Jealousy

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Open Relationships have been in the spotlight again thanks to HBO's hit show Insecure so Jared and I wanted to share more intimate details on ours.
We discuss dealing with jealousy in an open relationship, our thoughts on threesomes, open marriage and would we leave each other for someone else.
What role does jealousy play in your life?
What are your boundaries when it comes to connecting with others while you're in a relationship?
Watch our other videos on this topic
1. Responding the The View "Our Open Relationship"
• Our Open Relationship
2. Responding to your questions on our open relationship
• Our Open Relationship ...
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[@shanboody]

I'M ENGAGED NOW BUT FIND OUT TO WHO...kzbin.info/www/bejne/i2bak4iLj76njMU

[@katerilevasseur8119]

Shan BOODY You've obviously come to a point in your life that you know men cannot be faithful and have decided to go this OR route. You know they will end up going somewhere else why not just give it a label!

[@katerilevasseur8119]

💛❤💛❤Listen up! The moment your partner tells you that they will leave you if SOMEONE BETTER COMES ALONG,,is the moment you SHOULD GET THE HELL OUTTA THAT RELATIONSHIP! It's OVER....... this is from personal past experience.... believe me it's done when you or him express that!💛❤💛❤

[@KrayzeeLife]

Kateri [Kat] Levasseur but he married her so mind your business. It works for them

[@chloegaudet3142]

Lol u trolling ur own vid

[@nfvjgrofgjvoldlkgvlo]

shes allowed to sleep with other men too. @@katerilevasseur8119

[@KayJayMuaTV]

"Comparison is the thief of JOY"... AMEN

[@thatssocrystal5715]

Drop Jared's skincare routine tho😩

[@eoa363]

Crystal Chinaelo I believe it's called 'Youth.'

[@christinay.6414]

Or just genetics..

[@AS-tb2mo]

Its genetics. His dad's skin is 🔥🔥. His dad is fine too.

[@nehab753]

I've actually been talking with my boyfriend about open relationships (the concept, if we'd be comfortable with it, what it means, etc.) largely because watching your videos has really piqued some curiosities and questions in my psyche of how and why this works for some people. My bf and I basically concluded that it wasn't for us, although we both of us agreed that we'd talk about/consider it if either of us was more seriously curious down the line. I will say that even being able to honestly talk about it and knowing that its a not off-limits conversation is an incredible feeling. What started as a talk about being "open" ended in us understanding more about what we look for in intimacy and what drives attraction and jealousy for us. Thanks Shan! keep doing what you do

[@shanboody]

+nehab These are my fav kinds of comments!! Ones that are reflective, respectful and come with a story lol (guys I loooooove your stories) moving this to the top oxo

[@nehab753]

Shan BOODY I can't believe you actually responded lol! Thanks for your time :)

[@shanboody]

+nehab anytime lover

[@as0205_]

All your open relationship videos make me want more and more to try this kind of relationship ! You guys seem so happy and the trust and respect you both have for eachother is very inspirational !! Keep up the awesome content shannon ! Love you ❤️

[@TheKirbMeister]

nehab a

[@lolz9113]

"i would not want the third person to feel like the third person" damn that's hella considerate. there are so many couples who honestly dgaf about bi people as people and just want them to be a convenient add-on to their threesomes. thanks for being cool, i guess is what i'm saying? haha.

[@TheRenaissanceAmazon]

theo so true

[@user-zu5sp7wx2g]

She said it because of her fear of being that third person herself when they do a threesome. I'd bet you anything that's what she thought of before she turned it around and said it.

[@alliphil1]

I like that I'm living in a world where couples get to self-define what their relationship looks and feels like. Ain't nobody's business what you choose to do with your happy little selves. Rock on!! ❤️👏🙌

[@deej5608]

AliDu TRUTH

[@Rio_Monique]

If an open relationship is not for you that's fine but why be borderline disrespectful to Shannon and Jared's relationship. CLEARLY their relationship works for them. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@katrinalee009]

A lot of people who don't like open relationships, sure do watch a lot of videos (and comment) about open relationships 😂 if it's not for you, that's fine....but keep it pushing. We don't go around bashing the "traditional/monogamous" relationship structure because to each their own. Let these two beautiful people enjoy their beautiful life, while you go build your own. Whatever that means to you. ❤️✌🏼

[@shanboody]

+Katrina Lee I know eh! I'm not mad tho the more the merrier is the name of the youtube game oxo

[@Malthizar]

Katrina Lee you actually do, which is the funny thing

[@reemalexander6339]

Katrina Lee having an opposing opinion doesn’t mean someone is bashing yours or putting it down.

[@Cleocat254]

Shan BOODY because it’s controversial and it attracts attention. Also some people just don’t understand and they want to learn

[@bambi7563]

Reem Alexander clearly she wasn’t talking about those with just opposing opinions 🙄

[@JSSC858]

I can never be in an open relationship. Power to those who can. It's emotionally and mentally draining. However, I'm old school when it comes to marriage. I've been married for 19 years and am still in love.

[@shanboody]

+Jacqueline S congratulations that's awesome!

[@jeniwatkins3297]

My husband and i have been together 19 years been poly off and on. We opened the marriage officially a year ago and are still VERY MUCHO in love still. I feel that love and bond helps make this work

[@ElizaLovez]

same girl same lol. 9 years and counting! And we still honest with each other. Heck we check out other ppl all the time. Just don't date them lol

[@lisaariottiart]

I was a virgin when I got married at 24 ---inexperienced in sex and romance. I married my best friend. We had known each other since we were 15. Less than a year into being married he suggested an open relationship. I was in an instant shocked , confused and heartbroken but agreed to experiment with the notion --partly because we were intellectuals and I thought I could intellectualize that monogamy was a cerebral construct and that humans could potentially love more than one person at a time. We didn't get very far in that experiment--- I became wildly jealous and extremely anxious ( mind you this was 20 years ago before it was a trend ). The thought of him giving his affection to another woman , a stranger, just floored me and made me paranoid. Its something I would say that you don't want go into blindly. But maybe that is because I personally connect sex & love . Polyamory basically injured my psyche and my ability trust men for many years but worse it injured my connection with him and ultimately contributed to the unraveling of the marriage. I've never really been the same since. Im still highly anxious about the thought of a partner leaving me for someone else and I find it very hard to go with the flow in the beginning phase of new relationships. Which ultimately sabotages the connection. The idea of dating multiple people casually and without commitment also throws me off balance. In short, that little polyamory experiment for me broke a spiritual covenant which basically messed with my mind and heart in a very bad way for a very long time. Only now am I finally getting counseling to try and show up more confidently in romantic relationships. Maybe I was too old fashion for that experiment -- or there was bot enough communication. But I know what I like and appreciate and that is a Man who chooses to be faithful and monogamous. It makes me feel safe and protected in life and a partnership. Im amazed how the young women of today don't seem bothered. I actually wish I could be that open and relaxed. I feel that partnership should never be a jail or prison on another human beings desires. But Im not when it comes to love. I prefer learning depths of one person to breadth of experience with many. Good luck to everyone out there. The times we are in today are not for the faint of heart. 🙄

[@krisyoung715]

Jared is so much more comfortable on camera now!

[@shanboody]

I know!!!! I'm amazed

[@lkez2]

If this is comfortable, I wonder how shy he was before.

[@purplestorm9004]

I love how much Jared says "like you said" cause it shows how much they agree on things and how much he values her opinion

[@ehsh3072]

no, its cause he doesnt really give a shit either way and has no thoughts on his own. hes a dick

[@terken8454]

@@ehsh3072 why would you say smth like this

[@CandidlyYannii]

They simply use the term "open relationship" and it triggers you and makes you uncomfortable based on your own perception of what that means. However, if you listen, the principle of what they're doing is simply being completely honest and open in a relationship with no boundaries; no matter what you're being honest about. We often hold back on being honest with our partners and honest with ourselves based on what we think should be allowed in a relationship, when in fact, our growth process as human beings is anything but linear. Relationships are not about ego and possession and rather about growth, and that growth process looks different for everyone. You hear the term "open relationship" and try to diminish it to sex with other people and having a lack of self control, when in fact what they are speaking about is the essence of unconditional love and trying to build a healthy relationship through practicing what they do in an attempt to break down an old destructive relationship paradigm. This is simply how they're choosing to try to do that right now, and it may or may not change as they grow and evolve more as with all things in life.

[@pasmetha]

Open relationships is about sex with others. If it was based on unconditional love, why don't they try polyamory? Share your love with anyone, but they reduce the relationship to only being open with sex.

[@shanboody]

Hey all! Thanks for continuing this conversation with us. Be sure to click the "i" in the righthand corner to take the poll so I can learn more about you!

[@913NUPE]

Shan BOODY this open relationship topic fascinates me I don't think it's for me but I love the communication that you two have.

[@PatriannaHemmings]

Terrence Flowers 🌹

[@lonnie008]

Well... I'm a monger so obviously I've got to be in an open relationship.

[@therebex23]

Shan BOODY From a quick browse through the comment section, you NEED to keep making open relationship videos. It seems like people are having a hard time grasping that it's a mutual agreement between partners that includes boundaries and, especially compared to traditional couples, is based on 100% trust. I've never been in an open relationship myself (closest I've experienced would be a casual dating relationship where we both knew that our current lives/goals weren't going to match up, but we prioritized each other over anyone else while having the freedom to seek someone who would fit) but I totally get it. I feel like more couples would be better off if they considered an open relationship instead of the black and white ultimatum of monogamy or breakup.

[@TammiBloo]

For the Open Relationships and You question, I couldn't find an answer that matched but I've been in an open relationship and now I'm in a monogamous relationship. And I still absolutely adore the guy I was in an open relationship with, we still talk, and it was one of the healthiest relationships I've ever had! Awesome video.

[@oliviam6100]

From this video, I get the impression that Shannon would be ready to give up the open relationship if Jared was ready to commit to just her. But from his answers, that is never going to happen

[@rikki_25]

Olivia M i agree with you so much in the videos shes made before she was with him she never mentioned open relationships at all and now all of a sudden shes so down for it. Im 90% sure this was all his idea and it was either she had to agree to it or he'd leave her.

[@Pre0115]

Olivia M her face when he said yes I would be open to an open marriage.... 😒

[@TheBlackPumps]

Pointless Name - A lot of the things that she's saying point to their opposing views on the matter. A lot of what Shannon says does suggest that she's more open to a monogamous commitment eventually, whereas a lot of what Jarred says suggests that he can't imagine being open to committing to her only.

[@nestica420]

Did we watch the same video?

[@juste8561]

I'm 100% sure she made the suggestion. That guy seems like a push over. You can feel her dominance through how she talks .

[@chizzybrianna]

I know a lot of people are shooketh by this type of relationship. I used to be too, but since learning about yours... I respect it. There's a real genuineness and romance that comes along with continuously choosing your partner while having the freedom to choose someone else. You never have to wonder about if this person loves you still. A lot of people stay together out of fear or obligation and become resentful because of it. Gwan gyal. Dweet.

[@Nino-bu1cx]

Look, i'm old school...If you have to see other people while in a relationship with me then we're not in a relationship. That's a friends with benefit ordeal.

[@DianaGarcia-lb9dl]

RedNiNo Fioz I agree because she said at first she gets jealous if he's with someone..if you're gonna be jealous then you shouldn't be in an open relationship..if I have a man I want him to be my one and only and I'm his one and only.

[@Nino-bu1cx]

Diana Garcia yeah, thats my opinion but you know..Diffrent strokes for diffrent folks lol

[@alliphil1]

RedNiNo Fioz Interesting that "relationship" is defined in multiple ways by countless "couples" on this planet. Can't say that I've heard any one consistent definition. The words monogamous, open, polymory precede the word "relationship" in the lives of countless couples. That word is pretty much self defined so hey, just do you.

[@backstabbath2533]

Oxford dictionary: Relationship - noun. The way in which two *or more people* or things are connected, or the state of being connected.

[@bextree]

They were friends with benefits previously. Then they got to a point where sex was no longer the only benefit, and now they're sharing their entire lives together. That's definitely way more serious than friends with benefits.

[@karyminamyning2972]

I'm not made for an Open relation, I'm not gonna comment on yours. The best part (for me) is the question (and Shannon 's answer) 'Would you leave me for someone else'? I think your answer should fit everybody . Good answer 👍🏽

[@evaistheway]

I have been observing the way Shannon non-verbally communicates with those whom she features on her videos, I love watching her because simply she's sincere, she wholeheartedly means everything she says. With Jared, she's calm and centered, proud and content with what she's got (with him). Her voice tone is calm and loving, she keeps her eyes fixed on his and doesn't shy away from what's being discussed. She genuinely smiles, giggles and laughs and it makes me (at least) happy. She loves what she is doing. I love, love seeing her happy.

[@JMADBZfan]

Though an open relationship doesn’t work for myself and my fiancé. The views you two have about being jealous, not worrying about things you can’t control, openness of communication, and not hiding things are very integral for a long lasting relationship. Also, clearly defining boundaries is so important to.

[@adrikakes]

Why is it easier to be honest in an open relationship? I'm currently in a monogamous relationship and I expect total honesty.

[@shanboody]

it's easier based on Jared's experience of being in a monogamous relationship vs being in our relationship. He was speaking for self, which is what I wanted to emphasize, it's not a universal fact by any means

[@user-yh8li2tm8g]

'flirting is healthy'

[@FloydSmith2]

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[@jeniwatkins3297]

It is! My husband and i are both very flirty and it's not an issue. We point out attractive people to one another too. We are married, not dead

[@maddyG7414]

@@jeniwatkins3297 idk why but the 'we're married not dead' made me laugh 😅 I want to get to that point.

[@jeniwatkins3297]

@@maddyG7414 Thanks!! 😂 It's a great way t see it i think. I hope you too can get there one day.

[@emoo2342]

The hate and, in most cases, misunderstanding toward open relationships is wild to me. I've been in an open relationship for 5 years and the idea that I love my partner less or that he doesn't love me because we're sexually or emotionally involved with other people is crazy to me. At the end of the day, your relationship is whatever you and your partner want it to be. If it's monogamous, cool, if it's polyamorous, cool--if you're asexual, even, great. Just do what makes you happy so long as it doesn't impede the well-being of others~

[@brittneyscott8041]

I could never do this! But I'm so glad you both share so much of your relationship. It's eye opening!

[@myriahquintela7100]

These conversations are some of the most honest conversations I've seen in any relationship. They are so eye opening and the most inspiring thing about them is the safety you two feel to be utterly honest with each other. That kind of communications is deep and sexy! It's so in alignment with I want in my own relationships. Thank you for posting! 💚💚💚💚

[@trrrooollfc1159]

When they do videos like this I feel like it's so good for their relationship, most couples don't sit down and ask each other questions like this. Hearing each other's answers and seeing their reactions only helps them work on what they already have and make their bond stronger. Shannon keep up with the great content girl

[@LovingSoul61]

How many of you just have ONE friend?? Ok. You genuinely love all of them, right? Ok. It takes effort and consideration to maintain these friendships, yes? Ok. It's really honestly truly not that difficult of a concept to understand. If it's not for you, it's not for you. Some people don't like green peppers. Don't eat them. Don't shame people who do. It's not that big of a deal. Spending time trying to convince people who don't like green peppers that their lives will change for the better once they finally get with the program.....sounds ridiculous right? Yeah that's kind of how at least half of y'all sound. Its getting old. The whole point of the relationship styles that you all prefer is create happiness, yes? Ok. They are happy. Same destination. Different journey. People get so distracted from the point of everything. You are supported, Shannon.❤️

[@shanboody]

+LovingSoul61 this is my fav! Very insightful thanks for sharing

[@LovingSoul61]

Shan BOODY ❤️

[@kuunami]

Assuming that you aren't sleeping with them, your friends can't give you STD's or have you unknowingly raising a child that isn't biologically yours. That's why we've evolved to have the emotion of jealously. To protect us from the cons of sleeping around. It's no different than why the emotion of fear exists. The problem I see with this discussion is that a lot of folks act as if there aren't tangible risks to promiscuous behavior.

[@TheLilbabyazteca]

Thank you for continuing to do videos like these no matter how shitty your comment section gets. I really do take something from all your videos like I know many others do!

[@FiestySweets]

Azteca Grandov Agreed! I really wish people could appreciate how authentic and beautiful, their conversations truly are.

[@JayZhang516Ytube]

I'm in an Open relationship. The role that Jealous plays in my life is self reflectance. As my ability to identify jealous and the reason why I am jealous grows, the journey it has taken me is through the path of self affirmation and inner reflection of Why am I jealous, is it because of insecurity (Often times it is) Is it the fear of Missing out ( Some of the times it is) raising questions like "Am I good enough? Does that last question even matter? what does being in a relationship even mean?". Open relationships come with lots of turmoil but can bring about the biggest freedom, and with that freedom can come with the deepest of Love because everyday we choose to come home to each other, default to watch tv on the couch together, and to eat dinner together and to keep each other's feelings of insecurity, or FOMO at ease, and to allow each other to enjoy things in life that may or may not involve the other - which includes exploring new love interests (Compersion).

[@shanboody]

+JayZhang516 😍 this was eye and heart opening for me!!

[@JayZhang516Ytube]

I'll tell you that it was not an easy road because it involves a younger, more impulsive, more emotionally driven, version of myself haha

[@ghouse7]

I love how open and authentic you guys are. In a world where this level of honesty isn't the prevailing way it's comforting to know there are people like you guys out there.

[@darldinaebot3814]

Thank you for doing this! It's great to be informed about different types of relationships. Love your videos💓

[@mariamahmed6409]

God I love videos with you and Jared! I love the honesty, I love how deep these questions can get, I don't personally agree with open relationships but I'm glad you two are able to make it work, by setting boundaries and rules. I admire that. xo

[@AstroMoonGoddess]

I love how intently he listens to you, Shan. I'm very appreciative of your content. Much love and many thanks to you both. 💚💚💚

[@soleravioli]

i love them so much 😭😭😭😭 their communication and ability to be open and completely transparent in all regards is so inspiring and by far the most healthy relationship example i’ve ever seen 🥺

[@rosterthao]

I'm a jealous person. I'm still wondering how to overcome that feeling..

[@trippyspaceship9482]

It takes a lot of time and patience with yourself. And in the meantime, just find something that you feel your confident in doing and do it. I hope you can build your self-esteem up enough to one day not be upset about not getting the girl/guy attention that you want for instance. You deserve to feel special because you are and hopefully when the time is right someone can show you just that.

[@elainedavis9053]

Even though I am not in an open relationship, my partner and I are honest with each other about appreciating the attractiveness of another person, etc. The difference is if attraction leads to wanting a date or more, be honest and love enough to leave. This is what works for us.

[@mirnaduric3386]

I LOVE you two together. I don't get the negativity other people feel about this, the level of honest communication and openness you two have is something to wish for in any relationship

[@welcome1245RP]

When Shan talks Jared got this sparkle in his eyes that make me want someone to look at me at like that

[@Coolness18304]

open relationships are better than going behind people's back and cheating

[@leleyang3088]

True but they both don’t know each other’s self worth that’s why.

[@backstabbath2533]

What you and Jared share is almost as beautiful as the two of you are.

[@RT-bt5xi]

I love the communication between you two. You're both so connected and dedicated to your needs individually and want the best for each other. This relationship is so mature, raw and authentic. I hope to find one like this. Thank you for being so open with us! 😘

[@NickiBluIs]

Idk how anyone could watch this and not see a beautiful couple doing what's best for them. Wishing both you and Jared all the happiness in the world.

[@WithJackyB]

Maybe a video on jealousy and how to control it ...lub yu

[@iMandyHere]

Looooving this hairstyle Shan!!

[@babiegirl444]

I love this and the authenticity of the whole relationship. I feel like people can really learn from this and yall are definitely way ahead of y'alls time with this approach to relationships. Thanks.

[@Natalia_Navarro_]

I’m so glad I came across this old gem. Seeing you guys’ interactions from years ago is so heartwarming 💗 And now y’all have created Ryu ✨

[@Ashley-zh3bp]

I'll never understand how someone could be in a open relationship or in an open marriage especially. No disrespect to people in that type of relationship at all. I just wouldn't be able to do it.

[@Ashley-zh3bp]

if i loved my man i wouldn't want to be with anyone else tbh.

[@leija8005]

I know I could not be in an open relationship but I don't judge others who are. It is THEIR life! We are so conditioned to one way to have a relationship when that just isn't the case. The ways in which people choose to express their sexuality and parts of themaelvesl, as long as consensual and legal, is up to them. Everyone in the comments bashing it should maybe try to learn more about it and not feed into the hegemony of what defines a relationship✨

[@seanstyles6228]

I love how light, yet intensely clear this conversation is... I love you guy's energy around each other it's honestly amazing when couples can speak so openly with one another, regardless of the relationship type. Keep the vids coming Shan and Jared...

[@uhospaghettios14]

So happy for you two! You both seem great together and I love listening to you talk about your relationship and what it means to you. I just got out of a relationship that wasn't the best match so now I've learned more about what I need in a relationship and what I need to give. Hearing you talk about your own experiences gives me some hope and reminds me to push myself to be the best for others and not settle for someone who isn't the best for me.

[@MissOyin]

I'd never tolerate an open relationship but I can acknowledge that doesn't matter in the slightest. If you and your partner are healthy, happy and honest that's wonderful.

[@nataschafleischmann3429]

I love the communication you two have! Amazing! And omg LOVE your responses to the comments 😂😂😂😂

[@Alienstookmyfridge]

I love when you guys talk about your relationship! Hearing about your specific dynamic and seeing how healthy and happy you guys are really makes me want to explore aspects of openness in my relationship. Thank you for taking the time to educate in a respectful way, even though the backlash may not be as respectful. Love you guys

[@karolynramos4045]

I absolutely looovvveeee that you guys finally touched on the topic of jealousy. I have a similar mindset when it comes to my relationship and it works for us. Although we haven't yet experienced other people we know that it's an open possibility. My bf however has the thought that jealousy should not take place if we were to see other people but I explained to him that it's totally normal and we can move past it. Now I don't feel alone in the world bc some else also thinks it's normal!! Lol

[@pamelad6684]

When I was in a relationship. We were okay with flirting with others, cause it is healthy for the relationship. It is good to know that your partner still "got it going on". We also talked about other people being attractive. We were in a monogamous relationship. It was not a open relationship, but we were open with each other about everyone.. So it is definitely possible in any form of relationship title.

[@Roseeeebabe]

He's looks EXACTLY like Justin Beiber

[@luisavieira2985]

he does? maybe u need glasses!

[@emyemyemyyyy]

Now that's all I can see lol

[@tamiraslade3571]

I thought i was the only one

[@thatssojazzy9916]

Soriah Jenkins thanks a lot... I can't unsee this now lol 💀💀

[@missy217]

Soriah Jenkins wow, I didn't see it at first.

[@shannonofallon]

I love that you guys really don't limit each other from doing the best the other can do. It really shows a glimpse how caring and deep your relationship is.

[@yellowdrangon]

I just want to say Thank You for putting your personal life out there, its fucking hard to let total strangers judge and comment on such an intimate part of your life that a lot of people want to keep out of the lime light. I thank the Both of you for giving us the insight and understanding of this type of relationship! Keep Doing you Shannon!!!

[@jazzsingh6892]

A lot of ppl are on here telling Shan and Jared how to live their life when y'all barely know them. Personally I wouldn't be in an open relationship because that's not what makes me happy. BUT just because that makes me happy, that doesn't mean that makes others happy as well. We all have different ways to make ourselves happy. These guys look like they got it all. They're happy and content. I love your channel Shannon. Keep the good content coming. ❤️❤️

[@Eliski_]

I absolutely respect their type of relationship 💯 But I am not the type of person that can do it😂

[@stephaniedunn3687]

I love that you both are so open and honest about your relationship. No one owns another person, so I completely get respecting someone else's (and your own)will to do whatever you feel. Communication and honesty can open the door for all types of relationships.

[@Etherealvioletco]

Thank you for this Shan!! I love the laid back vibe and open communication between you two... such a healthy view of open relationships!

[@kaylajohnson4072]

Love sending these to my boyfriend so we can reflect together!!

[@saucyfaces]

I'm immature. I feed my jealousy. Cookies, milk, chicken...pretty much whatever it needs to flourish in my life. Lol Seriously tho, this conversation gets more and more interesting to hear (maybe because I'm simply so opposite you two). The parts of you guys that you are capable of "shutting off", for lack of better words, are so very vivid and dominant in myself. Like, Shan...I would've elbowed the girl at the show! 👊👊 Lol You guys are great. Interesting perspectives.

[@shanboody]

lol not chicken! You are witty! I like.

[@saucyfaces]

Shan BOODY Girl yes! I'm horrible. Lol But its one of the key reasons why I've been a fan of your content for some years now. Your channel has helped me to understand or at least gain a different perspective from nearly anything that enters my mind. I'm Bahamian and we're pretty closed minded so this content is great for me. Keep up the good work Queen. 🙏

[@luckyarchery]

My boyfriend saw me watching one of your videos a few months ago on your open relationship and we both fully agreed it seems like something that we were curious about individually and in our relationship. Specifically we are both working on the practice of honest and open communication. So I appreciate that you helped us open that door! Lately we have been exploring our friendship and any feelings of insecurity and jealousy and i personally feel a huge difference in our interactions. It's awesome.

[@aspiringtentacle]

Jared is such an unusual man. I don't know what it is about him, his honesty and the way he seems to welcome vulnerability is so interesting to see. As a couple I like to see them disagreeing because they always seem so respectful of each other.

[@purplestorm9004]

Who else was there for the live stream 🙋🏽🙋🏽🙋🏽🙋🏽

[@shanboody]

My girl

[@purplestorm9004]

Shan BOODY I LOVE YOU 💜💜

[@WoahhTeamJacob]

Purple Storm meeee

[@auroramothergoddess]

🙋🏻

[@CoolKidOx]

I saw your face drop when he said yes to open marriage... I mean I understand the purpose of an open relationship, hell - i'm in one too. I think it allows for exploration most importantly but in marriage. I personally would have to disagree with it being open. That is my husband, for me and no-one else. Especially when kids start being brought into the equation. I feel when jared said the closing of the open relationship leads to shadiness is something he needs to deal with (overtime). You can still communicate with your partner just as openly if not more so in a "closed" relationship.

[@shanboody]

+CoolKidOx there is nothing in this video that I was hearing for the first time ever so I was never surprised at the answer. This is actually the second time we filmed this video with the same questions as the first time the audio was bad (hence why I was paranoid about it this time). And i did validate that some people are able to achieve the level of honest and open communication that jared and I have in a closed relationship

[@CoolKidOx]

+Shan BOODY ah OK! I understand that, forgive me for mistaking your reactions. & Yes, I respected how you kept saying "for you" as he was answering.

[@CoolKidOx]

+Shan BOODY You are currently in an open relationship which is different from an open marriage I believe. Since you advocate one, you don't necessarily need to be sure/ or advocate the other. Can I get your stance on the prospect of being in an open marriage? What if he changed his mind & suddenly didn't want it open?

[@alicewonderland484]

I love how honest you were in this video, Shannon. I literally paused the video when he asked you if you'd ever leave him because I had a moment where I thought about what MY answer would be if my partner asked me that. I thought "Yes" and was glad you said the same thing because that's just being 100% honest. I feel like some people would actually say no to this question and idk how because you're right, we only live once and it's up to us to make it the BEST and shit, sometimes that means choosing up. Love you! Keep living your truth :)

[@leeahdavis777]

it’s so refreshing to see a relationship where there is no dishonesty and hiding, I like how both of you are so open about everything and there is full trust, I need this 🙈

[@angiej9353]

I did not want this to end. I really love the vulnerability of this beautiful relationship. I am currently single. I think this is a great way to have a relationship and I do think Shannon is right about it being for some couples and not for others. I love that you both want the best for each other. I honestly don't know how my next relationship is going to work or with who or when lol. In terms of dating, can you give examples. Like obviously you guys are not looking for other people but is it just like "oh I met this cool ass person last night and I want to take him or her out." ?? Are either of you guys dating other people now? And what does that look like? I need more videos like this! I have so many other questions. I really appreciate you guys sharing this part of you with us.

[@katdo22]

Open minded. Open heart. Thanks Shannon and Jared for sharing. It makes me more understanding.

[@ellyfrye8716]

These videos are so wonderful to see. The attitude you have about your relationship with each other and with others is so healthy and joyful. My boyfriend and I are transitioning from our current monogamous relationship into an open relationship, and your videos helped figuring out that transition much easier. Even more, I was able to really reflect on my own needs and desires for my life and for my partner's. Thank you Shannon and Jared for sharing your personal story with us.

[@DIVINEHAJ]

I personally am not interested in an open relationship, but its very intriguing to learn about by watching multiple videos of you guys' & how it works for yall. Not everything will work for anybody so I hate seeing all these generalized comments, we're all different people!

[@Dinof152]

I really love those types of video

[@Maydosha45]

Maria Lpz same

[@karama2012]

Open relationships are complex and I think that's where people have a hard time understanding what it's. I do not think at this point in my life I would benefit from an open relationship, but I admire seeing others who are in open relationship strive.

[@citychik2]

It's honestly sad that the top comments ignore the message of the video! Shan I'm happy you've found someone who complements you sooooo well. Ya'll are honestly such a power couple, you both seem very driven and willing to support each other. Thank you for making these videos about being in an open relationship,! You've taught me so much, and have helped me to communicate (and discuss) clear boundaries in my own relationship.

[@aaliyahpm]

This video is very real, so refreshing. Ok I've watched all three videos and I don't think they have addressed this. I'm curious, when do you bring up the fact that you're in an open relationship to that new person you might be interested in? Is it one of the first things you let them know about yourself? I'm also curious to know how those people tend to react when learning about your relationship.

[@maemaejojo]

You have no idea how helpful and informative this was for me and how amazingly inspiring you and Jared have been to the discovery of my own preference of relationship style because of all of your videos and how open and candid you two have been. I truly thank you both. Sharing this with everyone I know!!

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[@jenniferauliilani]

I love and admire you. Your videos are constantly making me think and challenge me to expand my horizons and I appreciate that. I don't find one type of relationship superior than the other but I think what you and Jared have is beautiful. Love is love, regardless if it's shared between 2 people or more. Thank you for sharing. 😊

[@moonequalist]

I love the open communication you two share with eachother. I learn so much from you both from each new video you share. I hope to one day find a partner with as great communication that you two have. Doing the work within myself to also help make that possible. Thank you for sharing. I love you both!!

[@princessjacobmova3309]

Notification squad!! I love you guys!!

[@DemiCampbell]

I highly doubt you two finding anything better than what you both collectively have built

[@egc3729]

I still struggle with the concept of an open relationship. Not for me, but I admire you for following what you want.

[@yosjaida]

skin is glowing on both of y'all, outfits are too fresh! this works for them and i'm happy. love you both

[@cannadybell220]

I love watching you Shannon but just guard your heart, because if he falls in love and wants to marry someone else that shit will hurt you no matter how much you may disagree!!

[@shanboody]

+Cannady Bell girl when did I ever deny that there would be pain! Of course it would hurt!

[@cannadybell220]

Shan BOODY you replied😀 I wasn't trying to offend you but I don't want you to get hurt.. I've been and it really hurt to the core.

[@magsness]

Jared is THE ideal man - such a strong, confident male with such a sweet and sensitive side that allows him to be so open honest but also vulnerable in some sense. You have my full support guys - I hope one day I will meet someone who I will be able to build such a strong bond with. I learn from you both so much, it's making me extremely grateful for all the knowledge and growth.

[@AznBarbieStick]

Everyone has their own beliefs and wants for a relationship. I appreciate your openness and honesty and bringing to light a conversation that many avoid. Thanks for educating me! You are super mature and handle the topic of your personal relationship greatly. Not many people could do this! 👍🏻

[@ashleytune1598]

I love and respect you guys as a couple so, so much. Thank you for being so open and honest with the world to educate the people, despite all the hate you get. I've grown leaps and bounds in the last few years with how I handle jealousy, thank goodness. I used to take it out on my partner instead of realizing it had everything to do with me and nothing to do with my partner and that it was something I had to deal with internally.

[@janatsoomro3152]

does anybody think he looks like Justin Bieber ( now justin ) or is it just me 🤔....

[@hillaryocansey9560]

Janat Soomro he does...alot

[@jeniwatkins3297]

No!

[@libertysyates]

I support open relationships. My question is: would you have a child/children while in an open relationship. If so, how would you raise/ educate them to understand what your situation is?

[@shanboody]

+Liberty Marshall I think so. But mind you I don't know bc I don't have a child. I had to explain what I do for a living to my 5 year old niece not long ago. It went very well! I think kids really move off of energies vs principles.

[@libertysyates]

Shan BOODY That's good to hear. Actually I just finished watching your interview you did on The View because I noticed that was one of the areas you covered. Thanks for the reply!! I love your videos and your outlook on life. It has opened my eyes a lot and its been incredibly helpful and thought provoking. 😘

[@anolen21]

I love when u two do these videos!! I really enjoy hearing about your open relationship and learning more about the topic in general thanks for sharing!

[@ChrisTheAspergerGuy]

This is one the best videos you two have made on this subject. As someone who's unable to have relationships, I'm always envious of people who have open ones. I've never understood the concept of monogamous relationships. They just seem very restrictive to me. I don't think most human beings are wired that way. It's a perfectly normal thing to have attraction to other people and I don't find anything wrong with it if there's clear communication and everyone's being safe and responsible about it.

[@LittleMissCrista]

You guys have a beautiful love ❤️

[@GGee_734]

Comparison was a huge struggle for me before getting to good point myself. I'm wondering... how does one overcome when they don't have the ammo to be optimistic? I remember constantly having to motivate myself but never quite being 100% sure of [insert good thing]. It could be that it comes with time too and being able to see the big picture.

[@taneshawilliams701]

Thank you Shannon and Jared for sharing your lives and relationship with us all. Thank you 🙏🏽 so much!!

[@pleasureexploration7491]

Thank you SO much for creating and sharing this video, Shan!!!

[@sarahsunsmashable]

To me, jealousy doesn't play too much of a role in my love life - I went through a pretty horrible breakup which burned a sense of self-love in me that isn't wrapped in another person, so I have that always be it single or not. If I was to talk about a hypothetical relationship, what my partner asks of me might incur jealousy; if it's too much for me to quash it I'd appreciate them hugely for acknowledging and abiding by that boundary, as I would theirs. I'd hate, however, for anyone I'm with to feel like they can't tell me about their desires or feelings due to fear of how I'd react. I'm otherwise very competitive in terms of my career etc. but I try to channel it into industriousness rather than bitterness. For me, too far is being sold a false dream, or seeing a partner engage in something self-destructive (be it with another person or not). Love your videos Shan xox

[@shanboody]

+sarahsunsmashable your answer to going too far is insanely good! You really worded that so concisely and well. Bravo I'm borrowing that

[@chh323]

I think having an open marriage is messed up simply because if you can sleep with someone else you have not been able to receive what you need from the relationship. Call it what you want but if you have someone you want to be with having another woman or man share their genitals with them other than you their partner is just messed up!!

[@vondonstrut218]

Chill lmao. If it's not for you it's not for you. But I think it takes courage to talk about their open relationship so maybe don't shit all over their truth?

[@leleyang3088]

@@vondonstrut218 lmao chill I don’t want my man coming up to me and saying he wants to fuck and date other women its called self respect

[@vondonstrut218]

@@leleyang3088 1 year too late on this lmfao. many people do open relationships. if it aint for you then it aint for you.

[@daughterofyah6209]

I really enjoy this conversations with you guys being honest with yourselves!! The communication level you guys have is out of this world and I can’t wait to have that!!!

[@ShariStratton2]

Thank you for continuing to let us viewers in on your relationship. You truly have sparked so many conversations and questions I have for my partner and I. You two's relationship is truly what I aspire to be and have. Best of luck.