Jiu-jitsu for Kids - Advice for Parents

[@richardsj2]

My son and I are starting jiu jitsu next week. Your videos have been a big help!

[@loffarenerik2914]

still rolling ?

[@hilalyendork7371]

Great advice. Thank you

[@GAL913]

Hi! So this is from a teenagers perspective, I watched this video to try to talk to my parents. I do not like jujitsu, (sorry for everyone that does!!) but I’m ok with working with girls, but I find it really weird to work with boys. That could just be my age, but I find it really uncomfortable and VERY awkward to work with the boys at my gym. My dad’s a black belt in jujitsu, runs his own business, and has me train and also wants me to get to blue belt until I stop. I have been trying to figure out how to talk to my parents about not working with boys, and only girls. I’m going to try to ask them for maybe some private lessons, and coming every night when there’s a girl there. I don’t really no what it is why I don’t like working with boys, but it just very awkward for me and I don’t know why. If anyone has any tips about this, please leave a reply! But being a teenager, forcing your kid to do jujitsu might not be the best thing to do. I am very aware that I need these skills and I really don’t think there important, but I really don’t like working with boys, and I would definitely be willing to try another form of self defense. Thanks for listening!!

[@GAL913]

Sorry, i meant that I do no jujitsu is important!

[@thylabyrinth]

Let me give you my perspective as a father and BJJ practitioner: you very well may disappoint your dad, but that doesn't mean you're wrong to feel the way you do. However, it does mean you need to be really serious about it: Is there a problem with certain people at your gym? Do you have an internal hang-up that you're struggling with? I can't speak for your gym, but at ours, guys train with girls all the time and it's not awkward, because everyone's there to work hard, learn and support each other. I hope it's the same way at your gym, but if not, then it's a different issue that definitely needs addressing. As a general rule, always be honest with your parents, even if it's hard or you're afraid of what they might say. Truth is always better than the alternative (lying, deceit). A big part of why we (dads in particular) want our kids to learn BJJ is to develop resilience, confidence, inner strength and wisdom. It's much more than self-defense. We want our kids to be able to look someone in the eyes and speak confidently and with authority about things that are important to them. We don't want them cowed or intimidated by the things life throws at us, instead we want them to have the courage to confront, understand and overcome the things that bother them. These traits are built by consistently working hard and overcoming adversity over a long period of time: there's no shortcuts. Hence the BJJ "journey". You may think this is nonsense, but remember that we (parents) have many years of life experience and countless encounters with different types of people: this gives us a vastly different perspective and mental timeframe than you probably have right now. So my advice, and what I'd tell my kids, would be to sit down and really think about what's bothering you. Write down specific reasons, maybe even specific examples. Then try to write down some realistic solutions (new gym, new martial art, only training with specific people, private lessons etc.). Then speak with your parents. Not only does this show that you've taken the time to consider the issue seriously, but also that you respect your parents' wishes with regard to your BJJ/martial arts journey. Good luck (if you haven't resolved the problem already!)

[@MrDunnyglenn]

Thank you for this video. That's my daughter who laughs and talks when she's on the ground.

[@sc4916]

Tried to put my son in bjj at 4 he wasn’t ready took him back at 5 he loved it and 3 years going on 4. He goes every other day 2 hours a day and Muay Thai boxing on the other days. When they are into it and ready they’ll let you know. And I stay out of his training , it’s his journey to take not mine

[@williamjones6053]

That what I do with my 10 year old who just started back in December ..I tell myself it's his journey ..all I can do is help him excercise to build his strength..I do lay on my back and let him practice his mount ..but I keep quite and just offer resistance

[@Pifagorass]

It's awesome to mix striking and grappling. Well rounded confident person ready for any typical teenage situations 😅 Mine doing BJJ and Shinkiokushin. Regarding quoting - it's ok. Try wrestling, JJJ, Judo. Just need to spend 1+ year of one discipline.

[@likeablackbelt]

Man great job!

[@michaelj6521]

This is an excellent and awesome representation of your/our academic/culture & community! Great job bjj leader!! R&A!

[@gracieohio]

Thank you so much!

[@Nerales_]

Man, I hope to be where you're at one day

[@George-qt4wt]

I definitely have a child to use an a excuse to watch this video

[@Isa_edits2312]

My mom forced me to do karate I made it to Black belt but it was fun but got boring jit just I choice and I have a lot of fun off the start

[@Rozenxz]

Still waiting for that competition video!

[@ulfar8283]

I got my daughter into her gi when she was 3 years old. She's 5,7 today. The couple of rules I go by right now is, that is has to be fun for her right now. I can't or shan't force it onto her. Secondly I catch the ball when she comes to me and asks "daddy I want to practice" and we go "practice" atemi-waza, nage-waza or ne-waza (I do jujutsu and not bjj). Though I do make some hidden practices when we are fooling around and playing and put in some katame-wazas (she is actually quite good at yubi-gatame, for her age) . But at the end of the day; it has to be fun for her.

[@tripleFcord_Garcia]

What do I say to my son to not quit after he's had his bell rung by an older kid my son is nine I wasn't there cuz I'm 5 hours away working and the other parent was pumping up his son my son loves jujitsu but after today he wants to quit any advice??

[@suckleseed]

I just got my green belt today

[@gracieohio]

Congratulations! Green belt is a huge accomplishment!

[@thylabyrinth]

Hope you're still at it!

[@suckleseed]

@@thylabyrinth 3 stripe blue 17 years old now!!!

[@thylabyrinth]

@@suckleseed OSS! 💪

[@Pifagorass]

I got mine JJJ for one year 4-5, BJJ 5-6, and now 6+ > 6 months both BJJ and Shinkiokushin (with acrobatics in the dojo). He already applied to BJJ for anti-bullying. Now adding 🎻 for fine motor skills. He's delayed, but gradually catching up with he's piers 😅 I'd love him to learn some Judo, but it's hard to find time as Judo is bit more far away.

[@S.-.V]

Not coaching my son can be so hard 😂. Especially when their are 30 kids in the class and 2 coaches and they can’t catch the little things. Definitely something I work on myself and really attempt to let the coaches coach.

[@kurtsteiner8384]

Bjj is good but so is traditional jujitsu japaneese. They compliment eachother. Did bjj just 2 weeks they closed due to covid. Traditional jujisu and nimpo bugei i did 10 years.

[@jenniferrodriguez1880]

Wow, you put a digital video I think you just tube is closed another joke no, maybe I gotcha. Did you bring another day:)😊

[@pugscaniche7866]

My daughter started bjj at 4 years old but the instructor wasn't very committed to teaching children 😢. So we changed gym and a year on we left the second gym again for similar reasons. So now I'm training my baby girl with what I can find on line. I do muaythai as she is too but bjj is something I don't really know anything about. But at that young age I guess it maybe a good thing to learn together bjj. Thank you so much for all you hard work.

[@gracieohio]

I hope what we do helps. There is also a great online tutorial from the Gracie's called bullyproof. It's worth a look.

[@pugscaniche7866]

@@gracieohio thank you so much. We are going to check out a new centre on Friday with a great kid teaching method

[@ismaelgonzalez5478]

Jiujitsu sounds like a cult , glad to be part of it lol

[@donniedeville5102]

WAY TOO MUCH RAMBLING. You talk way too much without saying anything. Please re-make the video with a simple question answer format. NB: We DON'T care about your family.

[@gracieohio]

Thank you for the feedback. We were just talking about redoing this one.

[@RodrigoSousaDigoDego]

8 kids? Wow! That’s awesome! Are you guys catholic? 📿

[@BrocklesnerBrocklesner]

Spread the gospel before it’s to late Jesus died for are sins jeuse is are lord and savior Jesus is coming soon