Motivational Tik Toks are not Motivating

[@AstridLys]

The idea that I owe the world constant productivity is honestly terrifying

[@wendys9500]

Because that’s what our worth is nowadays, how many big bucks we generate for the economy

[@TheVivaciousNerd]

Yeah, it ruined my relationship to art completely. I loved making art but I was never a very productive artist, it would take me weeks or months, sometimes years, to finish a piece. It made me feel so shitty and guilty that I stopped altogether

[@KingOfGaymes]

You absolutely do not, you can’t be productive at all if you never take a break 😭 As someone with ADHD who mentally and physically just can’t do certain tasks sometimes it’s hard not feel like I’m a failure but we gotta remind ourselves that our best is good enough and we shouldn’t work ourselves to death.. I just wish work culture realized that too.

[@adamperryofficial]

It's also B.S

[@ember9361]

Americans can be really extremists with how far the work culture there goes... Like grocery store workers have to stand all day? I feel so bad how ppl can get screwed over by their job there :[ If a job requires you to stand still for over half your shift, you're entitled to a(n ergonomic) seat. And "quiet quitting". Barf.

[@Zarmdthecoolest]

Jacob wearing a beanie that makes his head look like a nipple while watching these guys trying to be serious is honestly such a big power move

[@Sif_theGreatGreyWolf]

Lmfao 🤣

[@zoziano]

I agree, the hat reminds me of a baby bottle

[@tabinkum]

why would u make me think of this now....😭😭

[@frozenyogurrtt420]

LMAOAOAO

[@mariapaz6379]

Now i cant unsee it, thanks👍

[@casualharpy]

Not being able to apologise is one of the biggest red flags there is 🤡

[@LordOfElysium]

Im really bad at apologizing about something I feel like I remember or am right about Because i was gaslit a lot growing up and just break down and cry instead.. 😅 But if I hurt someone then hell ya I’ll apologize

[@olderalt.4066]

I don't apologize sometimes because I'm too awkward and its embarrassing to do that 💀

[@painter-midge]

I would say *refusing* to apologize or *never seeing a reason* to apologize is the red flag lol

[@elisabethkonig4267]

@@painter-midge To sum it even further up: Having low emotional intelligence and not at least attempting to work on it on it is a red flag.

[@sophitiaofhyrule]

Fr. I dated a guy who refused to admit he was ever wrong so I had to apologize for shit HE started.

[@Olivia.Boyd.]

Who’s gonna tell this guy Maslow’s hierarchy of needs doesn’t start with sexual satisfaction

[@efnfen]

it starts with the grind

[@desertels5119]

@@efnfen *slow claps*

[@manboy4720]

it starts with funny animal videos, obviously. that's the baseline of all human needs.

[@faun7179]

maslow’s hierarchy is also wrong regardless :p it was misinterpreted / copied from the Blackfeet Hierarchy of Needs

[@beep3242]

@faun7179 Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't the main injustice/falsity surrounding Maslow's hierarchy the lack of credit given to its (very heavily copied, yes) inspiration? That doesn't inherently invalidate the hierarchy. It just means there is more to see and tell that has historically been erased. It seems as though the Blackfoot Hierarchy is based upon the ways people become of use to their community, while Maslow's is focused on the steps toward self-actualization rather than what comes after it. The Blackfoot Hierarchy was the basis of a very successful society whereas Maslow's is more of just a theory, but that doesn't make it *wrong*, does it?

[@labellelace]

For a long time, I just “sucked it up” and worked myself to the bone to try to be “the best”. And you know what that lead to? Me burning out, becoming suicidal, and developing chronic fatigue. If I would have just paced myself, I probably wouldn’t be as horribly debilitated as I am now, and in the long run, would have achieved more. I ignored and suppressed my depression until I literally couldn’t anymore, and had to seek help so I wouldn’t attempt. I worked myself to death and honestly don’t have much to show for it, other than that I’ve had to spend the past couple years trying to mentally and physically recover. His views are wildly ableist, he really is the kind of person to tell you to just get over your depression or chronic illness lol

[@biohazardg1rl]

Right these kinds of guys just expect everyone to be as mentally and physically able as them and are so tone deaf to say to people who struggle with day-to-day life, “just get up and do it”, as if it’s that easy and not physically and psychologically taxing at all.

[@mazeltovcocktail2.0]

Someone once said "no one on their deathbed ever said "I should have spent more time at work" and it is so damn true.

[@msd7544]

I have adhd, and I struggle with the part of myself that still 100% believes all that stuff. Therapy has allowed me to start deconstructing it, but part of me still believes I’m undeserving of self love as long as I don’t have the self control to do everything I set my mind to. It also leads me to push people away or refuse help because of the same feeling of being undeserving. It’s all very frustrating, and tbh I don’t know how I feel sharing all that, but reading you guys’ comments made me feel less alone, so I thought I’d share too!

[@angelc3445]

Same Bruh

[@artifalse]

@@msd7544 it was really brave to share that and it's absolutely a sad reality. I absolutely wish for your struggle to ease up at least a little soon /g

[@abigaila.0917]

Me, a disabled person with a musculoskeletal disease that leaves me immobile for periods of time: You’re right Matt! I should just “go get a job!” That’s so easy! You’ve cured me

[@catboymikey]

Cerebral palsy?? Chronic pain?? Not anymore thanks to Matt!!/s Jesus

[@lauraslesbiann]

yeah ikr i should’ve totally been on the grind while dying of pancreatitis

[@henotic.essence]

I'm one step away from being in a wheelchair, but yes! I should just grind and get my bag up! Cured 100%

[@auntiem0thman]

Matt cured my scoliosis and the rod on my spine disappeared, now I can go get that bag 🙏🏻

[@blue-dabad33]

"what do you mean you have a condition beyond your control? just get up and walk harder" - Matt, probably

[@dinahmyte3749]

Also, as an ace person: the fact that so many people blame their "biology" for them being a creep and violent is so weird. How come men are allowed to do that but then also blame women for having PMS or blaming disabled people for not trying hard enough or blaming depressed people for being tired and depressed?

[@malevolentsnow9867]

Because blaming their biology for being a creep isn’t a valid excuse

[@GhoulishGrime]

mental gymnastics tends to be a well loved sports with those kind of ppl

[@ZodiacBoi42]

As someone with depression that’s all I’ve ever heard from people, it’s exhausting because I know I’ve done everything I can but then some asshole comes along and calls me lazy

[@DesignDude556]

I think these types of motivational videos are stupid, but they have served one purpose for me personally. I struggle a lot with anxiety and perfectionism, so my brain often tells me things like “if you just worked harder then you would be better.” Many times I’ve believed those messages, but these videos bring them into reality and help me realize how dumb that type of “motivation” can be. Hope everyone has a good night/day :)

[@twiggledowntown3564]

Don't feel bad. Just keep trucking. I hope this helps.

[@jifij89]

yeah people like this also make me hate myself less cause like…at least i’m not insulting people via my phone camera on tiktok

[@fugitive_]

Im the same way and started to feel like this too during the video thinking huh ive told myself some stuff like this. we dont have to be perfect 😌 and i hope u r having a good day/night too

[@TenderNoodle]

It kind of helps me personally because it makes me realize how stupid and inhumane that kind of mindset and philosophy is. So next time I have those thoughts I imagine an alpha podcaster bro is the one saying it to me lol

[@sharonoddlyenough]

The comments on this type of videos help me stay grounded and laugh at them

[@biancamarinelli]

the way i logged onto youtube to put a video on to fall asleep to and was immediately greeted with this video 9 seconds after it was posted

[@DannySmithson]

I am fully convinced we're all living the same life.

[@lasrie9689]

wow I found it posted at 9 mins ago

[@angelbabe555]

why are we literally twins rn

[@Goober6873]

Real

[@incendiarymoth]

Wtf me too (longer than 9 seconds tho)

[@rai1578]

Ahh yes, the good old "Just do it!", "Just go get a job!", "Just Work Harder!". I'm sure someone telling me that will magically make my disabilities go away right? Because that's obviously how life works.

[@msd7544]

And yet that’s literally how I’ve been trying to deal with my adhd lately lol. Thank for making me realise that.

[@ThatElfTorunn]

As someone with autism adhd and a chronic severe stomach problem, I have heard this so often that it makes me sick. Society gives no grace to those of us who aren't built like the majority. Just wanna say you're both perfect as you are.

[@wigglewaggle3606]

your disability won’t go away, that’s the whole point, make the best out of what you have because it will never be easier…if you want to do something, there will never be less things stopping you from doing it

[@ThatElfTorunn]

@@wigglewaggle3606 I think the point is more that there are things people like this claim you are essentially worthless without which, for some of us ARE impossible to achieve. It's not about it being harder it's about it literally not being possible. It's different for everyone and that is what needs to be taken into account.

[@thinecuprunnethoverwithblood]

It's genuinely insane to me that people don't realize how bad this mindset is in the long-run and for people with any kind of disability. This is the exact mindset that made my dad refuse to allow me to take medication or use a mobility aide growing up (which ended up causing permanent physical damage to my entire body from constant strain and exhaustion). He would always say "Just push yourself, the real world isn't gonna let you slack off" as a way to justify forcing me to walk when I was in extreme pain and too weak to even eat. It took me almost dying for him to lighten up a little, but he still says these things often... Over all, it's just not healthy to view anyone or anything this way, especially if someone is struggling.

[@jifij89]

i’m physically disabled and very severely mentally ill. after only a year of therapy i forced myself back into work after 7 years…and it caused a total relapse in my mental health that nearly killed me. this constant messaging of ‘you must be productive’ just doesn’t work for people like me. i’m gunna focus on getting myself well enough to leave my home before i even try anything else, f these people

[@uwululu]

👏🏼💕

[@tylajo.moonflower]

I’m glad you’re going easy on your self. I think even for non disabled people this mindset is unrealistic. Expecting people to just be productive and never relaxing with a TV and a snack will lead to burnout and depression. Having hobbies is very important to our health. I could go to the gym but I rather use that time to do stuff I actually enjoy. I do enough physical exercise at my job.

[@sukai121]

Jacob basically dressed as a baby bottle and ripping this mAnLy MaN to shreds gives me so much joy

[@nittayoshifumi8252]

i cannot unsee this

[@squeezydoot]

I'm 2 weeks sober today and got me one of them nugs not drugs signs on my sobriety date. It's for sure the magic of the nuggets being the sole reason I'm sober today

[@cerealparty]

Hell yeah! Congrats!

[@biohazardg1rl]

That’s fantastic! Congrats!

[@keppakappa5033]

congratulations bud that's awesome news!

[@cinnabard955]

Hell yeah that’s awesome

[@tschulietta219]

Well done! Wish you all the best

[@brinncognito]

The core tenets of motivational videos are ableism and fatphobia.

[@MsTinkerbelle87]

Everyone should be fatphobic!

[@rebeccat7912]

@@MsTinkerbelle87 okay, Zoey. Go touch grass.

[@SLYCoopaEatsChicken]

@@MsTinkerbelle87 everyone should hate people named Zoey!

[@wow-xt1ng]

@@rebeccat7912 fat phobia is not real.

[@lettuceforlife4827]

@@wow-xt1ng actually you could have a point but classism and ablism is :) people who are considered “fat” are majorly in a lower income bracket. It is much less expensive to buy a full meal from McDonald’s than to go out and buy a full meal at the grocery store or from a higher end restaurant. Also some of it is literally genetic some people gain weight do to medical conditions or from taking certain medications such as antidepressants and so so much more. It is also incredibly hard to go work out on your day off in a 9 to 5 office job or even as a server at a restaurant. Weight is a touchy subject because we have a system built to shame people who are overweight but we don’t want to examine the whys. Also Shaming people who are over weight doesn’t motivate them to “stop being overweight” it’s just going to make them feel more like shit.

[@evelynjenkins4456]

"Be mid like me!" was honestly the most inspiring thing I've heard all year (I'm 100 percent serious, Thanks for the reassurance Jacob)

[@Mara.morphosis]

Same!! I’ve been dealing with a lot for the past couple of years and I constantly feel like breaking down into tears every single day, but Jacob definitely made me feel better. It’s ok to be average!! I’d rather be average and happy, than this “household name” that’s miserable. Imposter syndrome isn’t fun and I know from experience😭😭

[@Tiredgreenpotato]

I used to get bullied for my mom being overweight because she couldn’t do a lot of stuff like the other parents could do, like play kickball at field days. This video is like watching what those people grew up to be.

[@purrgundy]

"So what do you do for a living? - I make people hate themselves until they pay me to make them feel like failures because they can't live up to my own idealised standards of an old-fashioned society that never functioned in the first place! Boy, do I love my life ❤️"

[@jifij89]

‘if you took the things you’re bad at and got good at them’ ah yes, this is how life works for sure!

[@g2.a6]

Just xp farm and put some skill points in those traits, easy peasy. 👍

[@tvtakeoff]

If it were that easy everyone would be good at everything 🤣 I’ve learned I don’t need to be great or even good at everything. I can be bad at something and still enjoy it

[@tarettime9392]

“Turn every facet of your life up a notch” does that include relaxation? Cause I need that

[@xxMelaniexx]

Motivation is by seeing people live life in a way that inspires you. At least for me. I don't need 20 year olds reading internet quotes to me. People have challenges and hardship in life and seeing them handle it with grace is inspiring

[@murrenkelly3866]

Totally agree. In my workout journey, I felt disheartened by workout content that gave the impression of perfect progress and a “just do it” route to fitness. I felt inspired and motivated by workout content that felt more honest about the need for rest days and the importance of form and safety over impressive gains. I got so much anxiety feeling like I had to workout out every single day and constantly push my limits, and I wasn’t even getting more fit because I didn’t have balance. It took people in my life reminding me to take breaks and set boundaries for myself to really get healthy.

[@divitiae]

They are just so out of touch. Why should I listen to some random, young influencer or be motivated by them? It's all a scam. People who you should actually be motivated or inspired by are too busy doing their thing to care about what other people are doing

[@murrenkelly3866]

@@divitiae It’s a classic example of show-don’t-tell

[@LeylaKaratas]

I'm not able to work (or even leave my house) due to mental and physical health issues. I may not currently live the life I want, but I'm still a million times happier being at home all day, watching my tv shows and reading manga than I was slaving away for hours upon hours, month after month until I was completely burned out. Also, this whole bs "the harder you work, the richer and happier you'll be" pisses me off. It implies that people who financially struggle have only themselves to blame.

[@rebeccat7912]

Why of course you’re all to blame for your financial struggle! Billionaires worked SO much harder than the rest of the working class to get that cash. Just work harder! It makes me so angry to hear people say that shit.

[@LeylaKaratas]

@@rebeccat7912 ah yes, so true! Just take a look at my favorite billionaire: Elon Musk. Such a smart, talented, hardworking, beautiful man. He worked for his billions. Broke haters will say he profited from his daddy's emerald mine money, but little do they know he actually mined the emeralds all by himself!!111! So hardworking! Be more like Elon! Meritocracy is totally real and not a lie. - literally every Elon fanboy I know how you feel. Sht like that infuriates me so much.

[@ItsPartlySunny]

Yeah I recently got diagnosed with Chrons disease and it's been really crippling for me and I had to quit my job because I couldn't get time off. It sucked working for minimum wage and being put through hell and the work hard = rich and happy is fucking stupid

[@tschulietta219]

Thank you, Jacob, for standing up for being "mid". It's something I as a teacher sometimes struggle with esp. with inclusive pedagogy. There might be students whose potential is not very high, and that is totally fine. How is telling them constantly to be better, try harder and work more gonna help? On the contrary, it might destroy what's left of their self esteem. Also, I think it dangerous to assume, the best for all people would be to be CEO or famous or something. No society can live off only leaders and entertainers. We need workers, we need people who do a simple day job and are fulfilled by that.

[@chiefofthesky]

this sounds trite but it’s sincere: thank you for being a teacher who cares about things like inclusive pedagogy. thank you for being a teacher in general. the myth of living in a meritocracy causes just about everyone to forget that being “average” is called that for a reason. it’s nothing to be ashamed of, because it’s completely normal. in fact some people might say it’s better to be a worker instead of a big shot CEO (😏🚩🛠🤫)

[@tschulietta219]

@@chiefofthesky thank you for the kind words. Yes, I totally agree. And I would argue it s better to do a social job/task, whether paid or not (like parent, caretaker or any voluntary work), than to be famous for whatever. :)

[@eliastalks7411]

@@tschulietta219 it's definitely true that people who are carers, shop workers etc probably provide more net benefit to society than most (all?) celebrities/entertainers. and fame or notoriety comes with a huge amount of luck and privilege required, and even then it is psychologically damaging.

[@tschulietta219]

@@eliastalks7411 I agree. Don't get me wrong: I enjoy the outcomes of the entertainment industry probably on a daily basis. It just should not be the aim for everybody to become famous and you should not feel any less valuable If you are not well known and If you have a simple, not highly prestigous job.

[@lazilylapis676]

I keep saying the same thing! Whenever I tell people I'm satisfied for what I'm doing as my job, they ask where I can go from there. I have to remind them that if everyone did that they would run out of people needed for this job, and I'd rather be content then striving higher right now. Happiness should be the goal.

[@Wyster]

I take a huge issue with him saying “if someone falls ill in your family and you could have been in a position to help them with their medical bills… blah blah blah… your fault”. I had this exact scenario happen to me. I became very sick summer of 2021 and was in and out of the hospital. I nearly died, had to relearn to walk, and am now disabled. You know, the thing that effects me the most is feeling like a burden on my family. One of my brothers was in a position to pay for my insurance this last year (because I was uninsured during all of this), and that was a godsend. But my other siblings weren’t in a position to help like that. And I hate the idea that they might see this guy’s videos and think they’ve failed somehow. Hopefully it’s obvious to everyone reading this, but in case it isn’t, please know that you are not responsible for anyone but yourself and your spouse/children. If my story happens in your family and you can’t help financially, that is not a failure on your part. And I have it on good authority that most people in my shoes would hate nothing more than to be a burden. Just checking in with them and asking how they’re doing is enough.

[@KxmpleteKxllapse]

Ya this dude just making ppl feel sad and feel like shit lmao

[@KxmpleteKxllapse]

Glad ur okay after that situation:( how are u doing now?

[@Wyster]

@@KxmpleteKxllapse Thank you. 😊 I’m doing a lot better! It’s a constant ebb and flow, but I’m getting on.

[@hyobro8392]

I also hate how these videos always assume you're Not giving your all. Some of us have to in order to survive, and we can't do even more than that with some more "motivation".

[@bloodyneptune]

And the reason they assume you're not giving it your all is because you're on social media and seeing their video. Which _they_ needed to go on social media to post. Unless giving it my all means making videos with what I'm saying flashing as text as I say it.

[@invisiblejay]

"If you spend just one year giving it your absolute all, how much would your life change?" I dont have anymore to give man I'm already spent and I just started

[@c1nnamodoll]

i'm so scared of men like these honestly. the thought of one of them seeing me alone in my room, isolated due to disability and mental illness, i feel like they'd become _violently_ angry at how "pathetic" they think i am lmfao 💀

[@catboymikey]

Lmfao fr it's honestly terrifying like bro why do you care about me? Im just a little guy focus on yourself broski jesus

[@abderians]

Literally I’m fat and disabled and mentally ill and these are the scariest fuckers on the planet. Like I feel like I can Feel them staring at me in public and texting their Grindset Groupchats using me as “inspiration” to continue working themselves to death and being dickheads

[@aslinn346]

This kind of "motivational" content is always just so ableist at its core. Like yeah, this guy clearly also uses fatphobic talking points, but at its core it's saying that all of us should and can be constantly working. Which is obviously not true, people who are neurodivergent, or have chronic illnesses or disabilities often have different levels of energy/motivation. Being sick or in pain or depressed really zaps your energy and strength and makes it hard to do even small tasks. Not only that, but it is not healthy for anyone to constantly be working; humans require rest. We also require stimulation and enjoyment to have fulfilled lives, and a life-work balance that seriously needs to be tipped back towards life because people are already overworked, underpaid and burnout. Dudes like this probably haven't ever struggle to feed themselves, been at risk of not having shelter or even really dealt with the crushing exhaustion that can makes it hard to get out of bed. He can get whip out a microphone and makes some asinine tiktok video shaming people and call that "grinding" or "working hard", and that is a very privileged place to be in.

[@tschulietta219]

Yes!!! As I was watching I am lying in bed because of medical conditions due to pregnany. I have been on sick leave for nearly 3 months and will not go back to work until the birth (in my country, I can go on mother's leave already). When he talked about lying around, watching TV and eating being bad, I had to laugh, as this is exactly ALL I can do at this time and is also what my doctor has advised for the health of my Baby. So nope. Working your ass off is NOT always the best for Other people around you.

[@jhoso7126]

I constantly blame myself for having a shit focus because of adhd and people like this probably dont believe in neurodivergency. And also shame people for being poor whilst never have struggled with it themselves. They dont know how damn privilliged they are

[@judeedee5402]

Yes! So well written! EVERYBODY needs work-life balance. From the very beginning of our lives we are conditioned into thinking that our worth=our career. That if you don't work 12h shifts everyday including weekends "you're not working hard and you are lazy". People are not machines to constantly fuel the economy until they die. We are not lazy because we don't want to dedicate our lives to making rich people richer. We just want to live normal lives.

[@Caldella]

Yep! I have an anxiety disorder, possibly ADHD, and an over dramatic immune system that likes to flare up at every virus that blows vaguely past it. I'd love to be more productive, but it becomes impossible when I spend half of my winter weekends either mentally overwhelmed or feeling too sick to function.

[@abigaila.0917]

YUP! As a physically disabled person, I find his content incredibly ableist

[@harryrobinson6195]

4:08 "imagine having two first names and..." kurtis is pissing and crying rn

[@gothicgumball]

Jacob I'm right here with you on the mid train, I'm glad someone else accepts that it's just fine

[@blackparademistress1]

Same! I call it plodding. There’s nothing wrong with being a plodder. Lots of jobs are plodding jobs and without people who wanted/liked there’s jobs there’d be a big gap in the workforce.

[@FTZPLTC]

First video: "You don't have to be perfect every day." Second video: "If you're not perfect every day all your friends will suffer and die." That first video would've been great (and quite funny) if it was the only one he ever made.

[@blehhism]

yeah honestly that first video on its own removed from everything else he makes is not bad 😭

[@blackparademistress1]

Loving the “trying my best” shirt. I definitely need that and Kurtis “be nice to me, it’s the law” merch. My mental health is not great at the moment so having some clothes that say that without explicitly saying that would be nice.

[@Happinezz_]

I think "trying my best" is Jarvis Johnson merch! He's another commentary youtuber like Kurtis and Jacob, pretty sure Kurtis has been in one of his videos.

[@Happinezz_]

Hope it gets better soon, best of luck!!

[@michael-tu7ec]

how you talk neutrally about eating and your body has helped me a lot ive been recovering from an ed for a year, and the winter is always super rough for my body image, but your comments make me feel a lot better. also, i love your style. it makes me feel a lot more comfortable expressing my self as a guy in a pretty red state. i painted my nails for the first time last night because of you! sorry ik this is a weird comment on a silly video but you’ve helped me through a lot and thank you for the nuggets

[@irishera]

i hope you’re doing well dude! i’m super proud of you for entering recovery… i’ve been in recovery for almost 2 years now, i know shits rough, but i hope it’s getting better for you

[@rosedowney12]

every time jacob uploads, my crops yield so much more. my skin is clear. my cows are happy. thank you jacob

[@catboymikey]

Yes a true godsend

[@mikey_m114]

It’s 1 AM where I am right now and I’ve got school tomorrow, so I’m gonna head to bed and watch this later when I wake up. Hope all of you lovely people are doing okay! ❤️ okie so I just got home from school and I’m ready for my nugs! thanks for all the kind replies, friends! :D

[@Crumbledpaperball]

Goodnight dude. The nugs will still be fresh by the time ya watch. I'm doing good and I hope you are too.

[@Savannah_831]

I wish i was as responsible as you are buddy, i really do ._.

[@cOttp0tt]

it’s the same time where i am and i’ve got school but i do not have your self control

[@zoombeanie]

This is the most wholesome comment ever, I hope you’re doing well too and good luck at school in the morning! The nugs will be waiting for you

[@SorasShadow1]

Saw a screencap of a reddit post a few days ago of someone talking about their friend who'd had a heart attack and died in their 30s because they did essentially what these "motivational" tiktoks are selling. Worked constantly, 5am wake-up and exercise when not at work, had no social life or down time, etc. and just *died* before age 40.

[@sovietbot6708]

Read Marx. He explained the danger of grind culture long before it was a thing.

[@hoggo3789]

Thanks to Matt, I actually feel LESS motivated than ever before!

[@oops6876]

American flag backdrops are 100% not weird red flags, at all.. They’re red, white, and blue flags

[@Patchouliprince]

It’s so heartbreaking to have your child go without something they desperately want or need and anyone who goes out of their way to say “this is your own fault” deserves to wake up with their eyes glued shut from the crusties that formed over night

[@anastasia408]

i was lowkey down with the first message cause I can see the audience that may need it....then the second video came and it quickly became a "grind every second" mentality otherwise you're worthless and nothing on this earth who doesn't have anything to give to others..... UPDATE: He sells motivational lessons in a program nevermind that tells me all i need to know💀

[@babypanda8u]

This is the kind of mindset that led to me getting severe depression after I graduated college! 😂 and I’m still working the idea that my productivity/ability to live up to my potential is not the same as my worth as a person (To be real tho, some of these videos were triggering and I almost started crying in public)

[@Mara.morphosis]

I’ve never related to a KZbin comment so much in my life. Like, I deal with the same thing and I’m a junior in high school. I’ve spent my entire academic career overworking myself, skipping meals to finish work, getting 1-4 hours of sleep so that I can finish work, taking days off to finish work, not caring for my hygiene so that I had more time to focus on my work (during quarantine/virtual school), losing so much weight from being too anxious or depressed to eat that I needed to go to a nutritionist at an ED clinic, despite me not having one. All of my academic achievements feel meaningless because of imposter syndrome, self doubt, and insecurities.

[@DuhLikeTotally]

Jacob: **speaks flawless Simlish**

[@frentix]

As the local asexual who doesn't often enjoy the thought of sex, I feel like my presence here is needed

[@Bloody_Corpses]

Same my strongest impulse is to not eat at restaurants everyday day 🤤 my sex drive is non existent and I can't take my mind off of food some days

[@WolfgDemon]

The fact he used an orchestral "in the end" cover tells me all I need to know (this is coming for a lifelong LP fan)

[@lamegamergirl4999]

I gave it my all this year and lost 60 lbs to stress, lost friends, came out, spiraled into depression, and had to take a leave from work to not 💀 myself even though low key tried on my birthday. But you know what, there’s always next year 😂 I’ll give it my all again and see what happens

[@BirthquakeRecords]

Why do these people think shame is a good motivator? It’s largely going to exacerbate the problems it’s theoretically trying to solve. These speakers hate themselves, and want you to hate yourself too.

[@berkeleyisonline160]

"what if you spent a year giving everything your absolute all?" sounds like I'd get burned out really fuckin quick

[@nobodyaltyt103]

Damn I'm really struggling with schizophrenic episodes guess I should just work harder and be more motivated that will definitely work

[@peachy_lili]

my best tip to motivate myself on a continuing project: always leave something to come back to! but you can do it to keep from burning out playing a video game (so you can get to the end) or anything else you might gobble up too fast. hope it helps. speaking of gobbling, you can have the rest of my nugs

[@pandarose4077]

Jacob!! everytime u wear the necklace i made u in a video, i get the biggest serotonin boost🤧💞im so so happy to see how well it fits you, and how much u have been loving it💖 thank u for taking care of it and having me inadvertently be part of your channel🙆🏻‍♀️

[@drewberriesandcream]

I love how genuine you are. you honestly make me so happy.

[@mirlambda]

I love these kinds of motivational speakers they're always like, "Hey, are you miserable? Well I have a way for you to be miserable in a DIFFERENT way. I'll tell you for $300.00 per day. :)"

[@unlucky_potato6383]

Thoughts like this used to plauge me constantly. "What if I just tried harder." "What if I could be better than I am now." "What would my life be if I did this?" It all goes down to "I'm not enough." And it's great to imptove, but there is definitely a toxic side to it that this guy like personifies.

[@mariaPapagi]

5:22 I was genuinely expecting him to say that the person that gets hurt is yourself, I never thought his answer would be that bad!

[@lightfiendish]

-can control sexual urges -still gets hungry guys i think he lied :(

[@ohnoimscared3703]

Jacob saying being mid is such a mood because I've always fall in that category. I feel so seen, and honestly I'm content with it

[@violetrapture3776]

I worked my ass off for 2 years in a subway. All I got was my disability getting irreversibly worse, knowledge that I meant nothing to the managers, insults and discrimination thrown at me, and a very declined mental health....going freelance wasn't amazing for me but I am so so so much happier.

[@violetrapture3776]

Also watching the rest of it, when he said "sex is the strongest drive you have" 1 I am demisexual, no it isn't. And 2, I think the drive/need to live might just outweigh it a little

[@1271ninthcrusade]

Why do these dudes always antagonize the people they're "helping"💀

[@kiwi_trucks]

6:35 My father was overweight for my entire childhood, and that never stopped him from giving me all the love and affection that he could. His weight never stopped him from making me laugh or cooking the most wonderful meals for my family and I. The notion that a person’s weight will ruin their children’s childhood is astronomically false. A parent’s character is what makes or breaks someone’s childhood. I am incredibly lucky to have a father such as my dad, and I would never ask for anything else. ❤️

[@waterisasoup]

Are we not gonna talk about the “nugs not drugs” poster in the back cause that is the best piece of art I have ever seen

[@ashleybedore3706]

love your thoughts and humor in this video, jacob. i'm watching this video and thinking of it in context of COVID. like, how many people that are dealing with lingering fatigue and brain fog (recovery-wise or long covid wise) that don't understand how their brains have changed, seek motivational bullshit like this to try to get back to "normalcy?" it is so worrying when it's all about ignoring your limits, ignoring rest, and pushing yourself beyond anything the world needs until you wind up in irreversible states of illness/health issues. it's dangerous and a waste of living. the ableism in motivational content is expected, but it's still jarring in how disconnected it is from reality. we are all losers under capitalism and i genuinely cannot imagine depriving myself of all joy and comforts to work myself beyond complete and utter exhauting. people like this will live non-stop, highly stressful lives until it leads heart attacks by the age of 39. like genuinely, the hell? rest won't come when you're rich cuz by then you're already in such a routine of working to the bone, that you won't relax. you won't slow down. that's miserable and a waste of a life spent working, while doing things that actually make one feel alive, fulfilled, and content...exist and can exist while putting in good, productive, and important work. i dunno, i'm just a disabled person who came out fucked up but also has chronic illness onset by pushing my body past its limits to perform at a normal functioning. we are all forced to do some form of this to survive in this world, but just do what you need to survive and do the work to help your loved ones when issue arises. to anyone reading this far in my thoughts, easy does it. working and productivity is defined by your own means and abilities, not the achievements set by the world around you. btw, my tuxedo cat, frida, says hello to trigger. she's laying on me and watching this. maybe she'll grow up and get a job so she can start paying rent, lmao. disabled baddies with tuxedo cats stay winning. i'm gonna go rest because i'm a human being...with needs that can coexist with working and getting a grad degree. goofy mfs in this realm of motivational content, for real, and it's embarrassing.

[@tarettime9392]

“What if you focused solely on your goals for 1 full year straight” bro I’m on TikTok you think I have that attention span?

[@yann6109]

Man, I love motivational speakers. They're either like "quit watching Netflix", "quit buying Starbucks". (Dude. You think I can afford monthly subscriptions and dining out? Why do you think I'm desperate for more money? 😭) Or blatantly "just stop having mental problems" (Why didn't I think about it before?! From now on I will just decide not to have panic attacks and be happy.)

[@blue-dabad33]

to quote similar grindset bros from Kurtis' old video, "no more sad shit boss up" hope that helps 💀

[@monsewgalaz_]

I was bawling (still am) my eyes off because I hate myself, but these guys didn’t work, BUT, this little bald pink beanie man did, tysm

[@aussiejo5764]

I watched his first motivational video, and was like, successful? Above average? Bro I just wanna be happy some of the time. Don’t need more than that.

[@kier4410]

i am so glad you put this video out right before i fell asleep, i wanted to watch something funny before i went to bed so i could have a good dream

[@blackparademistress1]

Also excellent point about being “mid”. I call it plodding. Some people are happy to plod. If you’re happy with mediocrity or what society says is mediocre that’s okay! My dream was to be a stay at home mum. The amount of people who told me to aim higher and want to be a doctor or something is ridiculous. I’m happy!

[@Wallucks.]

I gotta be 💯 on this one, the “giving it your absolute best for a year” idea is really motivating to me. But usually for 15 minutes to at most a day

[@asotasticx]

the "sweet dreams" cover in the background of his one vid is absolutely sending me

[@fangsfrthmmrs]

I got home from work just in time for another doozy from jacob! I feel so lucky.

[@yusufkadar]

Currently watching this at work. The grind never stops.

[@Olivia.Boyd.]

Hell yes some nuggets during my productive gremlin hours

[@cassidymathews4198]

I love Jacob's speech about being "mid" thank you ❤️

[@Becksmusik3]

I’m watching this in the hospital, thanks for keeping me company! ❤

[@moonslanded9529]

"two first names" okay Jacob Andrew.

[@athena9637]

just in time for me to get motivated

[@sebastianneking3399]

This guy has never experienced being "too valuable to production"

[@donovanfaust3227]

"If you don't know how to swim, swim harder." Well I suppose the other option is to drown so that's pretty sound advice I guess. Now if only I knew how to not drown in my sorrows..... wait maybe I could swim harder!

[@damienwit]

I hate people who think that you must be productive every single day, no matter how you feel. If you're having a shitty day obviously your best work isn't gonna come out. If you're pushing yourself to work incredibly hard every single day, you're eventually gonna burn out. Listen to your body and mind. Humans weren't built for the 'grind' and that's okay.

[@bad_bau]

I spent 2.5 years essentially doing what this guy recommends and you know what happened? I was convinced that my life was worthless if I wasn't grinding and was so unhappy that I nearly unalived myself and had to drop out for a semester. I'm still in intensive therapy unpacking the damage caused by that kind of mindset and it is genuinely debilating at times. And no, I don't that is "my best self"

[@sylmaerie]

yup same here i’m taking one class this semester and 2 next semester (which means student loans bc no scholarships 🤩🤩🤩) because i kept pushing myself too hard because i was convinced i was a failure if i didnt😊😊😊😊😊

[@xero1119]

i’m a sucker for bully-motivation, but only in consented to spheres. yes, scream at me to get up during practice that i voluntarily show up to, no, do not harass anyone else for not going to the gym or working or whatever, life’s not that serious, it’s a rock. thanks for the nuggets

[@annikania2682]

Hahaha that’s so interesting! Can I ask you (seriously) why? Is it an aspect of proving yourself (out of spite) or is it something like being challenged or forced? I am interested because I am NOT motivated by that form of motivation, in no environment. Scream at me or bully me for (not) doing something, no matter what, as long as it is not world ending, I will nope out. Especially when I did sign up for a class. I don’t feel respected in such situations, usually because I am doing my best - or at least objectively good enough - either I am trying to push my/a limit already, or pushing that limit would be a bad idea!

[@apollo4523]

thanks for making this video, motivational tiktoks give me anxiety and you made it less stressful with your humor :D

[@ImaCryingShame]

I gave it my all while at uni - trying to be fit, eat a healthy home cooked diet, have a social life, get the top grades, explore a new city, learn to live on my own, have a relationship - and i did it... for a time, about 3 years, but it wasnt sustainable...turned out I had autism, severy burnt myself out, developed chronic illness and now ive left uni I cant work, need various medications and am waiting on an operation :/ didnt really work out for me. This mentality of overproductivity gave me illnesses - physical and mental - and now I feel i cant do anything but STILL feel guilty about not being productive it sucks.

[@invisiblejay]

The response I have to this entire TikTok page is just "bitch how."

[@mcfrog5473]

The first one didn’t bother me as much, but those other ones are just straight up guilt-tripping you into being productive like that’s going to work and not just make you equally unproductive but now also miserable about it

[@yaboijazz]

Matt is the kinda guy who would say "just focus" if I spoke about difficulties with ADHD lmao

[@daa5865]

I hate it when people say "but you have so much potential!!". I KNOW. And the pressure to pursue and work on this magical potential as if I don't have to work hard for it because having potential doesn't magically mean you're gonna be the best and successful at it is killing me. I don't CARE that I have potential, I don't WANT to pursue that. I just want to be happy and satisfied, and my whole life I've just been following my "potential" because everyone says I have to do that, like that's the only thing I'm good for and the only way I can achieve anything good. fuck potential, man.

[@hamsterstyle6152]

Jacob I love your videos thanks for existing ❤

[@starrynight5425]

As someone who's autistic and has a lot of anxiety, "being my best" for a year would just make me burnt out and ruin my mental health further. Even most people who aren't neurodivergent would probably struggle to "be the best" constantly bc doing that's fucking exhausting. These people need to learn what fun is

[@dorothyallspice1862]

RIGHT??? I’m autistic and I relate to this a little TOO much. Being “your best” is “their” best. So what if it doesn’t live to the standard of neurotypicals? In the end, it’s all about working hard but in a way that feels right. I’m still learning that every day.

[@TrioHorrorProduction]

Hooooo man. I have a mom like this. Saying that because I'm on disability/SSI it's a choice! RIGHT! Like I want things that limit me so I found work arounds that work for me and not you! People can be so damn judgemental without even paying attention. It's like trying to "help" someone you know is suicidal and all they want is someone by their side. Not your "motivational advice." Life isn't about being an asshole. OR DARE I SAY work in a way that not only hinders you or guilt trips you. Because I've been there with my overthinking anxiety ridden self. It sucks. Just support people. It's not that fucking hard.

[@kiralonely]

Jacob dancing with his cat is the most relatable thing I've seen in years.

[@tay-lore]

The nuggets are back, baby!!!!! And Jacob's cat is adorable!!!

[@FantasticAlbum77]

I love videos/ads that start with "STOP SCROLLING!" because it makes me 10000% more likely to keep scrolling.

[@msthecommentator2863]

"Guys, stop being handicapped. What if your kid wants to run and play with you someday? If you can't run around with your kids because you're missing a leg, that's *your* fault."

[@LouisianaCityboi]

I’ve actually given my work my absolutely all for several years. You know when I finally found happiness…when I cut that shit out.

[@Tay-sd4dt]

Here for the late night post

[@lsapg09]

The BG music being a somber version of "Sweet dreams are made of this" is the best part

[@hblackburn5580]

So Jacob's saying he gets hammered for a living...nice. 🤣 But seriously, my grandpa told me once it's not motivation that get's you going, it's getting going that gives you motivation. It may not make sense but despite being of "the silent gen", he was surprisingly sympathetic towards those who may be depressed or have anxiety, and the will to get going is just not there, and sometimes you might just need a mental health day. I do think these dudes trying to sell Chad Bro "life coaching" are beyond just sad. I'd rather just go walk or ride bikes w/ my buddies.

[@loosegoosewithacaboose]

riding bikes with your buddies sounds so wholesome keep doing you x

[@Kfroguar]

We had a guy like this come visit us during a Chinese course I took. When most of the students told him they wanted to go into teaching, refugee services, or NGO work, he was shocked. Apparently it had never occurred to him that some people are genuinely not interested in entrepreneurship. He was also extremely rude to our professor and clearly had never had to worry about money in his life.

[@vincentfarfromnormal7748]

Love the Jarvis merch

[@undeadgreenie]

"If you gave your work your absolute all" I worked in a preschool/daycare, and I'm physically disabled plus mentally ill. I gave everything I could, and I burned out so hard I had to quit one day after the kids went home because physically it was hurting me so bad I couldn't keep going. Like I would end up banging my head into a desk, table, or wall whenever a child started crying because I was so violently overwhelmed and scared of lashing out. It is extremely unhealthy/unfair to force yourself past your limits, knowing when it could harm you and others, just because people like this demand it of you. You don't owe anyone anything. Being mid is such a gift sometimes, honestly.