Bad Women’s Anatomy Is Getting WORSE

Welcome back to more bad women's anatomy - this episode brings you a hole lot of confusion, and why not just hold your period?
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[@ThomasThings]

"This is a weird hill to die on, but at least you're dead" I'm gonna start using this

[@LMvonLebkuchen]

If I remember correctly, that one originated on a Tumblr where somebody was saying that women in service jobs like waiting tables MUST wear makeup to conceal illness or fatigue. Because "nobody wants to see that". The quote was somebody's response

[@SartorialDragon]

@@LMvonLebkuchen c.. conceal... illness.... ma'am if you're sick, pleeeease go home and have a rest. Oh wait, that's probably US based, she can't go home because no sick leave. Man, so much bs.

[@ConstantChaos1]

Like number 1k congrats

[@jnharton]

@@LMvonLebkuchen A fine example of how to fail a test on basic logic. (it's A implies B, not B therefore A). Assuming that "nobody wants to see that", which /might/ be true, demanding that people conceal their illness or fatigue is just insane. They could still collapse or pass out from exhaustion, screw up your order, drop things , transmit a disease to you, etc... Everything would be more productive and everyone would be happier if the waitress (or waiter) isn't sleep-deprived or sick.

[@doll9340]

​@@SartorialDragonwe do have sick leave 😅 you just have to ask to use it

[@gretablackwell495]

The c-section one really bothers me because, if I was born “naturally”, my mom would have died in the process. These clowns think I would have been better raised by a _corpse._

[@rubixtheslime]

same boat, i... should not say what wishes i had about the people saying that

[@redgoldcrown3990]

I was such a big baby that my mom might very well have died trying to birth me vaginally, and I might not have even survived. my younger sister wouldn't have been born either. my mom's C-sections allowed her to give birth to two healthy babies, I don't get how that makes her not a real mom.

[@SpacemanTheo]

They c-sectioned both my sibling and me due to our umbilical cords wrapped around our necks. Yup, my mom would have given birth to two heavy strangled if not dead babies, but at least she'd be 'a real mother'. Thankful everyone in the family has brain cells and were supportive of her and us being alive.

[@minty_swb]

​@@SpacemanTheo hopefully you and your sibling were born without hydrocephalus, if so then that c section saved you both from a lifetime of pain, surgery, and complicated health issues. People against c sections really don't understand how dangerous natural births can be and that denying those who need it such a procedure can lead to permanent consequences, including death for the mother and child

[@SpacemanTheo]

@@minty_swb surprisingly we both were very healthy (aside from me needing a small surgery to keep my guts in place.) People that shit on life saving procedures are entirely about superiority complexes and don't have honest empathy or developed morals. They don't have two brain cells to rub together to see beyond surface level.

[@patriciaschiro2659]

My younger sister cried hysterically after having her son because she had to have a c-section and she had people who did give her a hard time about not being a true mom. Then she had trouble breast feeding which made it worse. I talked her through it. Then she had her daughter when her son was twelve and my other sister was giving her a hard time about scheduling a C-section for her daughter because she was told by her dr it would be too dangerous to try to have a natural birth. I again had to console my hysterically crying sister. People are so ridiculous.

[@nightbringar7558]

Some people are ridiculous and some people are downright cruel.

[@dreamieskies056]

In so sorry, she went through this, you should punch the other sister giving her a hard time.

[@njmoonfrost6145]

I am a c-section baby. I would be dead if they hadn’t done it. Tell your other sister would she rather have a dead sister and niece then? Good lord people are dumb. Tell your sweet sister we got her back

[@chancewill6910]

I'm the same, my birth mom and I would have both died. It's so much better to live in a time where we have health care and can fix these problems. She also couldn't breastfeed (she'd had a reduction when she was younger so it didn't work at all) so again thank goodness for the technology we have now. And thank goodness your sister has a sister like you

[@ppancakesyrup]

c-sec baby, i just wouldnt come out of my mom, tell those assholes that if c-secs didnt exist or my mom didnt get one we or atleast i would be dead

[@lucyhawkins917]

Today a boy in my biology class lectured me about how all babies born via IVF are “deformed”. I was born perfectly healthy via IVF but apparently he knows more than me.

[@JhericFury]

Just hold in incontinence/periods is the physical version of "just cheer up" to people with depression. Well I can't, Sharon, that's what the word means.

[@hamandeggs23]

What do you mean you need another haircut? Can't you just hold your hair in?

[@tjenadonn6158]

@@hamandeggs23 New Cinco Retractable Hair, From Cinco!

[@morganwilliams5591]

@@hamandeggs23 LOL definitely using this next time I see that attitude

[@gaxalee7392]

“What do you mean you have asthma? Just breathe already!”

[@zeratir7873]

"Just focus more!" Thanks my ADHD is cured...

[@ethnedragon8287]

My mom, born in 1925, was completely unaware women have 3 holes. She also called me, absolutely panicked one day at work (I was a hospital based EMT at the time working in labor & delivery) and requested I come home as soon as possible. She was convinced she found a tumor and wanted me to look before she went to the doctor. (I was the defacto "come take a look at this" for both my parents the last 25 years of their lives. I saw far more than any kid should have 😂) At the age of 72, my mother had found her clitoris. She had no clue what it was or what it was for. She had birthed 3 daughters and raised 4, and been married since age 27. This made me so incredibly sad. Mom hated men and anything even remotely relating to sex. Sadly in her time being asexual wasn't a thing. She had a brilliant mind and even into her later years could balance a checkbook without a calculator or scrap paper. She would have been a fabulous bookkeeper or accountant had she been able to go to college. It makes me sad that so many people today still have to hide who they are or pretend because they are afraid of being different or afraid they can't make it on their own and need a partner for stability.

[@kaitlyn__L]

That’s soo grim

[@ethnedragon8287]

@@kaitlyn__L oh I agree. Mom tried very hard to convince her daughters sex and men were bad. She only vaguely spoke about some sad history I won't discuss here, not just hers but her sister as well. Whether her feelings about men & sex are because of or in conjunction with, well she took that info with her unfortunately. Mom wasn't a good person, she was a narcissist and sociopath. But that doesn't make her life experiences any less sad.

[@kaitlyn__L]

@@ethnedragon8287 cycle of abuse, eh?

[@ethnedragon8287]

@@kaitlyn__L absolutely

[@MidoriyamaRArekusu]

I’m sorry for your mum; my mum is 73 (I still live with her, as my dad passed away almost 2 years ago) and she still forgets about the term asexual; she used to say she was a eunuch because despite being happy enough with my dad she had zero interest in sex. I try not to press the matter on her but I just let her know that it’s okay to not want another relationship and that it’s not necessary for a happy life. Dunno if she knows about the clitoris (really wanting to ask) but I hope she does, if just for the fact that it’s mentioned in a fair few British jokes.

[@michaelasinger3245]

I’m a teacher, and puberty is in the grade 4 curriculum where I teach. I taught my grade 4s puberty all together instead of separating them like many teachers do. It was really interesting actually, everyone had a lot of questions and everyone developed a lot of empathy towards each other. The boys were pretty mind-blown. They also learned that they aren’t totally different and will have similar experiences (emotions, body hair, growth, etc). I absolutely agree with you that everyone should be educated together as there really weren’t any drawbacks. They were still able to ask questions too (a common argument against keeping everyone together is that they might feel too embarrassed to ask questions in front of the other sex) as I gave all the students slips of paper to write any questions they had and put them into the anonymous box at the end of each lesson so we could go through them the next lesson.

[@lamorg]

I wish we had more teachers like you

[@rachelfox8108]

This would have been amazing to have. I'm one of triplets (2f, 1m), and while my sister and I were in the same class with the girls learning about female puberty, our brother was in the class with the boys learning about male puberty. That brother of mine proceeded to assume, apropos of nothing, that he was the authority on everything, including female anatomy, simply because he thought it, and would frequently tell my sister and I that we were wrong even about things like periods. Oh, he once told me that wasp stings were more painful than having appendicitis. I hadn't been stung by a bee or a wasp before that conversation, but I did have severe appendicitis that I nearly died from. I simply told my brother that he was wrong and an idiot.

[@ingridschmitt4391]

The anonymous questions are a great idea, would have loved that in school

[@yellowiris123]

They should also be educated early like your class because it gets weird by middle school. The opposite sex doesn't understand anything about the other sex and makes fun of them. I was in 7th grade before I was taught anything. I was 13 and was already in puberty before it was discussed. The previous year (6th grade) I knew a girl who had already become active. The schools in the 90s were way behind in my state.

[@michellebeaulieu8118]

Our class did this too, I really appreciated the anonymous questions box. And everyone was required to put something in even if it was blank so nobody knew who asked questions. This was in 7th or 8th grade tho

[@FailenW59]

I went to a christian college and grew up in what I thought was a pretty sheltered home. I quickly realized in college that I had the best sex ed of practically anybody on campus. I actually had to explain to my roommate that her period was not the egg in her ovaries exploding and that the blood wasn't a result of internal trauma. And that wasn't the worst thing. I became an impromptu biology teacher to most of the girls in that dorm. Super sad but unfortunately common.

[@Rosawyn]

I had a similar experience, being homeschooled until grade 8 and then discovering in grade 10 science that the girl sitting next to me had no idea that semen contains sperm. 😖😳

[@tabbitee]

Soooo if women with PCOS need to be 'less masculine'...does that mean women with endometriosis need to be...more...masculine?..........

[@TheBusyJane]

Then what if you have PCOS and endometriosis?

[@TwelveRats]

@@TheBusyJane More androgynous

[@Pandakenzii]

I have both so this is a conundrum

[@tabbitee]

Ooof. My sympathies :(

[@tabbitee]

It's a conundrum, to be sure...

[@faith-by-faith]

Someone tell that guy who thinks a pregnant person chooses the sex of the baby that this isn't The Sims.

[@amelieg246]

wait, you can choose the sex of the baby in the sims?? 😲😂

[@faith-by-faith]

@@amelieg246 Not sure if you can outright choose it, but you can influence it. It's been a while since I played, though, so I don't remember how.

[@jeanpierrepolnareff9009]

@@faith-by-faith yeah for girls you have to listen to pop and eat strawberries or something and I forget what it is for boys, but now that I think about it it's pretty sexist 👀

[@jodiehardy7220]

@@jeanpierrepolnareff9009 that’s sims 4 in sims 3 it’s not sexist just had to add it in as a sims 3 fan it’s just certain foods lol

[@AdelTheForsaken]

💀 AF!!!!

[@Shiralkian]

5:28 they might know what tampons are for, but there are some sad people out there who think we can control our periods... probably because there are some sad people who think it all comes out of the same hole. Edit to add: You can choose the sex of a baby by inputting the secret cheat code, I found it on a magazine. It's left, right, up, up, down, up, right, down, right, down, left, left, up. You're welcome.

[@catelynh1020]

In the sims 3 it was eat an apple for a boy and watermelon for a girl. I found out the hard way when my sims lived on an orchard and only had male children because of all the apple pancakes they made. Woops. I think there was also a cheat for twins by eating one fruit, getting a checkup at the hospital or having someone high in the doctor career test the baby's sex, then eat the other fruit exclusively till birth. But i could very well be wrong since i haven't played in so long

[@bukketkid2567]

🤣🤣🤣👍

[@rebeccahutchings3146]

Brilliant!

[@spicysalad3013]

Left right up on what, the clit? The motion of the ultrasound wand at your checkup? These are questions that must have answers!

[@Shiralkian]

@@spicysalad3013 Oh I was imagining like taking steps awkwardly looking around hoping it'll work, but your versions sounds much better.

[@Keely_OReally]

This has opened my eyes to the lack of sex education within our schools, and so I will be making sure my son knows about the female anatomy along with his own.

[@zagorskaewelina]

My problem is, although I have a really good relation with my 14-year -old son (who is home-schooled), he refuses to talk to both me and my husband about sex education :(

[@wendyfrederick5965]

​@@zagorskaewelina Maybe send him links to KZbin explaining what you want to tell him? ... and believe me there are plenty!!!

[@zagorskaewelina]

@@wendyfrederick5965 Thank you! Yes, this is a good idea. I don't know why I did not think about it! Regards!

[@blueismylove3128]

I consider my little brother my best friend, so it makes sense he felt comfortable talking to me about this and though I am so so thankful he is thoroughly educated on the female body, having your little brother exclaim his pride in knowing every single part of what people just call vagina, was one of the most uncomfortable moments of my life. He even threw in some fun facts 😭.

[@blueismylove3128]

​@@zagorskaewelinaMaybe ask him why the topic makes him so uncomfortable and let him know that's okay but really stress the importance of him knowing accurate sex ed

[@properantagonist]

"you're not a real parent if..." Let's just clap back and say "you're not a real parent if your love for your child is conditional"

[@tjenadonn6158]

"You're not a real parent if you don't plan on having any kids and live a happy childfree life."

[@NoiseDay]

If you just change "real" to "good" it shows even more how ridiculous their claims are. Like the way you give birth matters at all toward being a good parent.

[@hazelthenut2864]

you are a real parent if you love your child. if you walk out you are not areal parent, if you enter in the place of someone who did you are.❤

[@WarriorKalia]

"You're not a real parent if-" Nigga if it's a choice between being a good 'fake' parent and being you, I'm going with the former 10/10 times.

[@amanbirbthe4th967]

Well, i wouldn't want my adult child to be into minor children. That's conditional

[@JoPlaysSims]

Parenting is more than birth and breastfeeding. Some people 🙄

[@tjenadonn6158]

You just know these man-shaped things, no matter how many times they become biological fathers, will never be dads.

[@that_tvhead]

there's definitely more depth than that yeah especially since childhood is such a key growing stage for a human brain psychology-wise

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

It takes a village to raise a child. Or I dunno, just pop the baby out and leave it there.

[@fulana_de_tal]

Plus some people literally wouldn't be mothers if they didn't have a c-section because the baby would have died during childbirth

[@dani-mana]

Could you relay this information to my mother please? 😅

[@ShadoeLandman]

Actually, if a woman's bmi is unusually low, which can happen with eating disorders, or sometimes with athletes like distance runners, they may in fact stop having their period. That's why they thought that elite athletes shouldn't have to worry about it. But I think they underestimate how unusually low the bmi has to be, and it's generally not healthy.

[@kellyalves756]

I was gonna say, the braniac who wrote that one has heard about anorexic amenorrhea and thought it was goalz.

[@sarinap.1636]

True. When I was competing in martial arts I didn't start my period/go through puberty until 3 years after I quit and my body started relaxing from not being under so much stress.

[@coconutshavedice1078]

Can confirm if you don’t think you have an eating disorder and you stop having your period…. Maybe consider going to a doctor 👍

[@WarriorKalia]

@@sarinap.1636 yep, a combination of low body fat and high stress can fuck up menarche.

[@minty_swb]

Yup, when I was younger I was chronically underweight, participated in sports and weightlifting, and still managed to have a period, albeit once every couple months when my weight was at its worst

[@Wednesdaywoe1975]

That vintage ad re: weight gain--it's even worse when you realize that those "skinny dames" were skinny due to the fucking Depression and rationing during the Second World War.

[@newsjunkie7135]

Not all butch lesbians prefer femme partners. There are lots of butch-butch lesbian couples. (Also, some lesbians don't fit the butch-femme binary and that's valid too!)

[@tjenadonn6158]

Going to full-time misogynists like the ones featured in this video for info on how lesbians work is like going to professional pill popper Jordan Peterson for advice on how to get and stay sober.

[@John_Weiss]

@@tjenadonn6158 Oh, that misogynistic Arschtrompete is also a pill-popper? Good to know.

[@jill1594]

Yes!!!🙌

[@felixvelariusbos]

I legit, legit, had to have a long conversation with my dad because he was 100% convinced that every single lesbian couple would be butch/femme ,and that this was a Thing Like the man argued with me on this for awhile, being like "well my lesbian friend always talk about being the butch and says it's basically a requirement to have butch/femme" And I'm like HAVE YOU NEVER HEARD AN EXAGGERATION FOR COMEDIC EFFECT BEFORE (also gay people can have many different experiences and views on relationships some people get all in gender roles more than others yes butch and femme are identities that happen but there's not a requirement that all pairings must be heterogeneous OMG I'm sorry done rambling about this)

[@John_Weiss]

@@felixvelariusbos That's the Superpower of gay and lesbian couples: we aren't jailed by imposed cishet gender roles. Our division of labor is based upon interest and ability, not based on genitals or what you do in bed. 😉

[@j.apenrose7896]

Wooooah according to one of those posts I'm a man! Wish I could help my trans friends out by giving them these super masculine characteristics like "long periods" so they could be recognised by disgusting misogynistic people as men in more ways than just their beard. 🤦‍♀️ Yes Jamie, you're not imagining it. This subreddit is just getting worse. :/

[@eliasbischoff176]

As a man, I can 100% confirm that long periods are a masculine feature

[@tjenadonn6158]

@@eliasbischoff176 My mom is so manly and had such long periods she needed to get a hysterectomy otherwise there was a good chance she might've slowly bled to death.

[@alexanderryanhigbee4005]

@@eliasbischoff176 if you're a man you would want 100% not understand what the f*** a long period is so your statement is 100% stupid but at least you got the percentage right so maybe you're a boy but certainly not a man

[@alexanderryanhigbee4005]

@Ville well madam sorry but I'm not going to translate your I believe it's Arabic but I wish the best for you but I cannot back up anything you said cuz I have no idea what you said but you seem friendly so I'll back it up in a friendly manner unless you're saying something like kill all the Heretics and then I got to be like nah let's not do that like I feel a lot of Heretics around here but I wouldn't hurt them or do them damage

[@Bunny_Bill]

Wow and I'm under a C cup-probably-AND I have acne!!! As a trans man, I feel very validated 👍🏻

[@robinchesterfield42]

"There's more than one hole?!!!" This just in: Women must be birds, since we apparently have cloacas. Edit: 13:24 I love that even the CAT is done with this nonsense. XD

[@rudra62]

No, women are snakes, as they too have a single opening for all waste, laying of eggs, and (in some species) having penetrative sex, called a cloaca.😋 But yeah, these same misogynists will gladly call women "birds" sometimes, or call all women "bird brained".

[@Kathywake23]

If these ppl actually had s3x with women, they'd know there are 3 holes!

[@Kathywake23]

@jordanrodrigues1279 this right here

[@rydrakeesperanza5370]

Thought the same. Or a monotreme, that's at least phylogenetically closer. 🤔

[@Xanderj89]

I’m proud of myself for instantly saying *cloaca??* in the vid lol

[@sojabursche]

my gynecologist told me that period pain is not normal. but that we are told that it is normal so we stop "complaining" and/or stop "bothering" doctors with it, because finding the origin or even just a solution to the pain is often difficult and time consuming. my pain was severe, i lost consciousness from the pain multiple times, i often was unable to communicate and did not have any control over my body (could not even lift an arm or move my fingers), just from the pain, and pain killers didn't help. they found that my body reacted to having a period with full on labor contractions, every muscle in my back(even the neck), my sides, my stomach and my legs was affected. and it took over a decade, multiple emergency room visits from side effects like life threatening dehydration from hyperemisis and not even going on t stopped it. i still don't know the cause but 125mg of t injected subcutaneously every 9 days in combination of 75microgram/day of desogestrel seems to work for me. (no it somehow did not work with intramuscular t injections or trans-dermal application of t gel, but since i changed to subQ injections 3 months ago i also started getting t effects again which had stopped after the first year of starting t even tho i have had the same good blood levels as i do now since i started t 4 years ago.)

[@The_KitKat]

Holy --! I’ve delivered 3 babies and I can’t even imagine what that must have been like for you! A purple heart to you! 💜 It just goes to show how even professionals are misinformed or using their own beliefs as their first step in determining if there is an issue or not. 😒

[@rebeccajesse4604]

Intramuscular and subQ injections are absorbed and processed differently so while for some people it may not make much of a difference for others it can make all the difference! glad you found something that worked for you, those years must have been absolute hell and you are amazing for persevering through it!

[@wonderlandeldemonanastasi]

Holy absolute crap mate, that is TERRIFYING 😳 I'm an afab trans guy who started taking birth control mainly to stop my heavy and personality-changing periods but also to tide me over until testosterone which I am starting my second month of today. Before bc, it would be a "Wheel of Misfortune" to see what would happen on my period, and only once do I recall having cramps painful enough to put me on the floor crying. But your period making you experience going into LABOR??!?!!!? Holy shit!! I can't imagine the pain, I've never experienced that before. It is good that testosterone is helping you, it never occurred to me that cis women would take it for period problems but it makes sense!

[@meemurthelemur4811]

The number of men who still insist on mansplaining periods and female anatomy to women in this day and age continues to astound me.

[@intercat4907]

Think of it as a dating ritual; it's a woman's way of figuring out which ones to avoid. You go, girl. Signed, a dad.

[@meemurthelemur4811]

@@intercat4907 thankfully I'm old enough to not have to worry about narrowing the field, so to speak. Tho I do appreciate that you as a dad know and care enough to speak up and stand up for your own. Keep spreading that k knowledge and willingness to talk about things that seem to make most dads... uncomfortable. You go, dad!

[@johnc3525]

It's getting worse. Have you seen transwomen (men) saying they have periods and explaining how periods work? Now men not only mansplaining, some are trying to replace women. Because "their experience is valid".

[@chicks_before_dicks]

​@@johnc3525 Whoa there buddy...there's more than enough womanhood for all of us to share

[@blueismylove3128]

​@@johnc35251) Transwomen are women 2) literally what trans woman is saying she has a period, that isn't doing it for shock value?

[@Deathly_Visage]

In the US the average height of cisgender women is 5'4" and the average weight is 140 lbs. That guy ain't gonna be dating anytime soon with those ridiculous standards.

[@pungetello]

Not to mention, a C cup is going to be very uncommon for someone that small.

[@DrZaius3141]

Yeah, it ain't his standards that are holding him back, but his personality.

[@tjenadonn6158]

@@DrZaius3141 A shit personality is the best contraceptive of all.

[@moritz1999moritz]

*women

[@froggie0ribbit592]

@@moritz1999moritz They spelled women correctly chief, what are you trying to correct them on?

[@faithfullness5544]

Men who say they want a short woman, with no body hair, no acne, and light/no periods do not want a women. They are literally describing a child. Men who have these expectations should be put on a watch list because it's very worrying that they think like this.

[@Charple]

Nobody says this. You’re cringe. We want real women, not mentally ill liberals.

[@mesimesi2313]

This is where we are going. Free range of children to pick from to have sex.

[@Valdagast]

They sometimes want her to have gigantic tits, though. It's a weird and very disturbing fetish.

[@tyler2102]

The whole trans community needs to be on a watch list. Never seen a community push sexualization on children so much in my entire life.

[@Valdagast]

@@tyler2102 I strongly disagree. They are not sexualizing children. There is a difference between wanting kids to hear about trans people existing and wanting to fuck them. If you look at actual data, child rape is orders of magnitude common among the very religious.

[@Your_Casual_Corvid_Kosmo]

on a brighter note, naming your cat 'Apollo" is peak human performance in my (probably valid) opinion-

[@nicomoist5336]

I worship Apollon, so its hella funny as well. its like the god himself was like, "holy shit this mortal dumb as hell"

[@rebeccafeline6337]

WHY did I decide to watch this while trying to distract myself from my crippling period pain? Now I’m just angry and in pain

[@kathilisi3019]

Aww... There's a video of men trying a period pain simulator, maybe that will cheer you up.

[@kathilisi3019]

Okay, so there's actually lots of them, but the one I was thinking of is called Irish people try a period pain simulator, by the TRY channel. I had a lot of fun watching that.

[@xsavagelovex]

bruh same.

[@LaDaDaDeDaDaDa..]

It's okay, dw. Just remember you have pissed a sexist man off by not having a child with a man and have instead let the egg die :)

[@tayatoyaify]

Girl, SAME

[@sirilundgren4288]

It's at times like this I realise just how much better our sex ed is in Sweden compared to a lot of other countries... The fact that you would separate girls and boys and teach them different things is really weird! When I had sex ed it was the whole class getting the same information together.

[@Card_Crazed]

I'm in Canada, and we had joint sex education when I was a teen... as did both of my daughters, who are now adults. Even if they didn't get taught basic anatomy at school, my husband and I would have taught them at home. Basic anatomy WITH THE PROPER NAMING! In the USA, so many parents are uncomfortable with using the proper names of vaginas, penises etc., that they tell their child(ren) thingy, or some other vague reference... so when the time comes, most girls who don't have a clue, will end up getting raped from the lack of knowledge. Makes me FURIOUS!

[@jackson5802]

It really depends where you are in the US. My school did separate us by perceived gender but we all got the same information about both sexes and it was trans inclusive

[@wickerbeastinlila]

In Germany we had sex ed together. But we were seperated once. The women got together with a female teacher and the boys got a male teacher. We girls could ask everything we felt uncomfy to discuss with the boys around and vice versa. This was super helpful and needed

[@xXbubbelXx]

@@wickerbeastinlila We never got seperated and personally I don't feel we (as a class) ever needed it. But there was the opportunity to submit anonymous questions to work around the "shame factor" and one time we had people from some organization who also offer sex ed courses come in so we didn't only have a teacher to talk to.

[@ForeverLumoz]

In Denmark biology and sex ed classes are taught to the entire class at once. So all learn from the same teacher and they learn the same things. I know there’s idiots here who just didn’t listen, but I hope there’s fewer people that have no idea how bodies work.

[@briannachapin5156]

Being a woman with PCOS, two male children, had extremely painful, irregular, and long periods(had a hysterectomy), I can not believe how much society has failed to teach about in sex Ed. I would have never thought this to be an issue in this day and age. We are failing our youth. Parents need to be educating their children and not leaving it up to the schools. I was always there to talk to my boys and teach them what they needed to know and answered all their questions.

[@firestriker3580]

All false

[@firestriker3580]

Society shouldn’t teach sex Ed stfu

[@firestriker3580]

No we shouldn’t tell anything

[@joysjourney19]

The "men don't date women that" One sounds like they want to date a child. No acne? No body hair? No period? below 5'4? THATS AN EFFING CHILD.

[@JazniaDraw]

I actually saw someone that was like "the ideal woman is this and that" that said that the peek age of woman was at 15, so yeah, i suspect most people that have these ridiculous standards for woman are actually ped0s

[@krishmangat3224]

Is that person above 18? yes? then no she is not a child. Rich? Tall? Handsome? Strong? You think I would call women shallow for those preferences but I don't because I don't judge people based on their preferences. People do not have control over what makes them attracted to other people. I like Indian women because I am Indian, I really can't control that. And it does not mean that I am racist.

[@joysjourney19]

@@krishmangat3224 look at the description, if you're talking about an AFAB person they won't meet the criteria if they're 18 or over. defending pedos is not a good look.

[@joysjourney19]

@@JazniaDraw that's my point! they want to defend it as a "preference" but they are really predators. as a survivor of csa it infuriates me.

[@83gemm]

Ah! Thank you! I knew something was extra creepy there. You are spot on.

[@basementdwellercosplay]

People: men don't need to know about periods! Also people: don't use pads/tampons, just hold it in!

[@kaitlyn__L]

That’s the shit that made guys angry when Scotland made period products free

[@tjenadonn6158]

@@kaitlyn__L Notably among the people getting angry when Scotland did that was self-described "feminist" Joey Rowling. I swear were she alive to see them she'd be in staunch opposition to the Suffragettes while still claiming to be the sole voice for women's rights.

[@kaitlyn__L]

@@tjenadonn6158 wow, I missed that she hated on that law. Quite a few terfs had the good sense to at least stay quiet, or even pretend they’d campaigned for it. But I’m not surprised she found some damn reason to hate on it.

[@luna-p]

@@tjenadonn6158 What did she say? I can't find it.

[@aceatlasska4343]

​@@luna-p yeah I'm Scottish and didn't hear anything about Rowling's opinion either

[@AliceSylph]

The 3 hole conversation; I told a guy when I was 8 years olds I had kidney stones and had to have keyhole surgery (where instead of making an external incision they use the opening already there to access the renal system). He laughed and said "so you lost your virginity to a surgeon's tool when you were 8". He refused to see how incredibly wrong and incorrect that was to say, and couldn't understand how my hymen (not the determination of consensual 'virginity' anyhow) was not broken if they went up my urethra

[@melissabarrett9750]

Most men haven't got a clue about female anatomy. I once had a boyfriend who honestly thought that the stomach and the uterus was the same space 😳

[@ameliabarrett3093]

I find it incredibly creepy that men still judge women about 'losing their virginity'

[@LMvonLebkuchen]

@@melissabarrett9750 My mother explained basic pregnancy to me as a toddler because she was worried I would think exactly that. Babies hanging out in the stomach next to lunch. Was he familiar with the word "uterus"? If not, I am surprised it never came up. If he was, I wonder what he thought it was 🤔

[@melissabarrett9750]

@@LMvonLebkuchen I don't think the words uterus or womb were in his wheelhouse of knowledge. He was a shining example of how intelligence is in inverse proportion to penis size

[@Xanderj89]

I knew a girl in high school who insisted that the hymen would just kinda move out of the way when you went for it. I did not know where to start. I think she was like, Salutorian and had never missed a day of school, theater kid, married her hs sweetheart right after graduating.

[@CrepuscularQueen]

The short clip brings back memories when my guy friend was at my house and I was trying to explain how periods worked. He looked so shocked hearing about three holes I was confused where he thought the bleeding came from. My stepmom was there and she decided to give the rundown of a cis womens anatomy, pulled up diagrams on google, showed him what a tampon was, and a puberty girls video to show him. He probably learned more from that day than what any person learned from school and I find that messed up.

[@BuckyBarnesAndNoble]

So all this time I’ve been taking medication for my pcos when all I had to do was be more feminine and it would have been cured lol

[@iPyromantic]

Ohhh, so because I was a "tomboy" when I was a kid, THAT'S why I got PCOS? Alert the gynecological community! It's a scientific breakthrough!

[@NoiseDay]

Can you imagine though if you wore a skirt like 10% more often and that actually affected your hormones? What a world we'd be living in...

[@lindamarshall3485]

Get polishing those nails!

[@a.e.3984]

That C-section post really got to me! If C-section didn't exist, my mom and I would have died at my birth. She's a great mom, I love her and I'm grateful we're both still here

[@m-vi-yoh]

Same

[@tjenadonn6158]

Also C-sections or equivalent procedures have been around for hundreds of years. Need I mention Macduff from Shakespeare's "Macbeth," who was from his mother's womb untimely ripp'd? All that's really changed is that we've gotten better at making sure the mother survives the procedure.

[@jlzombiecat]

My younger sister would have died with her first and now she has three.

[@ella_melchionna]

Exactly!! My mom would’ve had to have one anyway, but it was especially necessary bc me and my twin sibling were born 3 months early

[@kaitlyn__L]

Meanwhile my mother said a lot of gross things about C-sections, and was inordinately proud of herself for “avoiding” one by choosing a birthing pool, and refused to get a hysterectomy for a hugely long time after she needed one. She wasn’t even very good at the care part, but she was SO proud of herself for birthing well 🙄

[@alyrivers7864]

"Women with long hair are more agreeable and attractive to men" My husband: "OH you should get a pixie cut again! That was cute" every time I talk about wanting a haircut.

[@WarriorKalia]

I agree, pixie cut is cute. I will assume his assessment of it being cute on you is 100% correct as well.

[@shirleymarie2288]

Same. My fiance loves short hair.

[@dorothyplummer2624]

I am a woman with a deep voice and a beard, both starting at puberty. I have been pregnant 10 times with only 2 surviving to birth. They are both grown men now. My mother, sister and paternal aunts all had/have beards. All of us are taller than average. The "don't date a woman if" trope is ridiculous.

[@anm1236]

For the hair tying one, as a transmasc person with rather long hair I can’t stop thinking about the many times hair ties break at inconvenient points (in the middle of turns in a dance class, for example) which is out of a person’s control and basically with the way these rules are written is impossible to abide by

[@sharonfleshman6961]

While the "nape of the neck" comment may seem strange, I think it came from Korea. Traditionally the nape of the neck is considered very attractive. Putting your hair up to expose it is very adult and sexy.

[@Mokiefraggle]

@@sharonfleshman6961 Yeah, that's true in more than one Asian country (it's why in Japan, a geisha's white face makeup is applied to leave a strip of bare skin at her nape, for example), but the way that the rule is written is both very much the "girls are to blame for the sexual over-excitement of men, not the men being perverts for getting horny about young girls" viewpoint, and also impossible to easily follow for those girls with long hair, depending on how you read into it. The requirement that girls with long hair must wear their hair up, but also can't tie it up while in school (as it can therefore expose the nape) is absurd, as most methods for tying long hair up into a ponytail will inevitably expose at least some small amount of the nape, and is therefore against the rules. That means that the girls can't adjust their ponytail if it's coming undone, or redo it if their hair tie breaks, but they also can't leave their hair down if that happens, as that will _also_ break the rules. It's a whole lot of sexist, female-shaming language, coupled with catch-22s all over the place, which is why it's problematic.

[@WarriorKalia]

@@Mokiefraggle honestly my thoughts went to East Asian culture as well... as well as "well... if I have to do all this with long hair, then... I won't have long hair? Short it is!"

[@Mokiefraggle]

@@WarriorKalia Some people just really like long hair, and/or don't want to deal with the maintenance on a short haircut, I imagine. I've had short hair and bangs, and I was constantly frustrated when it got longer, because it became impossible to style it as I wanted, and I especially had to maintain the bangs with frequent trims, until I finally gave up and grew the lot of it out. Now, I just slap it up in a ponytail when I don't want to do anything with it, it also doesn't get greasy-feeling within a day of washing, so I can do that a lot less often--again, takes away some of the maintenance requirements--and it's just so much easier to get the whole thing out of the way versus the constant fussing I had to do with my short haircut. So, I can see the appeal of long hair, in addition to the fact that some girls also might just relate long hair to feeling more feminine or prettier, etc.

[@lexwithbub]

Also, with csections, even if they're "elective" that's often "oh, vaginal birth isn't going to go well here, and if we let the mother attempt vaginal birth, either mum, baby, or both WILL die and end up in emergency surgery anyway, so let's schedule in a csection ahead of time so it doesn't get to that point" It's not just mothers being "too posh to push" like these natural birth eejits try to tell you it is. A csection is major abdominal surgery, they're not just doing it for sh!its and giggles. It's a literal life saving option, and is actually better for all involved if it can be planned ahead rather than waiting until active labour and lives are already at risk. .

[@linden5165]

I had two c-sections one emergency (and traumatic) and one elective. It's not an easy option. At all. Then you're caring for a newborn day and night while recovering from abdominal surgery (and breastfeeding too possibly). It is a huge challenge. If that's not parenting then I don't know what is.

[@shincci]

My neck would've literally snapped if my mom didn't decide to have C-section, soooo :)

[@John_Weiss]

@@linden5165 Curious and ignorant Gay Guy here. Does having a c-section make it more difficult [or even dangerous] to go through "natural" labor at a later pregnancy?

[@linden5165]

@@John_Weiss it depends on lots of different factors, especially how long it's been since the c-section. It can be done but usually with close monitoring (it's called VBAC - vaginal birth after c-section).

[@John_Weiss]

@@linden5165 Good to know! No surprise that it depends on a slew of different factors, either. I had heard … somewhere … that having a c-section could lead to needing c-sections in future pregnancies … depending on a bunch of factors … whether you wanted one or not.

[@Julianakun]

I’m forever scarred because the 21 year old cishet boy in the factory I used to work at genuinely thought that the penis goes into the cervix. And he wouldn’t let any afab person in the building talk him down from his delusion either. He was convinced he knew our anatomy better than we do.

[@melodrayo8926]

no words but holy jesus. what in the internet delusion brought to life is this? even just reading this im scared wirh the sheer insanity of the claim

[@Julianakun]

@@melodrayo8926 I was as befuddled as you are now. He was the brand that definitely went after the sheltered girls so he probably wasn’t used to being challenged on this “knowledge” of his. I feel so bad for all of those women. But also for all afab people in general because he had a whole crew backing him up and cheering him on. 🤢 it’s that “hahaha we’re in danger” meme irl

[@thetimekeeper955]

Bro was telling the world he was watching too much porn without saying he was watching too much porn.

[@Julianakun]

@@thetimekeeper955 is there animated porn out there where the penis goes through the cervix? There must be but also 🤢

[@tdelioncourt1268]

I left a "ouch" out of my mouth just reading that

[@daniexmachina]

I was never told about cramping with periods and when I got them suddenly, I legitimately thought I was dying and I saw my nurse grandmother and I was told to stop acting like that because I was embarrassing her

[@CJMactaggartknits]

OMG - I have heard all of this and been discriminated against for all of this. From my cup size, to my hair styles, my height, and my genetic issues. A lot of the hate was from bosses and peers, but some was from "in laws."( On boxing day this year) I am able to laugh at this now, but the "are you F'ing serious" was said many times over the last 30+ years.

[@Widdekuu91]

Same here! I am very tall, flatchested, weight a lot (because of the height, I'm skinny) and I have men's size feet (because otherwise I would topple over.) And whether or not someone noticed I didn't shave my legs that day or something else stupid like my jeans bulging because of the zipper, it could be _anything_ and there was always an uneducated guy (or someone who thought he was funny) that was convinced (or tried to convince the rest of the class) that I was a man. Legit a man, no further questions, I just was.

[@therewillbecatswithgwenhwyfar]

My favorite of the period simulator stuff is when they have the women do it first so that they can see how far they go and the women in the videos I’ve watched have all made it to the 10 and only even started saying that it was somewhat annoying when it was like 8-10. Then the guys are screaming at level 6.

[@therewillbecatswithgwenhwyfar]

10:41 We aren’t chickens. We don’t have a cloaca.

[@marvellousme]

Actually when I was in labour it was better than being on my period as I didn’t have to get up and pretend everything was normal. Full disclosure, I still had to have an epidural so that I’d stop vomiting and make the baby come too quick

[@iPyromantic]

I don't know why but it bothers me so much that people call those machines "period pain simulators" or "labor simulators." They're TENS machines, a medical device, and I honestly worry sometimes that people might damage their muscles by turning them up too high for too long.

[@LeeraChan]

@@marvellousme my mom said something similar. When I was younger I asked her what being in labour and giving birth feels like because it's always described as the worst pain. And she just looked and me and went "actually, compared to my periods quite bearable! There are breaks inbetween instead of constant pain and it only lasts for around a day. Wasn't that bad."

[@gamergirl24]

My oldest sister was appalled when she found out in her 30s that she has separate holes for peeing and her period. I was like, "How the frick do you not know this about your own body?!"

[@aidenkirby1472]

I once dated a cis gender woman that thought she peed put of that, too. I had to explain the 3rd hole. 🤦🏽

[@naymeequillo]

You are a real parent when you take care of a child in a helpful way to the child. This makes me the temporary mummy for about a few hundred children. I work in a daycare centre and a mother told me this. She said I was part mum. Because I added something really valuable to the upbringing of her children, being there for them when the bio parents couldn't. I may have started crying and I've never felt more appreciated. Thank you for this video and thanks for pointing out all the wrongs. I feel like you're helping massively to balance things out. 💖

[@botboifm]

This outfit really carries some comfy cozy vibes, I dig it. This is today's gender.

[@botboifm]

@KrimsonKatt Correct, that's part of the joke. To overexplain: for nonbinary and trans people, we love to refer to a certain aesthetic as "gender" as a joke; something that gives us a hit of identity euphoria. For me, Jamie's outfit here is what resonated with me because it's similar to how I dress.

[@Corviidei]

Dudes will argue with trans people over terminology and jokes they don’t even understand

[@Sirtrollsalotalot]

@@krimsonkatt that's right you need to wear the clothes of the opposite gender and claim to be the opposite gender because dressing up as something and claiming to be that thing automatically makes you that thing that's why Halloween isn't safe there's zombies and ghosts everywhere😂 trans=Halloween costume

[@youdontownme08]

I really like your comment! 😁

[@lamsy1]

thats a girl

[@averyquinn9780]

With the tweet that said to "hold your bladder and donate it to charity", my immediate thought was to donate the period blood to charity.

[@NoiseDay]

Bro if my period blood was useful for anything, I might not hate it as much

[@themadkitkat9302]

what i alwayz think of during my period is this one kids show/book scream street where the vampire families have blood on the tap and the explanation for its source is whenever someome gets a cut or something and the blood gets washed down the drain, its filtered out for the vampires to drink so they dont need to hunt so whenever im in the shower i tell myself that im feeding the vampires (:

[@LMvonLebkuchen]

That is actually been suggested. Maybe not by that post but there was one where a guy was suggesting that the blood be donated for transfusions in Ukraine 🤦‍♂️ Bruh, it's blood the body is THROWING AWAY. No good for donation

[@Deeeee-sd2wp]

When Jamie said that, I wondered who wanted my urine (given that I have to hold my bladder)... I can't imagine anyone wanting my blood or urine. Charities have enough problems.

[@cynicalcephalalgy1767]

Some of them go even further on the whole "if you don't give birth 'naturally' you're not a real mother" and say that having an epidural or any pain relief is "cheating" or "not proper childbirth" and other bullshit.

[@andrewhaywood3853]

America seems to be absolutely full of religious nutters, to the point where it’s most of the population. We just haven’t had that type of thinking in the U.K. for so long they seem medieval for such nonsensical bible thumping. But Queen Victoria put an end to the whole God intended it to be painful trope, and if you watch “Call the Midwife” you realise that Nuns in the 1950’s in the U.K. had more compassion in their little fingers than these fanatics in America do now.

[@Deas-Mhumhna]

The pregnancy and parental ones really get under my skin. I'm a trans man, fully wanting to do breast removal and hormones after I freeze my eggs and tissue. I am on the fence about retaining my uterus for raising a family while still being trans male. I know I'll get a lot of looks and others will try to say I am not a man due to my potential pregnancy. Like somehow I will be less of a parent due to me giving birth. I like the idea of being a seahorse dad and I really do want to raise a family as a man. These posts are really frustrating to hear how uneducated people can be. And We Have Google!

[@hexinthelilypond4213]

Was going to comment a seahorse emoji and am devastated to find there isn’t one, so this’ll have to do 🌊🐴👨‍🍼

[@Deas-Mhumhna]

@@hexinthelilypond4213 yeah, no seahorse🥺

[@chip4410]

Fuck yeah!!! Seahorse dad!!! I hope that goes well for you :))

[@ZeroLeviathan7]

As a bisexual with a preference for women, I’m glad I have many of the things that make me “unattractive” to men so they’ll leave me tf alone.

[@flootzavut30daychallenge]

Oh mood

[@tereziahirjakova5076]

Lmao my goal the entire time. I enjoy the fact i can finally be their friend without them always wanting to take it to the next level. Then i always lost wonderful male friends cause they couldn't be "just friends"

[@MoodyMickey]

As an asexual, I'm also glad if I'm "unattractive" to men. I hate the idea of being sexualized and I don't want weirdos to bug me

[@MewLime]

Mood!!

[@biancavasileva9803]

As a heterosexual woman... I feel the exact same way.

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

We're barely taught about OUR OWN anatomy. I used to think there was just one hole at the front and one at the back - and I used to think the one at the back was the one we gave birth through. Then I thought it was the one at the front that I pissed through. I was completely confused and unaware that there was another hole down there because I wasn't taught.

[@reeveharper6061]

Same lmao When did you find out? I found out like half a year into having periods

[@erinnadia0409]

Yes I went to Catholic school that taught us nothing. I didn't even know about periods before I got mine. I remember thinking I cut the inside of my leg when I got my first one and was very confused/traumatised by it. I wish my family talked to me about periods before I got mine. I was 14 too so not super young

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

@@erinnadia0409 I was thankfully informed about that. I was 11 or 12. My mum had told me that my discharge might turn brown before it started. I remember running downstairs like "look, Mum, it turned brown" and she was like "Lizzy, no, that's blood"

[@erinnadia0409]

@@unapologeticallylizzy I really hope this younger generation are getting better lessons now. It really is so important to learn this

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

@@erinnadia0409 I hope so. Although I'm only 19 so I don't know how much it will have changed. I hope a lot has changed in that time.

[@RL-xh8jb]

I always hate when people use the "you didn't give birth to you kid naturally so you're not a real mother". My mom has the bone structure of a 9-year-old (this is what her gynaecologist told her anyway) and my brother weighed 9.5 lbs when he was born. If it weren't for her c-section, both could've (and probably would've) died. As for me, I was a "planned" c-section because her doctor was afraid her uterus might rupture* (not sure if that's the right word cause I'm translating from my native language) because of how thin it was.

[@The_KitKat]

Rupture is the correct word. You said it all beautifully! 👍🏻😁👍🏻

[@crystalheart9108]

The first one in the vid reminds me of this weird belief I overheard in a restaurant. I was there with my Nana and we overheard a group of middle aged guys saying some pretty messed up stuff. One said that only the women who didn't want kids or were going to pick their career over kids have PCOS. I felt like laughing but also punching him.

[@phoenixfreefall]

My daughter broke my tailbone trying to exit the birth canal, couldn't progress after a full night of labor, and her heart rate kept dropping. I desperately wanted to give birth vaginally for a number of reasons, but ultimately, a C-section was the right choice for keeping my daughter safe as I brought her into the world. No one ever gets to make me feel like less than the best mom I can be for making a medical decision for my daughter's safety and well-being.

[@kellyalves756]

Good Lord. You deserve a Purple Heart or something.

[@The_KitKat]

The definition of birth (for idiots): Baby is inside of mommy. Baby goes outside of mommy. Yay, welcome to the world, baby! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@Jarimir]

I'm gay and my ex found out in his 20's that vagina's (generally) are self lubricating (during sex). He was very incredulous and then transitioned into a sense of "that's just not fair" as it was being explained to him.

[@samuraix558]

lMAOOOO

[@cosmicreef5858]

Not fair? In what way? Does he know that it is a GOOD thing? That it helps both the man and the woman during sex/makes it enjoyable. Also men themselves make lubricant during sex so..yeah What is not fair?

[@Jarimir]

@@cosmicreef5858 because for him as a gay man, if he is not prepared ahead of time, no lube = no sex. OFC it is a good thing. It is a good thing to be jealous of! For the last time we: #1 don't chose to be gay and #2 we don't choose to be gay because we think it's so freaking awesome all the time in every way...

[@shatteredteacup03]

Okay but fr Jamie going on a rant about how you are a real parent no matter the circumstances you 'get' a child brought actual tears to my eyes because I needed to hear this. After my hysterektomie I felt euphoric because I as a trans masculine person would not be comfortable with being pregnant, but at the same time I was and am absolutely devasteted because I will never have children of my own now. Hearing this reminded me that I do not need to carry a baby to raise one and I am so looking forward to welcoming a child into my family and give it a loving home.

[@laurendisney]

I'm under 120lbs, they don't make bras small enough for me, and I "failed" two of my children by not letting them die via vaginal birth 🙃 I cannot with these type of memes!

[@michellecoleman5577]

OMG! It literally took me a second because I was distracted by the 'hold your bladder' part, to realize that they meant to donate the money from tampons to charity, not whatever you're holding in. I'm dying over my own failure.

[@marmarlittlechick]

😂 I thought the same thing. Still laughing. 😂

[@barrylangille3523]

It did sound like thaf though. You're not the only one who thought that

[@user-hu1pk4sp6t]

Oh, I thought like you until read your comment 😂

[@maraschwartz6731]

I thought they were saying to donate your menstrual blood

[@amazinggrace5692]

Same here! It’s because of poor wording on their part.

[@Sly-Moose]

"Women with long hair are more submissive and agreeable." Tell that to my frikkin MOM! 🤣 She's the most stubborn human being I personally know! 😂

[@tjenadonn6158]

All my aunts have long hair, and are better described as forces of nature than women. Let's just say I'm glad they're on my team, because I wouldn't want to be facing them as my opposition. When they want to make something happen they will straight up bend and break the laws of matter, energy, space, and time to make it happen.

[@j.c.2240]

I have a mohawk. I'm going to let the middle grow as long as possible

[@lauratroy13]

I am your mom 😁 I had hair down to my ass and I'm most definitely neither sub nor agree with anything

[@CarolaTesla]

@@tjenadonn6158 where do I sign to stop being describe as a woman and to start being describe as a force of nature???

[@shincci]

Or to my girlfriend who is feminine af and would verbally destroy people who talk like that.

[@jama416]

I love that the dude saying women weren't smart enough to willfully give birth to more girls used the wrong "they're" 🤣🤣

[@pachoncita]

👋 hey there, I'm a cisgender female and I hate my period like a lot women do.... I either have it 6 times a year or 12 time a year 🙄 my now husband knew nothing about the human body and I had to educate him on the few things I know. he wanted 5 kids and thought it was easy since he's 1 out of 5 himself, after my very difficult week long birth followed by being hospitalized a month after for 2 week, he said he was happy to only have one kid, unless I wanted another one

[@captainwatercress]

I was a C-Section baby, and to say my mom didn’t “give birth” is a lie. She spent 17 hours in labour before being moved for a C-Section! Additionally, whether or not a parent gives birth to their child is irrelevant. Being a parent is about taking care of your child. Much love, Jamie 💜

[@zzernathezebra]

The childbirth and women being dramatic made me laugh, because I am part of a crew where we are all DFAB and one of us sprained an ankle, one cut their thigh with chainsaw by accident (She was learning how to use it at the time and person teaching her left her unsupervised for a minute and she forgot to put her chaps back on), etc. and we were talking about how it wasn't a big deal. How it these things didn't bother us as much as what we deal with every month. It just happened, so we were just going to deal with it

[@aon02b]

I once cut my finger to the bone with a saw. It took years before it could bend like it used to. Then I cut that same finger with a knife and got stitches. And once that was healed, I hit that same finger with a hammer so hard the bone fractured. The finger turned completely blue and the nail fell off. I've also burned my thigh, face and hands on 2800 degrees hot metal (accident at work). And I was involved in a hit-and-run where I had to take myself to the hospital with blood pouring out of my mouth and both nostrils because nobody was around to help. None of these things caused me as much pain as the cramps I experience every single month during my period. Period cramps have made me throw up and pass out even while being drugged up on painkillers. While most of my other injuries barely even made me flinch. I'd like to see the men who say this bullsh*t actually experience what it feels like.

[@roguehordeclone7671]

Childbirth has been scientifically proven to be the most painful thing a human can experience, seconded very closely by period cramps

[@naysneedle5707]

If women were the dramatic ones, manflu wouldn't be a thing.

[@tjenadonn6158]

@@roguehordeclone7671 And yet there's a part of me that's extremely dysphoric about the fact that I'll never experience either of them. Something within me desperately longs for that pain, even though I already have a massively low pain tolerance and period issues run in my family. I doubt trans guys long for the male equivalent, which I guess would be knowing what it's like to get hit in the balls, but part of me will never feel fully female without having that trial by ordeal. Dysphoria is a trip.

[@blueiris574]

​@@aon02b I apologize if you have seen a doctor about this already, but just in case you haven't : that might not be a normal amount of pain. You might want to try, if you can, go see a doctor. I'm so sorry about the pain you're going through every month.

[@fionnagrant6636]

The recovery from a c section is way harder than vaginal delivery. I have had two kids delivered vaginally. I have such huge respect for c section Mums. They had major abdominal surgery to be with their child, and most likely saved their life. More credit to the c section Mums I say. What amazing women/people, so brave and loving.

[@TheRegisteredNerd]

My younger son was born so quickly I was unable to have an epidural. I had to call an ambulance because my contractions were so close together I couldn't stand to get to the car. At the hospital, they had to give me medicine to slow them down because my son was in distress and I wasn't able to get a good deep breath in to push. Once he was born, I ended up having a retained placenta. THAT was the worst pain I've ever felt in my life and what I now hold a 10. To my detriment considering I've lived with chronic psoriatic arthritis pain and didn't realize how much until I had relief. Don't downplay your pain, no matter what it is.

[@victoriabugado6272]

There was a lot of Victorian "If women are too smart, their uteruses will fall out" energy here. But I had to laugh at the idea that the solution to urinary incontinence is to have the bladder removed 😂

[@My_mid-victorian_crisis]

I have PCOS and used to arc wield in skirts and heels. ALSO... I hate the obsession with cup size!!! Cup size is a metric that is the difference between the rib circumference and the "bust" circumference. A 36 C is smaller than a 40 C. These sizes are ARBITRARY, like all fashion measurements.

[@kaitlyn__L]

Of course those guys don’t understand how cup sizes work 😅

[@luna-p]

A D isn't even necessarily bigger than an A.

[@carr0760]

38B is the same cup size as 36C, which is the same cup size as a 34D, which is the same cup size as a 32DD. But....we only like DD, right? LoL

[@lovrboyxiv]

The c-section one made me so mad. My mom got a c-section with my sister and I, and she didn’t get a choice it was for health reasons ☹️

[@86pureangel]

Why was my first thought at 4:00 “Don’t date women with…” sounds like they just want justification on dating children.

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

I recently had someone try to mansplain 'machismo' to me and I- THE IRONY-

[@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos]

😂

[@tjenadonn6158]

The only way that could've been worse is if they mansplained mainsplaining.

[@einavnesher7423]

@@tjenadonn6158 That happened to my friend too not long ago, and it was from someone who is so sure he is a feminist and liberal and progressive and it was so funny

[@tjenadonn6158]

@@einavnesher7423 I think I would've just done a "The Office" style 😑 face to camera.

[@einavnesher7423]

@@tjenadonn6158 I would've done that but it was in a WhatsApp group that I'm not in. I would really rather not meeting him, but if I would he shall receive this face.

[@tjenadonn6158]

Well, it's official: 2023 is the year I start HRT and start getting cured of my lifelong case of testosterone poisoning.

[@zer0rebel4]

Good luck!

[@reeveharper6061]

Congrats!

[@LakinMae5]

Congrats on your hormones!

[@cassandramiller4477]

Good for you!

[@Raiethstar]

Congrats! They really do help🎉

[@dcornect53]

The one about dating and the woman thinking like the man after a certain period of time is probably saying "real women don't have actual opinions, so dating apps based on opinions is pointless!"

[@sarahvruwink3027]

Omg I just turned 32 and almost started crying when you said 32 is young. Thank you.

[@Moonwalker2923]

6:39 My mom had a pre-planned c section for me and my older brother because she had surgery for a tumor when she was younger and it would be too dangerous for her to give vaginal birth to us. Guess she’s not my real mom tho 🤷‍♀️

[@luna-p]

How dare she raise you, what a monster.

[@lauratroy13]

I always say I'm not birthed, i got removed like a tumor. But that's making fun of myself, not my mom and the fact that i was too lazy to turn in the womb for a vag birth

[@mystupidlife123]

My mom had an emergency c section for me (after 24+ hours of labor sorry mom) and then a planned on for my younger sister. She's a real one and no one can convince me otherwise.

[@shincci]

My mom had to have C-section so my neck wouldn't snap in half because my head was positioned wrongly in the womb so I guess she isn't my mom. ):

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

Look on the bright side, now you stand a better chance of defeating Macbeth in a swordfight.

[@cerberaodollam]

The C section one is... "I'm sorry, sir, your wife and child died" "at least she's a real mom though" 😳

[@tspencer661]

The fart thing made me laugh. Years ago, when I was in college, I had to explain to my friend’s roommate that girls farted. He didn’t think they farted. I still have no idea how a 20 something who was majoring in a scientific field (engineering) thought girls and women didn’t fart. The hair thing made me laugh. The first thing I thought of was the scandal of showing your ankles during the Victorian Era. In 2022/2023, it’s scandalous to show your neck? 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Liggliluff]

(12:10) I think he wanted a third party to confirm. Someone who is "outside" the ones who said it and was laughing. Not specifically a man, but an "other".

[@Mokiefraggle]

I also kind of figured it was a "Wait, did _you_ know this? How did you know it but I didn't?" kind of response. Like, if he's a guy, and doesn't know about this, how does this _other_ guy totally have the insider knowledge.

[@Liggliluff]

@@Mokiefraggle That is a fair reason too ("insider knowledge")

[@lilyolson3188]

Literally gasped at the birth not being painful. Do they know how big a baby's head is? Like, I haven't even had a child, but...the cervix has to stretch SO MUCH and even then it's like...babies have giant heads how would that not be painful? Not to mention contractions. It's gotta be willful ignorance to say it doesn't hurt.

[@wmdkitty]

Oh, it gets worse: The skull, like, has to partially collapse on itself to exit.

[@tjenadonn6158]

I'f you haven't already look up the song "The Miracle of Birth" from "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend" do that right now. It spares no details. Some choice lyrics: "After hours and hours of utter torture,/ You may poop yourself and/or throw up as you bear down./ And though you've never been this tired, wait!/ Here comes the Ring of Fire!/ That's your vagina bursting into flames as the head starts to crown!" Its horrible and disgusting and painful and part of me will never stop mourning the fact that I will never be able to experience it. Pregnancy dysphoria hits me hard. It's the one thing I want more than anything else on earth and because of this stupid fucking body and this stupid fucking Y chromosome I will never be able to experience it and will have to watch as billions of other people live my dream completely accidentally, without even wanting it, having no idea how lucky they were to be born intact. It's almost impossible for me to live with at times.

[@lokicooper4690]

Plus, it often rips when the head comes out, or, if it's simply not big enough to allow the baby out, the doctor will actually cut it open more. Yeah, tell me how that doesn't hurt and we're just being overly dramatic.

[@The_KitKat]

And the ironic part? A lot of men refuse to get vasectomies because they don’t want to deal with a few days to a week of pain and recovery time. Come on, if having 3 babies (and stitches from tearing after my 1st one) was supposed to be pain free for me, shouldn’t this be a walk in the park for all of you??? 💁🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[@GeorgeABMoore]

I hate it when people try and claim PCOS is caused by personality and “lifestyle choices,” and… not by actual… medical reasons

[@MissRyukkie]

I know. Like i decided one day to just have all these issues and then take meds to fix them. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@iPyromantic]

It doesn't help that we don't actually know yet WHY people get PCOS. The last I heard the theory was that it's passed down from the mother --- even if the mother doesn't have it. Also, no more clarification than "it comes from the mother."

[@amrys_argent]

If only I hadn't had the bad judgement to be the firstborn, according to some rando I could have avoided PCOS. 🤣

[@GeorgeABMoore]

@@amrys_argent Bruh, are you serious! Someone actually told you that you had PCOS because you’re the firstborn?! What utter nonsense!

[@hollya6408]

5:04 ok but only spending £2,000 on tampons in 20 years is actually really good, that’s only £8.33 per month. I’m sure they could afford to buy tampons and donate to charity if they wanted to 😂

[@Pineapple_Kween]

His outfit is giving “supportive grandma” and I’m here for it!

[@lynnpayne6262]

A book I read said that a woman who has preterm labor is abandoning her baby and they will grow up to be an alcoholic. That was one for the dumpster.

[@mng3941]

If you don't mind answering, which book was it and who wrote it? I think we'd all like to avoid it if we come across it in the wild.

[@kierafrost2550]

1:33 I once asked for advice on painkillers on a forum. When I said it was for period pain, everyone dogpiled on me and started telling me that it was my fault and I was experiencing pain because I "didn't embrace my identity as a woman". The weird thing is that it wasn't just one asshole, it was everyone who replied to the thread and there was no pushback against it. I was so shocked I gave up on looking for a solution for a while after that.

[@tdelioncourt1268]

Wtf

[@yellowiris123]

Those people were ridiculous and probably still are! Just because you have a period doesn't mean you can't be in pain. My daughter's doctor prescribed her ibuprofen (advil) for her pain. Sometimes she needs it and at other times she doesn't but it's available to her.

[@ZipplyZane]

Hell, there's stuff like Midol, which is specifically marketed towards period pain since 1927.

[@intercat4907]

Sorry that happened. I am very glad that you have discovered that the solutions were: 1) take pain meds and 2) get on a better forum. yay!

[@minty_swb]

If you're still struggling with period pain, mine is really bad and I usually use pamprin. Its usually the only reason I can walk during the more painful days and can be found pretty easily at Walmart, dollar general, and most drug stores I've been to

[@isra9862]

6:14 My mom said I was getting choked by my cordon so if the doctors didn't do the surgery, I would be dead.

[@albanieurdaneta3221]

That C-section one makes me particularly upset because if my mom didn’t have them, my brother and I would probably have been strangled by our umbilical cords and died during birth. *Is it un-motherly to want your baby alive?*

[@byecatsstacey7467]

I think Jamie needs a hug after going through this mess. Always appreciate the effort though!

[@ArcticNinjan]

Yes! I hope Shaaba gives Jamie a good, long hug after these videos

[@alexanderryanhigbee4005]

This statement situation looks really nice I approve and move on

[@bukketkid2567]

Woah! I haven't seen that emoji! I love it!

[@3ch1dna07]

For me, an adoption story is just as interesting as a birthing story. They go through just as much drama as a woman who has given birth.

[@johannageisel5390]

As a woman with waist-long hair: I'm disagreeable, combatitive, and difficult!

[@DownBadAutistic]

I am a trans guy with PCOS, it sucks but the extra hair/excess androgen and stuff is super great for lessening my dysphoria lol. Just wanted to share that :P

[@nakiska5941]

For Cis man say stuff like "Do women have more than one hole?" is a really funny way to say I have never seen a vagina in real life 😂😂😂😂

[@ginsoakedgirl4]

OMG these comments seem impossible. But then I remember 10 years ago I went to a doctor who told me that my horrifically painful periods would be better if I had had children. Umm... what? She was a woman as well. Around 5 years after that I was diagnosed with endometrial cancer and had a full hysterectomy. Listen to your body and fight for your health!!! xoxoxo

[@NoiseDay]

If I were in your position, I would love to see that doctor again and spit in her face.

[@helgabluestone2407]

I had 2 C-sections. I heard that then. I'm 70 now. My Daughter in Law recently had a baby and felt that if she had to have a C-section, then she failed at being "a natural mother". Note; the Japanese considered the nape of the neck extremely sensual.

[@liesbethverlaeckt8083]

Jamie talking about his outfit made me pay attention to it and I saw that the cardigan (Is that the right word?) has the words "iets frans..." on it, which is Dutch for "Something French..." And I just thought that's really funny 😆 I also just think it's a cute combination with the full moon and the purple and blue!

[@sarahvunkannon7336]

The post about how women are deferential to men was saying that dating apps that specifically match you with people who have similar beliefs and values serve no purpose. You don't need to look for a life partner who has similar values and beliefs to yours. You don't need to make sure you and your match are on the same page regarding kids, holidays, discipline, etc. You don't need to do any work or negotiate anything at all. No, you can pick up any random woman anywhere, of any religion or culture or belief system whatsoever, and even if they are entirely opposed to yours you can be assured that she will abandon them for you. You don't have to consider another's needs, plan for the future, or ever leave your self-obsessed bubble. Because all women are biologically programmed to fall in line with your every desire no matter what their previous opinions were. It's disgusting.

[@CombustibleCake]

obviously if you eat more strawberries during pregnancy you get a girl and if you eat more watermelon or apples you get a boy. we all learned it from the sims.

[@meikeschmidt5229]

I loved your disclaimer about why it's still called bad women's anatomy!!! It is super important to emphasize that not all woman have this anatomy and not everyone who has anatomy like it is a woman but if we stop using the term women in this context we would ignore that this is misinformation rooted in sexism targeted against women! (:

[@WerstoftheWorst]

Also what a horrific thing to say to a parent. That they aren't a real parent for not having a natural birth. My mom was in labor for 72 hours before they finally had an emergency c section. Some people just aren't made for things like that

[@maddrumsticks]

8:50 As someone who's AFAB and isn't publicly out as agender, I really wonder how the heck that would work for people like me that have short hair that doesn't cover their neck.

[@Ikajo]

You would probably be suspended 😑 same for me. I'm a cis woman who prefer short hair ever since I was a kid. People are oddly obsessed with hair.

[@maddrumsticks]

@@Ikajo Yeah it's very strange Like what does hair have to do with anything?

[@kaitlyn__L]

Girls in my school did get into trouble if their hair didn’t at least go down to their chin. And skirt at least down to the knees. And trousers (at least they allowed them at all 🙄) couldn’t be “form fitting”. It’s ridiculous Caused a bunch of problems when I came out as trans too, they couldn’t decide whether it applied to me or not lmao

[@Ikajo]

@@maddrumsticks Thankfully, I grew up - and still lives - in a country where you are not allowed to have different dress codes for men and women.

[@emeraldlily673]

(Trigger warning) Everyone report ville8522 for child abuse. Clearly a troll but talking about r@ping young girls.

[@Artemis513]

8:23 "This is a weird hill to die on, but at least you're dead" i'm stealing this goodbye

[@CobaltLunar]

ngl that "don't date a woman if..." hit me hard, like i got all those things and im, not even a woman (nb) yet it still hurt. i wish these men would understand that women are not objects to pick and choose, they're not dolls, they're people who are beautiful no matter what!! men like this are people who have never talked to a woman, much less touched one in any way. its so frustrating.

[@goodfursomething574]

I've seen so many people try to claim that c-sections aren't "real births" and are like "the easy way out" and it makes me so mad. Not only do they typically have longer recovery times, because it's a SURGERY, but in most cases they are MEDICALLY NECESSARY. Without c-sections myself and my twin would have died in the process of being born. That being said I do joke about how I "wasn't born" I was "removed" and therefore we should celebrate my "removal day" and not my birthday. But that doesn't mean it was easier than giving birth or somehow means my mother failed me?? That's just plain ridiculous.