Wife Walked Out and Left the Country With Another Man!

[@michaelmillerii6640]

As hard as is it to see now…this is a good thing for him and his family. Never complain when the trash takes itself out!

[@ravenestrella2310]

Having their mom leave them like that is going to really tear those girls apart. Regardless of what kind of mother she was to them, they’re now going to be heartbroken and confused, and have a lot of healing to do. That’s never a good thing, under any circumstances!

[@eclipse.5295]

@@ravenestrella2310 Those kids will be just fine. Kids only need one stable parent and it sounds like they have it! My ex-husband doesn’t see our daughter and I’m more than enough for her.

[@ComOneMaybe]

💯💯

[@carolynmurphy3697]

Lol

[@marlapadilla7913]

Exactly!

[@brookemoore8369]

My sister’s husband had his first wife cheat on him via a phone game too. His ex wife did the same thing… started spending more time on the game and then went on a random trip to have an affair with the person she met playing the game. His ex wife who had the affair is now married to the “game guy” and is absolutely miserable while he married my sister, and they are both super happy. Great things are coming for this gentleman and his daughters. He sounds like a stand up guy, and his girls are going to be just fine with a wonderful dad like him in their life. One day, he’ll also find a wonderful woman that completes their family.

[@justinecamille7426]

@@gabrielchandler1274 stop spamming.

[@Joshuarcade]

I Appreciate your kind words 🙏

[@brookemoore8369]

Joshua Mancilla anytime ☺️

[@babatundeonabajo]

How do you know they are miserable?

[@carolynmurphy3697]

My friend's mum did the same to her husband and three children for a younger man that she married and had another child with. They came home from school to find a note on the table

[@RedeemedRogueMolecules]

People can be so lost, sick, and cruel. You didn’t deserve that man. Because He lives, I can face tomorrow.

[@justinecamille7426]

@@gabrielchandler1274 reporting all of your posts at spam

[@zeal4god402]

AMEEEEEEEN

[@simplygina7703]

So true

[@dinajones2761]

Amen!!

[@Crew4Life]

Some moms are flat out cold!!!!!. I guess birthing a child doesn't make one a mother/parent.

[@sarahhamad8791]

True

[@sueblack5794]

He said she became that way after the the 2nd child. Sort of wonder if she had post partum depression? One of things that happens with it is the parents can leave and do stupid stuff in the midst of it....or she is truly an awful woman.

[@jdkayak7868]

@@sueblack5794 postpartum depression still doesn't keep one from being responsible for their own decisions. What separates us from animals is the ability to think things through and free will despite our instincts.

[@GR-uc1gq]

@@sueblack5794 And then she had another child with someone else. Lady just doesn't love her first family

[@xhaltsalute]

That is right . Some women just are not meant to be a mother, just as some men should never be fathers. I wish we did not judge women as harshly as we do. But those women need to be honest with themselves and not bring children into their lives.

[@wiseowl2020]

Just don't take her back somewhere down the road. And she will come back because her fantasy lover won't be so fantastic. Be strong enough to tell her she left and she's going to stay gone.

[@nuri00ko]

To the caller Joshua: I’m so sorry this happened to you and your girls. The book “The Confidence Code for Girls” has been a great read and provides some tangible examples on how to teach girls to be confident. I’m reading it with my girls and still learning as a parent to raise them to be healthy, confident women. I highly recommend this book.

[@lousunny5682]

What a selfish women. How could she abandon her children like that. It’s one thing to leave a spouse. Obviously cheating isn’t right, but wow the depth of trauma these girls have is sad. The guys deserves to heal. He needs to seek help for himself so he can meet a healthy person who might become a step mom.

[@ginobenedetto4943]

Had a buddy that this happened to, over 10 years together and they had a 8 year old daughter. She just woke up one day wanted to begin partying and living out like she was in her early twenties again, left them both. They started off as 50/50 custody and then a few months later she signed over complete parental rights to him and hasn't seen her daughter in years.

[@dinajones2761]

It happens!! my cousins are teens and their Mom left them when they were babies

[@camcam221133]

As a mom, I try not to judge that woman, actually I'm glad she's gone because clearly she was not the mom they deserved. But I could never leave my girls.

[@macneoh7418]

As a single male, I have no trouble judging the woman....she is a POS.

[@willak79bud90]

@@macneoh7418 you're too kind.

[@dinajones2761]

My cousins are 15 now- their Mom left when they were babies- their father is alive and well but an irresponsible 40 something year old man child who shows up when he feels like it- luckily the grandparents adopted them

[@tonyl6385]

My mother did the same, except thankfully I was 16. She left the country with her second husband who lived with us. Only saw here three times in over forty years. Strange world.

[@Whitericeinmysalad]

Have a blessed day everyone and remember to be kind to everybody everywhere.

[@RedeemedRogueMolecules]

Hope you have a super fantastic day. Nice face!

[@flamingmonferno]

Hate to say this but Mom should lose any/all rights and custody and never be able to see or speak to her daughters again until they are 18 when adults. Yes I am all about forgive and what not but with Moms current behavior she wants nothing to do with them and the kids need a clean break instead of having them continually getting messed up.

[@terriesmith2616]

Agreed with you 100%. Mom choose to abandon her children. She made a choice, so it's only right to cut her out of her children's life until they are adults.

[@leekshikapinnamneni4835]

This is so heartbreaking. Your ex-wife is not a good woman and that is the honest truth. You and your daughters both need counseling first and foremost. Tell your daughter that you’re proud of them and just be present with them whenever you can. I’d be careful when picking a new partner. I don’t discourage it entirely but make sure that this new woman is a good role model for the kids. It’s up to you whether you decide to find a partner now or to wait a few years. Your relationship with your daughters is extremely important.

[@ceciliajohnson8812]

What an upsetting phone call. The poor man and the poor kids! ☹️

[@Trumblocity]

My granddaughter's mother abandoned her. My son is an amazing parent and I do everything I can to help. This is something I wonder how to tell her. There is no contact, no shared custody. I really don't know what to tell her or how my son should talk to her about it. My son is her anchor.

[@tinam761]

Get a child therapist. They can help navigate what to tell her. She can also have the opportunity to ask a professional her questions. Seeing a child therapist may bring out questions you and your son are unaware of. A counselor she trust might open some things up that are in her heart. Please don’t put it off because she seems okay right now. There likely are questions she has that she somehow knows not to ask.

[@Evil-Rod-Farva]

As a child whom was abandoned by my mother, when she’s old enough, the truth. Beginning to end. But get her in therapy now so that she doesn’t develop abandonment and trust issues. To this day I still do not trust or rely on people because of my childhood experiences.

[@Trumblocity]

@@Evil-Rod-Farva Thank you. She knows the truth as we can tell her at her age. The details are so upsetting. That's what we struggle with. How do we tell her the details when she's old enough to understand? For now she knows her mommy lives somewhere else and her Daddy takes care of her and always will.

[@Candace-M-]

I sometimes play a game where I meet people, but my husband knows about it and the people I talk to. I'll even read him the conversations. I couldn't imagine actually taking off and leaving my family to be in some relationship. It's this 'My life would be SO much better if I was *fill in the blank*' mindset people have that keep them from learning how to cope with the here and now. I've struggled with it myself. Running away isn't the answer. Your problems always go with you because you go with you.

[@blkimble]

Good riddance to her. He should consider himself lucky. Very sad for the girls

[@Btone1018]

I’m sorry I know I should be better. But that is just evil. She showed where her priorities are and it does not include her own children. As a soon to be father with a baby daughter coming sometime in the next two weeks, it hurts my heart even imagining leaving her. There’s just no other way I see it. It’s evil.

[@richthepup]

Nah imma need full custody no contact

[@hansonallie]

Absolutely. If not now, it will end up happening eventually

[@cloudedcolour5329]

@@hansonallie legally he needs to file for it and make sure he doesnt need his exs consent for anything

[@chrispark7010]

What kind of mother is that. Leaves her children for another man.

[@tinam761]

I would be concerned the girls have already picked up on their role to hold up dad. My kids became that for their dad . They sensed his needs and actively began try never to upset dad. You’d be surprised at just how well kids can pick up on this stuff and change their behavior accordingly.

[@theonemrham]

They are... Why couldn't you?

[@camxdidxthat]

@@theonemrham exactly

[@WordsPictures997]

Thank you so much for this Dr. John. Absolutely yes to getting into child psychology and him in therapy as well. He sounds like a decent guy. My heart aches that he's going through this. Really wishing for the best for this family.

[@sakurisake4201]

Its hard to believe how a mother can cheat, up and leave with the other man to live in another country, have a kid with the other guy and leave 2 daughters behind with their father. I mean how many men and kids does she need? She could have lived in the same country or near by for the sake of still being in her young daughters lives. Choosing to cheat with a guy off some game over her daughters is just only thinking about herself only.

[@pennyk1943]

I believe he’s leaving a lot out. Maybe his mother and his family were meddling in their life Two sides of the story people!!!

[@Shadowwind4]

Wow John, stellar job i almost felt like I was ready to take care of those girls when you were talking. Such a sad situation I’m so glad you are there to help when you can.

[@aelh123]

My husband doesn’t talk to his sister for THIS reason 💔 she walked out on her 2 children when they where 5 & 7 Now that my husband is a father, he recoils at the idea of having a relationship with her even more. He just can’t fathom being able to breathe without his child.

[@andrewoconnor650]

He needs to date, and he needs to heal himself. It sounds like he's a solid dad and the curiosity I have is how much his focus on his girls may also be (no judgment).. avoidance of meeting someone new and risking getting hurt again. He sounds VERY tentative and needs to dig deeper into what he's held up on with a counselor. He hasn't healed.

[@michellejones4110]

Imagine what the new boyfriend of this woman is like. What a disgrace they are. Stay strong young man. You'll come through this. Stand strong for your children. Get support and assistance. You must!

[@texasgina]

I could never have left my kids ever!

[@purpleviolet207]

My mom told me a million times over that she would never have left my brother and I! We felt very fortunate to grow up with both of our parents in the same household.🏡

[@Nah-ah]

My mum left my siblings and I when I was 1 😒 I don’t even know where to begin with how I felt when I was old enough to learn the reason why everyone else had a mother and I didn’t. Then when I met her when I was 8 yrs old I then overheard my older siblings talking about how my dad had relentlessly affairs way before I was born and that was enough for her to walk out. As a kid i always wondered why different women would show up at the house and my dad would send us to the park or the neighbours to hang out.

[@Joshuarcade]

@@Nah-ah 🥺

[@pugscaniche7866]

Stay strong and your babies will always be so proud of their dad. You are an exemple to many men out there....

[@Eyeris625]

well if she left him over a game, she is not worth having around. He should be a parent first and always

[@ntme6506]

Teach your daughters how to be truly loved by a Man. They will be confident in that always. Don't let someone stupid boy be the first one to buy them flowers, to ask them to dance. Show them that they are special.

[@zeal4god402]

When she has regrets and wants to move back into the country hoping to establish a solid relationship, when the girls are adults, they may or may not allow some of her presence, but I pray those girls keep their walls and boundaries up, their birth mother has lost her total mom privilege, the step-mom will likely get that

[@edwardbuchanan1480]

This was a good one! You surprised me, Delony! 😮

[@reneel2441]

You dont have to wait for a partner... just wait for the right one. Always do a background check. Don't bring them around your daughters until your ready to commit. Just date and get babysitters and don't give out your home address

[@stefaniamalatesta8076]

What an amazing man. He is such a caring and understanding Dad.

[@hansonallie]

She sounds like quite the prize. So sorry bro…

[@shirleyelling2761]

Great advice here. Nothing wrong with finding a godly woman who would be honored to be your wife and love what you love… your girls. “Whoso findeth a wife, findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor from the LORD.” Proverbs 18:22. Also see Ecclesiastes 26:1

[@Aventerra01]

Wife is sociopathic.

[@writeherstory11]

What a wonderful dad ❤

[@justinstone4476]

He seems to not read and filter out women well at all and gets used as a result (women bailing is a reoccurring theme in his life). Josh is a good guy though and will steer his family in the right direction. Personal insight would prolly solve it going forward

[@sesarssauce8698]

John, thats some great advice!

[@calebfromblood6915]

To absolutely no shock lol 😂 this happens a lot. You agreed to a contract that fails more often than it doesn’t

[@nscales20]

Mom will live to regret her actions.

[@oroville12345]

Good she showed her true colors ..

[@traceycurtis1005]

Also, good lord some of y'all need help, you are sick. A parent that abandons their children for a new beau is absolutely inexcusable. If he was abusive leaving them to that with no defense makes the whole situation worse. Please stop interacting with humans until you seek therapy.

[@A.--.]

Sounds like a super-Beta, this guy is choosing bad women into his life

[@mosesleparker]

Gotta screen em better.

[@mosesleparker]

As a single guy, I would be very deterred by a grown woman who spends time playing games of any sorts. I know some women do it, but just not for me.

[@adrianajimenez4342]

What a selfish woman

[@justinmaddock3491]

I struggle with phobias and rumination a lot !! ERP does not help fully ! Any help ?

[@alixhice]

I love this dad. Bless his heart. I can’t believe how difficult his life is because of his selfish wife’s actions. Thankfully he has a strong faith in God and two wonderful daughters. I wish him all the joy in the world.

[@oneofthoseguys2019]

John told this man pure bs good lord. mom found a better option and left out of her selfish nature hypergamy does not care

[@collinrosendall8369]

He almost said that word for word. What are you talking about?

[@Sam-vr9mf]

Dude, she left her children, what kind of mother does that. I mean divorce is one thing, but she moved to a different country. That's a serious thing. She made her choice.

[@A.--.]

John you are just showing people how to apply bandaids rather than getting at root causes of these issues in society. How about some conservative values! Lots of these callers are from liberal areas. The southern callers mainly have money-solvable issues and northern callers have psych-solvable issues.

[@COINsimp2024]

This guy doesn't know the reason his wife left? This whole story seems unbelievable. She left because he's a beta.

[@soni05131]

If it wasn't the first time, it's an actual win for you and the girls. The girls don't need that type of mother. Get counseling and have a great life with them!!

[@thembisaodendaal]

Have we all considered that this might have been the best decision this mother took as clearly she will be no good for them..so no time should be spent on her only to help the children move on

[@robroberts1473]

Joshua: wife left me for another guy...... Me: so when's the party?

[@kcourtney6826]

Being a single parent takes a lot of sacrifice, I don’t think there isn’t anything wrong with dating but that person needs to understand your children are a priority before bringing someone into your home

[@purpleviolet207]

Dr. John you gave that guy Joshua, some very good advice.

[@Price8903]

So trifling to leave the kids

[@bettysmith4527]

I am sorry for this poor guy and his girls... So sad that their dirt bag wife left him and them!

[@landofthefree2023]

"I'm trying to remember off the top of my head". Translates, I need a minute to make up a story. I don't exactly remember why means I need not reveal my being the cause

[@Joshuarcade]

Why do you think that ? I'm really curious?

[@landofthefree2023]

@@Joshuarcade I've done it so it's familiar. He changes his tone in that moment. There is tension in his voice. He emphasized "I am thinking off the top of my head" separating himself from that personal experience. It is a facet talked about in profiling communications and expressions.

[@moodboosters1019]

It doesn't matter his story, she left her daughters...that says it all.

[@Joshuarcade]

I think every story matters, just probably not enough time to share it all in a quick phone call to a time restrained talkshow know what I mean?

[@r987p]

Congratulations!

[@sheilaghburchart3513]

Josh - you’re a hero

[@helloanonymous9288]

She's for the street.

[@gregoryking4796]

What a lucky guy

[@thesilentambience2833]

Never sign a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it. In case I must spell that out, women in marriage.

[@amandawithlov3908]

Mom is incredibly selfish, has to be some underlying illness to just up and leave your family like that because I can't imagine a level headed person to be that cruel.

[@reinamacaren-a4132]

She is so shady that the girls may not......🤔😨

[@madisonandthefarm]

What an amazing dad, peace and blessings🙏🏼🤗

[@rachellawrence702]

There's always two sides. Ain't no woman leaving her kids just so.

[@ThePolypam]

Some women do through no fault of their partner's.

[@michaelmcatee221]

I feel so sorry for this man. Because I know his ex-wife is going to let him do all the hard work of raising these girls and then when they’re 17 and 18 she’s gonna roll up in a Bentley and she’s going to take them with her to live the highlife in another country and he’s never going to see them again. This whole story broke my heart.

[@nicolab2075]

Good grief!!!! What on earth happened to you??!!!

[@lakeishag76]

Bless those poor girls’ hearts.

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[@texan903]

More than likely there's far more to this story than we know. Was the wife physically or emotionally abandoned in her marriage? Was her husband having affairs of his own and the wife became fed up? I think this is really a one-sided perspective so it's hard to offer balanced advice.

[@cloudedcolour5329]

was it an excuse to walk out on their kids?

[@Joshuarcade]

There's always more to a story. In this particular story the husband chose to marry a girl against the strong advice of her mother and even their pastor. This is a sad story of reaping what you sow and the husband is doing everything he can to rectify the situation.

[@texan903]

@@cloudedcolour5329 we don't know what that conversation was. He might well have told her that she could leave but the kids were staying. It's not implausible. In that case, again, we are getting only part of the story.

[@siddheshmirjankar910]

More often than not, mothers get custody of their children after a split cause it's believed that children shouldn't be separated from their mom especially if they're as young as 5 and 7. Even if the father had even a small part to play in the divorce, he never would've gotten custody of the kids.

[@cloudedcolour5329]

@@siddheshmirjankar910 ​ @Siddhesh Mirjankar given that she walked out, he'd have a cause for parental abandonment but cutting off communication would only strengthan her case by saying he's alienating the mother.

[@adammanning1805]

NEVER go looking for a female. God will provide when ready.

[@ethan4048]

😂😂😂

[@Umph84]

Are you saying that if I never leave my home, put on 150 lbs, and give up personal hygiene, that a woman will magically appear at my front door with a romantic interest in me one day? Sweet!!! 😂 😂😂

[@adammanning1805]

@@Umph84 yes, do that

[@cutehumor]

JOSHUA, DO A DNA TEST ON YOUR DAUGHTERS FOR PIECE OF MIND!!

[@Mitzi73]

If you’re seeking another partner then you’re not focusing on your kids.

[@KS-cl8br]

It is fine to bash the mom, she abandoned her girls