How to Stop Whining and Unfriendly Voices in Children? 2 Techniques

[@sabrina4Jesus]

God is really using your content to help my family. I am grateful ❤

[@ehizino]

Mine too

[@aguilacec]

I felt so related to all these situations. Thank you for being real and honest. I see a lot of moms here on YT that don't talk about discipline which makes me think we are "unique" and my kids are the only ones misbehaving. Your videos truly are helpful.

[@MamaJeanMontessoriMusic]

All the kids such great realistic actors 😂 😂😂 felt like Emily was having so much fun in this 😂 Thanks for these great examples, so helpful and relevant 👍👍👍

[@simplycarla08]

I thought the same about Emily! Great actress!

[@cheridavid]

Thank you so much for this video. It was very helpful. Im also a homeschool mom. Before I discipline the kids i usually go and pray that God will help them to see the wrong they are doing and help them to come to repentance. I also ask God to give me the right words to speak to them. I also explain to them how their behaviour hurts Jesus. I also encourage them and tell them i know that next time they will handle the situation much better. Thank you again for this video. It has been a blessing❤❤

[@dinanova81]

Oh my gosh! This is my 3 yr old everyday 50x a day. Ugh. Ty so much for posting this!

[@dinanova81]

@@Crimson509 I’ve been telling him “I don’t listen to whine, so go back and try again”. That’s actually been working lol. He still does it but way less. It’s been like almost 2 months that I’ve done that.

[@JaneDoe0207]

It's emotionally depleting tbh

[@jessisblessed6689]

Emily is quite the little actress! ❤ Please tell her I'm impressed with her acting abilities, she did such a great job, & she helped me for when my kids really behave like that! ❤ (And the other kids too! I just wanted to specifically give Emily a big compliment!)

[@CoolMomandCollected]

VERY helpful and encouraging guidance, thank you, Jady!

[@annielouise5048]

I’m so glad I clicked on this video! My 8 & 6 yr old daughters often overreact to my 4 yr old son. It really bothers me and I haven’t known how to handle it as usually he’s in the wrong so I give him the consequence but I’ve felt uncomfortable with the way they’re reacting in such a dramatic way. I need to be giving them a consequence as well ! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[@Hairitage2023]

These are really great lessons that you have your children acting out. Great way to learn proper interpersonal and communication skills. Life choices do have consequences and thats great to learn early in life. Great content!!

[@erikapena-terrero5272]

These are very common scenarios in our household. I’m going to search for the do-over and consequences video now in the tribe community. My son struggles with the whining and throws tantrums and sometimes like you said he needs the adult connection and hugs but he definitely needs more consequences at times. We usually just put him in our calming corner until he calms down and forget to apply a consequence. My daughter struggles with him touching her things so I’m also going to look into your character development portions that you use in your morning menus. THANKS SO MUCH! ❤

[@lizbaumann8946]

Please can you do more videos like these. Me and my Grandson who I raise who is 4 watch this video over and over. Really helpful. Thank you

[@SufiadsArifin]

This is so timely and helpful thank you for sharing teacher Jady ❤ from Philippines

[@Yeshuaislife-v9k]

Jady Jady Jady, God bless you and help you and your family to have eternal life. You are helping alot, may God give you everything you need for your salvation. I love you!!!

[@T2018-r4e]

I love this video! I have been struggling with this with my almost 6 and 7 year old girls. I'm on the right track with dealing with this, but it has been rather frustrating. This video is very helpful.

[@katieb9312]

Wow this was amazing. I have a feisty third born. We have a lot of the same rules as you but it’s hard to follow through all the time. I’m going to show my kids your video so they can see that we’re not the only family who has these rules!! Thank you soooooo much!!

[@elysuarez]

Excellent!! You are a BREATH OF FRESH AIR!! HUGS! TO YOU, FAMILY AND LUCKY HUBBY!!

[@lifeofmorales6701]

Wow! I didn’t realize how much i needed to watch/hear this! Thank you!

[@Amakagro]

Well detailed and straight to the point. Weldone and thanks for sharing.

[@FeRadovanski]

Emily is a great actress

[@nakiasimone]

Roleplay is sooooooo powerful! With kids who can process verbal language this is so great!

[@dorothyshelton]

This is amazing teaching and super helpful. Thank you Jady. I love you

[@gemap4762]

Excellent reflections, lots of learning. Emily is such a good actress 😀

[@hdskl2150]

I actually didn't realize until my last child that you can also tell a very young child not to do this. Even around 18 months or sooner if the child knows how to communicate there is no reason to let then scream or be rude. ❤

[@mrs.allergetic9350]

Thanks for the reenacting this helped me as a Mother to understand your reaction better.

[@misstaveras8028]

What had worked in my home (with an extreme whinner and sensitive child) is pretend i don’t understand, give them cope mechanisms to calm down, ask them to tell me in a normal voice. And if is something they asking for I always answer with “Of course honey“

[@beegenuine1478]

Love this video, super helpful thank you!!! The kids are amazing actors 😍

[@lisaglesil8672]

What a helpful video!! Jady, you’re doing a great job with your children and you’re teaching all of us as well!

[@sarahm415]

So helpful. Your kids are so beautiful. Thank you for the examples.❤

[@juzi_M]

in 3:46 my kid will ask 'nicely' straight head with the 'please' super loud and irritating 🙄😞😞😞😞😞

[@Blankenshipable]

More consequences for those children who are taking things without asking. I believe that creates aggression as well. Agree with most of what you shared.

[@kissmelypena8713]

AS A FAMILY WITH ONLY ONE BOY , MY SON LOVE THIS VIDEOS, HE ASK FOR MORE VIDEOS AND WE TALK ABOUT IT , THANKD FOR SHARE THIS TOPIC.

[@ABMA0419]

Thank you!! I really needed this, I’ve been struggling on how to deal with this kind of situation.

[@mrs.a4564]

Thank you for sharing what you do with your children. I'm definitely learning and taking notes. Thank you so much for sharing!

[@purplepuma123]

Great video as usual Jady. Seeing exactly how you deal with such scenarios in your house is interesting/inspiring. Would you have any advice for argumentative pre-teens? We still have little ones in the home and don’t want them to see the behavior and think it is acceptable. For example, preteen is using unkind voices and just become argumentative when I remind her we don’t use disrespectful/aggressive tones with each other.

[@bediracule4600]

Kudos to the kids for being great actors 👏🏽

[@enhancedhealthuk]

Love this but Luke didn’t look v happy even though he asked nicely made me giggle 🤭 great job Jady I totally agree with how you discipline them. It’s excellent

[@RepentAndBelieve1437]

Love these videos! So thankful and blessed for you!

[@taele1090]

awesome book you have in your lap, I have it also. will try this

[@Holistic_Momma]

Thank you so much for your time and videos. 🤗

[@summerjones316_17]

What about when you hear yourself (me) sounding like a broken record saying 'You'll have to have a consequence', yet are running low on relevant consequences to choose from and don't want to limit outside time because they and you seem to really need it and benefit from it! Yet also know that if no consequence is applied, the poor behavior has returned and continued. Thanks in advance for any additional specifics!

[@angeline6074]

Same! I'm running out of ideas!

[@praireoak]

I have my children do a chore. I find it gives their body movement to help regulate themselves, it's doing service for the family to get them thinking of others, gives them some space, and is also enough of a consequence that it is effective. For example, the car can always be vacuumed or scrubbed haha, baseboards wiped (within reason with their age for the amount asked to be done), weeds pulled, floors scrubbed, etc. The chores are somewhat "made up " but things I know they can accomplish and will help them move and reflect. Or I often have them come up with ways to "make it up" to the person they wronged so they learn to repair the relationship themselves. Everyone has different love language and has different desires for what type of apology etc. If I remove items as a consequence it's usually because the item caused conflict and I tell them something like it seems this item is making you unhappy and causing a problem, let's try to use this item again when Mom thinks you are ready to use it appropriately.

[@summerjones316_17]

@praireoak, thank you for sharing. I, too, have thought of assigning additional 'chores' as the consequence for a child, however I have not found any right words to say implementing it that wouldn't cause resentment or undesired anger. My children each have a good amount of jobs as it is that we switch up about every 2 months to give everyone an opportunity to learn them well before switching. I can't imagine what I would say to give an additional job to teach them something in the moment. But I have thought on it. Getting the words just right is what I need help on to really bring the lesson home for them if I'm to implement something like that. I liked the words you used when taking an item away that was causing problems, and said you would allow them to use it once you saw they were ready to use it appropriately. Great choice of words to get them to stop, think, and prayerfully decide to change their behavior for the good. Any words or phrases you could recommend when assigning an additional task or 'chore'? I want to teach my children to come to enjoy their everyday jobs and responsibilities so hopefully nothing that would bring a negative view to what I'm trying to teach them is a joy. Thank you!

[@JaneDoe0207]

I'm always taken aback when my kids do this especially the 3 yr olds twins,I feel like I'm a bad mom and they copy what I do and say ... Motherhood re: discipline is hardwork😢

[@MargaretDear1]

This is awesome thank you for sharing 👏🏿beautiful children 🥰

[@motivationbynetseb]

Thank you very much for this video. God bless you always!

[@neelaparmar3444]

Thank you for sharing. This has been so helpful

[@HS-pc3wq]

Absolutely amazing! Thank you so much for taking the time to teach us mothers, your amazing and so inspiring! Very appreciated 😌❤

[@ilariandre_]

Super helpful!! Thank you very much!! Your kids are so lovely 😍

[@Red_1976]

The consequences seem a bit harsh but I have to agree with you here. A whole month without pencils means the child understands what they’re not allowed to do. I must get a bit stronger with the consequences..!

[@LifewithAnge28]

Thank you for sharing this video. It is very helpful. ❤❤❤

[@Nimrah_Asad_Khan]

Please, share Emily’s crochet project! Absolutely loved this video. Emily was so good.

[@aheartysliceofmommylife4949]

This brings up a question for me. I have one child who always shares and another who always says, “no, it’s mine!” He will get very angry. I am more upset that he won’t share with his sibling for no reason other than he simply doesn’t want to share. And his sister is older and doesn’t ruin his things. I wonder how you would handle that Jady. Thank you.

[@Kevin.Grindel]

She said she has a video on sharing have you seen it?

[@lindalove1552]

Just what I needed it! Thank you Jady!

[@lindalove1552]

When they are acting like this I copy them lol and they see how they sound and laugh and change their tone but some days it is hard to deal with the little bad attitudes.

[@bq552]

Lol you sound just like me with my kids!! Though, I can be too soft on consequences and give up on enforcing them for long periods after I've seen immediate behavior change.

[@Mumshasha]

Thank you so much @jady,❤❤this is really helpful ❤

[@EdenEden-b7r]

Parents have to model these behaviours too, I find myself yelling always , sometimes I think they are modelling me!

[@leahmcquillis5615]

What do you do if the kids aren't as respectful about the consequences as yours are with the "yes, ma'am"? Maybe they whine or argue back ?

[@hadassahjacksonchannel6971]

Thank you Jady A

[@terridelmarto1290]

unfriendly voice is very descriptive and clear

[@Kidslearningclub2016]

Emily was enjoying most❤

[@ShalisaAntoine]

Thank you for sharing

[@moxiejae321]

Thank you!

[@flavoursinlife4646]

How to handle teengers for these kind of problems.can you plz make a video

[@Dr.FawziyaT]

Always love to see your video

[@Holistic_Momma]

Do you have a video on how to help kids play nice with others? I have a 5yr old daughter and she has a hard time. Bossing the kids around, and having an unfriendly voice at times.

[@abassmoyinoluwaayoola582]

What are the consequences

[@Tiguenation]

Thank you for this! My kids run to me every single time whenever they get into an argument and it puts a lot of stress on me.😓

[@RepentAndBelieve1437]

I completely understand.

[@shanellakers7303]

I let them tell me what the issue is and if I deem it too little to deal with, I tell them to figure it out. In the case things escalate I will step in.

[@princessrachel4388]

Yes have me drinking at 11am. 😂😂

[@Globetrotter390]

Thank you Jady❤❤❤, I have a question.. what if my kid has a friend who yells often and sometimes screams at my kid? The kid is not bad but just yells and screams whenever i see them playing and I am not that close to kid’s mom so I never really told her about her kid I don’t know ..

[@praireoak]

I would kindly tell the other child that yelling etc is not ok in your house and help them try to ask in another way? Or tell them, "it seems like you are stuck and not sure what to do," I can help you guys solve this problem etc

[@sandramatajs3336]

Playing outside should NOT be used as a consequence. Other examlpes are good. Thank you

[@phoebehindanmpama]

You are so amazing 🎉🎉

[@abassmoyinoluwaayoola582]

What if the one using the pencil doesn't want to return the pencils. What can I do?

[@Homeschool.in.Paradise]

That’s totally my kids! 😅 it’s so hard to stop the winning and fighting!

[@jignashasoni2129]

Hi do you guve online lessons to my daughter. Pls i want her to learn reading

[@hadassahjacksonchannel6971]

Amazing parents

[@darloonie9465]

Don't forget the tattletale voice.

[@dinanova81]

how do you address the scenario with the crayons. If taken away for a whole month, child tests you to go and grab them or takes them without your permission. What would be the next consequence? Also, my son will respond to the opposite of what I say. So if I say no, he can’t play games, he says yes, or vice versa.

[@ChrissyTG]

Take them and put them away where they can't just go and grab it. If they do however find it n use it, I would remind them that their behavior is not ok and I would either prolong the take away (so if I said I'm taking it for two days, now it will be a week) or apply another consequence and take away a privilege. I know things can seem trying in the moment but try to remember the lesson u want ur child to learn. U got this mama and ur doing great!🤗

[@shanellakers7303]

I would extend the consequence. So now no crayons for two months.

[@dinanova81]

@@ChrissyTG ty! I appreciate you!!! Great tip!

[@dinanova81]

@@shanellakers7303 ty!!! I appreciate the tip!

[@jannesa3941]

Wow! I think iPhone can now read minds… I was literally thinking about this channel earlier today but couldn’t remember the name. I haven’t come across videos in years… I literally said in my head I wonder what happened to that lady and her channel, then she this popped up on my home page… coincidence? I think not lol

[@abassmoyinoluwaayoola582]

I am having this as a serious challenge among my girls. I don't like it. Pls can you help me out

[@poojak8859]

Please do a video how to teach diagraph

[@maryama8998]

You didn’t do a scenario of a child that doesn’t want to give a toy back Or is stubborn and doesn’t listen. My children fight a lot because the child that takes the toy doesn’t want to give it back. What should I do then?

[@shanellakers7303]

If fights occur over a toy I take the toy away for a day. This is only after I have encourage sharing and if they insist on being difficult with each other. Also we set boundaries. Most of our toys are family toys but each mine three children do have toys and items which belong to them solely. We encourage them to share but insist they are to respect if their sibling does not want to share. Things get better as they get older if you continue to reinforce the standards you have for your home. P.S. Someone suggested in a scenario where one child allows the other to have the toy but then quickly change their mind leading to a blow up between the two. Hold the child to their word by agreeing on allotted time for the other child to play with the toy. I typically allow for an hour. However if they uses the toy incorrectly which can lead to possible damage, its promptly given back to the other child.

[@maryama8998]

@@shanellakers7303 thank you. I have 3 daughters and they are 7 and under and always fight over toys.

[@jessicamartinez-ov6cu]

My daughter typically only acts out horribly with my husband. She yells, talks back, whines etc. He takes to fix it but she laughs and doesn't take him seriously. It's hard to break it. Sometimes she gets a wild hair and tries to do it to me but I don't let her. I'm still trying to figure out how to help him

[@maryama8998]

It’s simple he just needs to be more serious and give a consequence for her bad actions. Time her out for a little bit or take a favourite toy away what ever you thing works.

[@praireoak]

I have a friend who had a similar problem. We often discussed it haha. She had her husband do extra activities and daddy daughter dates etc with his daughter, this gave them more time to connect and have more fun shared experiences (this did not include buying her toys or candy etc). Sometimes this can be hard with busy working fathers. He also played more board games with her and would explain expectations ahead of time etc. If they had issues then he issued the time outs or whatever manner of consequence but in a calm manner of course. He then would discuss with her that yelling at him was not allowed in their family and they want everyone to respect each other. Idk if that is helpful. But they seem to be doing better since spending more quality time and giving him opportunity to "discipline" for lack of a better word.

[@maryama8998]

@@praireoak that’s a great idea

[@EstherDesorcy-zi1kz]

@@praireoak I'm loving your comments on here very helpful. Lots of times dad need more connection time with the kids and the listening will follow because kids actually love to please however there has to be a relationship and bond first I saw this in my own kids and my hubby now takes speacial time for each kid daily 10 min or more depending and it's been a game changer.

[@tamraya23]

@@praireoakgreat insight!

[@rajvirpawar2905]

Your video is so helpful and please 🙏 mam your husband face reveal please 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@Kelly_Mae]

This is so cute 😆😆🥹 I think you have an award winning actress in your family 🥇

[@itsLwow]

❤

[@shanaebullock262]

Please tell me these situations come up everyday? 😅 This is exactly how I handle them also but everyday? Is that normal? 🫣