Should I Stay Married for My Son?

Should I Stay Married for My Son?
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[@knicholas8768]

Too religious for holidays, but cheating on your wife is a green light. Go figure.

[@thecramptons]

😂😂😂

[@aqua6613]

My friends husband cheated and they were both witnesses, but since there were no witnesses to witness the cheating in the act the congregation shunned my friend, but not the husband for cheating. A bunch of hypocritical idiots. Her friend would not make a cake on her birthday but would eat the cake the next day. Don't be in a religious cult if you can't follow cult rules because it will just make you look like a hypocrit. Just get with Jesus and get Grace and Mercy. He's cheated and that's adultery so a divorce is permissible but not required. If she wants to keep getting cheated on and wishes to give her son the impression that that is ok then it will be her son's choice later in life whether he would like to follow suit. You can be divorced and coparent and don't have to subject yourself to cheating behavior and the risks of stds apart from the emotional damages of being used and played. Or join a different cult which accommodates plural marriage and ask the other woman if she would wish to become a sister wife. Basically, just do whatever makes you happy. He wants his cake and wants to eat it too...make sure it's a nice chocolate pie alá "the help" 😆

[@Riceblox2000]

I was thinking the same. What garbage

[@kathyhughes4047]

lol

[@Dotthel]

My mom, when she came to the US, was a nanny for this Hasidic jewish family and the father wanted to have an affair with my MARRIED mother. Her response: “you’re too religious to open a door on Saturdays but okay with having an affair” 😭😭

[@violetafernandez496]

I left when my daughter was less then 6 months when he cheated. He is on his 3rd child’s mother and still cheating. That was 27 years ago and I promise you that you will be ok. Less pain less tears less stressors.

[@ekaski1]

I left because of his drinking. Not one person in my life supported me or my decision, not even my parents and siblings. He finally stopped drinking 20 years later, but how much time would I have wasted?

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

​@@ekaski1 so true

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

​@@ekaski1 as a person who's with an alcoholic for years they destroy your life and your sanity

[@Somegirl3602]

I needed to hear this cause I don't know what to do.

[@reginasemenenko148]

Yep. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Too bad she didn't know before they married

[@LadyLime100]

Her husband was so religious he couldn't celebrate holidays, but wasn't religious enough to stay faithful to his wife lol

[@ineedhoez]

He doesn't want to live separately from his son but he does the 1 thing that will guarantee he loses access to his son.

[@annstewart8506]

After 23 years married, the dealbreaker was his infidelity. I walked with 2 kids, one having a disability. That was near a decade ago. We struggled in every possible way whilst my kids and i focussed on rebuilding. Yes! We all all so happy now, minus his BS. We are his greatest life loss.

[@franklincheney3653]

Getting your son out of that no-holidays cult is a huge bonus. You sleeping peacefully in a happy home with a future is a no-brainer. I doubt the neighbor chic was the first rodeo. Prepare to fight for what's right.

[@kathyhughes4047]

I left with 3 kids. I had nothing but gratitude from god for getting me out. Never been happier. That was 30 years ago. We were just fine.

[@kmb5678]

Can i ask why you left? Im considering it but im worried

[@kathyhughes4047]

@@kmb5678 He was a alcoholic. When i walked away from him and my abusive family. Life was good. Financially i was fine i got family allowance from the Government every month and i worked part time. I've had a lot of therapy over the years and i realized that it had nothing to do with my husband. I was picking the same person all the time. So i had to look at myself which meant i had to go back to my childhood.

[@kmb5678]

You had it worse than me. My husband over 9years sent sexually explicit messages to another woman, got fired for sexual harassment (sending porn images to a female coworker), completed a dating profile, reaching out to women late at night to chat and smoked pot for 15years (now stopped). But he is very good in the day to day (cooking, cleaning). Just not sure im emotionally safe

[@kathyhughes4047]

@@kmb5678 Your minimizing his abuse. You have it just as bad as me. You just dont realize yet.

[@kmb5678]

He explains everything away. Everything.

[@ishalocke1123]

Does she want her son to do this to his wife? She's teaching by showing. Most powerful teaching opportunity as parents is to live life as close to your ideal goals as possible. Kids see more than hear; show him how to respect his wife/spouse, etc. in the future.

[@valnsky]

So he is religious, but not when it comes to cheating, which every religion on this planet is against 🤦🏻‍♀️ Blimey. This girl should leave, she sounds like a wonderful person and a mother and she will build an awesome life

[@Alvin-xs7db]

Thats exactly what I thought. He's only religious when it benefits him

[@sfappetrupavelandrei]

I was wondering. What religions is this where you can't do holidays but you can sleep around? 😅😅😅

[@valnsky]

@@sfappetrupavelandrei Scumbagtianity? 😂 What a loser. I know Hindu people who would get a Xmas tree and do Easter egg hunts just to make their kids happy. This guy is a terrible parent.

[@Cookieboy70]

Aren't Islam and Mormonism 2 religions where you can have multiple wives?

[@pnwpariah8691]

@@Cookieboy70 I don’t agree with polygamy whatsoever, but I will say that for those religions adultry and multiple wives are two very different things.

[@whitneygaro8427]

His religion required us to get married & prohibits me from celebrating holidays with my son.... He's sleeping with the neighbor....🤔 Me thinks he doesn't take his religion that seriously. 🤷

[@azteca6695]

I'm the oldest of 5. My dad was an alcoholic & womanizer. My mom stayed "for the sake of the children" I resented her for it. (And it also effected my younger siblings.) Subconsciously, it gave me a negative impact on my relationship with men. And my self confidence.

[@marcusarelius]

I don’t know how anyone could stay in a ‘committed’ relationship with someone who cheated. That boundary should never be crossed, never.

[@girlygirl1890]

@Razor Smith especially with the friggin neighbor. smh.

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

So true

[@RDCFemmes]

because the reality is that a lot of marriages survive infidelity regarless of weather the man or the woman cheats, the same way some don't. I personally will do the unthinkable is anyone dares to cheat on me because I know how I invest in relationships from the beginning because I do not know how not to love wholeheartedly, that is just how I am but that is me.

[@marcusarelius]

@@RDCFemmes Define “a lot”. I’d like to see the percentage of marriages that actually survive infidelity vs lead to divorce. I know for me, the boundary would have been crossed. Goodbye

[@stephaniegonzales761]

Husband so religious he won't celebrate holidays but porks the neighbor LOL!

[@Noadvantage246]

Why is that funny? Are you perfect Stephanie? Why make fun of imperfect ppl that are at least trying to live morally upright for something greater than themselves. Even tho he messed up at least it’s better than the pure hedonism that’s mainstream.

[@stephaniegonzales761]

@Noadvantage246 you must have a guilty conscience huh? It's ok buddy...just go repent...all your sins will be washed away...until you commit them again tomorrow again.

[@jenniferbrooks--planj5459]

Leave. This marriage was doomed from the start. Don't ever marry someone with different values than you have. And certainly don't have kids with them.

[@whitneyw.7919]

Yes, keep abortion legal and available!

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

Facts

[@Rlxpison]

Sadly as someone who’s cheated, you do it once you’ll do it again. Only difference is you start cheating more discrete

[@Feliciations]

Why do you cheat?

[@leapheap6837]

You are not worthy of marriage and you are not worthy of being in a relationship.

[@blueseptember2174]

Okay, can I pick your brain? I've always wondered. Why the second time? Many people say the affair wasn't good, they feel awful so why do they do it again???

[@denisedevoto5703]

Hopefully, you stay single. Thanks for being honest.

[@AKR892]

@@blueseptember2174 I’ll answer as someone who has cheated. I like the validation, the idea that I can have a life with someone else, & the dopamine that comes from the newness of a new person, body, experience etc.

[@KA-mq4wj]

Divorce is tough on kids. But it’s better to leave an untrusting partner and marriage. Kids know what’s going on whether you think they do or not. It’s not fair for them to see the disrespect and dishonor of what their father has done to his mother. You don’t have the same values or beliefs as your husband. And your husband is a coward. Cowards cheat.

[@whitneyw.7919]

Yes and no. there are far worse situations for kids once parents split. These situations are shades of grey.

[@crow_feather]

Speaking as the daughter of divorced parents, while the divorce was certainly hard, I was so relieved when my parents split! I would far rather them not be together than to live in a home where they were constantly fighting! So, yeah, I completely agree with you! Divorce is hard on kids, but their parents staying stuck in a marriage they're miserable in is far harder on them!

[@Noadvantage246]

You’re making some real harsh judgments there. Ppl cheat for all kinds of reasons, a lot of it stems from self esteem and emotional issues. So ppl just have a higher sex drive and low willpower, etc. Ofc that doesn’t make cheating ok, but either are any of your sins. The only way ANY relationship will ever work out in life is if ppl stop being so judgmental and learn to forgive bc we are all imperfect. Loving others and forgiving freely is the second most important thing to do.

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

​​@@Noadvantage246 I'm guessing you're a cheater! Let me tell you what cheating does to your partner it destroys their sense of self, their self esteem, their trust in others and in the world, they are derailed off course and into depression and cannot function worse if they have kids the kids suffer especially if the person that was cheated on is the primary care giver the household suffers as a whole. Every memory every word told was a lie because how can I believe you when you did this and once they say or do something that was similar to what they did when they were cheating then comes the spiraling triggers that oh they're cheating again! It's sick and disgusting cause now I'm stuck wondering whats so wrong with me that I wasn't good enough for you and that even when it was good you cheated no man! Cheaters are cowards! If you have trauma and commitment issues don't be in a relationship don't destroy someone else to please your despicable need to cheat so don't tell people cheated on to just forgive cause you are what is wrong with the world! You destroy someone's who doesn't deserve that for your own selfish needs and expect them to just get over it cause it was that easy for you to cheat on someone you love so you think it's that easy for that person to get over it! It's psychotic and narcissistic! Get help!

[@Noadvantage246]

@@aprilchow-chee5281 Firstly I’m really sorry you’ve experienced that. It’s terrible and they are wrong for putting you through it. Thank you for sharing and giving a bit more insight on how a lot of people view cheating, it puts much of this comment section in better perspective. As for me, no I don’t cheat and I’ve not even really been in relationship. I don’t believe in sex before marriage or dating causally in large part bc of all the pain you just described, imo ppl should only date if they’re seriously thinking about committing to a life partner. I can understand your views but I will say the #1 problem with it is the problem with most of the world. We’ve all been taught to put ourselves at the center of everything and view things from that lens. It’s something I had to unlearn and still struggle with. Bible teaches you to put God and others first. Problem with putting yourself first is all the feelings you just described, you start feeling like everything someone says and does is about you and a reflection your value. In reality what others choose to do has very little or nothing to do with you. When you’re able to remove yourself personally from it you don’t feel personally attacked by them and can better see that they’re just another human that’s flawed and likely hurt themselves. There’s so many cycles of pain and suffering bc ppl don’t do this. Forgiveness is really a gift to yourself, I’ve experienced racism and didn’t have the best childhood or perfect parents I used to really affect my self esteem but once I found God and realized it’s really not all about me it helped massively. It lets you step out of your head and view things differently. God bless 🙏🏿

[@irene_f.]

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Don't stay for children unless you are okay with being a bad example of a relationship for your kid(s). A healthy marriage is work, don't torture yourself either.

[@bres9977]

Thank you Dr. Delony for being blunt with her. Her husband is not going to stop cheating because he didn’t want to marry her in the first place. He’s most likely cheated on her before that, she just never found out about it. All she’s doing is exposing her son to the toxicity of their relationship and he will feel blamed.

[@prettyfeet22]

I fear for the lady that her husband is the type of guy who will say I’m all in, and still cheat. I hope I’m wrong.

[@SmileyAdventures]

I mean he already said that he was all in when he married her lol 😅 And still cheated.

[@prettyfeet22]

@@SmileyAdventures good point!

[@ineedhoez]

He absolutely is!

[@marlenebtagelman2451]

Why raise a son in a bad marriage?

[@JakeStewart1343]

Fear

[@ineedhoez]

Cuz people are weak AF.

[@amydoran9987]

She should not stay for her child. She and her son will end up regretting it later on. If he cheated he will do it again.

[@Dotthel]

This is awesome advice. Don’t put it on the poor kid.

[@summerdowlig]

No. Teach your son what a healthy marriage /love is and if he doesn't have one/it show him that getting out is acceptable.

[@Mrs.Butterworth]

Infidelity is illegal in Florida. Courts will take adultery into consideration if it directly affected the child. In this case, he cheated with the neighbor, so it does affect the child. I would fight for full custody, and say goodbye to this POS for a husband and father.

[@Coffeetime1991]

just because he cheated on you it doesnt mean your child shouldnt see his dad.. get over yourself, its not about you anymore once you both have a kid together

[@missydonald6381]

@@Coffeetime1991 lmao right what a dumb comment 😂

[@missydonald6381]

The courts aren’t going to take away his rights over infidelity 😂… he would have to do far worse. Also if you think taking a child away from their father over “cheating” is okay.. then you shouldn’t be a mother very selfish thinking.

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

​@Missy Donald understandably so do you know cheating is abuse? The level of manipulation and lies and betrayal it takes to cheat on someone you love it's a choice to intentionally hurt someone you claim to love and its abusive af

[@missydonald6381]

@@aprilchow-chee5281 What does that have to do with anything? Where in my comment did I say cheating was okay 🤔… I’m specifically talking about paternal rights here. I don’t care what excuses you try to use to justify that stupid thinking, but if you think it’s okay to keep your child away from his father because of your personal feelings due to infidelity then you are selfish af and you don’t deserve to be a mother. Clearly common sense is not so common.

[@Shay-yg7nm]

Omg girl!! You don't even love each other and he disrespected you by cheating. Leave immediately!!!!!!!!

[@jaqueitch]

That husband does not deserve you. Please leave for the sake of your child and yourself.

[@girlygirl1890]

Girl run! The neighbor? Oh heck no... If you stay, you'll never have peace.

[@wf4983]

Again, such concrete advice to go forward ... amazing show!

[@AliciaMcIntire]

Guarantee she already puts an emotional burden on this poor child. Your kid shouldn't be your best friend. They are a child. They can't be your whole support system. It is asking too much of someone who is too young to understand. You should take care of them, not the other way around.

[@amendaalmonte2236]

Given how she lacks so much self esteem by staying with a cheater but he codependency to her son tells me she has some deep trauma that requires her to get some therapy.

[@zenlife321]

Doesn’t celebrate holidays and forced his wife into marriage because of his religion, but cheated on his wife. Real holy roller there….

[@Littlexlittle.]

Having different religious views doesn't matter when you are f-ing the neighborhood LOL that is an excuse.

[@ForAncientKingAndElvishLord]

😂 I feel like he's in a polygamous cult or something

[@kyleconnor2759]

Yeah for sure. Could be a satanist or some form of it.

[@darrylg3861]

No, he's just a pig. Keep religion out of this.

[@JakeStewart1343]

I can't celebrate Christmas but I am able to poke the neighbor 🤔

[@bestbudsourchannel4807]

I totally read, "Should I stay married TO my son?" 😂 Um, no

[@katrina3560]

I spittled my coffee reading this...staaahpp😂

[@erismana2105]

So did I ugh, ok we need to go outside

[@calibrial]

Me too! I think it's because the "m" in my is lowercase 😆

[@ForAncientKingAndElvishLord]

Omg me too

[@SpoonHurler]

That inner self ̶o̶e̶d̶i̶p̶u̶s̶ editor might need an update. 😁

[@Nah-ah]

Short answer - NO

[@tonymarin909]

I pray they both heal and he can get his stuff together. Seen it done before and people have better marriages but he has to change

[@truckingwithtobee]

Don’t stay for your son! It will hurt him worse if you do!!!!

[@vernabryant2894]

If hes one of Jehovahs Witnesses and hes commiting adultery if hes found out about he will be disfellowshiped,kicked out of the religion.Thats what they do.

[@Noadvantage246]

Yeah

[@garydavidson1731]

As a former JW yes, and adultery is their only grounds for divorce.

[@megalopolis2015]

There is cheating, non-communication, cultural and religious barriers, and possible danger of fleeing with the child (especially if he isn't an American citizen). She needs to sift carefully through her options, maybe even with an attorney, particularly if the husband refuses to go to counseling with her. If it proves impossible to build trust and receive respect, it might be time to cut bait.

[@charlotteboyett-napper4780]

She’s about to lose her son not just 50% of the time, but she will not be able to control any of what will go on in her sons life when he’s away from her, including what his dad says about his mom.

[@SDALLE99]

She literally said that she married “just because.” They have NEVER love each other, so why drag each other down? This isn’t a marriage, it’s just two terrible roommates. Forget about his religion, she’s the one that needs help smh

[@SaystheTruth3]

Andddd she had unprotected sex & had his baby! She chose this for herself.....

[@amendaalmonte2236]

She definitely needs help.

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

I hate when women use their kids as an excuse to stay in a miserable marriage. Lady we can tell you went through years protecting him, why are you still stuck in this deluded mindset to still stay with him? He clearly wants an exit out of the relationship. Why make it worse

[@tashajoykin5192]

It’s the Curse of Eve, otherwise known as Stockholm Syndrome. 😞

[@SaystheTruth3]

💯 agree

[@ineedhoez]

Because she is weak. We need to start shaming these women for this crap. They make it harder for the rest of us. Every woman that stays tells men that this is acceptable. If every man knew that cheating would mean automatic divorce, they would stop. Men don't like to lose the stuff. They cheat because they know you are weak and will stay.

[@edithandlez]

What an embarrassing question. STOP STAYING WITH CHEATERS!

[@buttcheeksmcgee4272]

This is so very sad . He pretends to be a super religious person, but lacks basic discipline and respect.

[@Noadvantage246]

Why are you saying he’s “pretending”. Realize religious people are exactly the same as everyone else. They like doing what feels good, they want to lash out at someone that’s wronged them, they deal with lust, etc. They have all the thoughts and emotions everyone else has, they just actively try to follow something higher than their own desires. That does mean they’re perfect or don’t mess up.

[@ineedhoez]

@@Noadvantage246 pretending because he pretends to care about his religious beliefs but violates them in the most disrespectful ways. This isn't a Mormon who drinks coffee. This is adultery.

[@JustinCase780]

Some people make the religion thing into a freak show. The guy probably justifies everything with his magic book and cult group.

[@landonlowe4029]

One of the 10 commandments is "do not commit adultery"

[@JustinCase780]

@@landonlowe4029 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Priests have molested kids for decades and plenty of preachers engage in adultery. That cool list of 10 is not always practiced by the guys preaching in.

[@ST-rj8iu]

@@landonlowe4029 but "god made him do it for a reason". he was "chosen to walk this path". the switch ups are funny.

[@Noadvantage246]

⁠​⁠@@ST-rj8iu All in your head friend. I know Jehovahs witnesses kick you out for cheating on your spouse. The truth is ppl following God still experience the same emotions and temptations as everyone else but they at least try to live by a higher standard. What’s really ironic is many make zero effort and act selfish all the time then criticize the religious person.

[@richlucero3536]

Jehovahs Witness.

[@mattfreematt9843]

Often it appears that certain people are married to the community and benefits, not the person.

[@ember13dp]

Doesn't celebrate holidays..... Yep

[@peterlee584]

That's what I thought as well.

[@JakeStewart1343]

​@@ember13dp I like holidays 😎

[@jonheredia8789]

Religious people... forbidden Love 😮

[@amendaalmonte2236]

Probably one of John’s best advice.

[@lilibethvilella]

This is why we love you Dr John ❤

[@Dotthel]

This woman doesn’t want to be in the relationship. She just did it because she got pregnant. She’s been living her life in a daze and wants to blame her son for not making a decision to leave.

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

She's not blaming anyone, she got pregnant and married. Its not what she wanted but she did what she thought she had to do.

[@Cas1353]

⁠@@rebeccaoprea9917 she was out here having unprotected sex what do you mean is not what she wanted?

[@shelbysycamore637]

​@@Cas1353 so having unprotected sex means your supposed to be happily married to the baby daddy. I don't think those things go hand in hand.

[@neisci]

​@@Cas1353 that's a bold statement to say she was having unprotected sex when every adult knows contraceptive can fail.

[@camilleward9157]

She’s not blaming her son. She just loves him so much that she can’t bear to be without him. it sucks to make hard decisions bc of terrible decisions your significant other makes. That’s a sad spot to be in.

[@SaystheTruth3]

Thou shalt Love thy neighbour 😂 ( Dude took it literally)...

[@lav7161]

She has fear of doing this on her own. It has nothing to do with the kid.

[@mamajojoworld798]

I don’t like when women do this. When families do this. Because someone got pregnant out of wedlock doesn’t mean you should force them to get married. He did not come from Much of a religious background to me. A man who comes from such a background will wait until marriage. Your husband cheating on you with the neighbor says it all. He does not want you, value you, respects you and wants to humiliate you and push you away. Cheating is wrong but what makes it even worse is your neighbor. Why would you stay for your son when the father made choices to move the son away because of his cheating. You don’t want to model bad parenting for your son. If you want to stay because you enjoy the cheating and all the emotional abuse that comes with it , stay don’t make your reason your son. Does your husband even want this marriage? Is he repentant? Has he gone to therapy? Does he have an accountability partner? Do you work and make your own money? My dear your son is not the issue here, it is your insecurities and fears. Different things work for different people. I am never staying with a husband who cheats on me. I love me. Cheating is not a mistake. The neighbor did not rape him or put a gun to his head.

[@3roachkidsdhe]

Everything is so hard

[@Destiny-jf5pb]

Wow, I couldn’t even stand took look at my husband if he cheated. The fact that she’s still willing to stay in a miserable marriage for her son is crazy 😳

[@ViolinfanaticOriginal]

Let normalize developing self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and self-love (with a strong internal core values compass) before entering relationships and certainly before having children.

[@marciabernard3820]

Walk away

[@warrensloan3467]

If you don’t think you’d ever marry someone without having a child with them, I’m not sure why you had a child with them. I‘ve known how to prevent pregnancy since 5th grade, I’m not sure what went wrong with people.

[@KatieLHall-fy1hw]

Same, I’ve always been very aware of birth control, despite being raised as a pretty traditional Catholic (still go to church, I think it has a place in people’s lives and I like to sing) but I guess I was super lucky? I know not all sex education across the nation is equal and I have been so blessed with great teachers growing up, and encouraged to ask questions. I hope people aren’t that much in the dark, or are too afraid to ask because they don’t want to look stupid (which is more common that anyone will admit)

[@darrylg3861]

If he cheats, he'll steal, he'll kill. A cheater is a cheater in every aspect of Life. Make your decision. You chose how he'll treat you.

[@mike02ss]

Not sure that’s true, if she can prove he cheated and hires a good lawyer she can get full custody and he gets visitation.

[@vernabryant2894]

Just because you are one of Jehovahs Witness doesn't mean you are in the only religion that cheats.This happens in all religions, Daa

[@nowandthennn]

If she wants to stay because of her child leave her alone and let her stay . Unless theres abuse or lots of arguments that the child hears he’s better off with two parents than being drugged from one house to another and having to put up with all the new people his parents are dating .

[@kekejefferson9219]

What is your kid benefitting from you suffering?

[@kanienkehakaka]

I wish I had an internal DrJohn voice. That would be so helpful. More exposure needed I guess.

[@kamarwashington]

Sometimes it is worth staying married for your kids. It many cases it isn’t. A blanket no is irresponsible. Especially if you consider yourself a question. Divorce is no decision to make flippantly. It can have generational effects

[@elizabethpieters7798]

You dont stay in a unhealthy marriage for the sake of kids because it cause emotional damage to the kids. Women stay for themselves, but use their kids as an excuse to stay.

[@abigailxiao3501]

Why would John encourage her to get full custody at the beginning? Isn’t shared custody better for the child?

[@iankaplan6590]

By all statical measures, Yes.

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

True but once he cheats , it makes you wonder what else he'll do.

[@melinda67]

Not if one parent is a sicko.

[@darrylg3861]

Not always

[@missydonald6381]

@@rebeccaoprea9917 Still doesn’t mean he doesn’t have a right to his son 🤷‍♀️

[@adamgonzalez1236]

She needs to work it out with him especially if he's a provider. Hopefully they can work it out. It sounds good to leave until your struggling broke af doing it on your own barely surviving.

[@reginasemenenko148]

That doesn't work.

[@Kevintendo]

I loved hearing the censor lol give us more real conversations 👏 4:12

[@theshunnedBandersnatch]

I missed that 😂

[@mattfreematt9843]

The marriage is between you and your other person. No, your kid isn't your relationship.

[@ForAncientKingAndElvishLord]

Lol, I read, "Should I stay married to my son?" Had to double check

[@ryansack5198]

Leaving isn’t always the best decision

[@thatsawrap8]

He slept with another woman. No respect for his wife. Cheating is a choice. No excuse.

[@pi8582]

He wasn't that religious 😔!!!

[@ryansack5198]

So she doesn’t mention that her kid will grow up in a broken home but that SHE won’t get to be with the child everyday. Yikes. Red flag.

[@natasabrandt21]

You got married because of the child, you're staying together because of the child... dear lord, can the child even breathe? You're both adults now, stop burdening him with your inadequacy. I feel sorry for this kid. GROW UP!!

[@nobleinthought8019]

dr d and i have different interpretations of "take him out".

[@blueseptember2174]

First step: move away from the neighbor

[@ar15topgun]

Why isit we never see "my wife cheated?* Mine did for 7 years with multiple men and tried to blame me for it. Now our grown children are having to take therapy because one of the men was one of their teachers.

[@annaolokede4582]

every form of abuse and disrespect is accepted with anything that comes with men. How do. you expect that woman to be okay with a man who has cheated sleep with her again?

[@mrskitty7929]

Check with an attorney. I’m not sure 50-50 is absolute

[@standground8284]

*She stated that they didn't love each other and got married just because. He is religious but sleeping with the neighbor is forbidden by his religion. She stated that they're both miserable. Why would anyone want to stay in a relationship of this caliber?*

[@ryand7713]

I don't celebrate holidays due to my religion, but adultery is okay!

[@rimmyreddy788]

With cheating, we always here the side of the person who was cheated on. We never hear the reason why the person cheated. I have never cheated on my wife but sex now is so far in between. I hate that the option is the cheat or get divorced. Would love to hear his side and why he decided to cheat.

[@reginasemenenko148]

Lol! Really?

[@jeromehenry4484]

Sounds like you want to stay in this marriage, just want frequent sex like it used to be. Consider both of you get physical exams, especially endocrine/hormone evaluation. There might be an underlying medical situation you are not aware of. If test results come back clear, then have a discussion with your spouse what are the issues in your relationship. Sometimes it's small things like expressing appreciation, respect, affection, etc. Sometimes it's helping around the house, so things get done sooner and both parties have enough energy left to be sexual.

[@ViolinfanaticOriginal]

It's wrong. Regardless of the reason. I mean, we can hear their side of the story to try to learn from it and instill better values within ourselves and others, but it doesn't change that it's wrong. Kinda like a murderer. There are a plethora of reasons why people murder others, but at the end of the day, murder is wrong. We can learn the reasons behind why the person committed murder so we can dissect it and try to prevent others from doing the same by providing more resources and tooling in the mental health and education space, but a murderer must still be punished. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@johannesswillery7855]

Well said.

[@johannesswillery7855]

Dad deserves to have his child half of the time.

[@landonlowe4029]

Ahh yes i also remember the part of the bible that is okay with adultery (10 commandments) but not to celebrate days (nowhere in the text - unless you really read into the term idol worship) ... how religious of this guy😂

[@meaganjohnson9378]

No

[@Coffeetime1991]

So you have a kid with a guy who you didn't see yourself marrying? Where could that go wrong? lol sounds like karma got her, he was probably showing red flags all along.

[@2daFull]

Sounds like she is done to me, even though she said that she is willing to work it out. One thing that stands out to me is she said that the only reason she hasnt left is that she doesn't want 50/50 custody and 50/50 custody "isnt enough". It makes me think that she might think of using her child as a way to hurt him. I hope she doesn't do that. The dad maybe a terrible husband but children need their father. Im hoping she doesnt do that but it happens all of the time.

[@kmb5678]

Im in this position of a 50/50 split. I understand her as im considering rebuilding the marriage, swallowing my pride. Its not about getting back at the other person. A mother being without her kids 50% is not natural. The pain is unimaginable

[@ryansack5198]

Children from 2 parent households are wildly more successful

[@em77775]

He doesn't celebrate holidays due to his religion, but he's OK with adultery and fornication?

[@chriskapralos5631]

try to work it out you can leave find another dude and this can all happen again

[@camilleward9157]

My opinion is not popular, but not being able to see your child everyday is a knife to a mother’s gut. i think the decision depends on if the couple wants to work it out. i sympathize with wanting to stay in a bad marriage so that you can be the one to raise your own child without dealing with a future step parent. because your kid is gonna be hurt whether there’s a divorce or not, so I’d rather be the one to raise my kid. I don’t really feel that the kid would grow up hating his mom for that. I think the kid would grow up knowing how much she loved the kid. BUT this particular couple isn’t on the same page with beliefs, so this does seem dang near impossible. I’d move the family and give it one more shot with professional help for the couple and for the kid.

[@lsgsrob2102]

So her taking the kid and not letting the father seeing the kid is going to make this situation better!? Wtf!

[@cashway0420]

Welcome to America

[@Nah-ah]

Just bc you’d stay with a cheating partner for your kid doesn’t mean everyone would or should!

[@melinda67]

Why should the kid be exposed to a cheater? If you cheat you have crippled morals. Cheating is not a mistake, it’s a personality. And no child needs a parent with a rotten character.

[@missydonald6381]

@@melinda67 Lmao please never have kids..😂 sounds more like you just don’t want to be around him and using the kid as a reason to justify your actions. What a selfish mentality as a parent it’s about what’s right for the child not you. Unless the kid is being abused whatever is going on between you two has nothing to do with the kid. You are criticizing someone else from morals when you think taking a kid away from there father over cheating is okay… 😂 like wtf you sound ridiculous.

[@whitneyw.7919]

Was this john trying to close a father out of the son's life??... "Do you think he will fight you for custody"... "Ask him if he'll take every other weekend" ... "What makes you think you'll have to do equal custody?"...

[@marciabernard3820]

The neighbor wow so disrespectful... walk

[@ryansack5198]

Dude.. dr John.. what the ? “Have you asked your husband to never see his kid?” Seriously man?

[@djpuplex]

Man calls wife cheats what did you do. Wife calls husband cheats it's all his fault. Always double standards.

[@David-wo9un]

You’re not wrong; it gets old.

[@pupusa9914]

Ooooh another cheating video. Time to go to the comments and read all of these experts' opinions.

[@Trumpvoter1]

Stay together for the kids Kids need a mom and a dad Men dont cheat for no reason As a man i kmow

[@dogma7911]

Was just going to post this. There were problems all along, it just happened to be him that cheated. It was for a reason. Not blaming her, there was a problem in the relationship. Kids need stability. They shouldn't have to suffer because the parents have problems. It's not ideal, but neither is having both parents struggling, step-dads, step-moms, step-brothers/sisters, etc. It's responsible parents that put their feelings and emotions aside and not flip their kids world upside down so you can feel "happy". Abusive is one thing, looking for greener pastures is another. Broken homes are devastating for everyone involved. Both my wife and I have been miserable at times, but I still tuck them in at night and we are still together everyday. I'll sacrifice my happiness for their stability every time.

[@kimberlysmith7625]

Not feelin' Dr. Delony on this call. "We dated for awhile". Caller...you knew him well enough that giving your body to him was a good idea. That decision resulted in creating an innocent child. With couples therapy, the vast majority of marriages survive infidelity. Excuse me for being blunt but, you spread your legs for him and risked pregnancy. Seek couple's therapy to give your son the best chance of avoiding having to grow up in chaos. Seek divorce when all other avenues of saving your marriage have been exhausted. Peace snd love.

[@SaystheTruth3]

Right?!? That's what I said too...

[@neisci]

I would agree if it wasn't for the fact that he's been sleeping with the neighbor. It's not about just infidelity it's the level of disrespect. Behavior is a language, through his behavior he told her how he feels about her. Therapy can only take you so far.

[@GoKU-xx2vg]

I understand the holiday thing because of the pagan background. But you can't be strict on holidays then cheat. Hypocrite he is.

[@birsancristina9278]

Religious and cheater it's just the same.