My Husband Witnessed a Murder! (I’m Scared for Him)

My Husband Witnessed a Murder! (I’m Scared for Him)
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[@Spaceman99966]

I love how the title makes it seem like this call is about the husband , when this is her call. She's the one that needs help

[@bonjoursophie]

She desperately needs help - I hope she gets it. Wishing her and her husband the absolute best.

[@zacheryharmeyer8066]

This one hit me as a cop. I do this all the time just randomly I just leave the room mentally.

[@NvrDieNvrSurrender]

This! Me too! They need to teach the loved ones of first responders this because I was rarely if ever affected by the heavy stuff & I found the dark humor in everything. But my spouse, he didn't get it at all, he couldn't see that when I struggled at home, it was the result of all the trauma we deal with. So he thought it was me & he left. Dr. John explained it better than anyone did in the almost decade I worked the job...

[@MarinePigVa]

You are not alone my brother.

[@probablynot1368]

Is it possible that the caller’s husband has already been processing the event in his mind? After all, he kept a level head and safely evacuated several other gym patrons, saving their lives? That’s a hero. Then, he made the decision to go back inside to try to help/save the victim? He was unable to do it, and maybe he’s going through the ‘woulda, shoulda, coulda’ loop in his mind about how he failed to save another life. The caller hasn’t dealt with her own issues, and now she’s taken ownership of something that isn’t hers to take on. She’s the one who desperately needs mental health therapy. I hope she takes Dr. Delony’s advise.

[@israelmex888]

Exactly my thoughts, she is acting like she needs attention. She maybe a little shaken up about the thought of her husband could have got shot

[@semosancus5506]

This is why I laugh when I hear about females in combat. She is a Marine? Sure...

[@Chartlaub5]

Agreed. As an ICU nurse I deal with death a lot. I deal with it by have a nerd night with the guys and that is all I need.

[@katiegibson7425]

98dollarsaday

[@Chickenfingers552]

@ semosancus5506 not all service members are combat related personnel. There’s finance, HR, IT. It’s crazy you can’t think about that.

[@wonder12374]

This caller is going through what a lot of men and women go through in complete and total silence trying to be the strong one when they are dying inside trying to protect everyone else from the very pain they are slowly dying from inside.

[@dhritikapoor2897]

But the crazy thing is the husband doesn’t need protection or help in this situation. She seems almost upset about the fact that he doesn’t need it.

[@wonder12374]

@@dhritikapoor2897 she is projecting her hurt onto her husband

[@katemiller7874]

Men hold things in that’s a fact. It’s really bad for them they don’t even know they’re doing it. She’s in touch with her feelings like most women. This will manifest in him in other ways.

[@lorainefleeman6011]

​@@katemiller7874He's a marine, so hard to say.

[@MarinePigVa]

When I got hired at the Police Department, one night my girlfriend (now wife of 20+) years, heard me on a police scanner responding to a physical domestic. She heard me call out on scene and didn't hear me again for a couple hours. I walked in the door after work, and she jumped into my clueless arms almost crying. I asked what was wrong and she said she heard me respond but didn't hear anything for a long time after and got worries. I immediately threw that scanner in the trash. No way was I going to have us both going through this every shift. Downside of that is I can't really talk to her about it in fear that I'll traumatize her. So, ya do what you have to do. March on.

[@ithinkigottalent4047]

Dr John is amazing! As the caller was speaking, I was questioning "Is this about the husband or her?" It seems like she's the only one being significant about it.

[@AllThingsSoul]

Dr. Delony, your wife is a diamond! Is she a therapist, too? She knows how to talk to you, not talk at you. I love how she put her hand on your hand and said, "Hey, come back to us." Or she said you're with us, but you're not with us. Dr. Delony, you gave this Ann some incredible advice.

[@celinereyes1185]

her trauma is just as real as his. yes her husband witnessed it but if she lost her husband ?? she was terrified and terrified for him and still is.

[@aelh123]

Man you can tell this woman and husband are AMAZING people 🥰 I pray for her well-being and her husbands. Cheers to that little 6 year old ❤️ you guys got this 👏🏻

[@megalopolis2015]

Talk about a power couple! I am in awe of the both of them. Praying for the best for them, and that they become more of a team in their hearts and minds, not just their actions.

[@purpleviolet207]

Prayers for this lady and her family🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@9liveslisa]

If you don't take care of yourself first, you can't take care of anyone else. Like on an airplane and the oxygen masks drop down; you put your mask on first so you can help anyone else who needs help.

[@brittanysellscars5528]

This happened at the LA fitness down the street from my car dealership. The suspect was arrested in front of our dealership. It was such a random thing. This is also the second time someone was shot at that same gym. I hope she and her husband get the help they need. 💕

[@sensimania]

WTH is going on at that gym for people to be shooting up and place on more than one occasion??? 😳

[@ashcash2757]

I think Dr. John is right. She’s struggling to handle this (or something else) I think she’s projecting onto her husband. I think she needs help. Not her husband. I’ve witnessed someone be murdered. I did not need therapy. I’m fine. It seems like from the way she’s describing her husband that he feels fine as well. The person that needs help is her

[@joannahepworth2230]

She needs medication maybe

[@julieskipper1061]

Bravery is defined on many levels. Strong woman....made me cry.

[@AProbablyPostman]

One of my friends saw a guy get shot in the head while she was driving home from work. She was really surprised that she wasn't bothered by. The next morning she came out to her car and she was parked about 6 feet from the curb.

[@dnah02]

Both were in the Marine Corp I think he will be ok. But she needs therapy

[@katemiller7874]

If he doesn’t acknowledge it like most men he might freak out internally. Take his own life or there child’s ptsd is real.

[@mikesmith-wk7vy]

If he was military this might have been not much on him , if he saw a lot of combat and reacted in a heroic way he here might be over it . She seems like she is the one that needs the help

[@kaylacombs6254]

I think she needs help more than her husband

[@davidg.9561]

People need to give this woman a break. Traumatic events like this often effect loved ones more than the person who experienced it first hand. Had their roles been reversed, I bet her husband would've been torn up at the thought of his wife in danger like that. I've witnessed a shooting/killing and some pretty gruesome traumas, but never did I experience anything I'd categorize as PTSD until something happened to my wife (she's fine). Even today she jokes about the event, but it's hard for me to even think about. It'll just play over and over in my head.

[@reginasemenenko148]

Thank you, David. Some people seem to think they are qualified to diagnose. My husband is former military. I'll stop right there, though.

[@stevenmathie9737]

I love you bro thanks heaps. Well done 👍

[@thecommonsensecapricorn]

Crazy how someone who studies or works in threat assessment would be there when something like that happens… Really lucky for those around him. Thats why I want to learn those skills myself and get a conceal and carry license. Our world is no doubt a dangerous place and I want to be able to help when disaster strikes.

[@sallyhemings2295]

Sounds like she needs the help more than hubby.

[@katemiller7874]

Her husband won’t admit to that do you get it. It will come out in other ways

[@TheEquiss]

I worked 20 years in a prison plus time on a PD and 5 years as a fire fighter. I’ve seen some stuff but honestly it never affected me. I was able to leave home at home and the job at the job. She needs to leave him alone. He might be able to do the same.

[@bassandswitch6367]

He's probably over it and chillin and she's still freaking out

[@VanJR.]

For context, this shooting (the murder) happened at an LA Fitness on Blanco road. The person who got shot was shot in the head and supposedly the murdered targeted the victim. It happened a couple of weeks ago around 7pm Edit: For the record, the gym is not in a bad area of town either

[@brittanysellscars5528]

Yep! I work at the Lexus down the street. So crazy.

[@VanJR.]

@@brittanysellscars5528 God help us all

[@samaratuckey968]

Wheel of Time is permanently on my TBR, just such a time commitment

[@Chartlaub5]

One of my favorite series of all time. The last 3 books were epic

[@vidacruz9688]

In life we have to understand that we will go to tragedies. It was very hard for me to endure what happened to my daughter and that my brother was trying to kill my husband and my daughter‘s father my husband was sleeping in the bed. My brother evidently was on drugs and Jesus that knife upstairs and it ricocheted into my daughter’s chest. at that point my mother asked before a few thousand dollars for her son to not go to jail. But I loved her that much. That I lent that money to my mother it came from my husband and myself. I have never gotten over the fact. And he never became a great uncle

[@rbv2819]

I wish my wife cared this much about me…

[@BeaBelfastVideos]

European here. I cannot get over how many US Americans treat shootings pretty much as part of everyday life. I am so grateful for not living in a country where shootings are becoming normalised.

[@candyluna2929]

What are we gonna do??? We can't live in fear of everything.

[@joshw3010]

The vast majority of them are gang related. The average person doesn't have to really be afraid of getting shot.

[@salvatorecampbell698]

@@candyluna2929 not so much fear, as in we're the only place with the issue. I wonder what the difference between us and everyone else is.

[@mamat1213]

@@salvatorecampbell698 much of US is against any gun regulation, the other segment is against harsh criminal penalties so we’re stuck between extremes

[@melanieb2132]

Look at who's doing the shooting and where. (Hint: places with strict gun laws) We have more guns than people where I live. Im not scared of guns at all.

[@iamrossmatthews]

I bet her husband is wishing he had not told her now

[@mikesmith-wk7vy]

He might have just gone into combat mode saved some people and after been just fine just another day , especially if he has resolved his trauma from war time. She is acting a bit odd how much his experience is doing this to her

[@tankprohp]

Therapist do not care they care about the money that you pay them friends and family should be supportive and help him through this if he wants help, the old saying goes you can lead a horse to water you can't force him to drink but you can be there supporting him and give him umpteen million chances

[@naomirachel9161]

Not true at all

[@sungear]

I wouldn't tell my wife. She would be similarly irrational and try to make more of a problem. This is serious and I have sympathy for both of them, but he can't trust her to help him. She's also lying about how much she's hassling him. She wants a drama fit for a reality show.

[@magdalenapichler4182]

I never tell my husband, who is a person with a lot empathy about my job. I talk to collegues who we're at the scene in a short debrief. I always sleep well but the mornings after I don't feel very rested and give myself some time to recover.

[@kamarwashington]

She wasn’t even there bruh

[@katemiller7874]

She loves him. She has a child. He could have been killed. Why don’t you get this

[@1jbunceiii]

that's why the world needs brave strong men....

[@reginaarnone4845]

The world needs men who respect females. The world needs men who support and parent the children they bring into the world.

[@JustinCase780]

@5:20 It's George Clooney from "Up in the Air" 🤣

[@powergrower]

The guy might just be fine. I was in a very similar situation it was rough to see but it's never really been something thats haunted me. As strange as it sounds my first GF cheating on me was far more tramatizing. Thats caused all kinds of issues for me down the road.

[@semperfiyorkies6084]

Oklahoma is the same. It’s horrible.

[@lyndaslocs]

I'd be concerned that the perpetrator may hear this and somehow trace it back to them.

[@Yummy2u]

Bless her husband. I hope she let's him be.

[@candyluna2929]

I miss that san Antonio weather

[@jessicaspencer82917]

This was crazy to me when it came on the news. Was it a random murder, or murder for hire? We have been having more shooting than normals here, but this one was odd. Walk into a gym and kill a dude infront of witnesses and I'm sure there are cameras.

[@Tristum1970]

She’s an ex-Marine? God bless her but I would never have guessed from the way she is ‘carrying ‘ this . And I know - I have Marines in my family

[@rchi3906]

Speaking as a Former Marine Male , u would not believe how hot some female marines are , pretty useless but hot

[@katemiller7874]

She loves her husband dummy. A wife knows when a man isn’t acting right

[@Tristum1970]

@@katemiller7874 can’t resist the name-calling eh? Lol

[@doglove7288]

What is this Score you are talking about?

[@jacobrodriguez7771]

Men evolved to handle things like this. Women did not. That’s just how it works.

[@dinajones2761]

I agree

[@purpleviolet207]

Same here!

[@angelaramseyrobinson4407]

Men do have a higher rate of suicide too.

[@jacobrodriguez7771]

@@libertyna933 I’ve seen a lot more male cops not crying….

[@Bobboberson1234]

​@@libertyna933 Nice, thats called a whataboutism. Good job....

[@nvrdwn3140]

I can't speak for him and it's hard for me to speak for myself since I haven't been through that. Seeing another man murdered, as a man, isn't probably going to cause me to want to get counseling. Now if that was a child I can imagine it being different. Especially if they died in my arms.

[@SirenaSpades]

Cops are heros every day. This woman is nuts.

[@Suzette-gb7uj]

Wow. You’re just plain mean. She is an empathetic soul, she loves her husband. She’s feeling his pain. Why is that so hard for you to understand? Geeeezzzzz. I’m glad I don’t know you.

[@xhaltsalute]

It only rains on the weekend…

[@vidacruz9688]

Your approach is simple stop thinking is though you’re the best friend I like hey it happened to me too and my friend I’ve been through that as well you could not

[@vidacruz9688]

I have never indoors tragedies of that although I’ve lived through each and every day only once with my brother trying to kill my husband in the same house in your lives he did martial arts and whatever it was he had in his hand because she went into my five year old daughter has suffered major arteries in her body but she could still wait until this day she still frightened of lies

[@jamesnealii8370]

This makes me sick, these violent thugs should be rounded up and sentenced to life in prison without parole, any thing less then that is a Hugh slap in the face to the victims

[@vidacruz9688]

Please stop taking everything as a joke and then you get serious

[@miguelrodriguez8260]

What was the asa score she mentioned?

[@rayf6126]

ACE score, it lists 10 repeat behaviors that are considered child abuse, situational trauma, and neglect. It's easily found online.

[@1jbunceiii]

get a bigger back pack....keep filling it....then do leg squats so you stay strong...

[@peanutbutterinterior8512]

If she is this emotional as a veteran we need better infantry

[@katemiller7874]

She’s still a woman. Someone needs to be emotional.

[@lorainefleeman6011]

God may have intended him to go to this gym for that very reason.

[@vidacruz9688]

You need to straight to the point and nothing more you become redundant

[@dhritikapoor2897]

It seems her issue is something not related to the shooting . The husband seems fine , she hasn’t witness the murder and to be quite honest she sounds a little emotionally unstable and exhausted . I would advise her to seek counselling and to not put words and thoughts in her husbands mouth and mind. He has already told you he is handling it well. You clearly aren’t for whatever reason. Do you feel bad he doesn’t need any support in this from your side? Does he not emote in other situations too which is driving you crazy? The problem seems to be with the lady. Just because you get emotional about things doesn’t means he does too. People are different

[@crewboy23]

She has her issues and now her husband went though something legit bad. Since its something actually bad she cant tell him to “man up” in whatever way she does that. She has to actually worry about him and she cant worry about him because she has is own stuff she hasnt healed from. In her eyes, he might be no longer the stable force she desperately needs in her life.

[@vidacruz9688]

Dude why do you elaborate on yourself or you have to have a long drawn out story about your life there .

[@Noname31a]

She needs help. Not the husband.

[@chriswest7639]

She isn't worried about her husband or the person who lost their life. She is 100% upset about herself and what it mean to her if it was her husband that was shot.

[@katemiller7874]

Boy you misread her. She’s concerned about his trauma and holding it in. It’s not good for him to do that.

[@Luis-lr3li]

Tell ‘em to grow some balls. Life happens.

[@millsathn]

I thought this was normal in US.

[@RyanABC123]

She should not be crying.

[@katemiller7874]

She has every right to cry that’s her husband. She has a child with him. Child needs a father and mother

[@vidacruz9688]

You have to start taking a more serious approach other than laughter and relieving to you’ve been sick all that your approach is incorrect these people are seeking help that laughter in a man you haven’t been to each and everything . Two in yourself down and be more serious everything is a happy day hey what’s happening up man my life

[@lorainefleeman6011]

Laughter is what helps people feel comfortable opening up to him

[@dinajones2761]

She needs to stop being a drama queen and acting like she’s the one who witnessed a murder.

[@angelaramseyrobinson4407]

That’s a very rude insensitive thing to say.

[@bettysmith4527]

I think she is allowed to feel traumatized since her husband could have been shot.... Shut up you idiot!

[@jacobrodriguez7771]

I love guns so much.

[@brittanysellscars5528]

This happened at the LA fitness down the street from my car dealership. The suspect was arrested in front of our dealership. It was such a random thing. This is also the second time someone was shot at that same gym. I hope she and her husband get the help they need. 💕

[@katemiller7874]

And that probably why she told him not to go there. He goes anyway.