Are You Settling for Less Than You Deserve?

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A wife struggling to embrace her financial success
A mom uncomfortable with her daughter’s living situation
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@anishnewton100 9 ай бұрын

It really helps to watch Dr John with an open mind and to actually try and learn from the callers situations and to learn from Dr John. He has mastered the art of listening to understand. Also, he has shown me it's ok to seek redeeming qualities no matter what a person has done. Seems like he truly loves people.

@copywritersblock 8 ай бұрын

I understand Alissa completely. Some men are children, fully depending on you for support and guidance but not having the capacity to return the partnership and in many ways, not even wanting to. A person can love you with their whole heart and still waste your time. I have been in a trauma bond for the last 5 years and have managed to walk away. I finally understand what it means to choose me, to love me, to be kind to me. I have peace and joy in my life now instead of the chaos and loneliness I felt with him. I have grown leaps and bounds in the last 5 months than I have in the last 5 years. It's not his fault, I held myself back and made myself small to make him ok. I am free and happy and you can be too.

@sarahvandenbos3784 4 ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@terashaking4119 8 ай бұрын

I really appreciate the way this show is hosted and produced. Dr. Delony gives the callers plenty of time to share. Epic!

@GenWomanhood 9 ай бұрын

John is really good at word pictures; "the kitchen is the chest cavity of the family." Great way to touch the emotions, John!

@RepentImmediately 9 ай бұрын

Some relationships are only meant to last a season and do indeed run their course.

@flyandshy00 9 ай бұрын

If a man is not making your life better - he makes it worse.

@godknowsimstupid7848 9 ай бұрын

Or neutral. Dont forget neutral.

@fauxbro1983 9 ай бұрын

Lol. Women offer so little thesesdays you ain't even worth it.

@dinajones2761 9 ай бұрын

@@fauxbro1983men either

@csx6910 9 ай бұрын

Same goes for a woman. Except, that woman can utterly destroy a man.

@RepentImmediately 9 ай бұрын

@@fauxbro1983women who have a lot to offer typically have very high standards and are very self-sufficient....the question you should consider is what do you have to offer a woman who actually has a lot to offer?

@sarahwatson3315 9 ай бұрын

Dr. John, you should do an interview with Lindsey Gobson the author of adult children of emotionally immature parents. She also has many other boos that are amazing and after learning about what Sue has to say makes a lot of things clear with some of the situations you incounter that could help your viewers along with your point of view that would be amazing to see.

@lilolmecj 9 ай бұрын

Childhood sexual curiosity can be very damaging, and when children under fifteen , close in age to one another it is still damaging, even if neither is a predator . It can be a difficult conversation without casting shade. But the way our system currently works, it will likely be much more damaging to that eleven year old boy from a legal standpoint. This is a situation that is poised to explode spectacularly. A custody agreement where each child does not have their own bedroom will not pass the test. I really feel for all the children in this scenario because some of the parents are putting their heads in the sand. Be so careful to not hurt that eleven year old boy, but these parents n ed to wake up.

@glitterstarbeau 8 ай бұрын

The courts are going to treat a girls sharing a room with her stepbrother differently than teenagers driving. Also, the court will say no more driving, and as long as it stops, they dont do anything else.

@tessaoshea5697 5 күн бұрын

Some people have a skill of speaking in a way that doesn't allow others to break into the conversation. The sentence never ends, gaps are filled with conjunctions etc. It's frustrating to talk to someone like that.

@wonder12374 9 ай бұрын

Last caller is trying very very hard to ignore the fact that the trauma she is trying to dismiss and excuse away so hard that happened between her and her brother when she was younger is now mirroring itself with her very own daughter. She can't let the fear of the emotional abuse she would have to face bringing up this issue with her husband stop her from saving her daughter from the absolute trauma that her daughter will face by allowing her to sleep in the same room with a boy she does not know. The statement her daughter made set off so many red flags....she is being groomed, and it's only going to get worse....next she will be asked to take off her top because boys do it.....etc....😢 The fact that the father is allowing this behavior is also very scary and may indicate that her daughter is not safe with her father....hard pill to swallow but could be the case. Many times when a woman is abused (no matter how minimal she believes the abuse was) she ends up subconsciously seeking that abuser in her love life...which is why most times the relationships go south 💔

@lsf71 9 ай бұрын

Caller 1 : Leave him...its NOT worth it.

@speedyllama8380 8 ай бұрын

My Al-Anon family group is the best thing. ❤

@glowieokenney7915 8 ай бұрын

I’m so happy that I came across these videos!!!!!

@emilykozel5087 7 ай бұрын

THE CUSTODY COURT is broken. They will not help with these matters. It’s maddening

@bestbudsourchannel4807 9 ай бұрын

Last caller...oh HE$$ NO! No, no, no! Why are you congratulating yourself on listening to your spidey-sense when there are multiple red flags??? TAKE ACTION!

@vivianworden 9 ай бұрын

Her boyfriend is not weaponizing anything. If anything he has communicated his limits and she needs to move on. He is not in a position to be what she needs. She's codependent and if SHE doesn't fix that about herself she will end up exactly where she is today.

@pejisan 5 ай бұрын

So much of society rests and is built on the work of women that WE don't even recognize it as "work", let alone deserving of a good work environment. I made that mistake for decades. Get that kitchen done!

@tessaoshea5697 6 күн бұрын

Women and men. Women tend to help people but men are also out there repairing neighbors fences, driving people to the shops.

@aprilwashington96 7 ай бұрын

Caller 3 Why haven’t she called CPS??? Why haven’t she gone to court to file a motion to amend the custody order???

@aprilwashington96 7 ай бұрын

Caller 1. Leave that man alone (not as in LEAVE, but stop pestering him). Focus on yourself. Stop making him your focus. You’re using him as a scapegoat from your own stuff. You came from a family of alcoholics and addicts. LORD KNOWS you have A LOT of childhood wounds to heal. Go address your stuff. John I think the book you’re referencing is Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. Another great book, Change Your Mind and Your Life Will Follow by Karen Casey.

@beastshawnee 7 ай бұрын

You can always sseee us fix-it trauma survivors. We clown and distract and minimize…

@scvillah 9 ай бұрын

I hope she allows to call what happened to her SA. I felt for her when she tried to minimize it. 🥺

@kellymorehouse4561 6 ай бұрын

John, you're good 👍

@TheBmonster1 9 ай бұрын

6:39 cuz she wants to hear that she is right right now not later. She needs patience

@_JanetLouise 8 ай бұрын

thanks Dr John ....

@julieo330 8 ай бұрын

Love your videos, but it is too hard to understand the second caller. Maybe someone on your team should monitor what it is going to sound like on our end. Seems like her mouth is too close to the speaker.

@Whatorwellsaid21 9 ай бұрын

The kitchen is “for her”? Lol unless the husband and kids don’t plan on eating, the kitchen is for them too. Some people really struggle with logic.

@Trackpad12 9 ай бұрын

She is the one who cooks. Use your brain

@Emmpra 5 ай бұрын

Never sell your tent!!!

@marilynnelson3559 5 ай бұрын

Ì think i would want to know the gender and age of the other children and the size of the house before going any further.

@deamon506 8 ай бұрын

Sarah just wants to talk 😂

@sarahvandenbos3784 4 ай бұрын

Swear I carry the load silently ❤

@horsepanther 8 ай бұрын

To be fair, there doesn't have to be anything untoward going on for a little girl to want to be able to not wear a shirt just like boys can. I was fricking outraged as a child to be told when it was hella hot outside, that the other kids were allowed to take their shirts off, but not me, because I was a girl (the only girl in my neighborhood). That was my first taste of how ridiculously unfair life was going to be for me due to my gender. Nothing to with sexual abuse. But it also doesn't matter for this mom's situation--she needs to stop rambling trying to convince Delony that letting an 11-year-old stepbrother share a room with her daughter is bad. Obviously it's bad. You don't need to rely on Spidey sense to know that's an unsafe situation.

@courtneymcfarland8333 9 ай бұрын

Whether was caller 1’s actual question? Issue? I’m so confused

@glitterstarbeau 8 ай бұрын

She just wants to break up and feels like her boyfriend is lame.

@nikkita1688 9 ай бұрын

Caller 1, did you consider John might ask questions if you called in? 😂

@asiler2052 6 ай бұрын

Hunting lodge 😂😂😂

@travisbur7110 8 ай бұрын

I now cannot wait for the episode after the Packers beat the cowboys in the playoffs 😂

@ethanmiller5487 Ай бұрын

Ok this made me extra mad... Bill and Teds holds up. Its a great movie!!

@shirleykilbride4555 5 ай бұрын

I just feel that from listening in to these conversations ..the steps asking these people to take are too giant ...would be useful to give practical guidance te taking tiny steps first as can be overwhelming to tell people to leave get out straight away ..etc out of tekationships when peaople may not have immediate neans to do so..no disrespect to the doc ..who its obvious that he cares ...