If You REALLY Want To Know How He Feels About You, Do THIS!

[@MariGolds2]

Don't give your heart to him if he can't spend regular time with you. Exactly, brilliant.

[@JonathonAslay]

Exactly

[@gloriadamaska7074]

Please be sure it's balanced time. A guy I met wanted all my free time. He was love bombing and would text me every morning, mid day and every night wanted to be on the phone for hours, until bed time Literally every night. He wanted to keep his schedule with family and friends-they were first. Though he expected me to change my schedule to accommodate him and only be with him. It was a problem for him, that I have to do every day chores, even like packing a lunch for work the next day, my self-care and learning/work, and spend time occasionally with family. I still had a lot of time to spend with him, though it wasn't enough. I was supposed to devote all my free time to him. It was not healthy. When I would try and talk about it with him, he didn't view what I said with value and ignored it. Then he tried to blame me for it not working out😳 It just wasn't healthy. I don't know how some women on here are meeting quality men, that equally like them and actually treat them respectfully? I hope to meet a great man like that very soon. I started the dating process super positive and trying to keep that positivity. I know there are great men out there. I hope to meet one shortly. I would love a real and healthy relationship.

[@rachelbailey52]

@@JonathonAslay A woman doesn't need to do anything to find out how a man feels about her. She just knows by the way he treats her and the way he is when showing affection. Love is easy.

[@lmbgemini]

But I feel sad to have to end the relationship. 😢

[@Marialena-vw7ju]

​@@JonathonAslay THANK YOU for being our older brother. So appreciate your guidance!!! Forever grateful 🙏💜

[@dianethompson6804]

My daughters said Mom, maybe you're too picky.! And I said, let me see, "he has to have teeth, his own or false, he has to be sober enough to stand up, he has to be considerate, pleasant looking, and he has to be able to talk in sentences! I don't think that's too picky!!

[@dianethompson6804]

I've lost a husband, a sister and both parents. I can't imagine losing a child.. you have my deepest sympathy.

[@deec411]

😂😂😂 Agree 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@aurorawalls3177]

If he has paid those teeth's they belong to him, now you don't have to help him pay for them!

[@lisahowell984]

I think nobody is too old to have a great relationship

[@michellemcauley2315]

Thank you! I agree

[@artishastudio8956]

I have a list of what I want. #1 emotional intelligence, Clear communication. Affectionate, cuddler, shared interests, quality time committed, travel partner, long-term Conflict resolution skills, kind, generosity of spirit. Mindful, giving, easy going, fun, playful, creative, intentional. Present. Spiritual, transparency. Authentic. Lives in the same place.❤

[@CindyKrueger-z4z]

I have a list as well!

[@delorisharrison6731]

Yes!! Bring him on Jesus! ❤

[@Carol-sx7tv]

I met a widower on the internet. I’m a recent widow. We’re both 75. Texting at first but have started talking on the phone. We are having fun n it’s wonderful to laugh again. He’s in Tennessee and I’m on the east coast. He plans on coming to visit me in the Fall. Our families don’t know about us. Do you think we have a chance for love. He’s very attentive n sincere. He wrote me a poem n I was blown away! My deceased husband kept me at arms length. Honestly I don’t know how I stayed with him for many many years

[@venumames6921]

@@Carol-sx7tv give him a chance

[@trudyramgren8817]

Oh, this makes perfect sense. Now I know that I'm not crazy or have high expectations..He is an avoidant and and highly dismissive of my feelings. I'm old now and don't have the time to sit by and babysit him and hope he would change. That's not going to happen. I'd rather be alone than to be with someone who is wasting my time. Thank you Jonathon

[@OlderWomenRock]

I’ve been with dismissive Avoidants . It’s too painful . I’m older and can’t deal with their coldness , it’s brutal

[@cowgirlcandice833]

Amen sister, I second this

[@sherriflemming3218]

Been there done that with avoidants. Brutal. I'd rather be alone, and single. They'll say that they cannot meet your expectations, are too demanding, a pain in the ass ,etc. They'll blame you for all of their behaviors.

[@dianegallagher7724]

Men like to shop around. As well as we do. It's best to stay by urself. N do what u want now a days.

[@carolynreeves475]

Yes ma’am. It is a waste of BOTH our valuable time.

[@lovesakitas]

I took back my power. It hurts to tell someone it’s over but this is necessary if we want a certain type of relationship on our own terms.

[@TruePathLiving]

It's been two days do you think you can give us updates in a few months ? I'm scared to pull the trigger but feel like it's the only thing I can do.

[@Joshualuv13]

@christinav126 Iv just been through this today in fact. Decided to pull plunge on a intermittent causal off and off again connection. Did I want to ? Absolutely not .Do I know it's the best thing for me in long run.Definitely.

[@LynnSandler-j9k]

Ladies take back your power, dont have sex after youve had wayyy to much wine🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@BettySopcak]

I like listing to you you are a good person who doesn't judge me

[@BettySopcak]

​@@LynnSandler-j9k😊

[@funnygirlever]

If he's into you and want a real relationship. He will go out of his way for you. How he treats you is how he feels about you. If he's too busy and texts and calls when he wants to. You're not important to him enough. He doesn't like you enough. Maybe someone else in his life but lets say there's not another person. He just doesn't like you enough to see you no matter how busy you are or him. Let go and stop holding on the good. Time wasted is worse than wasted money. I'm too old and know my worth. Time to let go and stop wasting my time for someone who isn't on the same level. I don't have time to babysit and wait for people to grow up. Love myself more. I'm working on it. Working on myself everyday .

[@Virgolove]

Needed this❤❤❤thank u

[@sherriflemming3218]

💯

[@cynthiasutton]

You are Spot On Thank You so very much ❤

[@DusktilDawn-xq8rl]

Yes!!!😂I know this feeling all too well. 🙂

[@joconna]

Truth. I'm now dating a man, for the first time, who makes time, (and he's a business owner), and actually does what he says he's going to, and treats me like a queen. I've never had this, and believe it or not, It is very difficult for me. It's hard waiting for the " other shoe to drop".

[@jadegreen1554]

“Telephone form of relationships are the weakest form of relationships. If you are going to learn how someone feels about you, it will be in person. They will want to spend as much time as possible together with you” JA

[@JonathonAslay]

Exactly!

[@barbaraannehoffman197]

Truth

[@barbaraannehoffman197]

Texting is even weaker

[@sherriflemming3218]

Texting. Breadcrumbs and pen pal. Agree phone communication is the weakest form of communication. It becomes tedious and boring.

[@Donnamg100]

I call it phone support

[@jadegreen1554]

“If you approach the process from confidence, in your sovereignty, from your sense of virtue, if you are intentional, establish your standards, men will be less likely to use you” JA

[@deec411]

I gave up wanting a relationship in Jan and focused on being happy alone. two weeks later I met my wonderful boyfriend Ed on Valentine's Day ✨💖✨

[@JonathonAslay]

Love that!

[@deec411]

@@JonathonAslay Thank you💖 just celebrated 7 months together. it's wonderful but if it ends, I'll be OK.

[@KimberlyBorges-h5l]

"Only God can take what's broken, & make it whole again. Takes 2 whole people as 1 to make a relationship work."

[@carlaforth7707]

Yesss

[@paigehreha4646]

I completely agree

[@Salvation123..]

Thank you for that insightful input. It's so true the Creator can still mend the broken heart... Hopefully the man who I wanted to walk with towards the journey of buildimf a long- term relationship from London finds healing from God...We let each other go, I could not handle it especially when he was too attached to the past relationship..All the best to you A ❤... "Your past is an indication of the future.." - Jonathan.

[@speechgirl9647]

Wow! Everything on this video was so spot on & if a guy pulls back ,but you are head over heels about him, let him go, why be with someone who doesn t feel the same way?

[@elarisa10]

Exactly

[@sherriflemming3218]

💯

[@annettepaul3584]

I have a motto ‘I’m not here to force you/anyone to be with me’

[@claudieC.]

I dated a rigid and unhappy person who had been through 2 divorces and was abandoned by his father at a young age and has a history of discarding others if there was a disagreement and he kept grudges. Which is what his sister told me. Which he didn't have a relationship with until I showed up and he asked me to go see her with him after 13 years of not speaking. They never resolved their issues as the conversations were very shallow. I wasn't going to get in the middle of that. Not my circus and not my monkeys. He discarded me after I declined paying rent and selling all my things to be with him. He was asking me to make all the sacrifices. He would not do anything to accomodate me. Wouldn't even let me bring my small desk. He was selfish and I wasn't happy so I wasn't going to sacrifice for a selfish and unhealthy communicator and rigid person and invest more than I was already giving, which was I was all in trying to make him happy and I loss myself trying to please him. I'm doing great since and thank him throwing our relationship in the trash because I was fully invested and he clearly wasn't. So I thank him for setting me free.

[@JonathonAslay]

He needed healing

[@ladylibertywdc8324]

That paying rent makes one feel like a tenant- just say no, run. Sharing expenses needs to be negotiable & shared based on incomes & assets.

[@llgrazes]

Holy shit, girl, you dodged a bullet. Someone like him, I’m saying, he will be back in which case run girl run, I’m a retired cop I can get you into the witness protection program run away.❤❤❤

[@carolinelaronda4523]

Ugh he sounds like a giant toddler . Never go half with a man he sounds like a dismissive avoidant and possibly a narcissist, but he is trash. Good riddance.

[@sherriflemming3218]

@@llgrazes Well said. Share your knowledge with women! Safety first.

[@annettepaul3584]

I like the statement that telling a man of my intentions ‘gives him a roadmap’. It emphasizes the importance, even more so, of giving a man this information. It doesn’t just help me, it helps him.

[@valkyriesardo278]

School taught me there are 3 levels of communication. The first level is casual chat about surroundings, the weather, etc. The second level is more personal but only the virtues, nothing risky. Third level is self-disclosure (warts and all) that does include the risk of being judged. I found the quickest way to bring someone to 3rd level is to go there first, to take the risk first. My current sweetheart was pontificating about wanting honesty in a relationship. I pointed out a recent example where I had gone out on a limb of self-disclosure that had me feeling very vulnerable. He admitted having had a suspicion of the fact but didn't want to mention it because that would risk embarrassment. Eventually, he was able to concede that honesty is much easier when it doesn't cost you anything. It is a lot to ask of someone to wear their heart on their sleeve. Do not ask for what you will not give. Be willing to take the initial risks, but don't risk more than you can take.

[@lisabrazell8246]

I can’t tell you how appreciative I have been I found you. My long distance relationship w a wounded individual really never felt right when we first met. I knew a few months ago it was over but I failed to end it. Last night, once again, I became his counselor as he talked smack, looking backwards at all his sorrows, anxiety about his prior marriage (which was and still is a mess). I have finally decided I deserve so much more than what I’m getting. Treading water and he can’t see it. Tonight I’m bowing out and am excited to end it.

[@EnidWellness]

I’m living parallel lives with you. I could have written every word.

[@carolejackson8357]

Even cuddling is more intimate than copulation.

[@heidijones7670]

That man might have healed from his past relationships and become a better person every relationship brings lessons and I'm grateful for all of mine so I don't have a bad thing to say about my ex's they all helped me be the person I am today xx

[@martimontoya6243]

It’s almost comical how much sense you make Jonathan. I’m a “Relationship Coach” myself, but after reading snippets of your “Self Love” book , I realize just how much I’ve neglected myself while trying to guide others. I’ll be recommending your book to my clients for sure, but mostly & personally, I’ll be taking everything in it to heart. Thank you 🙏❤️🙏‼️

[@trust493]

As a single mom and I like when we all encourage each other.

[@sherriflemming3218]

♥️

[@isabelleboulay2651]

It takes integrity and kindness. If you're both sharing time together and there's a mutual reciprocity with these 2 qualities, you're golden. With integrity, you build trust, which is the base of all relationships. The kindness brings people to open up and care. If you spend time together to realize this together and bond over it, you're starting and maintaining that bond. voilà!

[@Kann841]

I dated a man that was widowed for just 8 months and broke up with him because it’s too soon. He had lied saying she passed away 2 years ago. He later confessed she’s only been gone 8 months! He was a love bomber and ready to get married after a few dates. Very much a problem. I broke it off and asked him to get counseling

[@sherriflemming3218]

Wise indeed.

[@agnesn3209]

😂🎉

[@queenr.480]

Had a guy do the same. They will use your energy time and body to heal. DONT be that girl and allow him to give it some time.

[@jessicakim2511]

He LIED about when his wife died? Weird!!

[@tanyamiller6083]

U are so right about isolation. Even families aren't close like they used to be.

[@Kaycee-mr5bb]

Thank you for acknowledging widows/widowers. I am one of those widows and my late hubby passed away 3 years ago. I’m out dating but I can’t help not to compare new suitors from my late husband. My expectations from new suitors - either he treat me as good as my husband or better. I just can’t do less and disrespect. And you’re right, widowers are still capable of loving new partners but the other person will have to accept that our former spouses is part of us and mature enough to understand that our love from our previous spouse are different than the ones we currently building with a potential partner.

[@R-dj7is]

Wow, Ur advice is golden…things U don’t usually hear…straight & to the point.

[@sibbiecakesify]

I am still healing from a long term relationship. And, I am learning so much about healthy relationships from you. I just love you and Marie. 🤗

[@cm9044-b7j]

I give up! I have tried all that you are talking about and in the beginning, they all agree to it but then they start acting up... fading away, semi-ghosting - say what you mean and mean what you say! I hate dating in my 50s! I'd rather be alone than with some supposed mature man who doesn't know what he wants. There are too many other options out there these days and no accountability. People need to be honest that would help avoid all the BS!

[@1lasttime69]

Ya think?

[@starVox1]

Even if you have standards/ boundaries I find I keep attracting users and losers over the past 2 years. I don't respond to any message that is complimentary about my looks or sex appeal. I have kiboshed early dating that has the expectation of intimacy brought up after a couple of dates. The problem is that , so far, almost every guy I've dated has started out with good vibes, as if he is lying acting like a gentleman then turned into a pig. ( Sorry , don't want to insult pigs, they are really sweet and intelligent animals). Wish men would be more like them instead of pretenders!

[@pinprapareith3468]

I am married but enjoy your clips because I think I can always learn better wats to relate to people.

[@chanbriajackson4679]

Asking how do i know if I can trust you or have my best interest at heart is a great question. I definitely will use this

[@JonathonAslay]

Absolutely!

[@mercedesescoto628]

You just get better and better. I am. New Yorker, listen to your wise words from Puerto Rico. I learn something new with each video you put up.

[@JonathonAslay]

Awe.. thank you 😊

[@deec411]

ok Jonathon I'm going to be your little sister and suggest you TRULY let go of wanting a happy, healthy relationship and the universe will bring it to you. The desire creates resistance. I think we're afraid if we stop wanting it, we'll miss it. But I think the opposite is true. If we keep wanting it, we keep it away. Big hugs 🤗🤗🤗

[@JonathonAslay]

I spend less than an hour a week thinking about it...

[@deec411]

@@JonathonAslay Yay!! glad to hear that 🤗

[@ceciliareynolds5949]

Thanks for the great info. You really are giving great "big brother" advice.

[@heidijones7670]

19 months celebate after my last relationship and Healing, I'm Happy and looking to share my Happiness with someone special I also love myself unconditionally and can't wait to share my love also 💞😍💞

[@annarose4828]

So many 💔 people so sad! 2 bad woman and men are so afraid of being hurt. We have 2 be so careful. We need miracles they do happen❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@JonathonAslay]

I agree

[@1naturelover]

Guys and Gals everywhere are saying , after a few drinks . " I miss my ex, I'm not over them " 😅 good red flag. Thank you .

[@teresachristie6090]

Hmm. Truth Serum

[@shelleysaville8732]

I agree with your comment about the shiny penny & that really hurts the person that lost love. 😢😢😢😢😢

[@EllieM_Travels]

Perusing, chivalry, opening car doors, dinners, romance, fun, laughter, giving, kindness, attraction, mutual respect, and both of us on the same page. That’s how my last relationship began. I can’t even imagine going on a “list” date!

[@JonathonAslay]

What's a list date?

[@EllieM_Travels]

@@JonathonAslayA list date is when you come into the date with a list of things you want or expect. It’s almost like an interview to see if they check all the boxes.

[@cara4737]

Thank you Jonathan! ❤ This is your best post yet! Im so grateful for the info and appreciate your dedication to this most important subject. You and your posts are a blessing to me! ❤

[@BexnRN]

1. Good character/kind. 3. Agreeable/giving personality. 4. Fun/playful. 5. Intentional. 6. Healed. Oops lol. Missed one.

[@JonathonAslay]

Kindness was #2

[@BexnRN]

@@JonathonAslay thanks man!!

[@mlbm13]

“How and why can I trust you beyond fidelity “

[@KA-ub4rc]

Thank you 😊

[@LynnSandler-j9k]

If a male has an alchohol or drug addiction. If you really want to help him, dont date him at all, bc he does not align with who you are as a human being.

[@Handleitt1]

Thank you for this video. It helped me realize I was not dating intentionally. I was dating to meet someone I like and when I found that person I had no clue what to do but fall flat on my face. Now I have questions that help me find out what kind of person he is so I can learn if I can trust him and ensure we’re on the same path. I was leaning back in my feminine energy, thinking he would take the lead. And I wondered where he would lead me. Once he cross the line I gave up hope and burned the bridge. Lesson learned that I failed by not leading. ❤ Thank you so much!! I will never make this same mistake again and I now have a list of intentional questions 😄

[@ketherwhale6126]

3:07 At least it’s a glorious pre spring sunny 🌞 day at this car/ boot sale! I like the knitted sock puppet people. 7:19 That bin is a steal at 90% off! A great size too. Ursula is quite “ haunting “ for stashing something. The linen coat for spring is really nice. Great finds & wonderful to include things for Luke too! Cheers 🥂!

[@b.tilson5198]

I needed to hear this so desperately before I settled for less than what would bring happiness. Thank you!

[@JonathonAslay]

Happy to hear it helped.

[@LeoMoon_Goddess]

I resonate with all of what you share! Too many things have gotten confused, warped and short-cut! We have forgotten the basics, the golden standards and nuggets! I have always felt, believed and desired a "local relationship" as being in person is crucial. And, opposites may attract but, IMHO, this is not one of the keys to the KING/QUEENDOM 😊

[@dianethompson6804]

Sorry for the loss of your son!😢 I'm 74, a man down the hall from me is 64. I'm recently retired and he's still running his own business. This man and I said hi in passing and had a 5 min talk in the laundry room once. One night he knocked on my door and brought me some beef stew. I thanked him and said what a nice surprise. 2 weeks later he brought me some spaghetti. Then I reciprocated with cookies a week later and he told me they were really really good! So we've been trading food about every 2 weeks. I figure he's not that interested in me cause we haven't spent any time talking or being together, so I'm confused as to why he started giving me food to begin with? He's a grown man, so I know he knows how to ask a woman on a date if he's interested! Neither one of us is involved with anyone else.

[@JonathonAslay]

Maybe he just wants a companion and not a relationship.

[@dianethompson6804]

@@JonathonAslay that would be good.

[@MariaFlores-q1z]

Iam learning a lot even though iam widowed and had been married for over 40years I agree it takes a lot of commitment and communication kindness and validation is so important thank you I like your advice TY

[@ranacole7859]

Hi Johnathan, I am from Melbourne Australia. I have been watching your videos and I am very impressed with your honesty and transparency. Thank you 🙂 Rana

[@JonathonAslay]

Wow, thank you

[@parveengordon9524]

I believe you are at right time in the relationship to seriously assess your future with this individual. If a man is serious about a woman I believe six months is enough time for him to start some discussions about the future. As a matter of fact those discussions should have been done before you committed yourself but it's never too late. Best of luck going forward.

[@pilyangmaarte1551]

Is it acceptable if a man says he's not sure of marrying his gf after 2yrs of being together? And also, is it normal that a woman have never introduce her bf to her family even if the've been together for 2yrs?

[@amandasmith8108]

​@pilyangmaarte1551 I think there should have been a conversation about long term intent...was marriage clearly on the table for both parties or has one party come to the conclusion that it SHOULD be on the table, but the other has never had that intention nor wants it. I would say that never introducing a partner in a 2 year relationship should provoke a conversation...WHY have they not? Again...expressions of intent and actual conversations around these things without pussyfooting is critical. Says she who has only ever had one proper relationship that ended in part due to failure to communicate 🤷‍♀️ Well...I learned THAT!! 😂😂😂

[@pilyangmaarte1551]

@@amandasmith8108 Marriage was mentioned in passing, no formal talks. Guy said they are going to get married nxt yr but nothing has been started as of now with regards to wedding preparation. And the girl said that her siblings do not like the guy bec he's a single dad of a teenager (that's her reason for not formally introducing the guy to her parents and siblings and other family members)

[@illuminariefairie333]

I’ve been a part of your community for a year or two and this is thee most cohesive relevant conversation for myself yet!❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Wow, thank you!

[@TheAttractionTriggers]

*Effective communication is key to knowing how someone truly feels. Let's strive for open and honest conversations.*

[@sharonhazelden5834]

Unfortunately this is what lacked in my previous relationship. My partner refused to talk to me saying we went over the same thing time & time again, making out I had the problem! I just wanted to talk things through with him but he couldn't talk. Things/issues didn't get resolved & it eventually tore us apart. You'd think after 17 years of being together he'd be able to open up to me? Men seem to be able to open up in the bedroom, during sex, but not with their hearts, thoughts & feelings. Communication is key to a successful relationship.😢💔

[@cammiek3348]

@@sharonhazelden5834 ohhhh so this my be why some “experts” say to have sex daily, or at least 3x/week” during marriage? The guy has to want it that much, or it’s a 🚩 red flag’

[@EllieM_Travels]

That’s why dating apps ask if your looking for friendship, casual, long term relationship, marriage. You both need to want the same things.

[@JonathonAslay]

Indeed

[@ShanaRogalski]

This is very true...a lot of people will tell you who they are....listen

[@kathleenward596]

His girlfriend of 18 years died 3 years ago. They lived almost an hour away from each other, not together. He's got her furniture, clothing, and pictures up everywhere. How do I fit in? He called me her name recently and cried. We are saying I love you, and I'm involved with his family, so I think he's ready to date, but he hasn't found a place for me yet. I'm starting to pull away and tell him that I have no place in his house.

[@SukhamSpa]

Get out if it ge is not ready

[@nancystinger7393]

My mother used to tell me a man will tell you he loves you to seduce you into bed the morning after will he still tell you many men have perfected the art of seducing

[@JonathonAslay]

Sad and true...

[@robynbonni8557]

Hello sweet Jonathan, I'm truly so grateful for your words. At this point I'm just looking for a man to be a friend with and then finding slim pickings. I'm not sure how to reach past my own envelope. I ride a motorcycle I've been in that community I would love to find a man who rides a motorcycle. As well unfortunately most of them have a dirtier lifestyle than I do do. So you talk about standards I'm looking for someone who really loves themselves. That's a hard task

[@jangrabofsky2379]

Extremely helpful Johnathon ❤ I’ve been letting the man take to much control or expect them too and when he doesn’t lead it ends in disappointment. I feel Like I understand my role a bit more In order for future relationships to be successful

[@gloriadamaska7074]

@jangrabofsky2379 I think a lot of the confusion in the dating world is because we were taught men are the leaders in the relationship. Everything is now different, because how a group of people started the change in dating, and that's now dominant in the dating world. Depending on which dating coach/leader a person follows, some say men are the leaders, others say is both people and others say women are now the leaders. Do you see now why there's so much confusion? Too many different thought processes and different values. We're supposed to navigate all that and still lead with perfection. The minute we don't respond perfectly or don't have all the answers in leading, the guy moves on to someone else. It's unhealthy. Nobody is perfect, yet all the pressure is still on women, and it's considered her fault if things don't work out with the man. That's an enormous amount of pressure to put solely on the woman. From what we hear, most men don't do the inner work. So they're incapable of leading or having a healthy relationship we're told. In the midst of all that, please be gentle with yourself and know the responsibility doesn't rely solely on you.

[@sherriflemming3218]

💯

[@texasstardust6010]

I have ALWAYS considered kissing " a big deal " ... which I found out was so off putting to men that wanted to date me... WELL, Too bad. ... I'm not changing that just because it might not be " liked " by a guy I barely know from a rock .... 🙄👌🏻 People are so quick to want the Physicality of the Relationship, rather than build on the Values , etc. And you are absolutely correct on the process of taking the time to evaluate the possible longevity of the the two people involved. INTENTION is huge, and it is sorely lacking today.

[@debbie9881]

I agree. One time I asked a friend, "do you like his kiss?" She gave me the weirdest look. She didn't know and she was married to him 🙈

[@marianhofmann557]

I agree....ITS EXHAUSTING !!!!

[@JonathonAslay]

What is?

[@CC-kr3mr]

Yes, so true! Vivian on Pretty Woman had it right!

[@deebert6486]

Why as a woman do you think that you can change a man..when you first meet a man listen to his story, if he blames everything on someone else..and doesn't take any of the blame on himself..."WALK AWAY"! You are responsible only to you first..if it doesn't feel right it's a sign that it's time to walk..there will or is someone out there just for you **NEVER SETTLE ** for someone who thinks he loves you and isn't a man! 🙏🤞

[@debraannedimezza8075]

I’ve never gone for looks especially as I got older I would have friends meet my significant other and a few months and they would say to me what do you seen him? He’s not even good looking and I would look at them and say it’s how he makes me feel. It’s how we relate to each other it’s not about looks

[@elsefallado]

Thank you Sir, first it confused me about his silence then i became persistent ask him after 2 days of not messaging him. He replied, and i am back happy to communicate him again.

[@lisabarcia7107]

2 days? Try being devastation of not hearing from them for over 21/2 months. Not even a call back to your call. After so close for 12 yrs.

[@janesmith162]

This was brilliant! Thanks.

[@JonathonAslay]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@kassyboychenko1401]

28 yrs old and I’m so happy I came Across your profile and videos. Someone who didn’t have good counsel growing up, this is very informative and very much so needed. If I may Ask, is there a video or perhaps your thoughts on men who move in with woman and what does it mean, in a deeper sense? Thank you so much.

[@vickiortega8034]

I'm sorry Jonathan, but I disagree with you. Grown ass men should and do know how they should treat a woman. It is not our job to teach them. I'm tired of making excuses for men. They need to step up and be men.

[@daynaanderson2630]

Kissing and sex are very intimate, special and special- I’m very old fashioned in my values and appreciate men who are respectful of those values.

[@daynaanderson2630]

Augh! Auto correct .

[@abrilthom895]

Man I feel bad about it. I was with a person that didnt healed and it was exactly what you said. I wish I was not too young

[@gerimitchell5066]

I agree , most men day how they love me . But, I never feel the same. I never lead them on and let them know.

[@JonathonAslay]

That's good to not lead them on...

[@melissaa.7970]

Loved a Indian Matchmaking. Aunty Sema doesn’t put up with much.. she tells it like it is.

[@JonathonAslay]

Yes, loved her...

[@felicitypaulse7965]

Excellent Indian matchmaking is fantastic ! Aunty Sema from Mumbai!

[@LynnSandler-j9k]

Have a Happy & Blessed Holiday to all🎉 best wishes in 2024 people🎉

[@lindabright5830]

Jonathan you are awasome! Information is terrific!

[@agnitagregoire8699]

Tnx Jonathan. You are my big brother n I'm listening. Real vibes

[@PamelaDeMers]

I think you are totally awesome, Jonathon! You make so much sense.

[@taraleightaracumming6726]

Thanks, I will order your book asap! And also “ The Hoffman Process”! Your the best!

[@JonathonAslay]

WOW, thanks 😊

[@charlottaakerhielm2024]

I think this is one of your best pod casts and I have listened to some. You are so right; getting to know each other and that takes time. A man who is really interested in you can wait for sex.

[@junebrezgis1652]

I have been widowed 12 years and I was extremely close to my husband of 25 years. I have dated people since he died but I did not do a good job of picking people to be in my life. I don't think I was ready before.

[@noraroustamov8941]

found your channel today , your brilliant

[@JonathonAslay]

Welcome aboard!

[@user-rj4uz6uc6w]

Good morning thank you for all your helpful advice the topic you just spoke of that is myself with my better half

[@JonathonAslay]

You are so welcome

[@Joshualuv13]

I love this Jonathan, advice or guidance ,especially right now as iv reconnect with a guy who iv had a causal intermittent thing who's resurfaced. The thing is ,this time, he seems intentional in spending together time as his needing companionship, but saying he doesn't do relationships and suggesting we roll with it and happy to just be platonic friendship but we often end up physically intimate regardless of both of us trying to resist .

[@Gem_ini]

This is absolutely amazing ❤! It’s what I have heard before but not so astutely and well said. The using you to heal and then move on like a shiny penny to the next person. Wow! That is the key. It’s annoying Jonathon got sidetracked at 15.21 ‘what often happens is…’ damn I wished he finished that bit 😅😂

[@tinapregelj3730]

Hej, Jonathan, I really appreciated your todays contribution to my development. Thank you! ❤

[@lisahowell984]

Agreements is a good way to understanding where your crossing the line

[@RebekahLukey444]

Your videos make me cry, in a Very Good way! Healing Thank you! Real talk

[@JonathonAslay]

So glad!

[@Arentjansz]

You are Great coach, and i AM sorry abt yogur son, Bless you and yur fam. Paty G forma Amsterdam

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks so much

[@lenabagdad1793]

Thank you so much Jonathan ❤ What an eye opener!!

[@JonathonAslay]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@sheriuk7653]

A big teddy bear hug back to you Jonathan.

[@elarisa10]

The real deal is not to invest your emotions in anyone ,never ever. Stay chill , dont care too much ,othervise youll get hurt at some point

[@JonathonAslay]

Care is an important part of a healthy relationship IMHO. I would change that, don't make your happiness based on if a person wants to be with you.

[@jillsolomon9157]

Develop Joy, not happiness. Happiness is fleeting. Joy is there, even amid stressful times, hard days and lonesome moments.

[@angieatvegas]

It's exhausting !!

[@JonathonAslay]

What is?

[@chrissylayton49]

The beginning of this video is so useful and would have been beneficial for me for my past short-lived relationship. 100% insightful video, overall, thank you, Jonathon

[@JonathonAslay]

Happy to hear it helped

[@artishastudio8956]

Appreciate your videos just came across you in the past few days. Magical. Answering alot of my questions been asking the Universe😂❤

[@sism3028]

Love listening to you! Thank you for your channel!

[@annettepaul3584]

I know it goes against popular belief, however I have found that my 2 best relationships were when they were fresh out of divorce. They seemed to understand partnership better. The men who have been in the disappointing dating world for years were more difficult to get a commitment from. It’s like the got used to having their space and the variety. The post marital issues creep in even years after the divorce.

[@GDSforYou]

Hey! I'm your new subscriber from India. I really love your suggestions and have already ordered all the books suggested by you till now. Thank you so much ❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for subbing!

[@JoanMulder]

Everything is resonating Big Brother ❤

[@ConnieBargas]

I met a man that is 50 and I'm 73. My question is, I think he is too young, and does not seem to be ready for a relationship, should I continue or just tell him we are not ready for any advancement?

[@eleanorseip2391]

Thank you so much for your words of wisdom

[@JonathonAslay]

You are so welcome

[@sash6996]

Im saving this video to listen to it again before the next man i would consider to date 😊, thank you,love it ,so good 🎉

[@JonathonAslay]

You're welcome 😊

[@lolitaoxendine7184]

That's true you shouldn't have taken forever and you should spend time together

[@sarahcook6944]

Question...what if he doesn't say I like you back?

[@MsLilac88]

I enjoy watching your informative relationship advice videos, my husband & I have been married for 4 years plus now. 😊