This happened to me. My ex fiancés mom told me that her son was cheating. We cried together because she loved me and had grown to respect me since her son and I had dated since high school(17-22). I was so thankful to her and she continued to check on me after we broke up. Several years later I met my loving, perfect “for me” husband. We’ve been married now for 24 years, one daughter! Every time my husband and I see her around she hugs us both and is so happy for me. Her son’s marriage to the girl he was cheating on me with was horrible because he continued to cheat on her even after they got married! His mom saved me from a loveless horrible life with him! Her son was actually glad because he didn’t know how to break up with me because we had started planning our wedding! My ex was a coward and I’m so thankful to his mom!!
@Price89032 жыл бұрын
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@Price89032 жыл бұрын
@@tj139 His mom has decency, morals and did the right thing. Just because someone is related to you doesn't mean you have to cosign their wrongness. The son even said he was glad, and just didn't how to break it off because of the pressure of the wedding planning. I'm glad there are ppl in the world with morals and integrity. His mom, is a woman first.
@Nah-ah2 жыл бұрын
@@Price8903 the mother took the son’s accountability away from him bc she’s a woman first? No wonder he’s cheating on his current wife. Mommy will fix my next mistakes for me bc she’s a woman! She may think she’s being “moral” but she’s contributed to creating a monster.
@Price89032 жыл бұрын
@@Nah-ah The mother did not take accountability away. Nor did she create a monster. Clearly she doesn't agree with his actions. And he was going to be deceitful, regardless. As a woman, who was close to another woman she gave her honesty. Something her son would've never done because he doesn't value accountability or honesty. I'm glad the original commenter got the truth, no matter who the source was, and that she's in a much better space.
@Coastpsych_fi992 жыл бұрын
@@tj139 You have no honour or integrity.
@BeaBelfastVideos2 жыл бұрын
Tell the guy. Don't give your immature daughter the chance to potentially bring an innocent baby into this sorry mess.
@JEANNEHUNTER-q5t5 ай бұрын
18, 19 is much too young to be engaged to be married soon. She left school and doesn't know what to do with her life, thinking marriage will give her direction. What happened to finish your studies first and then marry?
@eckhardt765 ай бұрын
@@JEANNEHUNTER-q5tAt that she knows what is right or wrong. Don’t make excuses for her. After all she choose to get engaged with him didn’t she ? You don’t get to be indecisive with someone if you are supposed to love them.
@JEANNEHUNTER-q5t5 ай бұрын
@@eckhardt76 I'm not making excuses for her; in fact, I am appalled that girls are allowed and want to get married that young, as if life has nothing else to offer.
@bignickenergy7235 ай бұрын
@user-zm3ny8tw4x the greatest generation was getting married and having kids at this age. You know, the ones who were married for 50, 60, 70 years.....
@austinallen17975 ай бұрын
@@bignickenergy723 I dunno if i even believe those statistics though either way that's gross and deserves a booting
@mimimonster2 жыл бұрын
I was being cheated on by my husband and my mom and my sister knew and chose not to tell me. Wrong decision. They should have told me.
@dtschuor4595 ай бұрын
I agree. I understand it was probably not something they wanted to say, but they owed you that information.
@josephmbimbi5 ай бұрын
Wow, the batrayal ! In my book, that is time-out and low contact for however long i need
@chaboi75 ай бұрын
Interesting, how's your relationship with them now?
@jamalhussain91625 ай бұрын
Yeah, what’s your relationship with them like atm?
@Dapryor5 ай бұрын
Damn! Your family knew and said nothing? That’s a new level of deception.
@lynnebucher65372 жыл бұрын
I'd definitely give her a deadline to either break up with fiance or tell him she's been cheating on him, and bear the consequences. Please don't let this poor guy get married to this train wreck.
@Raminakai2 жыл бұрын
Yes. Give her two weeks to tell him. That is fair. I would want someone to tell me.
@trent210 Жыл бұрын
Nope, this is short sighted. First, you tell the boy and his family. Then, they thank you for being a hero to their son and are very happy that you did. Awesome. You got your heart clear and the boy got what he should, the truth. Next, your daughter gets a phone call/visit from the guy and confronts her. "Your mom told me this, that, and the rest." Daughter is caught off guard, and most likely begins begging for forgiveness or just straight up leaves the guy. They probably do not have a productive conversation and it is overloaded with anger. After all of this happens, your daughter calls you, screams at you that you should have never done that and says that she hates you. She moves out, and leads a life that you never imagined she would. Yes this girl is an adult, but she is in her first year of college. I am not that far removed from that time, and believe me when I say that I was not an adult. I was going home regularly to my parents', doing terribly in school because of my own choices, and the whole time my parents could see it. But you know what they didn't do? Call my professors and say, "My son is skipping classes and cheating on all of his homework!! Fail him!!" Instead, they loved me enough to realize that I was still a kid although I had adult responsibility. They sat me down and let me know that no matter how much I wanted to quit school that to live in their house I had to at least finish a year of college with a 3.0. I did it. I hope and pray that this mom didn't ruin her relationship with her child over a 3 month in person, the rest long distance relationship. It's never worth that if you've got a good relationship with your blood.
@sitka49 Жыл бұрын
The point is she has clock running you fess up with it by this date or I'm spilling the beans , and if there going to be as mad as a hornet about , I don't 2 shits because they know I didn't raise them that way and maybe someday they'll thank me for it , and if not they don't deserve my respect .
@libbylee9-997 Жыл бұрын
@@trent210 you just compare your dismal grades to allowing a penis that doesn't belong to your fiance to ram your vagina to the rhythm of infidelity???
@24wallachian Жыл бұрын
My exact thought. I understand it's in a way bad to meddle but watching someone walking right into a disaster and not saying anything, not preventing it when you can, is worse. She says herself he is a great guy. He deserves to know, ESPECIALLY given that they are about to get married... Overall, I agree one should not meddle into other people's relationships but there are exceptions and I think this specific case is one of them. Just tell him.
@ij13762 жыл бұрын
"It's come to my attention you didn't do what you said you would and you didn't come clean to your fiance. That said, you have 48 hours. Tell him or I will. I was cheated on and it nearly ruined me, and I didn't raise no cheater. Do not cheat again or you will be moving out." That's how that convo would go in my house. Cheating on a fiance is unacceptable.
@murderofcrows77382 жыл бұрын
I agree. Your approach would at least make it very clear that messing around will not be tolerated. Dr John’s advice and gentle approach is just going to have daughter lying and going behind mom’s back to continue dating the new guy.
@thefoodwench48482 жыл бұрын
I agree. But she’s already be moving out of my house regardless. I’d give her only 24 hours to tell him or I would.
@sunnettbravo36422 жыл бұрын
@@thefoodwench4848 you go !! id do the same or kick my son out .
@texan9032 жыл бұрын
The mother did raise a cheater, apparently..
@jackcoleman59552 жыл бұрын
This is exactly how I would handle it. Passivity or reasoning is useless. Parents are supposed to guide their young adult children, especially into and thru hard places.
@om617yota7 Жыл бұрын
Had an ex girlfriend's mom call me one day. She was sobbing, saying I was worthy to marry her daughter, but her daughter wasn't worthy to marry me, and wouldn't go into details. I drew my own conclusions, and pulled the eject handle. Sucked at the time, but very definitely a bullet dodged. Yes tell the guy, future him of a couple years down the road will thank you.
@TravisHi_YT5 ай бұрын
Potential kids too, which is even worse.
@abztraktt64034 ай бұрын
GOAT mother
@timothythompson40365 ай бұрын
The fiance deserves to know. This is a huge problem in the military.
@thomasciccone5285 ай бұрын
I’m a marine corps veteran and I will say, it is ALMOST always the spouse doing the cheating. Service members just want to be home with them and the spouse is usually just disgusting.
@timothythompson40365 ай бұрын
@@thomasciccone528 There is a very high divorce rate in the military. The Defense Dept makes huge efforts to cover up how high it is. It effects recruiting!!
@0num45 ай бұрын
100% agree. I'd do whatever I could to stop this ahead of time, if I knew in advance.
@vaska19995 ай бұрын
It'd be a huge problem whatever his profession.
@bigmungus48644 ай бұрын
If the marines were meant to have wives they would have been issued one
@scottgiles30532 жыл бұрын
Wrong John. Tell him, full stop. It isn't even a hard decision. No negotiating, no deals. I would give my kid 2 days. "You tell him or I will." This kid needs to know it is wrong, and needs to see her parents treat it as such.
@-MOYST-2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. This shouldn’t even be a discussion.
@ineedhoez2 жыл бұрын
They aren't children. They are adults. Stay out of grown folks business
@jackcoleman59552 жыл бұрын
Full agreement. This is no time for passivity or reasoning or “calling her up” to maturity. Short deadline and done.
@mdterp5125 ай бұрын
@@ineedhoezI see that you have cheated on your fiancée as well. That is why you are taking this stance.
@GTRKT-qr5sf5 ай бұрын
@@ineedhoezVery very bad take. You never let a murderer get away simply because they are an adult. What moronic reasoning is this?
@heartspeaks Жыл бұрын
One of my exes uncles asked me why would I stay with him? I had NO clue what he was talking about! He saw my face and said it plainly, “ You are too good, beautiful, and smart for him! He’s my nephew and I love him but he’s an ahh! He’s with other women when your not here! He drinks like a fish and he’s a jerk! He needs help! He’s a different person when you’re not around! You don’t want this!” His UNCLE told me this! I GREATLY appreciate that man Still to this day! I remember his face, and his words! They were so impactful for me!
@Ben-zr4hoАй бұрын
Sounds like a MAN with integrity.
@MSSHARIII17 күн бұрын
Sounds like a great man!
@theydontknowmeson0072 жыл бұрын
The guy deserves to know. Would his response be the same if genders were reversed? I would lose absolute trust if my soon to be mother in law was hiding my soon to be wife's affairs.
@greenfly09172 жыл бұрын
This is a weird one for me because the mother in law inserting herself in this by telling him takes the heat off the daughter. The daughter should be the one taking responsibility for her own actions and telling the guy like an adult not her mother. Mom can't bail you out.
@chukuemekaoje10152 жыл бұрын
@@greenfly0917 I agree to a certain extent. Yes, the caller telling the soon to be son in law would be inserting herself into a situation that might not be her business... But on the other end, her knowing about this and never telling the guy means that she is passively participating in hiding a betrayal. That's is ABSOLUTELY something the guy will think about should he ever find out. Should it ever come out that his in-laws knew but said nothing, he definitely never going to trust them again, even if the marriage survives. There's a lot more at stake.
@greenfly09172 жыл бұрын
@@chukuemekaoje1015 That's not the advice that was given and that's not what the mom is saying here either. The mom is clearly trying to stop this before a wedding even happens. She isn't condoning or enabling. The blame and responsibility for where this relationship is should be placed on the daughter not her mother. Personally, I don't think a wedding is gonna happen here.
@johnny90722 жыл бұрын
Totally disagree, mom shouldn't be cleaning up messes. Want your kid to be independent with integrity, daughter has to be the one, end of story
@chukuemekaoje10152 жыл бұрын
@@greenfly0917 I agree that the mother is doing what she can to stop it and that the blame is ultimately on the daughter... but I also believe that the guys is probably gonna place some blame on the mother if he finds out that she knew and didn't tell him. He might be very misguided in thinking so, but he (like many) would probably want to know, especially from people whom he's supposed to trust. While the caller telling the guy would be in effect "cleaning her daughter's mess", it has the silver lining of giving the guy the knowledge he needs to decide whether he should marry this woman (which he'll probably be very grateful for). Cause her daughter is absolutely not going to give her fiance the complete truth. Like JD said, the daughter is too in love with the idea of being married to the guy and if she has to tell her man she's cheating... there's a high chance he's leaving. Like I said in another response, the caller should absolutely give her daughter the chance to come clean (and cut off any support towards the wedding)... but should intervene for the sake of the guy.
@Stayyyonit2 жыл бұрын
I love this mom!!! Holding her daughter accountable!!! Good job momma.
@jazzymichael Жыл бұрын
Remember, she raised this woman who is a cheater & liar. The mom sounds coherent in this call, but there is likely much more behind the scenes.
@triplecheesemac Жыл бұрын
@@jazzymichael but the mom is doing the right thing here. I partly agree with that it seems like the mom is a single mother. I THINK not having a stable 2 parent household is extremely difficult considering single parents spends their time trying to date and introducing the kids to new partners instead that effort and time spent as a family.
@GG-zn5hx5 ай бұрын
Congrats to the caller mom - she raised and cheater and a liar of a daughter. The least the mom can do is save her daughter's fiance's future and tell him he is engaged to a whore.
@sarahjoe24574 ай бұрын
@jazzymichael You know parents don't control their children. Every child has gone against their parent's directions including you.
@brianmott90104 ай бұрын
She raised a cheating lying 304
@David-wo9un2 жыл бұрын
If this was happening to John’s son, he would want someone to tell his son what is going on. This young man is being played for a fool; if she ends up pregnant, he will happily think he is the father of someone else’s child.☹️
@trumpisgod25352 жыл бұрын
Johns a simp and always sides with women no matter how wrong they are
@ralegade77102 жыл бұрын
He prefaced everything on losing the daughter’s trust. I’d be ready to disown my child!
@COINsimp20242 жыл бұрын
@@ralegade7710 no you would not be ready to disown your child.
@ralegade77102 жыл бұрын
@@COINsimp2024 Do you know me? Do you know anything about my values? I’m a hardcore traditionalist. Not like these typical evangelist type conservatives or apathetic liberals. Cheating is an assault on your family in my book. I’ve cut ties with close relatives for less.
@maryjane-vx4dd2 жыл бұрын
@@ralegade7710 I couldn't disown ny xhils any more than I could keep my mouth shut to her man. The result may be the same
@Hiker21102 жыл бұрын
If my child had a fiance that I respected I found out they were cheating on them, I would tell the fiance. I also wouldn't feel any sympathy toward my child crying about it either.
@lav71612 жыл бұрын
Tell the guy! Save him from the misery. Let him at least have a future with honesty. It will suck for him to hear the truth but at least he can learn from it.
@Melissa.7122 жыл бұрын
Society doesn't respect men
@zone4532 жыл бұрын
"Nah I don't want you to tell the young man so his life is ruined and he's locked in a marriage of infidelity from the get go" I agree the daughter should be the one to tell the truth, but I feel like this is just actively deceiving the fiance. If it was my child I would give them a deadline. Tell them in x amount of time or I will. Bc I will not let some young guys life be ruined bc of my child.
@chukuemekaoje10152 жыл бұрын
This is the best advice. I'm willing to bet that the daughter is not going to take the cutting off of support well and definitely won't listen to the caller's advice. 100% agree that the caller should give her daughter time to be responsible with the threat that she'll tell the guy herself... and then follow through when the daughter ultimately fails.
@SarahR2D22 жыл бұрын
So mature of you. Not many in laws would have that integrity
@starlingswallow2 жыл бұрын
YES!!!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@Nah-ah2 жыл бұрын
This! 💯
@catherinenelson41622 жыл бұрын
With you 100% on that!
@queenreg72 жыл бұрын
Yes please tell him. My former MIL kept crucial information from me about her son’s’ activities that would have kept me from marrying him if I’ve known.
@lilolmecj Жыл бұрын
100%! My daughter married the son of a long term, 22-25 year friend of mine. He had a history of very problematic behaviors including chronic lying, poor anger management, and cross dressing. If my “friend “ had shared any of that the marriage would not have happened. He cheated on my daughter in less than a YEAR of marriage, bought thousands of dollars worth of crap they could not afford, and more. She is a strong woman, but it completely changed the trajectory of her life not in a positive way. Nobody deserves to be blindsided.
@gordocarbo Жыл бұрын
I hope you socked her in the mouth. That is raw...cheating is the worst thing you can do to someone
@joreyn76562 жыл бұрын
The fiancé absolutely deserves to know. Chances are, he wouldn't choose her if he knew. I'm a military wife. So many women do this to their military men and it's devastating. This exact thing has happened to my husbands friends and it's so terrible. It really messes these guys up when they find out.
@blake73492 жыл бұрын
I grew up military brat and seen my friends whose parent would cheat on the dads when they would leave to go into field. Feel sorry for a lot of them.
@ineedhoez2 жыл бұрын
To be fair, military men don't pick carefully. They pick bc they dont want to be alone. No way in the world you marry someone after dating for a summer. Play stupid games, wins stupid prizes.
@PeepersonCreedo Жыл бұрын
@@ineedhoez bro your name cmon
@aimeerebecca1 Жыл бұрын
@@ineedhoez sure but each party is responsible for their decisions and actions. Being lonely and wanting/needing an anchor back home when you’re risking your life every day isn’t a bad thing and isn’t deserving of betrayal.
@toscadonna Жыл бұрын
Military men f*ck anything that moves. They just don’t want their wives doing as they do.
@joea92222 жыл бұрын
Shes not cut out for it. If they get marries she's just going to cheat while he's away at training or deployments. Disgusting. And yeah, I'm judging harshly because this kind of behavior is gross, especially when it happens to service members.
@bignickenergy7235 ай бұрын
Yup! Jody!
@0num45 ай бұрын
@@bignickenergy723fuck that guy. Jody is everywhere! 😂
@USER_S4V4NT9 күн бұрын
cheating on military should be considered treason, its a direct disservice to your country to betray your military partner and finding out will definitely affect his mental state and this combat readiness. it should be a felony with fines and jail time and if that sounds harsh all ill say is the least they could have done is sent a divorce paper in the mail.
@racheljames7 Жыл бұрын
A violation of HER trust??? Who cares about her trust. She's cheating on this decent young man. He deserves to know. I hate how women get away with nonesense men would never get away with.
@Randomname2545 ай бұрын
If it were the other way around, he would have told the mother to warn her son's fiancée. This guy is know to be biaased when it comes to gender.
@anniealexander96165 ай бұрын
Listen again!! The girl barely knows him!!
@Ram-dq1gq5 ай бұрын
She knows the streets though
@YasminMahnaz5 ай бұрын
She corrupting her system.. for furore that why.. bad foundation
@psi23kАй бұрын
@@Ram-dq1gq😂😂😂
@CaliAAA722 жыл бұрын
John I’m sure you would feel way different if this was happening to one of your children and the parents of the other person knew and could have said something.
@LisaSoulLevelHealing2 жыл бұрын
Exactly.
@Mrs.TJTaylor Жыл бұрын
Agree. I’d tell in a heartbeat.
@BirdDogey15 ай бұрын
He is a total simp.
@redpillfreedom66924 ай бұрын
@@BirdDogey1Unfortunately, even tradcon men are gynocentric simps.
@drillosophy10122 жыл бұрын
Many of the world’s problems would be reduced if parents held their kids accountable.
@philosophicaljockАй бұрын
🎯
@MSSHARIII17 күн бұрын
💯💯💯
@razio10966 ай бұрын
What a terrible take. The mom needs to tell the fiancé because her immature daughter definitely has no plans on telling him. Stop with the coddling and tell your grown up adult daughter that she needs to tell her fiancé or she will forced too.
@Girlgonewise2 жыл бұрын
As a mother, I would tell my future son/daughter in law. They deserve to know. I would let my child know that if they didn’t do the right thing, I would. If the future in-law knows the truth and proceeds to marry, that’s on them.
@peacehappyb2372 жыл бұрын
I would too.
@murderofcrows77382 жыл бұрын
As a human I would tell the person if I knew them or not. The way I would do it would just vary depending on the relationship. I can’t believe Dr John was basically saying to protect the loved one’s feelings over the victims.
@shanehanooman91322 жыл бұрын
@@murderofcrows7738 I think as A professional John doesn’t look at a right or wrong answer. He is being a mediator. A person looking in from the outside. Everyone has values and there’s nothing wrong with that. I do believe the decision on weather to tell or not to tell should not be emotional. At the end of the day I’m not saying it’s right or wrong but people cheat everyday. We can’t help everyone.
@TruePathLiving Жыл бұрын
That's a good mom. Most moms think their kids can do no wrong.
@sds63032 жыл бұрын
He deserves to know. Mom needs to tell him if the fiancé doesn’t.
@jasonbourne11192 жыл бұрын
PLEASE TELL HIM! dont let either of them enter into a marriage that YOU ALREADY KNOW is not going to work
@kerriganlynn2 жыл бұрын
My husband told me that when he enlisted in the military, they told him to NOT get married until him & his (ex) wife got through two deployments. They didn’t even make it through one. He was 19 like them, he’s 31 now and wishes he would have listened to that advice.
@JustineCarissa2 жыл бұрын
Sound advice. Thank you for sharing!
@richardv96482 жыл бұрын
So true. Reality is hard maam. These men go defend our freedoms in somewhere in middleeastern rat hole, the moment they leave, these women are on tinder looking for chad and tyrone.
@BlendedBarbieDoll2 жыл бұрын
Excellent advice!
@peacehappyb2372 жыл бұрын
The mom needs to tell him. SHe should give her daughter a deadline first, and if she doesn't do it, she needs to let him know.
@Int8685 ай бұрын
She did if you listen. But she continued to cheat and lie.
@rebeccaoprea99172 жыл бұрын
Violation of trust ? The daughter Is the one violating trust. She’s living in deception .
@zarahshabir34924 ай бұрын
Absolutely true. At the same time you don’t want your daughter to become so upset with you that she becomes a much more reckless person and just hurts more more people down the road and refuses to interact with you because you went behind their back. That is a more destructive future She needs to take accountability for herself now. There could be a way to get him to find out without mom having to say it explicitly because we don’t want that bridge to be burned b/w mom and daughter, in the teenage daughter’s eyes
@Evil-Rod-Farva2 жыл бұрын
100%. No man deserves to commit his attention, time, and money to a woman that puts him second and is a high risk for paternity fraud.
@natalieskm4 ай бұрын
She is a 19 year old teenager, not a woman yet. You Americans are something else!!
@Evil-Rod-Farva4 ай бұрын
@@natalieskm at 18 years old, this “child” can send me, my sons, and my friends off to war through the voting booth. At 19 people can get jobs, own land, drive, and move freely as an adult. 200 years ago this “child” would’ve already had 2-3 kids by 19. I don’t think expecting fidelity out of a 19 year old is a tall ask given the rights they have at that age.
@Spookyaki13 ай бұрын
@@natalieskmyet you allow 18 year olds to drink alcohol in Europe 😅
@levibond25552 жыл бұрын
This happens to members of the military all the time. Be honest with him, return his ring, and move on.
@jones22772 жыл бұрын
i remember hearing a story about a young woman whose boyfriend had HIV. his whole family knew and no one told her when she came to the family picnics. of course, she contracted it from him, at 19 no less. just a heartbreaking situation all around.
@LaFlor7182 жыл бұрын
I distanced myself from a friend of mine because her bestie was HIV positive and was very promiscuous even though she knew her status and refused to treat it. The friend with HIV had one time aggressively come on to a mutual male friend of all of ours when he was home on leave. Needless to say they slept together with no protection. Luckily the guy friend didn’t contract the virus, but my female friend knew what her bestie was doing and supported it. That flagrant disregard for the health and safety of others is sickening to me.
@ineedhoez2 жыл бұрын
@@LaFlor718 that's attempted murder. Y'all were all accomplices.
@derickmls14 Жыл бұрын
@@ineedhoez Idk if you are aware but you do know it’s illegal to disclose someone’s HIV status right ? Unfortunately no one could say anything. It was the friends responsibility to ask are you HIV positive or negative before having sex. 80% of ppl don’t do that but that’s our responsibility as adults to do that.
@kellharris2491 Жыл бұрын
That's if you are a doctor. A regular person absolutely can tell legally and should morally.
@IsshaGreenThumbing Жыл бұрын
Only if you work in the health industry HIPA applies.
@sobeliever16382 жыл бұрын
Tell her she has 48 hrs to tell him or move out. I would also say if she choose to move out she has a week to tell him. This is someone's beloved son. He deserves to know. The mother daughter relationship can be repaired.
@ChrisAndCats5 ай бұрын
Not if you boot your child out in 2 days over someone who isn't related to you, it won't. You will lose that bond forever. You'll always be the person who put them last. Doing it the way it was advised here achieves the same result without putting your own child, who is supposed to mean the most to you, last.
@kylelapoure86035 ай бұрын
@@ChrisAndCatsngl if my kid was that immoral I wouldn’t want anything to do with them. If they want to break a bond because I did the moral thing then that is a bond meant to be broken
@redpillfreedom66924 ай бұрын
@@ChrisAndCatsIt's called holding them accountable, doofus.
@ChrisAndCats4 ай бұрын
@@redpillfreedom6692 there's ways of doing that, as he described. Twonk.
@ChrisAndCats4 ай бұрын
@kylelapoure8603 what happened to teaching right from wrong?
@DiLorenzo04 Жыл бұрын
One minute in and she said military I knew it was over. I was enlisted myself in the Marines and can't count how many dear John's I've seen from other Marines spouses/gfs. I was blessed and single the whole time
@LSSYLondon5 ай бұрын
The military should not be something ANYONE gets married into. It is chaos and pain and madness and bad pay and PTSD and I would absolutely tell people not to do so. That being said I understand the reason why so many marry young in the military is the pay goes up and housing and food is then covered to a much nicer extent. It's just bad that the number of people joining the military are lied to by recruiters and end up homeless and divorced after 4 years.
@SeashelleBytheseashore5 ай бұрын
You played it smart. I live near 4 bases and see enlistees crying over their drinks all the time. If I was in the military, I would not have a bf or spouse until I was much older.
@elettramia6380Ай бұрын
You forgot to add the part where the men in the service were cheating as well. Don’t act like they’re any better
@catdancerskaleidoscopeofbo84962 жыл бұрын
Totally disagree with John on this one. Yes, the mom should tell the fiance because bigger things could happen over the next 20 years and ruin the lives of unborn grandchildren, and will cause bigger trust issues for the young man that will follow him for the rest of his life and how he interacts with women. Better to cut bait now. And let the daughter come back to her mom when she matures. John acts like the daughter will just move out voluntarily, but I don't think so. I think she will just continue to lie and manipulate her mother.
@peacehappyb2372 жыл бұрын
I would have said something. I don't John wants to tell her that because she could come back and blame him if it went the wrong way.
@theshunnedBandersnatch2 жыл бұрын
I agree.
@COINsimp20242 жыл бұрын
That's irrelevant.
@Nah-ah2 жыл бұрын
It’s not her place to tell someone else’s story but to make her daughter tell him. Where is the accountability with the daughter if you’re gonna keep saving them and speaking for them?! She’s still living under mum’s roof, she’s behaving immaturely, she might as well do as she’s told!
@TheAck2012 жыл бұрын
Typical… on the simp Ramsey network they never hold the women accountable smh. John would of been all over if it was the man doing that. It’s soo frustrating to listen to.
@trumpisgod25352 жыл бұрын
Johns’s a super simppp white night, he doesn’t care how many guys the girl cheats on her husband with as long as she’s happy and feels respected etc blah blah blah!
@David-wo9un2 жыл бұрын
The double standard is obvious to everyone listening, why do those at Ramsey not see the double standard? The frustrating part is that it’s not a one off, it’s every single time!!
@TheAck2012 жыл бұрын
@@David-wo9un I just want it to be equal. I get annoyed listening when they turn everything on the guy. Is that a Christian thing or something? All Ramsey personalities are such white knights
@murderofcrows77382 жыл бұрын
@@TheAck201 I would expect more of a therapist though. He can’t simultaneously tell men to be open with their feelings, but then also excuse anything that could be painful or traumatic for them. Men are supposed to work like dogs and be miserable servants to their wives and also be happy about it because marriage rocks!? I get the impression Deloney isn’t very happy himself, and enjoys the attention from the female callers a little too much.
@TheAck2012 жыл бұрын
@@murderofcrows7738 very well stated. Although I agree the guy is the provider, the wife/girlfriend should be taking care of the home and kids. Not cheating or being disrespectful to him.
@Allergic2broke2 жыл бұрын
Don’t get married as men anymore. What benefit do you get as a man to get married? I’ll wait.
@chrysiarose2 жыл бұрын
I didn't date or marry while I was in the military. In the 80s and 90s, I watched when soldiers were overseas (I was 17 in basic) wedding rings came off (both sexes) and affairs happened all over. Wives (and some husbands) were clueless at home, and when we returned their were joyous reunions and no honesty except for two times I remember men losing their careers for adultery (one officer and one NCO). I escaped not pregnant (a lot of soldiers got pregnant out of wedlock and discharged) and not part of a cheating relationship.
@willak79bud902 жыл бұрын
The women at home cheat the most.
@rustyshackleford66372 жыл бұрын
im a trucker and i don't even date
@justmejenny79862 жыл бұрын
@@rustyshackleford6637 you're probably not in the same place for very long. I can see how meeting someone or dating would be difficult. Or maybe you choose to not date?
@rustyshackleford66372 жыл бұрын
@@justmejenny7986 That's a good question. I treat trucking differently than most. I own my truck, which to many would seem like the finish line. But to me, there are too many risks and uncertainties that can come up so I treat this like a temporary situation. Someone told me never let a temporary situation become permanent. I've had weeks where I made 9,000, and others where I spent 9,000. Other things can happen too... What if we go into a recession and I have to spend 5 days at a truck stop because there isn't a load that makes financial sense? That is what it was like during covid for about 3 months. The truck has a certain lifespan which you don't know, so you want to maximize the miles that you drive it. I have a lot of freedom to maximize the truck since I don't have any rent or bills anywhere, no competing interests and I live like a minimalist. When the truck is finally finished, I'll treat it like a buzzer going off. What do you have when the buzzer goes off? If you don't be very very careful with the money you make, you'll just be older restarting the same investment with a new truck. And I know too many young truckers (company drivers or owner-ops like me) who have trapped themselves by starting a family they never get to see, and they can't save any money cause they send it all home. When my buzzer goes off, I hope to have a few rental properties. Then, I'll consider myself stable enough to date or plan for a family. I could then go trucking for fun when I want to, or even finish my engineering degree. I'm only 28. Hope you enjoyed the info :)
@justmejenny79862 жыл бұрын
@@rustyshackleford6637 my ex husband leased a truck years ago. It was definitely hard on our marriage. And you are correct about the money. Diesel was expensive then and he would have to comp some money to keep going and then pay day would come and there was hardly anything left. Glad you have a plan. Stay safe out there.
@bassandswitch63672 жыл бұрын
The good ole soldier being cheated on story, heard it a million times
@MisterSoThrowed2 жыл бұрын
You’d think these guys would get it through their heads already. Don’t be trying to get married while you are being deployed all over the place. They acting like modern women are still going to play by the rules of those traditional roles.
@bassandswitch63672 жыл бұрын
@@MisterSoThrowed I'd wager it happened often enough back in the day also, but probably alot more now
@booneshow18634 ай бұрын
Jody has entered the chat
@joecam11675 ай бұрын
Tell him. Do not let her ruin his life, and hers.
@sakurisake42012 жыл бұрын
Her daughter can't have her cake and eat it too. Cheating on her fiance with another man. Choose just 1 man and one only.
@GUITARTIME20242 жыл бұрын
Where's her DAD ???
@David-wo9un2 жыл бұрын
I thought that would have been a logical question from a mental health professional. The absence of a father will definitely have an impact on relationship decisions.
@seefirst34362 жыл бұрын
@@Jmack1lla and what is that answer? Let us hear your assumption.
@JakeStewart13436 ай бұрын
@@David-wo9unJon is always biased to the caller for their approval of his advice. She admitted not being the best at transparency. It's no shock the daughter also has transparency issues. Even though the caller claimed she never cheated, transparency could be a factor.
@dtschuor4595 ай бұрын
@@JakeStewart1343The mother’s skill at transparency isn’t at fault here. You have an immature 19 year old who got engaged too quickly and isn’t even close to ready for that kind of commitment. Whether she had an active father in the picture or not will have no effect on the selfish behavior and decisions this girl is making.
@scottcasey92402 жыл бұрын
When you choose to cheat on a soldier who is deployed. Your problems run deeper than that. How could you sleep at night?
@erikrohr43962 жыл бұрын
If you're married to the soldier, then I agree it's terrible. If they're not married, they're basically abandoning each other when he joins the military. Unless they have a long talk about it beforehand. But she should have told him she was breaking up with him earlier... and shouldn't have said yes to the engagement. It's got to be tough to be a female and have to react and respond to guys' advances and proposals all the time. I've never experienced that.
@murderofcrows77382 жыл бұрын
@@erikrohr4396 Um. I’m a female. It’s pretty easy to refuse a proposal if you aren’t wanting to get married. This girl is just immature and wanted to have a fiancé by name but not by actual commitment.
@starlingswallow2 жыл бұрын
My ex SIL did this multiple times to my brother (Airforce). It ripped him up. One time he found out about an affair while in Iraq and he was so messed up hearing about her cheating, that he wasn't fully focused on his job (MP bomb dog officer) and his troop drove over a buried bomb, tripped it, and my brother saw some of his soldiers be blown up. My ex SIL has blamed him non stop for "making her" cheat. WTH. Her last cheat got her pregnant, she took the kids and moved in with this old flame from HS. My brother was shattered. He ended up meeting another woman and they are now married, but my ex SIL BLAMES my new SIL for breaking up their marriage! 🤯🤯🤯 Some people are just not right in the head, have mommy/daddy issues that haven't been dealt with, or some severe personality disorder that they blame on everyone else. It's disgusting, infuriating, mind blowing. I know my brother isn't perfect but he is a good man and stuck by this person through all this pain she was causing and she STILL blames other people for HER choices!! It's taken me a while to come to grips with the anger I have towards her, wanting to be forgiving and loving...but I'm angry now. Pissed, actually. She still tries to cause pain by staying in sort of contact with a few of our family, in order to rub it in my brother and SIL's face. We see what she's doing now and it's done. She shattered our entire family, including hers. She is not trustworthy. I pray for their kids because they are all of age now and they've had to watch their mom make stupid decision after stupid decision and it DOES affect her kids. I think they only know about the last affair. The flesh side of me wants to clue them all in on allllll the other affairs....but that's not my place. I love and adore my brother and my new SIL. They are both amazing, loving, committed people. Both have gone through this kind of abuse. Oooooooof.
@erikrohr43962 жыл бұрын
@@murderofcrows7738 I'll bet he's a good guy and she wouldn't mind being married to him, and probably didn't want to lose a good thing, but right - not prepared for that level of commitment to this person.
@joyaustin65812 жыл бұрын
Odd are good he’s probably trying to cheat too
@joshuahealy22282 жыл бұрын
I know Dr. John doesn’t like ultimatums, but this scenario calls for one in my mind. 48 hrs… tell him or I will.
@sophiawish97722 жыл бұрын
He deserves to know. She is not ready to commit.
@GUITARTIME20242 жыл бұрын
She's 19 ! Why is marriage on the table at all ??? Good lord, it's 2022.
@greenfly09172 жыл бұрын
Probably because dude is going into the military. If they're married, he gets more money I believe AND they get to be together/live together. At 19 it's not the best idea but this is my guess.
@Dreamingbigbudgets2 жыл бұрын
A house, a cheap house.
@melissab32172 жыл бұрын
Military benefits. I have seen too many people do this right out of high school only to end up with heartbreak.
@anastasiabeaverhaus95 ай бұрын
Exactly. Why are either set of parents taking this seriously? If he weren't going into the military, would he still have asked her to marry him? Most likely not. Is there even a wedding date? Or will be they "engaged" for the next 3-4 years? Sounds like teenagers being teenagers. Instead, why not say "of course you want to date other people, you're only 19 so break up and have fun."
@eazyc404 Жыл бұрын
19 years old, way too young to even think about getting married. she doesn’t even know who she is yet nor what she wants. i’d just let the other party know and tell them it’s best they split. haven’t been together but a year and some change and already unfaithful
@AlexBobalexRavenclaw2 жыл бұрын
As someone who once 19 and married at 20, she’s not too young to be committed. Dr. Deloney is right, whether she’s 19 or 39, she doesn’t really want to be with him :( I feel so bad for him and his family! And of course, mom having to see her daughter behave so badly!
@muradshawar2 жыл бұрын
both parents failed the daughter
@ineedhoez2 жыл бұрын
She is DEFINITELY too young. Her very actions exposed her immaturity
@CF-mi7xd2 жыл бұрын
I got married the first time at 19. Biggest mistake. I was way too young. Not making excuses for her behavior, I just wish more people would wait until 25 or so. You really know what you want more at that age.
@nononsense26882 жыл бұрын
way too young lol
@Black_Samurai-fish Жыл бұрын
I got married at 16, I knew what I wanted, happened to find it and after 13 years I’m still happily married. I never cheated.
@amandadean39482 жыл бұрын
Marriage is not going to stop her cheating. She’s too immature to marry him and just likes the “idea” of being married/his wife. She needs to come clean and let that poor guy go so he can end up with someone who really loves him.
@naraendrareddy273 Жыл бұрын
It's crazy how selfish she is. It's gonna BREAK his heart.
@jasminebaby33752 жыл бұрын
As soon as I heard that she is 19 years I was done with this conversation. She can’t legally drink yet she is engaged and getting ready to get married. So many red flags 🚩 🚩 🚩.
@semaisoshul2 жыл бұрын
@@a.b.2405 she didn’t say anything about driving, but if that’s a mistype and you meant ‘drink’ then most European and Caribbean countries allow 18 year olds to drink
@Black_Samurai-fish Жыл бұрын
I got married at 16 and 13 years later I’m still happily married. What’s wrong with getting married at 19?
@Calgarysrealtor Жыл бұрын
@@Black_Samurai-fish wow😮
@gc-yt6627 Жыл бұрын
@@Black_Samurai-fish nothing if you're mature. But the vast majority of people especially born in the west lack maturity from a young age because they've never had any responsibility outside of education
@Black_Samurai-fish Жыл бұрын
@@gc-yt6627 🤔 hmmmmm….. true enough.
@willak79bud902 жыл бұрын
John, should she also not be the one to tell when this guy is unwittingly raising another man's child?
@murderofcrows77382 жыл бұрын
He’d say she shouldn’t break her daughter’s trust because she needs her more than ever.
@random-nz7dy2 жыл бұрын
Bad advice from John. Do any of us really think that John would have responded the same way if this was a call about a guy who was cheating on a girl? Nope. Double standard. when a girl cheats on a guy people always respond soft like this or ask the question "well what did he do". If she doesn't tell this guy he's going to marry this girl and then she's going to divorce him and take him for half of what he's worth. Which is total bullshit. Tell this guy so he doesn't waste his life and get screwed over after serving the county.
@Stantorr2 жыл бұрын
Stop drinking, John. Starting a marriage on those basis ? Strong bond ! John is a doctor like Bill Nye is a scientist...
@mattysheehan97865 ай бұрын
“She needs to bear the weight of this” I cannot stand this response/rationale. If a person is that awful and shitty, I highly doubt they’re going to be struggling with any feelings of remorse, or feeling like theyre* “bearing weight” of any kind. This is just a bullshit excuse that cheaters use so that don’t have to fess up
@NeccoWecco2 жыл бұрын
Why push a 19 year old to marriage? I'm glad I never married my first long term partner. I also loved the idea of him, not the actual person.
@nathanjustus66592 жыл бұрын
Well yes, and the problem isn’t that she’s not interested in marrying him, it is she is being dishonest.
@NeccoWecco2 жыл бұрын
@@nathanjustus6659 I agree with you 100%. She's lying to herself based on her experience of societal expectations. It also sounds like her mom has been pushing her to marry this guy. So she is torn between what she has been told she should be doing with her life and needs to figure out what she actually wants to do with her life.
@jeradkiester6982 жыл бұрын
If the caller would've said her son is cheating on his fiance, Dr. John would've responded differently and called him a scumbag... The mother modeled this behavior through poor life choices. Tell this young man now... he deserves to know, this early red-pill life lesson will save his life.
@trumpisgod25352 жыл бұрын
Johns a super simpppp white night he doesn’t care how many guys she cheats on her husband with as long as the girls happy
@ineedhoez2 жыл бұрын
Lawd. You losers and your red pills.
@dtschuor4595 ай бұрын
Why are you blaming her mother? That’s ludicrous. She doesn’t support or condone this behavior and apparently hasn’t ever modeled it for the daughter.
@melissab32172 жыл бұрын
She should break up with the fiance. She's young, and it sounds like she needs someone there to love her in person. Long distance isn't for everyone, nor is making a life long commitment at 19.
@marcusarelius2 жыл бұрын
I probably shouldn't watch Delony videos like this. Um, that guy in the military most likely has a small 2x3 photo of your daughter taped to a corner of his bed. He probably stares at that photo each night as he passes out to sleep. That photo is what helps him wake up and get through grueling days in the military. As soon as this truth reaches him, he is going to begin the unfair and confusing stages of grief. It is not fair to shock him like this, especially while he is serving our country. Your daughter is an adult and is choosing this. Every second that goes by where you do not assist both your daughter AND your supposed future son in law, is on you. You own that deception. You own the years of grief that your future EX son in law is about to enter into. None of this is fair to him, it is cruel, it is evil, and your daughter needs help. Not tomorrow....NOW.
@trumpisgod25352 жыл бұрын
Johns’s a super simppp white night, he doesn’t care how many guys the girl cheats on her husband with as long as she’s happy and feels respected etc blah blah blah!
@murderofcrows77382 жыл бұрын
Deloney has a very clear gender bias. He has some really good advise at times, but his tendency to look for ways to demonized the make while victimizing the female is a real problem. It’s going to keep his channel from succeeding and growing in the long run. As we saw with the Depp vs Heard trial, times are changing and many people want the same standards of conduct for both sexes.
@brianachong53902 жыл бұрын
Lol well that’s the flowery part of it. My boyfriend of 5 years is a retired army and military man and he told me what I already knew about men in the military. They ALL cheated on their partners, their wives and their girlfriends. He also said the married men regretted it but never told their wives. I met my boyfriend after he was retired. And NO i would of Never dated him while he was active in service because o have common sense and I know all Those men are cheating. Being that removed from your partner just doesn’t work. So there you go
@fars74632 жыл бұрын
Bad advice from John... I am disagree with John 100%
@militant_homesteader2 жыл бұрын
I went through this exact thing. Except I was the fiancé. Her mother didn’t tell me. Fully let her come to her house and had the other guy over at the house. Did not feel great.
@BlahBlahPoop61711 күн бұрын
John, you’re extremely gynocentric in your analysis. It’s really sickening. I’ve noticed over the years how you tend to go easier on the women when they cheat than the men. And even on the victims, you make more excuses for them and go easier on them when they’re women than men. This is a prime example.
@josephinenelan42042 жыл бұрын
I'd tell, even if my child stopped talking to me ever again. I couldn't do that to a future son/daughter-in-law. But it sounds like she's going to monkey branch and break up only after the fiance gets back or she secures the new relationship.
@josephinenelan42042 жыл бұрын
@open minded Well, that's already pretty blatantly inferred by my statement "even if my child stopped talking to me ever again" now isn't it? :)
@josephinenelan42042 жыл бұрын
@open minded a fiancé is a little more intense than a boyfriend, though 🤔 I mean, treat others as you would like to be treated. I would want my MIL to have told me if my husband had been cheating during our engagement. I would certainly go to him for proof in that hypothetical scenario, but I would completely hate being around his side of the family if they knew it and sat back. I'd be an utter fool in their eyes. So, you do you and treat others as you would like to be treated, and I'll do my version of it :) Daughter is already treating people poorly, and confrontation, correction, and not enabling bad behavior is a part of having healthy relationships.
@leonardomoore18684 ай бұрын
@josephinenelan4204 yeah ok! And if he had kids he would cutbu out their life. Keep believing that holier than thought bs.
@prakharbhardwaj3035 ай бұрын
Wonder if John would have treated this matter with such kid gloves if this was about a cheating son, than a daughter…
@mcsd12502 жыл бұрын
Keep it to yourself? Awful advice. She will marry him. She will cheat on him. God forbid they have a child. She gets to hurt them too. Be a decent person. Tell this poor man before she destroys his life.
@carolallison96852 жыл бұрын
The daughter wont learn anything. What will happen is she will tell her bf that her mom is being so mean to her, and her bf will marry her asap to get her into housing and on tricare. If mom tells the bf the truth, he can at least make that decision with all of the information he needs, and they can either work it out, or break up. Thats the only thing that will teach the daughter about consequences for her actions.
@brendamoon26602 жыл бұрын
Wow, I disagree with him. You can't let your kids get away with doing things that are wrong. She needs to give her a timeline to come clean with her fiance or she's telling him herself. If she puts moving out as a ultimatum she's going to rush into marrying him and get cheating whenever she's lonely or bored.
@sparkleclap2 жыл бұрын
I’d tell the daughter - you have 1 week to tell him, if you don’t, I will
@enngee2339 Жыл бұрын
I despise cheating. I would want some to tell me if my husband were cheating. I would give my child a clear deadline before telling the betrayed party.
@iPervy2 жыл бұрын
Please mom do not let your daughter marry the guy. You're gonna allow ruin in his life. Do the right thing by example and tell him your daughter is cheating. Otherwise you are nothing better than a enablealist and a accomplice.
@SeashelleBytheseashore5 ай бұрын
I would feel a load of guilt if this was my situation. I couldn't carry it if I respected the man.
@mrjack88492 жыл бұрын
You have given your daughter a choice and now that choice is going to wreck another person’s life. If you respect the fiancé, tell him so he can move on with his life.
@meikiyab2332 Жыл бұрын
I hate this response…Divorce is to expensive and time consuming. Mom do not listen to him you know what the right thing to do is.. If the shoe was on the other foot you would want someone to tell her…
@mirabella21542 жыл бұрын
Homeboy really chose wife material... Not.
@BirdDogey15 ай бұрын
He might as well marry a stripper off post.
@lidiyam79502 жыл бұрын
I'd tell him because this potential marriage is doomed and I wouldn't want my daughter to have a failed marriage and divorce and wouldn't want my grandkids to be in that environment...as John always says that kids absorb everything...and also, that guy deserves to know. The daughter put mom in a very difficult position when she chose to disclose to mom that she's cheating or didn't keep it private and the daughter shouldn't expect her mom to bear that and violate the trust of her future son...The daughter knows mom's values and shouldn't expect mom to go against those. Completely disagree with John on this.
@myflippinlife1812 жыл бұрын
What a tough situation. Man. I completely relate to John's comment: "She doesn't want to be with him. She wants to be with the "idea" of him." That was me. In my 20's when I was dating my ex-husband. I never ever understood what it meant when I heard the concept of just loving the "idea" of someone, rather than truly loving someone. I never understood that until I was dating a guy in my early 40's who could never let me go but wouldn't fully commit. It was a very deceptive situation. It was hard for both of us. To this day, I don't blame him that we didn't work out. I truly believe I was supposed to go through that to understand more clearly what loving someone actually meant. That "idea" society has ingrained within all of us is a recipe for chaos. I wasn't blessed with children. But you better believe when my nieces are old enough, and when my friends' children are old enough, if I get to be a part of their lives while they are in that phase, I hope I can be a beacon to them and possibly help them understand the difference between truly loving and loving the "idea". It's one thing to say it and hear it, but to actually understand it and possibly realize their partner may also only love the "idea" as well could certainly turn an entire family dynamic completely around in the right direction and break a lot of negative family cycles and loops. Every parent , I am sure, wants to see all their kids marry into a ideal situation. As time goes on and the condition our country and world is in, that "ideal' just isn't going to be very possible unfortunately. As adults with younger eyes modeling after all of us, we all really have to stop saying things and then stopping there--expecting our children to understand and model what they hear. We need to be more intentional and not only communicate with words but follow up those words with our actions. I have been through a lot since my divorce was final in January 2000. If I could teach younger people anything at all, I would start with two concepts: 1. Expectations & 2. Acceptance. Both of those words could go on a tangent in a few directions! Lol but to keep it simple, we start with those two concepts and go from there. IF we want to save time and make things more simple, & receive the people and things we want more efficiently, this is key. In all matters of life. It's life-changing.
@nbabombshell2 жыл бұрын
She is only 18 and she is already playing games . Imagen later on .
@Stephanie_Elizabeth-t6r2 жыл бұрын
My now husband was hesitant to believe I would make it through a deployment, because he thought I only loved the idea of him, at first. But, I made it through, and it showed us both that it was right that we get married. When you really love someone, these tests make you stronger. When we get in little disagreements, or we annoy each other, I think about missing him, and how much it actually hurt. So I never take him for granted. If she loves him enough to marry him, this would not be going on. She needs to end this.
@JakeStewart13436 ай бұрын
Do you think she'd be able to keep her 🦵🦵closed during his entire deployment? 🤔
@aprilchow-chee5281 Жыл бұрын
When he said telling him would be a violation of her trust he lost me. Absolute bs
@BirdDogey15 ай бұрын
Dr. Baloney is morally challenged.
@InternationalStacker Жыл бұрын
This poor guy she is marrying, she is going to keep cheating, break his heart and then take half of everything…. This is sick and horrible advice. Why are men treated as second class citizens? If it was the other way everyone would be calling him a piece of trash 🤦♂️🤦♂️….
@barryc91155 ай бұрын
Anyone who tells you not to tell him is so off base it can’t even be justified! Every person being cheated on DESERVES to know! If you are covering up for a cheater, you’re just as bad as the cheater. Tell the man so he can go find someone that actually loves him!
@gordocarbo Жыл бұрын
Yes tell him and dont let them marry! Told my Dad as a young teen what was happening while he was at work Estranged almost 40 yrs Im the bad guy....so what. lol
@CaliAAA722 жыл бұрын
Mom good luck when she comes home pregnant or with a STD. Her decision making process is poor. She will pick the loser over the good man who wants to take care of her. She’s 19 and would rather play in the streets. This could be the first of many regrets for this young woman.
@garfieldGG Жыл бұрын
19 and first year of college lol she’s at the age where she’s basically trying to just have fun at school. Momma needs to calm down, if you counsel your daughter enough she’ll probably eventually admit she doesn’t want to marry this dude.
@brendahartstern45652 жыл бұрын
I think the daughter actually wants Mom to do her dirty work for her by telling him
@JakeStewart13436 ай бұрын
I think the daughter loves having multiple lollipop 🍭 options 🤷♂️
@yearight12055 ай бұрын
I pray to Almighty God that she told him. Her daughter needs a wake up call, and a firm understanding that this type of thing won't be tolerated in your household. This way when she gets older she might change her ways. But if you don't do anything then the daughter will assume you're backing her incorrect decision, which will be reinforced as acceptable by your inaction.
@benascg-ll7sq6 ай бұрын
How to break up with honesty is a skill, never taught, that involves both the mind and the heart. That's a hard conversation that begins with "I...". Hard to break up with somebody "perfect" while the most travelled road when it comes to breaking up begins in "you did...you suck..."
@jeremym849023 күн бұрын
Just tell him, he deserves to know, he is about to make a massive mistake financially by marrying her
@StunningTransformations2 жыл бұрын
If she is cheating it needs to end! She's 19 and clearly not ready for marriage.
@JakeStewart13436 ай бұрын
You don't think she'd keep her 🦵🦵 closed while her fiance/husband is deployed? 🤔
@lealee-healthyteame1845 ай бұрын
Omg she's 19 in College, she's obviously not ready to be married, geez.
@RedeemedRogueMolecules2 жыл бұрын
I don’t know how a human being can do that to someone. What a sick thing
@yogaqueen15272 жыл бұрын
I'm shocked Dr.John told the mom not to tell the guy
@RedeemedRogueMolecules2 жыл бұрын
@@yogaqueen1527 I get he’s thinking to preserve the relationship from mom and daughter. I’d just say she could tell him, or I can. You have a week. Lol
@deadward_g Жыл бұрын
She was too young to get married in the first place, they both were :(
@sherridevries91442 жыл бұрын
Tell him.
@bogiyt874612 күн бұрын
I disagree with Dr.John on this one. While I understand what he was saying about her mom not breaking trust with her daughter by telling the fiancé or his family - I think it’s kind of similar as if your kid committed a crime and you didn’t turn them in to protect them. She’s cheating on him, she needs to pay the consequences and not waste that man’s time and potentially mess up his life.
@Yeshuaspupil10 күн бұрын
The respect I had for him is gone after hearing his take on this.
@Jim_Curtis2 жыл бұрын
The daughter needs to do the right thing and give the ring back to her fiance and end it. She'll do him a favor because age isn't marriage material. What was he thinking proposing to her at 19.
@BlahBlahPoop61711 күн бұрын
John, you’re extremely gynocentric in your analysis. It’s really sickening. I’ve noticed over the years how you tend to go easier on the women when they cheat than the men. And even on the victims, you make more excuses for them and go easier on them when they’re women than men. This is a prime example.
@Yeshuaspupil10 күн бұрын
Yeah its BS to not tell that man, im a fairly new viewer of his and this made me lose a lot of respect for him. It is so wrong to not spare him of all the pain that will come with allowing this to continue.
@sakurisake42012 жыл бұрын
Let the fiance be free and find a better and honest woman. Than a 19 year old daughter that is playing him for a different man. Give back the engagement ring, she can't just fill the void with a different guy in place, while the fiance is in the military.
@kennethhall92022 жыл бұрын
I don’t know why she is so involved in this it didn’t seem appropriate.i think you should let her deal with it she’s not four years old your gonna fly out there with her.why would you get involved in this you don’t even know her this mother is going to far .stay out of it and tell her to move I am sure that’s not going to go over well. Let your kids make their own mistakes
@Mark-sn6kh2 жыл бұрын
Tell that poor guy. Dont set him up due to your daughter's poor choices.
@ruthirwin82225 ай бұрын
Someone needs to tell her poor fiance, that awful to keep him in the dark
@thermalreboot2 жыл бұрын
Lynn, Lynn, city of sin. You never come out the way you go in.