Weddings Then vs Now

[@aethefledladyofmercia9572]

This actually makes me kind of sad. It used to be enough to say, "I just want to marry you now, we don't have to make a big show of it." Now we say, "I love you, but we if we don't have the money to make a giant grandiose event of our wedding, we have to put it off until we do." And every decade the traditions and standards just get more and more complicated.

[@kj7792]

Right? Its stupid. Simple and cheap. Let the in-laws do all the work😇

[@thehousespouse]

Nah. It depends on the people. My best friend got married for $200 for the celebrant. Then we went back to her place and had tea

[@Analaya749]

A lot of it is solely for social media and seeking validation from others. There’s no other excuse to go into extreme debt for a wedding.

[@ktj4691]

And the divorce rates get higher and higher.

[@StarryEyed0590]

The cost and spectacle of weddings have fluctuated throughout human history, depending on culture and social class. We're not even close to the most elaborate/expensive customs right now.

[@victoriamooney2176]

Laughed so hard at the 'meld your own ring'. My grandmother's engagement ring was a large Japanese pearl he dove for himself. The ring was capable of holding 10 supporting diamonds but only held two since it was all he could afford. The story behind it is worth more than the ring itself.

[@filthycasual4164]

That is very cool. Extra sentimental since he dove for it himself.

[@CC-uq7cv]

That's really sweet. thank you for sharing

[@WendyHett]

How beautiful!

[@pysq8]

😍 at that and 🤣 at "tamp it down"

[@billyriedel6449]

My grandma and grandpa got married at a church with one witness. They then went to the movies. My grandma wore a nice dress suit and my grandpa a nice suit. It was nothing fancy and they were together 60+. My grandpa died near the beginning of the pandemic from dementia

[@alexisvalere4095]

Aww… what a great life they must have had together! May your grandfather Rest In Peace🙏💖

[@elysebuehrer5981]

So similar to my grandparents. I hope more people take a page from the past and simplify the process. What matters is the love and the commitment.

[@MJLondn]

I couldn't quite get past Brad wearing Trey's Gen Z glasses 😄 Congrats Jake!

[@maryelizabeth2751]

I knew those glasses looked familiar! 😂

[@paitesmith9133]

The fact that Brad helped his buddy to cover the ring says a great deal about there friendship. I LOVE THAT!!! Congratulations on the upcoming wedding!

[@Nostalgio]

In the wise words of Trey Kennedy, “Do Less, God Bless.” 😢😂

[@karafuller3033]

Grandpa's sportin' some stylish lilac glasses, there. I like how he shouts AT ALL TIMES. I got married 28 years ago. Can't imagine all of the crap people deal with now during planning. I think grandpa's scenario sounds much more desirable. "You walk down the aisle. You say I do. She says I do. You walk back up the aisle together." Simple, really!

[@martah735]

🤣🤣🤣 - "if it doesn't end in 'ster' you don't need 'em". So brilliant

[@ghostlyrose8946]

Congratulations on your engagement, Jake! My wedding was definitely more like Grandpa Brad's, only in 2015. My engagement ring was one of my husband's great-grandma's rings. Our wedding party was two bridesmaids and two groomsmen. Our guest list was barely 100 people. Our reception was at the local Senior Center, our food was burritos made by a family friend. Our first night was at a Super 8. We didn't do a honeymoon and my husband was back to work two days later. All in all, the cost was about $3,500 and we paid for the whole thing. But here we are, even more in love with each other than we were on that lovely, simple wedding day. And six kids later, lol! God has blessed us!

[@rachele3334]

Our stories are very similar! Why spend $20,000 on a wedding when you can put that into a house?!

[@raimeyewens7518]

I got married in 1995. I wasn’t interested in a huge wedding. His dad was a pastor so we got married there by him. His grandmother played the piano and his sister sang. My aunt did all the decorations. Two of my cousins had been married recently so she just used some of their stuff lol. I got the dress at a discount bridal shop. Our friend took pictures. I think the only expensive thing was the cake and I only got one bite of it. No big reception. Just the cake and punch. We didn’t want to start off married life in debt. I think some women are more concerned with their wedding than the actual marriage. We’ve been married 27 years and have 5 kids and are happy. I don’t regret not having a big wedding. The whole day went by so fast it was a bit of a blur anyway lol.

[@evirgil84]

LOVE THIS & the inside jokes from Jake’s actual proposal. 👏🏻 And Brad KILLED IT! 🤣

[@SeraphinaoftheBayou]

How does one get in on said inside jokes from the actual proposal? Did he discuss it somewhere?

[@evirgil84]

@@SeraphinaoftheBayou Yes! Brad & Jake have a podcast together, ghostrunners podcast, and did a special episode telling the whole story! Here is the link to it! kzbin.info/www/bejne/q37Pk3ybis-hhq8

[@glamgal28]

ditto to your comment Elizabeth 🥰

[@glamgal28]

@@SeraphinaoftheBayou Ghostrunners podcast has the best community 🥰

[@SeraphinaoftheBayou]

Thank you for the info, friends! I will check it out

[@rachelscott951]

"Sheila wore white." 😂😂

[@lukaskontilis5477]

It's even funnier knowing his card actually did get declined

[@jenniferbates2811]

Wicked funny! I got married in 2009 and I spent $3,000 on everything. Got married at a restaurant with a justice of the peace. With some family and friends. Then was able to spend a week in Vegas for ourselves. Please don't go crazy for 1 friggin day .

[@mc-rn8ro]

Cool, so that’s $4,150 nowadays; NOT counting airfare and hotel costs for the trip to Vegas And assuming there WON’T be post-Covid complications/mark-ups for renting out the restaurant The world’s different now. $3000 won’t even get a nice dress! You could thrift; but again, post-Covid.

[@jenniferbates2811]

@@mc-rn8ro Omfg! I can't even imagine the bullshit fees now! I actually did get my dress from a second hand bridal shop, It was $60 , I got a black dress so I could reuse it. It has 3 layers to it and I'm a busty gal, so I also paid $60 for alterations to the dress. We got lucky, my FIL gave us his room points for the Mirage hotel, he used to travel a lot for his job.

[@Anno-4full]

I got married in 2014...$1500! My uncle is a pro photographer, we had Mexican friends make a fab Mexican meal, used my husband's work shop for the reception with rented chairs and tables, married at our church, dream dress from Goodwill, made my own bouquets and flowers with hobby lobby flowers...still love how everything turned out. Oh and pulled it off with a 6 week engagement!!

[@kj7792]

My friend did the Vegas wedding Super Cheap and already a vacation for the whole family to come when you offer them a free buffet dinner at a restaurant. I think she paid 2000$ for everyrhing

[@jenniferbates2811]

@@rieaweer7459 I noticed that, when my niece had her prom, I was like oh shit when my sister was telling me what my niece wanted

[@ElizabethDohertyThomas]

Hysterical! And CONGRATS on the engagement!! I married an introvert who gave me an extremely heartfelt, totally private engagement-asking experience. :-)

[@caitlynnwallace6345]

Same here!

[@elysebuehrer5981]

Glad to hear that. You can bet I will make sure any potential fiancé knows to skip the lights-camera-action business. I don’t understand wanting to make a production out of such a personal moment, but maybe that is the introversion talking!

[@valeriehinkle8995]

Same here! It was very significant to our personal experiences with each other and very special. We later saw a guy propose at a cheese factory in front of a long table of their loved ones and it was sweet but me and my husband looked at each other and at the same time said "ours was better".. lol

[@karenwagner6880]

Wow - gramps served in WWII and Vietnam. That’s impressive - thanks for your service! 🇺🇸

[@Dawn-tv1bk]

1993 Punch, nuts, mints, cake. In the fellowship hall. Done. That’s just the way it was. Plus we were on a budget 😊

[@jcrussell1448]

....back seat of a Cutlass Supreme!!

[@nicolebeck591]

Amen Grandpa! Got married in the courthouse 30 days before his first deployment. 19 years later I wouldn't change a thing!

[@miovicdina7706]

🧡

[@rachelvanderzwaag7408]

Congrats on the engagement! Guess that means there’s hope for the rest of us sheltered kids ❤️

[@alexisvalere4095]

First off, I absolutely ADORE grandpa’s idea of a wedding, however, he’s mixed up his war story- first he was in Vietnam, then he switched over to WWII, so not sure just how old grandpa is, & finally, the best of all, congratulations to Jake on his engagement! Awesome!👍✅❤️💖💜🧡💙🫶🏻💗🫶🏻

[@bookworm598]

I always think of the line from Ed Sheeran's song Nancy Mulligan about his grandparents' wedding "we got married wearing borrowed clothes". It didn't matter that they had nothing, they did the best they could because they wanted to be together

[@michaelredmond8173]

ON A COMMIES FOREHEAD line got me dying 🤣🤣

[@elizabethhoover4672]

Grandpa is hilarious! 😂🤣😅🙌🏻

[@thegodofpez]

Weddings are no joke! Financially, mentally, financially, time wise, financially, etc.

[@Ben-op42o]

Golden doodle joke was solid

[@BlueberryFundip]

I love that Brad's grandpa character was yelling like a real grandpa who refuses to turn up his hearing aids.

[@valeriehinkle8995]

Ours was under a picnic shelter with fall colors all around. 150$ dress and my old cowgirl boots 100$ cake 40 people, 600$ catering and done. Brother in law who is a photographer did the pics and did a beautiful job. Honeymoon was a cabin with a fireplace at our favorite mountain hike location. Super simple but exactly what we wanted and loved every minute of it.

[@lisagrace6471]

Love this!

[@kinseypeterson8664]

Best of luck to you on your wedding planning, Jake. I loved our wedding, but you couldn't pay me to plan another one. 😂

[@Kattywagon29]

I must not be paying attention. When did Jake get engaged and to whom?

[@hdproductions5869]

@@Kattywagon29 they talked about it on both podcasts. (Correct Opinions and more in depth on Ghostrunners)

[@stepht5]

@@Kattywagon29 at the end of this video he says her name is Rachael

[@glamgal28]

@@Kattywagon29 they also did a bonus podcast with Rachel's family after it all happened. Love the Ghostie community

[@Kattywagon29]

@@hdproductions5869 Got it!

[@moneyjen]

As a Presbyterian minister, grandpa's wedding is every minister's dream wedding for their parishioners, simple and drama free! Haha love you guys!!

[@pysq8]

I didn't grow up in church but I thought that most Americans did. I was very surprised to grow up and learn that it wasn't the norm to have a church wedding. I guess I got that expectation from movies or something. 😵‍💫

[@parkerdunn3639]

The two minutes once you get to the hotel comment by Brad killed me! Had me laughing out loud at work!

[@glamgal28]

Yes 😂

[@trybeinggr8239]

Lol. I was trying to figure out how many years Grandpa Brad was fighting: -Normandy stormed June 6, 1944 -Vietnam war 1954-1975 Then I found Grandpa Brad may have also been in the Korean War as well! 😱 According to an article regarding the topic on the VA website, "John Lavra enlisted in the Navy on June 6, 1944 and went on to become one of only 171,000 U.S. service members to see service in World War II, Korea, and Vietnam." Started of as a joke but ended with major respect for these 171,000 Veterans and their tireless service!

[@pinkroses135]

Gramps has all the answers. No need for that dang computer! 😂

[@natedawg7111]

Grandpa sounding like the apparently kid 😂

[@alyssa_s88]

This was so funny, Brad had me laughing out loud the whole time

[@hadassahbayless2870]

Just got married myself and laughed so hard at "Topeka Kansas" because that's where my husband was born and raised. Shout out!! lol

[@simplycynth5.0]

Brad’s grandpa voice grates on my soul 🙉😂😵‍💫

[@samanthapinner8050]

Our wedding was very non-traditional. Actually just got married today in Fort Lauderdale. It was low key. Of course, him& I are very selective introverts. It was for the best😅😊 People over complicate it, definitely. I live by a ‘I’m happy for you if you are happy’ mindset.

[@samanthapinner8050]

Thank you!♥️

[@shannonpaluchniak4676]

After the sock hop!

[@1013katya]

Congratulations! Elope and spend all your money on the honeymoon 💕 That's what we did, no regrets

[@ThisIsFiftyWithLil]

Dammit, SO funny! Husband’s parents gifted cost of foods served and flowers, my mom gifted our wedding cake, family friends gifted us use of their home for reception, dressmaker re-deposited check for my dress - her gift to us. He paid $300.00 for suit. Othewise, we spent $300 on everything else. Oh, and a family friend provided our transportation... a gold Rolls-Royce. Haha, that part was a complete surprise. LOL Good times. Word had it it was one of the best weddings many friends and relatives said they had ever been to.

[@glamgal28]

Brad was hilarious, he was so into character I was worried about his blood pressure towards the end. great video guys 😂

[@rachaelarrington7844]

Though the video I wondered if it was inspired by someone's upcoming wedding planning 😆😉 Congratulations, Jake & Rachel!!!!!!!🎉🎉🎉

[@erinhoeppner5114]

Brads character reminds of the “apparently” kid when he’s a grandpa 😂😂😂

[@eliwhee]

I will watch anything Brad is being a grandpa from this moment forward. 🤣🤣🤣

[@JuniorRDZ04]

Brad’s old man voice always gets me!! 😂

[@oliviasmith716]

We got married in 2018 and spent less than $6000 on everything including the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon. My grandparents gave us their original wedding bands from when they got married at 16. I loved our simple church wedding, and I wouldn’t do anything differently.

[@DavidNolan7]

"Please don't post this before Friday"....it's definitely Thursday

[@brittneyhouchins1167]

Terry Baldridge from the church 😂😂 I LOVE YOU TOOOOO !!! I love Grandpa Brad so much. Hilarious 😂

[@blondie7779]

Awww, congratulations Jake!! ✝️🙏🤍

[@AnUninfluentialLife]

My husband found an Edwardian style 100 year old ring on Etsy. Proposed on top of a mountain once we spent 3 hours hiking to the top. We spent about $300 on our wedding. Aaron wore a suit he already had and I wore his mom's wedding dress. We got married at 2 pm at our church and had cake reception in the basement. The cake and photography were donated as gifts from friends. I had one bridesmaid between my husband's two groomsmen. We took a 2 week honeymoon. Drove from South Carolina to Ashville at the Biltmore Estate, then Washington DC to see the Smithsonian museums, then drove all the way to Nebraska to see my family who threw us a small reception because they couldn't fly to SC for the wedding. Then we drove all the way home. That time together in the car was a perfect way to spend that time together. 🥰 If I could change anything, I would just skip the official wedding altogether and just gone to the courthouse. We have been married 6.5 years now!

[@alexisvalere4095]

Sounds awesome to me! 👍❤️💖🧡💗💜💙🫶🏻

[@JP_Stoeffler]

The only thing that would have made it better is if Trey played the wife

[@TCmew]

Brad getting heated is the best thing.

[@ElsaLouiseSinger]

Tbh, if someone proposed to me with a ring pop, I'd accept lol

[@heistruth2865]

🤣

[@lisaelias5330]

Oh my! LOL, Brad! It's so funny, but also I agree with most of what Grandpa said! Haha 😄 🤣

[@kellyfothergill8211]

Y'all don't have to worry...he got engaged LAST Friday the 28th.

[@Klehan]

Grandpa Brad is a legend 😂👍

[@SusansRoadLessTraveled]

If it doesn’t end in “ster” you don’t need ‘em. 😂

[@susanventuraahrens8878]

We got married in Kansas and drove 45 minutes to the Holiday Inn in Joplin Missouri. Next day we drove to Branson, before Branson was fancy! 😄 We only spent 3 days since my husband had Drill the next weekend. ❤️

[@ajcschmidt]

CONGRATS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT JAKE!!!

[@sarahiosman]

So happy for Jake!!! I l knew it when I started watching the video

[@cassiethompson6632]

"You should be more worried about the 2 minutes once you get to the hotel." 😂😂

[@12bucklemyshoe177]

Omg Brad.. the viet Cong and the drone. I'm rolling already

[@pamelamays4186]

What's a golden doodle? Two stimulus checks wrapped in fur.😆😆

[@glamgal28]

that was a good one 😅

[@gdawgpaveng15]

Congrats Jake! Yes please spend wisely!

[@triciabenton511]

"When I got married I knew 12 people..." LOL 😆 🤣 😂 😹

[@courtneyhilton7916]

I had no idea that Jake was even seeing anyone since I’ve heard him joke about being single so many times! Granted, can’t remember the last time he mentioned that so maybe I’ve just been living under a rock. Either way, congrats Jake!! Super happy for you ☺️

[@kellyfothergill8211]

You need to listen to the Ghostrunners podcast!

[@courtneyhilton7916]

@@kellyfothergill8211 I haven’t even heard of it! Will definitely check it out 😊

[@glamgal28]

@@kellyfothergill8211 I come to say same.. and the podcast has a great community of ghosties that feel like family

[@foodandmoorehappiness]

Two stimulus checks and four legs, best line ever!

[@RJ-mw2gw]

I’m really hoping we will get to see the wedding video! It will be an epic day !!

[@Noneofthedays]

Grandpa makes a lot of sense.

[@filthycasual4164]

Congratulations Jake and Rachel on your engagement! We did our wedding as cheap as we could and it was a lovely day. However, in hindsight all that stress of planning the dang thing could have been avoided by eloping and then would have had the money to have the tropical resort honeymoon we originally wanted. The wedding day is such a whirlwind event it is hard to remember all those details so spending that money on the honeymoon makes much more sense.

[@kj7792]

Yup had everyone plan and do everything just bought a dress and showed up. We were living it up on the honeymoon😎🤘

[@hberrysc3517]

No Brad!!!! Wrong glasses! I need you in the adorable Bert Lumpkin glasses! Please! 🤓👨‍🏫🥸

[@ZeRunningMan]

Smiley face 😏 Too funny 😂

[@dggirl6190]

Loved Grandpa Brad! Congratulations Jake!!!💍

[@CMShortboy]

"IT'S SIMPLE!" 🤣

[@dianachaloupka]

Did anyone else notice Brad wearing Trey’s ‘Gen z’ glasses? 😊😂

[@Septic-Hearts]

Honestly with Grandpa on this one. I never really liked or remembered much from all those big elaborative weddings I went to. Also half of those weddings I went to were between people who act like they hate each other now so, generally speaking, I don't think it's worth all the effort. Let alone for someone you've known two years.

[@carmengracepuentes7953]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💃🏼single and not financing that🤣

[@tylerkelly911]

I love Grandpa Brad 😂

[@nickberan9835]

Brad sounds like the "apparently" kid! 😂😂😂

[@respectabletampodcast]

Congratulations on your engagement, Jake!

[@ENFP7w8capranica]

We stan Grandpa Brad. Nice work, guys!

[@tuckerh1910]

they used the same glasses for a boomer and a gen z-er. *truly versatile*

[@StephanieJeanne]

It's kinda hard to dance to the Hallelujah Chorus! 😂 Brad's a great curmudgeonly grandpa!

[@queuebit]

Congrats, Jake!

[@earthstar2493]

"they served punch" 🤣

[@laceandribbonsviolin]

My grandmother (not grandma, grand*mother*) got married during WWII when there was a shortage of white fabric and there were no dresses to be found in white. Her dress was from Goldsmith’s (now Macy’s) or some other bridal boutique in Memphis. It’s mustard yellow with velvet trim and embroidery in green, brown, orange, and maybe purple? I really want to wear it for a photo/video shoot while I play violin in the woods in autumn but I haven’t done it yet. Someday🤗I’ll do her favorite hymns or the chart toppers from the 1940s.

[@hannahgreendyk354]

The stimulus check dog😂 That’s familiar.

[@breemlew]

Why is my wedding sounding more and more like a Grandpa Brad's wedding? lol! My photographer was a friend was college. My husband proposed just to me, no photographer. lol! We had a dinner for immediate family after and my bridesmaid's mom made my wedding cake. lol! Seriously, though, I wouldn't change it one bit.

[@andrewbrown784]

Congrats Jake and Rachel!

[@ericarosteck6801]

“No you don’t. No you don’t. No you don’t” 😂

[@seekingsnowflakes]

All you need is people ending in "ter" but also brother lol 😁😆

[@snownadean2458]

“When I got married, I knew 12 people.” 🤣

[@busenitzcustomwoodworks6768]

Yessss! I love how “grandpa” is wearing Trey’s millennial glasses 😂😂😂

[@Natalie-os6vt]

Loved it. Wish you were my grandpa;)

[@pamelamays4186]

Congratulations on your engagement Jake!

[@kj7792]

As long as you are in love and want a happy life. Simple and cheap will be the most happiest of moments. Dont stress and let your family do it all for you😇

[@kellydawson2653]

Brad in this character kills me 😂

[@thevoid747]

BEST HEM SINCE AMAZING GRACE

[@dannorlin2716]

Brads yelling literally raises my blood pressure 😂

[@sarahbotha8090]

Cursive on the invitations keep the cheap people away.