Are You Running From the Truth?

[@mimimonster]

To the woman whose husband is emotionally and verbally abusive and breaks things: My 3 siblings and I were raised by a father that sounds identical to her husband. We are 4 grown adults who have been TRAUMATIZED by what we went through. We have all been in therapy and have anxiety disorders and suffered from depression and self-esteem issues. So much of what we deal with is directly related to our dad’s verbal and emotional abuse. It has followed us into our adult relationships. And on top of it, we RESENT our father for what he did to our mother who is a doormat. He STILL treats her this way and it makes us sick. Do not do to your children what our mom did to us bc she couldn’t leave. Please spare your children of a life of witnessing verbal and emotional abuse bc it will emotionally and mentally damage them in ways that will follow them FOREVER. God bless you. I hope you can leave. Love yourself and your kids more than the abuser. ❤ Your children are worth safety and so are you. Your husband will one day rip up things your children make for him and it doesn’t get more emotionally and psychologically damaging than that.

[@silvesan9162]

My heart breaks for you and your siblings. My sibling and I experienced similar...we also bear physical scars. We did therapy and find that talking with each other and supporting each others cooing strategies has helped. Praying for and your siblings.

[@BlackjackArmyCaptain]

I'm sorry you went through that. My father was a "thrower," we were thrown or choked. Choked was preferred by me because once my ears stopped ringing from being slammed to the grond and head heading that hard floor, but the pain all began to vanish the harder he squeezed those rough hands around my neck and the room would began to blur but I could hear my step-mom yelll, distantly, "That's enough Richard." Then I would come to just laying there alone, I can still hear that freaking Zippo clicking open in the adjacent room after words as I laid there crying and laughing, silently, all at the same time. The smell of those cigarettes warfinging into yhevair

[@Daisyela4]

Every word you said 💯

[@user-vf3fz7qv6v]

“Don’t let an adverse outcome prevent you from being a person of integrity”. What a beautiful piece of advice! Thank you! You are so inspiring.

[@elainenilsson5472]

That wasn't her ex going to sex parties. That was her HUSBAND going. Big difference.

[@lesleewatson4266]

David knows what’s better for him than his parents. He can apologize for lying but not for choosing differently for himself. An ounce of bravery will get his integrity intact. Good luck.

[@brightpage1020]

For the woman whose husband has ran around on her and hosted sex parties in their home that got circulated on the net - he isn’t worth the benefit of the doubt. He hasn’t earned that. He has put your body and your family at potentially very serious risks. He earned only doubt, suspicion, and repulsion. Your family requires safety, sanity, stability that he chose to put on the line. Shame on him.

[@brightpage1020]

Thank you, Dr. Deloney, for saying “Let’s not give him the benefit of the doubt.” You raised a sword for this woman who needs protection for her family, needed it from someone who couldn’t or wouldn’t provide it, in fact betrayed them. Thank you. On their behalf and women dealing with this… Thank you!

[@jonclingan193]

His behavior is absolutely appalling. His total disrespect for his wife, what a complete joke he is.

[@evachalupa6459]

Exactly, he has smashed his right for her loyalty ("don't tell anyone") right on his own

[@crystalbelle36]

So true!

[@bashlea]

The woman whose husband is breaking things is experiencing abuse. If their anger is so uncontrolled they’re regularly breaking things, they won’t stop at items. There will come a day when it crosses over. I’m a domestic violence survivor and I work with other survivors and this story repeats itself incessantly.

[@bashlea]

⁠@@raydonovan9013children are resilient but unfortunately it has a lifelong impact on the kids. I just try to repay what was done for us, it’s not anything special.

[@Thunderroad8517]

@@bashleathis is true . I am one of them.

[@beastshawnee]

to the Last woman caller…- when you say “he’s generally a really nice guy…” and “it’s just these episodes.” Pause and reframe this. There is a word for this type of temper-tantrum person-COVERT narcissist. You see-You have it backwards. The “episodes” ARE his true self. The “nice guy”part IS THE MASK. So even tho 95% of the time he seems like a great guy-that’s the COVERT part. At his deepest center is an angry toddler who inly ever wants his way, thinks everyone else is an idiot and is willing to destroy YOU by wrecking your things. We know he gets physical too-You have to admit it-not to us but to your loved ones who will watch out for you generally. Thing is,..He will destroy your kids, I promise you. My Dad was like this. I barely made it out alive and I am not speaking metaphorically. He tried to murder me multiple times, also held the family at gunpoint raging that he would kill us all and then himself. No one knew. My mom wouldn’t tell anyone. Wouldn’t admit her marriage was a “ mistake”. She is elderly and has not one of her kids who fully love her even. We all have resentments of how she just stood around while we got beaten daily. She became the one to try and blame us…”You shouldn’t push his buttons! You KNOW how he is.” Yeah-and we tried to avoid him but it was impossible. I hated him, I hated my childhood. I’d rather have been aborted that live thru 17 years of insanity not feeling worthy of being protected. And of course when I was 18-it was “you’re grown- get out and make your own money-pay us rent and food $ if you come back. And I spent 50 years trying to fix my family. Before realizing It was never gonna happen and I couldn’t even be around my parents. Your situation is not my situation for sure. My dad was a total pschyopath. My mom became his enabler, his connection for approval and attention. He was a rager at all of us but never hit her-just us. She became nearly as guilty as him by this wanting to see him as a poor, damaged, wounded dog. She was gonna stay and “Help” him, get over that. He went thru counseling and eventually just conned the last counselor who agreed with him that he was a “nice guy”. Did he tell the counselor that he held me over cliff edges as a baby? Threatening to drop me? Did he say he had wrecked 7 cars ? 5 by driving me alone in front of incoming cars at stop lights? Did he admit the suffocations and the drowning attempts? All the covert sneakiness involved in these action whilst appearing such a nice guy? Sadly people LOVED my Dad. “He’s such a great guy!” And he was. To them as a mask so no one else would ever see his basic evil toddler self. Very few saw it-if ever. I was more mature thinking and acting than he was when I was 4 years old, YOUR kids are not gonna be safe, BE careful leaving. Don’t meet up alone to get a last quick box or nothing. Women are more than 800% more likely to be murdered when entering or leaving a relationship and it’s even higher when pregnant-which you are! That’s the real statistic- you can look it up. I did.

[@bashlea]

@@Thunderroad8517 I’m sorry to hear that. I hope life has gotten exponentially better for yiu

[@michelewithonel70]

This call has my heart pounding. DO NOT HAVE THIS CONVERSATION ALONE.

[@Cowgirlkate]

It’s time for David to live his life and his dreams. I’m wondering if David is Asian, because the pressure he feels reminds me of my Asian friends and their family pressure to live for the “family” and the picture the family wants to present to the public. I’m so proud of David for working and providing for himself. The book dr. John mentioned by Lindsay C Gibson is amazing; a must read for adult children of emotionally immature parents 🔥

[@vivianworden]

That immature parents book isn't going to work when its an ethnic thing. David is either Asian or Indian

[@keard558]

He is definitely Asian. And that book can help. "Being well cared for in non-emotional areas can create confusion in people who grow up feeling emotionally lonely. They have overwhelming physical evidence that their parents loved and sacrificed for them, but they feel a painful lack of emotional security and closeness with their parents."

[@peterlee584]

That's what I'm thinking too. It sounds like a cultural thing.

[@fire12731]

Very interesting with David and I think too this is culturally - related. David says He didn’t want to be a doctor. I know many Asian families for whom this is true that the parents make the kids fulfill “ their “ dreams.

[@debbielockhart7762]

I would say being from Vancouver, he is almost 100% likely to be either Indian or Chinese as they have a huge Asian population in Vancouver (I'm from Vancouver Island - so very close to Vancouver).

[@Mimi-Mimi668]

First story guy is a good guy that let a "simple lie" go on too long because of legit reasons but lies always get you into a sticky situation no matter if the lies were warranted

[@janevarley8482]

Stacy, you got some fantastic advice here. I went through almost an identical experience. I’m ten years on. You will not only survive but thrive. Be grateful that you have money! I know women whose husbands burned through all their joint savings to fund other women. You have time to start again. I still mourn the dream, the old age we were supposed to have. I will never forgive him for blowing up our family. His selfish desires caused so much pain for my two children. But I truly believe that children only need one sane parent. I will say a prayer for you. Listening to you brought back a lot of memories for me. I absolutely promise you that you will be ok. And don’t date right now, you need to heal. Like John says, get a support group and stop keeping your ex-husband’s secrets. What is done in the dark will come into the light, tell him that if he complains!

[@karenhultgren7810]

Prayers of strength to Stacey. Very best wishes for healing and making an amazing new life for yourself.

[@1463FJ]

Stacy!! I am so sorry for your pain. I have lived through a similar situation. I remember sitting in the car doing calls as well to protect my son. Bless you. You are not alone and you can email me anytime. If you would ever like to just vent, I promise I am not some weirdo. I am 53 and a mother and starting all over again too. You can do this. Don`t let him take anymore years away from you!. God Bless.... If you would like to just email even or do an email, let me know. Hugs. -Erin

[@firststar2]

Poor kid. It was always my parents dream for me to become a doctor. After 2 years or pre med and shadowing, i realized it wasnt for me. I told them i was changing my major and moved on. My parents continued to lie to friends and family members that i was in school to be a doctor or is already a doctor. I didnt want the pressure of living a lie, so If i was around, i will correct them, and my mom would get so angry that i embarrassed her. it was easier for her to tell people that i was in the "streets " than to accept i had a regular job. Made it seem i was on drugs and hoeing out there. It made her look like a victim and people can hold her hands and pray. Now they wonder why i have such a bad reputation. If you dont have parents like this kid, you wouldn't get why he lied for 5yrs

[@hollytalbott7291]

Stacey, my ex was doing different things than yours, but I was so blindsided. I fell into a deep depression and I still don’t trust myself or other men (and it’s been 24 years). I wish you the best!

[@peterlee584]

Sarah, please try to get out as soon as possible. You deserve so much better and so do your children.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

The empathy and compassion Dr. John has is so radiant and inspiring. My heart goes out to all of those callers who are in difficult spots, hope y’all find peace and healing! Thank you to Delony for letting us feel we aren’t alone in the situations we find ourselves! ❤️

[@grilleFire]

Yeah ! Dr. John Baloney is great!

[@almeradupissani9812]

Love your corgis!

[@morgancache3483]

For the last caller, it was like listening to my former self. A safety plan, just in case,will help initially. Open a bank account separate from where you bank with him. Consider taking your family up on their offer of a place to stay. Don't be embarrassed! You have not done anything wrong. The Sherrif's department can help you too, even be there if you decide to leave or help you with a more detailed plan. It doesn't matter you haven't been hit yet, you feel threatened and for good reason. I know it's hard to make that call. My former husband was high up with Dept of Crime Control so I truly understand your situation. There is peace on the other side of this. Get yourself help and you and your children a safe home. You are much stronger than you think. I don't usually comment, but my heart goes out to you. I'm glad you called John. Major first step, you told some one.

[@tinam761]

I know a woman that literally had cold hard cash saved to leave her husband. She slowly put cash in the freezer. I worked for an attorney and she came in with all cash to pay. Plastic tampon holders can be emptied and roll some cash to put inside. There are ways, empty a lipstick…

[@cynthiawaldorf9353]

I feel sorry for the young man who has been lying to his parents about going to college to be a Dr for 5 years. The pressure to be what his mom and/or dad pushed for him to choose as a career is super hard for him. You can tell they haven't equipped him to stand up for himself and what he wants to do with his life.

[@tundeterez]

I didn't feel any compassion from Delony on this one, al.ost like he took the lie personally.

[@brennanleyen]

Fantastic advice and holding space for your callers. I can totally relate to both female callers. I am so sorry that small, immature, lying men wreak so much havoc in families. The caller with the sex addict husband was right- her children’s innocence has been affected. Sarah, the pregnant amazingly strong and capable woman needs a long plan. I’m so glad she has support. She is going to need it. That MIL is a piece of work. Best of luck to all of them. 🤗 I survived DV and had a 3 year escape plan. It worked and my small children are safe.

[@LeahThies-e8u]

Hey Dr John! Definitely cried during this one! On a happy note this holiday season finally at 41 my husband and I did the best job we've ever done of setting healthy boundaries, making a plan, and staying well throughout the time with the chaos that is our extended family. We had peace and made joyful memories with our four little ones. It has taken a lot of work to get here, and your show helps motivate me to keep at it. Thank you and your whole team for what you do!

[@oWMatt]

This epizode was something special (at least to me)...Dr. John is an amazing help to so many people. Greetings from Slovenia (EU)

[@pixie3458]

I can so relate to Stacy... Similar happened to me 20 years ago. It left me with mental health issues that would come up every few years... Even though I successfully rebuilt my life and brought my children up to be wonderful adults, with the bare minimum of financial support from him. The worst part was not being taken seriously by the professionals I confided in. Dr John's advice is exactly what I would have loved to have found back then

[@conniecepeda3441]

I wish you'd been around and doing this when I was going thru my divorce in 2000. Thank you for being there for this woman and her children. I'm still navigating the destruction I allowed by taking a stance of protecting my ex's reputation with our children. I wish someone would've told me to stop and make him own his bad behavior.

[@brightpage1020]

Sarah from Richmond, There are too many women joining you as abuse victims these days. I’m so so so heartbroken and sorry you are among them, and so scared for you and your family… like shaken on your behalf… and I pray you get a safety plan. It’s called a safety plan… it includes an exit. And I thank God that there are more resources available these days for women stuck in this. Still not enough, but at least more awareness is growing and more support… Please please please take it. Run with it. Away from him. You don’t need to tell him again. He knows. I’m scared if you wait until “it happens again” then any next time it could be your last. Being pregnant you have a moral, and depending on your state laws, potentially a legal responsibility to that developing child and your other children if not yourself. Please take that seriously. Please. For your own sake and especially theirs. Even if he doesn’t hurt your baby inside or your children, the stress of dealing with abuse is effecting their development negatively. It already is. You are mature enough to be aware of it, and that it’s wrong. You gotta accept help to get up and out… because he can’t. Or won’t. You staying is trying to manage and control him, but abuse is unpredictable by definition. It depends on the element of surprise and shock and intimidation to succeed. It feeds the cycle of abuse with those lulls into submission that illusory safety. If he keeps abusive, threatening people in his life, let that be his problem. I feel sorry for them - but from a safe distance for me. I pray you do the same. Let me tell you - I have 3 plus a bonus child. Even in healthy relationships, any number of kids over 2 gets unmanageable because you are outnumbered. It challenges the strongest marriages… But in a marriage of abuse… it can get even scarier. For all of you. And you have enough on your plate. You need folks in your life who lift you up, not break you down. Strong, healthy, appropriate ones. Qualified helpers like pro counselors lawyers and psychologists or whatever. At least 1 of each. This isn’t who he wants to be. But it’s who he is. The longer you help him deny it by staying, the longer it goes on and worse it gets. Your leaving might even help pull him out and up. But you can’t hang your hat on that. For now, you have to spread out depending on him to depending on others who are safe for your family. Go there. With them. Find out if it brings him up later, once you’re settled into safety for an extended period of time like 6 months to a year. Then, see. And expect him to rage when he find out you’re not coming back. Or you changed the locks. Expect that reaction. Expect more destruction. So do it in safety. With strong safety measures around you, especially if he’s connected with local LE. Get to a family members’ house for a few days outside that town and let their PD know what’s up, just in case. I don’t know but professional counselors do. Listen to them. They’ve coached people through this before and will understand your local system. I can pray for you and your growing children. I wish you a better life. - and soon! Praying for you!

[@tinam761]

I gave my ex so many chances because he was tired … he was stressed… it’s the holidays so bad timing… it’s my kids birthday… so bad timing… my counselor AND marriage counselor eventually had an intervention with me … I STILL DIDNT GET IT!!! Please 🙏🏼 please 🙏🏼 please… believe when professional after professional and friend after friend are all saying the same things and all worried for you. I finally called it when he choked me. He didn’t even try hitting me first… he went straight for choking. He would harass me, following me at my job, in the parking garage, breaking into my home and leaving notes so I would know. Take it seriously. He has a problem that is dangerous and know one knows just how far he will take it - not even him. And every action cannot be undone.

[@barbarajaneward]

Wow. Big Wow. this happened to my marriage 17 years ago. With adult children. Same details. Listening to this helps get through - even so many years later. Thank you a big Thank You.

[@kristinecrowley8321]

Dr. John....you are so great! . Thank you so much for all your knowledge, insightful advice and compassion. I’ve learned so much from you. If only you were in charge of resolving everyone’s mental/emotional problems!

[@kconnor2371]

Stacy- i’ve been in a similar circumstance, living in a lie of another’s creation for over 15 years. When it finally blew up and I could take no more, she even left her child with me and his bio father to raise. At 45 I started to rebuild and it’s a long struggle to trust and forgive yourself for being in a one-sided, manipulative relationship. do your best to protect the kids. You seem extremely sincere and working hard to do the right heathy things. It’s OK to make mistakes along the way. There is no great manual of life that covers these crazy almost unbelievable circumstances of life.

[@brightpage1020]

Dr. Deloney, I love your callers. Thank you for this show! Thank you for sharing the struggles because I hope it helps not just the callers but I’ve seen comments of listeners struggling with similar and how it helps them. Thank God for brave callers. It has ripple effects, man.

[@private-cr4th]

Wow! This is for Stacy. Thank you for your courage🙏 While we all have our own journey with it's unique story, I so relate to you. I am late 50's, in the midst of a divorce from a 35 year marriage. I am also disabled, though I've reached a point I can work a (very) few hours a week. Those hours are savue for my soul. I tried keeping things private as well. Big mistake! My entire personal life, friends, church, etc. were completely tied to my marriage. I'm left out in the cold because no one understands the extent of the lies and betrayal. Don't do that to yourself. I could go on and on. Please hang in there. You will find yourself, your purpose, your footing again. This may end up being the biggest blessing you could have ever been given, even if you can't see that far yet. Prayers for you and your children. ❤

[@melodyc123]

Why does he ALWAYs revert back to saying the kids think it's their fault. NO THEY DON'T. I never thought my father's bad behavior was my fault. Ever. Ever. Even as a kid I knew I didn't have that much power. So, an adult kid should REALLY know ... Dad is going to do what dad wants to do

[@brightpage1020]

5 years?!?! Oh my. That must be hard to carry. Better to come clean now and get on the right side of integrity. I pray practicing integrity daily will deepen and improve his relationships, especially the one he has with himself. I pray this will earn him more respect and trust from the world, especially folks he relies on or is close with. There is a reason many recovery programs preach a practice of “rigorous honesty”. That includes honesty to ourselves. Best of luck to this brave young man.

[@FL-CourtReporter]

Hugs to all. When my relationship ended thru a betrayal of 40 yrs, your support group would be full. We were robbed. I wonder as well on why.

[@Yo_soy_Annna]

This was such an interesting show 👏

[@abrakadabrah3031]

Kid who lied about going to school...sounds of Indian extraction. Parents pick their kids profession...they have little say...going against their wishes can have consequences...

[@silvesan9162]

I am not Indian nor Asian and my parents did this...they would severely punish us is we ever even hinted that we were even curious about a different profession than the one they had chosen for us.

[@snudder.s.m.l.5026]

That is such a great advice too the first caller. Big hugs from Denmark. 💝🌹🥰

[@benascg-ll7sq]

Call 1 : love the guy who takes charge of his life. (I wish I made similar decisions 40y ago). He did not lie, he just opted for the school of life rather than getting indebted opting for college. No lie, just need to reframe

[@mybdayis420]

Im not married so I don’t understand why women procreate with abusive partners

[@kaer_pn]

Exactly. You don’t understand. People change, you might never see your man being abusive or violent until you’re a few years in.

[@RepentImmediately]

​@@kaer_pnone of many good reasons not to get married

[@mybdayis420]

@@kaer_pn shes knocked up now. though

[@karenmcmillan4626]

You need to research complex ptsd otherwise known as cptsd. Sometimes non-therapists refer to it as relationship Stockholm Syndrome. Many women (and men also) were children raised in either physically abusive or emotionally abusive homes. So they aren’t even aware of the red flags of the narcissist behaviors or red flags abuse behaviors before getting into a long term relationship with someone in a romantic relationship or marriage. They are so numb to this behavior because of their childhood that they don’t understand what normal relationship behavior is supposed to be, sometimes until years later when they see other people’s adult relations and behaviors/ marriages and realize something isn’t right. Or they seek therapy because their abuse partner keeps telling them they are the problem and their therapist tells them they absolutely are NOT the problem, and they are in fact being abused!!

[@Rotting12]

@@mybdayis420don’t be so ignorant

[@JesseGraham-l9s]

Good Job John! I give you a lot of hard times in the comments here but I do want to say good job too!

[@braddossdfinc9722]

What a stand up officer. He certainly sounds mentally capable of being a cop. 🙃🙃

[@sandramorton5510]

They live in the same town, his father already knows....... To the last caller, run as fast as you can away from that man, he is going to blow - you will be the target.

[@RepentImmediately]

How big is the town you live in?

[@firststar2]

Ohhhh it makes sense now. I was super confused why he was lying about going to school. Yea the whole " be a doctor " thing will do it

[@brightpage1020]

Stacey from San Antonio, His sob story isn’t your problem. It isn’t an excuse for his betrayal of your family. That was his choice. He had a choice to end the marriage with integrity before engaging in all that. He was too immature to do so. Let that be his problem. Your focus doesn’t have to be on helping your ex “get help” now. He’s a big boy. He knows how to get it if he wants or thinks he needs it. He is no longer your responsibility. Phew! 😮‍💨 😅 😌 Deep breath… Shoulders down. Open a window, turn on the fan, and let that stink out… Ok, now that we are breathing it instead of toxins, here comes the hard news: You are still *your* responsibility. You can’t control him. He has rejected all your efforts through his rebellious behavior. Let that be as much good news as it feels like it is bad. Here’s why: Because now you are free to shift your focus from taking care of him or your marriage or your family’s needs - to taking care of your own. Because you no longer have the expectations that he will reciprocate your efforts. Phew! Sad, but real. You are strong enough to deal with real. You are getting there. You don’t get to hide anymore in solving everybody else’s problems. Thank God your kids are grown, but what a shame they grew up in these lies and deception. At least they are old enough to process and understand it appropriately. Phew! 😮‍💨 Ok here’s what, now: You get to focus on you. You get to be honest with yourself about what you need, what you like, what you require, what you prefer… and those can be difficult decisions if you’ve been in a highly controlled or controlling world. So, take it slow and find out. Meanwhile make sure you do a few things every day for self care: Excercise (walking for 10 minutes a few times a day counts) Brush and floss Shower Journal your feelings and thoughts daily Connect with a friend or supportive family member at least 3 times per week. Take a Zumba or tennis class with them… or do a fun activity, see a movie… unwind and talk it out or at least connect with what’s up with them. Find a support group. Many women have been through this - as awful and isolating and unique as it seems. This happened to my best friend with her 1st husband. You are not alone. That guy was a psychopath - and they are tricky. It wasn’t your fault you got tricked by a trickster. You know who they target?: People who are: - kind - generous - upwardly mobile (they can’t sponge off a log who’s always around to notice, they have to trick a busy person to do it for long) - capable - intelligent - fun - beautiful / attractive The fact that you were targeted is actually a compliment and it means you are likely all those things listed. So, you can recover. Now that this has been ripped off like a band aid. You might even bounce back stronger with deeper relationships and wiser for the discernment you earn through this experience. Go, Girl! Get yours!

[@brightpage1020]

We are rooting for you! People that like you want the best for you. Even people who don’t (so you stay out of their hair)… But people who love you won’t accept anything less. I think your sons love you. I thank God for them on your behalf.

[@deboraharies6983]

Painful though excellent advice too Stacey. Wow!

[@lucindastigall1636]

First caller, remember that you've had years to get used to this truth. If you're dad reacts badly at first, give him a little time to work through this new knowledge. Then see what his reaction is after he's had some time to process.

[@agadonk]

Before they hit you, they hit around you. Create your exit plan. Hopefully before giving birth.

[@FortressOfTheWolfMoon]

Man I don’t get it. I don’t even want to betray my love with thoughts. I’m not perfect but I couldn’t sleep knowing I betrayed my love my self my family my beliefs and everything that was instilled in me with my family and religion. My integrity goes to the core of me and who I am and want to be.

[@BlackjackArmyCaptain]

I wonder if that first caller is the guy who ended his family, real talk, same situation. It was huge news. They found out, and I think hecender his wife first.. horrible case.

[@abrakadabrah3031]

Why do abused... Love abusers.... No matter why... I hear this alllllll the time. Confused....😮

[@kowalchukm]

Idk why but I laughed so hard when he said “bye Felicia” just the way he said it 😂😂

[@hillarybillary21]

Ah yes the last caller. We’re makin strides ladies! “My husband cheats/has anger issues/abuses us/has uncontrolled rage and we have 1,000 small kids and I’m pregnant for the 9,000th time- how can I get him to change?”

[@suvisillanpaa-zx3bc]

Watching from Finland 🎉

[@bffoxjr]

To caller 1: Tell the truth about it, but know that you dodged a hell of a bullet by not becoming a debt slave to student loans. Now if you want, you can go back and just pay cash as you go.

[@abrakadabrah3031]

No idea..blinders... Afraid to b alone...so blind is better. She's so splintered... She's scared of self. Good thing she doesn't have to work...

[@faithevelyn8682]

Why are all the parents from Vancouver CAN the same 😅😢

[@Rotting12]

So glad I don’t have a husband

[@allil87]

Thank you

[@allil87]

I prefer the other lady at the beginning

[@Aixza]

If only Chandler Halderson called Dr. Deloney. He might have chosen to take the right course which was to be honest with his parents about not attending college and lying. Instead he chose to kill his parents. I’ve seen a few cases that end up like this. Are we having an epidemic of kids feeling too much pressure from parents to complete their dreams?

[@sgo1oneill]

Another police officer who doesn't know how to regulate himself... Holy...

[@russiandoll5858]

Is his name Sam? 😂😂went through that before Jenner was popular

[@Deheader]

The wife is totally talking about Fetlife or Reddit lol

[@mandeelee8416]

I absolutely HATED drs response to the guy who lied to his parents for 5 years. It’s essentially the parents fault? 5 years that a**hole lied. Yet we tell him not to allow his parents to influence him. You got it backwards. The kind of psycho it takes to lie about that for FIVE YEARS!!!! FIVE YEARS! That’s all I gotta say

[@silvesan9162]

You may want to listen again. The core message was that the son should not have lied,that he needs to tell his dad and that he must commit to always telling the truth.

[@vanessac0382]

The first caller has asian parents for sure

[@sarahhewitt1885]

Sarah who's now pregnant with a 3rd child with an unhinged man should be ashamed of herself for choosing a dangerous man to marry and have babies with. Shame needs a comeback. Hold women accountable for their actions!

[@liamlynch2115]

You took 500 pounds of her shoulders just by saying let’s not give the guy the benefit of the doubt. 👍

[@adearabby6154]

Delony is very good however somewhat immature. Whaddupwhaddaupwhaddup...how immature is that? Also singing things ..people and city names is stupid. When he quoted greeting his sister at an airport with " goonarea" !!! Totally not acceptable. Grow up.

[@k.l.massie8702]

Why keep watching if you think he's so immature?