Joan Kim Hates Clubbing I GET REAL Ep. #16 Highlight

Joan and Ashley talk about an unpleasant encounter at clubs and how Joan got a guy kicked out at the club.
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[@joanday]

Lolll bathroom buddies 👯‍♀️

[@youllzkn4985]

They teased us 🤭🤭

[@alysssumsss]

I can scorpio joan. Hahaha

[@JeremyThanaparamy]

This is for stop followers old less 😂😂😂

[@esmeraldamorenolopez3405]

"is that why you guys travel to the bathroom together" 😂😂😂 yes bm yes

[@kyngnaava]

The real definition of a friend is BM

[@maariyahsadack7594]

I’m so glad they are talking about things like this👏

[@saggymcwaggy]

Bm asking the girls is that why you guys travel in groups to the bathroom honestly me as a girl BM I don’t know either I just follow either I don’t want to wait alone or i I don’t want to wait outside idk why still

[@C_Y_R]

It's because of safety, a guy or guys can corner a girl in the club if she's alone.

[@saggymcwaggy]

@@C_Y_R no like I thought he meant like regularly when we go to the bathroom

[@hopecha1788]

instict tbh i get that i have no fucking clue why we have to be in groups but i know its a ~thing~ and suck it up for my friends lol

[@saggymcwaggy]

@@hopecha1788 lol I get you me and my friend be going to the mall and like I don’t need to go and they like came with me I’m like bitch why then I complain and ending up going with lol I don’t get it

[@veritush]

for me and everyone I know it's all about safety!

[@rocacore]

What Ashley said its true:( most of the time many of us get helpless when ppl cat call us bc what can i do?:( Hope that there is a day were our future girls don't feel scared to go out:((

[@AliceKamiya]

And I'd say that most of the time, people around see it, but they do nothing. So I'm like, what if I call him out and he gets violent, and I'm left to fend for myself?

[@G4MBIT]

@@AliceKamiya do you expect bystanders to speak up just coz someone whistles at you or calls you babe?

[@AliceKamiya]

@@G4MBIT Most of the time it's never just a simple whistle, and yes, actually there is one time a random guy did help me out when someone was harassing me. People can help if they want to.

[@G4MBIT]

@@AliceKamiya well, if it’s something more than just a passing comment or a whistle, I’d assume people would be more likely to come for your help.

[@kassandramilloroso5890]

I love strong women. Joan u continue being like that. Stand up for people who cannot stand for themselves. I'm like Joan too so I totally love that.

[@Ranee192]

The clubbing culture in Seoul shocked me. I went to a club in Hongdae and it was exactly like what Ashley and Joan described it as. My friends and I tried to make our way to the dance floor area in a line, and I kid you not, my friend up front and at the back got groped all the way by different guys. We left the club after 20 minutes cause who would stay at such a place? It's as if these guys that go clubbing have only one mission - try to pick girls up for a one night stand. They have absolutely no respect for you or your personal space. Girl can't even have fun, geeez!

[@asipofteawithnosuga]

Im really glad to read your point of view♡...cuz...i seen a lot of yt videos in wich girls are talking about how fun their clubbing experience is in Korea and how safe it is compare to the states. Also how they hooked up with hot Korean guys and stuff🤦🏾‍♀️..anyways i think it doesn't change the fact that us girls should be safe out there .

[@kimberlyoshiro848]

Yess, thank you for sharing your experience. I live in Brazil and here the clubbing culture is also crazy, especially at college parties. A lot of guys touch girls without permission and try to forcibly kiss them.. I wish I was joking but one time some random dude grabbed my hair just to get my attention! I was soo pissed off

[@ikonicshawol]

Sameeeee! I stayed in Seoul for 2 years but I only went to the club once. I had no parts exposed, wearing long sleeves, a cardigan and pants but still get grabbed everywhere. Till one point a guy cut between me and my friends, slipped his hands between my arms, crossed our fingers together from behind and I can fucking feel his honer. After that I never went to clubs in seoul again 🙃 Not that I'm conservative or what shit but I felt disrespected there

[@Ranee192]

@@asipofteawithnosuga Glad to share!! Agreed, safety takes precedence.

[@Ranee192]

@@kimberlyoshiro848 That's insane. Gosh, I would be equally as pissed off!

[@rebootalbum9479]

I'm all for what Joan is about, but Ashley's right, you just never know what type of person you're confronting, they might be crazier than they look. I once saw a guy grope a girl at the club and she got mad and stepped up to him, but then his GIRLFRIEND stepped in and he turned it around saying the girl was the one hitting on him, and then the gf went ham on the other girl. Ridiculous.

[@kt-bl4zl]

The confidence really depends on the situation. There are times I feel so strong that I'll fight anyone but there are times where I feel so helpless and agitated. I wonder if things will ever get better

[@crystaelkim526]

Honestly this podcast is everything! I love the topic they talk about! They relate sm that sometimes i feel like at home.Thank you Dive studio for having them!!

[@jasmineeerin]

BM being protective of girl friends is the brother/guy bestfriend we all wish we had 🥺. And to other guys learn from BM 🤙🏻

[@ireeree...]

i admire their friendships, it’s honestly 💯

[@heykid95]

Matthew & Joan have big "the strong must protect the sweet" energy and we LOVE to see it! Lmao that's how I am with friends & family too but about myself being harassed I'm much more shy

[@meenaasian]

IS THAT WHY YOU TRAVEL IN GROUPS TO THE BATHROOM??? no BM, it's cause there's a troll IN the dungeon!!

[@YCLee1812]

2:15 this is why we stan BM

[@kiwinoona2009]

It’s so annoying since even if you’re like out with your girlfriends like getting boba *ALL COVERED UP* you and your friends will still get catcalled 😒...

[@Cahyahana88]

3 minutes only, With Joan Kim my favourite youtubers... 40 minutes please 😍

[@miyane447]

WE ALL NEED A bm in our lives PERIODT❤️

[@GenF91]

I totally get where Joan is coming from, when we go clubbing all we wanna do is drink and have a good time. The last thing on our mind is trying to find guys lol.

[@chaotic_kpopfanmultistan7042]

“Is that why you guys travel in groups together” yes BM us girls need to have back up for many things

[@Okayme8080]

Being a girl is so complicated we face this kind of issues everyday, everywhere 😭🥺

[@lazy_blipblop]

People should learn respect and boundaries. Consent is important.

[@zarir.963]

"Any man that lays a hand on you" Yo my guy friends are like that too. They treat me like I'm a guy but when someone tries to touch me in a club, they're ready to fight

[@Amynuvied]

Ok, this is such a serious topic and is 100% true, I mostly feel like Ashley so I just avoid all the places where i can feel unprotected. That being said I can't with BM's question at the end hahahaha. Gotta listen to the podcast rn

[@wennessa94]

I enjoy going to edm festival more than clubbing because being enclosed in a small space is just so suffocating and the fact that guys think girls who go to club are there to be pick up by them but hell no! I mean we just enjoy dressing up and feeling confident hitting the dance floor enjoying the vibes with a bunch of other music dance lovers. That’s it. Nothing more than that. I hope more girls could stand up for themselves as we are the new generation of strong independent woman who need respect.

[@violapermadi1174]

Loooooooveeee that cliff hanger at the end haha.. although girls go to the restroom in groups not always for that reason, i’ve never heard of it actually, but thats possible

[@deedoothings]

In my high school, everytime we had a school activities outside the school like study tours, camping etc one of the rule is if you're a girl and want to go to the bathroom you have to go with at least one of your friends. Its better if you go in a group

[@arialjoyroderos5651]

Jiwoo and Somin is protected. I can finally sleep well without thinking something like that will happen to them. I do hope we all have a friend like BM and Peniel

[@JethKin]

That final question lol

[@user-rt3kf7ru9g]

I've had a few nice clubbing experiences but most of them were bad/icky so my friends and I just stopped. It's too bad, bc I really enjoy getting dressed up, looking fresh and feeling good, and being around other people who also dressed up and having a good time with good music. Another way to get that type of vibe are weddings, but even then things can also turn into a weird clubbing situation when single people are involved :/

[@wennessa94]

Or any music festival! I enjoy going to edm festival more than clubbing because being enclosed in a small space is just so suffocating and the fact that guys think girls who go to club are there to be pick up by them but hell no! Just like what you said, we just enjoy dressing up and feeling confident hitting the dance floor enjoying the vibes with a bunch of other music dance lovers. That’s it. I hope more girls could stand up for themselves as we are the new generation of strong independent woman who need respect.

[@jennelie6762]

Just love their friendship. Huhuhu be good to each other. Love lots. ❤💕

[@_RenasAli_]

It's nice I got the subtitle thanks soooooo much and I love you bm

[@WelbyIsYourGod]

That was the greatest/funniest cliffhanger to end on lol

[@Nnnm377]

Lool Matt’s question in the end 😂😂

[@sammygurl637]

I really appreciate my guy friends.. they really do be looking out and are protective.. after any outing or event they would always escort us to the car and make sure we get in before they head to their cars.. and even my girl friends.. if its an all girl night we make sure to park close to each other so we're all walking in the same direction.. if someone parks farther we take them to their car first or we drop them off to their car.. lol.. ALWAYS STAY SAFE AND CAUTIOUS OF YOUR SURROUNDINGS

[@C_Y_R]

I do this with my friends too & that's how you know you got good people in your relationships if they do this. Prioritizing loved ones safety should always be at the top and on the same page with everyone

[@laninachelle]

I’m glad they said something about this

[@Quasimodoish]

Can’t wait for the whole episode!!!

[@gracehlung]

BM: "It's okay. TELL ME WITH YOUR EYES" lol

[@karaxxii]

Hahahahaha, Matthew! I am one independent woman, I can go to the bathroom alone. 😆😆😆 I am like Joan! I will definitely kick butts and grab their necks if they do something or touch me without permission. I was sexually harassed when I was a kid, and I was scared of people knowing it, but growing up, I learned that this could not go on and I need to fight back.

[@rubyjane3063]

HAHA Yes BM that's why we travel In groups to the bathroom

[@ILoveSoonkyu]

I've never seen Joan like this 😆 It's fun to know this side of her

[@noorsyaziyah]

just listened to the podcast, very interesting and they do talk about real life.....

[@shreyosibanerjee4906]

Felt every word of Joan. I keep getting into fights due to this 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@jenniferwhite5256]

I enjoy tuning in every episode it’s so fun and energizing 🥰💜

[@dididi2589]

Joan is such a girl crush

[@lizethrodriguez3516]

My problem is that i will fight back and i dont think about the situation like if im in a position where ill get hurt i just recklessly ask 😳

[@leighdaphnerevellame1205]

In situations like this, I'm definitely Ashley :( that's why I don't go to places where I can be in that situation. I just enjoy the comfort of my home.

[@mauriciojimenez2598]

I AM SO HAPPY THEY TALKED ABOUT THIS! cuz this is not normal, thats harrasment! get those dudes kicked out of the club!

[@bezawitketema3328]

Happy to see u all

[@sugarmilk28]

When I read the title I automatically thought that BM would have the girls back it they encounter a pervert 🤣

[@ginaverso]

I don’t know if you guys can say the word openly in the podcast (haven’t listened to it yet)... but what Ashley and Joan described it’s legit sexual harrassment! Most (or all) women experience it daily. It’s frustrating and hurtful not to be able to speak up when one feel so helpless.

[@swagatasaikia1472]

We all need a BM and Peniel in our life.

[@veritush]

this is why me and my friends always go at least in pairs to the bathroom at clubs or public spaces in general. the worst part is that men get offended when we defend ourselves. so enraging!!!

[@veritush]

nobody is left alone waiting, nobody goes alone. this is a rule we follow always. most of the women I know do this too

[@mksoreichon6200]

Joan yess ❣️❣️❣️

[@sissy8652]

Joan is the personification of "call an ambulance but not for me."

[@confusedllama8636]

I'm like Ashley in these kind of situations. I wish I could be more like Joan. Usually I just silently go away. But I really should cursing them out or something.

[@itzmemtn3496]

can Joan just become a regular guest on the show? 👀

[@ILoveSoonkyu]

PLEASE

[@libbykaras]

Yes Matt that is why we travel in groups to the bathroom 😂

[@chichi7391]

I'm about to head to discord and vent some more hahahaha

[@mrys3167]

Yes BM! Yes!! That is why we go to the washroom IN GROUPS! 😂

[@alinagala9955]

I can totally relate to Ashley. She was very realistic.

[@amaiimaiii2527]

Wishin’ to have both guy friends like them🤧✨

[@eastherlivishohe1778]

Joan👍🏾

[@rzuue]

I'm kinda the person that is more confident to say something back when there's no one around. Because I don't like causing a scene and getting all that attention and dragging others into my stuff. But alone on the street, I think I would put up a real fight

[@ilive4anime.]

Sometimes it is the reason we travel in groups and sometimes its for who knows why

[@givandaeka]

Yea it depends on the situation, i got cat called once when i was driving by a truck driver oh my gosh that was so horrible, he went like "hey girls, watch out~" while laughing with his friends. Its kinda hot that day, i alr feel so bad then that kind of thing happened, i just flip the bird to them lol. But seconds later, im terrified what if they stopped me or like do anything to me. Then i go like different direction even tho actually I supposedly went to same direction with the truck :(

[@jeanelle9513]

Ashley really needs to speak up bub, learn to fight back

[@BleachBrownie]

2:51 sometimes

[@frangconna3265]

Awww Matthew :(((

[@vitrum114]

I love the topic they discuss here! I'm a Muslim girl, so technically I wear the hijab and wear modestly. Yet, I STILL get catcalled like wtf just leave us alone 😠

[@G4MBIT]

Damn! I wanna know the response to BM’s question.

[@shevy_shev93]

Ashley you from Flushing babe! Use that bass in your throat, I know it’s in there. No but fr I understand the fear; guys can be scary and many women have been hurt Bc a man felt rejected. If you need to get back up, you do it!!!

[@chichi7391]

This is toooooo real. And I agree about NYC. I cannot leave my apartment without someone trying to holla and I am not even good looking! Legit, I can have no makeup, be dressed in a hoodie, have a hat on, and these thirsty ass men are still trying to bag. Like, CAN WE LIVE????? Can we live?! And being randomly groped at clubs and bars. Oh. Hell. No. I hate that shit. Like why do I want a random stranger touching me??? I don't even know your name! At least ask to dance, c'mon guys. Do better.

[@shxna]

Buddy system always when going to the bathroom! It’s code. And if there’s another girl that’s alone, keep tabs too. You never know what kind of creepy people there are!

[@JeremyThanaparamy]

This is for stop follow old less 😂😂😂

[@jaepeach532]

I understand Ashley a lot because before when I get cat called or harassed I freeze. Now, if someone being an ass imma bring out every bad words i know and wack them.

[@millaeunsol]

Are they all singers?

[@Mayelaaa]

JOAN PERREA SOLA! Let her be men! 💕

[@nakamotorskrskrvroom8038]

We all need BM in our lives

[@laylashaikh7446]

The idea of clubbing disgusts me.....

[@chichi7391]

Also, I'm sorry, but the clubs I've gone to in Korea are mad sketchy! Like even if a guy asks to dance and I dance with him, they take things too far. I've had guys trying to put their hand down my shirt, up my shorts, everywhere. CUT! CUT! that's why all privilege's are lost. This is why y'all can't even get a simple dance!!! I think I'm so worked up about this cause I really loved dancing and going out, but these men are so disrespectful -___-

[@amberzulfiqar2484]

i relate to ashley sm. im a wuss

[@Kpop_Metalhead]

Ashley, yoyd better learn how to protect yourself and open your damn mouth girl. Because you not saying anything is pretty much saying it's okay for him to touch you because he can't read your eyes and that expression on your face is not you saying no. Girl youd better open your mouth & speak up for yourself or travel with a body guard.

[@milliepede6715]

for real, I would always tell this to my girl friends cuz I don’t want anything bad to happen to them and put those perverts to shame.

[@ranidayzie]

imagine the struggle women go through almost everyday uGhh

[@NyxCassie122]

BM IS MY IDEAL GUY

[@olitaarisca]

I wish i could have friend like BM

[@nytecrawlr]

Ashley is so soft :( protect her at all cost!!

[@aerithofmyore]

Buy a disco ball and just dance at home. I never get it why clubs are a thing.

[@berserker2740]

I wish a had a bm in my life and being like Joan in life ;-;

[@Zero_Da_Hero]

Ashley pick up some martial arts gives you self confidence

[@NuNu_004]

10 hours ago 1.1k like 4 dislikes..... Everyone just loves get real

[@emmascrivener8109]

Ah yes make privilege

[@bluefeels]

I want a man like BM

[@kimble90126]

L ol

[@spamandkimchi]

I relate to Ashley. I also get embarrassed/hate attention so I usually don't say anything and just walk away. It also feels like other people see someone harrassing me but do nothing, so I feel even more foolish to make a scene. 😔