i saw a therapist & this happened...

[@thisisme95379]

For anyone reading this, counseling can be a slow process. It’s not instant results, but rather hard work. Sometimes you won’t even get to the right counselor at first for whatever reason it is. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t keep trying. I really hope you do keep trying if you can afford it. ❤️

[@jesssvaladez]

Samantha Stroupe facts! Thank you for sharing this, I love when the comments section is used for an open discussion, love you and wish you a life full of growth ❤️

[@YvetteGarcia18]

This is SO FREAKING RELATEABLE. I was in a relationship on/off for 4 years. When it ended last year I felt completely lost with my myself/life. I've always struggled w/ anxiety/depression but that breakup spiraled it out of control & I forced myself to go to a psychologist since I'm in college and can't afford to waste my life being home depressed. Hearing from you & ur thought process really helped me w/ my own thoughts. Us as women need time and space to grow independently and find our selves and our passions. I freaking love you girl thank you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️

[@kcmarie3774]

Since you've gotten out that long relationship you seem much more mature and calm. It's crazy how people can have such a negative effect on us without us even knowing it

[@josiejasmin3440]

Still watching your videos Jess 💛💛 #4years

[@jesssvaladez]

Josie Jasmin thank you so much for sticking with me ❤️

[@yeseniaduarte4797]

Currently going through many life changing situations myself. It's great to see raw footage and vulnerability because it's a way I carry myself as well. I've been watching your videos ever since you uploaded your first video and it makes me so happy to see how you've grown. You inspire me, and if I get it together, I hope to inspire others on KZbin too. Thank you for this.

[@jesssvaladez]

yesenia duarte thank you babygirl! I can’t wait to watch your KZbin videos, keep striving ❤️❤️

[@mercadezgarcia8185]

I love & felt when you said “there are so many doors & opportunities & I feel like I’m meant to do so many things.” Thank you for sharing your journey of finding yourself. This speaks to many. I believe you’re gonna be okay & do amazing things. 💜

[@thisisme95379]

This was refreshing and so genuine, thank you Jess 😊

[@mskayjay89]

Thank you for being so vulnerable, I’m currently going through something similar where I was I’m a toxic relationship years ago and I thought I was over it but I’m still dealing with the deep rooted pain. It takes time and hard work but you are so worth it 🖤🖤🖤

[@jesssvaladez]

kara johnson yes it does take time, I’m so excited to grow through it and excited for you too love! We got this ❤️

[@mskayjay89]

Jessica Valadez plus we’re young, and now we’ll know what we don’t want ❤️

[@JanieLovesTeacake]

Around @3:00 Jessi talks about control. Around 30 years ago, another 21 year old California woman ROCKED the world with her interpretation, for the importance of gaining control. Janet Jackson released 'Control' as a declaration to her self direction lifestyle. So basically, we are witnessing Jessica make the same big moves.

[@jesssvaladez]

Kevin Davis I love your conspiracy theories, they give me life ‼️

[@monicaalvarado4496]

I feel as though, I understand exactly what you are going through. I, myself was in an unhealthy/toxic relationship for about a year. It took me a few times to finally cut it off completely. I have been single for about 2 & 1/2 years. I lost myself in that relationship. I felt my happiest when I started becoming a better version of myself. However, now I realized that I'm scared to get into a serious relationship due to my past one. I mean I love being single but I have met some guys who are great and I end up pushing them away. It's a struggle. As for therapy, I am the worst when it comes to self-care. I'm busy with school and family, that I don't put myself first ever. Anyways, thank you for posting these kinds of videos up. I've always loved hearing what you have to say. You've definitely grown a lot & I am proud of you for not staying comfortable and facing your fears

[@emmmssc]

Wow Jess.. what you’re going through is exactly what I’ve been battling with myself. Doubt, insecurities I never knew I had, fighting inner demons.. ugh and I’m such a closed off person when it comes to speaking about what I’m feeling and thinking. I need to change that bc I also don’t feel like myself anymore. Thanks for the inspiration ❣️

[@floralvintagexoxo]

Thank you for this , I’ve been contemplating seeing a therapist for a long time as well, in 2014 i too made an appointment but never went through with it . You’ve inspired me to not be afraid and seek the help i need

[@jesssvaladez]

floralvintagexoxo you’re never alone girl, you got this ❤️

[@jennyperez9902]

Iv’e been struggling with depression and seeing my therapist has helped me improve so much..you’re so beautiful and inspirational..thank you for sharing 💞

[@brittvanthooool]

I just started watching your videos like a week ago - I just ended my four year relationship because I wasn’t happy with myself and in it and I needed to hear this, so thank you

[@Lostfilezz]

Man i can relate to some of this . I had a therapist before miss having one. It really does make a difference in life when you have one. Thanks for being transparent an an open book. Sharing your life trials and tribulations .

[@adrianh.6427]

Sleep at 3:00am or watch video. I think I'll watch the video.

[@jesssvaladez]

Adrian H. Hahaha wow I love you ❤️💕😘

[@adrianh.6427]

@@jesssvaladez Love your personal videos and vlogs!!

[@MT-er7mm]

So glad you shared this, it’s really helpful to hear, thank you for your strength in going through with the therapy and with the video!

[@jesssvaladez]

Catherine Overby thank you for watching my love, I always want to be super open and help anyone else who might be dealing with the same pain ❤️

[@MT-er7mm]

Jessica I have been a guidance counselor for 20 years and it seems from what you have shared that you have a strongly qualified team, you are so fortunate! I have been to amazing counselors, and inadequate ones, which I found to be quickly evident. I too wasn’t that sure what was going on until I worked through some major topics and suddenly things fell into place. Keep up the faith, the journey will continue! Also, as you work through different jobs and classes, you will narrow down what your passion is. I went into a field of elementary guidance counseling, of which there were zero jobs in my state. The next year elementary schools provided counselors for every school. You just never know!

[@taj8822_]

I really appreciate you for this video thank you for being so honest and open. You’ve inspired me in a major way thank you!

[@nancyinlompoc123]

Yes girl I’m glad that you are feeling much better ! As for your career I hope you find what makes you truly happy; because work can be just for the money just because you have to do it or it can be something that you truly love and that makes you happy 😊 love your videos and I’m glad that you put videos like this out there instead of faking it. 💕

[@ztszebra]

Your honesty is extremely helpful. Thank you ❤️

[@sabrina2012torres]

Love watching your videos ! Keep doing what makes you happy ! ♥️

[@martinvenezia]

I enjoyed this. thank you Jess for another real video. 💕 been here since the beginning. I have nothing but love.

[@christinej9080]

I love this video! The journey of life is very interesting to say the least. But what a beautiful thing as you grow into who you truly are. Tyfs Jess 🙏❤️

[@jesssvaladez]

Christine J SO INTERESTING AND SO BEAUTIFUL!! love you ❤️

[@bryandavilaa]

Jess has been a strong woman and still is growing to become strong emotionally and spiritually. Much love Jess❤️

[@MaluRadice]

This video truly helped me. I feel very connected to your situation since I am going through similar issues. I went to therapy two weeks ago and did not make another appointment but now I will!

[@veronicaramirez5827]

Thanks Jess for another video like this! I just want to say that I hope people go to therapy after this. If you're scared, you are allowed to be but take the step. Once you get started it gets less scary and you end up looking forward to each session and feel refreshed after each one.

[@jesssvaladez]

veronica ramirez yes! Thank you for helping me motivate others to try it out! It’s an amazing experience and I’m so excited for what’s to come❤️

[@veronicaramirez5827]

@@jesssvaladez I'm excited for you! I always hope to one day sit with you and talk about things like this, it excites me lol

[@carrieerosee3403]

As someone who works as an Intake Specialist I’m glad you have given therapy an opportunity. I refer people to therapists on the daily and many people go through with it and others don’t. Everyone is ready at their own pace. Someone else mentioned this already, but therapy is a process. Some people find a match right away and for some people it takes time. Be patient and never give up on Y O U (:

[@jesssvaladez]

carriee rosee omg thank you for your services! You have no idea how many people you’re helping ❤️

[@carrieerosee3403]

❤️

[@mariaaespinal6369]

This video made me happy. I’m an upcoming therapist myself and I’m so glad that you gave it a try and that is helping!❤️❤️

[@BurgiebAby89]

I don’t think you have to narrow what you want to do to one thing, especially this day in age we need more than one source of income for the life style we want , but most especially of course do what you love 💕 I love you being so personal with us , keep up the amazing work Jess ❤️❤️

[@junerosenluv]

I really loved this video. It completely hit home for me

[@jesssvaladez]

You got this girl ❤️

[@steffaniesanchez5300]

Jess I love you. Thank you your videos always remind me I’m not alone 💗

[@NicoleJessica]

So incredibly happy for you Jess❤️ therapy in my opinion is so worth it, it’s not for everyone but it is worth trying and putting in the effort

[@Les0715]

I LOVE YOU JESSSS💓

[@Reviewermythoughts]

So jess i just saw u on a thred up thing on instagram, so proud of u girlie🙂

[@lesliegonzalez2845]

Thank you for making videos like this! I'm going through somethings myself at the moment that I don't know how to express, because I don't know the root of it all. On day #2 of going back to the gym. It's been really helping. I might just start writing it all out . Again Thank you.

[@megan7458]

This video was honestly amazing .. it’s so honest and pure about your feelings and it’s so amazing to see you grow! Now thinking about going to a therapist too 😛

[@missperez2253]

We love you Jess! Keep strong

[@jessicamedrano5427]

you're just an amazing spirit and I can relate to what you're going through ♥

[@lifewithevita]

really love this video!! 💗💗

[@jessAngiee2468]

ILY JESS keep going ! you got this

[@melo.5703]

Idk why but I got emotional watching this video. Well i guess I know why. I was once in a very toxic relationship a few years back and it was something I didn’t want to leave (even though I knew it was bad for me). After finally accepting the fact that I had to let go I had to learn to be alone and do things on my own and let me tell you it was the hardest thing ever. Anyway, Jess you have come so far. You have matured so much and I’m so happy for you. You have changed for the good. I do hope that one day you get to be with someone that loves you for you and that you get to love someone.

[@anitalewis4907]

Woaaaaah Jess love this thank you! 💕

[@LoveeSammi]

Loving the nail colors

[@BCR13]

Thank you for being honest jes!!!!! I love this because there are some people going through what you have been through and need to hear this !!!!!! 🤟🏾💯😩❣️ much love from ATL 🍑

[@iiamsc4108]

Jess for Prez 2020!! ily bestie!

[@jesssvaladez]

wow i love you so much chavita

[@KarlaBytchLOL]

If I could afford therapy I would go,I have a lot of unresolved issues 😓 but good that you're getting the help you need Jess much love ♥

[@dimplez92511]

Why is this so relatable rn

[@laliadomingo5077]

Thanks for the video Jess 🙂 I have been thinking to see a therapist again for awhile since there is a lot of things going through my mind, but I'm not sure when to go see one. I talk about my thoughts and feelings to my boyfriend, but due to our schedule for school, we barely see each other. I rather talk to him about what's in my mind in person than texting or talking on the phone. I guess I will see a therapist when I feel like I really need someone to listen. At least the semester is almost over then me and my boyfriend can spend more time together. Also, I'm a Psychology major, and I'm starting to realize that there are other things that I would like to do in Psychology 😃

[@almamartinez4858]

Great video jess sending you hugs

[@jesssvaladez]

alma martinez sending some back ❤️❤️

[@hamdi3374]

I’m so happy for you 💜

[@gscart999]

Thank you so much bbygirl 💖

[@anitaasworldd]

I love you so much, you are the most raw and shameless creator on KZbin. Could you do a video on how you found a therapist and like the research you did? There’s so many places in my area and I don’t know where to start and pricing and all of that

[@alvarezpatricia15031]

You're so Beautiful! I love you and wish you made more videos :) but thankful for when you do upload 😁

[@andrealira3283]

You’re videos gives me life! Your style is so cute 💛

[@jesssvaladez]

Andrea Lira thank you so much beauty ❤️❤️❤️😍

[@christalcardona7690]

I appreciate this video so much :')

[@emmmssc]

P.S. please do more videos like this, I’d love updates about therapy!!

[@fernandodesantiago8951]

I love you!!!!❤❤❤

[@nicholleswindell1082]

Hi! what’s the song at the beginning of the video??

[@TylerMusicxo]

You are so fucking beautiful & genuine. Im so happy for you 💕

[@GeniGen23]

I swear every time I’m feeling some type of way you always come threw with the video! Im glad im not crazy because i be feeling the same way too!

[@valeriem3715]

I've been wanting to see a therapist for over a year now and I think I have insurance that might cover it but how do I get started? do I call my insurance or go to my dr?

[@peitseog]

Call the number on the back of your insurance card to find out if its covered. Your insurance should have a website thats tells you what doctors/therapists are covered under your plan. Pick one that you think might be right for you (i suggest getting a hispanic female assuming you are one because they'll understand you better). Call their office and ask if they're taking new patients and set up an appt!

[@valeriem3715]

@@peitseog thank you i will call them tomorrow.

[@skyencisochannel5237]

I can relate so much to this video

[@water3694]

You should get counseling for that nail paint job. Naw, just kidding. I like the truth, the truth is real. Van Gogho said "lies are ugly", " the truth is beautiful","paint the beauty of life". This video seems pretty honest. It's sometimes hard to get to decent point in life. Where the mind and body can both be in good health. Good luck Jessica. I mean it. I'm pulling for you

[@PsychoSt4r]

Was Charles the toxic relationship?

[@jessicaalvarez1338]

Your eyebrows are very distracting in this video but still love you girl!

[@damnmuggle]

You're so vain

[@Thislyfetme]

I feel this 😣

[@rowhellyo]

OMG SAME!!!! THERAPY IS THE BEST! WE HAVE SO MUCH IN COMMON! WE SHOULD MEET IN REAL LIFE!

[@jesssvaladez]

GET OUT MEE COMMENTS AYE 😭

[@lupiitaaaa14]

love u jess!

[@rose____6063]

I Love your Videos you are so cool and pretty. 😇

[@yessypineda126]

Ur strong girl Jess

[@valak9264]

Feeling lost is so much better than having an unexpected baby and rushing to get married. So you’re doing way better than Charles. ❤️❤️❤️

[@BCR13]

Mariah Murica I agree 💯

[@XxfallenxX97]

Lmao leave Charles out of this. Still stuck in the past? Charles is doing great minding his business and focusing on his family. Gtfo with your bad vibes

[@sunkissgirl818]

Jessss i say this with a loving heart , you should definitely try going to a spiritual retreat , i am catholic, and my church , San Gabriel Mission they do spirtual retreats where they leave friday and come sunday , it seems like you have a very strong conscious mind, you have tje gift of conviction , you are very blessed and you always do the oppsoite of what its telling you , you need to learn to follow your conscious, i have that as well , i have been trough a lot , and it seemed reagardless of the job or career path that i took i was never happy . I have a loving family , and yet i wanted to always be alone , and sleep. I was very anxious, and worried all the time ... i was never happy because i felt i didint dersve happiness ... please look into it and i can tell you for experience Jesus will be that fulffillment in your life , he will be the happiness in your life , he will send you where you need to be either to help a friend or to mission in places where people need your love and joy ! You have a purpose girl dont forget that

[@vickeymartinez5068]

Hello Jessss🙋

[@nayiba21]

#NOTALONE✨✨ God bless

[@gladys.333]

We love you Jess!! 💞💗😍

[@jesssvaladez]

Gladys Arana I love you alll!!!! 😭

[@sabybaeha2922]

❤❤❤

[@jesssvaladez]

KookieBae Beu ❤️❤️❤️

[@sabybaeha2922]

You are so freakinggg gorgeous omggg i'm subscribed fromm algeria .. i wish you know about it♡♡

[@472_d3]

How old are you? I thought you were 21

[@cgurl]

💜

[@leilani_-xj4bi]

More videos please...go back to how it use to be....we all miss you. .

[@jesssvaladez]

leilani_333 000 I know, you’re right. I’m just trying to get this bread but I can’t give up my day dream, I now am committed to making way more videos and not letting anything get in the way or distract me ❤️

[@ItSAaliya_onSCREEN]

How old are you? Jw ❤

[@ram6879]

Just move to Texas so I can build you a house!

[@ItSAaliya_onSCREEN]

Are you a scorpio? 😊 lol sorry for all the questions

[@isabelayala7477]

leeya beeya she is not

[@karleighisabell3875]

Me 1

[@TheLestat506]

That very very toxic relationship I know who it was I think we all do I remember watching those vlogs you truly didn't seem too happy

[@AngelIRQ0508]

Call me 🤙🏻 🇺🇸🍾

[@PhoenixTun]

So I think life is suffuring .