*Jordan Peterson* PERFECTLY Explains My Life...

[@AlexHefner]

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[@OverandOutChief1]

Good review Alex. Check out the GQ interview with Jordan Peterson. He takes off the boxing gloves in that one.

[@davidt1621]

You don't know it yet, Alex, but this video is a gateway like your first rock music reaction and your first political talk video reaction. This one is a slippery slope buddy.

[@davidt1621]

Also, 'word to the wise', if you go all the way down this particular rabbit hole, your wife will have a very strong opinion on the subject.

[@StudioXander]

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[@sarcasmoassholio4208]

Id like to see JP analyze Amber Turd. She doesn't seem to agreeable

[@NickCamokidVisneski]

The truth is that genuinely nice guys finish last because we want to make sure she finishes at least twice before we do

[@EC-dz3fb]

𝐁𝐮𝐡-𝐝𝐮𝐦 𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐡! 🥁

[@dadouttolunch6486]

Hahahahaha

[@CorndogCrusader]

I mean, you joke, but that's actually true.

[@ryanforsythe8923]

I love girls

[@jasonknotts5001]

That's actually not the truth. Nice guys don't get a chance to finish a girl because they can't get the girl in bed in the first place. High value women EXCLUSIVELY date assholes.

[@jima6545]

One of the best things I've ever heard,"I want to bring children into this world to be good people."

[@katiegwynn4495]

The people who are called *polarizing* are generally not. They are speaking their minds to a world that polarizes them

[@Dregen1]

Polarizing and speaking your mind aren't opposites. You can speak your mind and be polarizing.

[@davehughesfarm7983]

Yes yes yes

[@InteliLEX]

Well yes that’s how you become “polarizing”

[@SpaceEmperorGenos]

@@InteliLEX People aren't like words in a dictionary. You can't factually label somebody as any one thing simply because many people decide to do so.

[@InteliLEX]

@@SpaceEmperorGenos I’m not quite sure what exactly you mean here - I’m not labeling anybody, I’m merely saying that people whom others consider “polarizing” ARE considered such for the very reason that they DO speak their minds (often about issues that are somewhat controversial or not mainstream) ~ I’m not quite sure why that would be problematic?

[@donaldchapman4312]

Introvert here. I usually find it hard to engage in small talk. It’s hard for me to feign interest in pleasantries. If a subject comes up that is either hypothetical or directly deals with issues of today, I can find myself talking quite a bit on these subjects. However, when I’m hanging around people I’m not familiar with, these don’t seem to be conversations that get brought up. I always feel like that weird guy in the background of the conversation. The joys of life.

[@lorieakin5771]

You can learn a lot by observing others. Bringing up a topic when there's a lull in the conversation will put you quickly in your comfort zone. Ask the "what do you think of this" question. Everyone has an option and loves to share them.

[@hayleybartek8643]

I'm the same way. I come across as very wooden during small talk.

[@svengangert2683]

Weird. Can't really consider myself an introvert, but I'm a loner with social anxiety. Smalltalk is absolutely no issue for me, I'm actually able to enjoy it and people would never know that I have social anxiety, but I can't stand to be with people, especially large groups, for longer periods of time. It's exhausting to me. The few true friends I have are all rather eccentric, but not to the point where people would consider them weird. Since I was a kid I kinda learned to look at people from a birds eye perspective, which makes them pretty predictable and often boring. I subconciously recognize behavioral patterns in people. That all might sound like I don't like people very much, but it isn't true. For some reason it just takes a lot of energy for me to be social, but I still enjoy it very much.

[@CelticSpiritsCoven]

Perhaps I am a natural born conversationalist. Usually I engage in small talk telling someone something helpful that I discovered, and ask what they think about it. For instance, the other day I found myself in a social situation, and I began telling someone about how I no longer have to go buy bottled water and carry that heavy thing because I got a home water distiller that gives me better water than bottled water. (everyone hates having to carry that heavy package of bottled water, so it's really a universal thing most people would want to hear about a solution to the problem) So When I asked what that person thought about it, I suddenly had a crowd around me, who heard what I said, and who were then engaging in conversation about their lives. I got to know their spouses names, their children's names, where they work, where they go to church or school, how long they've lived in the city..... all sorts of things. Just because I started a conversation about having a way to no longer need to buy bottled water. Maybe this could be a helpful thing to do to be able to break the ice with people. Bring up a subject you are interested in. It doesn't have to be political, it can really be anything.

[@lorieakin5771]

@@svengangert2683 could you possibly be an empath? You just described all the characteristics of one.

[@thatssonerdy4467]

Often times someone that is truly genuine is someone that is viewed as both a nice person as well as an asshole. The fact that you are seen as both should reassure you that you have respectable character and admirable perspective. As you are someone who is open to admitting that you can be wrong and have your opinions changed by something that is backed by rational and logic. While at the same being sympathetic to the emotional side as well. As a subscriber since I believe 2016 your character is very apparent...at least to me.

[@davehughesfarm7983]

Thats me....A number 1 asshole..But have big compassions...

[@winry2357]

When I first got back into the dating scene a while ago, I talked to my best guy friend for advice. He said that there’s a huge difference between a “nice guy” and a good guy. A “nice guy” just wants to reel you in by acting how he thinks you want him to act. A truly good guy will be kind because it’s his nature, but there are things that he will stand his ground on and he will be open to discussing disagreements, rather than taking them personally. My best guy friend would be viewed as an asshole, he knows that, I know that, it usually works out. You know exactly who he is because he shows you who he is.

[@Joe-gi3nj]

Honestly, I think the people that call Alex an “asshole” are projecting because he’s open to thinkers that these people disagree with. Peterson’s work touches a lot on the concept of the ideal, and as JBP’s mentioned, the concept of an ideal is intrinsically Simultaneously a concept of a judge. Comparing yourself to what is ideal intrinsically highlights all of your inadequacies. Some people do not like realizing that they aren’t perfect. They would rather think they “are perfect just the way they are”, but this couldn’t be further from the truth (for any of us). You aren’t perfect; in fact you’re far from it. You can be so much more than you are currently. Instead of recognizing their inadequacies and aiming for what is ideal, they decide to deny or ignore that reality and externalize that and project it as hatred of Jordan Peterson (and Alex for even entertaining him). The reality is Alex isn’t an asshole; the people projecting their own insecurities onto him are

[@tashaelsnau104]

You're captive because he's passionate. It's so easy to listen to someone who is both passionate and knowledgeable in the subject that they're speaking. I stood and talked to a teacher who taught aerospace (something airplane related) for nearly an hour. He had me so intrigued just by his level of passion and eagerness to teach.

[@mind5533]

I, too, have been struck by my own fascination as well as the general interest in his lectures online. I recently saw Jordan Peterson live. I went, very curious to see if he was as captivating in person as he is on his videos. It was a packed house. 3100 people absolutely riveted and hanging on his every word for 90 minutes.

[@Joe-gi3nj]

I’ve seen him live twice. You could hear a pin drop from the back of the house because everyone was hanging on every word he was saying. Both times were an incredible experience, and each time I walked away feeling better for having listened to them. Have you listened to his lecture series on the Psychological Significance of the biblical stories? Both talks I’ve seen live dove into topics he addresses in much more detail in this lecture series. I find Peterson is at his best when he discusses religion, the idea of God, and Christianity. If you haven’t listened to this series, I highly recommend it. For me, it was a much similar experience as seeing him live (other than the “live” part, obviously)

[@colleenglanville8293]

*"Agreeable People Do Not Like Conflict."* I'm already hearing a little bit of myself in this video already lol! 😂😂😂

[@lindagraveline1040]

I understand. I’m not at all good with conflict.

[@colleenglanville8293]

@@lindagraveline1040 A lot of people aren’t, and if you run into those kind of people here it can be quite off putting. Scary stuff lol! 😂

[@baddreams3850]

Dude all these lectures are available in full 🌝 on KZbin. The maps of meaning course changed my life. Especially when reading the required materials and there are even links to assignments

[@timsmith1426]

Jordan also has a way of making complicated things understandable.

[@Twitchyx7]

I believe psychology professors have an inherently captivating topic to talk about, and depending on their credentials if they are doctors or highly esteemed in their studies, they have all kinds of real world examples they can draw from for stories and getting a point across. But that is of course aside from Jordan Peterson being a very good and distinguished speaker. I just know I was always ready to go to my Abnormal Psychology course, never missed it. Shout out to Dr. Abramovitch at Texas State University, a brilliant instructor and neuroscientist!

[@colonelb]

Hey Alex - if you are gonna have kids someday - DO WATCH all of his Maps of Meaning lectures on KZbin - they are FULL of essential bits of wisdom like that "socialize by 4" and other things like that that are super important to know. All of my friends with kids who watch Peterson all say, "I wish I had seen these before I started raising my kids", so, that's probably worth knowing. Cheers.

[@AmaraJordanMusic]

Being a kind peacemaker is awesome, as long as we have healthy boundaries we keep, to prevent us from letting people run roughshod over us.

[@eylonemuskson4177]

Jordan Peterson is a genius. I won't consider him any other way. He's changing my life.

[@serghonest9]

People in general won't consider him a genius until after his death. Their ego won't let them appreciate him while he's still alive.

[@eylonemuskson4177]

@@serghonest9 I fear you're right honestly, and that's what makes it sad.

[@jimbalaya007]

Same.

[@theradiantdehd3997]

@@serghonest9 The truth hurts. Responsibility is hard. Having to pick your words carefully, and having to think about the potential consequences of one’s actions before acting is difficult. He pushes self improvement and human rights, and that’s not a comfortable thing to support and live. The easy path is just to demand that everyone else takes care of you and let’s you do whatever you want. The meaningful path is very much the opposite. Meaning and growth. comes from misery, sacrifice, and pain, and that scares most people.

[@91GT347]

@@theradiantdehd3997 💯Theres no good without bad.

[@jimbalaya007]

He's a genius at understanding human psychology in depth and explaining it with clarity and practicality. People's eyes need to be open to this wisdom. I tell my wife every day how important he's becoming to my own mental health and life purpose. Mind blown with each new lecture. 🤯

[@sourgir-wh6xd]

💕 I wish I could go back in time and tell my young self NOT to waist my time on the bad boys. Luckily I learned my lesson and found my nice guy who has brought me nothing but love and happiness for past 22 years 😍

[@weepingwell]

I maintain that metal heads are the nicest of people. I don't know what the correlation is but I am working on it.

[@coldmoonlight6361]

Same. Quite the rabbit hole.

[@potatos_4_free]

We won't be mean to people so maybe it's kind of cathartic to listen to mean sounding music.

[@GenXfrom75]

My husband and I are complete opposites. Together 19 years... And I'll admit, it's rough at times! Lol *BUT* the *key* is *RESPECT* !!!!

[@imeleventeen]

Thank you for this video sir

[@sppsports2449]

1) Being agreeable certainly has benefits, but it also has drawbacks. In the working world, being disagreeable gives advantages, such as higher salary. But it's also true that disagreeable people have less friends and are more cynical in nature. Agreeable people often have more friends, they have a network, and they're often more optimistic in nature. 2) You can change your nature. This is what assertiveness training is all about. 3) You should aim to be agreeable with your loved ones and close friends, while remaining disagreeable in employment. This is the best of both worlds.

[@harolddeschenes4640]

OMG this video made me cry because it's almost as if he could see right through me... How many chances have I had in my life to speak out my mind but I just didn't because I was too afraid of the backlashes.... This man is my new heroe.

[@evhleppard]

I really enjoy listening to Peterson. Very interesting and intelligent man.

[@lindagraveline1040]

Love these reactions Alex, keep up the great work. Keep moving forward!

[@queenofgreen83]

Love seeing the journey you’re going on with these JP videos. Regardless of any politics, I just don’t see how people can be so critical of a man that’s actively trying to help others improve their lives in such practical, applicable ways. Keep up the reactions and the growth!

[@AutomaticDuck300]

Because certain people on Twitter would prefer to remain a victim and get that false sense of moral superiority with very little effort. Because it feeds the ego which is addictive. So it’s a lot easier to say “He’s a right wing troll! He’s every bad name in the book!” Because then they don’t have to introspect and do the hard work (and go through the often painful process) of self improvement.

[@tristrampiper2820]

This man if l can call him that is a piece of human garbage. Hate speech wrapped in what seems normal. Try to think

[@SebastianBeckerPhoto]

Because JP is a toxic, mysogynistic a*hole.

[@wendyreinmiller8992]

They are critical of JP because they are closed minded and don't want anyone to make them question themselves or their own carved in stone beliefs.

[@ViolettaVie]

People who attack Peterson don't actually listen to him. They heard he was bad by group think and that must be the truth. Anyone who is curious at least looks into what people say to figure out what the truth is. But the radical left lacks curiosity.

[@imeleventeen]

You and your girl should both take the personality trait test that Jordan Peterson and some other experts made

[@ianwest7763]

If I’m not mistaken, they’re married already?

[@stoictake]

I did it with my gf, a lot of fun.

[@stationdisatrous647]

Jordan Peterson is one of the great logical thinkers in the world right now. I'm so glad you are doing these videos.

[@chrisparnham]

No, he ain't where are you getting that theory from lol? Have you read his stuff? Peterson is a narcissist, a blowhard whose arguments are fatally compromised by bad faith, petulance, intellectual laziness, and blatant bigotry. He says he's not right-wing and would never be but everything he rants on about is picked up by the usual right-wing morons and oh do they love his stuff. He knows that trash sells and can't help himself. Pay no attention to him he's dangerous and you won't see him around when it all goes wrong.

[@deplorableeye1628]

After six decades of being a nice guy, I am happy with my life!

[@daveking9393]

was just about to watch this on his channel, but figured it would be fun to view it with you. thanks for sharing. all the best.

[@melbatoast3677]

peterson changed the way i was parenting my son. i realized i was being way too overprotective. im grateful to dr peterson

[@grimmliberty7447]

I have found that as long as you match your mate along One temperamental variable almost exactly, you can help each other grow on all the rest. For my wife and I that's Compassion.

[@lungabibi775]

I love your out-tro 😅😅👏👏 keep the Jordan Peterson videos coming

[@Japhea]

I have been watching your reactions for a good bit now, a little bit of your previous NF reactions, some Metallica, mostly your Skillet reactions, and HEAVILY from your DOOM music reactions, because I flipping LOVE DOOM. You are, in a lot of ways, an opposite of me. However, you point out so many things that I'm like "Yeah!!" and you make a lot of comments in the music and stuff that I'm like "That's what I'm saying!". I connect with you on a level to things, and I'm over here like "Wait, you're so different from me in so many ways. What is this?" I get it now. Like REALLY! I am an extremely agreeable person, and, just like you pointed out, I myself can also calm the waters down from a really heated situation. Even from our vast differences, I think that agreeableness that we both compare to is what gets me so hyped to see you react to something I wanna see. THAT'S CRAZY!! Lol, anyways, I only found out about Jordan Peterson a few days ago and have been going down this rabbit hole pretty vastly since. And I'm EXTATIC that you react to him too!! I'm happy, you're great man :)

[@mneugent7658]

Man, of all the people you react to this brilliant man is thee one you cannot talk over or pause then jump back into without a quick rewind. Every syllable he speaks is important to hear.

[@deannascott8050]

This was fascinating. Thanks for sharing.

[@customcornpop]

It really warms my heart so see Dr Petersons work resonate with you the way it did with so many of us. As you said, lessons we "needed to know growing up".

[@solavita306]

Dr. Peterson says Being a Human Being is Hard Work. He also says no one is exempt from this fact. So if you want change the world for the better, if you want to improve your own circumstances, if you want to be something positive and good in someone else's life, quit sniveling and griping in the corner, show up and put in the work. I love that man.

[@YTCBlackStar]

There's a difference between a good person vs a nice person. Knowing this difference is key.

[@savsmiles3042]

Or a nice person and a kind person. Good is subjective

[@royalecrafts6252]

@@savsmiles3042 I am for sure not a kind person

[@DecapitatedPlaythings]

Hey Alex, we have something in common. I'm also a person who doesn't like to see people fighting or upset so I try to crack a few jokes and hope that they see that the disagreement wasn't worth the fight. I'm always trying to smooth those waters because I prefer a more peaceful atmosphere.

[@johnmclaughlin763]

Most people say I’m a nice guy. I never thought of this as an impediment to success. I chose my career early on and have found success by our society’s standards. I just don’t fully equate agreeableness and “nice” although I understand the similarities and accept the interchangeability for the purpose of this discussion. But I agree wholeheartedly that agreeableness holds people back quite often. I see it in patients all the time. Within the confines of our private interaction they make useful recommendations for their boss, they say brilliant things that would help them advance. So, although usually we are discussing a different chief complaint, I often ask, “Why don’t you tell your boss exactly what you just told me?” And, ultimately, they fear public judgement more than anything in the world. Dr. Peterson is doing a great good for the world here. It is one of the top messages to help those around us self-actualize. But the power of an overly negative, judgmental parent? It cannot be overstated in my humble opinion. I grew up as a missionary doctor’s kid in the jungle of Panama in the 70s. There wasn’t any judgement. Heck, we were just trying to make enough sandles out of old tires to keep our poor friends from getting foot fungi. So severe judgment may be a bigger problem in the first world. I’m not sure. But I’d love to hear some other opinions on it. Hope everyone feels blessed today.

[@magicbrownie1357]

In the words of Ricky Nelson: "You can't please everyone, so you gotta please yourself." Living your best life, living up to your own standards, and no one else's, is the only way to find peace of mind.

[@ssloestj.4008]

I love you Alex. You are so open minded yet skeptical. Love you’ve said you are more agreeable and I love that. You are funny, charismatic, and smart. Such a great voice of influence.

[@nenmaster5218]

Dude got hour long video essays made about him just to lisrt all his fails and r/confidentlyincorrect moments thx to "Some More News

[@Joe-gi3nj]

It honestly blows my mind that Peterson is a “controversial figure”. I find his actual work to be incredibly profound. (Especially his lecture series on the “Psychological Significance of the Biblical stories”) It’s eminently wise, incredibly profound, and refreshing to hear in a culture that has rejected any sense of morality/wisdom that humans have accumulated throughout history. I’ve found the people that find him “controversial” are those that only know him from secondary sources, only know him from his protests against compelled speech in Canada (supposed “anti-trans” protests), or have a hard time being reminded that they fall short of what is ideal. Jordan Peterson brings an incredibly profound perspective of The ideal, and as he’s mentioned, recognition of the ideal is intrinsically recognition of a judge that highlights our own inadequacies. Some people don’t like realizing they aren’t perfect; and they externalize their own projections on to Peterson for reminding them of that. These folks will shout “you’re perfect just the way you are”, when in reality couldn’t be further from that. The truth is: You aren’t perfect; in fact you’re far from it. You can be so much more than you are currently. Instead of wallowing in that (or denying that fact entirely), it’s time to grow up, bear your cross, and manifest that better version of yourself; it isn’t going to happen spontaneously. Find the highest possible ideal that you can possibly conceive, and aim for it. We’re bound to fall short, but continuously seek to stay on that track will continuously move us closer to that ideal. Seek to adopt the most responsibility that you can bear. None of this should be controversial. However, it goes against our current hedonistic culture and some people “get angry” if it means instant gratification isn’t involved. I truly don’t understand why he is such a Controversial figure, but then again, Christ did say “When the world hates you, remember they hated me first”.

[@MrEtown87]

Yes Alex, these are the kinds of informative clips of JPs I hoped you would react to, the lectures, amazing stuff. Small nit pick though, not trying to be a prick here, I honestly don't mind you not pausing to speak over most of your videos, music & movies etc but this man chooses his words very carefully and missing as little as half of a sentence from JP when you speak to the camera can mean potentially missing a valuable piece of information or even a revelation for yourself. So basically I'm nicely asking if in future you could (for JP lecture clip reactions especially), pause the clip for a moment when you want to add your thoughts. But of course also feel free to tell me to piss off because you will do things the way you want to and exercise your trait of disagreeableness!

[@nerdyginger7430]

bro. just go watch the actual video. tf?

[@MrEtown87]

@@nerdyginger7430 I have, thanks "bro". Re-read my message and you'll realize its point is to benefit Alex, you clearly missed the point. Pay more attention, go clear your room

[@mitchkampen]

Alex, watching your journey through metal and now Jordan Peterson is very revitalizing to watch. This was me 6 years ago. It's like going through it again for the first time:p

[@felixrabbitsoni9204]

Thank you for your reactions, always enjoy them man, keep it up! :D

[@D3ADPO3TRY]

Thanks for sharing this. JP is a great human being, and an amazing educator.

[@grimmliberty7447]

On the Big Five, the trait people get wrong all the time is Neuroticism. While it is true that is represents negative emotions, it is also Nature's Danger Sense! I am Extremely Low in Neuroticism, rarely experience negative emotions, but also don't fear things I SHOULD. My wife balances us out, by pointing to all the potential Dangers around us.

[@Tampahop]

Jordan Peterson tends to be able to put things in simple terms for you to understand and make it interesting at the same time. I can compare this to many professors I had in college that could put me to sleep in two minutes.

[@notyourbusiness4254]

In regard to your point of "if i had Jordan Peterson as my professor I wouldn't have skipped as much/would've paid more attention" I think there would've been an extremely minute difference at best and it's the same reason why you weren't invested in the other teachers' lectures : you didn't go there in order to hear Mr. McConaughey's lecture on astrophysics(random examples) you went there because you wanted a college degree, same as everyone else. The reason you think you would've enjoyed Peterson's lectures more is because you are willingly seeking them, at your own schedule and interest, which means you have already committed your own time and interest into the subject without anyone else telling you. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.

[@natl5692]

This is also a society thing. As a french (yes we 're rude and everything) but we learn to disagree and be critical. We learn it in the private sphere but also in school

[@sticktoyourdrums8177]

It's all about how you exercise your creativity during those important years. If you don't have a constructive outlet, you will use it to create chaos.

[@rosetyler5368]

9:00 mark. What it's all about, my friend. That's the best part about kids. Leaving your legacy in the form of a good human being who will have kids and so on.

[@AmaraJordanMusic]

About therapy giving “not exactly assertiveness training,” and it really being about how to negotiate for yourself… not really. It’s generally about distinguishing practical and safe boundaries and learning to hold them so people don’t walk over you. In more extreme situations, there may be discussions on how to assert yourself, sure, when working with a very timid individual that’s starting from the very very beginning, but those are far more rare. Generally it’s about finding the line and holding it when faced with pressure.

[@williamkramer9731]

It's true that nice guys sometimes finish last, but often they win in the end.

[@JimAW63]

I don't know he still does it, but he used to have a self authoring program. You write a page describing where you see yourself in 5 years if you make good choices and everything goes your way. Then you write another page of where you'll be if you make bad choices and everything turns to shit. It gives you a "heaven" to strive for and a "hell" to avoid.

[@Gooochmo]

Please start posting links to the videos you react to in the description. Keep killing it!

[@nishantjoshi4392]

Big fan of your communication skills , Alex. You're a nice guy..! From India 🇮🇳❤️

[@ankitaaarya]

I agree

[@colonelb]

Hey Alex - regarding the trauma you mention at 6:00 - I highly recommend that you watch and react to this Peterson clip called "Grow Some Teeth and Integration of the Shadow" kzbin.info/www/bejne/hmPQaZV3ZdR4jKs Many folks think that being "unable to hurt a fly" makes them a good person, but that's actually backwards. The "good person" is the one that CAN hurt you but chooses not to. If you think about any hero or mentor in any story: Gandalf, Aragorn, Iron Man, Mr. Myagi, Yoda, Obi-Wan, Dumbledore - you name it, none of them go looking for a fight and they all avoid fighting whenever possible, but they all absolutely will mess your shit up if they have to, they do not back down or run away from a fight if it's important. So THAT is what makes someone virtuous, having the ability to be bad but not taking it - that's WAY different than not being able to in the first place. Cheers!

[@awesome_by_default]

Paused the video at 10:28 to put in my two cents on that question. I think it's because with creativity comes experimentation. As you're becoming more and more creative you are exploring the world more. Testing your limits. I think my biggest problem is being way too low in conscientiousness. I "go with the flow" too much to where I'm stagnating. Time to start planning things, making schedules.

[@TheNewRevolution]

Nice guys may finish last but no one likes an asshole. So I'd say pick your spots. Know when to turn on the charm and when to stand your ground. Balance with all things in life. Peterson is right about this though. Know what you want and don't be that agreeable person people walk all over.

[@Teddyponsel2626]

*don't be

[@Bully_who_made_goblin_Jr_cry]

yea

[@sabrinacle]

Jordan Peterson is like our cosmic dad

[@danielwarrenguitar]

One of the main differences between college and high school is that by college the students are supposed to be self-motivated to learn, so it is not the job of the college professor to motivate you to learn.

[@UncensoredScion]

Alex, when you give the "I'll be the peacemaker" style part, are you saying in a round about way "if I have to take the heat for this, I'm okay with that." because it seems to sound like you are.

[@BlackArr0w]

Yes, more Jordan Peterson!! His lectures are always so interesting!

[@earthboundmother205]

This rocked the house and us for me. Love this

[@karicastanza5216]

Love the Jordan Peterson videos! We all need to learn more about ourselves and other people. Navigating the social waters of this world is never easy and is doubly worse when one is agreeable. Thanks for sharing!

[@x3mslayer]

I want to hear more about the similarity between the creativeness curve and criminality curve. Such cool conversations~

[@franklyncheatum2324]

Regarding the correlation between creativity and criminality . . . The first is the ability to think of alternatives that most people don't realize are there. The latter comes from the tendency to act in ways that most people don't find acceptable. If you're not creative, disregarding those that have been habituated to crime, you tend to not think of criminal acts very often as alternatives to doing what society asks of you.

[@wheresthefreedom6442]

Love these lectures

[@PlaceForFaith]

I think the relation between creative and incarceration rates are because they don’t have positive outlets for creativity. So they get themselves in trouble by proxy of idleness.

[@hayleybartek8643]

"An idle mind is the Devil's playground."

[@joemamma137]

I definitely came up with creative ways to shoplift in my late teens. Thankfully, I skipped the incarceration part.

[@eej9273]

I am way too nice but that is who I am so I won't ever change. I am not mean or dramatic, I am simplistic and content. Every day you wake up and you don't have the best job or are not liked by many but you think hey at least I am not a criminal or an asshole! You see yourself as lucky and have gratitude, I have problems but I am not in prison or in a toxic relationship, I am free to get drunk every day and have the freedom to do anything or nothing whenever I want, compared to places and people and circumstances everywhere else it is pretty damn good. If you are happy and lost in a great journey you don't look for a finish line or a finish, live in the moment! Social media, social pressure, materialism, all that other bullshit, ignore it, you don't owe anyone anything, be yourself. One of my favorite lyrics is "you don't choose your name, just what you leave in your wake".

[@cristobal9677]

been a J Peterson fan before he blew up, hes a genius.... his debates are ART

[@craigsmithunlimited5181]

Mr. Hefner, I firmly believe you are destined for stardom and a position of high influence and social importance. All the best to you, sir.

[@jeanmarie9797]

That's me too Alex! Smoothing the waters and I thought it was a good thing. Turns out I didn't know how to negotiate at all!

[@farinshore8900]

creative people push boundaries , criminal law punishes people who break the rules

[@billwhitfield7437]

It's interesting that, i was that loner. Grew up out in the woods, essentially by myself most of the time.. then the Navy happened, totally changed how i look at things.

[@kristinahammer2757]

J.P. is dropping some bombs, brother! Whoo! 💣🤯💯💚

[@F13thvoorhees]

Isn't it great to listen to someone talk... And everything makes sense. 😅

[@kevinlaunius]

Damn!! I'm taking notes/quotes & hanging them on my fridge!!!!!!!!

[@hunterherring2647]

To be creative, you do things that are different or atypical. This creates pressure on creative people to either conform to the laws, which conformity is at odds with creativity, or to brake those laws and live the way you want.

[@JiraiyaSama86]

Well, part of the other way I look at it is- telling someone to not be nice DOES NOT translate to being mean. I'm aware a lot of people automatically translate telling someone, "Don't be nice", to something along the lines of being mean. Just like how in other cases telling someone that something is not right to equate to being wrong. But there are reasons at times for using a specific combination of words, such as, "Don't be nice."

[@juangil8284]

Went to a party with my brother for his friend... my brother, my friend and I knew no one else. We just hung out by the keg pouring guests and ourselves drinks.

[@williamhensley8698]

I prefer peace and compromise, but if get the impression that the other person will not seek peace...well... I don't fear confrontation...I will engage every damn machievalian technique I know until they come around or self destruct.

[@BlueHourProductions]

"Get off my back Janice!" 😂😂

[@hemlocke7359]

Thoroughly enjoyed this.😂

[@coreyhurst5640]

Alex I'm in the same boat but I get away from conflict like you said you smooth it out I get away from it

[@dizzyscorpio1]

I am so amazed that I have not heard of this gentleman...I am the "quote" nice person who has become anit social due to being easily taken advantage of or as I have mental health professional put it I have a target that screams out hey easy target...so much of what he says is sooo true and I am going to show him or ask my current psych about him since I am trying to learn how to expand my world outside 2 people..lol Thank you so much for posting this with the thumbnail you did caught my attention right away...its definately opening my eyes that maybe I am not alone in the world feeling the way I do...:D

[@SpawnQuestGaming]

I disliked the video just to be a little more disagreeable. I’m evolving.

[@davehughesfarm7983]

lol

[@AlexHefner]

🤣🤣

[@stringsultan]

You know what? I'm disliking your comment. Have a nice da-dangit!

[@zeusthanos7467]

lol

[@Tantive]

But you were supposed to speak the truth.

[@ilovejettrooper5922]

@Alex Hefner @10:21 There's a match because "creativity" is the more relatable form of "openness" - which he uses on the BIG5 personality test he has - which (roughly) reduces to "messes around with boundaries". Now, that has utility in being creative - because you get to try out new versions of an old thing, roughly speaking, and sometimes the old thing in a new form is a rocket that's now re-usable, or a car that's now electric, or a reactor going from needing a building to being in Iron Man's suit ;) - but it also has the risk of people not respecting the boundaries of other people, places, or ideas, which is a problem if those boundaries are *necessary*.

[@janepavlis22]

Jordan is always engaging. Alot of us are agreeable...it doesn't always serve us well.

[@naomihoyte7879]

I love your reactions to his lectures. I wanna see one to his FULL analysis of THE LION KING. The term mindfuck doesnt even come close.

[@TheNitelite10]

This is so enriching! Can this channel get anymore quality?

[@marshalt0201]

My childhood was similar but I still live with my toxic mom and I have to avoid conflict asap or She might get aggressive

[@stephenwium497]

Alex!! Firstly, I'm loving the content man!! Secondly, you should check out his Forest FIre and Be A Monster speeches. Lastly, have you checked out his biblical lectures?

[@TCM215]

Dude you're extremely successful. A hot fiancé, a lawyer and a successful KZbin channel. I really wouldn't worry about it:)

[@Bynkowsky]

Hello my friend Flapjack is a polish trash metal legend. The band was formed in the 90s. Albums are available on KZbin and Spotify. The guys have resumed activity and concerts are just underway in honor of Guzik - Flapjack singer who died in 2021. It would be great if you would listen to a song from the first Flapjack album - I hate fuckas feat. Lipa from Illusion. All the best from Poland Keep Rock 🤘🏼

[@HereIsWisdom1318]

8:39-Any more than is absolutely necessary!

[@wilksy2008]

Bruh. Less than 5 seconds in, “noice! 😏” 😂 I’m here for it! 🕺🏻

[@EsoxLucius21]

Alex, you are amazing for bringing this to the masses. Thanks. I agree with whatever you say. Or maybe I don’t.