No One Knows I’m Deeply Depressed

[@Mike_Cosentino]

The struggle is real. Depression is no joke. Praying for this dude.

[@HisMiraclesHappening]

In Jesus name Amen 🙏🏼 ♥️

[@CedrickTudge]

Why do you Americans always fall back on "prayer", all that is is just thinking about someone intently. It does nothing

[@CedrickTudge]

Grow up

[@Mike_Cosentino]

@@CedrickTudge looks like you’re the one who needs to “grow up”, it’s called well-wishes. Ever hear of empathy before? I’m sure you haven’t. Take your own advice and grow up.

[@MsRadar23]

I cried when I heard him cry and I never cry when I hear other people struggling, the emotions were so strong in his voice

[@Justin-uc8sc]

This was brutal to listen to. Imagine the pressure on Delony to handle calls like this.

[@TruePathLiving]

Imagine the vulnerability of the man who shared this... I don't feel bad for delony. I feel bad for this poor guy.

[@topsoundmandan]

It takes a special and the right person to handle this, but I would say when it’s your gift/job it can become pretty effortless and you aren’t so tied in with the emotional baggage. I work with people in crisis, particularly young people who have been through trauma, and I love what I do. Doesn’t feel like work. I have also been to 52 cardiac arrests as a volunteer, same thing, I’m there to do a job and I don’t have any trauma or baggage from it myself. You need to have the resilience!

[@juliaorpheus]

@@TruePathLiving IKR?!!!

[@kenwilliams3279]

Yeh I was white knuckled on my chair just thinking STAY ON THE CALL, STAY ON THE CALL ...phew. So pleased he did

[@Acordionista509]

You know these calls are fake and scrypted right??

[@Aaron-cc7yq]

This young man just summed up the struggle of the vast majority of young men in this country right now.

[@BanjoPixelSnack]

And in the UK, su1c1de is the biggest killer of men under 50 in the UK. Yet no one talks about it. Awful.

[@abbypierce4196]

I wish we could have discussions like this. I’m in a friend group with a lot of “good strong men” and you can tell they are genuinely terrified of being vulnerable. One of the guys just broke up with his long term GF and when I ask him about his feelings/how he is doing, he can’t express it or talk about it, even when you can clearly see he’s struggling.

[@JanetKing-g9c]

AND old ladies too!!!!

[@anja4740]

And young woman. Every gender in every age could deal with this kind of depression. I'm as a middle age woman feeling this way.

[@Webbwagon2]

@@JanetKing-g9cdoesn’t count lady

[@BaNanie521]

Tristan, if you're reading this, theres been 2558 views to this video in the 1st hour. You're not alone buddy. When you get home from work, get outside in your yard. Get some fresh air. Wave at the neighbors. Barbeque something. The sunshine is a wonderful mood lifter.

[@theeggtimertictic1136]

and eat well (easier said than done). Our gut biome is so important for fending off depression.

[@Lydiaerinnn]

ALSO do you have nieces or nephews?! Put your time into them, you have no idea how much they will cherish it when they get older! plus they make adorable "wingmen"

[@stacyjaye6350]

I'm 67, I got a cat for the first time in my life, and an electric bike! Those two things made a world of difference! Also volunteer habitat for humanity, getting school supplies for kiddos in need, work making lunches for the elderly. Gratitude is key!

[@oolala53]

I don’t know if Deloney gets into it, but there’s a difference between having sad, or even angry feelings and aiming the other person for those. The caller is right that it can’t be all her fault but that doesn’t mean that he wasn’t hurt or disappointed.

[@donaldshotts4429]

Message in a Bottle from the Police always raises my spirits. Hundreds of millions of us feel depressed and alone. It's part of the human experience that we all have to deal with

[@francestaylor9156]

Man… I cried during this call. I know exactly how this man feels. Hopelessness is a tough place to exist in. It’s basically Hell. I was there many years ago and the good news is that it can only go up from the pit of despair. When you get your hope back is when you feel like it’s all worth the trouble again. Good luck Tristan. We’re rooting for you.

[@annaadams326]

Same!!! And prayers for this young man

[@AZ_TONY]

Hopelessness is a feeling and a feeling is a choice

[@Obiwan_Ben_Kenobi]

@@AZ_TONYand you’re blind to reality.

[@angelaramsay1778]

Ive had depression and ive had despair. Despair was much worse.

[@omgurheadsgone]

@@AZ_TONYbeing a clown is also a choice, how does it feel?

[@TexasAries4]

To the caller, this is the bravest thing you could have done. I hope you feel the love and prayers of the army behind you. You are not alone.

[@Brenduh03]

30 days! We are all waiting for that call.

[@joem6908]

It's been 30 hoping for an update

[@emm4142]

@@joem6908 Indeed! I just want to give him a hug.

[@Sambrostar]

Damn when he said "The world won't be a better place if you're gone" That really hit me. I'm not even depressed but I felt like crying after that

[@leonou3858]

Very powerful words indeed!!

[@tk5067]

We hear that in our heads, and we believe it because it's our voice we hear. It's a lie, and sometimes all it takes is someone to call it out for the lie it is. I have so much respect for this call was handled.

[@Joe-iq1bu]

It won’t be a worse place either lmao

[@nutrirebyanaluarrivillaga2646]

This broke me. As someone who has struggled with depression my whole life… listening to him just broke me. I can feel his pain 😢

[@jm7804]

Positive thoughts your way.

[@karynpappel1318]

​@@80for80and you're an idiot

[@karynpappel1318]

Me too, I'm listening to him and thinking please, please don't harm yourself. At the same time and ironically, I do have a plan and I teeter and struggle daily.

[@soulinameatsack29]

​@karynpappel1318 Do you have a therapist? How are you doing? Let me know if you want to talk, I understand where you're at and I would love to hear from you.

[@KW-kr9gh]

The pain is visceral. ❤️

[@missduke8391]

Giving this caller a big hug through the screen. What a kind soul he must have. May he find peace, joy and happiness.

[@jh26pt2]

Dr. John handled this call perfectly. He’s on top of his game here. I hope Tristain gets the help he needs, and then sets out to make friends. He seems like a really good guy and he deserves happiness.

[@prince_of_summer]

Yes indeed. And trough call he relised that the guy need immediately help. For me that was really touching because it obviously that this nice man don't know that he has right to be better.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

Tristain, Brother, If you see this you aren’t alone. You have an army behind you walking with you. The journey to healing is worth it. Can’t wait to hear the 30 day update with Dr. John! Prayers and blessings! ❤🙏 Also, for everyone wondering Dr. Delony did update us at the end of the full episode and he got Tristain connected with his friends and colleagues there in Utah!

[@Sorchia56]

My heart hurts! This poor man. You’re absolutely right, we are all holding his precious soul up and praying for him. Tristian, hold on. I beg you. We’re all here holding you up until you can stand on your own. Then we’ll walk with you. Complete strangers loving you and being here for you. ❤️🙏

[@ptsdsucks9069]

Thanks for the update, great news. ❤

[@Yeshuareigns1234]

Thank you for this update!! My heart goes out to him.

[@ChurlzVA]

Tristan, you're not alone. I'm heartbroken and feeling lost as well. We'll get through this and come out stronger.

[@aimeehamby828]

It’s so difficult to hear the hurt in people, knowing they are going through this every single day. I just wish everyone had someone in their corner, cheering them on. We all need that.

[@Seeker7257]

Unfortunately, cheer does help, but not in all cases or scenarios. There are some problems which only have particular solutions and a misdiagnosis of a particular problem is often the reason why people suffer in cycles/episodes.

[@aimeehamby828]

@@Seeker7257 So very true.

[@reflection8578]

I know. You can always hear it in their voice when they are truly hurt.

[@aimeehamby828]

@@reflection8578 😢

[@youareloved8274]

I have Complex PTSD from abusive marriage and rough divorce, and I'm now a single mom. I have some anxiety and depression, trying to cope with my ex husband left me for someone else, some days are better than others. No one understands where I am. I have a counselor, does not help situation

[@jennyf308]

For whatever it's worth, my heart goes out to this man and anyone feeling this way.

[@pustensalanca95]

feel this man, 29y old, living in eastern europe, no family, no gf, felt my whole life that im "not enough" even tho im living on my own

[@srdjanix]

I am same age also in Europe. How are you man

[@pustensalanca95]

@@srdjanix pamtim bolje dane brt

[@srdjanix]

Da takođe, iako na prvi pogled imam bolji život, ustvari nemam, naročito jer sam nisam vise U srbiji, I bas je tesko

[@devonways1657]

You've always been enough. Believe it 💖

[@Slyfox..]

How are you now

[@boxesbinslidsllc]

Man, there are so many hurting people in the world 🌎. 💔

[@gavin3598]

You'd be surprised. It could be your coworker that you see every day and not know a thing.

[@princessirial]

Ive had to be admitted into hospitals twice for this. If you are reading this, my heart goes out to you. It sounds from the call that he is a people pleaser where hes been trying to make others happy, and he doesnt know how to do the same for himself. I say "im sorry" all the time too. You have so much worth, and you are so much more than you think right now. Virtual hugs.

[@user_kb]

I hope you're doing better, from the bottom of my heart. The ridiculous thing about suicide that I've heard from Jordan Peterson is that you can always do it at a later time. Try to find a reason to keep going, and find someone to open up to, ideally in person if you can. Again, I hope you're in a better place mentally 🙏🙏🙏

[@games68775]

Was really important for John to say that he's looking forward to a conversation in 30 days and putting it on his calendar. That guy looks up to John and having an obligation out there like that I feel is at least something meaningful to hold on to in the midst of suffering.

[@amydoran9987]

This was such a sad call.Talking it through with someone he trusts, and maybe getting a pet to help with the loneliness. I hope he finds happiness.

[@weenunu]

Not if he works 16 hours a day. Wouldn’t be fair on the pet. ☹️

[@Ayesha______]

@@weenununo That’s not true. Cats can deal alone. They sleep like so much too

[@BubbaSnipe03]

We need to normalize men to be strong enough to cry when need be

[@invisiblespirit5476]

I don’t think that’s the answer

[@Savvynomad225]

Men heal through action not crying

[@starkilla7777]

There’s a time and place for it

[@cur244]

Women hate when men cry that's why men don't show it.

[@user-fj4zc2sr5z]

@@Savvynomad225you’re part of the problem

[@monicabarker8888]

Dont go home on Wednesdays go to Bible Study, make friends. Go volunteer at a soup kitchen or food pantry. Go to the library. Adopt a cat. Please do not go home and vegitate. You are enough. You are wonderfully made. We will pray for you.

[@jimv77]

​@@SarahConnor562Nothing beats being low and depressed and getting my fat ass kicked....

[@elyse443]

It’s so true that Connecting to other people can help a lot.

[@blazzmatazz9051]

I'll go to Bible study with my Cradle of Filth "Jesus is a c*nt" shirt. That will bring me joy

[@H..M..]

@@jimv77a good dojo is a community; I have been doing American Jiu Jitsu for 11 years and it is both a great workout and a great community. And yes, you actually do feel pretty good after getting your ass kicked. I think lots of activities that get you into a group of people working to be better are appropriate.

[@heather4089]

@@elyse443not everyone wants to be connected with others. The fact that I see through other’s eyes and their fake lives and lies really disturbs my peace. I rather be alone than being surrounded by fake people.

[@jamiehuff9783]

I hear his pain. Dr. John…you’re making a difference in people’s lives. We all struggle and you remind us that it is part of the process.

[@lisabraun6036]

When he said “I don’t know how…” meaning, to value himself. I felt that so deeply, to my core.

[@twilde3754]

This is what my daughter does -- takes calls just like this one. After watching and listening to this, I have so much gratitude for the work she does and Dr. JD does. Geezus!!! Real stuff.

[@christinenewhouse6920]

Jesus is real..I talk to God each day and I feel so much joy and peace.❤

[@biolife3274]

Work and partners cannot be your identity. You have to love who you are when no one else does. When the job goes, the girlfriend/boyfriend goes, the pet goes, the friend goes, you gotta be able to stand with yourself and feel like you're still here.

[@rocheclip]

Yes. Love this. Finding meaning through our suffering

[@katherinealba6768]

That is unrealistic. A nice sound bite, bit not realistic. The man is lonely. There is nobody there for him and that's not how human beings are wired to live. Human beings are social, group animals.

[@brainy1977]

Nobody truly understands until they live it. The average person can’t go a couple hours without talking to someone. Try going 6-7 months or even years without hardly ever opening your mouth. Imagine forgetting how to communicate properly because of the long periods of isolation. I know people say they care and you’re not alone but in reality the only true person we have in life is ourselves, nobody really cares about anyone but themselves.

[@chiragmehta8212]

True but I am Failure. Ever since I lost my job I lost everything. I feel like failure

[@karenkramer3760]

@@chiragmehta8212 You, yourself, are more important than any job. You will find another one.

[@lukegraham5105]

I really feel for this guy! I'm in almost an identical situation.....but I have been for 5 YEARS! Being hopeless and discouraged AND lonely is a very rough place to be! Praying for this guy big time!

[@thululindesnothando5720]

5 years 😮...God have mercy on your soul.

[@magnumblonde]

This man is absolutely amazing. From the little I know about him, I would go on a date with him in a heartbeat. He seems so genuine, kind and loving. “Yes sir.” Respectful , and I bet he’s a complete gentleman.Sure he’s got some things to work through, but he’s capable. Look at how hard he works at his job. He’s got determination that he has not given himself credit for. He just wants somebody to come home to. That can’t just be anybody, it has to be somebody who will show him grace, respect and to challenge him to raise the bar for his self confidence each and every day. The world is a better place with him in it. My world would be a better place with a man like Tristin in it. I wish you all the love and self worth in the depths of the universe.

[@CHrisPetE056]

I promise I will be here in 30 days to hear from Tristan to see how he is doing. I’m going to quote Dumbledore: “ many have stood their ground and faced darkness when it comes for them, fewer come from the darkness and force it to face them. There are all kinds of courage” ❤❤❤ you got this Tristan!!!

[@deb9806]

I hope he checks in on him sooner, doesn't have to share,

[@marlynsantos9677]

This call literally broke my heart... wow. He's so brave to even make the call. I hope he gets the help he needs.

[@amylenoir345]

Same 😭😭

[@flashthecorgi2053]

I can’t even express how much I LOVE Dr. John. It’s calls like Tristain where his expertise really shines through. His compassion, empathy, and directness in serious situations is SO admirable. Dr. D is AMAZING!!!! ❤❤❤

[@marilyntill9507]

We all need a DR. like this man.

[@BG-mh6pc]

Wow, what a heartbreaking call. God bless Tristan.

[@brennanleyen]

My heart goes out to this man. I hope he got help and is on the way to recovery. Well done, Dr. Delony!

[@christinanavarre8389]

Hello Dr John....I'm 66+, am on my own on the last walks, rides, runs etc of my life. I have been alone for 10 years now. I am divorced and a widow. Actually I am the last of my family line. Now that's interesting to come face to face with. I have one true friend of 36 years I'm 11 years her senior. A few acquaintances. I enjoy spending time with myself in my home camper, pets, journaling, and reading my Bible. Haven't watched TV in 9 years. I do not find myself lonely or depressed . I do consider myself blessed. My entertainment is selective KZbin channels, that broaden my perspective. And a comforting movie here and there.....that I have usually enjoyed more than once in my lifetime. Perhaps the young fellow should perhaps rescue a pet that's had a hard life....something he could spoil that would be so grateful to see him after a long day of work and vice versa. Introspection is a good thing as you know.....as long as you don't fall down a black hole. Much accolades for how you help others. Good Journey Dr John 🙏♥️

[@winkA1]

That’s great advice. Fostering and then adopting my greyhound 10 years ago turned my life around. I suddenly had someone to take outside and get up in the morning for. My life is in a much better place now but I still love that dog to death.

[@David-wo9un]

Wow, one of the hardest calls to listen to; I am numb.

[@loribruno6389]

A lot of it starts in childhood, I feel you brother. Will be praying for you ..

[@danielcota5716]

I would like to remind people that “ just do ____” and you will feel better is like telling an alcoholic to smell the vodka so he can feel better. Not very helpful when depression gets bad.

[@afterthestorm9355]

Thank you. Hobbies Bible study connection -EVENTUALLY-but right now, it’s surviving and lifting the depression! This isn’t a mood-this has been building year by year

[@Tyme_flies]

Thank you, my thoughts exactly. To read comments that say just do x,y and z and you will "feel" better. If I had a quarter for every time someone said that I'd have a down payment on a house.

[@sydniruth]

I'm sobbing. SOBBING. My heart is exploding. We are all proud of you! It take so much courage to call into a world wide show and say you need help. We love you and can't wait to hear from you in 30 days! You got this

[@thisistheway3812]

Im with you Tristan. I have felt that way. Its sad its scary. God bless this man. Its so hard without good people in your corner. John, you are amazing.

[@meetandinspire]

"Those things that kept you safe as a kid are going to destroy your adulthood. They don't work anymore." "When you've created a whole world where the metric is how you feel, and your body tries to get your attention to say 'this doesn't feel good', you might shut down. However, if for a season you push through the feelings and say, 'alright, I understand you don't want to do this, but we're going to do it anyway'."

[@CamMcGinn1981]

I can relate to this one. I wish I could give you a hug, Tristan. You're a good man trapped in a dark place. Sending good vibes and love your way.

[@pamthompson694]

Praying for you Tristain! Talk to God he’s a very good listener. He loves you unconditionally.

[@pinkpanda5696]

My heart is breaking for him. I know he can get the help he needs. Stay strong, sir. Thank you, Dr. John for being there for him.

[@melisa8256]

I hope this brave young man is heading towards a much better place these days. My heart aches to hear his pain and I empathize with how he was feeling.

[@jaketaylor5800]

Tristain, you are brave and courageous for reaching out my guy. You're not alone. I want to hear from you again in 30 days too. A lot of your story is relatable to my current story. Keep seeking help, you are worthy.

[@deeanna8448]

I feel for this guy. I have been there, and it's soul sucking and demoralizing. I promise it does get better. ❤

[@KarolM1964]

Tristain, you are not alone. .the entire audience of this channel is 100% standing beside you. I will be right here in 30 days when you call back to check in. Please take the step to see a counselor in person. You sound like a great guy, and this world would have hole in it without you.💙

[@Dixie8642]

Praying for this precious man. John, you are a bundle of love in this world. 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

[@Justthefurofus]

It hurts me that he’s feeling this bad about life. I seriously hope he gets the help he deserves. I’m sending much love to this man and hope he comes back to talk with Dr. D! ❤❤

[@cassieblack1776]

When Dr John said those things that you used to survive as a kid don’t work anymore …. Gonna be real I cried. 😂 I love that this show not only listens but HELPS!

[@kr3mmy]

i hope the caller reads all these comments and knows he's not alone and doesn't have to do it alone. the place he's in is worse than hell and sadly too many of us have been there. you got this dude, there's light on the other side of this mess and you'll be there before you know it

[@nicolettemoore7711]

Awe I want to give Tristan a huge hug! We get stuck sometimes and it's near impossible to crawl out by ourselves. I'm praying for you.

[@stephrice7297]

Loneliness is an epidemic. The effects can be devastating

[@sy_dianne5224]

It's much worse to be surrounded by toxic people, and I know because I lived both scenarios

[@paulkersey7458]

It’s worse than that. It’s an epidemic of meaninglessness.

[@MyNCAARTG]

There are a lot of people, young people, and young men in general who are struggling with depression right now. Praying for this man.

[@Aunny123]

“I need to work” after being told to go to a hospital by a mental health professional is the most American thing I’ve ever heard lol

[@kaw8473]

I'm speaking from experience: simply being alone is sometimes the best case scenario and you don't realize it. There are far worst fates than being physically alone; surrounded by backstabbing friends who keep you around because you make them feel better about themselves, emotionally bankrupt parents who resent your existence, a dead end marriage that makes you feel alone. Start by finding gratitude in loneliness and go from there.

[@katie0303]

I have been alone for 4 years. I do have family / friends that I see. They are good relationships. I don't need someone to greet me at the door. Love yourself first - the rest will fall into place.

[@bluejay9235]

I know, I had to move back in with my parents due to rent increases, but when I was living alone, it was nice. So many people think that marriage and children is the be all end all, but it's not for everyone, my parents are no more happy or fulfilled than I am.

[@huydang813]

the guy is used to living with his gf for a while. now he feels like there is no body loving him. that's a big part of his depression

[@diaslamure6048]

Me too. First and must you need to make yourself happy.

[@Savvynomad225]

Being alone is ultimate freedom. Learning to do what you enjoy alone gives you all you need in life. Something people struggle to realize is their experience in life is their own, secret to them, regardless of whoever else joins them, it’s still their own memory and experience for themselves.

[@lissysmith7029]

I want to hear your update Tristan ,what an incredibly brave call to make .Never been more proud of a stranger .Youve got this and the sun will shine soon .Keep Smiling 😊

[@SeparationOfChurchAndState]

So glad this caller called in and Dr Deloney was able to help him. Touched by this caller’s ability to be so vulnerable. I pray he makes a full recovery and enjoys life again.

[@gabrielcaro]

So fucking painful how relatable this was…. You must find value in yourself to build connection with others. He sounds so much like me growing up. Never truly felt value in me until I was an adult. I had to cut a lot of toxicity out of my life and learn to love myself.

[@thatprogramer-kj7sl]

Gabriel if i may ask,how did you manage to love and value yourself? I may be struggling with the same thing

[@tuf7759]

I would like to know the same thing

[@Lydiaerinnn]

Social media also depresses people. But do you have nieces or nephews?! Spend your time with them, you have no idea how much they will cherish it when they get older and it will also help your siblings out. plus they make adorable "wingmen"

[@juliewohlfarth9627]

For one who has struggled with depression for most of my life, this call broke my heart. Dr. John handled it beautifully

[@30mj30]

I have been there before. There is always a lot of suggestions that come when someone is stuck in a rut like this, usually along the lines of go to the gym , go volunteer, make friends etc. All good suggestions but in that state it can be hard to be motivated. Every day feels the same, time blurs together etc. What I found helped me was to take the tiniest baby step first, I started waking up two hours earlier and starting my day then. It sounds like nothing but you might be shocked how just shifting the hours of your day around can snowball into positive changes. With a different routine you start seeing different people, maybe go to your usual places at a different time, start finding time to be productive where you weren't before. Eventually, bigger changes can start happening just from one small change. I'd recommend this to anyone who feels "stuck" in some way, just one tiny change that won't fix anything on its own but can lead to positive changes over time.

[@brainy1977]

I like this! Finally some different advice besides go to the gym, go and volunteer or get a pet 😏

[@jamiebollenbacher4762]

Great advice, and you're right. Anything you can do that makes you feel just a little bit more positive about yourself is a step forward when you're feeling depressed. Now, when I start to notice myself feeling stuck and beginning to experience a sense of hopelessness, I think about the things I can begin to work on right away that will give me a boost of self worth. Cleaning my house, for example. And while someone saying, "go to the gym," would've never worked on me because I hate public gyms, about a year ago, my reaction to feeling hopeless and stagnant was to take more walks and start eating just a little bit better, and that just naturally snowballed into about 25 pounds of weight loss and me now even lifting weights at home pretty religiously, because I LOVED how that productive sense of working on myself made me feel, almost instantly. Just start small, everybody!

[@christinastpierre3052]

I feel this man's pain so deeply! I was in counseling but it only seemed to make it worse! My primary PT me in an antidepressant and I'm hoping it will help! I've been suffering for 7 years between dealing with multiple diagnosis, losing my job, and family issues! My situations sucks because yes i get emotional but I struggle more with the fact that my brain thinks I can do it but my body says no you can't! This Dr. And listening to his advice has helped me immensely! Prayers for Tristan! I hope you find the help you need! Looking forward to hearing from him in 30 days!

[@TheMallyjoe]

Get a shelter dog you will be amazed how good you will feel coming home to this little dog. I have always had a dog and I never feel alone.

[@boring_elderly_millenial]

Or volunteer at a shelter after work, if he doesn't have enough time to spend at home with the dog. It would get him interacting with people and let him make a difference to a lot of dogs.

[@ygm_dom6702]

Exactly he needs something to love. A pet or volunteer somewhere.

[@karynpappel1318]

He's away from home 12hrs+ a day. That's no life for a dog, I'm really sorry to say.

[@MrCaelbe1]

Dude I think I'm team cat in this case for that reason. Or at least an Oscar fish. It's a good hobby to make friends with. Oscars come to the top of the tank to visit when you come home.

[@BettieRage3977]

@@karynpappel1318there’s always doggie daycare.

[@bexbecs]

I’ve only been watching/listening to Dr. John Delony for a few months and I just appreciate this show so much. I feel like it can seem like it’s a lot of drama but you can tell that Delony truly cares about people and the fact that this caller was able to say his feelings out loud in a practically anonymous setting probably helped him so much. Thank you for this show! ❤

[@Ja50nkAt]

14-16 hour days!! That's why he's depressed, no time for hobbies, get a new job ASAP, that's a sad life to only be working, you are not the money you make or the clothes you wear or the relationship you're in. You're paycheck is not your identity.

[@StephanieYoung-x8v]

Your comment should have 1,000 likes, not 4! I was wondering why no one else had said this. That's what I kept thinking. He has no time for a life. It gets to you working like that. Others suggested a dog. I'm thinking no! Dogs are definitely wonderful and fill a void but the poor dog would be so lonely! He's killing his soul working that many hours!! 😢

[@Ja50nkAt]

@@StephanieYoung-x8v Right!

[@bsbg-lifts]

Sounds like his issues go back further than just this job. In fact, it sounds like this job is the only thing he has going on right now - finding a new job is the last thing he should be doing. Cutting hours? sure.

[@Ja50nkAt]

@@bsbg-lifts BUt if cutting hours isn't optional because of the demands of the job then...

[@ED-xk5sb]

Maybe the reason he’s actually working so much is because he’s at least around people when he’s working, but he’s home he’s alone

[@genrod-gal7265]

Tristain, I’ve been there even with a family, I still felt lonely. I hated my life, I was depressed but I want to tell you there is light at the end of the tunnel. Even if you don’t see it at the moment. Have faith. Another thing that helped me was I got a pug and she saved me life. She instantly because an emotional support animal. Hang in there ❤

[@kricketstrickland2851]

Man, not a listener but the title made me stop in. This guy is so authentic and caring. This had me crying more than the guy on the phone. I related too much. How did he know about having a plan.... My is going fishing. Lots of accidents can happen when you go fishing. Not confessing anything. Loosing the ability to communicate, say what you feel, talking to someone, it's hard to see a road back when you follow rabbit trails. 😢😢

[@italy1769]

please get some help, find a therapist that works , your worth it.

[@bobs64ford352]

Had to think back and make sure that wasn't me on the other end of that line. Took me a long time before I realized a lot of my problems were from loneliness and I still haven't solved it.

[@andreaagles7359]

In the exact same place right now and cried my eyes out listening to this. Do you have a plan? Well geez, so many different ways to choose from! I hope you can find the help you need and to be able to feel hope and peace and love in your life again!

[@mmkvoe6342]

I hope you see this today. I am proud of you for being vulnerable yourself and reaching out to identify with someone else and hope someone would identify with you. I can identify, having been in this place several years ago. You are awesome for keeping going and too valuable to lose, just like Delony said. Reach out here with how you're doing right now.

[@katrinawarner2205]

I have so much love for how you handled this call. I’m hoping all the best for him

[@kristariggsrichard]

Dr. John, thank you for helping this man.

[@sarahh5604]

Poor guy. I hope he is getting help. Tristain, you can get through this and things will not always feel this hard.

[@RemnantRev]

Loneliness. This man is bound by loneliness

[@masonreich]

as an 18 year old boyman i already see and appreciate the work you do. Thanks for being you Doc.

[@whiskeyrivers]

I'm praying for you, sir. I've been there. It does get better. God Bless you.

[@phattjohnson]

If prayer was the be-all and end-all, Dr John would've told the caller to go to church, not hospital for help. I'm still 'there'. That's why I'm cynical :P

[@whiskeyrivers]

@@phattjohnson I'll pray for you

[@pamparasiempre]

​@@phattjohnsonI've been on the edge like this guy. I went to see some doctors, got meds and went through therapy for months. But in the end I just felt worse. When Jesus Christ came and picked me up from my ruins, that was the first time I felt safe again. You can not know what helps someone

[@wesmills2106]

Man I used to feel like this.. Still struggle with stuff, but man this hit close to home. Hope my guy Tristain is doing good.❤

[@tklf6113]

You can just hear the hurt in his voice wow. We are all rooting for you! ❤️

[@Natalia-nm2yt]

Sending prayers to this man. He deserves the best. If you read this, Please hang in there, nothing lasts forever, things do change for the better. It will get better, I promise.

[@StrongerThanBigfoot]

Exercise is the best pill for Depression especially cardio. Start slow and build up over time with the goal being 3-4 days of low to moderate intensity and 1 day of high intensity. This being said I know the feelings he’s having. I’m stuck in a relationship I hate because I don’t want my kids to think I’m abandoning them

[@JusCallMeC]

I feel for you Tristen. You're definitely not alone. I've got some heaviness in my life, as well. I feel your pain. Can't wait to hear from you in 30 days. You got this!

[@deb9806]

Well, I;m crying. I'll pray for him tonight and other like him.

[@lysapenguin]

Dr. D, you’re saving lives man. God bless you.

[@christyliberge4189]

Amen John 💖 dive into the grief. It takes time and extra love of self. I'm such an introvert. Coming home to an empty house is magical. I hope he reaches that moment.

[@pansypox]

I come home to an empty apartment, too. It’s rough, don’t get me wrong. But I fill my life with other people, places, animals, activities that create a sense of purpose so that coming home to just me doesn’t hurt as bad. It’s not a forever thing but you can do things to offset the discomfort.

[@tommyornothing7301]

Wow! This explains my situation 100%. I needed this so much! Dr.D is an angel sent to all of us! I’ll be praying for this brave guy. Thank you, Dr. D for all you do!

[@ShoJ369]

This is absolutely awful and desperately sad. I hope and pray Tristan gets the help he needs. His pain is tangible and how many of us have been there. 🙏🙏🙏,

[@Dansyoung]

I think the solution for a lot of the problems discussed is a greater connection with a persons hobbies and interests outside of work. If a guy like this found a true interest for say golf, fishing, camping etc he could meet folks with similar interests going through the same struggles and realize he isn’t alone, and he does add value and has purpose.

[@mayeliz]

This was brutal to listen to. Hopelessness is a tough place to exist in. ❤ 🙏

[@samsonrants6244]

This exactly how i feel. Sometimes i get really exhausted, like my body wants to shut down. Its so painful

[@jmtrs79]

What I like about Dr. John is he really cares. A lot of therapists just do the work to go home.

[@billiehanne1205]

This struggle is real ❤ Thank you for sharing, Tristan. Thank you, Dr Delony, for how you handle this. I agree with one of the comments above that Bible Study, volunteering in a Soup Kitchen etc... can work miracles. Human connection us healing and creates meaning outside of work. It saved me. It grounded me and slowly I could start building a life I like and that energises me. I think what surprised me was how much human connection I need. Odd as it sounds I underestimated this. I wish you the best of luck! You can totally do this!

[@JDH560]

Praying for you ! My 22 year old son , took his life 3-2-24, you have to get out of that funk you are in , ask for help , and ask God to help you, it takes work but you have to do it .

[@GarikaiGumbo]

I'm so sorry about your son. I hope you have since found some comfort and peace. Praying earnestly for you and his loved ones

[@JDH560]

@@GarikaiGumbo thank you sir

[@italy1769]

sending hugs and prayers 💙

[@JDH560]

@@italy1769 thank you

[@brittanyb5942]

So sorry ❤️

[@fire12731]

This is me too Tristan. Every day hanging in… hopefully this too shall pass

[@rocheclip]

Every day you choose to get up and face life is a chance to be grateful to be alive. I pray for your mental wellness and health

[@NelltheShiba]

Sending you so much love ❤

[@brittanyb5942]

🙏🏾❤️

[@keiliegreer5418]

I feel so sorry for him.. it’s a lot of us that feel this way

[@carolynjeane]

I'm feeling like him and I'm not suicidal but I'm almost off the edge. My dog passed away in January, I had a job offer rescinded, and then my husband was fired from his job. For a bit, I had to make enough to sustain both of us through freelancing and trying to find another job. I only had one interview so far, and they rejected me on my birthday in July. And now yesterday I found out my cat may have lymphoma and treatment may not work. If she doesn't improve soon she may be dying of cancer. All this while I'm taking care of a mentally and chronically ill mother and an 81-year-old father. I know God doesn't give us something we can't handle without him, but I'm one more bad thing away from just going insane.

[@JM-bg2ts]

You are a good person ❤ hold on.

[@brittanyb5942]

🙏🏾❤️

[@MariaKoroleva.Realtor]

This hits home! Every word for it.

[@user-fj4zc2sr5z]

Thank you for recognizing the pain in this man’s voice and making him feel safe with you.

[@glowgirl8171]

You've just touched so many hearts, including mine. Bringing people together like this might be your special purpose. Keep moving forward. We need people like you.❤

[@Lionel_Hutz-Esquire]

This call hit close to home. I’ve been there Tristan. You are not alone.