Visible Cis Confusion

What causes visible cis confusion? Many things, probably including trans memes!
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[@abbysmommy1205]

I have one detransition friend. She came to realize she wasn't trans after all and just needed therapy for some trauma. That being said she is also still a huge advocate for trans people.

[@nickm2015]

This is what so many people need to hear. Just because it doesn't work out for one person doesn't mean it won't work for the masses. Your friend sounds great :)

[@abbysmommy1205]

@@nickm2015 she absolutely is. Anyone tries to use her detransition as a straw man argument she will fiercely tell them how and why they are wrong and that just because it wasn't for her doesn't mean it isn't for someone else.

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

I'm genderfluid and entering the first stages of medical transition knowing full well I might change my mind later, since my identity changes over time. If that happens, that's okay. I would never deny the same treatments to anyone else; I've been on numerous treatments for depression that have not worked for me and had some awful side effects, but I wouldn't deny them to anyone who needs them.

[@Ben-li9zb]

Simply the ability to explore ones gender can be helpful for a lot of people, even if they aren't trans

[@sluttyMapleSyrup]

@@Ben-li9zb Exactly. I wouldn't have known I was bi or trans if I couldn't at least _try_ it.

[@laughsingay]

I had to teach my parents that you shouldn't deadname or misgender someone even when referring to them pre-transition. My parents are 100% supportive and allies, they just need to learn things sometimes, and it hasn't happened since :)

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

That's amazing! I also really love you're name fellow ace

[@a_weird_mess3]

That’s so cool!! Nice to know that they’re trying to learn and support others :) True allyship 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[@tjenadonn6158]

There's no shame in needing to learn, only in refusing to learn.

[@Ash-jc1bc]

Yea my parents aren’t good with this and when I asked my mum to stop misgendering and deadnaming me she said no. She told me I was asking her to give up her memories if she couldn’t deadname me when talking about my past.

[@lucienfortner841]

@@Ash-jc1bc Omfg. That's ridiculous of her. She still has the exact same memories, and you're still the exact same person. You always were your gender, she just didn't always know it.

[@jackadoodles9357]

Fellow trans guy here, you just made me realise that I don't refer to myself as a particular gender when I talk about my childhood. I normally say something like "when I was in my single digit age this happened" or if i want to be less wordy, "when I was a kid"

[@GlamourNNail]

If that's what you're comfortable with it's fine and still sounds completely normal. I'm a cis woman and still tend to say when I was a kid or when I was little.

[@glitterspray]

@@GlamourNNail cis too and I don’t think I’ve ever said “when I was a little girl”

[@nealbrook4226]

i’ll usually say “when i was younger” or “when i was a kid,” i feel like the only people i hear explicitly say “little girl” or “little boy” are my older relatives who are south african, so I can’t be sure if it’s a generation thing or a culture thing

[@BeautyMonster1000]

I'm cisgender and I tend to say "when I was a little kid" "when I was little" or "when I was younger". I don't really feel the need to specify my gender when I talk about my younger years because I don't find it relevant.

[@grimlen_named_Moss]

Some times I catch myself saying when I WAS a little girl and I cringe it happens around strangers but most times I say kid or little human

[@cecilofthesea]

As a trans guy born on March 10th (Mario Day for those unaware), seeing trans Mario made me feel really happy and validated in a strange way just due to the association of my birthday with him

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

My sister was born on Mario day too! Trans Mario cheered me up too

[@glitterspray]

It’s a small thing. And small things can be super important to us. I’m glad you and Mario can celebrate your birthdays together - very cool! 🙂❤️

[@Golems_victory]

Don't worry ill get a transphobic conservative nazi and give him a shot gun to....take....care.....of.....u.....lol jk im leftist and not transphobic im just offensive to all people and i don't like the cringeworthyness of people saying im happy and feel validated and thanking of stuff. To me it gets cringy after a while. Lol

[@sineadcarty7256]

Non binary, Star wars day birthday here, we are the same

[@finmiles965]

DUDE me too :) March 10th is the best day obviously and I have no bias whatsoever

[@Xavier.699]

Our gender-neutral toilet was shut down in my school because of “misuse” (which I can understand, as literally anyone can go there, lock the door, and do whatever they want) so now I walk my non-out trans friend to the bathroom, as I am a trans man who just wants to help my trans brothers. Anyway, I hope the bathroom opens up for my trans and non-binary friends.

[@jamesphillips2285]

A junior high school I went to looked like it was designed with gender-neutral bathrooms. Full stall doors, open washing area. Within 2 years of opening they were gendered. Don't know if it was the reason, but people with penises would pee all over the toilet paper. Only figured out years later why the boys' and girls' washrooms were on opposite corners of the main classroom area.

[@Lokear]

Same here, except it was given a lock instead. They were one-room restrooms instead of ones with multiple stalls, and anyone who wanted to use them had to get personal approval for a key from the principal :/ The *only* person I know who ever used them after that was my friend, who's non-binary, and they almost didn't bother going through the hassle either. The principal is super transphobic :')

[@larcenie]

I don’t know why but your profile seems super familiar did we interact in another comment section? ^^

[@inkuii]

idk what happened to our gender neutral bathroom back in high school, but I know for a fact that people do the devil's tango in there. Surprisingly no weed or juul though, but that's because ours was just a very small single washroom, and everyone preferred to just use the large bathroom by the chem wing in big packs of 10 kids at a time.

[@trans_asexual]

yeah anyone that goes in our gender neutral bathroom gets searched because kids were caught 💨🍃 in there

[@silverghostcat1924]

I think gender neutral bathrooms also work for parents needing to take their opposite gender child to the restroom. The child isn't made to feel out of place like they might if they had to use a gender specific bathroom. If that makes sense. Or we could do like they did on "Ally McBeal" and have a unisex bathroom 😸

[@ruthspanos2532]

It’s also for adults who need help in the restroom, often due to a disability.

[@stephanienoire1892]

My dad was NOT comfortable taking little 5 year old me into the men's room! So I had to brave the giant adult bathroom all by myself. Family/gender neutral bathrooms being more available makes me happy for sure.

[@Verceal]

I think it's important to have both gender neutral & gender specific as a standard 'cause I've had the experience of, mostly young kids, staring at me through the cracks. American bathrooms suck though. Stupid cracks. But I've had kids of the both sexes stare at me through them and it feels disturbing. I was also not out when it was happening to me. I presonally see those issues happening way less in the mens restrooms.

[@laulau194]

@@Verceal I think better bathroom design is often the bigger issue - at my office they're ungendered but all fully enclosed cubicles so no staring.

[@Verceal]

@@laulau194 true. I doubt America will make those as a standard in my life time though.

[@ravenbeastofancient]

"The trans urge not to out yourself" I almost outed myself accidentally last week. My father, my sister and I were sitting on the couch, my father and my sister were talking about gender inclusive language. - Note: In Germany someone came up with the idea to make language more inclusive by putting an asterisk between the male and female ending of nouns for jobs (and other stuff) - At one point, I almost blurted out that I do not feel myself represented in a f*cking asterisk, I was barely able to hold that comment back and instead said that maybe a gender neutral and for humans applying pronoun would have been better. I do plan on coming out as non-binary to my family at some point - but not like that!

[@glitterspray]

Why not just eliminate the ending and use a neutral one?

[@pungetello]

Hey random question! Can you refer to nonbinary people as 'es' in German, or does that still have the same non-human possibly offensive connotation as 'it' in English?

[@dragonsarebutterflies3663]

@@pungetello it IS kind of dehumanizing. I mean if you want to use it, go for it but i guess it sounds really weird to most of the people

[@dragonsarebutterflies3663]

I feel you so much. I don't really like the current attempts in gender neutral language in german either, so i don't really have a choice but to use my current pronouns. I realized that i prefer different pronouns on different days but i couldnt bring myself to tell my friends. Good luck with your coming out though

[@an_bani]

@@pungetello I guess it would be fine if you chose it for yourself, but some transphobes use "es" to refer to trans people to dehumanize them, so it has a bad connotation

[@totakluska]

As an agender person the "no thanks" option is perfect for me

[@flavialinauer7147]

I am 14 and my best friend is also a 14 year old boy. I am a trans guy.. A few weeks ago my friend said this: You're not trans. You said that you a re a boy so now you are a boy. It maybe was just a misconception of being trans but it really made me happy.

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

Aww, that's amazing

[@GhostGecko]

thats so cute omg

[@abugidaiguess]

he's a little confused, but he's got the spirit

[@glitterspray]

I get it. You’ve always been a boy; now, your friend is saying, you’re “officially” a boy.

[@GothGoat420]

Confusing but adorable 🤣

[@Prence]

The greatest thing my mom ever said to me after I transitioned. We were arguing last year and she said "You can be a real bitch sometimes!" I just started laughing and she wanted to know why. I just said the a year before that she would have called me a bastard. I told her I loved her because her insults were finally gendering me right. lol

[@AmaranthOriginal]

My mom would call me a bitch even before I came out...she *knew*

[@Prence]

@@AmaranthOriginal honey, I’m so sorry. But at least she realized who you were meant to be. ❤️🫂

[@elegantdisarray]

This is very wholesome, and I love it 💜

[@Prence]

@@elegantdisarray thank you. ❤️🫂

[@Prence]

@Fucking grass my mom does s the time now. I love it. LOL.

[@Zulf85]

I feel terrified of transphobia and seeing it rn. thank you

[@d_art_s9632]

there is still too much transphobia especially in Asia

[@ShinyTillDawn]

transphobiaphobia

[@-themightymittens-]

Same. Also I love your Peridot pfp :3

[@tatertot8954]

Why are you terrified

[@laurelgardner]

@@tatertot8954 why are you pretending to be confused?

[@pigeon2088]

Hearing people talk about cliche trans names causes me genuine anguish. The new name that I'm just now starting to go by is one of these super common trans names, but I chose it because it's very meaningful to me in many ways. But I'm also kind of scared to use it because I'm afraid people will make fun of me for having a "cliche name". :( It absolutely rips my heart to shreds.

[@glitterspray]

If it feels like your name, it is - regardless of what anyone else thinks. F ‘em 😁

[@paadoxal]

i think people don't understand that names are such an easy way to make yourself feel happier but also very personal to yourself, don't worry about them🌟✨ they're the ones not grasping easy concepts (of course if u think it would put u in a dangerous situation with transphobes be careful❤️)

[@clancyalexander6192]

I understand that this is hard for you, and I don't want to minimize your feelings. One way to look at it, is to say there are many"cis" names that are cliche also. Think Jennifer, Matthew, Braden, Mary. Just because the name is common for certain group of people, doesn't make it necessarily a cliche and I'm sorry that it bothers you in that way.

[@commandercorl1544]

Don't worry, trans names are always cool, as long as they make you feel more comfy!

[@Lokear]

I've got a friend who specifically chose a "cliché trans name" on purpose because it helped him feel more like a part of the trans community. Obviously that doesn't mean it's necessarily the same for you, but if that helps, go for it! Your name is yours to choose, whether other people have it or not.

[@phoenixdiricci6043]

The best response to "I like your name" is undoubtedly "Thanks, I got it for my birthday." Even if that's not true for me, I still use it on customers, and it always gets a laugh.

[@enbyfrogz6766]

i mean, if you renamed yourself on your birthday it still works!

[@WhatWouldLubitschDo]

@@enbyfrogz6766 how perfect, I actually did this!! Well not really when I renamed myself, but that was when I made it legal😂

[@enbyfrogz6766]

@@WhatWouldLubitschDo ohh sweet!! i gotta do that then 👀

[@MonaBread]

Trans mario?? 🏳️‍⚧️

[@AmyStrikesBack]

Well, there is a theory about Sonic being trans because other male hedgehogs in the franchise have furr in the chest and arms, like shadow and silver

[@abugidaiguess]

sure why not

[@luka_boi8968]

Trans Mario!

[@Chazder.MP3]

@FluffyFreak i see a fellow aroace got to it first

[@theconman8835]

Trans-io

[@jmej01]

i just came out as trans to my dad and it went exactly like i thought it would, so i really needed this right now, thanks for making my day just a bit less awful

[@lasharael]

Aww babe... 😢 I'm so sorry to hear that. You have our love and support.

[@chancewill6910]

My dogs, cat, sibling and I support you

[@skulldog7219]

i’m here in moral support for you, man. it’s gonna get better, I swear. (btw love your pfp hunter is an icon)

[@jmej01]

thank all of you so much, you have much this means to me, knowing that no matter how shitty things get, I'll always have my community to support me ❤️

[@marnenotmarnie259]

hope you're doing okay

[@tardisunicorn]

In archaeology, there are three genders : female, male, child. Now I will add "rectangle" to my studies. Thank you Jammie

[@dlg78]

Child isn't a gender, and male and female are biological sexes

[@alexwallace6904]

@@dlg78 dude, it was a joke

[@charliekahn4205]

@@dlg78 When you're dealing with skeletons, you can't really determine the gender of anybody, and it's hard to tell the sex of a child.

[@dynamicworlds1]

@@charliekahn4205 actually, we often can at least to some degree because we usually find skeletons with grave goods....which only provides us even more evidence that the gender binary is BS and always has been.

[@lasharael]

Genders I have come across recently include "Portugal," "small business," "stainless steel," "unexpected item in the bagging area," and "hot bread." Unfortunately, for various reasons, hot bread is not as well represented in the archeological record as it should be.

[@elliottrae9355]

When I worked in retail this year, I had a few customers get excited when they saw my name because they were like "We don't see many people named Elliott, or have it as a first name!". I was so happy I would almost say the, "thanks I picked it myself!" lol. I was out, but it was still funny to me when people would compliment me on my name.

[@Belinyvs]

@@marioluigi9599 Okay, so, I’ve seen multiple awful comments from you under this very video, harassing people and vomiting hatred on them. How about you leave these people alone and stop being a dick?

[@Belinyvs]

Hey man, don’t worry about this asshole of a person who replied to you, they’re going around and spreading transphobia all over the place. Btw, congratulations❤

[@amity9163]

@@marioluigi9599 Do you have nothing better to do than pick on trans people for no reason? We’ve done nothing to you, just leave us alone.

[@amity9163]

You do have a really cool name! I’m so happy for you!

[@heather9130]

Ugh I LOVE the name Elliott so much. If I have another child, Elliott is at the top of the name list. It sounds sophisticated and adventurous. Anyway consider this another name compliment!

[@ziggystarlust]

I'm non-binary (something I've recently realized) and when I was little I REALLY wanted a "pp" for awhile. I had a dream that I grew one and had a lot of fun standing up while peeing, flopping it about, etc. I woke up and started crying because I didn't have one. My mom was a little alarmed when I told her. I don't want one anymore but most of the time I feel like a genderless alien tbh. 👽

[@Golems_victory]

Its ok to be binary but i think is a stupid ridiculous sexuality but because im progressive and leftist i don't care how you live your life. But i think its dumb and cringy. Lol i mean most other sexualities make more sense. Lol hopefully i triggered morons who think im conservative when im absolutely not. Im leftist yet love to give everyone hell.

[@glitterspray]

This is the channel to help you realize what good company you’re in. For all I know, you could be an 👽 - but not because you’re nonbinary!

[@Golems_victory]

@@glitterspray nah she or he is an alien. Lol. Why'd you get likes yet i get none for being awesome and edgy and offensive for fun

[@robertabarnhart6240]

@@glitterspray "On the internet, nobody knows you're a dog." Pretty sure I butchered that quote, and I have no idea where it's from.

[@ShinyTillDawn]

@@Golems_victory This isn't 4chan.

[@allisonroggen7773]

I’m a little late but wanted to share this story anyway. Today I went to the OBGYN for the first time. I went to the place my mom had been going to. The office was called “Women’s Care.” I am a cis woman but that made me very sad still bc I know a lot of trans people don’t get the care they need bc of the dysphoria that going to a place called women’s care can induce. I think I’ll try to find a new office because it just makes me sad and the doctor wasn’t all that great anyway

[@enbyfrogz6766]

yep, that's me with endometriosis rn. the doctor was very nice but she kept calling my uterus "girl parts" and the treatments "treatments for women" and such and i feel bad for crying but once i explained myself she was very kind about it. the only benefit is that treatment for endometriosis is hormone blockers, but still, having to walk into "[town name] women's care" to get my girl parts looked at is considerably less fun than if it just said reproductive care and to get my vagina looked at. thank god my mom is pretty supportive because idk what id do without her helping me though this 😭😭

[@EirynKatherine]

My name has a unique spelling (pronounced Erin) and people comment on it a lot, especially at work (I'm a cashier). Before I really started learning about trans issues I would jokingly taking full credit for it, a joke that's punchline rested on the idea that obviously my parents chose it. I stopped after realizing that was not a great assumption to make. Now I'm just honest and tell them my parents made it up at the hospital.

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

That is a really pretty name. Both my deadbame and shorter version of my deadname have unique spellings compared to how they're normally presented

[@Lokear]

@@EdelweissConfederacy My name is the boring old normal way to spell it... but hey, it's gender-neutral and gives me no dysphoria to continue using, so that's a plus :0

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

@@Lokear nice! Mine is extremely feminine. I'm fine saying it aloud, but I hate when someone reads it because they automatically think I'm a girl, which me presenting and talking more femininly doesn't help.

[@SolsisEquone]

@@EdelweissConfederacy my deadnames really feminine and my presentation is pretty feminine too. luckily a nickname for it is its own actual name too, and its gender neutral, so i go by that instead.

[@luanaastralis9991]

@@EdelweissConfederacy techniqully its not unique due to essentially everyone spelling it 'differently' now. Either way the name is amazing and pretty, no matter the spelling ☺

[@bundroid9793]

Went to a Christmas thing yesterday and my mom told me how she told some of her family members about me and referred to me as her son (I felt so much joy about this part) and they were confused before she told them it was me. They were all supportive but when someone else said "Yeah well so and so (I forgot his name) is gay" SO MANY PEOPLE DIDNT BELIEVE IT... my only thought was "Damn, guess I'm glad nobody is shocked with me" lmfao Edit: I am a trans man

[@crackedantagonist]

I got gendered correctly for the first time in 10 years the other day! And at a holiday party for my family’s church, no less! He visibly realized I was trans when I started speaking, which was funny but also kinda sucked, but he didn’t take it back so I count it as a win!

[@Fuchswinter]

Possibly funniest misgendering situation that happened to me was at a concert last month, the security dude wanted to send me to his female colleague, and I'm so used to not speaking up... until I realized I've been on T for three years and my voice is deep af now. So I was like "Why?" and the dude looked SO shocked. to his credit, he was like "uh, just kidding" and I got in with no issues lmao

[@morganc.m1830]

This makes no sense.

[@morganc.m1830]

How do you forget your voice is deep after 3 years? And what does a female colleage have to do with anything? And what security sends you yo anyone? I've been to a concert.

[@Fuchswinter]

@@morganc.m1830 where I live female security checks the women, male checks the men. So being sent over is actually a very clear action. And voice change is gradual, when you're unsure of how well you pass for years and years, would you make a scene every time?

[@IT_217]

I smile to myself when I pay by card and the machine says "Transaction approved".

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

Haha, that's great, I've never thought about that before

[@tjenadonn6158]

Every little thing you do is a microtransaction

[@Nick-dx2pt]

"Trans action approved"

[@a_weird_mess3]

5:00 That thing happens with me a lot, but like in a different way as I’m AFAB due to my hairstyles and dressing style I’m still figuring out everything, but I don’t have any problem in being referred to as a boy (I’m okay with any pronouns), so it secretly (as I’ve not come out yet) does make me happy when they tease me Also my school has houses divided on the basis of “male” and “female” so it’s super weird and confusing 🥴

[@scalylayde8751]

I think in some situations it can be really difficult to figure out how to talk about trans people in the past, especially in cases where gender identity or presentation at the time is relevant to the story. For example, when I was a kid, my abusive step mother was not yet out as trans, and so we knew her by her deadname and assigned gender at birth. For YEARS after she came out I struggled to figure out how to talk about my experiences appropriately, because her gender presentation was a factor in the ways that she was abusive. She would throw around her status as a "man" to be menacing and perform extremely toxic masculinity. I didn't care about respecting her personally after what I went through- but I didn't want to contribute to transphobia by misgendering her either. These days, I identify as nonbinary genderfluid and I can run into similar situations with myself, where I want to reference my experience 'as a woman' but I get stuck because I'm not one. But I believed myself to be one at the time, etc. It can be complicated.

[@grell5108]

I prefer, "back before I realized I was trans"

[@theofficialgoth]

I appreciate options on many sites that account the Nonbinary option. Yet, I've also seen many without that option. Either way, the "nah" option should always be an option to account for those intersex and nonbinary!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Jamie is always a delight and makes me happy with his array of face journeys 😂

[@alexanderryanhigbee4005]

Do you know this girl has plastic balls sewn into our labia f****** weird if you ask me

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

@@alexanderryanhigbee4005 tf are you going on about?

[@alexanderryanhigbee4005]

@@EdelweissConfederacy this person had surgery and had plastic balls attached to her labia which is f****** weird I don't know why you people I don't know why you people listen to to her

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

@@alexanderryanhigbee4005 we listen to him so we don't have to listen to weirdos like you

[@alexanderryanhigbee4005]

@@EdelweissConfederacy what's weird about me I don't have plastic balls I'm perfectly normal I accepted my gender as I was born I don't have a mental illness that makes me reject my genitalia

[@MayaraKelany]

05:17 I tried to explain that to my parents and they were also confused. Apparently they think that, for example: if you identify as a man then you're automatically attracted to women, and if you identify as a woman you're automatically attracted to men. And I was like ????? That don't even make sense 😂😂😂

[@BeautyMonster1000]

That's also bierasure because not everyone is monosexual. Some people are attracted to multiple genders. It's interesting that people think that transgender sexuality works in this way.

[@glitterspray]

That’s so old school thinking 😂 And yet by old school I mean relatively recent. Gay and lesbian people have been around for several thousand years.

[@PrincessofKeys]

I mean I wouldn't be so hard on people if they genuinely think that. Its all about learning after all we also shouldn't push aside how people think and teach them.

[@electronics-girl]

Yeah, when I came out to my dad, he said "But you've dated women. I thought you liked that." And I explained, "I do like that. I'm a lesbian."

[@grell5108]

I think there's a misconception that we transition so as *not* to be gay. A bit weird, but old people do a multitude of weird things

[@selenacarpenter6550]

I wondered why seeing sapphic couples made me so happy until I realized I just wanted to be them

[@chubbyanimalenthusiast70]

Hmmmmmmmmm

[@grutarg2938]

Yay! Welcome to the sisterhood!

[@science_bear]

Homophobic misogynist.

[@chubbyanimalenthusiast70]

@@science_bear what?

[@plushiebearhalo]

Before I realised you could change your labels (when I was a little kid) I got so confused, not because I didn't understand a woman is now a man. For some reason I was confused if they turn gay or turn straight (depending on who they were attracted to before) and i would spend so much time trying to make sense of it because for some reason I never thought you could change your labels. When I learnt you can I immediately said to myself 'ohhh that makes sense'. I'm sorry, I just found it funny how the concept of transitioning made more sense than just saying they are lesbian/gay or straight when they used to be the opposite to a 6 to 10 year old me

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

Haha, I actually had a similar thought process issue a few years ago

[@waytoobiased]

overthinking pogchamp

[@itsnotiss2521]

I remember as a kid I was always confused if a trans man was someone who was born a woman who now identifies as a man, or someone who was born a man who now identifies as a women, and obviously thought the same for trans women. Whenever trans got mentioned I would just laugh and pretend I knew lmao

[@dlg78]

You can't change labels, they are not yours to change. Third person pronouns are grammar rules.

[@plushiebearhalo]

@@dlg78 last time I checked nobody lists their pronouns as gay. You can change your labels and nobody can change them for you, labels and pronouns are not the same and pronouns are yours to change just as much as labels.

[@Silver_Chivalry]

On the note about public washrooms, I'm bigender so I can attest non-gender specific bathrooms are an absolute blessing. :)

[@zolfirthedragon]

Yup! Most of the time I just avoid public bathrooms, because whichever one I enter I'm in the wrong place.

[@83gemm]

Yeah, why on earth do we still have gendered bathrooms? Especially single stall bathrooms!! That cracks me up. There’ll be two rooms, each with one toilet, yet one is only for men and one is only for women. Cue Terry from Brooklyn 99 screaming, “WHY?!?!?”

[@ShinyTillDawn]

@@83gemm probably to minimize sexual assault between cisgender people

[@83gemm]

@@ShinyTillDawn That argument doesn’t work. Bathroom gender door signs are not magic talismans against rapists. Also, do we just not care about sexual assault against the same gender? It’s more rooted in the idea that men and women MUST be kept separate. Or they… they might kiss..,

[@dlg78]

What do you mean why do we 'still'.? Because they already exist. Not going to close one and have less toilets for the fun of it, are we..

[@mrblackm668]

ah yes: "when I was a little... *person* " other option: "when I was a little *demon* "

[@yourlocalnerd7788]

My college has some buildings with all gender bathrooms with multiple stalls (older ones don't or just have a single stall one) and everytime I use one I think I'm living some terf's nightmare and its amazing.

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

That's great!

[@wit681]

you absolutely are. good for you!

[@tjenadonn6158]

I always wonder how TERFs feel when they each Paul Verhoeven's "Starship Troopers:" in many ways it's their ideal society, essentially fascism but with gender equality, but there's a prominent co-ed shower scene where nobody treats it as any sort of big deal. I imagine it would be like if I made you the perfect chocolate cake, and then topped it smegma instead of icing. It's also worth noting that ST is very obviously satirizing the US military industrial complex and that Verhoeven isn't presenting it as any sort of ideal plan for society.

[@glitterspray]

I’m really big on privacy and not sharing a bathroom with ANYONE 😂

[@Claire_s]

After watching you for the past 6 years, I will be turning 18 in a few weeks and will be starting hrt finally!! I am so excited and so thankful for your videos, you were the first person I have ever seen transition and you are the one who taught me that its possible to be who I am and that I am not broken or weird love you so much 💞 (you can't really change the name on KZbin but my name is Claire (she/they))

[@Claire_s]

@@protect_trans_lives whell what do you know, tysm! (I tried in the past and wasn't able)

[@amandajay666]

@@potatosalad6252 Seeing others living their truths can hurt when you aren’t living your own. I hope you learn that there are people out there who would be willing to support you if you didn’t hurt and belittle people in an attempt to fill the hole in your heart. Trans people are beautiful, whether you are ready to see it or not

[@amandajay666]

I’m so excited for you hun! Turning 19 here soon and this past year has felt like a decade of growth. The only people who intentionally hurt others are hurt people. It’s okay to be discouraged and hurt but never let it stop you! Hrt is such an exciting journey and I’m glad you’re doing what you need to in order to be you

[@budgie0003]

The other day I was filling out a form with someone, and the question came up, ‘male, female, or not specified’, so the lady helping me asked “female?” And I hesitantly agreed. Usually I always leave that question to last because I just really hate answering it. But she reassured me we could change it when she noticed my reluctance. So we did, to ‘not specified’. Baby steps.

[@finmiles965]

I hear ya on the childhood outing conundrum. One of the only places I’ve felt safe showing pre-coming out pics was when musical castmates were pulling out middle/high school pics to see who’d changed the most…..I won.

[@finn3723]

Im coming out fully to my whole family in 2 days, I am scared and desperately need someone to hug me and tell me it's okay for a few hours. I can't have that tho, but bingeing Jamie's videos help too

[@ΝίκοςΒούλγαρης-τ9φ]

*virtual hug*

[@WhatWouldLubitschDo]

Hope it went well! Sending hug energy and it’ll be ok vibes ❤

[@Ello_humans]

*Virtual hug :>* I hope all went well! And no matter what happened you are valid and deserve to be happy :>

[@RyanTosh]

How'd it go? (virtual just-in-case hug)

[@kaitlmante]

I almost squealed when I walked into the restroom at Petco, because not only was it unisex and non-binary inclusive, but it was also a genuinely nice restroom. Like, that restroom made me feel safe. I felt like I could talk to the mirror and find peace. I love you, Petco! ~Kaitlyn (Kit), she/they

[@kaitlyn__L]

How do we have the same two names lmao

[@morganc.m1830]

Oh, no, not a chain pet store. Them are awful. Goof bathroom or no, you shouldn't support them because of their animal care and the fact that the animals come from breeding mills. Not to mention they sell products that aren't good for animals, but people keep buying them so they keep selling them. And a lot of times the workers don't actually know what they are talking about and they are just selling products. That's why you do you're own research. I just wanted to let you know about that. But, oh, I do have a bathroom issue where I need a single bathroom with a lock, light switch, and sink and not all places have that so sometimes I go through serious physical pain when I need to pee and I can't. I'm cis as well. ,

[@science_bear]

Nonbinaries are homophobic and shouldn’t be included.

[@RavenMenel]

7:40 hit right at home. I'm a trans man and am still attracted to men... mom used that as a "you still have some girl in you" umm no mom... I'm bisexual... XD Doesn't matter MY gender

[@luci_furr4206]

I have no trouble correcting my friends when they slip by accident. We’ve made it kinda like a game. Can they catch themselves before I catch them, and if they do. I buy them an energy drink. Basically training my friends like Pavlov

[@Axqu7227]

Dude that’s genius!

[@a_weird_mess3]

My gender is “NO THANKS” from now on 🌈

[@abugidaiguess]

yup same

[@xerofelix7090]

Completely unrelated to the video, but my trans flag colored water bottle came in today and I'm SOOOOOOO freaking excited! Yay!

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

Wooooh! That's so cool! Congrats to you!

[@borzboi7216]

So my dad named me after his military buddy. Afab, grew up loving my male name. Surprise im trans. Still love my name haha

[@momamiandkiddokelsi9027]

Daily reminder! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You are valid and amazing just the way you are!! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

You are too! I hope you have a great day!

[@This_dumb_guy]

Thx you 💛🤍💜🖤

[@a_weird_mess3]

Aww thank you so much, love, and same goes for you ❤️❤️

[@Nick-dx2pt]

Aw thank you! 💜

[@insertunoroginalnamehere6189]

no I'm not lol

[@NosebleeddeGroselha]

You know what’s terrible? When you choose a name that’s popular with your opposite gender. But like, not because it’s neutral, but because there’s a variant. Then you don’t pass. And people say your name wrong. Cause they’re ignorant. My name is Valentine, I use he/him pronouns. I’m sick of people calling me Valentina. THE A IS SO PRONOUNCED HOW DO YOU EVEN-

[@dynamicworlds1]

You know how you squirt dogs, cats, and sometimes small children in the face with a squirt bottle to discourage a particular bad behavior non-violently? Have you tried this technique?

[@chancewill6910]

Oh honey I have the same problem-ish. I'm a trans dude named after my mom's grandpa. My name is Chauncey, Chance for short and it's a French male name but people like to say it wrong like Chancey or Chowsy (and so much worse) then call me she/her because they don't know any names other than Mike and Angela and I just sit there nodding with a pained smile because how am I supposed to correct them?? Sorry life is frustrating

[@firemoonlily]

Maybe this is just me being raised catholic but HOW?! St. Valentine was a guy!! How do you not default to Valentine???

[@NosebleeddeGroselha]

​@@chancewill6910 honestly having people misspronouncing/misspelling your name is peak transmasc culture. Recently I've been introducing myself just as Val, and it's funny to watch the assumptions people make from that. I never pass, they always call me either Valentina, Valerie, or some other completely insane assumption. Best one so far was Valkyrie.

[@NosebleeddeGroselha]

@@firemoonlily Bruh the sad part is that I live in Brazil, so here it's "St. Valentim". Valentine is basically the neutral version for both Valentim and Valentina, so it always saddens me when they call me Valentina cause then I'm 100% sure I didn't pass. Otherwise they would at least miss it and call me Valentim. And I do try to pass y'know, it's sad.

[@nosygamer7662]

All my friends are part of 🏳️‍🌈 lgbt but me and my besty are the only ones who aren’t cis. So sometimes we go on about trans and gender in general and are friends just don’t have a clue it’s quite fun just testing them. But I have too say I have the best friends ever because I’m starting to try and change my name. I told my friend and they immediately started using my new name and pronouns I felt so close too tears🥹

[@adrienstarfaer]

8:44 I actually used this joke in a story I'm writing. It's probably my favorite trans joke and a near universal experience among trans people.

[@EvilWillow123123]

1:50 mate i am a bio male since 18 years and i still have no damn beard >:( im so jelous of you :(

[@jelly_swoosh]

im closeted my chosen name is layla, i chose it for 2 reasons 1. it sounds good both in english and my native language, 2. its the name of a song i really like (layla by derek and the dominoes)

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

You're name is so pretty Layla!

[@a_weird_mess3]

Sometimes I wonder how it would like to think like a cishet. It’s weird. I can’t imagine my life like that.

[@Andy-the-crow]

True

[@lilaniloxi]

Aroace here, couldn't agree more

[@knvids2812]

@@lilaniloxi imagine living a life where you only think girls are hot lol

[@knvids2812]

For context, I’m a bi guy

[@glitterspray]

Just realize we were born that way. It wasn’t a choice. 🙂 I’ve always felt like a girl. And I’ve crushed on boys exclusively since I was 3-4 years old. I’ve admired many females. I’ve wanted to BE many females! I just don’t have romantic or sexual feelings about them. Oddly (?) now that I’m post menopause I’m starting to feel more ace than anything. What a relief! 😂

[@cupidkitty3514]

Jamie! Thank you for making my day 🥰🥰🥰 also, the memes and your reaction are priceless! Love you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@136-rats-in-a-trenchcoat]

Once my genderfluid friend burst out laughing in the middle of class because we were learning about the “trans” prefix and they just couldn’t hold it in anymore. And then I, ftm, joined in. The teacher just looked at us like “bruh”.

[@morganc.m1830]

Why is that funny?

[@136-rats-in-a-trenchcoat]

@@morganc.m1830 It’s just trans culture. I can’t explain it well, but it’s kind of like watching an old movie where everybody is getting called gay because they’re happy. Or the gay kids in biology learning about homozygous and heterozygous genotypes. It just brings a certain picture into some peoples’ minds.

[@gaxalee7392]

I’m agender and I’ve heard things about like gender identity in hospitals and the like. So I was wondering what everyone thinks about that? Should forms have boxes for both gender and sex or just one and mention the other as needed(if so, which)? Genuinely curious where others stand on this.

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

I think hospital forms should have both sex and gender as separate things to fill out so they know what you were born as, but also know what to refer to you as

[@BeautyMonster1000]

They should have both available because for the medical staff, it's important medical-wise to know your biological sex but it's important for their patients to be referred to correctly gender-wise.

[@skulldog7219]

@@EdelweissConfederacy yeah 100%

[@lozboidraws8309]

0:23 me watching this January 2nd 👁👄👁

[@Gravefalcon]

One thing about bathrooms. The stalls should always be floor length. When I was in kindergarten our teacher would bring the whole class to the bathroom together. This one girl would always manage to be behind me in line and then poke her head under the stall and peak. Really bothered 5 year old me who just wanted to pee in peace. For context I'm a cis man and was generally standing to pee when this would happen so there was something to see

[@genericyoutubecommenter589]

yeah i feel ya there bro. like would it really be that hard to just make an actual fucking private stall for once guys?

[@jacobc9221]

Calling us spuddies (spuds+buddies) is the best gift you could've given us, Jamie Ɛ>

[@TalkinEverything]

The phone voice is such a struggle, also any time I talk to someone in customer service. I just default to making my voice higher to seem 'more friendly' and then its like, "wait noooo I'm going to give myself away".

[@uraidtariq12]

Is it just me or do y'all appreciate how much time and energy and love Jamie takes to make 1 single video? Love u Jamie . thanks for everything you do to make our days better :)

[@alexanderryanhigbee4005]

You do know this person has plastic balls sewn into their labia right f****** weird

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

@@alexanderryanhigbee4005 tf are you talking about?

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

@@marioluigi9599 not every man acts "manly", not every woman acts "womanly"

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

@@marioluigi9599 gender is a social construct, there is no perfect box to pit everything in

[@Nick-dx2pt]

@@marioluigi9599 wait till you know that masculinity and femininity are constructs 💀

[@stardra]

The “I like your name!” Or “that’s a cool name!” One is very relatable- I chose a more unique name so I get this sometimes and it’s funny saying “thanks, picked it myself!” They usually don’t have a comment about it afterwards tho XD

[@FatY0shi]

As Mario's father I can confirm I am transparent :)

[@svetduck4344]

Thank you for your videos, they are literally saving me from the despair sometimes ❤️

[@jongkittae]

ok but like,, I would absolutely choose 'no thanks' if that was given as an option for gender, I'm a bi cis woman but also no thanks, no genders for me please, let's just all be people and not concern ourselves with outdated and harmful gender roles

[@mehmeh2255]

since jamie was confused: the one about "when did men go from x to y" is mocking a series of gender essentialist/trad memes where theyre all like "wha wha men used to be ~men~ now all the men are women/girly/(misogynistic, transphobic, or homophobic implication)" by taking the format and applying it to trans men doing silly things, with the added intertextuality that the image the meme maker chose for silliness is a colonial-era european pamphlet, which the audience the work is mocking are interested in the gender ideals projected onto that era. so that's what's up with that lol ^.^

[@bramblestar334]

8:39 My name (Bramblestar, yes I named myself after warriors but not after that Bramblestar, I'm the cooler one) is pretty uncommon so sometimes I'll get other students saying that they like my name and yes, I've responded with "Thanks, I chose it myself" because it's a cool name and I'm proud of it. B)

[@EdelweissConfederacy]

That's really cool, and you're definitely cooler than tha Bramblestar

[@SomniiLinn]

As fun as these are, for someone who doesn't have personal experience with transitioning, it really hits home how much everyday struggle you guys go through. Not that I wasn't aware before, but this somehow made me appreciate even more just how exhausting it must be. It must take a lot of strength and courage to go through what you do ♥ It also took me a while to get the "when I was a, kid" joke, as I have always referred to myself as just "kid", rather than "girl" 😅

[@Liggliluff]

(8:40) Changing names isn't exclusive to trans people.

[@spiralpython1989]

When people tell me that I have a nice name, I always tell them I chose it myself. I did. And not because of any gender issues, I just did not like the one I was saddled with at birth. And if it confuses people, so much the better 😊

[@someonee798]

1:10 YESSS my dad has become transphobic and when I argue with him about it he says he's done "research" but its LITERALLY just cis people talking about being trans

[@ihearttransylvan1a]

How can you watch a youtube video and then be like oh yes because i watched this i now get the right to attack people for being themselves. Like no donald you don't get to interfere in the life of strangers.

[@toast99bubbles]

0:23 Jamie legit calling me out for watching this on January 2nd, as if he knew that's when I'd be watching.

[@outofbodyexperience]

sameee haha like why did he have to call us out like that

[@stasiannie605]

I just refer to my formative years as 'When I was a little/teen girl' and leave it at that. If someone asks I just keep it simple. After all, I *was* a girl. Everyone just thought I was a boy. We know better now, and we're moving on. Like when someone corrects the gender they use for a dog/cat when talking to the owner. We know better now, let's just move on and focus on how dang cute I am.

[@lilieb3606]

4:30 as a trans woman, I didn’t think I’d laugh as hard as I did 😭

[@icklemon07]

5:42 dibs on rectangle

[@doctorshnoot]

fellow trans guy here, names were always a wierd one since i was born with a technically unisex name, but ironically my brother was born with the boy name of it so it never made any sense to me, now i go by mike and michael (for formal)

[@Unlike_Monster]

7:14 We have those. Because they changed the 🚻 to a ⚧. The only issue was that some kids in my class and probobly the older ones aswell kept removing the ♐️ from them. Though a group that I know from my class kept drawing them back with markers. Eventuellt the other group gave up and let it be. Now it hasn’t been tuched in around a year now so that’s good lol.

[@jaxisdead4516]

The way I looked up at my screen when he siad "Unless you're watching this on january 2nd" because it is january 2nd

[@AgentLadyHawkeye]

As a genderfluid person that "male, female, no thanks" gender options one is very accurate to me. Like, roll that die, see whether I have a gender that day or not!

[@tinaeepy]

You’re just confused but take your time

[@AgentLadyHawkeye]

@@tinaeepy No, I'm not confused. I'm genderfluid. You do not get to invalidate my gender identity because you don't get it or haven't heard of it or whatever the case may be. Kindly do not be a gatekeeper to LGBTQ folks who already get it from cis/straight people.

[@tinaeepy]

@@AgentLadyHawkeye I feel bad for you but with time you’ll change believe me

[@AgentLadyHawkeye]

@@tinaeepy change to what, exactly? Picking one gender?

[@tjenadonn6158]

Meanwhile when transphobes try to be funny it leads to shit like Elon Musk facing what real people actually think of him for the first time in his life. I guess it's funny, just not intentionally.

[@pmbluemoon]

I feel like I've been misgendered even after transitioning: "So, you want to be female?" All I can think is "Oh, I'm finally passing as male!" lol (I'm FTNB)

[@dollie_ollie]

i’m a trans man and my cat’s name is mario, so hearing the phrase “mario is trans?” is infinitely more funny

[@abigailkaterbergcolibaba]

About the confusion about lesbian one; as a cis straight person, do you know how I found out trans people can be gay? GLEE. Fricking glee. When coach beiste transitioned. It seems pretty obvious now, but in 2015 I didn't know much about LGBTQ people (I was also like 14 so)

[@Petemossnchaos]

A little addition to why gender neutral bathrooms are nessesary! 😊 -People with disabilities who require assistance may not have or be comfortable with an assistant of their same gender, and therefore need disability accessible bathrooms that are neutral! (P.S. As a trans guy, I really appreciate your channel and your videos have really helped me, both with worries I had about transitioning and as a cheer-me-up when I'm feeling like no one gets it. Thank you so much!! And also, congrats on your marriage!)

[@dragondoodles78]

I was outside working in my front yard and was pretty neutral looking. (I currently identify as DemiFem but I think I may be NB) And one of those guys who try to sell you stuff at your door came up to me and went "Hello there... um... fellow human" and it made me laugh so hard. I love that guy he was nice

[@genericyoutubecommenter589]

plot twist: he was an alien trying to fit in

[@dragondoodles78]

@@genericyoutubecommenter589 ...that would make a lot of sense... he was a strange dude. Very nice though

[@humantrash1478]

I chose the name Jamie, and my friend was like "did you get it from Jammidodger or this other guy on KZbin named Jamie?" And i was like "No, i got it from a 3rd Jamie" I am the name thief, beware!!

[@cameronwhaley2214]

Oh my Lord it's so weird talking about myself (trans guy) or my close friend (trans girl). We became bestie in middle school and we where the exact opposite of what we are now. Oh and body wash (obviously not her real name but I'm sitting in the bathroom LMAO) was the most straight cis "OH MY GOD YOU THINK IM GAY" and "do I look gay" and "I'd never where a skirt" ect. so now I laugh at her and joke her bc she was so against it and now she wears dressed at least one a week.

[@haliehope7067]

I think the issue is because the cis don't know that sexuality is not fixed or that romanticism isn't always attached to sexuality. And that what gender you are doesn't say what your sexuality or romanticism is. My friends that are cis ask me about it all the time because they know I am not cis. And I got to say as a kid I had no idea and asked anyone whom was lgbtqa+ whenever I saw them "what are you? and how does that work?" got to say not the best phrasing, but I was a kid with no knowledge and totally curious. Everyone was nice about it, even if my dad did yank me away each time in mid convo saying "you don't need to know any of that, stop asking questions. Asking questions is rude."

[@PrincessofKeys]

I agree with you on this Im sure peopel are just confused about sexuality in general sonce ghwy don't know much perhaps about it all. Im still learning many different kinds of sexualities really and I'm questioning what I am as I'm Nonbinary afterall.

[@alyx-221b]

The gender neutral bathrooms (there at two of them at my school) literally saved me. I sometime just go there at break and break down. I'm trans guy/nonbinary- still trying to figure it out. Thanks for the "christmas themed" video Jamie!

[@GaryTheDinghyDiver]

I use the mens Room (People with a Penis)

[@alyx-221b]

ok.......

[@Ann_the_weirdo]

While im not a LGBTQ+ member I support them and I like watching LGBTQ+ youtubers to learn about them I am surrounded by ✨pride✨ like my mom's friend is lesbian and her child is bi and my sibling is bi too and a teacher at my school is giving very ✨gay✨ vibes

[@ihearttransylvan1a]

Glad you're an ally :) (to all the homophobic people about to comment some sh*t: it's not that hard being supportive to the people around you see)

[@larry01902]

The first NO THANKS one felt like it applies to me an Asexual. Sex? No thanks.

[@ToastTheToasted]

My College has "male" "female" and "Any gender" washrooms, as well as little "get to know me tags" to meet your roommate with "Pronouns" as an option, I love how equal it is here.

[@sttelar]

Sounds great!

[@Lee-wf4kr]

7:18 I'm nonbinary and we have one gender neutral bathroom at my school, but it's always locked and you have to ask the office for the key to use it. I'm far too nervous to ever ask for it, so I always just use the women's restroom :')

[@sakurakat9015]

This channel makes me happy~ it helped me learn more about trans people in 2020 and 2021,,, and then in 2022... I realized I'm also trans lol. Trans channels like this one help me so much because my family is,,,,questionable in terms of supportiveness and positivity is really helpful when I'm feeling down. Keep up the good work ♡♡♡

[@katie6731]

I was super confused about why it would confuse anyone that a trans woman who is attracted to women is a lesbian. I actually sat here for a moment on pause trying to figure out if I'd missed something. 🤦‍♀️ If someone told me they picked out their name themselves, it wouldn't occur to me that they were trans. I'd think it was a nickname, that they'd changed their name, that they went by their middle/last name instead of their first name, or that they're an artist/author/actor who goes by a pen/stage name. That's probably because my father goes by his middle name, two cousins and one of my grandfathers go by nicknames that don't seem connected to their first names, my other grandfather went by a shortened version of our last name, and two friends go by their pen names. 🤷‍♀️

[@PDragonBaby]

Once, I made the mistake of assuming my AMAB friend was cis. I referred to them as he/him/his all the flippin' time. Then one day they marched over and were like 'I heard you've been misgendering misgendering me' and I was like ??? And they said 'I'm a they/them' and I was like 'oh sorry' Moral of the story: its so simple and easy to make a basic change to how you refer to someone and to generally not be a butt. Also, never assume someone's pronouns based on how they look. Ask, if you feel comfortable asking. If not, refer to them as they/them until you know for sure- just in case (Homestly I've been wanting to get this off my chest for a long time, and I thought this might be a good place to do it. Hopefully this helps someone avoid the silly mistake I made)

[@PDragonBaby]

@Merican Modi i should have who was what? What??

[@mariaanjos9229]

​@Merican Modi comparing gender and age is one of the stupidies things ever

[@silt59]

I relate to the 4:07 one so much lmao,, not in the same way, but as an AFAB enby my brain sometimes likes to out of nowhere be like 'UR WALK IS SO FEMININE RN' like...what... it's literally just how I walk it's not gendered sdhshdhsdhsd

[@rorymcelroy1887]

When people say "I like your name" I say "Thanks, I got it for my birthday"

[@genericyoutubecommenter589]

oh my god that's fuckin brilliant. i'm stealing that thanks

[@thechildkicker]

As a genderfluid person that last meme about correcting your friends on your pronouns is all too relatable. Not because they're transphobic (which they're not) but because I'm too lazy and don't even know my gender half of the time xD.

[@Ray-ew4yy]

I remember when I first came out as a trans guy a lot of people would ask me "So, what are you into now" and I'd just bei like "...Uhmmm the same as the last 10 years?" And they just like "So you still gay?". Me: "No. I've only ever been attracted to women. I just didn't realize I was a guy so I thought I was gay but since I am a guy I am obviously straight." And they would still look at me with visible confusion. Like how is it so hard to understand that, regarding my sexual orientation, literally nothing changed? 😂

[@miniwolfii17]

Good lord a few second ago?? And just in time for my breakfast?? Edit: this went exquisitely with my pancakes, thank you for the memes good sir :D

[@justellis5167]

8:29 this actually happened to me at school once. Some random kid I didn't even know was trying to make some dumb 'I screwed your mom' jokes and said "Hey I know you, you're my girlfriend's son." It was very nice tbh. I know he was trying to insult me, but all I could really focus on was that he assumed I was male without even knowing who I was :)