James Fallon Interview | SVT/NRK/Skavlan

[@tishmfey]

It's fascinating that a regular empathetic person can deeply love yet still wreak havoc on loved ones lives but a psychopath who doesn't feel, as in the case of the professor, can have a family and not feel love but act like they are in love and have a fulfilling relationship in which those other people can feel loved enough to maintain proximity.

[@GROENAASMusic]

That's because real love is a verb, not a feeling.

[@Evil_Morty2000]

you must be an idiot to believe anything this man says

[@dabtican4953]

@@GROENAASMusic I disagree, it's both.

[@asdfghyter]

though, note that the way he determined that he doesn't feel love is through observing behavior, so I wouldn't say that he's fully acting like he's in love, he only have some aspects of it. in particular, if I understood him correctly, the willingness to make sacrifices without any direct gain for himself isn't there

[@hanselmansell7555]

This is perfect, psychopath becoming famous for being nice, ego and control satisfied, no body dead, love this guy 😀

[@isobelle.London]

That’s how the dangerous ones dupe people

[@carol-l8u]

Yet no one around him, family, friends, people who he worked with were surprised. The people he worked with believed he was a "psychopath" before the tests showed it. They were studying those kinds of people. He softens it in the telling, sometime more so, sometimes less so.

[@mysteryhombre81]

Friend: does something slighty immoral People: They might be a psychopath ...... Pyschopath: gets PET scan that confirms and admits to being psychopath. People: Nah they've made it up. No wonder pyschopaths can hide in society so well, no one would believe them even if they were told.

[@JDdr86]

This comment deserves more likes!

[@radanv2535]

Just before this (yt algo?) watched M Gladwell talking about how people might be wired for believing and trusting as it is more useful and functional for family, community (rather than doubts, inquisitivness etc)

[@nefelibata4190]

because people are idiots.

[@Vincent-ri5cr]

so true hahah two of the traits of psychopathy are "charming" and "manipulative & lying" and people in the comments straight-on fall for these two hahaha

[@mattias5157]

It`s really interesting to see the people around reacting to this. There body language. They seem attracted to his honesty and sympathy on one hand, but also a bit scared and repelled by the very theme of psychopathy. His very brave, you have to say. If a psychopath can be brave - maybe it´s just lack of fear. Anyway an incredibly valuable testimony, my respect!

[@KasperochSiri]

The irony is that he isn't brave because he doesn't care what other people think about him, to be brave you have to care what other people think about you (not talking fysical bravery).

[@TeamMemberNumberEight]

@@KasperochSiri Yeah, true bravery and courage comes from overcoming fear, psychopaths like Dr Fallon have a certain absence of fear, relating to what he talks about fearless dominance

[@Zezam_]

@@KasperochSiri why would he not care? Of course he cares what others think. If everyone left him and didnt want to be near him cuz they think he is a monster do you not think he would care?

[@trandat4]

Bravery is to have the heart to sacrifice yourself to do good and great things, sometimes for other people or for yourself. Using bravery to a psychopath is a disgrace to the term. Psychopaths aren't strong. They attack women and children by deception. Strong men don't do that. We fight bigger enemies to protect our homes and our way of living.

[@mattias5157]

@@trandat4 "I believe", you forgot yo write. Now you came out has someone who likes to teach people because he thinks he knows better. I think.

[@jeanine219]

James Fallon has amazing intelligence and ability to educate on all things pertaining to the brain. 1 in 100 people statistically have genetic/ brain characteristics of a psychopath. We need more education and understanding of this as a society, related to how we assess, diagnose, and raise our children, and this brilliant individual makes neurological / brain science research and teaching a priority. Thank you so much for all that you teach us Mr Fallon!

[@ok.1999]

I think psychopathy is kind of a niche of humans, like it’s a specialist. God created them to be maybe soldiers and surgeons etc etc since they’re very good under pressure always calm, never panicking. Same thing with autism, it’s like a niche

[@jeanine219]

@@ok.1999 Ok, you lost me if you are referring to a “man in the sky” god. If you intended a metaphor for evolution and natural laws as Einstein and Spinoza used the word “god” as a metaphor for, then I get that. Have you ever read “The Selfish Gene” by Richard Dawkins. There are definitely niches for certain oddities or even nefarious genetic profiles that manage to reproduce and survive in societies of living organisms. Otherwise the traits ultimately die out.

[@ok.1999]

@@jeanine219 thing is, psychopathy is in the soul. So people get it right when they say it’s born but it’s not genetic, guess what, if it was genetic you’d be able to see it All sorts of genetic differences and any defects or conditions you can see with the eye. It’s the operating system that clicks the mind. Different waves for different types you got stuff like gamma alpha beta and so on, psychopathy and autism are the exact opposites and they are kind of like the extreme. Fine-filtered parts of neurotypicals, hence the niche thing that I’m talking about. One goes one way the other goes the other.

[@jeanine219]

@@ok.1999 Geneticists would disagree with you. Btw. What do you mean by “the soul”? Some magical myth based ghost or immortal apparition residing inside of your body? I subscribe exclusively to science and tested/proven empirical evidence. Not wishful delusions, pseudoscience, religious myths, fairytales, or magical thinking...including all of the tens of thousands of supernatural gods, goddesses, and afterlives promoted by ancient and modern homosapiens. This phenomenon is based on narcissistic terror of ones own inevitable return to non existence, and the desperate wish for immortality and pleasure paradise for infinity. Read “Denial of Death” by Ernest Becker.

[@sjdbbfjskdb7]

​@@ok.1999I'm 100% spiritually minded but psychopathy is absolutely genetic. I believe people can carry personality traits from before birth (soul), but there are many genes that we know of that cause psychopathy. James Fallon in this video has documents showing many genes.

[@ronchappel4812]

That was super interesting.Even the questions and responses from the other guests were great

[@satah5045]

I love this guy he always asks the questions I want to know and I assume most people want to know but interviewers don't think to ask

[@pauldunne5230]

@@satah5045 except he’s pushing the dulling down of men and the trans human movement as he’s a Marxist psycho

[@satah5045]

@@pauldunne5230 wow I only watch the interviews and enjoy them and that's enough for me . I don't know of any other controversies around him .

[@michaelfleming8490]

He says he watched “Manhunter” with his wife and she says, “That’s you!” And you assume he means Hannibal Lecter. But then he reveals she meant Will Graham. Tell you that they’re both crazy.

[@LoveIncest]

Or a Hannibal Lecter that has learnt to control himself a bit better, minus the cannibalistic part, ofc ;)

[@williamdejeffrio9701]

Amazingly interesting man. I enjoy his informative candor.

[@TheRealHerbaSchmurba]

It’s really interesting how when he’s explaining all the things that other people could perceive as bad in a psychopath that he doesn’t flinch at the thought that they may be a little on edge because of that. The fact that he’s so open about how the mind of a psychopath works while he is one makes me think he’s doing it for a general care for education. Could be exactly what he wants me to think but whatever, not like he’s hurting anyone.

[@vandal2811]

He's doing it out of a self interested passion for things; in this case his own field. The smile he has is simply from reading the interest of the people surrounding him in what he says and how they are completely drawn in. It gives him reassurance and pleasure to see that they are reacting how he wants. That's where high functioning psychopaths quench their thirst, there's still a victim, they still do something to their victims, it's just not violent and the victim has no clue. I'm surprised he didn't go further, high (socially) functioning psychopaths retaliate as well, it's just that it stays within the ethical code they made for themselves which usually doesn't infringe laws.

[@thePricoolas]

You may be misunderstanding a little the cognitive empathy. We primarily make moral decisions using cognitive empathy, with emotional empathy left only for certain aspects of life. In other words, most of the time he is faced with exactly the same moral conundrums as we are, the difference being only in lack of some experiences

[@pauldunne5230]

No he’s trying to turn people against men who have no empathy for idiots. Feelings don’t trump facts. The world is a hard place, we are not psychos, you lot are like bloody girls with your feminism. Which is in fact Marxism in disguise.

[@kfkkfk7995]

@@vandal2811 let him have his "victim". He's not hurting them, he's just influencing them, as we all do (ofc, he's really good at it but I don't think that changes anything)

[@amiraslkhalili5638]

If i was sitting there , and being asked , can you ever love some body , my answer would be , it depends what we define as love ! If we define love as to sacrifice your need before the loved one , i would say no , but if we define love as to want the best for that person , i would say yes ! Smart discussions :)

[@nefelibata4190]

then why she dropped me to the floor and lied behind my back?

[@Toyon95]

This was super interesting!

[@parkerkimbell4378]

Something not addressed in this extremely interesting interview is the fact that he had no idea himself for his whole life that he was psychopathic...He seems an expert on how his own psychopathy works in great detail here yet says he had know idea the scan was his own. It doesn't make sense he volunteered for the scan if he knew and was trying to hide it so maybe he has just become aware after the scan from deep research. But still leaves a unsettling bizarre fact that numerous psychopaths are walking around that aren't even aware of their own psychopathy or psychopathic capabilities...and more could even be looking at you or me in the mirror:) Sweet Dreams.

[@SirJaye82]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJrMZ2N9iqyHh7c Maybe this will provide you with more answers, maybe not!

[@philipcampbell3751]

@@SirJaye82 I wasn't posing a question needing answered, just a thought. Interesting video with interesting info though. Cheers

[@SirJaye82]

@@philipcampbell3751 Yeah I know pal, just thought it might be of interest and help you reach a conclusion of sorts.

[@philipcampbell3751]

@@SirJaye82 You have a nice day. Cheers

[@ok.1999]

Trust me, people who are psychopathic know that they are. Maybe they don’t know the term but since birth they know something’s different

[@rl7012]

He seems very proud to be a psychopath, almost like he is boasting. He is revelling in getting so much attention and he definitely feels superior to all those around him. He doesn't answer some of the questions being asked. For example he did not answer the question about why his wife was not surprised that he was a psychopath. He appeared to answer it, but he did not answer it. He just talked about what he wanted to talk about, letting everyone know who was in charge of the conversation.

[@joshuajenkins1937]

He and his wife are entitled to any level of privacy they decide. I don't fault him

[@martywilsonlife]

Watch his moth hour talk for more information on his whole life.

[@rl7012]

@@joshuajenkins1937 I said nothing about privacy. Neither did I fault him.

[@meshezza]

Like they say, not every narcissist is a psychopath but EVERY psychopath is a narcissist

[@lcarlson7725]

@@meshezza I have a narcissist in my social circle. It's difficult to describe just how damaging that person is.

[@aguy559]

If he’s a psychopath, we should take what he says with a grain of salt to avoid manipulation. Right?

[@TheBadSpoon]

99.9% of cases, that's correct. James Fallon is the rare exception, though. He's a borderline psychopath, not a full-blown one. As he points out in other videos, he was never abused at all (many psychopaths were), and he had a wonderful childhood. Those things prevented him from becoming totally unmanageable or predatory. He enjoys being honest about psychopathy, whether it's the elements of psychopathy that he has, or psychopathy in general. It gets him attention, which I'm fine with. Most psychopaths are not the violent serial killers we see on TV, but they can still be traumatizing to deal with.

[@rose_yts]

@@TheBadSpoon Amazing how there are more psychopaths walking around than we imagine. They could be your nice next-door neighbour, your dentist, the surgeon who will operate on you soon, your local priest, or your co-worker. They could be anybody. I guess psychopathic teachers working in secondary schools dealing with some students' anti-social behaviour would have an advantage over the sensitive teachers, although they would fail to feel empathy. They could show it, though, after learning the 'tricks' of the 'trade.' So, true, not all psychopaths are serial killers. In fact, it could be advantageous to have one of them doing meticulous professional work for you that requires no emotion. However, be careful; their brain works differently. Don't get on the wrong side of these people. Keep a healthy distance from them if you suspect you are in front of a psychopath, whether they sound and act completely 'normal' or not. Something at some point will go amiss. You will feel it and you might not be able to put your finger on it. Use your intuition.

[@pauldunne5230]

Especially when you see where he thinks the best path for man kind is? Or trans humans or mechahumans. Total psycho.

[@pauldunne5230]

@@TheBadSpoon I can’t see how just having lack of empathy means your a psycho. Doesn’t mean your malicious. Just means people have feelings they can’t control and you have no time for their feelings. Who gets your buildings built? Your roads built? Is men who care not for your every feeling. But tell you to pull your socks up and get on with your work. I know which one I trust to get the job done and it’s certainly not the cry baby who moans if he’s not mollycoddled. Women who think they have any idea of how a mans mind works need to get help. We will not be trained and tamed we are not dogs. We made this world and you will destroy it. Feminism is just a part of Marxism. Your all sheep with no clue.

[@irisharan3038]

the blonde beside him keeps smiling and laughing nervously.

[@vandal2811]

She was holding her lips to not divulge that she was being outed by him.

[@tomasmonkey5432]

Swedish politician named Magdalena Andersson. Everyone hates her and she is the opposite of charming

[@bvvvb]

@@tomasmonkey5432 She's very genuine for a politician and one of very few from the working class. I like her.

[@Qullamaggie]

She became the Prime Minister of Sweden

[@widaAcK]

"It takes one to know one" ;)

[@ZEPIfriedchicken]

Damn, the last answer was a bit sad

[@WalterClements.official]

For his wife it is imagine your husband not "really" loving you

[@LoveIncest]

@@WalterClements.official He does 'love' her, as long as she provides everything that he needs of her. It's not unconditional, but it's love nonetheless

[@jeffreymason7049]

Anyone else notice how he licks the corner of his mouth the way Heath Ledger does for his Joker roll?

[@kelvingivens1629]

Hell yeah

[@mariamanordberg6811]

Omg. I knew someone bad that used to do that. That lizard tongue.

[@valkrie5816]

@@mariamanordberg6811 Lol

[@Real-Ruby-Red]

it's to do with the brain, physcopaths and narccasists tend to have bipolar and ocd. he blinks in stages too when he moves his eyes, everything he does is like a pattern from how he moves his eyes around the group conversation. He is a human with no empathy.

[@wosborne5535]

But I think Heath did that to keep moist due to the makeup 💄

[@ramzihammoud5762]

This is why the most important thing in your life is never reveal your precious personal information to anyone before ypu verify you know them

[@TheEmeliexx]

so interesting omg

[@234dream_big]

He is a good example that in life we have a choice ,even having the psycopathic brain he doesnt killl anybody!

[@jassenjj]

Unfortunately, not. He clearly explains that early childhood environment (which is usually up to 5 y.o.) defines the outcome for the person without self regulation and there is actually no choice. Choices come much later if the person acknowledges their impact on others and if they decide to do something about it. Most of the psychopaths and I would add people with cluster B personality disorders (who presumably are not genetically predisposed to their condition) did not have a choice and they might decide to do something only when they have hit a definitive rock bottom in their lives.

[@adrianavandewetering5588]

He probably killes his wifes feelings and dreams about having a loving caring husband. I bet he destroyed a lot of supposed to be ' happy' moments for her. Its the kind of man that constantly sendsyou the message: you're on your own, i dont really care or love you.

[@meshezza]

That you know about 🤨

[@tq8310]

Terrifying but fascinating.

[@robstimson4234]

Gotta be the most likeable psycho in a LONG time.

[@Lif20-n6n]

Psychos are very likeable. This man is a master manipulator, I can’t believe people fall for it.

[@LoveIncest]

@@Lif20-n6n LOL

[@LoveIncest]

@@Lif20-n6n When did he ever say he wasn't? 💀

[@tobiasjohansson2721]

Magdalena nickar igenkännande när han berättar om hur mycket tid han sparat på att inte bry sig om andras känslor...

[@kyrkbymannen]

Tobias Johansson hon hoppas att Han inte outar henne också

[@rogernevez5187]

7:38 What is the name of this goddess ??

[@valkrie5816]

Shelley stalker

[@widaAcK]

First aid kit

[@UnionRing]

She is ugly

[@birddogfreemann]

He is Self-Centered.

[@MelissaThompson432]

He's an interesting guy.

[@nefelibata4190]

and a psychopathic induvidual.

[@MommaRose956]

Watching this makes me question what it is to fall in love. Could any of us really describe what it means to love a partner/spouse, without including ourselves in the equation? Meaning why do you love me? Because you make me smile and feel good is about you, what is it about me? I don’t think many of us can honestly answer this question without it being a cliche.

[@JulesGardening]

So being a psychopath can be indicated by genes, but the outcome cannot be predicted. A psychopath has no feeling and does not care, yet this one cares enough to do the circuit and explain his psychopathy. A person that likes attention likes attention. To make it more fancy we will say the person is a narcissist.

[@ok.1999]

People are born as psychopaths, which is predatory, not necessarily evil. Neurotypicals sense a fearless and cold person and get it mixed up thinking they are evil, no, they can be but not necessarily Is a lion that does what it was born to do evil? No. Same thing with psychopaths.

[@pjj9491]

Those on here that wanna hate on him...he is telling you that we are all on the spectrum...its how you use that info...DO YOU HAVE A CONSCIENCE??

[@valkrie5816]

4:12 what did he say there? Anyone

[@Mitchthemysteryman]

improvisation in music (making it up as you go)

[@jonesani]

How does he know, that he doesnt feel something, when he never felt something? Its like a blind person talking about colors.

[@bartdomingos]

Clearly other people describe to him certain patterns of behaviors or emotions to which he can't relate therefore implying that he does not have the ability to do so. Same with people who are blind, if everyone was blind they wouldn't be able to tell the difference but because most of us can see we translate that experience, which makes them come to the realization that they in fact are blind.

[@sj1684]

You can tell if someone is a psychopath if you know the common traits, the red flags are there, look for them...It's like having a psychodar 🧐

[@widaAcK]

A word is like a volatile world in itself, I often feel like a gentle psycho among all the verbalising smart people out there. And thx buy thoose waves for all the often meaningless work you do for me and the economiqoues, Im quite lazy

[@mariyaminaaugdahlbesbes2244]

Veldig bra at han tør å stå frem, i alle fall

[@jutanboy]

han tjener penger på det, og han liker oppmerksomhet

[@Fnelrbnef]

@@jutanboy Han skiller seg ikke akkurat ut fra folk flest sånnsett:P

[@nefelibata4190]

he a psychopath, he just adores the spotlight.

[@Fnelrbnef]

@@nefelibata4190 Dude hasn't hurt anyone, and you can't hold being a psychopath against someone. You're just born that way. Hurting people though, that's when judging can start.

[@nefelibata4190]

​@@Fnelrbnef I worked/work /w a girl on the spectrum and she is callous, dangerous and is only in it for her own gains. her friends has tried telling her what she does is wrong, but she gets defensive and doesn't understand the damage she does to other people.

[@hcpiano]

Interesting stuff! :)

[@piecesofu9054]

Anyone else notice his flicks his tongue like Mad eye Moody? Lol...

[@badpoetry33]

The blond lady is soooo uncomfortable, lol 😂

[@matureyoungman]

dude, you're just a scorpio

[@XOChristianaNicole]

LOL! I’m a female Scorpio AND a psychopath (an autistic one, at that). It’s a lot of fun.

[@iesroo]

@@XOChristianaNicole Makes sense

[@Nihilistwriter]

So... Could the psychopath be nietzschian ubermensch? Terrible. Really terrible for the poor sheeps. But this a painful truth: human beings are divided into two groups: wolves (the smallest one) and sheeps (the largest one). Predators and preys. And the weak is doomed to be exploited. Sad but true.

[@VictoriaWonders]

yeah people get mad but they cant help to be the offer the prey

[@Nihilistwriter]

@@VictoriaWonders however I can say that this james fallon has not so "enchanted" me ... in the sense that to truly fall into the psychological trap of a psychopath, one must really be naive and even a little slow to understand and be unfamiliar with psychological matters. No human being is invincible. everyone finds someone smarter and more ruthless.

[@pauloperes9378]

That's not a good analogy. You can be intelligent and compassionate. To be able to build, nourish and maintain trust from friends and the public is an advantage.

[@dante19890]

That's why u need to develop an evil side urself as a good person for protection only to be used wisely

[@Nihilistwriter]

@@dante19890 However it can't matter: Psycho or not, eventually we will all return to the dust in the eternal Nothinghess. We are nothing in this universe. Humans are foolish and self-distructive. Eventually we will become extinct, and there will be no one missing us. Neither a God nor anyone else. Nihilistic conclusion.

[@z0uLess]

This is a very interesting clash of cultures, intellect and "morning television"-goodie twoshoes-conformist-naiveté

[@rhrh9128]

he had a good life so hes good.

[@sambistabeauty]

8:20

[@thegrizzly11]

he is realy caresmatic.

[@peterbruns6124]

@Alehandro Fuego Factor 1 or 2, and was it ASPD?

[@valkrie5816]

@@volumedogs6422 because of no sense of danger because he has no activity in amgdala

[@markstanley4141]

General 4-star mad dog Mattis!.

[@ericjasoneverson]

TRUE......I AM EXACTLY LIKE THIS.

[@sarandipitiqwe4387]

That good info for you to know

[@DanRyanTunnnes]

Grim. Imagine not loving your own children.

[@ok.1999]

It’s not by choice and it isn’t evil. Some people are born less emotional. They can still be good people.

[@ceder4696]

Hes like neil degrasse tyson now neil degrasse tyson is suspisicous to me

[@RayWalker-pythonic]

Wow. What a psycho. ;-)

[@LoveIncest]

😊

[@kennethgarcia25]

The neuroscience is so oversimplified it is hard to relate to what he is saying other than the fact that the environment plays a huge part of the result of the kind of adult we become! So what's new! He overdramatizes the connection between having a risk-prone temperament, having been spoiled, and being a psychopath. You could say jerk or bombastic or overly self-centered, self-involved human being, but so was Picasso. Just because your amygdala does not light up in an fMRI does not mean it is not engaged as the threshold for detection by that device requires high levels of engagement. And then there is the PFC which can dampen the amygdala; all work by LeDoux that is well established. What idiot-psychiatrists thought it was a good idea to tell this narcissist that he is some borderline psychopath to give him a platform in his old age for talking and talking and talking about himself? What this tells you is that it is post-genetic expression that matters a great deal more in terms of the encoded operational strategies that an individual engages in order to obtain optimal outcomes which are rewarded and that those innate influences get tuned by one's experience! Using the overly dramatic "psychopath" term is a wonderfully effective way to sensationalize traits which are well distributed in society to sell his book and monitize incompletely understood research results from small sample sizes.

[@sebastianlange6847]

Can he be a psychopath, though, when he's so open about it?

[@ZosiaSamosiaOo]

I watched more of him on the PsychopathyIs channel and he is not only a professor of neuroscience which would be one answer, but also actively trying to override his psychopathic tendencies so I think he is willing to share the knowledge with the "normal" people.

[@LoveIncest]

There exist individuals like him

[@hopbup7401]

He admitted to being highly narcissistic. This is a source of A LOT of supply for him. It also helps society to it’s a win-win.

[@blackjack4195]

@@hopbup7401 also, since he's a psychopath he feels no shame when talking about these tendencies, so there's no barrier there.

[@kreipflagra3116]

Why doesn't she want to know why she feels things? She could create better music

[@Tantive]

Because intellectualizing music in this probably won't get you the same enjoyment, or that of others. Music is in sense an exploration of it's own.

[@RizztrainingOrder]

Nah, it's evolution. We were made to excel Especially in current society We aren't burdened with petty insecurities and emotional reactions.

[@ok.1999]

I agree, psychopathy is a natural human thing. It’s like specialists.

[@alessiomarin1218]

He sounds nervous.

[@orestispalampougioukis6043]

What? The exact opposite. He is cool all the way through.

[@zigzagzog66]

Alessio Marin it’s literally impossible for him to FEEL nervous

[@Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrw]

@@zigzagzog66 Wrong. So many people have wrong impressions of psychopaths. Psychopaths just don't have emotional antipathy - that's it. I don't know where all this "they don't cry, they aren't scared, they aren't nervous" thing came from... psychopathy isn't some sort of a movie superman lol

[@valkrie5816]

Being nervous is part of emotion he isn't

[@megantaur3683]

@@Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrw they don’t feel fear, they don’t care.

[@69birdboy]

Whose the beautiful brunette

[@widaAcK]

First aid kit

[@chicxulub2947]

They Lymbic system is the Dumbness System.

[@brendanpaoletti2691]

True your 100% accurate on that

[@JICM25]

How can a guy without self awarness...... be AWARE ??? Pshycopaths don´t have conscience, like everyone says, right ? This guy clearly has a conscience, as you can see. The alternative is that he is making this up....

[@Aqualyra]

Consciousness is not the same thing as a conscience. Psychopaths have consciousness - i.e. are self-aware - what they lack is a fully functioning conscience -a sense of right and wrong and morality.

[@JICM25]

Yes, you are right. In my language it seems that there is no difference because those 2 words have the same translation but even tho they are used for those 2 different meanings. And even tho, it´s hard to imagine that those 2 things are not in the same part of the brain..

[@stigone]

This is why we need a new definition for it. I have done every diagnostic possible, and i test through the roof on the "psychopath test", higher then James Fallon. and i have been clinicially diagnosed as a psychopath. Twice. So automatically i run around with a chainsaw and eat human intestines for dinner, right? (just for the record: never commited a violent crime, and never wanted to. did set fire to a public buildingat the age of 10 however. empty, no one got hurt) A moral compass can be taught. It's basic information. We know right from wrong. And like James, i also want to do good. Probably because i feel like i score social points by doing so, and approval is important to me,(and extremely confusing,) as opposed to a warm fuzzy feeling. and avoiding the bad things is simply a risk analysis. but does that matter? all humans are motivated through incentives, the difference is just that our incentives are more pragmatic. in conclusion: the fact that i know all this, and i have spent years seeking knowledge about the issue. makes me extremely more self-aware than average joe across the globe.

[@hagglefaen]

@@Aqualyra conscientiousness is the word actually. as a non-english speaker, I have had trouble with the words conciousness, concience and conscientiousness myself.

[@radanv2535]

It doesnt exclude self-awareness - they just don´t bring in other people in the picture as a factor, they think about others when they need something, they dont "waste" time "feeling" about people, generally.

[@Thulesmann]

The women seem to find him charming and they seem to feel attracted to him. I think that if he wanted to he could seduce them. Am I wrong? What do you all think about that? I am especially interested to know what you women think about that.

[@meshezza]

No I don’t find him charming. And I don’t think those women do either. The women look like they are being polite. Look closer, the Swedish one is smiling but you can see she can only hold this for so long and then her face drops because her smile is fake. Look at the blonde lady, her mouth is smiling and her eyes are giving a completely different reaction. As a woman I don’t find this man attractive or charming

[@Thulesmann]

@@meshezza Interesting. Thank you for your input, Kerry.

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@Filma Tets That makes sense.

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There’s a difference in being confident and being narcissistic. A confident person doesn’t always demand to be the centre of attention. They are usually looking for genuine, interesting people to make actual connections with and are very self aware. Confident people value themselves for what they bring to the table and know, not only their worth but yours too. People often make the mistake of believing narcissism is confidence because a narcissist will usually be at the centre of attention and quite often the loudest in the room. Often referred to as “the life and soul of a party” But they are also obsessed with other peoples perception of them but weirdly, have little self awareness. They are insecure underneath it all because connections are shallow and they believe deep down they are not worthy so they use manipulative behaviours, which again can seem like confidence. They only think about what they can take from the table and what benefits them

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Women may be charmed at first but your gut instinct will tell you if that person is a confident or is just acting. Whether you listen to your gut or can spot manipulative behaviour is a whole other topic 🙃