Things I Wish I Knew Before Having A Baby

Things I Wish I Knew Before Having A Baby
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[@katharineturpen4157]

the biggest thing I learned after having my baby is that every baby is so different and not to place expectations on how your baby should be. ❤️

[@JessConte]

Yes 👏🏼 so good! Every baby is soooo different!

[@hannahharris8144]

THIS! I wish I could go back and tell myself to relax and just go with the flow with how my baby is. Makes it so much more enjoyable anyway!

[@musiclife-vf3ci]

Absolutely agree with this times 1 billion… My first literally did not sleep through the night until she was a year old. And my second has been only waking up once during the night since he has been a month old… I also haven’t been putting him on a strict schedule anymore, so I think that’s it! Not putting the pressure on them to be the perfect baby we think they should be… Because in reality, all babies are perfect little gifts!

[@nataliejk27]

So true!! I love hearing from moms of multiple children how each was so different even though they did the same thing.

[@anamegoeshere]

@@JessConte the funny this is, on the title of the video they have BOOKS about "what to aspect" before having a baby............. but i guess reading that book was a no go and being on the phone was a better plan.

[@kassdroid]

I love that you are still able to make mom content without overexposing your daughter to the internet, I think you have a really great balance! My baby is almost 6 months old, a lot of these things I have learned and dealt with as well. I also watched your pregnancy videos at the same time I was going through it and now I watch the videos you post now with Makaiah postpartum. It definitely has made me feel less alone in my mom journey, considering I don’t have any mom friends to look up too. So I really appreciate it 💛

[@JessConte]

this comment really means a lot! motherhood is the most special season for me and I've really been trying to find a way to share *my* journey with it while still not making it all about her. so thank you 💛

[@lindatrani4532]

Amen 🙏🙏

[@madtkenn]

hi jess! idk if anyone else has commented this yet, but all moms’ body odor changes to be a bit stronger after birth for awhile and while you’re breastfeeding to help the baby find you / their food easier! you’re not crazy or making it up, don’t worry! :) it’s just your body trying to do everything it can for your precious baby! 💛

[@Meleannieliz]

I can’t believe she’s already 8 months, God bless her and her wonderful parents🤍

[@ruvie02]

I know for sure I'll come to these videos when I have kids of my own. Thank you for sharing your journey with us

[@JessConte]

that is so sweet, thank you 🥲

[@hiya511]

Honestly I'm a mother and this is definitely a good video to follow :)

[@giuliacroce9680]

I love how you both are doing your best to keep her away from the spotlight. It says a lot about you and it is very refreshing to see!

[@JessConte]

I really appreciate you saying that. It’s a tricky balance but trying our best 💛☺️

[@jovonnamawk4285]

I honestly love all of your content, you’re like the big sister that I never got. By you sharing your life, getting married, faith life, and now motherhood, you make it a lot less scary for those of us trying to figure out life together with you ❤️

[@rachelteo1236]

You are an amazing mother, Jess! Love your videos! You’re like my Internet older sister 🥰

[@JessConte]

🥲💛

[@nsilvaguzman]

These videos of Mom Jess are so heart warming ❤️‍🩹

[@shannongarcia326]

I’m due this Saturday with my first baby, a little boy, and I appreciate all the honesty and advice you’ve given since Makaiah!

[@meg3428]

Praying for safe labor and delivery! May God’s will happen in your life, and your baby boys life!! As well as those you love. God is with you through it all! Alway and always! (Look up the difference between the two it’s a blessing, He is both for His children Forever more!) remember you’re needed and loved! As you go into this journey how you feel is important and matters. You can talk to those around you, someone outside of your circle, and most of all the Lord! God gives us people to talk to when we need them and uses us/them through Him! He provides what we need through Him! Glory be to God! Have a great week!! ❤❤❤ God bless❤

[@stephaniemuijzer]

Thank you Jess, I'm almost 35 weeks pregnant and I needed to hear these experiences. I feel prepared but some things u can't prepare for. U guys are awesome parents

[@JessConte]

totally! some things you just can't prepare for and will experience first hand haha 🤭 congratulations! it is such a special time 💛

[@emiliebivort9469]

I love how you are telling your experience being a new mom. Not making this about Makaia but about you and sharing your experience. Being open about personal stuff but not making it awkward. All these things are so important for new moms, like it can be so uncomfortable to have gas for a baby and it’s totally normal and im sad to hear that no one told you how to deal with it, how to solve it.. thank you for being so open about your experience 💛

[@naida_sch181]

I'm only 24 now and i'll probably wait with having a baby for some more years 😄 but i love content like that and i love that you're just so honest Jess. It feels like a big sister is talking to me 😊 i'm sure, you're such a great mom! 🫶🏻🥰

[@Sage-oy6ir]

I think it’s amazing how you are using what you’ve learned being a new mother to help other moms, so encouraging to see God use your story in such a way ❤ praying for the conte family

[@tamar4538]

I loved watching this video. Even though I'm only 19, I love hearing you talk about motherhood and it genuinely makes me excited. I love how you're glowing, and so honest and open about anything. Wish you all the best.

[@lauraferreira199]

you’re an absolutely incredible mother jess, makaiah is extremely lucky to have you and gabriel as parents! god bless you and your family! love you 💕 xx

[@biancajc]

When you're in it, it feels like eternity but if you think about it, it's only about a year or two of not sleeping much and not getting much alone time... in the grand scheme of things, that's nothing! It will fly by! Loved this format of video, Jess 💛

[@JessConte]

love this so much!!

[@gracealonso6882]

I agree with the marriage part. Our foundation of friendship and working as a team really blossomed after becoming parents. Even through colic and a high needs baby, it is what has carried us. If you do the work beforehand, it will pay off! Get counseling, talk to good married friends, friends who have been married longer, etc.

[@summerspencer5282]

Thank you momma i just came back from hospital my pregnancy has been draining but seeing this makes me feel so much better ❤

[@bethanywoolgar7344]

Thank you for this video!! I’m 30 weeks pregnant with my first baby and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by all the things that will be changing soon, so I appreciated this video ❤️

[@the.undividedheart]

I love this video and how real/honest it is and accurate!!! It is OK for moms to say that the beginning stages of motherhood are hard but that doesn’t make them not beautiful, special, and the best days! Beautiful and tough can co-exist!

[@hannahgreendyk354]

This is such an amazing, unassuming video.💕 I love how you share your joy in motherhood. Nothing has challenged me as much as being a mom, but nothing has made me happier than getting to raise our daughter (plus another one on the way❤) with my husband. Thank you for being realistic in your approach.

[@areemshahid2156]

Celebrating Ramadan and watching you. Two of my favorite things to do. ❤

[@julesolaguer8679]

genuinely admire how open jess is with everything. it's so helpful

[@georgiajumeaux6490]

I found that breakfast was so easy but we had a meal train for dinner which was amazing. Also, please know, as long as you feel comfortable with it - totally go shower and your baby will be fine alone. Don't feel guilty leaving bub alone for 10 minutes to shower/cook/poop etc. They will be more than okay ❤❤❤

[@x0saturn0x8]

Hi Jess! I don't usually leave comments but this video has been so soothing and reassuring as I'm currently expecting a baby of my own later this year 💞 I love how realistic, honest, and positive you are with motherhood and parenting. Thank you for reassuring that a lot of challenging aspects of new parenting/motherhood in the beginning such as breastfeeding and sleep will get better over time. Appreciate hearing what you've learned so far in your own journey! ❤

[@JessConte]

this means soooo much. thank you and congratulations!! I pray everything goes smoothly 🥰

[@x0saturn0x8]

@@JessConte Thank you so much, Jess! 🥰💖

[@joycenaluyinda9743]

Jess, I appreciate your posts lately. Your transparency, your advice. Honestly, I appreciate it very much.

[@sincerelytayxx]

I’m a new mom with a 3 1/2 month old. I totally feel the same about everything you mentioned. We started a nighttime routine with our baby starting day one too and it has been super helpful. He started sleeping through the night until 5am around 6 weeks too.

[@JessConte]

That’s amazing!!!💛

[@lauraferreira199]

I’m still a little young but one day, if I become a mum, you’re definitely the first person im coming to for advice 🥰

[@rsecherry]

If I get pregnant, I wish I was like her 😂

[@JessConte]

🥹💛

[@MayaKarampalasi]

"I'm here as well, thank you" Love you guys, you are doing great

[@tatumtravelsyay]

I've been here since watching Gabe surprise you in Australia for the first time. this is a sweet reminder of His faithfulness. going to watch it again after this

[@camryn04]

a little late but you are so inspiring as a mom. i truly think you are doing an amazing job and i’m not a mom myself but i can’t help but think how blessed makaiah is to have you as her mom🫶🏻 love you and your family so much jess!😊

[@hithertotither]

Not a mom, but tip for getting all the stickers off: I work in a lab and we have to move labels without ripping them sometimes so we use freeze spray. The sticker becomes unstuck and doesn’t leave a residue (additionally we are able to transfer it to another surface and when it warms up it sticks, but I assume most mothers are throwing them away). Super easy, just spray the surface of the sticker and it should come right off.

[@Kj-tv5kp]

So grateful for your plug about how amazing motherhood and that others are so quick to talk down on it. We’re pregnant, unexpectedly, and honestly really stressed about it. This is the first video I’ve seen that eased stress but was also informative and honest. ❤

[@emilycaitlynn2471]

my daughter was a surprise but she came at the perfect time for me. God knew i needed extra guidance and love and she really helped me the past 2 years. my life did a full 180 and i matured so fast but it was what i needed.

[@JessConte]

wow that is so sweet 🥲 I heard a quote once that said "they weren't a surprise, they just came early" and I love that so much 🥹

[@sierraslater281]

Ugh so relatable. So hard yet so rewarding. My baby girl is 4 months old and I’m just holding onto the light at the end of the tunnel for when the sleep regression is over

[@reneescholpp9292]

I have a 3 month old and your videos have helped me sooo so thank you for the wonderful advice! You are truly inspiring Jess and I just love the love that you have for the lord, it's very rare to see influencers talk about God so openly. So keep continuing to share his greatness. God bless you all 💕

[@Kma123]

I feel like my personality is a lot like Gabes - I’m outgoing but NEED my time to recharge. I also will get overstimulated pretty easily. Could Gabe make a video about the adjustment for him and how he’s dealt with it? I think I want to have a baby in the future but I’m really on the fence considering babies require a lot of your energy😅

[@tisha1109]

I appreciate this video. I’m pregnant and feeling sorry for myself its hard and depression is hitting me hard. And whats to come makes me stress if I can even handle it. This makes me feel better knowing its not just me.

[@JessConte]

oh I am so sorry you haven't been feeling good. I pray that the rest of your pregnancy is smooth and comfortable 💛

[@justaemogirlwhosings9375]

Love this! My baby is almost 7 months old,my hospital made us take the cpr course before she was allowed to be discharged. I'm on baby #2 and can't see what new things happen haha,you're an amazing mom❤

[@AngelikaCooper]

I will say this, I am an aunt to my 3 year old niece. I have been watching her ever since she was 2 months old. I didn’t think I’d be good at watching her, or enjoy it, but over these last 3 years my mother instincts have kicked in. Probably from the moment I started watching her!! It’s so crazy to think the love I have for my own niece, and how I’ll hopefully have my own children to love just as much🤍

[@noreentherese5641]

I love how you immediately jump into the video. I can totally relate with the enhanced sense of smell, I'm a Mom of a 5yr-old.

[@audreyaguirre2607]

I love that you brought up the smells! I learned this after my second child. Because you’re breast feeding your body releases more smells so your baby can find your boobs, because they’re basically blind. I’ve gone through 6 deodorants this year. I finally found one at my local Amish store. Good luck to you!

[@breannamanghat1420]

100 percent agree with all of this. 1. I put a bunch of pressure on myself to breastfeed, medical professionals really push this, but just do what you can. I do formula and breastmilk because I don't make enough, but baby is fed! Also the process is awful when you start, nobody tells you you only make a few milliliters in the beginning! Cabbage leaves, heatpacks help with engorgement and cold compresses after feeds. Also laying over baby on all 4s with clogged ducts! 2. Nobody talks about sleeping baby grunts lol so loud! 3. Yes, tell people what you need them to do 4. Buy easy snacks for yourself, and have a large water tumbler! 5. Don't be so stressed about nap windowsbaby will tell you when they're tired, but log feedings if you can in case they get sick! 6. Baby carriers help you get stuff done! 7. You can only help your baby if you help yourself, focus on your overall health You got this! And ya, I feel like the smell thing is real lol!

[@shaniapol5842]

Silent follower here! Loved this video - especially the last 3 tips. You are wise for your age and I appreciate your perspective! I agreed with all these tips and will totally share this video with friends of mine when they are pregnant with their first ❤️ Thank you for filling KZbin with such positivity and authenticity

[@brismallwood9502]

Yes about the sleepers!!! I'm mainly just getting a couple outfits for church!

[@mimiyee28]

Yay I missed your weekly vlogs! You’re such an amazing mum. Makaiah is so lucky to have you 👏🏽❤️

[@marykelandman127]

About breastfeeding : I went from using nipple shield, being really sore and just struggling with feeding to feeding with no shields and having no discomfort. It really can get better.

[@heypriscillaaa123]

I'm 33 weeks pregnant now and this video helps a lot on what to expect after giving birth, really appreciate that❤ Can't wait to experience all that bazaar and little moments with her. ☺

[@lenab.1793]

I have a 5 week old right now and I can relate to absolutely everything 🥺 so great to feel understood

[@banana123utube]

you are such an amazing mum, I am nowhere near being a mum myself but if I was this advice would put my mind at ease so much, you are so calm and this is a great video for any upcoming mums

[@chloemicklefield6278]

it’s reading week + this video felt so cozy to watch on a monday 💛💛

[@christinaelk8727]

Yes First Aid and CPR and Choking prevention training are a Must!!!....I seen this one thing where it's called the human vac lol but I'm thinking of buying one of those for baby's and child size and adult size and keep those in my home to just help if someone or myself ever chokes! Maybe that's something everyone should have 😁👍❤️

[@niatitamin6718]

i admire to become an amazing mum like you.. you're so sweet, caring and graceful mum.. lot's of love.

[@justinasouza2311]

I am not a parent but I can definitely appreciate the information in this video. And I have to say really enjoyed how are you changed your locations as you were speaking to us: made it even more engaging.

[@bakesourdough23]

Thank you Jess for sharing ❤ I’m not a mom yet but we want a baby and sometimes hearing negativity makes me feel very scared but hearing you’re opinion and seeing you as a mom helps a lot! God bless you and your beautiful family ❤

[@mmsmms3161]

#1 most important thing i wish i knew & always share! 🔴Fully developed adults commonly have a dairy sensitivitys and alot of babies who DO NOT have a fully developed digestive tract can develop crying /collic from food allergies. So it took me awhile to get all dairy products out of my system but once i did stop ALL DAIRY PRODUCTS she stopped crying and was so much better! So i stopped eating beef also since some dairy components would be in beef as well. So so worth the hassle & happy baby!!!

[@brid15]

Just found out I'm going to be an aunt, and now I am going to watch all of your videos to prepare myself to help in any way I can. Can't wait!

[@JessConte]

that is amazing!!! 🥲

[@brid15]

@Jess Conte I'll be sure to bring them breakfast, lol 😆

[@treesa2020]

I'm so grateful I'll have these videos to come back to someday and I know these will make me feel so calm and peaceful. Thankyou jess. You're so beautiful and kind and I'm grateful that I have you to look up to. ❤❤

[@nargisnargis7501]

God gave you the gift of motherhood, and he will be with you through every season of parenthood ❤❤

[@stephaniemenendez142]

Thank you so much for sharing ❤️. Our first little one is due in about 2 weeks and it is very calming hearing you talk about how your motherly instincts kick in and that even though it’s hard, it’s the best! Trying to keep a positive and calm attitude going into this new season!

[@ashleygrimm6950]

Four months post partum and the smells are for real! When I was pregnant I went to bathandbodyworks to get some candles because most smells bothered me. A lady at the store said that my smell would never be the same, even after deliver. I didn’t believe her at the time but she was right! It’s ok though. It’s very manageable and of course entirely worth it!

[@mavzunakasymova3694]

Jess you are an amazing person I love you from the bottom of my heart

[@PeaceBeStill39]

I’m 30 weeks pregnant with my first! Thank you so much for this ❤️

[@JessConte]

congrats!!! you are sooo close!! 🥰 you got this!

[@PeaceBeStill39]

@@JessConte thank you so much!! Can’t wait to meet my little guy 🥰

[@seydac9432]

I also had the smell problem after covid I told people but nobody understood me I am now so happy that I am not the only person. The smell at the toilet, chicken (poulry) and eggs and trash smelled so different but now after a year I can say that everything is normal again. You just have to wait🙏💕

[@JessConte]

ahhh im so glad it went away for you!!

[@tabita522]

All you talks took me 3.5yr back when my little was born. Taking a good sleep is still a challenge but it will be okay one day just thinking this keeps me going. Yes eating ur 3 times meals is a challenge spcly with a newborn.

[@akemi187]

I can't believe how informative this video was! I'll be coming back to this when I have kids of my own one day, thank you Jess 💛

[@willowblake21]

Hi Jess, can we please get a more in depth video around Makaiah’s bedtime routine and how you got her to start sleeping through the night? My 11 month old is still waking at least 3 times a night 😫🥲

[@MJ-ng8ze]

Love from South Africa! 🇿🇦❤️

[@Maulidaputri1292]

Happy little family❤

[@remani_2105]

Thank you so much for this video ❤. I am going to be a mom in almost 2 months, and I have been watching a lot of videos on what to do and what to buy....etc. Let me tell you, you are the only one whom I have watch her whole video to the end and enjoyed it. The way you delivered the information is jusy easy and nice ❤

[@angelabrija1905]

Literally I used the brush for cradle cap today as my baby had cradle cap and I assumed it will go away and after using it today it’s all gone. Also I just downloaded the app, thanks. This is good as I can now find out exactly how much formula my baby is taking because I think she’s taking less

[@erinnorton7711]

Hi Jess! So I have a 19 month old daughter, when I was freshly PP, I noticed a difference in my body odor as well, and looked into it. Apparently, you do get smellier PP so your baby can recognize your scent! Crazy! I asked my husband if he thought I was stinkier and he said no, but I sure noticed! I’ve regulated now and don’t notice a difference any longer.

[@samanthasaez1008]

So comforting to see this video! My husband and I want to start trying 😭

[@JessConte]

Awww wow. Thinking of you 🫶🫶

[@julievaldez21]

Just heard about the shooting in Nashville! I am praying and hoping you all stay safe 😢

[@angelinegabrido]

I LOVE YOU JESS!!! ❤

[@gracejasper6825]

Hey Jess! I love your videos so much❤️❤️ They are always so calming. Anyway, one tip I have for biting while breastfeeding is when my daughter starts to bite I plug her nose until she releases. It’s worked really well for me, and I hope it helps you❤️

[@dear868]

Another fabulous video 😊I would like to add, after having a little potato, it’s important to not be so hard on yourself especially when it comes to personally meeting deadlines or completing projects you had in mind.

[@Chefcalmeverhartconte]

I love my job as a ccp ( critical care paramedic because learning cpr when having more than one child comes in handy. Had my 5th baby January 3rd 2023. I've been a single parent since I was 19 I'll be 38 next month.

[@nicoleleecorea8408]

Something of you guys that’s so peaceful and good for us to watch, thanks you keep making videos, we appreciate you💞

[@sam_.0613]

It’s been a while ! Thank you for uploading 💜

[@AlissaWithAnI]

Thank you for this video, Jess! I’m 21 weeks pregnant with my first and am so nervous! I’m an only child and I didn’t grow up around babies, so its all so new to me.

[@bekahholt3852]

I’m an only child but was fortunate enough to grow up around my cousins. I had my 1st baby 6 months to the day. She’s 6 months today and growing like crazy.

[@tiffanymcgowen3756]

Where I live we have to take class provided at the hospital before we can leave with the baby. We learn cpr and all that for babies. I have 3 kids so because I asked if I had to take the class each time and I did as a refresher 😅 comes in handy for sure. I highly recommend everyone to take the classes. Better to have the knowledge and not need it then to need it and not know how. For me my oldest was in newborn for several months. She was just tiny. My girls also lived in the footed pj's. It was just practical. Best to know too not everyone can't breastfeed. I wanted too. I tried but I never produced any milk. Fed is best.

[@sarahem9358]

Being 30 weeks pregnant with my first - this video has been very insightful so thank you 🥰

[@annajusiak5440]

After watching this, I am shocked that someone has the same thoughts as me! May God bless you and your lovely family ❤

[@alychiriboga2511]

I love your vlogs Jess! My baby boy is 7 months, so I feel like our timeline is very close. I can relate to so many of things you shared.

[@elizabethhope7623]

Thank you so much for your encouragement at the end of the video! I’m currently expediting my first and am due in July, and your words were very needed! 💛💛

[@micacuyco]

also LOVING the longer motherhood themed videos 🩷🩷

[@JessConte]

thank you so much 🥲

[@jessytorres5719]

I am single and not planning on having a baby, but there is something so relaxing about you videos just here for you❤️😂

[@laurafreeman3335]

I don't have kids but or have a have a baby but I do really enjoy it you telling your story about the things that you wish that you knew when you became a mom you're the sweetest loving little little awesome girl that want that and I love you know watching you and I think you are an amazing mom and you know keep keep going forward but I love hearing your story

[@annawelk7742]

I loved this video so much!!! I’m 22 weeks pregnant with my first and I don’t know how to feel about postpartum. I’ve heard so many different experiences and This was so helpful to hear!

[@JessParr1408]

Thank you for these helpful tips! I’m currently 10 days overdue and hoping to meet my first son or daughter soon 🤍

[@samanthahages1218]

So grateful for you being so open and honest that is what i love and need in life i am pregnant and tell my none pregnant friends all about it so they can be more prepared when it is there turn in future even tho every pregnancy and every baby is different some of the things that are spoken about may end up being the same and can reassure each other that it is NORMAL and we are all doing our best so thank you for the advice.

[@tahlia4189]

Jess, you are such a blessing to me! So grateful for all the love and care you put into all your videos. Praying for the continual abundance of God's favour and immense blessing upon you in this precious season of life that you are in 💛

[@fashiondiva408]

Ty for this, found out a couple weeks ago that I am pregnant. I’ve always watched these type of videos but now they are even more informative!

[@pshinkarenko]

@JessConte my mother in law would slowly and carefully pinch her baby’s ear if they were biting and they would stop. It assimilates with pain which makes them avoid doing it. Definitely don’t agree with mamas who’ll spank their baby if they bite because babies don’t understand what it’s for at that stage and won’t assimilate it to them biting

[@monikarynasiewicz2042]

I don't know why breakfast was difficult for you. For us dinners was the worst. Thank God for my friend❤ she brought us chicken soup for 4 days which was soooo amazing and helpful 😊 I couldn't say thank you enough for that.

[@tima5516]

thank you so much for making this video jess! even though I am not married or have a baby but it is just helpful to know so when the time comes I won’t be as surprised or nervous.

[@Karinaaa11]

The smelling weird is actually a hormone thing after labor! I can’t remember how long it lasts, I want to say all while you’re nursing but apparently it’s a comfort thing for the baby! Lol and that’s how babies recognize their mamas by their smell!😅 I was mind blown when I learned about this😂

[@sachaduplooy8670]

Thank you for sharing your experience 😊 beautiful family