my 1st week postpartum was a big struggle… here’s why 😅 *honest & TMI*

[@khalilahd.]

I’m so happy you’re actually honest about stuff like this because I feel like no one talks about it enough! Thanks for always being transparent Jess 💜

[@nataliakrzyzanowska7864]

You are maybe not as informed as you thought and she is digging too deep in things that are not that big deal , my opinion

[@ralucaarusoaei6198]

@Natalia Krzyżanowska. Then why are you watching ? She is just being honest, nothing wrong with that,she is a beginner and this will be helpful for new mom's out there,plus she said it only her experience. Maybe you should mind your own business. Why are you watching if you don't like it. Plus, what is not a big deal means to you. Everything she said is a big deal. I think jealousy plays a big role in our lives.

[@briannakron430]

Jess this is literally the most honest video I’ve seen and so perfectly talks about all the hard things no one truely talks about, I’ve had two babies and this video is the most raw and truthful video that represented my experience . Breastfeeding was so hard with me that I gave up with my first son but I pushed through with my second son ( I remember crying out in prayer because I was so scared my baby wasn’t getting enough to eat in those first days) but it was so worth it I’m 18months postpartum and still breastfeeding and it is so empowering ❤️ thank you for sharing! And mamas out there you have got this God created you to do this!

[@miriam6184]

​@Hazel Allison truly is American spelling and truely is British/Australian/NZ spelling

[@lilylily8940]

hey jess! i’m a midwife in training and in regards to the “period pains” you had while breastfeeding.. it’s due to the oxytocin flowing through your body! oxytocin plays a really important part in breastfeeding, and it also happens to be the hormone which causes contractions! so that’s probably why you were feeling that. love love love this video and how raw it is! congrats mumma 🤍🤍

[@mary1902]

And the pain from those contractions is getting worse and worse with each baby 😪

[@Thisfordreams]

And it's very common for new moms! I worked at a NICU and can confirm this!

[@liddfamily10]

The after birth contractions also work to bring the uterus back to normal size.

[@clarahanson4942]

I had NO idea how much there was to postpartum. Gosh, makes me respect mums even more! You're doing amazing Jess 💗

[@judahthomason]

Jess- you amaze me with your relatability, kindness and vulnerability even on the internet. It’s been a privilege to watch you become a mom and love on baby and Gabriel so well! YOURE KILLING IT! Prayers for you guys in this season ❤️

[@JessConte]

This is so sweet, thank you🥹

[@niveditadubey2301]

I've been waiting for this vid so long. As a young girl, I am so uncertain about stuff like pregnancy and marriage and learning it from someone I've followed for 5+ years is so helpful

[@LovingGodLovingOthers]

I feel the same, and I personally don’t feel comfortable talking to my mom about that stuff even to learn about it. I’m so grateful that Jess can upload this for us

[@kaseypearce7776]

Oh Jess! I just want to wrap you up in a big mama cuddle. My heart is with you! I had a mirror experience to you with my first baby and had that exact thought of “why did no one tell me about this?!”. I thought I was prepared and had adequately researched what was ahead of me- even homemade my own padsicles in the freezer ready to go. Nothing could have prepared me for the pain of my extensive stitches, mastitis in my right breast and swelling in my feet and legs that lasted weeks. Everything was so new and overwhelming and painful. I understand you saying “I don’t want to scare anyone” - totally 100% get that but honestly I found videos like this so comforting in my healing process especially in that first few weeks feeling so alone in my experience. To watch another mama going through the hard stuff helped me feel like someone out there understood me. Love all the products you’ve listed for postpartum healing, I can attest to how awesome they are! I would add to those: - hydrogel nipple shields (for healing the cracked nips between feeds. Layered with nipple balm is even better) - Witch hazel peri spray (for pain relief and cleanliness for healing stitches) - Heat pack (to ease uterine contractions, soften engorged breasts and relieve aching back from breastfeeding) - Epsome salt baths (to help your muscles heal post birth and soften the tightness and itchiness of your stitches healing) - Medela breast pump (to take the edge off those engorged breasts) Keeping you in my prayers that you continue to find healing and strength in your journey through motherhood. You are doing great!! Love from a fellow mama in QLD ❤️

[@leesha1674]

I’m literally learning everything about pregnancy and postpartum through you😂💜 like an older sister giving me advice🥹

[@zueekwems5389]

Omggg yes!! I’m a student nurse and this was my clinical last semester. I was helping patients who went through the exact same or very similar postpartum experiences. There is no embarrassment or shame when it comes to any part of the pregnancy journey ❤️

[@ehleesaw]

putting all of Jess' pregnancy videos in a playlist so I can get back to it once I get pregnant ❤️

[@zeze3112]

Why have i not thought to do this?! thanks for the idea.

[@ThatTKFam]

Yes!

[@LovingGodLovingOthers]

Me too!! I have a motherhood playlist even though I’m young and not married yet, I thought I was the only one😂

[@katieelizabethxo]

I was literally about to say that!!!

[@judahthomason]

MEEEE TOOO

[@reaganpruitt1578]

I am a postpartum nurse here in the US, and I appreciate this video so much. This is so real and I feel like it can be very helpful for postpartum moms or moms about to deliver. Its also educational to me as a nurse and it gives info that can help me take better care of my patients! Thank you so much for being so real!

[@rebecasr6251]

37w pregnant and I am so thankful for real life postpartum stories. I know each body is different and I don't know what I will go through but this is helping me so much to know other realities out there. The only thing I would say is I am so glad in the UK we have a midwife coming to our house every other day for the first week to check on baby and mum. I feel sad you were on your own since you left the hospital. God bless ❤❤

[@professorpineapple2512]

You are an amazing mom. You got this!🥰💕

[@pjay9576]

it’s so cute how jess is now a mum! you’re such a humble person and i can’t wait to watch makaiah grow up! both you and gabe are going to be such great parents! 💛

[@Jade-gz9nw]

I absolutely love this video. It is exactly the TMI that we all need and no one talks about. It is the sort of stuff you would love to know before so you're prepared. As I want to be a mum so much, I loved this tips. Keep bringing them up, please

[@MixedUpJORDZ]

Honestly hearing you talk about breastfeeding hit me right in the feels. I couldn't express colustrom and when I was in hospital for a few days, my milk wasn't in and I was worried about bubs. We ended up using formula till my milk would come in and she would latch, which thankfully was only 24-36 hours later. But a good breastbump makes your life sooo much easier!

[@sreejabhattacharya5756]

It really does!

[@Inuyashaloveskagome1]

The truth. Post partum was so hard for me. I remember struggling to breast feed my son and I bawled my eyes out every time he didn't latch. It was so hard to deal with the new love you feel, but also the life change. I cried cause my husband and I were no longer just "us". Thank you for being honest it's truly refreshing.

[@miabrock2992]

Yes! I’m just over a week postpartum and I’ve cried over it not being “just us” a few times. I’m loving being a mom but I miss my husband and just want to lay down and cuddle with him and that’s so much harder with a newborn, especially bc I had to have an emergency cesarean. We’re figuring it out now but i totally understand the feeling of missing “ just us”

[@Inuyashaloveskagome1]

@@miabrock2992 yes this. I'm 4 months post partum and it honestly does get better. For about the first month I did nothing but cry about the relationship change. I love my son, but I genuinely thought I made a mistake. And that's ok. Being a mom is the most rewarding and hardest thing we will ever do. No one speaks about after the baby is here. The exhaustion, the tears, the fears, the joy. Everything. Keep it up. You're doing amazing. And I promise you those feelings will go away. 😍

[@naomitrollopeillustration]

When I had to poo right after giving birth the midwife told me to soak a maternity pad with cold water and press it over my stitches... helped sooo much with feeling like things weren’t ripping open. Made it so much easier to poo haha. I love that you shared so openly with this!! My physical recovery was okay pretty much but emotionally... literally cried every day for about three weeks. The hormones were real 😳

[@katelynpaige2559]

I’m sorry your recovery was so rough, but I’m so thankful that you gave out this information even though it may be deemed “embarrassing.” I’m expecting my first in February and I’m glad you’re here to help me and others be prepared just in case.

[@melodyhatcher7343]

25 weeks pregnant right now and this is SO helpful. It is so hard to find an honest, descriptive video about postpartum. Thank you, Jess!!! ❤️❤️

[@CoriannBaker]

Thank you for being so raw and real for all the soon to be Momma's out there! Almost eight years ago I had my daughter and my recovery wasn't too bad (although breastfeeding was horrible). But January 2021 my son was born and my postpartum recovery journey took months and months. Breastfeeding and engorgment was also so, so rough. A haakaa filled with warm water w/ Epsom salt helped when I was painfully engorged.

[@JessConte]

I heard about the Haakaa trick afterwards but I would totally try that next time!!

[@kassandra158]

Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm 17 weeks pregnant with my first and watching this video makes me feel a little more prepared for what to expect postpartum.

[@sarasskittles]

As someone who just went through this in January, I would say that this is extremely helpful information. Jess you are so encouraging! That first week is rough but also so incredible. It's a mixed bag of recovery, tears, and tiredness. I will say that most of the time the tears are happy, as having your little one is so precious and special. Although PP is hard, having your baby in your arms is worth the recovery and learning to nurse

[@DeerghKataria]

I don't know why. But, every time I was watch Jess and Gabe. It often makes me feel like I know them in person, especially after they had a child. May be because you guys are just so sweet.

[@jasdenyer9080]

This brought back so many memories of my postpartum recovery with my boy, who just turned 1 year old last week! Such a crazy rollercoaster our bodies go through after birth... But this is already making me feel like I could do it all over again soon! 🥰

[@Kj-tv5kp]

I'm not postpartum or even pregnant, but I've been struggling lately with other things that no one talks about. Even though we're going through different experiences I cherished this video. The raw and the real of being new at something (and not having a "perfect experience") is so helpful to hear from someone else. I've been doing so much praying through my trials, my new and undiscovered, and it's finally starting to get better, but I still have so far to go. Thank you for the encouragement and I'm sending prayers your way!

[@meeraabdallah8774]

Yes!

[@celenaaa38]

I'm not even pregnant but I'm so thankful for this video. You just put people so at peace ☺️ Thanks for sharing your personal experiences even though you don't have to. You are doing great!

[@Ahmad67475]

I love the transparency ❤️ I feel like we don’t get taught many things about prenatal and postnatal care/ how anything to do with our bodies work and what to expect

[@alyssa_gonzalez]

“We’re all friends here”🥺this is why we love Jess

[@terralynn6977]

Jess, thank you for this raw and real video! It is so great to know these things as a first born! I feel like you are my big sister watching this! You are doing a great job navigating your new season in life as a mother! All of the prayers to you and Gabe!

[@__alex__k]

All the feelings you have been describing I literally felt, and I’ve never been even pregnant! It sounds like a lot to handle :( but I’m so happy for you 😍 you did an amazing job! I love how you encourage women in loving the process 🤗 sending love ❤️

[@mymoena_3497]

I love how honest this video is. Especially how real and raw it is regarding becoming a first time mom. ❤

[@eternitygigiriri1604]

I’m so happy you’re actually honest about stuff like this because I feel like no one talks about it enough! Thanks for always being transparent Jess

[@suadghanma]

Jess, I really love watching your videos, and especially now since Makaiah’s here I find pregnancy and birth to be very interesting topics. You’re such an amazing, strong woman, and I’m sure Makaiah is the luckiest to have you and Gabe as her parents. To any new moms, don’t be too hard on yourself. New things take time, and work, for you to adapt to them, but just know that whatever you’re doing is amazing, you’re trying your best for yourself and your baby, and I hope things become more familiar to you with time. Take care💛💛💛

[@shelbyhicks7147]

As I’ve grown up we have always been in the same season of life and it’s so encouraging that you’re being so transparent and open. I’m due Feb 2023 and I am so excited you get to go through it all and share with me 😭🤎 LOVE YOU

[@16011992bec16011992]

You are all amazing and are doing amazing! If there is one thing I learned during my postpartum experience it is that literally everyone’s recovery is different! Just like every birth and every baby is different. I thought I had it all figured out and I was SO PREPARED until my induction turned into an emergency C-Section and I was so unprepared. My recovery was rough! Could barely walk after my surgery and was blessed to have all the support I needed so that I could let my body heal and care for my baby… nothing else mattered. My belly still does not look the same but is something that I am working on. I lost the core strength that I had pre surgery and have to often remind myself that it will get better but my muscles were literally cut open so it’s going to take time. Thank you Jess for this real raw vulnerable and honest account of your postpartum experience! This is something that is missing from the internet! Also congrats on successfully being able to breast feed! I wish it would have worked out for me but my little guy couldn’t latch and in the end my milk never came in!

[@phoebee.2393]

I’m SO happy you posted all this. Thank you for being so open-I’m due in three weeks and your videos help me so much 💕

[@clairesnelson9961]

As a mom of 3 I can tell you that you are handling all of this with so much grace and peace!! The first 3 months with my first I felt like a zombie .. I also wanted to say that my oldest would only feen on one side ( my left) and I figured out it's because of how she was in the womb, it was hard for her to move her neck to the right.not sure if she has torticallis or not but We ended up taking her to a pediatric chiropractor and he was able to help her move her neck left and right and she was able to eat on both sides, so just a thought if she sti isn't eating on the right side Not sure about chiropractors in Australia but in the US you can always find safe,trusted pediatric chiropractors Best of luck! You got this mama!! I loved what you said about rhythm and not routine it's soo true!!

[@kim0b]

I am so glad that you are voicing how difficult it is to adjust to everything. No one really talks about it. I felt so lost that first week after I gave birth to my baby girl. I too had a very fast labor and delivery, baby ended up pooping in the womb. Thank you for being so open and honest. God Bless you and your family

[@elisadiaz1970]

I’m planning on having kids with my partner in the future and there was sooo much I learned thanks to this video. you never know how unprepared you are for adult and motherhood life. I’m really scared to take that step and yet it is not my time. Thanks for being so openly honest and humble. ❤

[@daisyhearn3400]

Jess, I’m so always so incredibly grateful for your genuine heart & intentionality with what you share with us & the world. With everything you share, I feel like your close friend and so encouraged to face my future! I’m beyond proud of you & the moms that create & bring life into this world! (& the amazing dads who support & encourage throughout the process). Sending love & prayers to you, Gabe, & Makaiah🤍

[@JessConte]

“I feel like your close friend” is the best compliment ever, thank you!!! 🥹💛

[@dotty8083]

jess! you're glowing 🫶🏻 i hope you and your family are doing well i love you!!

[@livebygodscommands7613]

I am a mum to a large family now but watching this reminded me so much of my first postpartum experience. I remember thinking at the time who the heck does this more than once in their life lol. My bits felt like they were coming out and had lots and lots and lots of wee coming out spontaneously for the first couple weeks. I feel this was increased due to excessive and incorrect pushing, being rushed and coached pushing by hospital staff. For me I never left monitors on during my subsequent labours and laboured at home until I knew I wasn't far from needing to push. For me that avoided being rushed to push just because I was 10cm. 10 cm does NOT = READY TO PUSH. Ready to push is when the mother has the urge to push and no body pushing you to do so helps you preserve your pelvic floor muscles a lot more and avoid straining unnecessarily. Breastfeeding was so hard at the beginning too and I got a really bad infection because I listened to false information about my suply from other mothers I thought knew what they were talking about. I thought I had "no milk" because my baby was feeding regularly I didn't know that is exactly what is meant to happen and I expressed for 4 hours on day 5 as well as breastfeeding a lot I then created cracks in my nipple and my breast and nipples got an infection and had size H boobs overnight. It was so bad that my baby then couldn't draw the milk because it was so excessively fast he would choke then I got mastitis and engorgement because he couldn't drain the breast. So I had to express the right amount of times and the bottle would be pink from the blood 🤢. I persisted and we went on demand breastfeeding till 8 months which made it a lot easier when I then breastfed my other children because I had learnt what I needed with my first. BUT I am not saying breastfeeding is ever easy,.. every baby is a new baby and may have different suck and attachment styles so you learn together with each one. I also had swelling in the feet after my first but not my others, I looked like the nutty professor having that allergic reaction lol. This video you have made has not only helped first time mothers and mothers to be, but also has made me realise I was not the only one to experience these things on my first. It is something that can just happen and it is what it is. And to add to this I can say I did not experience these issues with my subsequent babies. I had a really big second baby (also my 3rd,4th,6th and 7th were big) and my recovery by 1 week felt like my recovery with my first at 3 months. I remember the first time I "tried it with my husband" after my first at 2 months and it was torture! I had to stop and wait another month atleast, but with some of my other children bleeding stopped and I was healed ready "for it" at a few weeks postpartum and it didn't hurt. And for some it is not the case and that is ok. It is ok if your recovery takes 6 months or more each child and its ok if after the first its an easy straight forward recovery. I would only recommend women open themselves up to more knowledge about our bodies and birthing using an independent hypnobirth course, I did not do this with my first and I feel that's what made my experience and recovery much harder from such a physically and mentally traumatic birth with my first baby to having amazing experiences with my other children, I love Bridget Teyler on KZbin . and you do not lose anything by trying it out. Love to all the mummas

[@abbeyruge5139]

I love your little family. I can always come to your videos when I’m having a mental breakdown. Your my biggest supporter🦋

[@larkspurmoon]

I'm so proud of you Jess. I can't even imagine going through all of this, but you did it! Also the thought that there may be so many women going through these but not being able to talk to or express their concern over their own body, my own mum stayed in a joint family with her in-laws, and she couldn't talk about these things. Secondly, I'm so happy that I follow you, I have seen youtube channels converting from a couple's channel's to a family one, but I'm so happy you didn't, I follow you for who you are! same with your and Gabe's relationship. Keep going, your wonderful and Makiah is blessed to have such parents. I love you, probably you won't read it, but I just had to say it.

[@drebell26]

This was so realistic and honest. I really loved listening to your experience. No kids here, but happy to be here! Thank you for sharing🤍

[@emanalsahli5766]

You’ll be an amazing mother, she is lucky to have you. You’re so caring! 💗

[@sulemcamacho3196]

I’m now 5 months postpartum and this video brought back all the emotions I felt at the beginning of my journey w a baby. Thank you for being so honest about those first days, it was so hard for me. I’m glad you’re getting more comfortable with everything , you’re the best momma to little Makaiah! 🤍

[@harmshoney]

ahh the ending made me cry. i've been delaying having babies for years because i am so scared. thank you so so much for being so open, vulnerable, + real. i don't have anyone to ask this questions to, so it really means a lot that you're willing to share. so grateful for your humility + kindness!! appreciate you + love watching your journey xoxo

[@dawnforlife]

TAKE IT SLOW is my advice. I had a very very difficult postpartum as I had stitches too but I did not take pain killers. I need to share my experience soon, kudos to you for making time for this. My toddler is almost 2! 😆During postpartum, it may FEEL like recovery is so slow, it may feel like "I can't walk forever.", "I am so tired but I can't sleep because I'm anxious that when I actually falls asleep baby will wake me up again."..there are SO many things going on and it may feel like nothing is improving BUT as you said, it's a learning process for both mom and baby. New moms, please give yourself grace. Please give your amazing body time to heal. It WILL heal, it WILL get better, EVERYTHING WILL get better. Jess, you are doing amazing and so are all other moms! Sending all my love and God bless you all! 💛

[@ilovestrawberries3395]

Loved this! Thank you so much for being honest & sharing and document your story with us. You have no idea how much this helps us, so thank you. 🤍🤍🤍

[@bethrayment_]

this video is so so important, and definitely not spoken about enough! I'm 4 months postpartum and still experiencing so much that's not touched on. There's this magic 6-8 weeks where you think you'll all of a sudden be recovered and back to gradually exercising etc. but I am still very much recovering, 4 months on. These honest discussions are what will help so many other people out there, as it's so easy to feel alone in what so many others are actually experiencing too!

[@jackielowrey3032]

I had the same issue with breast feeding and had no help. That was 7 years ago. I gave up and started using formula because I was losing sleep and my sanity. I’m glad you got help!

[@ingrid5973]

im not pregnant, but ive really been enjoying going thru this new journey with you, its so amazing what the woman body can do. you're like a big sister and im sure you're helping many other moms out there cause most people don't talk about the struggles of being a first mom enough, but its so important! you're doing great

[@vanessajadegallagher7150]

Starting my fertility journey and I really appreciate you sharing the details like this! Lots of love! ♥️

[@julieannemcconnell6806]

Praying you have a wonderful fertility journey and that baby dust sprinkles soon! 💕

[@nancydroge7682]

Jess, 33 years ago, I gave birth to our first baby (daughter; Naomi) & 28 years ago, I gave birth to our 2nd baby (daughter; Sarai). Miraculous… as you full well know! Yours is a video (extremely well done) that I would have SO appreciated & benefited from watching before giving birth! Even-though I went in believing that I was very well prepped & my father was an amazing Pediatrician, there were (are) many facts that the books I read, the educational movies our birthing class watched, & the people surrounding us (including those in medical field) did not address! Amongst your entire treasure (video), it was this that captured me~ “You’re not BAD AT IT. You’re just A BEGINNER!… You’re learning this & your baby is also learning all of this for the first time! As hard as all of this is, just try to soak it all in because it just goes so fast.” Jess, Thank you for sharing your wisdom & powerful encouragement with the numerous women who are watching & going through this right now! 🙏🏼 Thank you for those of us who are approaching 60 years & have adult daughters that will (hopefully) have blessing of watching this if (Lord willing) this time comes for them! 🙌🏽 It is JOY to me that at age 59, I find myself blessed in the multiple ways that I am through this video! 🙏🏼 Amongst the many roles you fill, Jess,… AMAZING : Child of God, Wife, ‘Mum’, ‘Beginner’, Daughter, Daughter-In-Law, Sister, Sister-in-Law, Aunt, Friend, Artist, Extraordinary Influencer-Encourager, etc., … YOU ARE! ❤️🙏🏼

[@leslieeekb]

i love these kind of videos, i feel like either a facetime call or overall just talking to an older sister + i feel like these are conversations that should be talked about more!! 🤍

[@Michelle_Lynnn]

You’re glowing Jess! Can’t wait to watch! 🥰🙏🏼

[@kimileenezzie7202]

Your the second person who’s video I watched that makes me feel a lot more calm. I had our baby in aug and the struggle is real, thank you for sharing your experience, half of what you talked about. I went through.

[@thefinkeyfam]

I'm currently 21 weeks pregnant and have been loving all of these videos! Saving this so I can refer back to it once baby boy gets here!

[@jobrofan425]

Jess, thank you so much for sharing this!! I'm on my third pregnancy and so wish that someone had shared their real stories of postpartum with me! I felt so unprepared the first time around and this is going to help so many people set realistic expectations! ❤️

[@kristine0]

Love that your video is so real and truthful! There’s a reason you didn’t know about everything, first of all all pregnancies, labor & deliveries, and postpartums are different, just like you said but also because people don’t always feel comfortable telling what it’s “really” like. I’m positive you’ve helped tons of mommy’s and mommy’s to be with this video. When my mom had me, almost 44 years ago, she was in the hospital until her milk came in, 5 days!! Oh how times have changed!

[@lesliegranados]

You are definitely my fave KZbinr 🤍 you are so real, calm, honest, thank you so much for talking about this, because nobody does it I don’t know why.

[@chelseajohnson4091]

4months postpartum and I can relate so much to your story 💗 I ended up with an emergency c section so recovery was different but the rhythms, breastfeeding and everything else is so relatable. Thank you so much for sharing, it's nice to know you're not alone in this journey 🥰

[@julierichardson284]

Can relate to so much of this from my 1st pregnancy! Currently 8 months pregnant with number 2 but just over 4 years ago I remember the struggles with breastfeeding those first few days (especially on my left hand side), my complete lack of pelvic floor and the pain of stitches after an episiotomy. All worth it though and you come out the other side. That's what I'm reminding myself now at 35.5 weeks 🤪 thank you for the video sweet girl xx

[@rachelr.2671]

This was such a beautifully authentic video. I have three kids. With my first, I was told that I should never deliver vaginally again because of how terribly I tore. Fast forward two years later and I got pregnant with twins. I ended up needing a cesarean with them anyhow. My life went mainly back to normal. But just within the last 2 years (my children are now 7 and 4) the pelvic floor dysfunction I developed from my first delivery and then carrying twins has been horrible. If I could give any advice to any new mamas, whether you need stitches or not, PLEASE PLEASE get a referral to a reputable pelvic floor physical therapist. It seems strange at first, but it is literally a necessity for your body after the trauma of even a "normal" delivery. My physical therapist has truly become such a dear friend and has been an incredible blessing while it felt like my body was literally falling apart while I was trying to chase around 3 little ones. Had someone told me to get help sooner, I wouldn't have had the extensive problems that I ended up with. Also, remember that very few things are irredeemable. Nobody knows how to be a mom right away and you and your husband will make mistakes and you'll beat yourself up for years to come. I still do. But give yourself grace upon grace. You'll figure it out just in time for your child to grow to a new phase and then make some more mistakes. God is their perfect parent, we are just vessels for his love, and his love is full of GRACE for both you and your child. Your channel is so dear, my husband and I are only a few years ahead of you and Gabe, we also got married very young and were long distance before we mareied. I can so easily relate and recall all of these things and it's so endearing to see. Thankyou for sharing and congratulations ♥️

[@Lily-ib8ne]

thank you so much for being so honest with how postpartum can be, it’s so important to talk about and it definitely needs to be talked about more without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. God made our bodies to do exactly this and we all need just take a step back and realize how truly amazing God made woman’s bodies

[@sofiassr]

I'm 10 days away from my due date and loved watching your video, we need more real and truthful stuff like this on the internet! Thank you!! I'm so glad you're doing much better now and starting to get into a rhythm with your cute little fam! 💜

[@67cheergirl]

I’m so grateful for this. I am 18.5 weeks currently, and I feel like people aren’t honest about this stuff. There are so many things I’ve experienced already that aren’t online!

[@nicolecatherine2378]

This is was so helpful to anyone starting out too. Bless your heart! Anyone starting out as a new mum, you’re doing so well. ❤

[@babyannie4196]

Jess, I am so happy you're being so honest, open and real with us about postpartum. We love you so much.

[@GriselPalacios]

I was the opposite. I was so constipated I had to take stool softeners for almost a month. I had my baby in March of this year! I also bought a madela pump after the one I had was not that great either. It’s nice to hear someone else’s experience. All I can say is, WE DID THIS THING!

[@alexisowens962]

I’m so happy to see your little family grow! I’m wanting to start a family soon with my husband and really love your videos! They are so helpful 💛☺️

[@kennedy_mohr]

My daughter is due on January 7th and she’s my first baby. I’ve been very terrified and anxious about the postpartum aspect of child birth so I’m very grateful to you for sharing your experience in such detail. I also loved all of the product recommendations as well. I’ve been feeling very overwhelmed and like no amount of preparation is going to be enough. So, I really appreciated you going over the fact that mom and baby are both learning all of this for the first time and how necessary giving yourself grace is throughout this process. Thank you!

[@koyahna]

We are due the same day!

[@kennedy_mohr]

@@koyahna that’s so exciting😍!!! Are you having a boy or girl?

[@adelaidejackson3452]

What a beautiful and helpful video 💕 I’m a mumma of an 8 month old and it’s so refreshing hearing you talk about everything so truthfully. I definitely recommend seeing a woman’s health Physio after giving birth, for a few months to help bring everything down there back together and also working strengthening your pelvic floor muscles and abdominals. They are such a massive help!

[@goodare8396]

I can’t even tell you how good this is to watch as an expectant mum - thank you for being so open!!!

[@shelbywhite7401]

My baby girl just turned 4 months, and I agree with the fact that the postpartum care and products to utilize help immensely! Padsicles, peri bottle, diapers, cooling spray and wipes made my recovery (especially with stitches) so much easier!

[@ketodiana]

it's super hard to be so honest in front of so many viewers but this sharing is definitely helpful for any mum! So glad to see you're recovering from the pregnancy and hope to see more sharing about the topic! luv you~

[@purr.44]

it’s amazing to hear how you’ve progressed as a mom! 🤍

[@iamterbear19]

Jess, you are just the sweetest person. Your wonderful advice and reassurances to new mothers is sound, compassionate and loving. The things you talked about are exactly what needs to be brought to the forefront and not hidden because some find it embarrassing. 🥰

[@kesha8439]

Tbh, i am wondering myself why i am watching this like i am 22 y.o and have pretty contrasting views about the idea of marriage and having children, but somehow i watched it anyway because i really like your content and hearing you talk. you’re just so good at what you do and i truly hope you keep doing it until i become older and better like you. its really rare for someone to radiate this much positivity, kindness, and support on the internet. you’re a wonderful woman, mother, and human jess! you make me believe that true love and pure heart exist 💗

[@JessConte]

That is so sweet, thank you for watching even though you don’t resonate with it 💛

[@lbuxzz]

i actually find this super helpful, even though im not pregnant. but it makes me prepeard, so ty so much for ur honesty. no one actually talkes about this so its very much needed. ty again and bless ur happy family

[@sophiemcgrath3361]

I am due with my first baby in December and this was SO HELPFUL. Thank you for being so honest and sharing with us Jess! 💕

[@JessConte]

Congratulations!!! I am so happy for you and pray it all goes smoothly. It is the best experience ever 💛

[@SofiaAbrantes]

Ugh JESS your honesty. THANK YOU 😍🥺

[@haileyvergara5589]

the best/honest postpartum video. i feel so safe watching your videos! 🥹💕

[@janessamellroy9565]

thank you for being so open and honest!! as someone who wants kids in the future im so thankful of your honesty! stuff like this needs to be talked about and normalized more so as women we can go into it being abit more prepared for the not so pretty things

[@mariaking4068]

You are doing a phenomenal job!! So proud pf how far you and Gabr have come on your journey! I have been a silent follower for years prior to your engagment days! Watching your videos have always been the highlight for me! I am a newly married woman and I can't wait to look back on your pregnancy videos for advise when I am going through this journey! Lots of love! Xx 😊

[@valerietan1691]

We miss you Jess! Hope you're doing well 💛 not even close to this stage of life but still very excited to watch this video haha

[@micacuyco]

being a mum looks so good on you, jess 🥹💛

[@danielaawagner]

For the lighting get a hatch. It’s a sound machine and a nightlight but you can control the brightness and also the color of the light so if you do the white which is just a normal light color it can be a full blown light or just a night light or a dimmed light. Whatever you want which works because you can also control it from your phone so if you are feeding and need more light or less then you just adjust it.

[@annazanin1399]

Thank you for being so candid and honest in this video!! It’s so helpful to talk about it. You’re such a great mama💜

[@eunbincho1124]

Take a step at a time, Jess 💕 I’m sure you’re doing your best~~ You’re more gorgeous than ever 🥲💕 Love you and your family 🤍 Thank you for being open and honest as always!

[@VvnazzyvV]

i'm not a mother nor will i soon be one but watching your update videos makes me feel like i'm talking to a friend and it feels nice to see a familiar face on youtube and know how life is going for them all this time 🥰

[@MasonPrentice20]

Day 4 postpartum was my absolute worst day as well!! It happened to be Christmas Day for me🙃 Latch issues, so much crying from me and baby, baby blues to the max. I love how raw and real this video is! So glad everything’s going better now- motherhood looks good on you☺️

[@MasonPrentice20]

Also HIGHLY recommend a manual pump. In my opinion it’s the most effective!

[@MeSarahSarah]

I just want to say appreciate how open and honest you are about postpartum❤️

[@HB-wb7jb]

Love this so much! Thank you for being so honest, postpartum was absolutely wild and people don't talk about the struggles enough. I was prepared for it to be hard but then it all just somehow hits even harder than you can imagine.

[@erinperrins8684]

love your authenticity and honesty, it’s soooo refreshing!

[@mirrieolayo2487]

I don't have a baby yet, but I'm definitely coming back to this when I do. Always love you Jess, and your honesty

[@graygraybrady]

thanks for being so honest Jess! i’m not pregnant yet but I found this so helpful and honest. Seriously, please continue to make videos like this as you continue your adventure in motherhood :)

[@adixprice]

Thank you for your transparency. As a new mother, this has been so incredibly helpful 🤍

[@jukihiw]

Thank you so much for sharing this video, and for taking us day by day! I’m 29 weeks and starting to really collect stories/knowledge on what others’ births have been like.