JAPANESE GIRLS ARE A PAIN! What Problems Japanese boys have dating girls

[@BluePhoenixize]

I think some underlying issues are: - Some Japanese guys prefer 'cutesy' girls - Some 'cutesy' girls tend to be clingy, jealous, etc. - Their 'ideal relationship' can happen with said 'strong, independent' types - HOWEVER, these same guys are intimidated by or aren't attracted to these 'strong, independent' types What a paradox 😅

[@dataexpunged6969]

Agreed 😂 they want a girl who relies on them and is frail and demure. Whereas independent women are too "loud" and "manly" and then they don't like them.

[@senseisadness9836]

That is quite the assumption.

[@beautifulvillian405]

Relationship like this sound messy 🤔

[@airadelosreyes8665]

This is much more complicated than my science project wtf? 😂😂

[@eduardowada358]

No, absolutely not, girls expect the man to do everything anywhere in the world, this is not a Japanese issue

[@AJRWilde]

I think these answers are because they're young not necessarily because they're Japanese; you'll find emotional immaturity such as jealousy and neediness amongst young girls in every country

[@BirdnBone]

Adults can be the same though.

[@LuMichelini]

We don't even know if they are young, Asians don't age lol

[@sweetestaphrodite]

*LulUSAndo* Lmaooo imagine if they’re actually all 40 year old dudes

[@violethaye6987]

and young boys, especially immaturity and jealousy

[@harrymcnicholas9468]

I think the needy ones are the worse. You cannot take a leak unless telling them how long you will be in the john.

[@StephyBabyz]

Who actually celebrates their relationship every month...

[@joegardner851]

When I was in high school, but it wouldn’t be gift giving. We would go out on date. With limited amount of money we decided to go out once a month and that was our monthly anniversary.

[@missoudz8733]

@@joegardner851 woah i've always considered celebrating the relationship every month is cringy. however, your way actually seems nice!! it's cute but reasonable. thank you for the idea.

[@valeriesweekofwonders1067]

Stephanie Raitt me and my boyfriend do but it’s not like we get each other presents or anything , we’re just like “look it’s our anniversary! “ and maybe do something a lil special . It’s cute

[@lax4804]

Most people in the Philippines, preferably teens. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@sakatagintoki2888]

trust me there are a lot of couples out there who celebrate every month

[@ifartoncats5091]

A lot of these relationships were borderline toxic

[@awakenow7147]

@@Veronika.von.Vengerberg Toxic is toxic. No matter what time of life it happened in. Most of the guys in this video are likely traumatized by what happened.

[@ifartoncats5091]

@@Veronika.von.Vengerberg uh no way dude as i teenager myself i can tell you right now the behavior described, isn’t. teenage. behavior. it’s abusive.

[@awakenow7147]

@@Veronika.von.Vengerberg You lack empathy.

[@ifartoncats5091]

@@Veronika.von.Vengerberg dude im gonna have to agree with @Awake Now and say you lack empathy. hella.

[@ifartoncats5091]

@@Veronika.von.Vengerberg your a good example of somebody who can’t tell the difference between a healthy relationship and a toxic relationship

[@YoungJusticeLuv]

boyfriend says he wants a girl who is clingy. girls gets clingy. boy asks for space. well hell what do you really want my dude. lmao

[@unironic1184]

Both

[@doomslayer5191]

A clingy space giver lol

[@christinahasan9086]

He wants a doormat

[@NeonLine]

a schizophrenic girl?

[@BeruleAdierant]

Who say they wanted a clingy girl?

[@Ph03njX21]

All of these problems are same everywhere on planet Earth my friends !!!!!

[@SuperFlanders123]

True...dont get me started....

[@evalisehjenjensen9559]

You run into the wrong women... But its true its really bad in japan...

[@manamald2988]

Trust me when I say I know but I feel this is a good reminder to those people who read manga and watch anime. They see an animated world and think omg I need japanese. I for one am one of them but I didn't exactly fool myself into thinking they were perfect but I do have my expectations. Thus I hunt for these real people videos to see REAL people in japan that way I don't look like a fool when I get there. lol But I will say they are still better than where I am by far, everyone has slept with each other by the end of highschool when they hit 21 they start spitting out kids and no one knows who the father is....terrible.

[@evalisehjenjensen9559]

Manamal D - they are better in many ways... but there is so many fake people here and its difficult to figure out who is and who isnt... relationships are difficult unless they speak realy good english or you speak really good japanese... and don't expect their parents to accept a gaijin-in law...

[@manamald2988]

Eva Lise Højen Jensen this is another thing I had thought about actually tho having it pointed out kinda reinforces that it’s a thing to consider. With both situations have ways to work around( I’m learning Japanese so I’ve come across some bits of information to help) though I do consider myself a good judge of character. This will be to some extent useful when deciding whose fake or not anything else depends on context and situation. Too bad no previews with new ppl haha. For the parent that’s a challenge regardless unless they are super open about the idea. Though I am doing some searching to make a friggin thesis on this lol. Ultimately I have no issue with doing everything Japanese and by the time I go there I want to have the background for being capable of living there. Yet again all breaks down to context and situations but that’s kinda life in general. Luckily I don’t live in Lala land like some after the anime and such I like to have some form of preparation.my world has crashed one too many times especially relationships I’m apparently an enabler and it’s bad to want to take care of my girl. Sure it’s old school but for me it’s fulfilling. A portion of Japanese still have that mind set so it’s something to look forward to. Typing on a phone is scary lol didn’t realize I went and wrote a story sorry hahaha

[@HeyMel_B]

Well, hope my future partner doesn't have high expectations when it comes to celebrate every month the day we met, or something like that. Not being mean or anything but there are times where I don't even remember my b-day (no, for real, it happens)

[@ericx6969]

Melanie Barrientos every month is od anniversary is once a year shouldn't be monthly anniversary

[@dethkok3869]

Melanie Barrientos same lol i forget my bday as well as my siblings....heck yesterday i was sitting on the couch thinking about eating a pocket cuz i was craving it,then i go to the kitchen and come back to the living room with cereal lmao after i finished the cereal i just then remembered i went to the kicken in the first place to get a hotpocket 😂

[@crusinlike3441]

I get you I’m not the type that’s petty about those things and about forgetting bday RELATABLE😂

[@ShienXIII.OldAccount]

I know right? You might as well date the one you met on 31st of a month, at least you get to skip 1 month

[@mervisa89]

I'm the same 😂😂

[@whyaminotborninkorea9035]

"Sending good morning at 9:00 and replying at 15:00 nice weather today is enough" *Dead* 😂

[@cristinaflorina9538]

Am I the only one who doesn't think texting more often is that difficult 😂? Sure enough, calling daily is a pain, but texting daily isn't bad as long as it's not every second/minute/hour 😂

[@3seren]

Well this wouldn be a relationship though 😅

[@nurulzakiah8375]

Me and my boyfriend on a LDR so we always get in touch with texting each other almost everyday even for a silly things, I think it's cute and it make my day. But we always giving each other space for ourself too

[@richnyoung4314]

Srsly that's enough

[@user-wt5if6rx8m]

me and my friends more than that lol like not all day but certain moments a subject will come up like something on the news or something cool that happened to someone, a meme one of us saw, we'll text for several minutes then go back to idk work most likely. maybe it makes sense to communicate less if you see each other constantly but otherwise just seems pointless to want a relationship in which u don't feel like talking to each other.

[@sofia3097]

Girls can be toxic and abusive in relationships too, just like the girls who the first guys says about, it's not funny or fair, it's a problem, just like when a men does it. If he/she doesn't let you talk or see others is not good for you, that's not normal

[@sarahramsey289]

my ex boyfriend never let me talk to my ex boyfriends but he'd constantly talk to his ex girlfriends so i left him because I realized how toxic the relationship was he'd constantly put his religion onto me and i'm not an atheist or anything like that but yeah. he'd also stalk me when I asked him to give me space he literally asked me where I was going and who I was with even if it was just with my mom he was borderline insane but i'm much happier without a boyfriend now :) I watched a video about toxic relationship signs and he ticked off every box so I was like ima bounce see ya :)

[@krameel9644]

そそですね

[@LillianaLobster]

tf. this videos about the boys/men, let them have their moment. smh.

[@zuritaiki5537]

I mean, it's obvious?

[@welfare5303]

women aren't toxic

[@3seren]

I think none of these people ever had a proper relationship

[@rebelqueen2762]

Bruh stop judging. Maybe they speak from experience. Some of them described girls that actually seemed toxic. This one is for men. Let them have their moment.

[@Princess-rl1zg]

Honestly do you pick the most attractive people in the street or do men that attractive really just walk Around

[@aurora_rose201]

Princess I know right!! Literally like 99% of those guys were super cute

[@Tccg97]

I think it's the genes 😍😍😍

[@heyhiki]

In japan many young guys like them.

[@ZiroXIN]

Right? Im shook

[@Chibanah]

It is money. Mostly rich people can afford to live in Tokyo, the price of housing is insane expensive there, so they have money to buy expensive outfits and haircut. And the other reason, because ugly boys probably are still virgins, so they can't tell about their experiences in this video.

[@GregAtlas]

In my experience, the ones who are requiring that the guy makes all of the plans, pay for everything, etc. Those are the same girls who will eventually complain or break up because the guy is being controlling even though they're the ones who forced him into controlling everything.

[@juniorhuachoguisado6640]

Greg Atlas CHEERS

[@evalisehjenjensen9559]

Greg Atlas or that he is boring and never think about her needs because he chooses the wrong places etc..

[@shehzaanaabdulla3047]

If the girl is always making him choose the locations i. Why? When is she thinking about his needs? and ii. Why not choose the locations herself, then?

[@margaretreese1609]

ShehzaanA Abdulla because it gets boring when you are only doing things that he's interested in. If she's been doing all the planing it's like being single.

[@shehzaanaabdulla3047]

Margaret Reese You aren’t wrong... It’s just, well guys feel the same way. Only there isn’t really an alternative for guys since women normally aren’t going to step up and do things unless made to (and speaking from experience getting women to organise things tends to go really badly... They tend to mess up even pretty simple logistics like meeting place).

[@evolutionkakumei]

some of these guys are really cute

[@yagirlceleste1497]

evolutionkakumei ikr?

[@dethkok3869]

evolutionkakumei thanks

[@Sakura-tw2lb]

True!!!🙈😂

[@linyanjun8572]

I finally found onw comment that says so thank uu

[@marcozolo3536]

Piss off

[@sophiakt28]

They literally started checking out that girl at 5:27 I’m weak😂

[@marianaabat4647]

SophiaKT bruh I bet he wanted to ask for her number but couldn’t cause he was being interviewed 😂

[@bieipio_baby]

And then he wonders why his gf is mad at him lmao 😂😂😂

[@Donirexian]

she was holding hands with that other guy though

[@ankhi7597]

SophiaKT 🤣🤣🤣

[@whitneyyvonne977]

The boy in the black shirt and glasses at that timestamp is such a cutie...:p

[@flip_lady_t]

Sounds like some of the girls they dated were just interested in the “idea” of dating and not actually building a relationship. No worries, though. Those guys are still young. They’ll find the right girl after awhile.

[@scognizance3326]

Not generalising but somehow the interviews, I have watched from Korea, Japan etc. It seems people(men) are mainly in love with the idea of dating itself. I mean in comparison to Americans there answers are 'mostly' about physical appearance etc etc. Now, I don't know if Americans are better at saying the 'beautiful' looking answers or what? So far this is my image, will try to improve this though 😂😂😂.

[@WhiteDragon689]

This spells big trouble for a country that is shrinking in population. Make it difficult for people to propagate and you are Doomed as a society. Their work-them-to-death working ethics is killing the Nation.

[@cutsceneenjoyerzz]

Seems similar to problems in America. Besides the talk to sunrise. That sounds brutal honestly 😅

[@yanna6815]

Guys have to prepare everything for a date ?

[@cutsceneenjoyerzz]

Yanna Laurent ehhhh depends on the girl but it definitely not as extreme as Japan. Where i live the girls r quite empowered which makes life easier for everyone. Friends who live in the southern parts still tend to be more "follow the man" culture. It's quite variable but there definitely is that culture still present. Way too much work.

[@Coral732]

I agree with your original comment. Even feminists love gender roles when it's to their benefit. If you date a feminist 90% of the time you're the one asking her out, deciding where to go and paying for the date.

[@nikosan3243]

Japanese girls are fine, they just dont like this shy what the fuck i should do style of japanese boys.

[@BirdnBone]

Naw I've talked to my boyfriends to sunrise before xD it's all very similar to America in all aspects... although we would end up falling asleep on the phone and I ever forced any if then to do what they didn't want.

[@jordiekeller405]

Those japanese boys can thank Disney for the high expectations

[@GoddoDoggo]

Yeah, because Disney and male-oriented fiction totally don't create unrealistic expectations of women. Morons.

[@Sister_Crow]

Yeah they all seem too emotionally immature for a relationship

[@theguitar7411]

THE1NONLY1 They said Disney AND male oriented fiction.

[@doomslayer5191]

Let it gooo let it goooo turn away and slam the dooorrr

[@gooddays6205]

Wattpad and korean drama are the one to blame hahaha

[@Sakura-tw2lb]

I'm the only one who noticed ,how the boy to the left, at the end , 7:26 is watching katy and being shy with a smile😂😂😂!????

[@churchgirlrose9103]

He's cute. 😆

[@taetae3615]

He was sooo pretty😍

[@rehannoor4961]

lol, he fell in love

[@Thor_Underdunk_Caballerial]

That quick blink at the end was very telling!

[@ramenseller]

6:58 the guy in the bg just did a peace sign 😂

[@happybirthday2078]

I didn't see that, thanks! 😂 He is sooo cute too! 😍

[@Xizee_]

6:59 so y'all gonna ignore the legend in the background?

[@jonquilgemstone]

Those poor boys! Honestly, I think the only anniversary which is important to celebrate is the annual wedding anniversary. I mean, seriously, why make a big deal out of monthly or half-year anniversaries for dating? Are they thinking it won't last long, so they want to milk it for all it's worth? There's a difference between treasuring every moment and placing unneeded stress on someone you supposedly care about.

[@otakugamer6657]

I agree, however I think celebrating the first month and year might be nice (it is after all the first). Rather than a weekly or monthly thing I think doing it yearly is probably a lot better. Then again, I have never been in a relationship lol (;w;)

[@angeloidii7745]

Wedding anniversaries seem quite stupid to me as well. I'd just ask my wife to randomly celebarete the fact that we're together for no reason once a year on random dates.

[@BirdnBone]

Yeah the big yearly one is possibly the only one that truly matters.

[@badfavour1105]

Jonquil Gemstone they do it monthly because most of them cant make it through a year. Some couples last for months. ps my boyfriend was the one who likes doing monthly anniversaries for some reason, I am the one that hate s it😄

[@reecerisa]

Jonquil Gemstone just be in a relationship during Halloween or Christmas, so you don’t forget or smth

[@strawberrymilk1683]

if a girl feels the need to celebrate monthly anniversaries, then they are ONLY dating to celebrate mundane events and not dating the person for the people that they are. They are dating just to look forward to an anniversary of some kind. The anniversary loses it's meaning and the boy feels used.. Not to mention she never really cared about HIM enough to just enjoy his company as himself

[@Rezzmari]

I agree. I only celebrate 1 year anniversaries and that's it. Anything under that and I'm like huh??????? I don't get it.

[@SoramimiKeiki]

I was wondering what they were talking about at first? Monthly Anniversary? What? To me the thought is crazy, to celebrate every month the day I met my boyfriend. I would think these girls are just after getting some expensive presents ...

[@ScotchTapeMafia]

The prefix “anni” literally means “annual” so there is no such thing as a monthly anniversary. Btw, for some reason i never thought of the gold digging aspect of it. Very good point! Being together for 1 month is nothing to celebrate. “Congratulations! Your relationship lasted at least a month!” Like okay? 6th graders have relationships longer than that. You are deluded if you think thats an accomplishment worthy of presents and gifts.

[@GenerationNextNextNext]

I agree. I would think she's using it as an excuse to get expensive presents and go to different places on the man's dime. I'll bet the woman isn't expected to get him anything on those days either.

[@harrymcnicholas9468]

Don't you love me? I don't know if I ever loved you.

[@demariogoss9732]

The things said in this video is universal. ESPECIALLY when they said " I'll ask where you want to go.The woman wants you to decide everything with the date, then says "i'm fine with anything",but gets unimpressed when you decide to take them somewhere."

[@harrymcnicholas9468]

You mean like bowling? How about to the MMA fights? Do an old Bruce Lee movie?

[@anagopic5141]

@@harrymcnicholas9468 for some girls this is ideal date

[@harrymcnicholas9468]

Yes but those are the ones who have more hair on their chest than I do.

[@asukadoll6235]

I don't get why they can't just say the places they'd like to go. They can both decide. Once a guy took me to a bar and it was so crowded and the music was at high volume, so I said to him that I wanted to leave. It wasn't big deal and he was fine with that.

[@NewBlueTrue]

Asuka Doll Because some women want to be lead.

[@malinjohansson5585]

The guy at 6:28 with the white T-shirt, I just gotta say you have a cool shirt. I thought for a split second that it was actually real glasses. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👍🏻

[@ville666sora]

When someone wants to take me out, I always just say "anything is fine", because anything really is fine. I'm happy just to be seeing you, I don't care where we're going. If I DO have somewhere specific in mind, I'll tell you, but I usually don't.

[@Feuryy]

The texting is something I don’t get. Do guys just not want to talk to the girl they like. You chose that person for a reason yet you don’t want to talk to them at all. As for for everything else, these are all pretty common complaints in the West too.

[@joelong3932]

Well guys sure want to have a conversation. But not like 6 hours straight on the phone till morning every week -ish.

[@TJay96]

Men only really text or phone each other if something significant happened or for making plans. I feel like conversations should just be left for when your talking in person

[@Dave_The_Musical_Fisherman]

Well when it comes to communication quality guys are higher up on the scale. My mother (most women really) can drag a sentence into a 3 minute conversation. Women gain more pleasure from communication than men do just as men obtain more from doing something (take videogames for example). It's not that the guy doesn't care how your day went but your mouth has been running non stop for an hour. Just get to the point. If you don't like Brittany so and so you'll go on about all the reasons she makes you angry. A guy delivers his message in a sentence by calling her a female dog. You both relayed the exact same intent. A girl can write a short essay on her lunch. A guy says his taco was really, really good. It's heavily based on culture where women talk more and that's how they raise their daughters. Father doesn't talk as much so son doesn't talk as much. We love ya and want you to be happy but we act differently. Imagine a boyfriend who is big on hugging and a girl not fully comfortable with it outside of family. It's just culture (Americans are pretty anti touch culture compared to many other areas of the world). Considering that you can hurt yourself by breathing too fast the phrase too much of a good thing might explain why we don't want to send 75 text messages every day.

[@Lyrvana]

I don't call my ex. I even reject his call sometimes. Not only him but I also reject other calls, even from family who talks a lot. short conversation is fine but long call is a pain, I prefer when I feel comfortable without constantly looking for topics about unimportant stuff. text is great

[@jarish1275]

No one said "at all" they said "everytime, every minute"

[@adora08phoenix]

Geez. Sounds like these poor guys dated some immature girls (bad-mouthing people??) who are lazy (won't help plan a date!?). Fail.

[@pouihurmen]

This is definitely the majority of Japanese girls though

[@mexikleo8449]

I'd say the lack of social interaction, social pressure, and the media are a big influence of why they lack maturity. Many can't think for themselves, they also hide their true feelings, so the experience and lessons learned are very limited, thus not only women, but the men as well, seem to be lacking in maturity, since their culture does not teach them to think for themselves, rather follow the group like sheep.

[@catmerchant8699]

In Japan it's expected Japanese boys plan everything

[@awakenow7147]

@@catmerchant8699 Thats not necessarily a good thing. Its a lot of stress for one person. Especially considering that people have to go to work among other things.

[@LisaMichelle98]

omg. My phone is turned off at night. Don't expect me to sweetly text "Good morning" every day either. I usually say 'anywhere is fine'' though! But then really, anywhere is fine. I also like to just meet up and decide together on the spot. That's super nice. I'm probably one of the most unromantic girls ever though.. xD This really surprised me, like why would you put someone through all of this, they have a life and so should you x')

[@dethkok3869]

Lisa Michelle agreeeeed

[@hehenice1964]

this is so me too

[@KasumiHime]

I thought I was the only one who wasn't into this almost forced sweetness on a daily basis! I'm not a romantic type at all - Currently dating a Korean that seems to want to call every single day, wants all the sweet words all the time and then there's me like "yo sup? Um lets go eat - pick somewhere good.Talk later I'm working" hahahaha I get no end of complaints "why don't you want to say the sweet words? you're avoiding them, do you hate me" etc etc etc - lolololol I'm just not that girl sorry :P

[@ednaldopereira8159]

god bless you

[@marcozolo3536]

Solipsistic bitch lol

[@globalgabby_plorytomoon498]

Ha! Jokes on you! Ive been single all my life >:D ;-;

[@LolitaLaceCotton]

; ^ ; i should've stayed damn single!

[@kenji5073]

Ahhhh, the pain

[@baileyclifford2852]

Craaaaawling in my skiiiiiiiin!

[@ArottingPast]

AHAHAAHha-ha ahaha.............. *cry*

[@midnightxuchiha]

This made me chuckle

[@hurricanefierce]

Abstract: in this video we see that everybody should attend therapy for one reason or another.

[@TheRiotPunkGirl]

lmao

[@evaggeliastavropoulou7829]

I think all Japanese need therapy...they work themselves to death, they keep their feelings locked inside and hide behind a mask of good manners. If that's not a recipe for depression, I don't know what is

[@yoleeisbored]

@@evaggeliastavropoulou7829 its same for koreans

[@FloutchBW]

Actually they chose to work themselves to death. There's plenty of holiday abd days off in Japan, but they just refuse to take them by fear of being judged.

[@pitchblackink.]

It's the same in the West too. Good luck guys.

[@imjusthuman1399]

PitchBlackInk same here at south east asia

[@deonardomendez9426]

Girls are a pain everywhere in the world 😂😂😂😂😂😂. Guys are simple to please , just feed us, be loyal , love us truly and allow us to have/keep our pleasure , like gaming, sports, drinking(moderation only) and many others. If girls are loyal and faithful guys will return that love hundredfold easily. 😊😊

[@TheMorSkull01]

Deonardo Mendez And allow us to have a harem

[@laturista1000]

レドピル取りなさい。take the red pill and go your own way.

[@whitneyyvonne977]

@@laturista1000 3 months later from when you commented. You still pilled up? I'll bet youuu gottttaa girrlllfriennddd. Or nah?

[@Aerin1]

I like to text a lot of memes and gifs during the day. and night..

[@cherri_tsuuuu]

be my friend omg. My friends dont get memes =.=

[@YungDoji]

memes are life

[@mina-zv1ov]

same

[@FEGTTTSDH]

aaah memes yes that is much better!

[@asukadoll6235]

I think that's fine, because you just have to answer like a few times if you want and that's all. Not to follow a long innecesary comversation.

[@hazeltrainer1111]

I feel so weird having a what I consider a healthy relationship. Almost every person I know has had something bad to say about their relationship and I’m just like “why are you telling me tell your partner” “if that happened it’s a red flag and you need to leave” “this sounds like a misunderstanding if you just talked to them you’d probably wouldn’t be fighting”. A lot of times there’s problems in relationships because the lack of communication and expectations put on partners by each other. Maybe one is expecting the other to remember something or do something for them but they never actually mention it or bring attention to it and then get mad when the other doesn’t notice. Or something a partner did that made the other upsetting but they never said it made them upset so the next time they do it the other gets upset and the partner is left in the dark. This is just want I’ve seen in relationships and how I’ve made my own better.

[@McKavian]

The fastest way to make a friend: Tell a beautiful woman that you love her. She will say: "Oh, no. I think we are just friends."

[@7shinta7]

@@riorio745 What you said is definitely true, but I've also seen some cases where guy and girl knew each other for years and also had diffenrent relationships during that time. But then they evetually became lovers. It's not very common and both of them had a hard time to overcome this boundary of beeing friends - always afraid to ruin the friendship they shared - but they managed to pull it off in the end and became a couple.

[@batpoolzilla3200]

@@riorio745 Thanks for the tips mate

[@thatguythatdoesstuff7448]

In any language, any culture, if a girl wants to celebrate a YEARLY event every month and expects presents, walk away. Let that girl buy her own crap.

[@Draconyx13]

Welcome to the Philippines! XD

[@brittanyv6594]

It's a cultural thing, not a "girl thing". Celebrating relationship milestones often is a notoriously east Asian thing.

[@stefan1360]

@@juminhan3375 the point of her taking out 2 presents from you.

[@thisgoogleaccount5009]

Why everyone just assumes the girl doesn’t buy a present for her bf too? Lmao sexist

[@fate005]

(I'm a woman) Me: doesn't except anything about gifts or the monthly thing bc its a bother (ofc we should only celebrated the important stuff). What a except is just having fun with my partner. *Also btw not every woman are the same like not everyone has the same personality, the same favs food, etc.*

[@AJ17_]

A lot of those same problems in the west. And it goes both ways. When I broke up with an old boyfriend, he tried to badmouth me to anyone who would listen, but the majority of those he tried it on saw through his BS and called him out on it. I'll admit I've been guilty of the jealousy thing in the past but I've gotten better about it. As for date planning, that's usually a team effort between my boyfriend and I. Sometimes he'll plan a day, then I'll plan a day, or we plan something together.

[@harrymcnicholas9468]

I was the opposite. The gf broke up with me and I said ok. Ok that is it? Hmmmmm Yep.

[@iknowimgaywhenisaythisbut1369]

@@harrymcnicholas9468 idk, it looks insensitive to me lol being cool with the break up seems like u don't care about the relationship u had

[@lilnugget1247]

6:25 I thought the the glasses on the shirt were real

[@ooharasora4097]

@Czennies 😂

[@angryfather8336]

7:00 that guy with glasses and brown hair in the back doing ✌🏼, is cute 🙊

[@kailimedia]

Anniversary every week! lol.. I can't stop laughing. Poor guys in Japan.

[@btslover-xr2xc]

I’m a lonely guy watching dudes complain about relationships haha what a time to be alive

[@annanatividad240]

The only reason why I'd ask a boyfriend of mine where when and when you're going home is because of concern. What if they get beaten up somewhere? Isn't it our responsibility to look out for them boys?

[@batpoolzilla3200]

They?

[@annanatividad240]

@@batpoolzilla3200 I mean not plural but us as gfs. We should look out for our bfs.

[@batpoolzilla3200]

@@annanatividad240 oh okay

[@samuraijosh1595]

@@Username-xq3xv whaaaat? 🙄🙄. Some CREEPY advice right there.

[@nein2883]

I feel bad because I think I would be one of those girls that leave the planning to the boyfriend, sure I would discuss it with him but Im not an assertive person so I'd probably let him choose

[@nein2883]

Death Paradox what?? What the hell does my pseudonym name have to do with all this??

[@dethkok3869]

BTS's Jams only a nuisance of a person puts bts as their name

[@nein2883]

Death Paradox lmao who do u think you are to insult bts?? Fuck off, nonsensical piece of shit

[@dethkok3869]

BTS's Jams lmao you gay black guy with white privilege. KPOP ISN'T EVEN A REAL MUSIC

[@Dave_The_Musical_Fisherman]

Paradox she said at the start that she would probably be one of those girls who would make the dude choose. Better that she admitted and feels bad. Why are you attacking her?

[@shadowandholly]

I usually plan dates with my bf but we talk it out and make sure it's something we will both enjoy.

[@valentinagreecegirl]

6:59 - 7:00 THE GUY BACKGROUND NAILED IT

[@azizakabysh629]

4:13 look at the couple behind, they are so stylish

[@soniamontiel846]

6:48 he is so cuteeee

[@vv8615]

5:24 Dude in the middle was checking someone out 😂😂😂 Edit: think he was checking sum girl with a guy (boyfriend prolly)

[@gAbbYrOckzz]

Yeah I see how it would suck so much to have super high expectations on a date when the other person doesn't hint out what they enjoy or what actually wanna do. It must be so tiring too to be constantly holding back thoughts and opinions though 😓 Another great video! Is there a video about Japanese boys on this same topic?

[@mademoiselle3354]

ohh.. my husband is a japanese though and we celebrate monthsaries when we were at the dating stage. we don't really often do fancy celebration unless it is aniv, eating my cooking in our house and then competing in a computer game always works or just driving somewhere to flirt is good. so I think it is still based on the person's patience and level of affection to you. I asked my husband one time, "Am I too high maintenance?" but he just hugged me and said "大丈夫その方が好きなんだから or I like you that way so it's ok". if a guy really loves you A LOT they will make A LOT of effort as long as you give and take and respect each other's limit and flaws.

[@aishanurin3e241]

These girl either already an ex Mystic Messenger player or NEED TO START PLAYING MYSTIC MESSENGER 😂😂😂

[@evalisehjenjensen9559]

My friends tell me a lot of the same, and its quite obvious when walking around also, that the girls often treat her boyfriend as more of a wallet and expect so much from them - i blame tv dramas for it... "Mr perfect" My boyfriend have finally stopped trying to buy me gifts, and appreciate when i have an opinion on what to do and where to go, and he gets really happy because i actually tell him how much i enjoy the things he plan, even if it wasnt my favourite thing i really get happy because he spends time on it! - maybe thats why he is putting up with my problems.. (yes jealousy and all that, also because he knows i dont want to be like that, but my past have shaped me bad) Boys need to figure out they dont have to put up with being treated bad in a relationship... Well girls too..

[@Snowlily01]

4:10 lovers dont need a reason to contact each other, thats the thing about love,people who just know each other do , i think this man got his stuff mixed up. just take a break pls

[@Snowlily01]

@Arruda but what abt once a day? thats not better either.....lol , i just chose the worst one to speak on, both r trash tho

[@Noah-zr6vq]

"Deciding is a pain" yes wholeheartedly agree😂

[@compashinpei]

I am Japanese guy, and I swear it is a lot cheaper to "rent a girlfriend" than getting an actual girlfriend,

[@TheTruthHurts6666]

You're going after the wrong type of girl if you feel like you can never meet her expectations when it comes to spending money.

[@Tigerman303]

You're a mindless consumerist

[@piugogoi5048]

4:53 , why B.I.(Ikon) is there in the interview telling us about girls 🤔🧐

[@Angi3_6]

I know for me, I want to be friends with someone before we date. I think it'd be less awkward, and have a better foundation.

[@VivianChong]

Oops. Last night, my Japanese boyfriend asked me where would I like to travel in January, and I told him that I wanted him to decide. I should change this trait in me. Thanks for all the tips! 😭

[@sigure.inspiration]

I'm late but it's fine to let him decide if you're really fine with anything. However, if you do want something, you should say it.

[@Saberdud]

you guys still together?

[@VivianChong]

@@Saberdud nope, turns out he's a money cheater

[@kendallglover2830]

Monthly anniversary??? Im a girl and I sometimes forget my own birthday when it comes around. Who has time for this??

[@beombeombeom8112]

Kendall Glover so quirky of u. u are sure one of a kind

[@catmerchant8699]

It's more common in Asia. Especially Korea, couples are serious about 100 day anniversary, and celebrating 100 days of birth for a child as well, I saw it

[@aratamo7830]

I don't even know what that is😂

[@jimimaru]

Interesting, nice balance. I've seen some videos where Japanese girls complain about Japanese guys not being romantic or gentleman enough and don't take initiatives and are too shy and rarely want to approach them etc., but after seeing this I can somewhat understand why that is. I would probably rather be single too if the norm amongst girls are being too needy, controlling and expecting the guy to take ALL the initiatives.

[@brattrox2939]

Wanting to know what you're doing and who you're hanging out with is just showing interest in you and what you do in a day (although some people can take it too far and get angry over who you hang out with and start trying to control your friends which is a major red flag.) Wanting to know when you're going somewhere and when you're somewhere safe is just the need to know you're safe which again is from a caring angle. I will admit celebrating a relationship every month is odd. I've only ever seen people do that when they can't keep a relationship for half a year or more. Celebrating half a year the first year makes sense and then just every yearly anniversary. Personally in the beginning of the relationship I think whoever asks the person out to the date should plan and pay for it. It's always good to take someone to places you like and do things you like to do to share your hobbies with them. Once you both know eachother well then it's more of a tag team effort to plan outings Also the talking until sunrise and nonstop texting usually dies down after the honeymoon phase when you learned pretty much all you'll learn about eachother lol

[@Veryy_Victoriaa]

2:49 American men, too. They feel your pain, guy. They feel your pain

[@joshchan854]

Here in the Philippines, in my perspective and experience, me and my friends are growing tired because of that friendzoned thing. Sometimes, girls (but not all) in the philippines prefer to choose a bad ass boy type.

[@mexikleo8449]

Of course they do, women love to ride the handsome bad boy who rides a motorcycle, it gets their juices flowing, think about that when you want to get some.

[@abdullahbinjahed6900]

@@mexikleo8449 yep , that's one of the reason people there lose interest in whamen

[@MsPaulisa]

I never heard "mendokusai" being used so much outside a Naruto/Boruto episode that features Shikamaru or Shikadai 😂😂😂

[@panghxiong9074]

Wow I actually took notes of this. Thank you. 😊 For me I'm different from most girls out there. At least that's what alot of people say about me when they meet me in person. Idk how they know but yeah. Anyways great video. 👍:)

[@Launibu]

I don't understand anniversaries unless you are married. Then have one once a year. Why when you are dating? That's dumb. Waste of money and too hard to remember. I remember dates well, but wouldn't expect a boyfriend to.

[@cojinmango]

6:03 guy with glasses hanging is cute

[@sanjaykumarverma718]

MORAL: CONFESS A JAPANESE GIRL ON 29TH FEBRUARY.

[@oscara31]

ok I am not a phone person..I hate the phone..but still if calling your gf is such a bore or a pain for you..maybe you just don't really love her..or at least you're not in love anymore...just my personal opinion but the last guy doesn't deserve to get friend-zoned, he's cute as fuck

[@Kira-wm3uk]

Someone too noticed the boy doing the peace sign at 6:59

[@botoxqueen2944]

I actually just watch these videos to listen to her voice why is it so soothing...

[@moussasuwwan8623]

みなさん、こんにちは。 Once I read in a magazine, here in Paris, (Japan style life, in French), that Japanese women are submitted to their men, obedient and good housewives. Even though the majority of Japanese women have jobs, yet they have to do shopping, cuisine, look after children, accompany their children to school or kindergarten, while their husbands or boy friends, are drinking sake, beer and other alcohol. Not a neat image of japans males. 日本人男性のきれいなイメージではありません。 Have a nice day

[@myvluv333]

Moussa SUWWAN it’s the same problem in other countries.. “Horne's research supports the findings of a 2016 study conducted by the U.K.'s Office for National Statistics, which found that women did an average of 60 per cent more unpaid work than men, which includes cooking, childcare, and housework.”

[@LadyDynamitez]

Yeah, but god forbid women sometimes expect men to do SOMETHING amiright? Must be so tough, having to plan a date.

[@marko3096]

Rip housedads

[@evalisehjenjensen9559]

You got it wrong... The men usually work extreme hours, then as a cultural thing are forced to go out to drink with their boss/co-workers/clients, and sometimes till after the last train, so they don't even get home before having to go back to work... The me are also expected to earn enough to handle all the expenses, the wife's money is her own to spend, oh and he should buy her gifts, and always have money for the changing fashion needs for her... Trust me its not "those poor wifes"

[@moussasuwwan8623]

@ Eva Lise Højen Jensen Mrs. Jensen: (….as a cultural thing they are forced to go out to drink with their boss/co-workers/clients…) What you wrote is not a complement for Japanese men. あなたが書いたことは、日本人男性の補完ではありません。 (Ce que vous avez écrit n'est pas un complément pour les hommes japonais). It shows their high level of alcoholism, and bad conduct. それは、アルコール中毒、および悪い行為の高レベルを示しています。 In France, where I live, it becomes more and more complicated to justify these spendings…. They can present you in front of a judge, years later, for unjustified expenses. (Des années plus tard, ils peuvent vous présenter devant un juge pour des dépenses injustifiées). By the way, as an assiduous (勉励な) NHK World watcher, I saw documentaries on this particular subject, where there were few men who accompanied their children to school, or kindergarten. It is only women, who have to run to work after that. May be, because their men were not awake yet. 彼らの男性はまだ目覚めていなかったので Ils ont besoin de temps pour se débarrasser de l’alcool qu’ils avait engorgité la nuit d’avant. They need time to get rid of the alcohol they had engulfed the night before. 彼らは前夜に飲み込んだアルコールを取り除く時間が必要です。 Have a nice day.

[@JIYkp]

3:57 That in-sync reaction. We all know that feeling.

[@demonfox51321]

Luckily my Japanese gf isnt like that she more mature she isnt control person and she would be cool if I was talking to some friend best thing about her is she doesnt expected alot of me since she already knows me since we have been together for 8 years lol

[@danklndonutz9974]

demonfox51321 wow that's good! I have a Japanese friend (male) and when I sent him some text, I noticed that he blocked me. So I asks him why on another place, and he said that because his gf got angry of him talking (or chatting?) with other girl besides her. So I get blocked too😂😂😂😂

[@carter5103]

demonfox51321 bro sam

[@carter5103]

Same*

[@judy6520]

demonfox51321 That's nice. I wish you two all the best!!

[@demonfox51321]

Judy thanks lol

[@saoirse5308]

30 years, my wife has NEVER planned a vacation for "us". She has gone to see her sister or something and planned it all for herself. But not once in our lives has she scraped together the money, made the calls, set things up, and so much as taken me on a weekend getaway, meanwhile I have struggled to plan a family vacation at least once or twice a year every year for all that time. . . . To think about it is kind of sad 😕

[@p0rt3r]

You know you have probably watched too many of her videos, when you try to picture the building that is CathyCat's wardrobe. As a guy with 10 t-shirts, all black, I am amazed at the sheer diversity of her collection of cute dresses. And all those little accessories that go with them. Just wow!

[@maikathespanishloid]

I honestly feel bad for the guys who had to deal with and gone through. I'm not like that, bad mouth, talking on the phone too much, anything negative or give them stress. Not all women are like that. Plus, the guys are too cute to be single.

[@user-ff7fs4sj7r]

6:48 we need his instagram💀

[@ejwilly2309]

I know he’s sooo pretty!

[@ritalun_naulak]

c AYYYEEE SO TRUEEE

[@Iloveshymenfr]

Yes, he kinda resembles a japanese idol, ryoto katayose

[@TheStepmonkey]

Sehun's wife Kinda but this guy is WAY better looking.

[@SistoActivitatemAtm]

Lol I don't understand women's preferences...

[@lauraflores6405]

4:26 seems like I'm his soul mate 😂😂😂

[@bassgirl_denalia9087]

I'd love to see my husband's reaction if I demanded we celebrate a monthly anniversary. Lol. Yearly is great, it's great to celebrate your love. But, monthly seems so often it takes the "special" out of special occasion.

[@radarrin553]

The thing about making all the plans, idk I don't think guys should have to come up with all the plans? I feel like both sides should make the plans together, that shows each person is actually interested in the outing and makes sure that both will get to enjoy something about the date

[@azwarmuharram2399]

Childish gf is a pain.

[@Li1190]

Azwar Muharram Most Japanese girls in their 20s are...unfortunately

[@Magkuuuuuus]

this seems to be the favourite topic here i guess

[@Mecks089]

Captain Piano Tutorials because from a foreign perspective, most people are just interested in Japanese Girls, I'm kinda glad Ask Japanese has had two negative out looking videos in regards to relationships with them, so many foreign men need to snap outta the Japanophile/Yellow Fever blind state, thinking that Japanese girls are better than the rest.

[@diab0und]

3:35 Look at those boys in the background lolol

[@emancebo13]

"Every relationship should be equal..." 😂😂😂 we are very, very far from that reality at least when it comes to dating. Thanks for the content and the good intentions

[@jnana1985]

Was it just me or anyone else almost failed to notice the glasses are actually printed on the tshirt @ 6:57?

[@Alelunecat]

6:45 he is cute and has a deep voice ♥

[@ritalun_naulak]

Tenebris Lunam yo! I AGREEE

[@TheStepmonkey]

Miyu Lunam IKR, i want his insta💗

[@happybirthday2078]

6:17 That boy on the right is so cute! 😍😳

[@doomslayer5191]

I like how Japan is like so bike friendly.

[@ashleyday766]

I agree with someone who said it may be because she’s interviewing younger people... because I heard stories from the guys that made the women they’re dating sound very immature, but also sometimes the guys sounded immature as well lol. I’m sure the standards for planning everything and getting gifts is probably more intense in Japan, but it seems to be that expectations of girls are high even in the west here in the US. But I think usually as men mature they realize that there is importance in listening to their girlfriends and wives, and it’s really the little things that make the relationship worth it. It’s the moments where we share appreciation for the other person and treat them special that really matter. And conversely for girls, we do struggle to empathize with men in relationships, and sometimes having high standards can mean nitpicking everything they do... I think as we women mature, we learn to pick our battles, and to also reciprocate appreciation and let the guy you’re dating know that you appreciate their effort and their reliability :)

[@Stylomagic]

We plan everything together, but when we go for a trip, I plan a lot alone, because I want that and my boyfriend is working more than I do, so every preparing for a big trip I do alone, but I have fun doing it and my boyfriend appreciates it a lot. We are from Germany btw.

[@liscatcat8756]

I have to plan everything or we'd never go anywhere and have to pay half each I'm from England

[@Deficious]

I feel so sorry for these boys.. they have to go through so much just to keep her happy... I feel for them :O Also, they are expected to celebrate all of their anniversaries? I really couldn't and I wouldn't want to celebrate every anniversary with my future partner... Only the big ones, the ones which are very meaningful.

[@kcrayzme2341]

I can't help but notice how cute some of the boys are and just that fashion 😭💓😭💓😭💓 I won't date you but just admire you from afar plssssss

[@kingsonsofaru423]

4:00 when you contemplate the memories you made and recall something super embarrassing.

[@shicret4382]

But if your girl asks "When are you coming home" .. isn't it because she cares about you? I'd prefer the girl asking these questions instead of not caring at all :( But yeah I think it'd get annoying too if she doesn't even want you to go outside with friends :)

[@sushi_mermaid7116]

I think for the first month or 2 it should be the guy doing his best to impress the girl and her being very appreciative of all that he does for her. After that time the girl can decide how she feels. If she accepts him or not. That doesn’t mean use him for two months and leave.. what I mean is after the first month or 2 is when the relationship should become more serious and equal on both parts

[@mangamoth5798]

lol... the boy dressed in black and with hat is me lol 😂😂 talking everyday on phone???? ahhhh it suks .. 😂 being single is nice my ex was kind of overprotective too . and used to call me everymorning before going to school.... urrrgh

[@hecatrice2064]

6:56 Would make a good voice actor

[@mrmar-que6307]

These don't sound like the anime girls I dream about. 😮

[@juniorhuachoguisado6640]

Not-from-Tokyo girls are better.

[@dethkok3869]

D'Juann Mar-Que I'm probably gonna stick with Japanese AMERICANS cuz like they WAAAY MORE THICC ANYWAYS and they know wassup n don't pull all this type of bs on dates

[@Eye-m7f]

Wake up, sir!

[@HardcoreMasterBaiter]

Umm hello? The girls from Sword Art Online? The girls from Infinite Stratos? Do they not get jealous?

[@_busra_dmn]

also all those girls from the boy's harem that fight to get his attention (ew)

[@leenjordan4271]

I thought the first group and 3rd one are gays, I think the shirt guy at 4:22 is originally a female? Us this possible in Japan?

[@saikerx9450]

Hope you put subtitle.. Having a hard time here figuring out what their saying 😂