thank you and God bless!

[@beelarehman5992]

Tammy Mitchell he's a dummy x

[@lilibirregah3002]

You are beautiful and you will find anotherone when the time is right.

[@brittanynicole4370]

Tammy Mitchell I hope you are doing better Tammy!! A detour could just be re-routing you to where you'll be celebrated and not tolerated. The best is yet to come!

[@tiffanycobo]

Tammy Mitchell stay strong sister!

[@crisnacalifornia]

I have been that woman, afraid to be alone. What did I do? I stayed in 2 LONG painful relationships. I don't understand why we stay in hell but we do when we never knew heaven; these relationships hurt more than being alone! In my case, I never knew my worth. I was seeking the love, acceptance and validation I didn't have from my father. So I found men that were equally selfish, self-focused and non-committing. That way, I was "left" daily, while with them. Now I am finally alone and learning to love myself. All I would give to a man I will now give ME.

[@happylindsay4475]

Melo Earth- been there too many times...I am now commited to being self partnered, get clear and focused on what I deserve and practice that for and to my Self. Hope you are finding blessings and owning your worth on your journey. Peace, love, and light.

[@amandastephanie3584]

My husband, mmmh...he is 6 feet tall, dark haired, with green eyes. An engineer, spiritually enlightened, and of good character. I know this because we will meet in the summer of 2020. And the universe says...AMEN!

[@kennzcast]

Amanda stephanie have you met him yet?

[@Angelsk007]

wow! you are looking so good!!! where did you find the fountain of youth pill? Gorgeous!

[@naelondonuksmith3759]

Black don't crack honey!

[@Angelsk007]

lol!!!

[@priorityemails319]

The "fountain of youth" is MELANIN.

[@starlawinter]

I don't do any of those things and I'm still alone. I hardly meet anyone and when I do they don't make the cut

[@kazao4403]

As a woman alone I found that inspiring and continue to do the work.... bless you Ivanya xx

[@karydiaz74]

Awwww this just made me giggle! So much truth 💗 "the universe will not supply unless a request has been made" wow just wow 😍

[@rhsb553]

I'm alone because I finally learned that I'm better off alone than with someone who doesn't value me. Sadly, so many women feel that "anybody" is better than "nobody". I was in that group for a long time, but I realized I'd had enough. I wouldn't put up with someone treating my best friend like crap, so why would I put up with someone treating me that way.

[@lizettemima]

Toni Spaulding YES!!!!

[@ghettoghost305]

Agreed

[@nicoletteorayn2903]

I dont get tired of listening to u Iyanla, u blew the wind outta my sails everytime. I could do this all day loooong, drawing from ur wisdom. Thank you 🙆❤

[@zikianoel9580]

Nicolette Orayn

[@MelaninMonarchy]

What an excellent R Spot. Need to listen to this a couple few times.

[@Wtf_jus_happened]

sound like me✋! most women like me just get tired of the same mess.

[@MsFitKitty]

This snatched my edges straight but very reassuring that I've grown in my thought pattern towards dating. I agree with her 100%

[@dovetales3]

MsFitKitty not the edges!! LOL I put JAM on mine LOL

[@IyanlaVanzant]

OMG! I love that your "edges" are involved. That means we are getting through! Yes!

[@courtney02161980]

😂😂😂 when she said edges straight

[@happylindsay4475]

@@IyanlaVanzant You are so very blessed,powerful, intelligent, beautiful and appreciated. Keep growing and speaking your truth. You are helping so many of us on our journey... Thank you, thank you and thank you Sister Mother Vanzant.

[@shannonfoote6223]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@misheleclipper5545]

Working this out. My biggest problem is making room for him. I am used to being alone. I am asking the Universe for mine 😉. Giving myself the best I've got!

[@fah232]

I really enjoy being alone, I have a issue with sharing my space with someone ALL the time.

[@44Stephieb]

Whew so many reasons I was glad when you came with suggestion at the end. I am doing the work and know my complement with appear at the divinely right time!

[@shermoniciaburton1731]

Amazing!! Amazing!! God knows what to send at the right time!!

[@Renrens-LionessofJudah]

Shermonicia Burton I agree with you 100percent.

[@naturallydope6971]

What a message! I am 38yrs never been married. I am getting to the point of being OK by myself.

[@capricorns1st]

T Over The most peaceful feeling ❤️

[@brandypeay5350]

T Over yes me too didn’t think that anyone would say this. It’s ok to be alone doesn’t mean that your lonely.

[@brandypeay5350]

capricorns1st yes very peaceful esp when you are ok with being alone 100%

[@KB0808]

Wow. As always Ms. Iyanla brings so much wisdom, light, and truth and in a way that is clear, heartfelt, and just simply touchable. I can feel her words inside me breaking stuff up lol in a good way. After being married for 20 years and experiencing betrayal and a horrible divorce, the scariest part to rebuilding my new life has been men. Honestly, they simply scare me. I'm not afraid of men, I feel strong and confident as a single woman again, but I definitely have trust issues and as much as I "know" good men exist, I feel unable to connect with the right man for me. I will apply the tools you shared Ms. Iyanla...working on being healed and whole because I do desire a loving partner who desires me too. Thank you

[@Renrens-LionessofJudah]

God bless you woman of wisdom.

[@karenhiggins5237]

what manner of woman is this, I could listen to Iyamla all day. Thank you for your words of wisdom. God Bless you.

[@vmcptvmcpt9669]

I am officially scared of engaging with another man, need to change my thinking however I think I gave up.

[@avalonmist254]

I've been dating for 10 years. I know there is a partner for me I haven't met him yet. I'm 60 and love men. Personally I prefer honest, friendly, people that want a relationship vs cheaters , liars, and beaters of any kind. I feel these are healthy characteristics.

[@701kimmie]

You look beautiful!! You are positively glowing!!! Please bottle and sell!! God Bless You!!

[@Niemanntv]

Love it. What do you do when you think you've found that great relationship only to find out he was lying? It's very confusing for my emotions and judgement.

[@Thatzmysh1t]

Hopefully she'll answer but I just want to say don't be too hard on yourself. It happens to the best us. Some men are so hurt that they only know how to hurt others. I wish you all the best..

[@Niemanntv]

Carolyn Jones thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it. Support in numbers. 😊

[@KWells-gq1ol]

This is SOOOO good 😊 I'm sharing this with all of my girlfriends 💅🏾

[@Solemei2010]

Thank you Iyanla! I will make application of this valuable information in my life. I choose to do "the work" in my current situation as well as throughout my life on a daily basis.

[@cocoadiva33]

I wholeheartedly received this message. I can relate to alot of this and because of that I have put up a shell for years that has now pretty much become a part of who I am and now I find it difficult to put let this shell go because it has become a security blanket of sorts. Sometimes I wonder if its even worth it because the men I meet are so not worth the effort. But I have realized that I have some serious soul searching to do within myself If I truly want to consider being vulnerable(that word alone makes me cringe) to looking for love.

[@sasjaparson8090]

So true, it is a comforting shield

[@Caprivlogs]

she should do a video on why people make babies and get married? its so that they won't be alone.

[@arydelossantos6762]

thank you sooo much miss Iyanla I'm going to have this on replay until I learn my lesson and practice loving myself enjoy myself and realize what it is that I want in a relationship

[@boundsgarneff5157]

i was waiting for ur videos 🙌🙌🙌 thank u

[@bernitapennick4685]

I've been alone for 57 years and still alone don't know why just existing alone

[@kenyajohnson542]

Sadden me because I never wanted to be alone it just fell in my lap. I always wanted someone to love me too. I am human and still have interest in men.

[@texashottie23]

Mother.... god continue 2 bless her

[@Naturalsoaprecipes]

WHAT AN AMAZING VIDEO. my husband is leaving me after 24 years. I don't even want to think about allowing another man into my life. I'm excited to find out the suppressed "me" and find my life's purpose. Yes there will be lonely nights but i will fill those voids other ways. Been hurt too much x

[@variennecloete3962]

Wow great vid. There is someone out there for me !!! I gave up on love such a long time ago but this has certainly sparked me to believe I deserve a good man.thank you

[@StartheCreoleQueen]

Many valuable points made I appreciate this video. 5'6 and 180, had me cracking up I love your personality

[@Esi153]

First of all Iyanla is looking radiant and gorgeous. Secondly, I 100% agree that it's about the beliefs we hold. It's taken a while but I know that I'm ready.

[@annsmith7207]

I am happy with my life and if a man appears and can add and enhance it that's great but not mandatory. I am enough, I have enough and I do enough with or without someone in my life. I am not desperate and am a whole, free human being enjoying what I have. I am blessed ✨👏✨🌞✨👏✨🌞

[@g.bullard3254]

I love this woman! Iyanla never ceases to give me hope - in myself - in the Universe - and in the process of the growth that sets before me. I will do my work. Thank you so very much Iyanla, God bless you.

[@ceiamyatt157]

An they don't want to work together to fix the issues they may be going through i can say yes Ceia Myliaah Myatt is going through it herself

[@TheMsbubblez21]

I was married to a military man for 21 1/2 years. Have three children, one granddaughter. Divorced in 2006 and still single. I wondered if it was something I did to still be single, haven't been on a date since 2010 and the guys were cheap, not honest and not wanting a relationship. God only knows who He has for me, He is preparing him for me and maybe waiting on me to let go.

[@LauraRyan2007]

Amazing as usual Miss Iyanla 🙂 I am definitely afraid of getting hurt again. I've forgiven my past, but I am afraid of it showing up again. I haven't figured out the whole lesson of why I'm alone & at different times, I actually wasn't alone. I felt alone & abandoned by my mom, but I totally get now that she had her own stuff. I'm not sure that she's finished with her work. Pray for her 🙂 As for me, I need to figure out why I'm attracted to men who are already taken. I guess it's my fear. If they're already taken & I delude myself to say we're just friends, they can't hurt me. But it does hurt. There's a man I wanna be with right now, but I can't. I guess my work is to continue to be vulnerable & see what happens in my life.

[@dovetales3]

LauraBeth1981 Set yourself free from your fears!! Face your fears so you can Pass the Test. Men won't change. You do the changing!! Start by going back through allll of Miss Iyanla's videos. YOU GOT THIS! Take care of you and God Bless :)

[@LauraRyan2007]

I know what you're saying, but men do change if they feel they need to. Thanks for the encouragement. 🙂

[@MsBeyourbest]

LauraBeth1981 As a Psychologist I advise my clients who have similar struggles to dig deep and try to identity that core wound (with the help of therapy of possible). Usually women who attract "taken men" learned that behavior during their childhood...they learned that they weren't "interesting enough" to demand or keep the attention of a man...people ignored them, abandoned them, disappointed them and made them feel as if they're "too much." Try to identify what it is for you so that you can heal. Praying for you 🙏🏾

[@LauraRyan2007]

I already know it's because of my physical disability. I can't control it or make it go away & it's a turnoff for most able-bodied men I'm attracted to.

[@sekayiperkins7448]

YOu are what you think about yourself. Plenty of disbled people have love you are not the first or last.

[@tonyahenry4167]

Where is he dammit

[@KamalasNotLikeUs]

Tonya Henry Girlfriend, you need to rewind the video.

[@luwakw01]

😂😂

[@loveystar78cloud46]

Nothing but pure truth. More women need to hear good solid advice like this. Thank you for you wisdom, Iyanla.

[@andreawindrim8235]

Thank you for all your wisdom. You look so beautiful and with such vitality. Blessings.

[@ntokozojiyane3415]

Wow. This is so soothing, so healing. I really needed to hear that. It's truth told in love. God bless you Mam. Your God sent.

[@wiamkaoaune2294]

M'y age is 25 year old. And im Alone since Many years ago. I Feel like its m'y choice more than résult of m'y expérience

[@sharijimmy3675]

Dear Iyanla I hope you read it: You are blessing for me! Thank you! I learn a lot from you! I LOVE YOUUUU

[@eh6333]

Let go of the False Evidence Appearing Real!! (FEAR) I know its a line from a will smith movie (after earth) but it kinda changed my life!!

[@kamikazemind327]

ebony baltimore the alternative facts! lol

[@evelynj.amponsah8417]

Amen i receive it. Thxs for the uplifting message. Your a Gem.

[@chinouyamale]

im alone because im invisible to the type of men im attracted to.

[@tsholofelomeje7022]

Before listening to this I was a mess.. Thank you so much this video brought me to my senses....

[@nikshante3598]

The universe will not produce a supply until the demand is made!! So nice I had to run it back twice. I legit hollered!!!❤️❤️🙌🏽🙌🏽 Thank you Mother Iyanla your irreplaceable!

[@ottrovgeisha2150]

Bravo Miss Iyanla! You have the gift of logic in psychology, which WAY much more than SO many "experts" online claim to have. Deep compliments from a humble heart!

[@SeductiveLady11]

1st want to say Thank you! I watch you on Tv and here .I felt and feel so lonely for the last 15 years I focus on my children and now I'm in an empty nest as they call it and no one to continue my life with .Its so many people don't know I exist in this world really. I do have a little facal problem so I do stay in a lot because of me trying a relationship 7 years ago for 1 year. He got abusive 1 time, left and told him don't he ever contact me again But it left me needing cosmetic surgery but I'm really tired of being alone and want a true mate

[@lionesslamb7049]

"Learn from the experience over what u did not what he did" 🙇🏽‍♀️.

[@karziflora]

Love you Iyanla, thanks for these valuable lessons, God Bless!

[@lordbaconabdi8624]

Love your hair style . Looking cool

[@raincruz5489]

wow thank you so much Ms Iyanla, I love the way you put things into perspective with an eloquent and profound turn of a phrase.. and always with compassion. I will be looking at what stories I tell myself. with much gratitude and love💜

[@dovetales3]

YES SHE LOVES US JUST THIS MUCH!!! LOVE YOU RIGHT BACK MS IYANLA!

[@khendraKriley]

Thank you for that Ms. Iyanla. I have been a long time fan of you and love the work you do. To no surprise this was much needed and so profound please continue to enrich us with your wisdom.

[@deidremunn6367]

Ms. Iyanla is blessing so many of all walks of life. I thank God for her- I look forward to hearing from her. Thank you for the much-needed help. I'm doing the work! Not seeking perfection but working to be better.

[@edric01prim77]

amazing! you're my spiritual mother.

[@ceiamyatt157]

Because they depend on a men

[@shawnreyb]

What is that clicking sound?

[@chukabucka]

The universe would not supply until the demand has been made. Thank you.

[@Johnitacc]

This is so on point for me.

[@latoyadobson4560]

She is so dope n raw!

[@dorcasc.1479]

After having been alone for over 10 years, I've almost become numb to the idea of having a Sacred Love Partnership; until very recently, I never felt the need for company; having been fiercely independent all of my life, I kind of rejected the idea of needing or wanting companionship, until I saw, reflected in someone, in a public space, all of the qualities within a man, that I kept hidden in the back of my mind, always believing that ideal was unattainable or that I was unworthy of it. Now, I see reflected in this beautiful, public individual & sacred soul, all of the possibilities of this "dream companion", becoming a reality within my own life, after I roll up my sleeves, cultivate the earth beneath my own feet and allow the universe to complete the final details of this individual that I am calling into my life, as of today... I see every detail of him, from the color of his eyes, to his height, haircolor & MOST importantly, the content of his character & the thought of calling that spirit into my space, is powerful and brings me great joy...Thank you my Soul Teacher, Iyanla. I have had a vision board that I will now put to use as I call my Sacred Partnership into being, while I chisel , form and dust off the pieces of myself I want to call forth & into being, so that I can reflect the qualities of this individual, within me, and see them reflected within him, as well....I say now, AMEN. It is done...☄☄🌟☄💖

[@ceiamyatt157]

Good Morning

[@tonyaSINGSjones]

Thank you Iyanla! I really needed to hear this!

[@teeamar]

thnk you sista Iyanls love ur words of wisdom everything u said was right in time #thetruth I will listen to this vedio again later & jot down some notes theres a powerful message in the info u share I identify with alot of wht was said but I have to do my work my husband is out there somewhere & I have to get my right, let go of pass hurt from pass relationship so I can attract him. not ment to b alone

[@lashandraarmour7240]

This made me cry, especially when she said the love you seek is seeking you touched my heart, I have been single for some time now, and I needed to hear this at this moment of my life, I am doing my self work and will continue. Thank you beloved for all you do. Love you Iyanla

[@cuteintellect3691]

im learning self reflection is a powerful action.

[@mariaaastarr3032]

this was TRULY a beautiful segment. everything she said is the truth...I enjoyed every word she spoke. thank you. Lyanla.👍💝

[@Supermarketqueen]

Wow! That was amazing, thank you Iyanla ❤️

[@shirleysimon2548]

DECISIONS I MADE WAS A GUN IN MY face. My child being sexual abuse. 😢 I'm 68YRS. 29DIVORCE

[@lioncococ8366]

I am so doing my homework!! thank you for following ur passion Ms. Iyanla. I had benefit and learned so much as I go true my journey. I am thankful and grateful to The Creator for you in my life. May Yah keep you n bless u!

[@ladileelee1]

Yess Auntie Iylana! You fix my life one video at a time! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and empowerment with us! I hope to meet you some day! God Bless.

[@CulturalDiversityisNOTacrime]

I love 💕 you Mrs Iyanla . Has anyone told you how awesome you are today? You are beautiful in and out, you are awesome ❤

[@sosioh]

Your words sowed a good seed and touched a very broken part of me that needed healing and mending. Thank you for using your wonderful gifts to help woman like myself.

[@petercord4300]

thank you miss iyanla for always inspiring and allowing us inside a beautiful spiritual expierience.

[@natashaaveda8954]

I made the brave wholehearted decision to enjoy my single season, I’ve chosen radical acceptance that my relationship with myself requires me to focus on myself and cherish myself with the primary goal of embracing the relationship I have with me, I’ve chosen to be comfortable in my own skin❤️🙏

[@sulalubin]

I thank you for this message. I receive it. I welcome the healing and the necessary work I must do.

[@FreshAnointingDeliverance_]

I went from Leave it to Beaver wife to Seli on Color Purple wife and now I'm Martici from the Addams family wife

[@lebogoslebogo1663]

I love this beautiful amazing woman ...😊🇿🇦

[@veex48]

I love you, Iyanla. Thank you so much for the work you do.

[@sheree1363]

Yes ma’am that’s me. The woman who is tired (exhausted) of the continued disappointment. I’m taking a minute to focus on me.

[@chrisfowler9306]

Who he is is who he is don’t try to change that- profound in its simplicity This is the key to freedom for women- accept him or move on-it is not you- it just is- this lesson will free you from beating yourself up. The longer you agonize over what you cannot change the longer you will not be able to accept the love that is waiting for you.

[@shupinyaneng100]

thank you miss iyanla for the r spot.... they help me get by... dont stop...

[@lesabutler8645]

It's great to be alone, especially when you've never been nor had to be. Singleness is not the same as alone. It's awesome and there is a time for everything under the Sun. 😉

[@soulsearchermusicsavedmyli3860]

hello Iyanla vanzant i am 21 and from Western Australia and iam a survivor of domestic violence and assisted sudice and now iam a depression fighter and a singer songwriter this is my new song My Heart Needs To Know If It's Gonna be alone or is it gonna find a safe home to rest forever First verse i can't Remember the date it started but trust and my heart learnt very early on they are very fragile. but also needed for another soul to enter.my brick walls woah but every slice of what i falsely named love that life brought into my window have somehow flew out of that window just as fast as it came woah my heart needs to know if it's gonna be alone or is it gonna find a safe home to rest forever woah 2nd verse there were a few gems that i thought i could treasure in my heart with the sunrise after sunrise woah but in the end they were sunsets hiding behind the sunrise then for a longtime i throw away the idea of my happy imagination of the life i wanted yeah my heart needs to know if it's gonna be alone or is it gonna find a safe home to rest forever woah. i use humour and a hard exterior to disguise one of my in the bottom of my souls deepest fears that have come with the heaviest weight woah when my heart stops keeping me alive woah that it would finish without sharing it contents with another soul woah my heart needs to know if it's gonna be alone or is it gonna find a safe home to rest forever woah chrous. i get told iam beautiful by the souls that had their heart touch mine ooh but it's just my luck they would always be a reason that would turn their backs my heart needs to know if it's gonna be alone or is it gonna find a safe home to rest forever woah 3rd verse there is that diamond that the very second God brough our universes together i knew deep down in my soul that you were gonna be a person it would turn into my dreaded nightmare if our bodies and minds could combine in unity but then we got a sweet short trial and then i was caught up in that before i could save it turned cold woah but the memories are Sacred to me forever my heart needs to know if it's gonna be alone or is it gonna find a safe home to rest forever woah 4th verse i still have room for one of my past flames of my heart woah sometimes i just wanna be ready to say i have accepted that the chance of us recombination has flown away and to honestly mean it and for you to believe me yeah but at the end of the day in your eyes iam a completely open book and there is nothing that i can hide from you your like a mirror you see right through me at moments i wish i could close up but you know now more then ever that forever and a day the magic key to my heart is in your heart ooh my heart needs to know if it's gonna be alone or is it gonna find a safe home to rest forever woah woah how long is it gonna be take to find this answer yeah chrousx2

[@machunga78]

Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful!

[@jbson33]

One thing I hate any and all reality TV shows and number two it is not my job to protect you you need to protect your self I am not your mother or fatherhave we forgotten about I am woman hear me roar Helen Reddy saying listen to it

[@GiuliasCookbook]

I've been alone or felt that way my entire life. I have no friends and it is so hurtful. Sometimes that pain is so overbearing and maybe contagious that I can imagine why I don't have friends. I've reached out to people but it goes nowhere past " I have something more important than seeing you". What do I do?

[@GiuliasCookbook]

I have a Yorkie, while she brings me comfort sometimes a friend is needed. It would ease my pain (loneliness) knowing that someone out there cares for me enough to atleast want to see me.

[@GiuliasCookbook]

Thank you for the advice and tips. I'll see which groups I can join:)

[@IyanlaVanzant]

Check your thinking Beloved. Check what you expect because expectations equal results. If you are holding the thought anywhere in your body . . . holding the thought that you will always be alone, you will be alone. Your mind creates so check your thinking Beloved. I will be praying to you.

[@GiuliasCookbook]

Thank you Ms. Iyanla for your wisdom and courage. Time for me to start writing those positive affirmations and getting outside of my head.

[@lindav1189]

It's also the times we live in. People are busy and don't have the time or energy many times for spending quality time with friends. I have felt alone all my life. 'Divorced with one adult son and two grandbabies, but they have their own lives. I am retired now and it's difficult. so many places to go and things to do, but when you are alone, it's boring. I have family and things to do, but with nobody special to spend the time with, it seems so lonely. I pray all the time for God to help me meet someone special. I'm running out of time and hope

[@OLatreil]

Thank you!

[@floryniculescu]

Pfffff! That's powerful, iyanla, thank you 🙏

[@oluwayemisiakaaka3163]

I want to know how the style of your hair is made, could you put me there?