jealousy is a disease and i have it

[@milleniumfalcon754]

This is one of your shorts that resonated more with me. It can be scary to admit pride, but we all have it?

[@RedLya]

Facts. Not all but alot of us do and that’s ok. :)

[@Humanoidfrenzzy]

I don't have pride, just drowning in self-loathing and disgust, but pride is very common to deal with. Regardless of what pitfalls you struggle with, just do yourself the favour of being honest with yourself.

[@sorkaii]

@@RedLya we all do.

[@sorkaii]

@@Humanoidfrenzzy you can be prideful and self loathing at the same time.

[@Humanoidfrenzzy]

@midnight cowboy I didn't say you couldn't, I just don't have any pride personally. I'm not speaking on behalf of anyone else, just on my own behalf.

[@ronniejones3719]

Gratitude is a great way to overcome both pride and jealousy, and entitlement discourages gratitude. However, there are many things you are deserving of, such as respect, happiness, and free Healthcare!

[@Laibakhan1524]

FULLY AGREE WITH EVERY SINGLE WORD

[@emlynnasmr6176]

Underrated comment 😌💖

[@thuydungie]

that comment was already a 10/10 but the free healthcare part took it to a 11/10

[@McBear221]

Emphasis on the last part 😂

[@rm.makes.me.smile_]

Period Ronnie!

[@miastahl628]

the shoe situation tho? 😂

[@raec5568]

So glad someone else noticed it lol😂 I’m just not vibing with it 😭

[@ruchibarve4053]

yeah the socks and heels are not it for me 😭

[@AB-ku8du]

Exactly the outfit is so cute and would be so much cuter without that sock situation

[@user-pm2zv9fs5r]

nah in this day and age i would never wanna be caught with my grippers out in public.

[@chickenfoot2423]

i think its cute. some days you just dont want your feet out & the blue is nice

[@cabbage-soup]

i dont think it's toxic to have emotions. i think jealousy betrays a lack of confidence - we aren't confident enough in ourselves, and therefore we rely on outside factors in order to maintain a sense of self-worth, and outside factors are ultimately unreliable.

[@l.salevi]

I agree 💯 Emotions are not toxic it’s how you deal with it that actually matters

[@felix-xd4mx]

envy is legit and sometimes it's not even entitlement or pride but genuinely thinking "man if i was born more this or that, things will probably be easier". but it is very toxic bcs u can't control who you're born from and your appearance etc so 😂 the only way to think is that everyone have different blessings and curses

[@egodumpster]

HOLY SHIT YES. i constantly think about this. If I had better parents, was born in a successful household, etc, I wouldn't be this miserable statistically. I still haven't come to terms with it

[@piau1798]

Maybe it helps to see it that way: you can’t only swap one thing you want to have. If you could live another persons life, you’d have to take all of what comes with it- the Environment, people, places, school, parents, looks, culture, abilities etc etc. And i guarantee you, those people have their own problems and probably wish to swap with someone else also.

[@gozue869]

You can believe you deserve things without being mad that others get it instead of you, it’s something I’ve been working on for a while and I’ve made lots of progress. For example, if me and my friend both have art commissions open and they get lots of commissions while I get none for months, I can be proud of them and not get too jealous, even if I know we’re at the same skill levels. You deserve attention, and for your work to be acknowledged, the thing you need to realize is that the world isn’t fair and success is never guaranteed despite skill or effort.

[@alexinatree2564]

The idea that we don't "deserve" anything sounds bad, to say the least. Maybe it's part of a larger branch of thought that couldn't be summarized in a short reel but we do deserve good things. We deserve to be treated with love and kindness and respect by fact of shared humanity. Not because we are better than anyone, but we all deserve these things.

[@thekingsdaughter4233]

That _would_ be the stuff for a long episode. Philosophical stuff. I agree with the "treated with kindness and respect". Not sure what else we "deserve" _just because._ But that is such a tangled subject. And these days, the entitlement culture is so strong. 😒 It would be interesting to sit down over tea and discuss it, for sure. 😊

[@microcosmos1864]

It's one thing to think you deserve good things and good vibes (which is healthy and is a positive thing), but it's an entirely different thing when you feel "entitled" to things, people and experience... Jealousy happens when you're feeling entitled!

[@yusrafatima2594]

wow this disease was lingering in me for about a few days but yes as I start to think how something was "given" to me not something i "earned" it frees me from all the envy and negative emotions, this concept is not new to me since everyone advised me on the same thing but somehow you spelled it out so clearly that it hit me, thank you so much kaiti for "giving" me this idea!

[@myplateisempty.4292]

I was one of those kids that could get high scores without having to study. I actually struggled with mugging stuff up and used to get mediocre grades. But then I changed my study style and what I did was to actively listen in class, do my homework (without copying), befriend the high scoring classmates and help tutor or revise with my friends. So while I didn't really make notes and study the traditional way, it was easier for me to recall information through more practical use. Just because you don't see the person put in the work doesn't mean they get things easily, there is always a method, a trick and there will always be a lesson to learn from everyone or everything, you just need to be open to the idea to learn and grow. Jealousy is healthy when you want to improve yourself rather than bring down a seemingly successful person. I would say that I've definitely been jealous, but most of the time I've used it to better myself as well as helped me shape the person I'm today.

[@anerrorhasoccurred8727]

Fr the only reason I learned how to memorise everything in class was because I absolutely _hated_ doing homework. My home life was hectic af and they gave us way too much!

[@alibaebae5787]

Omg I NEED a page where you link all the items you wear PLEASE that skirt is everything

[@zehryx]

^bump 🙏🙏 sorta similar to the uniqlo mermaid skirts

[@zehryx]

update: found something really similar on yesstyle through google lens (berubee - mermaid midi skirt in off white)

[@aizzaasen6465]

I used to believe that I could get everything I wanted by working hard and “doing the right things”. Unfortunately, that’s not how the world works and some ppl are just lucky to have the upper hand. That’s why we all have to work our way around problems and accept what can’t be changed. Honestly, this is the most inspiring short I’ve watched.

[@humankaleidoscope4989]

Yes!! This sentiment is hard to come across on the internet. Meritocracy is pushed so much online that I swear people sometimes forget that there’s people out there who work way harder than us and will always have less. Life isn’t fair and there’s a lot we can’t control. That doesn’t mean it’s not worth working hard and trying-it does have an effect. But luck exists too.

[@omnium_gatherum]

This was beautiful. Humility can be so healing ❤️

[@didididit3015]

First step is to admit it. Second step is to realize it is harmful for you and/or the person you are jealous of without giving you any benefits. Third step is to embrace that you and others are different so there is no use to compare yourself with others. Instead, start comparing yourself with who you were yesterday. Fourth step is to be happy about your own progress and for the progress of others. Fifth step: you will never really feel jealousy again since it won't make sense anymore :)

[@mikaelastefkova]

I'm not really jealous about anything, but health :c I'm noticing that I'm becoming more jealous with my health deteriorating... I'm jealous of the time when I could walk and go to school, but now also of the people who still can. I'm jealous of the things I could do and can't now, people who can eat what I can't, people who had a proper childhood outside of the hospital, people with healthy parents who went on trips or even on holidays.. and it feels horrible to admit, but I can't help it :// I even cried watching people being happy and running, when I was looking on the telly or outside of my window.. :c I was always grateful for what I had and that was kinda enough, but I'm so sick of being sick now.. :c

[@trippihippie7909]

I really genuinely appreciate this. It is a message I definitely needed to hear. 🙇🏻‍♀️

[@rosalee477]

Humility and grace can go a long way. Shed the negativity.

[@Bbbbbbb486]

Loooove the fit! And ugh I try so hard not to be jealous. It is really heavy on my mood. I try to be happy for them and show gratitude for what I do have… even if it is unfair at times

[@sam73322]

Hmm… is it healthy tho to believe you don’t deserve anything?? Wouldn’t the better alternative belief be your value isn’t based on your grade/income/looks/performance/…. ?

[@HorowinBenrah]

I think we mix up the idea of deserving something with no one has the right to keep you from getting something. I believe in the second one, but not the first. Because if I deserve to feel good bout myself that means someone owes it to me. But if I’m allowed to feel good about myself then it’s nobody’s responsibility but rather a privilege I can give myself.

[@Aelffwynn]

I think her point is that "deserving" is a made up concept. It's not about "deserving it," because we're all shaped by forces outside our control. Sometimes we get lucky, sometimes we work, but a lot less of it is in our control than we think. It's much healthier to just do the best you can, and know most other people are doing the same, and not burden yourself with pride and jealousy.

[@EmyN]

@@HorowinBenrahOmg you put into words

[@AnastasiaR]

Its the difference between gratitude and entitlement

[@vivianloney8826]

I don't deserve a certain outcome. Life is not a pure meritocracy so regardless of how you believe the world should be, believing you deserved or earned a certain reward for your efforts is just not reality. Whether things work out in your favor is not in your control and believing that certain actions or abilities should result in certain rewards will only lead to disappointment that can be entirely avoided if you accept how much is outside of your control. A similar strand of thought is present in many religions and philosophies, and I believe for good reason.

[@shrutis4989]

am i the only one who doesn't feel jealously? whenever I see someone who's doing better than me in all aspects of life, i get motivated instead of getting jealous 🙆

[@lesbiangoddess290]

The rest of us cant relate.

[@thesalazar2461]

Same here!!! ❤🎉

[@beaverkat4267]

You get motivated to do as good or even better.Isn't that another form of jealousy? 🤔

[@shrutis4989]

@@beaverkat4267 I get motivated to do better in aspects that are good for me. Getting inspired isn't a form of jealousy :)

[@monikazimovaart]

That is because you feel empowered 👍

[@LaVanilla19]

whoaa queen sharing facts again. Do we love it... ya we do period!!

[@1994haphuong]

Kaiti, you are an awesome person. You are very smart and pretty. You achieved so much. Comparison is something we all experience. I am battling jealousy as well. We got this!

[@jeewankaur8553]

I think its more comparison than jealousy. comparison is the thief of joy and in each scenario you had to compare yourself with people to realize you were jealous? just dont compare yourself with anyone, you are at your own beautiful, high, amazing standard and no one can compare to you so why compare with others

[@martha.monjaras]

obsessed with the skirt! where did you get it?

[@bw-dn1wp]

Right! We need the brand name!

[@firejay39]

Yes I need to know too!

[@crystallionsyndrome2805]

Shein?

[@msuakn]

@@firejay39 can you comment the link please?

[@SamanthaP48]

Same!!!!

[@bellaxeahrose8705]

Wow I really needed this video. I never realized it

[@YoshinoArt]

I struggle with envy so much. I control it and don't express it, but really burns inside and messes up my mood for days

[@luisaabreu4028]

I think "envy" is a better word for this.

[@Bijaaata]

Jealousy is “svartsjuka” in Swedish, basically means black sickness. So yes, technically could be a disease 🤪

[@yehfish88]

I just love your energy and little dance, along with your narration makes me somehow emotional.

[@annahdz4614]

she's so gorgeous, I love that outfit!!

[@dOVERanalyst]

I'm so sorry, I am one of those that didn't have to study (atleast in B school). Before that I'd to work hard too but never got as hard work to result ratio as I did in B school.

[@s.j.warlock4901]

I have no idea what crazy aesthetic you're going for, but I love so much to see you rocking it with such joy!!!

[@frog8313]

Watching this reminded me of a slip dress i have. I DESPERATELY wanna have a way to style it in a more modest way, considering i have a more curvy body, which makes me more susceptible to dress code.

[@ohifonlyx33]

People believe they deserve entirely too much. There are a few basic rights that people are born with, the rest they have to work for. Accept where you start, look towards your future, and work toward that goal.

[@margieql7198]

You know when you start to recognise your flaws by admitting that we are all prideful and feel jealous, we start to gain respect from other people.

[@sarahaisyah97]

thank you for this 🙌🏼

[@neeraja_sudarsan]

Love the statement and I've been curing myself from that! Additional thought I hold to cure this is to stay 'humble', thinking that the universe holds me better things and as a famous quote goes 'god gives gifts bundled up in problems' (no, I'm not being religious here) but yeah! Expect good stuff, look forward to get surprised by any result! And keep working on stuff because you love doing it♡ Ps: comparison is the theif of joy so stop comparing your life with others👁👄👁 Thank you fellas, have a great day! And thank you for uploading this video❤❤this is such an underrated topic!

[@np2470]

Yess......" I pridefully think I deserve be handed to somebody else" That's what I feel....

[@Eisvogelllpoem]

That’s not jealousy darling. That’s envy!

[@genera1013]

Pretty sure those are synonyms.

[@Neerepha]

@@genera1013 They're not.

[@genera1013]

@@Neerepha Explain the difference then

[@mariagabbott]

​@@genera1013Google it yourself

[@yueuphoria8952]

​@@genera1013 Envy = the painful feeling of wanting what someone else has. Jealousy = feeling threatened, protective, or fearful of losing one's position or situation to someone else.

[@multifandomharlot]

Can you start linking the pieces you're wearing in the description? They're all so good 😭

[@vivi-ws9yl]

Yes that's why I hate the quote " you can do anything you set your mind to" no you can't and that's okay. You can't control everything in your life and you don't need to

[@HanNguyen-cx1oo]

Jealousy about other achievements is what the society teaches us to be familiar with. But as I grow older, I'm happy when I do my best, I don't care if someone is better than me. Love your outfit. The cardigan is so so so flattering But the socks are the deal breaker But fashion is something that is quite personal, so as long as you feel confident wearing them, my opinion doesn't matter

[@Th3MostWond3rfulTim3OfTh3Y3ar]

Well, that was actually inspiring. Thank you!

[@katiafalinschi5934]

People need to learn the difference between jealousy and envy

[@immrssnow]

Socks with heals?? What's a weird combo man 💀💀 Edit- I'll still consider this combo the WORST combo EVER!! No matter what do you guys say in the reply defending this combo 😆

[@pinkyboy8576]

It's cute

[@francookie9353]

I've always loved that combo! Especially colourful socks with neutral or black heels! 🥰

[@melodyandbryanphillips8304]

I agree, super weird to me

[@lapkalapka3185]

These socks are too thick for heals

[@priscillaleung4396]

It’s slippery wearing socks with heeled slippers

[@_yussra]

jealously is admitting someone is better than you, “subconsciously”, but not in real life. That someone might not be better than you, but that is where you put them and still you refuse to admit it.

[@jennifera9071]

Tbh I have always struggled with jealousy and comparisons myself. My family is extremely narcissistic and toxic. I constantly compare myself to my sister or my cousins/aunts/uncles, etc. i didn’t do well in school, I went to college without any financial support, I had minimal debt because I spent 2 years at community college before transferring & paid everything off each semester. Meanwhile my grandmother financed my cousins ( I did better than they did), and my grandmother laughed at me saying you’ll never get into your ( insert dream school). I actually got in twice but couldn’t qualify for the loans to go there (have a single mom with bad credit). I’m at a point where I have no debt at all but I need a new car, new job, and to move out to get away from my toxic family. Idk, I know it’s not worth it or helpful to be jealous/ compare but it’s harder than people think.

[@4munni3]

wow that's such a good way to put it. thanks!

[@D-Dollie]

I love the outfit so much but not the socks and shoes 😅. I love your msg too.

[@stadot1427]

I always respected stay at home moms as I was raised by one (along with a working dad) and I usually describe my childhood as "idyllic." However, when I found myself having a really hard time on the job market, it took me a couple years to accept that maybe I just needed to be at home supporting my husband and our church. Now that I've accepted it, life is just so much less stressful and relaxed both for myself and my husband. I get to visit the disabled, serve my husband delicious and nutritious food, and pursue informal spiritual studies. Soon I'll get to apply that development to parenting our children and there is no greater impact one can make on the world than raising children well.

[@abarrot9847]

This reassures me that I can still wear socks with sandals this season 😁

[@jell._.y]

this look I love it 😭💓

[@gretalouise3877]

I need to watch this every day and I’m not kidding lmao

[@schnee_the_bun]

I am jealous of a girl in my biology class, because, even tho she never raises her hand and stuff she gets a better oral mark than me. I'm raising my hand nearly every time and my teacher told me, I should work on my oral mark harder. I hate the hatred teachers fuel between students. I try and try and try. I hold presentation, which he told me were great, I work focused, I raise my hand as often as possible, my written mark gets better and better with every exam and he told me that I still am just as good as I had been half a year ago. I feel mistreated. In class I'm often bored because of how he teaches. Tlwe are the advanced biology class and not just starting to get to know biology and when I addressed it, that I felt underchallenged, he told me it's OK and gave me more presentations to do. And he always says that she is a model student and does soooo well. I don't want to hate her.

[@chubbydinosaur9148]

Pride ain't bad. You should always be proud of yourself.

[@riditahaque4906]

As a Muslim, I can relate. Jealousy and pride are two of the most negative emotions that can eat you up. It's also the trait of Satan. So as a Muslim you should not have this two emotions. But these two emotions are what affecting me recently.

[@sunbinseo619]

As a 5ft D1 student athlete, yes, having longer legs is nice but not everything is impossible. It is extremely hard but sometimes the hard work does pay off. To simply say you can't do something is not always the solution. Obviously it is a healthy balance. Not saying everything is possible with hard work but hard work does go a long ways.

[@studybread2.0]

You can't control external things. Don't set goals around external things. Set goals for internal things and do your best.

[@farishtaomirageart]

Nice color combo!

[@Laibakhan1524]

Hey I truly believe we can heal and actually find ourselves changing for the better if we are more thankful for what we have. I personally am a Muslim and pray to thank Allah for everything I’m blessed with but even if you aren’t religious you can find five minutes a week to jot down things you’re grateful for and u don’t even need a journal you can in fact do it in this comment section

[@Julieseven]

Great words, horrible sock-shoe combo❤❤😂

[@jamiececilielange5249]

While we can't control everything, we should still make an effort, despite the fact that life isn't always fair. We might find strengths we didn't know we had. And while some people are smarter, some people have also learned better study techniques. With jump rope, it might be a matter of the rope length? I don't see how long legs would help, but I guess it depends on what you were doing.

[@somewhereisgone]

This is good self reflection❤

[@miss_nohemi]

That skirt is gorgeous❤ where can I buy it???

[@MaluMartins23]

Love the message and love the outfit!! ❤

[@Soul_eater56]

The skirt is fire.

[@Wudup]

You are so right! And adorable. Love it all.... but I'm confused by the socks is that a new thing? Trend?

[@louisaelloire2852]

I fr thought the caption said “jealousy is a DRESS and I have it” 💀😭

[@sankalpietechtips]

It's true, I did not choose my appearance, my talents, this life or my hair(I'm especially insecure about it😔). The 1 thing I alwayss feel pround upon is my choice of my partner(currently). As you know, in Asian culture it is very common to have an arranged marriage. I feel good that instead of the choice of my partner being slapped on my face, I found someone who feels the same. I know life is very long and a lot happens, but I really pray for it to be good for us

[@cgygflkj]

That's not jealousy. You just perfectly, however, described what envy is.

[@octolaguna]

the socks were a choice but the rest of the outfit is v cute

[@sarahhaynes5122]

Could I ask where you got the corset top? It’s so pretty!!

[@hypingbts]

NOT THE SOCKS😭

[@uzi710]

love the clothes 💕

[@TheLindagdetroit]

totally down with the socks! comfort first 👍

[@vera_light]

I’m kinda at the opposite, I want to understand jealousy Because I’ve known for so long that what are mine are mine, what others’ have are others’. But there do have people that connects everything everyone together. But I don’t want to have jealousy in me tho as from all the things I’ve seen and heard it’s damaging to anyone.

[@alittlerain7159]

It's envy, jealousy is the feeling you get when your perceived possession over something or someone is threatened. Envy is the feeling you get when you see someone possess something you do not.

[@vanessameow1902]

GURL NOT THE PERFECT LOOP😭

[@ginatalia808]

Amen, sistah

[@Nebby1418]

Love the new format :)

[@dreamerdoes_is_love8986]

we are all deserving of growth, love, true freedom amd truth not because we are so deserving but simply because we are, we all Are. so we all "deserve" to be. nut it's not a reward or a punishment it is life

[@EasyKiwi111]

This hits too hard!

[@sanne28x]

eye opener fr 🫶

[@cabbagecrosby1993]

Pride + jealousy = entitlement. I always thought that only spoiled rich kids had that until I became an adult, and realized that despite not being spoiled or rich, I was capable of feeling entitled because I was raised to care about making my family look good, so when I had a family of my own, that translated to high expectations of obedience from my kids as well. They shouldn’t care about making me look good tho, kids will be kids and say blunt embarrassing things every now and then. If they’re aren’t given the opportunity to make mistakes without scolding, and given encouragement to keep trying, they won’t have a positive relationship with chores and responsibilities, and will rebel as I did, not having that support. It’s true that you’ll understand your parents better when you become one, and that if you see the problems for what they are rather than sweeping them under the rug and being superficial, then you can help make the next generation better by being more approachable and present, and giving your kids the care you wished you’d had. It’s easier to love my parents despite the toxicity now that I’m a parent myself. I just have to learn to stop being a perfectionist, and expecting perfection either. We aren’t robots. There can be great satisfaction in succeeding in something regardless of the amount of failed or flawed attempts. I mustn’t stunt anyone’s growth with my own mental baggage.

[@btsmochimi7924]

Honest advice for those going to college

[@peach_cobbler]

Ain’t nobody jealous of that outfit, girl.

[@VeraDonna]

Such an elegant outfit, completely ruined by those socks

[@haphuongnguyen3358]

Wait she didn't? Girlie, your legs are more than sufficient for "long"

[@marufgazi9025]

Thank you 🎉😊💫 ... 02:56❤ 18/03 😊 sat❤🎉

[@m_aggie]

I’m jealous cuz this outfit is actual so cute tho

[@monikazimovaart]

You just need to find your strengths, your talents and your own confidence in order to stop feeling envious. The envy is pointing to ways you aren't treating yourself well and aren't appreciating yourself. It's a terrible idea to just stuff your envy down and judge it as a disease. Everyone has their unique worth and you aren't an exception.

[@folakemioluduro]

These outfit combos 😍

[@areebah8772]

beautifully said

[@howdyfellas920]

Very wise true words

[@vanamilanov9165]

Great outfit, great philosophy Bravo girl ❤

[@oxanashcherba6105]

Off topic: where is your skirt from? I love it!

[@savannalove7739]

Love this! I ❤

[@gs28479]

The socks... No no

[@midnightdew]

Honey...it s not disease...it s your self esteem that is dying

[@VeggieGirl07]

And you can cure your dying self-esteem. Have you ever heard of an analogy? That's what she was doing. Pipe down