Jim Chapman: Overcoming Failure Anxiety, Finding Love & Life-Changing Therapy | E78

This weeks episode entitled 'Jim Chapman: Overcoming Failure Anxiety, Finding Love & Life-Changing Therapy' topics:
0:00 Intro
2:11 Experiences from your childhood that shaped who you are today
12:55 unpleasant traits from parents
17:25 What kind of dad do you want to be?
20:21 Failure anxiety
24:58 Therapy
28:56 Being an influencer/KZbinr
47:15 Does hard work matter?
49:26 Being in the moment
54:53 Why are you good at writing about love?
56:35 My Old public relationship - allegations
01:01:07 Horrible comments
01:08:36 Cheating allegations
01:12:18 My current relationship
01:17:09 Love languages
01:20:23 Whats next
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[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thank you Jim for your honesty, you blew me away.... Don't forget to like and subscribe with the chance to meet the guests and see how we put the production together. Appreciate you all 🙌🏽

[@Lil0o_u]

I didn't know who he was and because of your great podcast Steven I discover new amazing, inspiring and talented people or different side of the one I know...what I got out from this interview is Hope 🌠 hope to find one day my Jim Chapman 🙏💕 thank you Steven

[@rutarpatel3855]

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[@TG0896]

What I admire about Jim is that he isn't clinging onto his past, and moves on to do what's best for him and the people in his life. What a pleasant, level-headed guy. Really enjoyed this genuine chat.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

thanks Joanne!

[@lisagreaves5361]

I would say talking about Tanya a fair few times online now, considering she never talks about him is kinda clinging on to the past! Just my opinion though!

[@TG0896]

@@lisagreaves5361 I think this may be the case because he's still quite active on KZbin / Instagram, so people will naturally be curious in him moving on - whereas Tanya isn't as active on these platforms anymore. I guess what matters is that when he does speak about her, it's not in a negative manner, which is great! I'm glad they have both moved on

[@mervynbason818]

Such a good egg! Top man

[@sharongalloway3966]

I’ve watched Jim for years and loved this podcast so much. It’s great to hear him being so honest about him & Tanya. I saw a change in Tanya when she got seriously in to her “acting” and I felt that at the time I heard they had split up I thought the reason may have been due to Jim possibly wanting family etc, and Tanya not ready for that as she was off trying to become a big movie star. I actually thought it was Tanya that went in a different direction. Having listened to this I feel I may have hit the nail on the head. Jim is a true Gent and I would never have thought for a minute that he would have cheated. Jim & Sarah are going to be amazing parents and I wish them all the best. ❤️❤️

[@psoozan9648]

Turns out Tanya cheated on him!

[@anni8456]

@@psoozan9648Never heard of this. How did it happen or what’s known about it?

[@soude85]

@@anni8456 It’s pretty clear, when you listen to this podcast…

[@YW2324]

Ya same thing with another KZbinr I watched they had just wanted different things and grew apart from each other. It happens sometimes

[@karismalovesglitter]

Jim and Joe have always struck me as the nice guys from the OG Group.

[@rosecardamom]

This is one of the best interviews I’ve ever seen.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

dope, thanks amanda

[@nolusizodlalisa5573]

South African 30something year old black lady who has absolutely no idea who who this guy is.....but I connected sooo much with him through everything he shared. I didn't even connect with him because I relate to most of it but mostly through the theme of empathy, I absolutely loved this interview. Steven, you are just effin brilliant, honestly!! With each interview that you you do I am left amazed of your ability to make people talk so honestly and so openly. Your talent is truly amazing

[@nebehsns5451]

How does Steven get all his guests to be so raw open and honest!? Truly enjoyed this podcast and took from it, don’t be a victim, don’t explain, don’t complain and work hard and do what you love. I think doing what you love is important but sometimes u just need to pay bills so if you can’t do what u love in your spare time do what u enjoy so u have a balance!

[@b_r_a_n]

i think because steven is so warm & comforting

[@amyarnett8143]

As someone who used to watch Jim, I've never felt more connected (for lack of a better word) to him. I really related to so many of these topics and I really appreciate the honestly because it has allowed me to reflect on my own experiences and goals. Thanks Jim for being open.

[@GirlPeasTheSingleLife]

So refreshing to see a guest being so raw, open and honest. Sometimes responses feel rehearsed but this was straight up real. Love how self aware Jim is. Thanks for another great episode!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

🙏🏽

[@ambersykes1070]

I’ve watched most of these interviews and I must say that this is by far my favourite. Jim is incredibly emotionally intelligent. The way he articulates his thoughts at such an elevated, yet accessible, way is very captivating.

[@evamay7115]

I have followed him for a long time but honestly this interview asked all the right questions to really know the real Jim and he truly is a lovely man. I really do wish him and Sarah all the best in the world.

[@TweetingRawr]

This is a really lovely interview. I've been a fan of Jim for a long time and I've always respected him and valued him and his content. I think it was brave for him to do this and I think this is a really honest portrayal of a guy who works hard. I just stumbled upon this video and its been so helpful for my own struggles right now. Jim's such a lovely man and I hope everyone else understands this too.

[@paulafirmin1310]

Jim is such a wise well spoken man. He's been though a lot but hasn't let it get the better. I'm glad that Sarah & him are happy and starting a new chapter. Brilliant interview 👏

[@atekablooch6113]

Thank you Steven, I cannot comprehend how I felt in just the first 5 minutes of the podcast. How can this man get any hate? He is just a pure soul

[@thomasheyes5747]

'says baby should be miscarried' my jaw literally dropped who the FUCK would wish that??

[@sharonj8758]

What a great chat. So refreshing to hear such openness from a guest. A brilliant host too. x

[@hopebarnes177]

Haven’t watching Jim in years and there’s no reason why just I guess wasn’t my thing anymore but to hear what he has been through has really changed my mind on him. Respect for sharing his story

[@rebeccaalicebyrne1516]

Thanks for sharing your story Jim! I could always tell that you were a genuine person. I’ve watched you since the early days. Congrats on becoming a parent, you’ll be a great one!

[@louisebreslin4430]

Really enjoyed this, Jim is such a nice guy.. An so hard working.. Hope his stresses ease, and he gets everything he wants in his career 👏🏻👏🏻

[@HollyLatimerX]

This was very insightful, I’ve watched Jim for years on KZbin and it was interesting to hear different aspects of his life that he has kept private previously. He seems like a great and genuine guy! ☺️

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

he is! The nicest guy

[@sophiebateman7659]

Jim is so honest and I’ve had a very similar experience with my father. So it’s nice to be able to hear a similar experience as it’s hard to talk about with anyone. It’s brilliant how Jim has flipped around in a positive way which is great and is very lucky to have the family he does. Thank you for being so open.

[@emmabailo]

came from tik tok, what a great conversation, this is the content i want to consume and enjoy and learn from. This really needs to be what people take in from social media! Not beauty standards or whats uncool etc this should be louder than most other content on MANY platforms. Truly Brilliant.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

thanks so much emma 🙏🏽

[@nicolakemp6148]

Even when I don’t know the guest this podcast is always still the best to watch 👏🏼👏🏼 favourite addition to a Monday 🙌🏻

[@georgia_writes]

Really enjoyed this episode. It was good to hear Jim talk about his childhood and how important therapy has been for him in dealing with this and with other life stressors.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

thats great to hear georgia, thank you for watching as always 🙏🏽

[@jessicamarsilio3304]

This is honestly a brilliant and deeply raw and real interview. Seriously impressed and so interesting to listen too!

[@Lubna2k8]

Hands down the most enjoyable and interesting interview ever! So much I could relate with and honestly love positive content! Life is too short to be thinking about latest trends, posting negative comments on social media or even hurting people’s feelings. Just try to be kind to people and stay happy!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

thank you really appreciate it, glad you enjoyed x

[@beverleyroberts1025]

Absolutely loved this! Jim you should do more deep talking videos. I love psychology, human behaviour, where does it come from. None of us are perfect, we are all flawed in some way, but sometimes recognising negative behaviour is the road to healing and improving yourself. And also being proud of your qualities and who we are is more important than focusing on our negative points. You come across so well and so knowledgeable and interesting. I can see how much you love Sarah and how good she is for you. So you've definitely found your soul mate. 😊

[@canadianchick888yazz]

So much respect for Jim! Absolutely love his personality!

[@gemb1736]

Learnt a lot from Jim’s mindset! I need to bring some of it into my own way of thinking x

[@orlao3086]

Always been a fan of Jim but this was so interesting I feel proud of him for going through every he has very inspiring

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

He’s great isn’t he! Thanks orla x

[@TweetingRawr]

I completely agree with this

[@Sami-rw8cs]

This hit my differently. My dad was abusive as I was growing up, and he also has MS. It’s taken me a long time to heal from those wounds and see it the same way Jim does. Thank you for this. Growing up in a household like that he is describing is incredibly isolating, especially when the abuser is ill. I wish Jim and his family all the best 🧡

[@Sami-rw8cs]

People don’t appreciate that MS isn’t just a physical disease.

[@lisabell736]

Just recently found the channel, I subscribed and I absolutely love it. I've always followed Jim, he is an all round decent bloke and came across exactly as I thought he would. I really wish him and Sarah all the best on their new chapter in life. x

[@meganparker636]

That reminds me of my dad very much a victim. He doesn’t help himself at all if anything he just self destructs and makes it so much worse. Always believes he is right as well.

[@channonmckeon6862]

Loved this interview, so raw and also a good insight into Jim’s life, great interview skills!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

thank you channon x

[@Hanavannin]

What a fantastic interview. I see so much of myself in how he conducts himself going forward after bad experiences and not being a victim of circumstance. Thanks Jim for sharing with us.

[@beverleyroberts1025]

Have to say, a good interviewer makes an interesting interview too. Again, someone with depth and understanding human behaviour, and asking the right questions. Loved this. 😊

[@dr.kathrinebejanyan3197]

What a powerful start, thank you for asking such poignant questions Steven! I'm always working on helping people not let their past define them in my practice, Jim is a perfect example. I'll be referring clients to this interview

[@stephx7054]

This is a brilliant interview. I’ve learnt so much from watching this about mindset and outlook on life. Thank you both for sharing this!! So nice to see Jim being so open and honest about his experiences, coming from someone who watched him as a teen when their group was big, it is very refreshing to see 👍🏻

[@laurareid9048]

this was so authentic and awesome! How refreshing, real questions! Great interviewer and interviewee.

[@asmadiallo1366]

Is really great to hear him share his truth ✨

[@Urbanplann]

Love Jim. Always come across as very genuine! Watched him from when he started his channel!

[@showwatchxx]

Wow didn't know about Jim's childhood and their fathers story. Have followed his sister's for years. Really good podcast.

[@consciouscommunity3897]

Sam mentioned it a few times in the early days of Pixiwoo. I have my suspicions about what happened. Sam’s the oldest and bore the brunt of the trauma. She’s an amazing woman. Judy, their mom is such a survivor, too. Great family!

[@showwatchxx]

@@consciouscommunity3897 yes it must have been such a traumatic experience.

[@IEVAKambarovaite]

I hope those who need to hear this conversation will hear this conversation. Raw, honest, brave and brilliant. Absolutely loved it.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Appreciate this Ieva. Thank you!!

[@hayles1001]

I've got a lot of respect for Jim, always have. Nice guy and refreshingly honest 👍🏻

[@nicolef7765]

Fantastic podcast! I thoroughly enjoyed yours and Jims conversation. Thankyou to you both!

[@_hollymayneal]

Really insightful interview. Loved this! Jim is so intellectual and down to earth, have always thought he was a real good egg

[@doreen3584]

This was such a beautiful conversation 💯💯🙌🥳⚘🌼!! It was so easy and just so naturally authentic nothing about it felt foreign even though am not from that part of the world 🙌💯🤩!! Thank you Steven!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

dope, thank you doreen glad you enjoyed it!

[@AmyParker]

Amazing podcast, I love how self aware, respectful and honest Jim is! Truly a gentleman. I bet him and Sarah will be fantastic parents ❤️

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

he's great isn't he

[@nicolamatthews2993]

Enjoyed Jim chatting about his life, difficult start but didn't let that define him, kind person who appreciates his people 💙

[@artfulaaron]

Loved this. Had never heard of Jim but love the openess to be able to fight the stigma and talk about being a man who goes to therapy

[@prernachaudhri4725]

Just seeing this interview now and I must say such a cool and honest and informative podcast. Some very deep and interesting discussions! Great Job 👏🏼 Love this podcast ♥️

[@delbert1]

After only a few minutes I was struck by what a decent, kind and mature gentlemen Jim is. A very interesting, eloquent and uplifting interview. My favorite so far.

[@veesvoyages]

I really enjoyed this interview. Jim was so raw and open and honest and I love when guests bring that to an episode so willingly. It was good to see this other side to Jim as I know of him from growing up watching him on KZbin but there is so much more to him beyond that and I appreciate that this interview divulged in that side more than the KZbin side of things, it was great to learn what other projects he's been working on and hearing about his personal life so huge respect for steering the conversations more on that side of things. I'm glad that he's in a good place and found happiness with Sarah and his children😊

[@mr.pooland2951]

This is a great podcast really enjoyed Jim Chapman in a long form talks I think it really suits him hope to see more like this. Also first podcast I've listen to of yours enjoyed going to watch more

[@bryonymulcrone2013]

Amazing podcast as always , they forever keep me glued to the screen 👏🏻 very interesting

[@OmiiGosh08]

A really interesting and enjoyable interview. Thank you Jim and Steven!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

thank you dee 🙌🏽

[@OneStilettoAtATime]

Aside from the childhood aspect. Which I know is a massive part of his journey. Much of this resonates with m,e when it comes to therapy and being unable to "turn off" my mind. This is because I have ADHD, and I pick up many of the traits in this podcast.

[@mickandtraceycope7826]

Such a level headed person after such an awful start with his father. Just wish him the best. 🌞

[@eliseamelia2232]

I used to watch Jim’s videos religiously and as I grew up I grew out of them... seeing him so raw and honest has shown me how much he’s grown up since my teen years and shows how gracefully someone grow up in the public eye and still be true to himself 🙏🏻👏🏻🙌🏻 such a great podcast Steven 😊

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

thank you elise 🙏🏽

[@RubendeNoronha]

Would love to see how the podcast is made behind the scenes! 🙏🏻

[@Chelsss703]

With news coming out that it was Tanya who cheated on Jim, wow does 1:08:36 and beyond hit different. So much love for Jim, what a kind human being.

[@LaurenDonald]

Where did you hear that she cheated he admitted they didn’t have anything against each other

[@Allietracks]

@@LaurenDonald google it. His partner Sarah posted it.

[@LaurenDonald]

@@bubblygirlduddett3 how long ago??

[@melodii8377]

@@LaurenDonald sarah posted a story that said jims marriage did end up because of infidelity but it wasnt on his part

[@hihellohellow-2666]

@@melodii8377Sarah is not in the right to talk about his past relationship. If you were not involved with Jim during his marriage, just say that. Whether it’s true or not that someone cheated, it sounds dirty when it’s reported by another. It’s between Jim and Tanya, they said nothing so there is nothing.

[@millieeeboots]

This is really lovely. So nice to have a mature take on everything ☺️ Nice to hear everything from Jim’s point of view xxx

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

thank you jess 🙏🏽

[@laurynbain7872]

I have so much respect for him he’s so truthful and honest with everything he does

[@kaelahp3397]

Wow what an impressive interview!!! Have subbed to your channel :) I’ve watch Jim since Brit crew days & this was eye opening and honest ... your really asked all the right questions 🙌🏻

[@brokegirlinthecity1680]

The interview really resonated with me. I identify a lot with Jim and how he behaves, and yes therapy helped me recognise that anxiety was driving this.

[@EveWheeler-rx2dd]

For some reason this made me feel really emotional. Jim is a pure soul

[@aLiShikari]

Loved this. It was so interesting!

[@PK-sz7kh]

I love the openness guys. Brilliant

[@jessmiller1086]

Hi, I'll be honest and say that this is the first one of your videos that I have watch (stumbled across the promotion clip for this episode on TikTok) and I would just like to say that I love your style of content. This was such an insightful video and as someone who watched Jim back in the "golden" age of KZbin it was really interesting to see this open yet comfortable style of interview. As a current media production student I can only hope that I will be able to make content to this level one day.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

thank you jess really appreciate it 🙏🏽

[@annaw7437]

I didn't know who it was until this podcast, but I am so impressed with his maturity and self awareness! People (especially young men!!) in the public eye need to preach about therapy and mental health SO much more, for this world to change for the better! I so wish I knew what I know now as a 40yo (regarding my upbringing, family dynamics, etc., which nearly destroyed me), as I strongly believe I would be in a better place in my life now, had I made those changes at the age of 25. Never too late though. Another wonderful interview! x ps. Steven you finally convinced me to try Huel (which I used to perceive as a fancy hipster drink for gym people), and I LOVE it!! Costs as much as a sandwich from Pret, but has SO much more value and fills me up for longer! :)

[@underbudget7251]

Always loved Jim! Love him even more now!

[@kpredd13]

1. this is such a great interview, so open and honset but also so many topics! Really enjoyed it and it made me think a lot about my own life. 2. Wow Jim you really look like your brother from the profile view ha, never noticed really

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

thanks kirsten 🙌🏽

[@marghe90able]

Thank you for sharing this.

[@MsMJxoxo]

Fantastic guest, great to hear such a raw and honest discussion about life. Extremely proud to have been along for the journey of what you have accomplished Jim and who you have become. Extremely excited for Jim and Sarah's new chapter! Thank you for such great episode gentlemen.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

🙏🏽 thank you melanie x

[@leahonline1270]

Amazing podcast, 3rd one I'm listening to and I cannot stop! I massively think getting Alfie Deyes on would be so interesting, with how his mind works with his work would be so interesting to learn more about and get some insight. Now onto the next podcast! Thank you for your content, its freeing me more than I ever imagine.

[@holly16xx]

Absolutely incredible. Jim you are an inspiration. ❤

[@shewolf2850]

Best interview I've listened to in a while.

[@user1607987]

This was very nice, honest and sincere.

[@gracequante3328]

Finally home from work, so excited for this! Love Jim

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

what did you think?

[@gracequante3328]

I found out a lot. Was very surprised about his father. Also didn’t know his fiancé is pregnant 😍. I never knew he had studied psychology. I reflected on myself because I remember Jim and Tanya breaking up and Jim moving on and I was like omg they were so perfect together but really it’s none of my business and I thought it was nice how you concluded that breakups don’t have to be horrible and you shouldn’t stay in a marriage if it no longer feels right even if your partner is a nice person and you have great memories together. And in general I think online hate and abuse is absolutely terrible and people need to address it more.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

@@gracequante3328 thanks grace thats great to hear, the online hate is something that we all definitely need to talk more about

[@sejbomb]

One door closes to open another. Jim explains things so well some of the things I can’t articulate myself.

[@FoodieForce]

Honest and true but also a respectful gent.

[@blobster91]

We can form opinions and judge them, but we forget that they are going through something really personal on a public platform. I know I wouldn't like anyone to know my relationship issues online and speculate. It must be incredibly hard to have such an intimate issue blown up on the Internet when it has got nothing to do with either of us. There is hurt and pain regardless of their public status. Loved this podcast. Will subscribe for more.

[@lurveit]

How odd to have got so much backlash over something that wasn’t true and then lean the audience towards understanding that Tanya had actually moved on first. Leaving it at that has the audience now calling her the cheater but she possibly moved on first after they’d had this conversation of bringing the relationship to an end when Jim also acknowledged that they had been moving in separate directions for quite some time prior to the conversation. Who knows… all this should teach us is what we should already know - relationships are complex and unless you’re one of the two breaking up then stay out of it. I loved watching Jim and Tans vlogs and truly do wish them both all the very best ❤

[@ciarakenneally4939]

This was a brilliant interview. It’s admirable to see how Jim’s grown as a person throughout the years.

[@TheKnallkorper]

I love Jim. I’ve been a fan of his for over a decade

[@TashaSiera]

when Jim mentions that he couldnt take public transport and that fans would scream his name, its true. If you remember this was 2013/2014 Also the height of One Direction as well. So the British KZbinrs and One Direction were the 2 biggest things on the planet at the time. It was crazy

[@AB-ns2tt]

Now he probably doesn't lmao, Sidemen have taken over

[@amandasifoni]

Great interview ❤️

[@missamelias]

Well Done Jim!! Brilliant xx

[@salmaovalle6472]

I love Jim! thank for the inteview, new subscriber!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

amazing! Thanks salma x

[@cazfloss1990]

Really enjoyed listening to this, to both of you!

[@krisb-travel]

man this is such a sick show.... cant believe ive been missing this all these years.

[@milliemiles1040]

Today was my first theory session and I can’t help but notice how I’ve stumbled across this podcast with Jim pretty much describing many similar reasons to why I decided to go to therapy also! I’ve learnt a lot already from this podcast & Jim is amazing! So thanks

[@njc6897]

It was super interesting. Thanks and best wishes from Switzerland!

[@jennywoodward7814]

Actually never heard of Jim, but a great interview with a very intelligent, great guy!

[@hannahc8396]

Met him years ago at Knightsbridge tube and he was so so lovely. So excited to watch this

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

hope you enjoyed it 🙌🏽

[@kb9847]

I've watched Jim for years. I'm 53 yrs old, so I never got into that screaming fan girl, lol. I just enjoy watching someone grow up and succeed through hard work and kindness. Thank's for the interview.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

🙏🏽 thank you for watching

[@EllaSketches]

I’ve met Jim several times few times by accident. we’ve sometimes been in the same place at the same time. Jim is honestly the kindest most caring person I have ever met had drinks with him. Jim is also the reason why I am now married to my best friend

[@AS-uk2uu]

now we know that tanya cheated and not jim and people gave him so much flack and called HIM a cheater wow poor jim such a good guy tho never said anything bad about her

[@AS-uk2uu]

i hope he’s happy with his new relationship and his family

[@thenightingale580]

Am I missing something? How do we know Tanya cheated?

[@AS-uk2uu]

@@thenightingale580 jim's new partner posted about it on her story bc so many of tanya's fans were sending hate to them and their baby. she said that jim's previous marriage fell apart due to infidelity but not bc of jim

[@raabia6289]

@@AS-uk2uuomggggg the tea

[@laurawilliamson888]

I knew he never would cheat. He's too nice a guy

[@rocksteacats]

I wish I had such a positive outlook on the world. Working in retail jades your view of the world, as you see the worst in people daily.

[@AshAzk]

Aww Jim! Such a sweetheart! Wish you all the best

[@LeanneMarshall_g5]

Such a great discussion.