Break Free From Life as a People Pleaser | Ep.27

[@maureenrogers1092]

Jinger ignore people who have nothing positive to say to you about anything. It is because you were on TV and also because they are jealous of you. Look how far you have come. You have a beautiful marriage and children. You are working through the things you have experienced and that is your journey and no one else's. Take that from an older Catholic grandmother. Be proud of the young woman you are and what you have achieved yourself. Believe God is pleased with you and that is enough. Wishing you continued Blessings and a healthy new baby. 🙏🥰

[@barbaralong6859]

I remember watching this show when all the kids were younger and thinking Jinger is the one who will speak out the truth later in life. You have become the strong woman I always suspected you to be. I am so glad that you found a Godly man who showed you the truth behind scripture. Someone who pulled from your love of Christ and showed you what relationships can be like. You are a very brave woman.

[@DeeAnderson-oj2hr]

Jinger and Jeremy....So true! Some people will never be satisfied with what you post. They are not happy unless they are criticizing. It says more about them than it does about you.

[@eleanor4330]

Oh wow just the first few seconds- “becoming a clone of everyone I was around” WOW. I resonate with that so much as a someone who struggles with people-pleasing!

[@mrs.p6128]

Some people pleasers don’t have supportive partners which can make life challenging…Jeremy clearly is supportive of Jinger, bless him.

[@Prattmary]

Of course he is living good off her mom heartbreak

[@shaunaghsutton6020]

I am 57 and have always been a people pleaser. I think it stops you having authentic relationships, it causes great stress and anxiety trying to meet everyone’s needs. I look forward to reading your book

[@allisonjohnson6399]

I got mine last night. I'm only through the first chapter and I could highlight so much of it. I am so excited to be able to sit down and read it completely!! I love how it feels like you're sitting down with a friend and talking. Jinger, you are reaching people in such a precious way! Thank you for sharing your heart and letting every one of us people pleasers that we are not alone!

[@leighcampbell5357]

I have been watching you two forevs & you have been on my mind for over a week regarding the horrific fires in LA. Hoping and praying that everyone is safe and healthy.

[@anniewatson90]

I too have been so worried. So far it looks like Santa Clarita is being monitored

[@3wishes777]

I love the way Jeremy actually wants to really know your heart and understand your heart! He listens to you he helps you work through alot of it without judgment❤ My husband is the same way. I was abused by religion growing up. I was also physically abused. (SPARE THE ROD SPOIL THE CHILD) they really lived by that. See, my mama died when i was 9, so my grandparents stepped in to help my daddy with 4 girls. He worked all the time. My family is Pentecostal! We all live on the Alabama/ Tennessee line. Old white churches everywhere they are beautiful . I had to grow up and untangle my faith. Also, I understand!!

[@mrs.shumiahjenkins2323]

Literally I would have been your friend back then , because my friends struggled in my teens and I had to let them know, Gods approval was all we needed. I felt bad and prayed for them and me. God is beautiful especially when you are being brave.

[@KyleeOates]

You are such a genius Jinger! 25:41 The way you say things are so inconspicuous to the average viewer/listener but anyone from AR knows exactly what you’re saying. Sooo much respect girl!

[@kimberlynewberry7104]

Love all the videos. And it is so refreshing to see and here Jeremy saying such great things to jinger . We all need More love and kindness in this world.

[@kathybriscoe1474]

Jinger is very wise with her concepts especially tying them into scripture. It’s obvious that her early life shaped her to come to understand what she felt brought her to realize what was needed to increase her confidence. Now she can share what she’s experienced to help others.

[@TeressaJ1960]

Jinger you seem to be such a centered young woman. I wish I had had your confidence when I was your age. I can see where your book will be helpful to a lot of people, all ages. Thank you for writing it. God bless you.

[@heatherchappell2517]

It's ironic how there are judgmental comments on a people pleasing video 😂 I'm just loving to be able to witness Jinger's journey in freedom❤

[@zurzakne-etra7069]

you have to remember the amount of damage that Jinger's family has done through their lies on their TLC show.... This people made a living off being judgemental and Christian fundementalists, all while they were aiding and protecting a pedophile.

[@paigegillam]

I too am a people pleaser, never thought of it this way, but nor wanting anyone mad at me I realize that I am losing parts of mtself to many that really don't care abour, just to get what they want. working on that hard!!

[@shannonwadsworth3480]

I often wonder how keyboard warriors navigate real life. As much as the internet and all the social media has benefitted our lives there’s the whole negative side. Matthew 7:1 Y’all are not obligated to share every personal detail of your life! Thank you for sharing what you do ❤

[@susan-qf2he]

Jinger, I am so happy to see you grow into such an amazing young woman, after the way you were brought up. The book cover picture is GORGEOUS. Also, anybody who critiques your car seats or straight pony tail parts... they have no life!!! Ignore them... ❤❤❤ 🎉on the book🎉

[@sakurablossoms2025]

You are so beautiful and inspirational Jinger!❤Your story of growing up in a very strict and legalistic version of Christianity, as well as being a people pleaser, is extremely relatable to me. Hearing you speak about breaking free and stepping into the fulness of what God has for you gives me so much hope! This video makes me very excited read People Pleaser 🌸 Also: congratulations for Baby Boy!

[@michellebennett515]

I love how he encourages you! ❤ Thank you for sharing yourself with us!

[@glorifyjesuschristbiblestu5651]

❤ Jinger laughter is beautiful to hear.

[@OrleannaBowden]

I’m tired of people pleasing and honestly I’m not pleasing anymore! Unless I’ll be comfortable but I love you and I bought to your book because we have that in common! Finally comforting yourself ❤️🙌🏽

[@rachellethomas216]

I started listening yesterday when I got it and it has already helped me so much with a situation I had with a friend yesterday---SO thankful for your ministry! Also, continuing to pray for you all in LA!!

[@TheEricksonGang]

I love how you support each and are so authentic! Jinger what an accomplishment I will for sure buy your book & share with others thank you so much for writing this book. It is going to help so many people & they will be blessed! Thanks for another great Podcast Jinger & Jeremy.

[@susangulliver194]

You are great parents don’t listen to those who have negative things to say sending love from the uk

[@sandydupey]

You guys did amazing job at designing and decorating your new studio!!

[@marshabailey1121]

I love the way the two of you support one another. It reminds me of how my parents were together during 70 years of marriage. That is one of the best gifts you can give to your children.

[@tammyharper4152]

Love seeing and hearing a couple who love each other so deeply/ God beautiful

[@333nanette]

Wow, Jinger, this was good. My daughter, too, has struggled with this. What a good, helpful book. I’m so happy for all of the people it is going to help. And also, to both of you, your growth in presentation and sharing in your podcasts has continued to get better and better! Keep up the good work for your generation, us older folks are cheering you on.

[@meganvester8819]

So good! Needs. Love, acceptance, significance, security, value and worth. Because of the fall we had to meet those needs. As believers all our needs are met in Him. People pleasing is looking to others to meet our core needs that only Christ can 🙌🏻🙌🏻 so excited to see how God will use your story ❤

[@erikaviramontes680]

Already 4 chapters in on Audible! Thanks for writing this book, coming from a recovering people pleaser/preacher's kid!

[@Momof2_91]

🙋🏻‍♀️me too! Jinger’s first book really helped me!

[@boething]

Oh Jinger, this blesses me so much! I will be 70 years old on the 25th, and I still struggle so much with this-and I always have. I just ordered the book and am excited to read it. Thank you for sharing this. Georgia

[@amycrowe8243]

To be honest, I wasn't originally as excited about this book as the others.. judging solely on the title. I've never considered myself a people pleaser. I feel pretty confident speaking my mind and/or sharing my opinions.. so I didn't feel like it would be relevant to me. But wow! When you really broke it down, I found myself surprised at how much of what you said felt personal. Especially hospitality.. I rarely invite people over to my house bc I feel like it needs to be scrubbed and spotless. I hate when people just show up unannounced. It fills me with dread and anxiety. Its humbling to admit my first impression may have been very wrong. Good luck with your new book, Jinger! I hope it does well and helps many. Blessings💛

[@RachelLedman-r4k]

Ordering it this week!❤Have it in my Amazon cart❤

[@tinabloomfield7228]

I "used to be" a people pleaser....and that got me used and abused, I'm not anymore, I refuse to put up with it.

[@AmandaDBA]

I really hope Jinger doesn't feel this people pleasing with Jeremy. No one knows only her . congratulations Jinger on your pregnancy and new book! 🙏

[@maryc8502]

Jinger, you could tell your husband loves you and helped you come out of that instead of being happily content with your reluctance to share your sincere opinion. Jinger, you are being led by your husband with love.

[@bettyblevins8085]

Praying your family is staying safe and for all those being effected by those terrible fires. Been following you Jinger since 19 kids and Counting first aired on TV. Love your poodcost.

[@strousecasie]

Love you so much Jinger.... hugs!

[@bmmm23]

I ran to Spotify so fast! Thanks for making available in that platform

[@nancykirkvold4806]

God is good everyday , thank yall so much for your words of wisdom

[@angelacurro1]

I am envious of your marriage. You are both wonderful, soulful people.

[@BlueBelle277]

Nice to see the set’s come together!!! Also sponsors!! You guys are legit!

[@shellyjohnson5322]

Congratulations on your second book. I really enjoy your perspective and sharing your life with us. You’re very knowledgeable and gained so much wisdom. May you and your family be blessed.

[@Pocketlint143]

As soon as you said it was on Spotify I stopped the video and started listening! I’m on chapter 3 and LOVE it so far! 🎉❤

[@KnS2011]

Great vid!! I've been praying that you guys are safe from the wild fires. I'm not sure where in Cali you live. 🙏

[@margaretweinberger2260]

Jinger I appreciate you and Jeremy's ministry. You have grown up into a beautiful woman. I really loved watching your familys show I found it very enjoyable and I love your Christian witness. Thank you

[@sueglen3726]

Cant wait to read your book Jinger. ❤

[@carringtonruark5773]

I have started to reading this! I am a chronic people pleaser and have started breaking away from people pleasing

[@DebCanada54]

Outstanding Job Jinger.This book will help and be a Guide for so many ppl.

[@TamiBoblitt]

I’m loving the book, started yesterday

[@clarabrekke4372]

I’m so glad you are talking about this topic! I am just like you. Thank You Jinger! ❤️

[@hannasalno8272]

Congrats Jinger for your books. May God use your book as one of His way to bless, strengthen, educate, and accompany somebody who need it 😊 I wish someday there will be some books writen by both Jinger and Jeremy. Books that share about biblical marriqge, family life lead by God, family devotional, youth devotional, teenager devotional, kids devotional, etc. Books that will be blessings for many audience from children to adult, from individual to couple and/or bible stufy group. God bless from Indonesia 🙏😊

[@lesliecheryl7010]

I wish I had caught this live! I'm a people pleaser....... I'm better than I used to be at 57, almost 58 years old, I'm breaking away from it but it's so hard to get away from that mind set.

[@milcarivera8926]

I just purchased the book and will be picking it up tonight at Tarjay! Can't wait to read it! Another great podcast guys!

[@marytull3100]

Hope you guys are safe from the fires. God Bless

[@Momof2_91]

Congratulations on the book! I have your first one, and it really helped me overcome my own journey of discovery from religious strongholds and upbringing. I am purchasing your new book today(if I can find it!) because I also suffer from people pleasing!

[@stefc1289]

I just placed a Hold on the Audiobook version of the book at the Los Angeles library. Am 22nd in line of people waiting!

[@reetayoung]

Looking forward to getting and reading your book!

[@meganvester8819]

I see a Holy Confidence in your face onthe cover photo ❤ that is a confidence that comes from trusting Christ In you.

[@brendashanks1110]

Courage and confidence. I love it.

[@Yteresa7]

Great podcast! I learned alot from you. I'm on the same path as you with people pleasing but this year I'm seeing everything so clearly and I really want to change now.❤😊

[@susielane1959]

This is a message EVERYONE should read. Congratulations Jinger. (The blanket behind Jeremy matches Jinger’s top.) 😂

[@CocoPink44]

Jeremy makes a good point about the phone be a downgrade.

[@sacredrose5477]

It’s shocking the details people pick on. Just to let you know I have never once noticed or cared about the car seats you use or how your children’s hair is parted.

[@Momof2_91]

Same! I’ve been personally attacked by people for car seats. In reality, sorry but car seat installation is not rocket science! It comes with instructions and as long as you have followed the instructions it’s installed correctly! I remember it really getting to me! I had all the thoughts, was trying to prove them wrong and even purchased a new one just because I didn’t feel my child was safe afterwards. In reality it was just the angle I took the picture!

[@amberwegmuller1686]

We didn't even have car seats growing up.

[@watchinvidzwatchinvidz7691]

They are jealous & instead of fixing themselves they turn on others & try to feel better about themselves. Through putting other down. I think its sick & twisted really.

[@Momof2_91]

@ so true! Feeling attacked or condemned by it. Maybe they should read jingers book!

[@juliekeast6175]

And yet these same people who complain about hair and car seats wonder why Jinger no longer shares her kids faces on social media!

[@heidianderson9959]

I got the audio book. It’s sooooo good jinger. Your amazing. And you do fantastic on the audio book. You go girl!!

[@heidianderson9959]

I have a close relative that is a people pleaser. This is so helpful

[@kimbaggatts981]

I love me some Jinger and Jeremy👐🏽

[@yvonneharbin1345]

😊 other way around Jeremy. ESAU was out hunting, JACOB was at home cooking 🥰🥰

[@uffda]

Critical thinking is stepping out of your own point of view and seeing the world without personal bias. As a Christian, that means to not only step out of personal bias but also see as God sees. That means not being self focused, but God focused. It means to love others and realize how our words impact others. So while we think we may have attained and at a young age believe we have the true perspective, until we put ourselves in other shoes - culture, life background, Biblical knowledge, we are not humbling ourselves. Not being a people pleaser does not mean having a more spiritual than others attitude - it does not mean publicly shaming those who have different convictions. A person can express their conviction without rebuking those with whom we disagree.. I was never a part of the movement you were in, but I have friends who were, and I respect their convictions. I would never shame them for their convictions of how they choose to live out their Christian life. I have experienced other things along my Christian life that I may not agree with. It wasn’t my place to tell them how I felt about their choices - that is God’s work in their heart. If they believe God through the Holy Spirit and studying God’s Word has led them to their conviction, who am I to publicly rebuke that conviction. Cultural choice convictions are different than Biblical doctrine. That doesn’t mean I can’t share my own convictions on my life choices, but it also doesn’t mean it is my place to tell them they are wrong - whether it be courtship, dresses, head covering, schooling, discipline, unless the Bible is clear on it as He is in the 10 commandments, which honoring your parents is one, then it boils down to a personal conviction - a personal life choice. Legalism is using works as a means of salvation. Liberty is showing our salvation through our works. A life style of a Christian who believes in salvation by grace and not of works is not legalism. We are called to be God pleasers of course, but we are not called to be self pleasers either. Speak the truth in love but honor your fellow believers and parents in doing so.

[@Lemonberry109]

Audio book loaded ready to listen when pod cast completely. Thank you.

[@garyyoung7641]

Congrats on the book, Jinger! Jeremy-nice to see you without a hat🤣.

[@suzanneclark8579]

lol, Amen!

[@janellward2380]

I started reading the book last night! 😊

[@carlybethbaker6415]

💜🙏💜🙏hope you are safe from fires. Prayers for California 💜🙏💜🙏

[@kpalmerhansen]

I think I need to read your book because it seem like it me 100 percent I have just started at work to push back or call people out if it is not me who was in the wrong And I am 64. At least I have a fiend at work who together we try to talk each other out of it when we think we have failed. Funny how it is opposite days so we can pull each other out of it

[@kelseywinterhalt6468]

What is an extra special week for Jeremy and jingle's life where they found out the gender of their third child, a baby boy and then jingle's book release * being a people's pleaser*! Congratulations on your accomplishment!

[@big33bug89]

I am looking forward to listening to your book

[@JuneJeffries]

I like both of you. Even though we have some differences of belief, I find your conversations good.

[@Mvill1]

Jeremy should be on ET, he is great at interviews!

[@amysimpson646]

He's too good for ET.

[@emmib1388]

why did you choose ET? isn't that an entertainment show? This is not a subject of entertainment -- this is real life

[@Mvill1]

@@emmib1388 Because the other interview Jeremy and Jinger chose to give now was to ET.

[@tammyharper4152]

Love the room you’ll design together

[@tammyharper4152]

I pre ordered your book can’t wait to read your book

[@yvonneharbin1345]

Hey Jinger, I am not a book person for real, and very, very, very few will get me to have a look. So I don't do audio books, (and when you told Jeremy you don't like hearing your own voice, in one of your podcasts chat, I smile, because the clip Jeremy played is so GOOD, you Sound great ) AND IT HAS CONVERTED ME TO GET THE SPOTIFY AUDIO VERSION ON YOUR NEW BOOK 📚 JUST OUT P.P❤❤

[@Hannahgrace901]

Thank you so much!

[@dawnoliver6141]

Jeremy I would love to hear about your family as well

[@Rochasfamilyhustles]

I’m going to purchase this on audible I definitely deal with people pleasing and I’m tired of it

[@vagxieb.5801]

Thank God Jinger wrote a book and they have something to talk about . Refreshing

[@DCinSC-c5p]

I am thinking that since Jinger’s personality is geared to please people that she would describe her childhood completely different than her other siblings who don’t have that personality trait.

[@StElmosFire53]

Becoming a camelian as soon as many evangelical wives become. I’m an Episcopalian as I’ve mentioned and I don’t see this very often in my community of faith.

[@bethgazzola]

I got my book yesterday

[@tiffynikky]

Just ordered your book!🙂

[@sherrylee1072]

God’s blessings

[@bethtaig]

What is happening with the fires 🔥 are they any where near you?🔥 stay safe if they are

[@ashleywillenborg3838]

Are you all safe from the fires? Praying for LA.

[@LorenaReyes-Valdez]

Does anyone know where her sweater is from?! It’s so pretty!

[@lisalangston3794]

Amazon isn’t shipping fast. I preordered and won’t receive it until next week

[@lisalangston3794]

Correction arriving January 27th 😢

[@jukes243]

Someone once said to me "I don't feel comfortable in your home. It doesn't feel lived in. It's so clean. It's like nobody lives here". yikes! Would rather have seen Jinger in a logo sweatshirt, ponytail, and baseball cap on the front cover of her new book. Congrats! Jinger

[@heatherchappell2517]

Kinda ironic to say on a people pleasing video.

[@zo8449]

You’re exactly the kind of person she’s talking about in her book, criticizing and making unnecessary rude comments. An internet bully. Her book cover is perfect because it’s HER book and she looks wonderful.

[@lindatinsley9404]

I was wondering how you guys are doing with all the fires in LA.

[@Ara1_11]

How easy or hard was it to accept help from Jeremy in learning about the true God

[@sherrylee1072]

Hello from NC

[@KyleeOates]

I never part my daughter’s hair straight 🤣🤣🤣

[@shawntelmooney1543]

I would love to talk to Jinger.