It’s Gay To Date WOMEN | r/NotHowGuysWork

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[@OneTopic]

Omg hey wait a second that guy looks familiar 🤔 I bet he JUST RELEASED A BOOK!!🥔💛

[@KxNOxUTA]

[@zametal.]

📖🫖🍵⬅ ✨ 📗

[@thepuppetmaster9813]

No way, I love books! I wonder if there's a link to it in the description🤔

[@thepuppetmaster9813]

@@trevorchester4439 one topic is a lady?? Wow he should've told us!

[@faerie5757]

@@trevorchester4439 ??

[@ichguckegerneyoutube8837]

as a woman, yes, it is gay to date women

[@mystupidlife123]

This comment made me weeze and is entirely underrated. Have a fantastic day!

[@OxyMauron]

Can confirm, I am hella gay and dating a woman.

[@DinosaurNick]

As a nonbinary person is it gay or straight to date men/women?

[@OxyMauron]

@@DinosaurNick I'm going to go with no.

[@skoomakity8769]

​@@DinosaurNickregardless who you date it's gay. That's the real non binary perk. Common enby W

[@June_The_Goon]

"No balls no opinion"? Alright then, as a pre-srs trans woman, I hereby declare myself the ambassador of all women. Tell me your woes, sisters, and I shall report them to the council of the Twelve, consisting of 10 plushies, a blåhaj, and some guy I just pulled off the street. His name is Henry, pretty swell guy actually

[@fourthmatchflame]

i met the guy, he's great.

[@joshuanorman2]

i met the blåhaj, they're great

[@dr.velious5411]

Henry is just the best. Did you hear he rescues lost puppies in his spare time?

[@toni2309]

I'm genderfluid, but cuddle your blahaj from me.

[@tateupougnac2531]

Yeah, Henry's a cool guy. He tells good stories and has some pretty nice balls.

[@_.batman_]

Batman supports gay rights, Batman supports trans rights, Batman supports everything. Batman thinks you should be happy 👍

[@Abigael317]

Hooray for Batman again!

[@_.batman_]

​@@Abigael317:D

[@Cerulean13]

thank you batman

[@timothyisstupid]

Common Batman W

[@LunaSkye64]

Thank you Batman

[@_.batman_]

Batman supports gay rights, Batman supports trans rights. Batman is an ally ❤

[@freddiefishton]

Based

[@dashboots376]

Isn't his girlfriend bi?

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

Thanks Batman

[@Abigael317]

Hooray for Batman!

[@freddiefishton]

@@dashboots376 yes

[@Leofwine]

If someone wants to deny me hot chocolate because I'm male, I'm man enough to cut off that person as an acquaintance.

[@KenH60109]

I'd cut off the literally 0% chance of a relationship simply for hating something I like. That sounds like a jerk move but I'm immune to relationships, friends are better no matter what people say.

[@emilyrln]

@@KenH60109 I mean, a friendship _is_ a relationship, but I get what you're saying and that opinion is heckin' valid 😊

[@Ratimus_]

Men have a pelvis; women have a vagelvis. It's basic biology, liberoles

[@roxassora2706]

Pelvis Presley

[@Amara87387]

@@roxassora2706that should not have made me laugh that much, but it did, thank you!”

[@Magic_Skeleton]

Omw to photoshop elvis into the shape of a pelvis

[@IVEmeritus]

This thread is literally perfect

[@Polikaize]

i laughed at "liberoles" almost indecently loud

[@Gamemaster13000]

"You find a handsome one, his brain is empty" My sister in Christ, that's a himbo! Marry that man before someone else does!

[@bazzfromthebackground3696]

Himbos have only been recently popular, I swear.

[@SanneFromBibleStudy1987-gq6vg]

Guess she doesn't want to hold out for a himbo... 😔

[@fire-squid5694]

REAL

[@babowasalwayshere]

Fr himbos are great, you want a good time then find a himbo. They're silly and cute and they're usually alright with a bit of teasing. What's not to love?

[@DrachenGothik666]

Ugh, who would want to marry someone without a thought in their head? Stupid people are *BORING* as fuck!

[@fluffystuff500]

7:59 Ignoring the fact that those literally aren't tampons, I don't know why men wouldn't be allowed to/able to by tampons. In fact, I think straight cis men should be comfortable buying tampons and other period products in case their girlfriend needs them. You don't have to only buy things for yourself.

[@BlueTressym]

"BuT dOiNg HeLpFuL tHiNgS fOr WoMeN iS gAy!" - That dude, probably.

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

@@BlueTressym "BuT uR crEaTinG A tAmpON ShoRtAge!" --TERFs, whenever a trans woman does this

[@katanah3195]

Honestly, I can see how period products with stereotypical pointlessly gendered masculine marketing could be really useful to trans guys. For some it might make the dysphoria worse because it's reminding them they're a guy having a period, but for some I'm sure it'd be less dysphoria inducing than the same products in pointlessly gendered feminine packaging. Personally I'd like period products to do away with the pointlessly gendered packaging altogether, it's bad enough my period reminds me I have a binary physical sex and the ability to have children, I don't need the packaging my pads come in to remind me most people have a static binary gender too.

[@fluffystuff500]

@@katanah3195 That's a very good point. I love the idea of products that trans people use either not being gendered or being gender affirming for some. I'm not trans myself, but I know that the dysphoria that comes with periods is pretty troublesome for the trans men I'm friends with, so I think it would be good to find an easy way, like a change of packaging on gendered products, to lessen that.

[@Alicia-zf3nq]

My dad, despite being married to my mom for 30 years and always doing our groceries, still takes pictures of the packaging of my period products on his phone because otherwise he ends up panicking in the store from all the options. It never fails to amuse me how after all these years, he still can't handle buying period products when it's almost impossible to buy something that I can't use

[@cathleenc6943]

Since gay men don't usually have to worry about impregnating their partners, the idea that a vasectomy makes a man gay is so ridiculous. Also, if a trans woman is planning to have bottom surgery it seems a little redundant to have a vascectomy, so I am not sure where they are going with it being a trans surgery. So apparently to some, it's not just women who are reduced to their ability to have children as their only value, but now men as well. The idea that there is something wrong with wanting to have a healthy sex life with your partner without having any (or any more) kids is so bizarre to me.

[@user-mv5zt8qd9l]

@JeremySims-fv5gi get better bait

[@RedJadeArt]

Would there even be a vas deferens to cut if you had bottom surgery as a woman? There wouldn’t be any balls to connect it to even if you did xD

[@negativedawn136]

@JeremySims-fv5gi you’re just a transphobe. If he’s not telling us these “problems” then how do you know about them?

[@lexezlao]

​@JeremySims-fv5giwho's the she? I don't know who your talking about

[@scouttrout22]

​@JeremySims-fv5gi if you can see what Jamie looks like and still think he's a woman, then you're mentally ill

[@PixelOverload]

I've heard "men don't have a pelvis" so many times and of all things i don't understand how this spread. YOU CAN LITERALLY TOUCH YOUR PELVIS, IT'S ONE OF THE MOST IMMEDIATELY VISABLE BONES IN THE BODY 🤦

[@sportenapfeltorten2095]

Ah hell na if your a dude and your touching your own pelvis, then your touching a mans pelvis. Thats some gayyyyyyy shit. :DDDDD

[@SexiestPenguin]

I guess it's because people see shows where people identify a skeleton as female "because of the pelvis" and don't realize it's because it's a different shape.

[@TJF588]

Feels like it's in that vein of clinical language becoming vernacularly specific. Here, "pelvis" is conflated with "prominent hips". ...Wanna say I've heard more, but all that's coming to mind is how folks'd say "females" rather than "women", even outside of Obviously Chud aLpHa MaLe circles.

[@electronics-girl]

Do they not know "pelvis" is a bone? Maybe they hear "pelvic exam" and assume it's part of the female reproductive system? 🤷‍♀

[@hoshireed77]

Have they never heard of Elvis the Pelvis?

[@yerocb]

I remember reading about research (a long time ago) that female partners of men with micropenis (clinically small) reported MUCH higher rates of sexual satisfaction than men with large penises. The theory was that they knew how to communicate with and please their partner while the guys with big equipment thought that was enough and didn't learn any other skills than just shoving it in.

[@BlueTressym]

I'd agree with that. So often 'big' is conflated with 'good' that boys with big ones grow up into men who think they don't need to make an effort to please their partners because more penis = more pleasure. The owners of smaller ones are more likely to put in the effort to make up for their perceived flaw.

[@missnaomi613]

As a vagina owner, this makes sense.

[@nobody.of.importance]

@@missnaomi613 Shit, you can actually afford to own one? As a Gen Xer, I have to rent mine.

[@alex_blue5802]

@@nobody.of.importance I know this is a joke but I'm terrified now.

[@animeartist888]

Woman engaged to a man with a less-than-average size, especially when soft. He is an angel in the bedroom, always more worried about me than about himself. If he gets tired before he's done, it's fine to stop there, but he counts how many times I hit the pinnacle and holds himself to a minimum number of those (which I've told him not to do, but I'm pretty sure he still does). All those times hearing "length doesn't matter as much as how you use it"- they were so, SO correct!

[@greybey4385]

In reference to the last TikTok: I'm European and when I first heard that apparently dicks can get 12 inches long, I had no feeling of how long that was. When I did some math and actually grasped the concept of inches, I was like "Holy shit that's long" and from then on I started spending my days trying to figure out how 12 inches can fit into anyone's underwear. I'm still confused

[@LyzergideDaydreaming]

Yeah it’s something like 30cm?? Crazy and I doubt it’s realistic

[@thatotherted3555]

Some get longer and thicker when erect, so they don't necessarily have to fit in underwear at full size (as long as you're careful). I used to think everyone knew that, but apparently not. That said, the biggest I've ever encountered was 11 inches and the gentleman it belonged to was very tall and broad-built. Anything over 9 is pretty rare.

[@jayfalcon-rw3qc]

Soft and hard lengths are different

[@elizabellamy2936]

Honestly, I wondered how a 12 inch penis would comfortably fit into a vagina.

[@a-goblin]

in addition to the other responses, folks with big dicks tend to wear boxers, so their dick just hangs to one side or the other, which is why pants' inseam lengths can be pretty important. although there are big dick havers that wear briefs, boxer briefs, and trunks, and those just kinda involve gentle folding in some direction, and it doesn't hurt bc flaccid dicks are pretty malleable.

[@Dfarrey]

I'm a gay man with big hands, and now I'm questioning reality.

[@AddiRockART]

Very confusing… 😳 oh no lol

[@_.batman_]

Relatable, to Batman

[@thebluetornado6705]

Same

[@Am3lia77]

Are you sure you’re gay??? 🤔🤔🤔🤔 Jk

[@Dfarrey]

@@Am3lia77 I don't know anymore! What am I going to tell my husband?

[@Geekypoodle]

"Reasons to date me 1. I can cook 2. We can eat pizza naked in bed 3. Hilarious If 1-3 dont do it look at my butt, if not then you like men" Duh, you literally just described my boyfriend perfectly

[@Bishook]

bro i was literally reading down the list hoping it was about a man 😭

[@Ares_V]

I was gonna ask where I get one of those and then I remembered I'm not good at long term relationships. What are my odds of finding a guy that 1. Can cook 2. Orders me pizza so I can eat naked alone in bed 3. Leaves me the fuck alone until I say otherwise. 4. Nice butt and wide back but, doesn't compare my body to his. Am I asking for too much?

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

is he hilarious?

[@KenH60109]

They literally just described all the reason I don't like girls. I'd eat pizza while watching interstellar or across the spiderverse with friends, not some girl I don't know well. I don't give a crap what your butt looks like, that's disgusting, I'm not gonna date you, and I KNOW that I don't like guys so I'm gonna stay in the corner eating my garlic bread while watching Jaiden Animations.

[@Geekypoodle]

@starscreamthecruel8026 yes, even when im having a bad day he still knows how to make me laugh

[@jennytaylor3986]

A woman unironically using the phrase "high value man" makes me ill 😓

[@BahamutEx]

Same with men using "high value woman" or "females".

[@julietfischer5056]

Especially since the 'high value' definition doesn't include a long-term relationship with a partner.

[@nunpho]

I've never actually heard a woman say that. It's always just those manosphere weirdos

[@OzzBoxx]

​@@nunpho A lot of women always say it, unfortunately. Usually the ones who say they're a 10 out of 10, as if that rating matters.

[@_Sloppyham]

@@BahamutEx I feel like I have to use the word females when a conversation is relevant to trans people. I live in South Mississippi and the separation between gender and sex is not a popular concept.

[@sharlharmakhis280]

'real men know how to fix all the things' = cringe 'real men have the sense to know when they're in over their skill level and call in a specialist' = based EDIT: Torthrodhel pointed out that this applied to *all* gender presentations and identities. Toxic individualism (that 'I must be able to do everything myself!' nonsense I find myself struggling with a lot) is a problem *anyone* can have.

[@babowasalwayshere]

Honestly I adore that in any situation. Doctor knows when to refer to a specialist? Excellent, A+++ would recommend that doctor. Therapist knows when they don't have proper training to help you and recommends you to someone who specializes in your particular issues? Also great, would recommend them. People who are skilled and confident but also secure enough in their own abilities to acknowledge their own shortcomings instead of pretending to know how to do something they clearly have no experience in, and bring in someone better equipped to fill in those gaps are SO attractive and great.

[@shadowldrago]

Turns out, specialists know what they're doing and have their job for a reason.

[@Torthrodhel]

Based... or it would be, if you removed the gender specificity. That damn gender specificity always getting in the way of anything being awesome by itself on its own merits.

[@BryanLu0]

​@@TorthrodhelI agree with your statement, but for the purposes of the joke, it would seem to be a non-sequitur without the parallelism to the first line.

[@IDoABitOfTrollin]

Fr I respect people more when they say "Im not sure, let me ask someone who would know"

[@kurotsuki7427]

"Omg theres womens products for men!" "Ummm, men can piss themselves too you know"

[@thegaytay4327]

This reminds me of that one terf who was bragging about bladder problems and peeing herself on a trampoline because that makes her a real woman

[@This_dumb_b0y]

@@thegaytay4327wtf 😶

[@NoxietyPrime]

@@thegaytay4327 Huh? ... HUH???

[@quiestinliteris]

​@@thegaytay4327oh, yeah, I remember listening to that one within the last few days, but I can't remember what channel. "My body is wrecked! I'm miserable every second of every day and constantly leaking from multiple orifices! THAT is what it means to be a woman!!!" ... ma'am... MA'AM??? Are you okay???

[@amyscott9381]

A lot of the time urinary incontinence in older women is the result of past pregnancies - there are a whole variety of things that pregnancy and childbirth can do to the body, such as uterine prolapse etc. So I think the terf was claiming that having this problem showed that she was a “real” woman 😝. Of course even us non-mothers can have other things wrong, so…. Anyway, can’t wait until uterus transplants for trans women become a thing 😉

[@AddiRockART]

I think that first one is saying, if you’re a little older, and a woman doesn’t have kids, dating her is the same as dating a man. You’re secretly gay if as an adult you don’t want children, and she’s not a real women if she doesn’t have kids………. Which is definitely not how any of this works

[@amandasunshine2]

I thought it was like "you can only be sure a woman is a real woman if she has proof she has a working uterus" 🤷‍♀️

[@athenaraines]

Fellas, is it gay to recognize the economic reality that having a child is prohibitively expensive for the middle class?

[@NoobGamer-hn5rs]

well i must be gay then since i dont want kids due to medical reasons... my boyfriend and i are content not to have them

[@Miroslava_Ivanova]

I might be very clinical from all the crap that's been around recently, but I also read it as "If she doesn't have children, how can you be sure she's a "real" woman", dissing trans people yet again, although there's many reasons for cis women not to have kids, too 😑

[@bosstowndynamics5488]

​@@Miroslava_IvanovaJust expanding on this, the sort of people who are desperate to exclude trans women because they're scared of some abstract concept of infectious gayness that doesn't exist, are also the sort of people who don't care in the least about the idea of hurting other people as well. After all, they're quite happy to explicitly and deliberately hurt trans women, what's it to them if they hurt some cis women along the way?

[@Illogical.]

Not all men deserve a pelvis. Matt Walsh does not deserve a pelvis.

[@persassyjackson6924]

Petition to evict all of Matt Walsh's bones from his body

[@stephaniet1389]

​@@persassyjackson6924 His bones deserve better. Petition to emancipate them so they can join the Skeleton Wars!

[@akianopiates]

petition to remove matt walsh's muscles next! other people need them more 💪

[@susanleslie6178]

I think his chin ran away from him, hence the bad beard!

[@Illogical.]

@four4o4 I can't tell if your suggestion is muscle transplantation or cannibalism.

[@toni2309]

Unfortunately for me, I am gay and scared of men.

[@jayfalcon-rw3qc]

Tbf we are kinda scary

[@LyzergideDaydreaming]

Too relatable

[@sportenapfeltorten2095]

I guess I am a little bit bi. And I am scared if all beautiful people. :( :)

[@ThisChangeIsAwful]

i feel this. I want a man but they scare me too

[@toni2309]

What we gonna do, fellas?

[@purplesam2609]

Aside from my other comment, I'd like to share something my dad said to me when it came to me using men's restrooms in Kentucky before I had top surgery: "You have serious balls to do that, and the sad part is you get them from your mother" Honestly, with what I know about my dad, he's got serious balls too. He was more openly gay back in the 70s until a really traumatizing event, which he wasn't open about until after I had started my transition. I think he should know, for being strong through all his hardships, that I don't think I just got that from mom

[@Lisa_Flowers]

you should tell him!

[@Aerodumb]

I'm sorry about your father's past trauma and I hope he gets to at least feel a bit more comfortable talking about it.

[@freddogrosso9835]

That's really sweet. Thanks for sharing.

[@dantevito1193]

1:29 i think it's implying that women without kids might be trans ("scared these days"). And them not seeing trans women and women, think that's "gay"

[@samarnadra]

Thank you, bearer of the decoder ring.

[@TheAutisticFrog]

And they think that being gay is bad

[@hernameispekka_Rebecca]

Ohh, that makes sense. I mean... it really doesn't, but I think that is the correct translation, haha.

[@amandasunshine2]

This is what I was thinking. "If she doesn't have proof she has a working uterus (or at least did at one point), you can never be truly sure she's a real woman"

[@PanthereaLeonis]

I figured it was just the misogynistic "you're not a woman if you don't have kids", and that grown women without kids were equal to men. So a man going for the childless woman is just "closeted gay". Which... what? No? There are so many "men only want to make offspring"-takes, but when a guy tries to just be a boyfriend/husband without the dad part, then he has to be gay? Sometimes I swear the entire Internet is sharing half a brain. Hyperbole of course, there are smart people on here, but the illogical and irrational ones are very loud.

[@theasexualvampire13]

"men don't drink hot chocolate"? every Hallmark Christmas movie ever would like to disagree.

[@Omneyvdwatering]

When I was in my teens my dad always bought the female products for my mom and me. I never questioned it.

[@dutchik5107]

You shouldn't. Grown men shouldn't feel weird about that. It's just groceries

[@AnxietyRat]

​@@dutchik5107yeah, it's literally the same as buying toilet paper or laundry soap.

[@velvetbutterfly]

@@dutchik5107I thought groceries only referred to food items but yeah; no point to feel weird

[@tamaradavis2276]

The girl with a measuring tape should get an award.

[@cathleenc6943]

I think the first post was the woman saying "you never know for sure if a woman is trans unless she has children."

[@sundalosketch4769]

Even then, there's holes in that argument. Kids can be adopted or the mother could not be the one who carried the child. These types really don't think their stuff through smh.

[@joshuanorman2]

You need to literally watch a woman give birth to be sure she's not trans. You can't just ask of course.

[@user-mv5zt8qd9l]

@@joshuanorman2 better make sure the doctors aren't all paid actors too, while you're at it!

[@joshuanorman2]

@@user-mv5zt8qd9l the baby was an actor.

[@amandasunshine2]

​@@sundalosketch4769transphobes are scientifically proven to be less intelligent. They literally don't have the brain capacity to understand what they're saying.

[@Soilfood365]

The whole 'consuming nice things is female, men only consume things that are bitter, painful and unpleasant' always makes me think of Blackadder's puritan aunt sneering at Blackadder's indulgence in having chairs ('At home, Bernard sits of a spike,'), and when asked whether she also sits on one, answers "Oh, no, two spikes would be a luxury; I sit on Bernard.'

[@ricequin]

My husband had his vasectomy for the most “straight” reason imaginable. I couldn’t be approved for necessary surgery unless we had permanent contraception in place but it was deemed too risky for me to have an additional surgery to tie my tubes. Admittedly, he has never wanted to “create a legacy”, but it’s still very much not something that made him trans or gay that he chose to undergo an invasive procedure for the sake of his wife.

[@emilyreames7748]

What surgery would require permanent contraception? (I'm shouting my confusion to the void; I'm curious but your business is your own)

[@lopezcarmencecilia]

​@@emilyreames7748 Idk if I'm 100% correct but if you're uterus/ovaries are removed you need hormones which you might get from contraception (the pill).

[@diamonddestiny704]

Husband of the fucking year. In my country a woman has to have her husband written consent to have her uterus removed in case of uterine/cervix cancer or severe endometriosis. And sometimes women seek divorce to access vital healthcare just because their partners are fucking monsters and the system is inherently cruel and patriarchal.

[@adrienstarfaer]

I think people have forgotten that you can get a vasectomy after having offspring. My dad got a vasectomy after I was born, so by their stupid definition, he still has a legacy, and it's me.

[@tdelioncourt1268]

I think they meant they should have as much kids as they could, anti birth control folks. Unless one has a Gengis Khan legacy THEY'RE NOT A MAN /s

[@sharlharmakhis280]

If you get The Snip 'cause you don't want kids you're automatically more appealing to me because I don't want 'em either and even if we aren't compatible like that we can still hang out and swap stories about our niblings. I see that as a win!

[@sdennen]

There are also still people who think the balls are removed, so I also wonder if that plays a part in the stupid ideology 🤦‍♀️

[@NeonDripKitty]

They also seem to forget you can have kids after a vasectomy cause they are reversible, my dad got it undone VERY shortly after divorcing my mum, and he ended up having a bastard child with his girlfriend that he got with REALLY soon after the split and still hasn't married to this day for tax reasons, sorry for the little vent

[@juno.moth17]

i love the fact that r/NotHowGirlsWork is mainly guys not knowing how girls work and r/NotHowGuysWork is mainly guys not knowing how guys work

[@dyamimite]

do some people think that people insert a whole pair of incontinence underwear when they're on their period??? that just seems nightmareish (also yes, they do make tampons for guys! they're called 'tampons', cos people who menstruate aren't only women

[@fallenbee]

There are such thing as period underwear and they're actually quite popular haha Edit: I missed the insert part of the comment, forgot they called them tampons too HAHA that does sound nightmarish

[@HighAsHeckPriestess]

The incontinence pads are great for night time because they're really absorbent

[@Aziara86]

Tampons were originally created to plug up bullet wounds so soldiers wouldn't bleed to death. Battlefield nurses started using them to plug a different bleeding hole. So yeah, tampons are actually unisex

[@Goomzz]

Actually adult diapers are great for sleeping when on your period. Even with overnight pads fluids can sometimes get around them. So it's nice to be fully protected!

[@FranViljoen-zv2kx]

Show of hands, who else wishes they could join these two boys for a round of really fruity umbrella drinks?It just sounds like a complete blast 😁

[@AmbarGriss]

O/

[@nathryl03]

🙋‍♀

[@Torthrodhel]

Pint of lager for me thanks. Hold the alcohol but certainly plonk in a bunch of fun brollos.

[@IVEmeritus]

I rarely drink, but O/

[@Torthrodhel]

@@IVEmeritus something tickled my overly-literal mind about someone with a skeletal picture saying "I rarely drink" lol

[@felixjones-elliott4860]

using a knife to eat an icy pole is honestly a great tactic for women to eat them without being sexualised by men. with the added bonus of being vaguely intimidating

[@an8strengthkobold360]

Just sounds fun tbh, adding knives makes most things more fun tbh.

[@velvetbutterfly]

You know, I always wondered why someone like Claire in Resident Evil just carried a knife with her. It is my headcanon that she uses it for popsicles

[@Ahhhfreeatlast]

It looks so badass too when the blade starts to show

[@Amy_the_Lizard]

That last TikTok was essentially a conversation my mom had with one of her old coworkers. The woman wouldn't shut up about some porno she watched, and my mom (who's not very comfortable with explicit content) and my mom could hear her very clearly from her desk, so finally she got frustrated and yanked a ruler out of her desk, marched over, held the ruler next to the woman's pelvis for comparison, and said: "This is not survivable."

[@thatnekootaku]

As a woman, your children will not automatically be born with less testosterone. My dad is your average man, and I (again, as an AFAB) was born with too much testosterone. Funny thing is, my dad has too much estrogen. I like to say we swapped hormones

[@EvanLovesWhiskey]

Male born with too much estrogen, I had to have breast reduction for cancer

[@sunettas9738]

​@@EvanLovesWhiskeyHope you're doing better now!

[@stormydragon2668]

I think the "responsible = not romantic" thing is that very responsible people sometimes have a tendency to over-plan things, which can make it hard to achieve the spontaneity we often associate with romance

[@136-rats-in-a-trenchcoat]

Poor OT worrying that Click would leave him if he wasn’t funny.

[@alex_blue5802]

I laughed so hard I had trouble clicking like.

[@russergee49]

😂

[@SuspiciousTemmie]

"We cаn eаt pizza nakеd in bеd" This sounds like an аcе jokе lmao "Why hаvе ѕеx whеn you cаn hаvе pizza instеad?"

[@DaOldSkoolHipHopJunkie]

Not ace myself but this is how I would roll 👍

[@vampiricicarus979]

7:00 the first part was written by a lesbian and then a straight man stole her typewriter.

[@hatchethead3355]

I'm out here looking for the gender-affirming surgery that removes or implants a PELVIS!!!

[@joshuanorman2]

Get a second! Or a third!

[@artistdudebro]

​@@joshuanorman2got me 4 pelvises, gonna collect a 5th in a few weeks ☺️👍

[@dr.velious5411]

7:26 In fairness, Im a trans girl and cute girls short out my brain, this made me pretty dysphoric until I talked to my sister who is a cis lesbian, and apparently the same stunlock happens to her lol.

[@LadyDreamfyre]

It's the classic wlw pinning followed by our best seduction tactic: maybe if I look at her from across the room and pray really hard she'll notice me 😂😂

[@pingidjit]

Can confirm. Cis lesbian who is also afflicted by stunlock. It's not often but its almost always awkward when it occurs. The only times it isn't awkward is when it happens at work and I can resort to my work script to get me through any necessary interaction. If they throw me a curve ball though... we are instantly at awkward and me hoping anything I can garble out makes some sense and is work appropriate.

[@mjamin9124]

i'm bi, so i'm just fucked

[@CrepuscularQueen]

A girl went up to me once at a thriftstore and asked me how old I was. I literally forgot my age because she was so pretty and it seemed she was wondering if we were around the same age. Very much a lesbian moment for me

[@mikaroni_and_cheez]

Cure girls have a built-in EMP it's true I see cute girls and I cannot approach because otherwise it'll feel like I'm a computer next to a magnet

[@RedJadeArt]

11:18 Me, a trans girl, on my way to get my opinions removed

[@arynpreddy8318]

One time at a bar a guy got genuinely upset with me for ordering myself a fruity cocktail instead of a beer. I said I wanted to enjoy the taste and he was fuming, saying no one will like me if I’m difficult. Some men can just be strange with their flirting techniques 🤷

[@jonnaking3054]

when I was in first grade, students would call boys "gay" for having a girlfriend 😂😆

[@missnaomi613]

What the actual f...

[@sophiejones3554]

Well yes, but six yr olds can be forgiven for not actually knowing what that word means. Grown adults however...

[@ZeldaWayne_Letsplays]

@@sophiejones3554When the word 'gay' was first used it meant happy so... there's that

[@tale7955]

Fellas, is it gay to like girls?

[@velvetbutterfly]

I'm reminded of that Simpsons episode. "Look, Nelson has a girlfriend" "what are you, gay?"

[@apexbrachydios5385]

HAPPY PRIDE EVERYONE 🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧🏳‍⚧🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧🏳‍🌈🏴‍☠🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧🏳‍🌈

[@SapphoArtz]

pirate pride!!

[@apexbrachydios5385]

@@SapphoArtz I didn't mean to put that there but I'm keeping it

[@ConejitoPequenito]

​@apexbrachydios5385 it belongs. We are stealing july 🏴‍☠️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[@KenH60109]

Happy pride!

[@satonimon2774]

although its not pride month, i call for pride everytime! happy pride!

[@curiousnerdkitteh]

A straight guy once told me that he really just wants to have a romantic relationship with a woman, ending (seriously) with "I know... Sounds gay."

[@frankscraprobot5209]

Watching this video with a nice cup of hot chocolate and getting a lovely dose of gender affirmations and euphoria. A great way to spend the night.

[@shanin8659]

Have you ever tried frozen hot chocolate???? I swear I could drink it every day!

[@frankscraprobot5209]

@@shanin8659 No I have not but now I might need to try it, thank you!

[@satonimon2774]

@@frankscraprobot5209 this comment section is so wholesome.. well, except for the transphobes...

[@KenH60109]

Oh yeah, all I need in life is family, friends, a good career, and to be able to enjoy those nice little things in life with the people I love. That "significant other" doesn't exist, and I'd love to keep it that way. It just sounds so much more peaceful that way. :D

[@mcfrog5473]

4:06 As a gay man, other men scare me way more than women

[@demigoddemigirl]

15:52 "the handsome is empty" I'M DYING

[@OdinsSage]

My uncle is adamant he has to fix everything that goes wrong in his house (he's very cheap and doesn't want to pay someone who actually knows what they're doing) and always refuses to let his wife call a professional. But every time he tries to "fix" something he never looks up guides or asks for advice, and always makes the problem 10xs worse. This guy is an engineer... That "we repair what your husband 'fixed'" thing is absolutely directed at men like my uncle.

[@TheRealBiggieCheese69420]

Biggie cheese supports LGBTQ+ rights. Be like me. Support rights.

[@nobody.of.importance]

Biggie Cheese sounds like a pretty rad fella. I think I can roll with that.

[@BiDisaster327]

Thank you Biggie cheese. Very cool

[@garmadongg]

BIGGIE CHEESE 😭😭😭😭😭😭🪦

[@TheRealBiggieCheese69420]

@@garmadongg yes, I am here

[@garmadongg]

@@TheRealBiggieCheese69420 ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@pencilpauli9442]

Okay I have to confirm that it is totally true that women can turn a man into a gibbering wreck. It may not be scientifically true, but that was me whenever I tried to talk to a woman I found attracted to. Wibble wobble jelly on a plate! lol

[@IceFoxPlaysActual]

Heh mood

[@Mynti_Dragon]

As a bi enby, trying to talk to people I’m attracted to is universally a one way ticket to awkward brain soupification.

[@KenH60109]

I’m immune to the pull of attractive people.

[@DinosaurNick]

I'm nonbinary and there's a guy that turns me into a gibbering mess! lol

[@DinosaurNick]

@@Mynti_Dragon ME!

[@jewels3400]

Its so strange to me that "not how men work" sometimes doubles as "not how women work"

[@thylacoleonkennedy7]

3:04 Like lego people? No hips, just legs with a hinge joint.

[@deadlymelody27]

My partner is definitely the "you cant ask him to do 2 things or ask 2 questions" 😂 but im pretty sure he has adhd. If you ask him to do 2 things, he has already started walking away and is so laser focused on the first task that he wont hear anything else you say so you have to make it super clear that there is 2 parts to the task before he wanders off 😂 same with texts, you have to make sure he has read everything and double check, the amount of times i say "did you pick up the [item of shopping?" "Oh no i didnt see that part" .... but you replied and got everything else after that message 🙃

[@thebadpoet]

That men don’t have pelvis’ thing is how middle schoolers draw human figures the first time. They can pretty much handle head, neck, torso, even shoulders and arms. But below the high hip it just goes LEGS. I can’t count the number of times I say “remember hips exist, how are those legs attached to the rest of the body?” During a basic figure drawing lesson.

[@Acidfunkish]

A phobia is "an irrational fear of, or AVERSION to" something.

[@Jagjamin]

The don't ask a guy two questions at once, this is generally good advice regardless of gender. If you ask two questions, not only will just one be answered, it is always the least important one that does. If you must ask multiple questions, such as in a work e-mail, number them, this encourages people to provide answers to all questions.

[@aprildenham5376]

Also do not word questions in the form "Do you X or not?" as a response of "yes" is unclear.

[@tale7955]

My ex used to get so mad at me for doing this, which I always found funny because that's how my dad taught me to be, if two orders come in, you answer the last one.

[@clearlieme]

I had a step dad who wouldn't drink out of a straw. Would get angry if he was served a drink with a straw, because straws were for women. I presume because... sucking on a phallic object. But he had no issue with me, a literal child, using a straw so who knows man.

[@packman2321]

On the brain development thing: The reason that moves around is that it depends what part of the brain you pick. Brains are never actually 'fully developed', they're made of lots of different systems that all develop and fall off at different rates. Some bits peak at 20, some bits at 25, some bits at 40, some bits at 7 and some abilities continue improving across the entire unless you get a neurodegenerative condition (or at least they continue up past 90 and we don't have much data from 100+ year olds). The additional problem is that brains are dynamic organs. How you use them greatly influences what they can do and how they do it. So the idea that there's a fixed age that brain bits become finished at is totally off base. If you do maths for ten years at school, then stop doing maths, your brain is going to reallocate resources and your abilities will drop. This can be super granular too. One study I found showed that children were better at maths questions phrased in exam formats, but adults did better if you framed them as shopping calculations (even in that the adults in the test did better if asked the question in a shopping centre). And of course all of this varies wildly person to person and transculturally (as different culturers often have separate expectations for how to approach particular problems which effect what order they develop skills in and how those skills interact. Piagetian Syllogisms don't tend to work in studies many cultures for example, where syllogisms aren't as valued a form of interaction. This doesn't mean 'the brain isn't developed' rather it means that you have to approach 'brain development' as a thing that's culturally shaped, because the brain is a social organ engaged in the culture. And we also have to be aware that a lot of that developmental literature, is actually a smokescreen various white supremacies [this isn't intentional on Piagets part, to my knowledge, but it's definitely been used that way. Piaget just happened to be particularly interested in western logic and so he's vulnerable to a lot of the issues western epistemologists often are. In fact he was just studying children, because they were opportunistic way to study logical structures]). Also I regret to inform you, that no *it* isn't a muscle. The relevant muscles involved in erections are just the cremaster and bulbospongiusus (I have definitely misspelled that). They compress some veins to fill spongy tissue up with blood, and it's that spongey tissue which does the work. Those muscles are pretty small and inside the body, so they probably wouldn't have any impact on appearance. I can't think of a way to exercise them either, other than maybe peeing really hard. This is not a fact I thought I'd ever need to retrieve :|

[@anniebumblebee]

18:47 That is my favorite tiktok of all time 😂

[@lauriannehollingworth299]

Yeah but who are they tho!? 😢

[@GlitterEnby]

Oh my gosh, do OT and Jamie not realize how many men try to fix things that they don't know how to fix, not because their wives want them to do it, but our of pure ego. Some of them, their wives can be like, "honey, it's okay, we can hire someone," and they'll be like "NO, I can do it myself. Real men do their own repairs."

[@WritingsOfQuill]

I know women like this 💁

[@GlitterEnby]

@@WritingsOfQuill I don't mean it doesn't happen. It just seemed like Jamie and OT missed that the joke has a little basis in reality unfortunately.

[@andie_pants]

... and I came out and started my mtf transition at 43! Nice.

[@maush.]

You go , girl!!

[@31_DiVi]

Currently waiting for Jamie's book and just wanted to thank him for being one of the most important and influential characters that lead me to accept myself as a tras man The beginning of my journey was heavily influenced by internalised transphobia, transmedicalists, etc, I don't think I would've made it to where I am without Jamie's positive influence that showed me that there is another, much happier and glittery ✨ path🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ He is one of the reasons I'm walking into my 20s as a proud man💪🏼 So thank you ❤🎉 Also video like this has been the way I discovered OT and then Click and that's what's gotten me though my IB finals, while also providing very positive role models for healthy masculinity that my conservative upbringing kinda lacked 💁🏽🕺 (ps sorry if English isn't perfect, it's my second language)

[@SuspiciousTemmie]

There's nothing wrong with your English at all!

[@arih_rih]

thanks for sharing your story. the internet can be lovely sometimes. also your English is good and totally understandable. best of luck during your finals man!!

[@esmeraldaloschuetz9120]

Ohhh, how lovely for you! Proud of you, as you should be of yourself! All the best, king!

[@jamesnelson6656]

1. Great English, even better than most who have it as their first language 2. Just bc I’m curious, what is your first language?

[@Amara87387]

Don’t worry about your English. If it’s bad, it’s not your fault, it’s because it’s a stupid language, as someone who’s first language is English

[@fictionalortrue541]

Eating pizza whilst undressed in bed sounds quite... unappetizing to me, but I'm ace, barely cis (don't like what's between my legs), and don't want crumbs in my bed and on my plushies! 😭

[@nobody.of.importance]

The undressed part is the only part I'm against. Pizza, bed, and tv tho? Yes.

[@dragonrider3572]

that one googly eye holding on for dear life only to be ripped away at 13:23 o7

[@rebeccasatterley1542]

Love the tiktok at the end. More men need to know this and be confident in the size they are. It does not take a lot of length to satisfy.

[@toni2309]

Unfortunately, being trans and opting for metoidioplasty doesn't necessarily always come with a result big enough for penetrative sex, so that's not necessarily helping all of us feel confident.

[@rebeccasatterley1542]

@toni2309 Does it help to know that many people don't get orgasms from penetrative vaginal sex alone? Clitoral stimulation is much more likely to achieve orgasm reliably. If you and your partner are wanting penetration and can't get it, I'm really sorry. I'm sure you've tried changing positions and sex furniture, but I still want to plug Liberator for anyone else who's having trouble.

[@toni2309]

@@rebeccasatterley1542 I'm actually not that far in transition and haven't had any surgeries yet, but I know phalloplasty isn't an option for me. I'm also gay and don't have a partner but feel kind of uncomfortable with the whole gay sex thing because I'd want to top but feel like not having an actual penis wouldn't actually make me desirable as a top. Honestly, feeling unsafe in those situations because of how people might react to my trans body being what is keeping me from hooking up, getting the assumption that I must have a partner actually makes it worse.

[@rebeccasatterley1542]

@toni2309 I'm sorry for making assumptions. The video and my initial comment both were commenting on vaginal penetrative sex, so when you replied, I assumed you were also talking about the same. I don't have the right background to comment on male gay sex.

[@AliceBunny05]

Be confident in the length they are and also take it as a cue to learn more important things about sex than just "bigger is better and more is more". Cuz neither of these things are universally true at all and a lot of people really don't know that

[@Sigart]

After my 37 years of life I can with confidense tell you that getting just one answer for two questions is an "all people" thing, not a guy thing.

[@allanjmcpherson]

Unfortunately, that attitude that men should be able to fix anything is really widespread. As a result, I've seen more than one musical instrument come in needing more work than was initially the case because the father tried to fix it. So while that sign is kinda cringe, it's also sadly kind right.

[@Tanzenergise]

andrew tate was saying mental illness wasn't real and then started talking about how he was seeing ghosts in prison lol

[@GrimNiknil]

Fun fact: the peewee is actually spongiform tissue and the "growth" you get from exercise is just the loss of fat in the surrounding tissue as there is always 1 to 2 inches below the "surface", most of which will stay below for stability. The spongiform tissue fills with blood making it hard, but the only muscle muscles are the pelvic muscles around it which is why clenching can make it Twitch but you can't control when it "tenses" like you can actual muscles. Thank you for coming to my TEDtalk

[@robinjac4322]

yes, this

[@RavenMenel]

"First video or your last" OT don't be so ominous, my gosh! XD

[@I_am_Irisarc]

About Andrew Tate being an "odd duck", OT, you're off by one letter.

[@Bagel-is-yum]

“Men don’t have hips” then explain mine that are breaking and requiring two surgeries to fix 😭

[@nobody.of.importance]

Oof. You have my sympathies, my dude. That has got to be painful. Wish you the best in the surgeries.

[@pathevermore3683]

Stop being batman, it's not good for your body.

[@FriendlyKobold]

13:29 d-do people legit just say no when they mean yes????

[@mikaroni_and_cheez]

Some people do play hard to get. And those people are annoying because clear communication of want is Infinitely Better than mind games.

[@AliceBunny05]

​@@mikaroni_and_cheezabsolutely. people try to say that it makes things so complicated and women as a whole are sending mixed messages on if it's okay or not to pursue someone who's said no, when that isn't the case at all. It's very clear to me and anyone with half a working brain that the people who try to get you to play mind games and guess what they want and chase after them are just insecure and the opposite of the kind of person you should want to be with. If you're not secure in your worth as a person, of course you'd want someone to "prove" they really want you that badly.

[@John_Weiss]

6:16 Actually, Sad Fact: the gay male community _does_ have a misogyny problem. It's just not the same as the hetero/patriarchy version.

[@AliceBunny05]

yeah, it can present itself in some different ways because there is no sexual gratification aspect, but I've definitely met moreee than one misogynistic gay man, including a misogynistic gay trans man! so that's fun.

[@John_Weiss]

@@AliceBunny05 A misogynistic trans man actually makes more sense than most people might think. Like, there's a complete rejection and hatred of all things "feminine" happening there. Or an externalization and projection of their own dysphoria.

[@lavenderandwine]

The vasectomy one is so wild to me because my best friend doesn't want to be pregnant nor does she want kids. Her husband also doesn't want children. Between a vasectomy and tube tying, the vasectomy was the easier option and least likely between the two to get denied. Sterilization isn't a bad thing. I know I'd feel so much anxiety and dysphoria relief if I could get a hysterectomy. Also not sure why people are so obsessed with legacies. A legacy is in the memories and marks you've made on the world in the living memory of people not in the production of children. Like y'all ain't royalty with lands or political power to bequeath your descendants. I really feel like it's a strange class/power romanticism thing mixed with this weird Christian-cultural drive to populate and spread the "Good" Word.

[@rinlozio1108]

From what I learned the 2 question thing is something neurotipical people do xD when I text my autistic and adhd friends a couple questions they answer all of them, and so do I, but when I send it to my neurotipical friends, they will only answer the last one and I don't understand why, and I'm so annoyed!

[@KxNOxUTA]

Oh ...... oooohhhhh. I wanted to question that, but then I remembered that the few ppl that are close to me and seem just fine....also either are definitely or most likely somewhere on the big spectrum of neurodivergence X'D. You might be onto something there!

[@marybdrake1472]

Jamie and Shaba, married chaos. OT and Jamie, a different kind of chaos, but still fun. 😁😁

[@McFlingleson]

I thought pee was stored in the balls when I was a really little kid. It just made logical sense to me with the information I had available to me. Also, my level of knowledge at the time was such that I didn't know what balls were called, or that not everyone has them.

[@mjamin9124]

with the specifics of the wording in the trans bathroom ban in kansas, i've joked multiple times that pee is stored in the ovaries

[@velvetbutterfly]

@@mjamin9124i wonder what the wording is

[@allanalogmusicat78rpm]

01:33 That post was hating on trans people, with the idea being that the woman you want to date may actually be a man (transwoman) or may eventually identify as male (transman), unless that woman has had children. The children are supposed to assure you that she has "natural woman parts" and is not secretly trans.

[@realimereads2707]

Oh wow that's horrible

[@BlueTressym]

Ugh, transphobes.

[@StarlightDreamer12]

I've learned in all my years of life you can't send 2 questions in the same message/email to ANYONE, unless you already know them to be attentive and thorough. In my experience, gender has nothing to do with it, lol.

[@cerberaodollam]

ughhh. women who do the "i said no, he should have tried again" game.... why??? first time i will say no. if he tries a second time, i'm calling 112.

[@raebauer2422]

I was at a con and a friend reached over my shoulder and grabbed my glass. Asking what kinda girlie drink this was he took a mouthful. It was Drambuie on the rocks, basically whiskey and honey. He coughed for the next few minutes.

[@velvetbutterfly]

Ooh, what con?

[@Mark_Agamotto1313_Smith]

17:35 actually it's more like an encased sponge filled with fluid. There are SOME muscles at work, but not ones that would alter the size in a way that could be exorcised.

[@divedweller4295]

12:40 - Wait. . . 'Top G' was getting mugged by cockroaches!? Seriously? 🤣😂🤣

[@donncha-fv7ne]

While in prison he said he wasn't top g. He has an alter ego. I think top g is when he shaves his head bald

[@divedweller4295]

@@donncha-fv7ne Oof. The cope in that guy.

[@heartyunho0716]

I feel like the "We repair what your husband fixed." is more referencing when something breaks in the home and the wife says "Let's call a repairman." And the husband goes "We're not spending money on a repairman! I can fix this!" And then it turns out he can't and finally, after letting him try his best the wife calls a professional.

[@Caltalksnonsense]

I've read your book and I must say I thoroughly enjoyed it!

[@Caltalksnonsense]

It also gave my parents a much better idea of what me being trans means so thank you so much.

[@nicreven]

@@Caltalksnonsense hell yeah!

[@Hello_Spaceboy]

Gents, this was the laugh I needed today, you're both hilarious. As for the very first post, I'm pretty sure she's saying if a woman doesn't have kids there's a chance she's a trans woman which, I can tell you from personal experience, still isn't enough for transphobes. I have three children of my own and they still like to tell me I'll never be a ReAl wOmAn and at this point I'm like "yeah you're probably right."

[@yourdad1026]

helloo queer ppl ( from all lgbtqa+ ) have a nice day and be always proud,lovee

[@RamagramCats]

One time someone asked if I was 9 because my fingers were stubby.

[@NoahsNotNormal]

Also i ordered the book, my attention spans shit so only read like the first 30 ish pages, but from what ive read, uve done a good job mate and im proud of u

[@toni2309]

Is it readable with ADHD? I mean I don't want to assume anything but like...you know.

[@thedreaming989]

PSA about the lotion thing. Be careful what you apply to your genitalia regardless of what you have. Besides being pretty sensitive to irritation all kinds of genitals absorb stuff topically more readily than normal skin. You can poison yourself by applying excessive amounts of medicated creams.

[@a-goblin]

17:18 i really appreciate OT referring to himself as a wife 😊

[@avalbaneesplanade5122]

If theres anything Ive learned from pretending to be a girl in chatrooms; every guy is packing 8 inches.

[@Silverfirefly1]

What did they learn from you about girls?

[@avalbaneesplanade5122]

@@Silverfirefly1 That squirting is actually fairly rare, so it's often faked in porn by filling the girl with water or ice cubes before the scene.

[@NoahsNotNormal]

ThOsE FiEnDiSh LgBtS made me laugh so hard😂

[@kevinkaminska2528]

13:05 So is a man gay if he doesn't want to go to jail because that's what might happen for not respecting a "No" response?

[@apexbrachydios5385]

"Whether it's your first video _or your last_ " 😳

[@JayeEllis]

I wholeheartedly agree with the last one with the measuring tape. Bigger is not better, it's unmanageable.

[@AliceBunny05]

Absolutely, gay men are probably the best audience for the "bigger is better" idea but even then I'd say most of them wouldn't agree either. Women, at least in the hole that's primarily preferred by most, have got an end! That is usually quite painful when it's prodded at! Also, all women have different vaginal length/depth, learn something new every day. Some women can be incapable of taking over a certain amount without significant pain, while others can tolerate or like it much better because of the difference in anatomy.