Jae (DAY6) on Attachment Theory I HDIGH Ep. #14

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[@tihanikhaidir9093]

Jae's pronounciation is sooo perfect and crystal clear that the auto generated captions is 99.99% correct

[@micaelamascolo6042]

trueee and that's the one of the reasons why i can understand the whole podcast

[@najihahzulkiple5287]

The 00.01% is jay instead of jae😂

[@n_irdeeeeana]

@@najihahzulkiple5287 and the part at 16:57 where Jae said "snaps for diane" but the auto generated captions were "snaps for dying" 😭🤣

[@farisahizzati6443]

I agree to that. Every time I turn on the auto generated caption in the other hdigh episodes I just get more confused 😌

[@flpatp]

Because he grew up in the States. Specifically California

[@Onemorerutuja]

Jae: We need camera for diane Me : yesss pleaseeee

[@syobebaby]

I so agree.

[@vanessagutierrez5999]

Do we what she looks like ?!

[@janicelin7707]

@@vanessagutierrez5999 You can see her on instagram @dianekang

[@pokemoon_____]

I'm addicted to his voice it's weird but here I am stating a fact

[@manjulapeddibhotla5112]

Same...love his voice!

[@ahgaday763]

Yes! Me too

[@joycearias412]

It's alarming how parents treat their children may result trauma affects into their child until their adulthood if not taken care of.

[@Allen-ql1dd]

i agree with youuu

[@lovingfullsun_mj4156]

honestly its sad that that's so true...

[@SomeOne-iq3uz]

Not only parents. Also authorities like teachers play a huge role. It really is alarming.

[@fathimafazeena1929]

Jae realizing he's an adult is the funniest thing haha

[@MustardKetchupHoran]

"I went blonde, for work" I SMELL COMEBACK OR EAJ MV

[@LeilaleilaZ]

This was before the Zombie comeback though! He had his dark hair with highlights before so he changed it for the cb

[@DeeRafatSweileh]

@@simpayshenaides and Twitter ✌🏻

[@lily.97]

@@vani8665 I heard that a comeback will happen soon

[@husnitaufiq7738]

nobody : jae in every single minute : INNTERRESTINNNSSSSS but I'd like to see another little version of Jae. the end.

[@silver_nan]

I am keeping nodding my head when Diane's talking. She's a very good talker, and so smart. Very.

[@morganclaiborne3122]

39:06 “All I was doing was playing Monkey Ball at my friend’s house” “Oh... why’d you lie to your parents then?” “... other stuff happened too 😂” THE LOOK OF PANIC ON JAES FACE IM DEAD 😂💀

[@joycearias412]

The show "It's Okay to not be Okay" these reminds us how powerful words are to a person, most especially to a child.

[@hj-mm2hb]

Btw the literal translation of “사이코지만 괜찮아” is “it’s okay to be psycho” or “I(or you) am psycho but it’s okay”👀

[@joycearias412]

@@hj-mm2hb ohh Thanks😅

[@hj-mm2hb]

Joyce Arias I was so shocked when one of my non Korean friends said that she really related to the title of the drama, and I immediately thought of the psycho one i-

[@joycearias412]

@@hj-mm2hb Gosh I feel bad for him/her. Hoping she's/he's okay

[@hj-mm2hb]

Saira David she’s getting a lot better from what i’m hearing, thanks💕 i thought she was saying that she was a psycho hahaaa💀

[@jayl.7364]

idk if it’s just me but i live for the intro

[@kei_8396]

same !!

[@echannel6162]

It's not just you

[@anastasia6455]

Jay L. fr it keeps me going 😌

[@butteredhippo1328]

What did he even say 💀

[@asyrdal4059]

@@butteredhippo1328 "hooooow-hooooow-hooooow-hooooow--" "...did I get here? ....huh?" 😂

[@marthalyssa143]

What I’ve learned today from this episode: SAVE YOUR EMOTIONAL ENERGY DO NOT AVOID LOVE

[@영원히-v1o]

“Raising a child especially if it’s a kid like me is gonna be a nightmare” INTERESTINGGGGGGGG JAE

[@Gigi.loves.reading]

People who go through rough childhoods and turn into stable adults is called being "resilient." As a psych major, I loved the discussion!!

[@Marinaheidi]

Jae: "Human nature is to be selfish but nuture can create a sense of morality" Psychopaths: LMAO

[@ivanikurniawan5786]

Agreee. I was about to counter argue that part 😂

[@ivanikurniawan5786]

@Anny's World when i heard the explanation about nurture can create the sense of morality and him explaining about the idea of twins would be quite similar in terms of personality when given the same situations i immediately thought about defense mechanism, i mean everybody's got their own way to get rid of stress right? And that's what differs us from other people. That's my opinion 😊

[@irenedagami130]

Actually people who are diagnosed of socio- and psychopath often grew up in really awful households. It takes good parenting to teach a child empathy (something they commonly have very low). although gene sequencing can have an effect, but empathy can be taught in early years

[@Marinaheidi]

@@irenedagami130 not really, sociapaths actually are "created" meanwhile psycopaths can't be really created or educated as their condition is said to be related to genetics that cause the brain to have undeveloped emotions/control of emotions. The same could be said about depression, as there are cases caused by trauma or emotional suffering while in other cases it is considered "cronic" as it have no cause but genetics that can play a role.

[@irenedagami130]

@@Marinaheidi But the apathy' is a common trait for them? I have seen some people in social media express to being diagnosed psychopaths but generally being controlled. You are talking about the psycho gene right? I came across it once. but it just increases risk of impulsive/risky behavior. Risky behavior is usually very general: includes extreme sports, vices, drinking, and violence is just one of them. When we talk about risks, it's not really predetermined you just have a very large potential to have one but at the same time you also have that window of opportunity to not be one.

[@SyeikhaAnnisa]

Jae be like talking about his high school reunion and stuff on this podcast while some of his friends might watch or listen to this podcast omg. He's one of the most open celebrities I've ever seen

[@william2154]

I did my thesis on attachment theory! The original theory by Bowlby and Ainsworth had lot of great points but its certainly outdated and despite the earlier researchers' assertations that it held up universally, the core beliefs of attachment theory is still rooted in western individualist culture. My thesis was on how modern research tools of attachment theory hold up cross-culturally! Workin in this field was one of the most exciting and thought provoking times of my life. I got to work with people from many different walks of life- wealthy upper class from stable households, to people who had turbulent childhoods and suffered abuse from parents. Even if attachment theory is a total crock and could be thrown out the window, its still groundbreaking because it engages people in conversation about how their relationships affects other areas of their life.

[@chompupinkk]

I miss Jae on podcast. His voice is so soothing I can listen to all day.

[@iamblessed5146]

I just want all Dive Studios crews know that Jae is my favorite host🤍💕 do a lot more contents with him, I love you💜

[@Marinaheidi]

The dislike is from Brian because Jae spoilled his solo LOL

[@kyshaamanda8548]

I can sleep listening to jae talking. It’s soooo oddly soothing. But the topic got me like “damn me too.” So I couldn’t stop listening.

[@malikaP23]

I like the way jae introduce himself , love the way he speak so fluent , pronounciation is so clear understandable . I really enjoy his show, I'm so happy I could watch his podcast early morning , nd the notification popping up early morning feels so touched love you Jae❤#Day6

[@evisanjaya3197]

What I love the most from HDIGH is that they discussed something that we can really relate to our daily life and enhance our knowledge at the same time. Appreciate it

[@najwahaquel]

Jae's podcast is my favorite so far. I will listen to it while studying and doing my homework

[@anazraff]

This is the type of conversation I want to have with someone or anyone, it's like a laid-back and in relax way yet still dive deep to keep it really interesting.

[@sharonmaswai5057]

Diane is out here shocking Jae with them 'big' words in each episode😂😂😂

[@heygaleeh4671]

about the emotional energy Jae has been talked. I've been feeling it lately like I realize I can't spend too much time on many people at once because it's totally exhausting and got me in the bad mood and have to sacrifice my obligations to fulfill others needs. I came to learn that just because I love them it doesn't mean I have to be around all the time and give the attention. gratefully my closest friends are understand of my scarce energy to manage also my habit to reach out to them once I regain my emotional energy back. thanks for sharing Jae and Diana 🖤

[@yasminesanchez3916]

I absolutely, just love you Jae. You look so comfortable hosting the show ☺❤.

[@aliyay.6319]

This potcast taught me more important things for life than 12 years of school ever could. So thank you for making my day and helping me finding my way through life ^-^

[@nelynnediaz5197]

Missing you mucho Jae! Glad your have these podcasts and we get to listen to you. ❤️❤️❤️

[@Marinaheidi]

This is one of the days that Im glad I have insomnia so I can watch Jae :)

[@aleparish3045]

I'm just impressed of how Jae's and Diane's brains work, the way they think just make me fall in love with them

[@james_karl_james8488]

Jae: I don't wanna get too close to people Also Jae: *Literally watching and commenting on strangers' Day6 content*

[@kalyssaa]

a lot of these episodes have psychology theories weaved in them and it makes me happy that i payed attention in class well enough to be able to be present~ in these episodes

[@ayeshamajeed2075]

I am 19 but this podcast is making me realise I think like a person in late twenties

[@Pinnie06]

I’m only 15 I just like interior design...And vacuum’s ig

[@shioty]

he's so interesting to watch omg i listened to this episode already but i can still watch it the video on and it'll still be fun

[@itsririvids]

man, how is this man so endearing

[@HibaAlhmoud]

Im literally enjoyimg every ep of Jae's (and Diane) podcast, that I cant stop watching a vid after another, I didnt notice it's already 1:30am and i have to do smths tmw. Thank you for the GREAT content.

[@mhaiiielfday5822]

Done listening this on Spotify, but I'm here again 😂

[@artisticjayjay5010]

Nooo I love diane's voice and commentary it's what the world neeeedsss

[@kayshelton888]

Diane, I think you're awesome! You make the podcasts (yes, others too) more fun! I think you are an empath and most empaths have difficult pasts which are hard to share. I love your input in all the podcasts I watch and listen to but I want a camera on you too. Jae you are great too!!!

[@Pinkmusiclover77]

Being in the same age group..can relate so much...glad i’m not alone feeling all these burdens

[@jonathashygino6649]

man, this is my first time watching this segment. didnt know itd be this good. i rlly loved it

[@BlackRose-Ren]

I agree with Jae about Nurture. I have a twin brother and we are very similar in terms of personality, values, morality, etc.

[@Liz-ki2tm]

I love these podcasts

[@LeilaleilaZ]

Why is no one pointing out how for a solid 5 minutes the camera just focused on the b&w pillow on the couch and Jae was all blurry lmao it's making me anxious

[@asyrdal4059]

Wait when? Lololol

[@dnafisya]

A Syrdal 24:19

[@asyrdal4059]

@@dnafisya Ah thanks!

[@starlessssnight]

Diane I LOVE YOU MAKE UR OWN PODCAST!

[@SyeikhaAnnisa]

No one: The auto generated caption: I am your host, Jay

[@LJ-op7uh]

Jae has the cutest laugh❤ and Diane's so insightful ♥️ love the discussions, as always

[@xyzanadine8902]

thank you jae for your podcast it really helps my brain not to be rusty this quarantine 💀 and your intro describes me everytime we have a discussion in our school ‘knowing more but not feeling all that much smarter at all’ 😎

[@asyrdal4059]

Calendar: Saturday Description: HAPPY TUESDAY!!

[@jujijot6499]

It's sunday here~

[@gabrielai2299]

The podcast is released on Tuesdays check it out on Spotify

[@asyrdal4059]

@@gabrielai2299 I know lol I look forward to it every week! ^^

[@isadora.ml.]

the best episode of Jae's podcast till date for me

[@nicolezhou3380]

nobody: jae: iNtErEsTiNg

[@afafouardi4159]

Enjoyed the episode sooo much !! Keep choosing such interesting topics, you discuss them in a wonderful way !

[@mydaykonichazel7431]

We miss you Jae 😍😍

[@aii867]

Jae's expression and tone of voice at 38:49 had me in literal splits😂😂

[@manjulapeddibhotla5112]

Your voice is soooo calming Jae...I feel like I connect at a different level (sublimely) with your voice! Keep up your good work❤️🇺🇸

[@skiesthelimit_7030]

Diane is so fvcking relatable 😩

[@user-cblfYlkcBHhjhsMin8]

I MISS YOU ON HDIGH JAE TT

[@Lorena-OT7]

Why we can never see the girl talking, I love her❤️

[@monicas2461]

Producer Diane is one of the reasons I love Dive Studios’ shows!

[@Lorena-OT7]

Monica S I bet she’s beautiful ❤️

[@namruru5764]

I graduated with a major in psych and listening to this podcast session reminds me of everything I learned from social psych hahaha

[@ayessadelapena2052]

i could just listen to Jae all day

[@gabriellelouisedeleon50]

I dont know why jae explaining this is much more easier to understand than my theory of personalities professor.

[@poxelover_infntd62pm78]

I always enjoy listening jae talking the way he talk very interesting 😁

[@farisahizzati6443]

20:48 the 'how are you?' and 'how's life?' questions. For me, thats the questions people will ask first before asking/telling things they want 👀

[@Horangikwon96]

This was so relatable and wholesome in a very unique way i loved every second of it and Jae is a great person i love him ♥️♥️

[@ivyta5492]

I miss your podcasts Jae 🥺

[@syobebaby]

Podcast to listen to when I want to remember what it was like to be young.

[@joycearias412]

Never been this early lol 😂. Love you Jae💕 No matter what your hair color is you always nailed it. What a handsome Jae😍😘

[@lily.97]

Just be a supportive parent as a parent I feel like it's the best be someone you needed when you were growing up .

[@fathimafazeena1929]

I'm a fan of jae's hair. Thank you.

[@Igotarmys-jz6bn]

Yo Diane you're so chill and have good input and your tone is not too loud at all I love how you add on to all the podcasts you do And yes jae she needs a camera

[@wajeehazubair4564]

Absolutely love your podcasts 😍 i wanna listen to them after a long long day

[@raine__dear5914]

you guys exactly sound like me and my friends when talking, how parallel our ideas are and how we would argue and agree on this topic. RESPECT👍

[@bookaholic9882]

Such a good episode truly. I think I relate to Jae a bit more than Diane in terms of the type of attachment, I guess because sometimes it's exhausting to keep in touch with a lot of people over time. It really helps to have understanding friends though; the ones who get it when you say you need space because people and relationships in general can take a toll on energy levels ❤

[@Sunnylane02174]

OMGosh I’m exactly like Diane! Straightforward, to the point, don’t reveal much about myself, but interested in everyone else.

[@kather9571]

it's super tiring watching jae. i mean, who wouldn't be tired smiling for 40+ minutes? i am a resting bitch face but when i see or hear jae, i automatically smile.

[@sunepinlaaier164]

Like always I'm here for Jae. But Diane, Girl!! You are so good at dissecting the ideas and meanings and explaining them with the appropriate words. #Dianeappreciation #HDIGHappreciation Love for Dive studios ❤

[@sugarmilk28]

My issue is that I cant connect with people. I meet people knowing that I won't be around them for long. Much of the things people are into I have no interest lol I hate drama, talking about romance, and I just enjoy simple things like eating out and nature. I don't watch TV or TV shows ....pretty much not into the trends..I am boring and I don't want to change that 🤣

[@francescaclarise1224]

Omg you sound like my ex-- HAHAHAHAHA

[@dzakiraqaulafashla2726]

I think u should find ppl that are also 'boring' then maybe u can connect w them??

[@dumpdumb5540]

@@dzakiraqaulafashla2726 right! Maybe one way or another you can improve

[@Singha_S]

Hey, if no one has told you before, I'm gonna say it. That is completely fine. We've all got different interests. And someone else's version of "fun & interesting" might be boring to you, just like how your definition of "interesting" might be something that they find boring. We're all different here. You're just different. This doesn't make you "boring". You just haven't found anyone who you could share your interests with.

[@someday2804]

Omg same 😂

[@tihanikhaidir9093]

Lmao jae i can relate with the fearful avoidant attachment i can NEVER get too close to someone but at the same time i can NEVER get too far

[@cherylfabrianne7730]

39:12 jae's panic face, i can't 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@divyanjaliverma6183]

I love listening to Diane talk

[@bloobduh]

perfect, new jae podcast to listen to while gaming 100/10♥

[@pamelafs7129]

i remember the way i went crazy when diane start talk about donald glover home depot story about nice door knob and mail box omg i’m 23 but it’s super relatable

[@fyadollahi4735]

It's 5 am where i am and i just can't sleep so im just listening to jae's calming voice

[@why-qm5pm]

Happy Sunday

[@somemydayy]

That moment when jae was talking about his future child. Uwu

[@helenabelardo3115]

thanks for bringing this entertaining content every time.

[@kai-ve6mf]

12:46 my age will soon lose the -teen suffix but this is already such a mood

[@ocharafiq5709]

the auto generated subs being exact is soo satisfying

[@wuinging844]

Loving this podcast. Diane, just so you know, really really love your opinion and your input. anything. You are not aggressive, I love it! Love how Jae views things too! Definitely want a camera on Diane! if you are comfortable with it tho...Love you guys!

[@vane4394]

15:05 🤧😂 same I’m 20 and already feeling like that , you guys are teaching me about adult hood 😎

[@helenabelardo3115]

i can just relate to Diane about feeling burdened when people asked me abt my self.

[@tihanikhaidir9093]

My favourite episode 😍

[@danini777nini]

Now my day is complete☻ I really enjoy this podcast

[@nonchalantchalanter]

Diane and I are the exact same when we wanna know every thing about someone but can’t do the same

[@windyyys5614]

JAES IS BLONDE EVERYBODYYYYY😍😍😍 I just cant❤

[@windyyys5614]

@@simpayshenaides oh really? But he's blonde tho now on his ig stories😁😁

[@windyyys5614]

@@simpayshenaides oh i see.. Thanks fyi:)

[@emcandi]

My mother also had the same kind of viewpoint that Jae's mom had as well. I think my experiences dating has made me realize things that I value and do not value in partners. Overall, I think it has helped me grow

[@edakaya8814]

I have a twin and we’ve been together a lot, and are even in the same class now. According to a lot of people, including ourselves, we’re pretty different. But I guess as Jae said as we haven’t always been in the same place at the same time, it made us different.