Jordan Peterson REVEALS How To Get Over A Breakup FAST..

[@chipprovost8345]

I'm no expert but if you want to get over someone focus on yourself. Exercise, eat right, connect with family and friends, and read. Stay busy and stay productive. Learn to let go. Learn from this experience. Ride out the storm. Better days lie ahead.

[@simpleliving4205]

Excellent advice

[@nss259]

Thank you brother.

[@lizeliajansen4948]

Truth

[@walkertranger5746]

It’s like mourning a death ! Grieve … embrace the facts! The relationship is dead. It hurts beyond measure, I’m crawling from the ashe’s from 8 years together that poof she ghosted. It kills!

[@royfr8136]

100%

[@Jon-fl7cu]

I've recently had a break up. Doing things you enjoy will help. No matter what it is. As time passes you'll find yourself in a routine. A routine you can live with, move on with. You will gradually become stronger and start loving yourself more than you did when you was with your ex. You will start to look down on your ex for looking down on you, you may even forget about them. But you need to do something everyday that you enjoy. Ive joined a gym with a sauna. I play fifa when i have chance, go to a football/rugby match, watch a series with something. Go abroad. Take your kids out. Make them laugh and have a good time. Talk to your friends. Try to make them laugh and you'll slowly or quickly start to recover. You might cry again. So cry! But do your best to repeat the above. You'll cry less or not atall and you'll be smiling and laughing again soon enough. Don't stall.

[@melvinbirdman7438]

Ok I'll try this....😢

[@kayodudu5190]

Thank you, whoever you are, I dont know how I feel right now, how can yoou love selflessly why the person you have been devoted to all your life , was busy cheating behind your back.

[@simonahrendt9069]

@@kayodudu5190 I do not know how to love selflessly, but I find loving gets easier when opening up to love itself. Be that through the love and help of other people, through art and beauty, through doing something genuinely because it is a good thing to do, or through resting in a still place in your soul that feels pure and powerful. If you are religiously inclined, you might also find this in the loving and beautiful words of the bible, where I would look into the New Testament and the Psalms for comfort. Through whatever means, I hope that you get better soon. Recovering from being cheated on is probably not easy, but discovering your personal source of love and strength can be a beautiful process. Maybe after this, you can even extract something valuable from this bitter experience. Good luck to you, and take care!

[@geraintrickards8966]

Wow! Thank you my friend. You won't ever truly know how much you kind words have help someone. But rest east in the knowledge that I am one. ❤️🙏❤️

[@MegaWetbrain]

U will find someone else to love as i will also. My x Mrs broke it off with me not long after us having a baby. There was already a new option before making it final with me. So i do know the pain and the misery. To me it was her cheating on me technically. I wasn't option less when i met her. I became option less in the end of this relationship and she made sure she had other options. My guess is karma will unfold. She will get hurt for playing this game. At some point she will reach out to me again but it will be to late I'll of found someone else to devote my commitment to. And share love with 😊​@@kayodudu5190

[@sharong8908]

Some people are in your life for reason and some for a season!

[@shellylavigne5913]

Yes. You move on but respect the good you did get out of the deal. Obviously the bad caused you to end it.

[@ThePossumone]

And some people are for a lesson 😢

[@mindfulmomentswithColm]

I guess what helped/helps me is remembering that the feeling of love is not attached to someone even if they met that need for you at the time.

[@mcrivas4714]

A break up is like a death, but you have to give yourself a fighting chance, What worked for me is that every time I was tempted to listen to love songs I stopped my self from listening to them and remembered all the times he belittled me and made me feel like shit. It helped me get over him.I also realized he was hurting the perception I had of my self confidence.The break up broke my heart but it gave me so much clarity.

[@Eileen_J05]

Well said 😊

[@Lorrie-m2q]

So true. It is like a death at times. Great advice.

[@porscha1563]

I'm in the midst of it. How are you doing now? How long does it hurt?😢

[@williammorgan6217]

The fastest way to get over someone is to find someone better even if they are an illusion

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

The person that cares the most loses. You will emerge stronger than ever

[@menglund08]

Thanks for posting that

[@kirkalex5257]

Yes, but it can hurt like a mofo. Exactly why so many songs have been written about it. What the Blues are about. Some don't make it. Ones that do ARE stronger, but scarred. Love is a b---.

[@alanhenriqueborelligarcia314]

3:33 make the situation analysis. (something between lines: just that part is looking back on past, and that is the right productive way to do that). 4:30 compare how things are and learn how to be able to articulate your vision of your life to the real world. Detecting missmachtes decrease pain. 5:00 be focus in living in the biological sense. You be able to maintain your curiosity needed to learn. With no racional thoughts that generally uses mental models to ignore things you will avoid to look to old ways of meaning of past situations turn us to be able to "format" your operation system. 9:20 motivation and emotions are not separated. So, a break up make you feel negative emotions. It's common seeing motivation like on or off, but if it's likely emotional is positive and negative. A negative motivation is reasons to stay still. And that match with negative emotions. By doing things, you start to be able to motivate yourself positive. Seems that is started by learn new things which will bringing to you by surpress your overthinking and be focus to perception of the present. I am a portuguese speaker. And now I surprised that your language carries what to do in a break up on the expression: look the past objectively, stop overthinking, focus on present, learn how things really are and... MOVE ON!

[@Whatsthe_dill]

I lost everything and was told it was me and ignored the signs. Never again , i dont even want to date again no point.

[@rebeccapope3295]

​@@Whatsthe_dill I feel the same.

[@Alffovinni]

sometimes the other person PUSHES YOU into the pit. so it’s not your fault and nothing that YOU did

[@waflz6011]

Very well spoken brother

[@MartinAlexanderVideos]

Thank you

[@fifthrider]

With some of these JP videos I learn more about the topic from the people in the comments than what JP was talking about. Thank you to all commenters who shared their stories. It helps some of us understand better.

[@jamesdoakes4956]

Because half the time the title is clickbait n half the time jp is giving word salad

[@fifthrider]

@@jamesdoakes4956 Well, you got me there. Yes, this is true.

[@deniseatthelake]

Exactly! These commenter are very insightful! Helped me a lot too!

[@CallsItLikeISeizeIts]

Comments are the true gold nuggets on YT

[@kirkalex5257]

@@jamesdoakes4956Yep. Too often vids are clickbait. Beats having to work for a living (like the rest of us have to). For so many of these peeps who post videos, this is nothing more than a form of entertainment; something to do. I hope the kind-hearted peeps who are hurting (because they had a bad experience having been involved with a cold-blooded player: male or female) get enough info/feedback that's on here to help them get through the pain.

[@raikaramorim5175]

Love your enemy and you will be saved even if he doesn't love you. Hate your enemy and you are both doomed.

[@bennym1326]

I just found out through friends, that my ex is married. Im happy for her. I still grieve the loss of the future we had planned, but I truly wish her happines. True love is putting someone else's feeling above yours, as hard as it is

[@kaka3661able]

Damn I e recently broken up with my wife. The very thought of her moving on with someone else kills me. I'm dying out here. I'm happy to see you managed to make it to the other side brother

[@bennym1326]

@kaka3661able I know how you feel mate. It still pains a little, but gets better with time. You'll make it to the other side. Sorry for your pain..it will get better 🙏🏻

[@iflexnutz]

I learned some more about the brain....but how to get over a breakup fast....not so much.

[@alkafelts]

😂

[@luisbahena2905]

Hi there, I'm in the same situation, I have been talking to myself trying to train my brain saying this "that person its gone, its gone forever, you need to accept it, you can't control the other person's feelings., the pain will pass" .I lost my lover of 25 years.

[@xxChacaronXX]

“ A great teacher teaches you where to look, not what to think”

[@kirkalex5257]

There is no way to get over a breakup fast, not if you gave 100%. Time heals. Cliche, but true. Matter of taking it slow, one day at a time. How much time? It's different for each case. We're all human. Most of us suffer while going through this sh*t. Is it possible to bounce back? Yes.

[@dylanpringle4314]

I would never pick up the dictionary as a kid. My mind is math and music. I’m using speaker text to speak. My father is quite articulate in college. It quite young age. I understand this man very well. It’s too bad. I can’t speak it my own language, I love his cognitive therapy yes and I love how many different teachers, and one teaching, I enjoy that very much. I don’t enjoy long amount of meditation without feeding the brain.

[@MicShay]

Motion definitely works. Even as I ride the bus away, I feel better than I did sitting around waiting, going nowhere. Your brain senses movement, and something changes inside us. And for me, I just feel better.🧡🙏🏼

[@ThisisRubbishlo]

You did nothing wrong, the one that left did, don’t lose sleep over them

[@Muzzaa]

What if you did do something wrong though? And it's your fault its over.

[@insignia2543]

Why is this statement lacking so much accountability, it's not about who did more wrong. Relationships are complex but both parties generally make mistakes. I don't understand your philosophy. I think it is an emotional fantasy.

[@frozenrain]

lol that's incredibly immature. take responsibility for your actions. MANY who get dumped HAVE done a lot of wrongs and that's why the other person broke up with them. for example an abusive partner gets dumped.

[@frozenrain]

@@therover7927 it is immature to say "you did nothing wrong". NOTHING wrong? incredibly immature, arrogant and untrue to say "i/someone else never do/does anything wrong in relationships". it's immature to not take responsibility and play the victim. we all do wrongs. "the one that left did", no, the one who leaves do not always do wrongs. many times it's the right thing to do, to leave and break up with the other person because that person is treating you badly or for some other legitimate reason. and i didn't say that "everyone who gets dumped was the problem". i said MANY who get dumped have done wrongs and that's why they got dumped.

[@frozenrain]

​@@therover7927 you should be quiet with YOUR babble you're talking. and stop putting words in my mouth and learn to read what i have ACTUALLY written. you're very butthurt and throw a lot of accusations at me. i have NOT said i know what goes on in everyone's relationship. i said, and learn to read this time: "MANY who get dumped HAVE done a lot of wrongs and that's why the other person broke up with them." i disagree with "The person that ends a relationship is usually the one that has done a wrong". i think it's the other way but we don't have any stastics to prove it either way. you don't know anything about other peoples' relationships either. take your own advice, you hypocrite: "well unless you were privy to things in other people’s relationships, it’s not a good thing to tell people who was at fault for a break up. The ones in the relationship are the ones who know. You being a complete outsider and talking the babble you’re talking needs to realize that you have no clue what goes on in someone else’s lives."

[@nathanforrest3483]

I once almost got hit by a speeding car and at that moment I completely forgot about my ex. Once you're in a near death situation you will completely forget about your ex. although I would recommend a safer way. and do not follow in my footsteps. Seriously.

[@KyleHiggins-t3d]

Not a romantic breakup but a friendship breakup. It’s tough but I’ve been doing a lot of art which is helping me get through it.

[@obi-wan-cod-obi6692]

4 years apart and i miss them daily, having a child makes it so hard to move on

[@CallsItLikeISeizeIts]

Stay strong

[@kirkalex5257]

This is why divorce is so painful, my brother. Why I keep saying to all the good dudes out there: Careful. These modern females (in certain countries) will take great joy in destroying you.

[@sharong8908]

Let her go,

[@appeljuicesurf]

you are not alone friend.

[@sandradube4456]

I'm sorry yooure hurting. You need to love yourself more than that. You need to start waking up every morning and choosing yourself instead of a person that didn't value your love. 4 years is a long time to be fantasizing about someone who doesn't love you, regardless that you have a child with them. Seek professional help. Life is passing you by, your ex is enjoying his/her life without you, why are you torturing yourself? In future relationships, don't place any person in the place of God. God first, then a lover. That way, you have someone to hold on to if that relationship doesn't work. Because ryt now, it sounds like you idolized your ex.

[@gunfugames7430]

Once you loved truly you never get past by that you never forget how good it felt when it last and how bad it hurt what it ended. Your whole life became studying and chasing that feeling you once had because you are sure nothing will ever compare.

[@VFXShawn]

This. I will never feel the way I felt with anyone else. It's been 20 years since I saw her, but my love for her burns like an inferno that could eclipse the sun, and my pain burns to the deepest hell. She moved on instantly, eventually a few years later my 'friend' slept with her for over a year, making her his domestic sex toy before he moved onto his next victim, my little sister. God has a special place in hell for him. The girl I loved then got married and just had her first kid. I suffer every day thinking about her, her picture is the first thing I look at every morning and the last thing before I go to bed. I dream about her, but usually I'm looking for her and can never find her. I went to talk to her mom the other day after 20 years, told her everything, how much I was suffering. She thanked me for coming. Next week I'm going to give a babyshower gift of 5000$ as a gesture of good will and showing my support. My love for her will never change, no matter how badly she hurt me, love keeps no record of wrongs, the Bible says. She used to tell me she was an atheist, I'm not sure where she is at with that, but if she goes to hell when she dies, I will leave the Kingdom of God, descend into the depths of hell, brave its horrors and burnings, and find her. If she will not be permitted into the Kingdom, I will plead that a special place be made for her and I, where I can visit her. I can not live this, and the next, without her.

[@Jaxmusicgal23]

Yeah and it sucks when you get that experience and feeling from a close friendship rather than your spouse and then that person is gone and you are left with hoping your current relationship will have that someday… It sucks once you realize what you have had wasnt healthy or ideal…

[@nornibres]

After a breakup I had dreams of snakes biting me. I looked it up and apparently dreams about snakes biting you is representative of betrayal, which made sense.

[@vxsmokeyxv5540]

Weird ain't it. I had dreams of my ex holding two phones with messages coming through both phones. Turns out she already left me way before she did and was seeing someone else.

[@grakamoli]

​@@vxsmokeyxv5540 same here.. my ex had a dream I randomly broke up with him a few days ago. I said no because I had no intention of doing so. But now I had to break up with him because I have to move across the country to care for family, and the time I'd be there is indeterminate. I don't want to let him go. But I don't want to cause him prolonged pain through an indeterminate LDR that neither party would be able to meet each other... so today I broke up with him, like he dreamed. Difference is I explained to him in tears and guilt, that this was absolutely not want I wanted.

[@sunshizzleyou]

You don’t always need overly dramatic background music. It’s only useful for 30 second reels or for simple-minded people.

[@carlaland9449]

lol exactly it just gets in the way.

[@mrwhite1765]

Did it nearly break you to

[@Veteranemo]

😭😭 this made me laugh thanks

[@budxkai]

Yeah music is fine but maybe something less dramatic for sure. Exactly as you say, someone that would listen this long in the video doesn’t need it. It’s only an existential breakthrough for people who don’t expect this sort of information

[@kyleerasmus7179]

We're taught that the most honorable thing you can do is not be a burden. My emotions are my burden, and its not right to burden others with my burden.

[@emmanuelwolfmusic410]

Start loving your own soul, as if it's just you on this plane. If you can't be alone for a few hours with yourself and have self worth , you will never be able to truly love another person, because you'll be relying on that other person to fill those things for you. I wish anyone out there who's going through a breakup love, it's going to be OK.

[@xxChacaronXX]

“Be still, and know that I am God“ - Psalm 46:10 Jesus is the way brother!

[@MrJackjr69]

God's words is helping me , reading bible from beggining trying to find solace , and also videos like this, Eckhart Tolle, stoicism , it's all good, but mind is tricky, thoughts of despair, anxiety, seems to be at the front row at all times ,

[@maceyr.6583]

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@pippacarron1861]

The title is misleading. There is no info in this Peterson extract that tells people how to get over a breakup, let alone FAST.

[@kirkalex5257]

I wish this dude would learn to get to the point. He rambles.

[@teeaymusik9811]

These videos are bullshit anyways, a breakup needs time to heal.. You cannot shorten it.

[@watercolorsinbloom]

I'm noticing a lot of videos posted with him are exactly like this. They don't exhibit the title.

[@rickb7378]

Totally agree! This is just an advanced case of "man-splaining" !

[@chrisCNX7522]

The comments are full of idiots.... like you and me.

[@christopherlinge26]

I love this man. Everyone has someone they click with .I click with his mastery of cognitive therapy .

[@n.d.7931]

I think a large part that needs to be recognized here is that PTSD brains are different than healthy normal developed brains. Those that say just know your worth and love yrself tee-hee....obviously don't understand the dynamics of those that truly struggle and the core reasons behind it.

[@danielp8433]

word. and i never learned that im worth anything , guess i always went the wrong way and im fucking tired of life.

[@AwakenedBeing24]

I have had the worst CPTSD for my entire life. I was massively abused as an infant and child. I was abused as an adult. I almost decapitated myself in an accident and I watched a husband die a horrible death in front of me. And in the last 4 years both my ex husbands have died. I have had to tell all my children at different times that their father's passed away. You can absolutely learn to love yourself on the deepest level possible when all you have is yourself. It is possible to fully heal and to actually be the "normal" person. No one has a completely healthy normal developed brain. Not one person. That is what needs to be focused on. Once you Love yourself more than you ever loved another, you will transform into the butterfly you never through you could be. 💕 I've realized even with my massive CPTSD I am healthier than most people that don't have it. Because I did the hard work over the last 16 years to get myself where I am today. And I will continue to work on myself and Love myself to the fullest until the day I leave here. If you truly love yourself more than others, you will automatically love the others as you love yourself. All for one and one for all. We are all from The One perfect energy known as God.

[@almor2445]

I'm shaking violently all over every time I think about what she did. She's asking to be friends so she doesn't understand what she did. I wanted to break up but she said we shouldn't give up on 6 years. Turns out she's engaged to another man and has been for over a year! I don't care that we broke up. What bothers me is years of calculated or desperate lies.

[@formulaforfabulous]

:( so sorry!

[@candysmith8724]

I'm sorry...very painful.

[@GypsyMorgan87]

4 years with a narcissist, I know it doesn't make you feel good, but you are stronger than the storm. I've been separated since May 30th this year, things get better !

[@kattrinaj6575]

Wipe your feet and keep going forward.

Look at it like this. Ouch, that bitch played me hard and I swallowed every bit. What a disaster for my esteem. I just got f**ked twelve ways to Sunday, completely fell for it. Let it sink in and accept you got played. No denial. Then find humor in it, like bill Murray in stripes, when his girl dumped him. Never let yourself forget youre a knucklehead for being played. Then like bill Murray get out there and have fun, no whinning. Use that pain to enjoy your short life ten times more than that bitch will ever experience. Do everything she loved ten times better and more often. Get in shape, supreme shape. Go on road trips and post millions of photos. And never ever reference her, just blot out her existence. The power is in your hands she will watch you. The second that hernew guy gets complacent, She will reach out, id give it 18 months give or take. Now it's your turn for some games. I know because that's what happened to me, but 18 months later I felt like the boss and strung her along for 6 months until I found another girlfriend. My lack of commitment when she came back had her crying. It was glorious.

[@jazz4asahel]

The things helping me are my understanding of myself only I know, and the very personal promise that I will turn this rejection I am suffering into things overall better for me.

[@gardeniabee]

If someone is generally comoatible / attractive to you and has exceptional relationships skills (or willing to learn them) value them and appreciate your good fortune. Hang on to the relationship!

[@raleaha8962]

Great advice

[@MichaelStevens-x7w]

I went through my wife's phone. Which I know is wrong but I found out she's been cheating on me And now they're together. We've been together for 10 years and now she's with him. It's been two days.

[@kavithaganesan-y1l]

Stay strong brother I'm also facing something like that now and we have a 2years old daughter

[@ironjohn5914]

Women these days lie cheat steal use you and abuse you...plus waste a lot of your time...

[@johannesvonsaaz3987]

I'm so sorry to hear that brother. Mine was still seeing her ex who she can't let go all along. Life is full of cruel lessons I also left 3 days ago

[@dauglove7835]

Rejection is Gods protection. You are meant for better, for respect and someone who is committed , has commitment as a value which cheaters do not, find your support, go pow contact, hold up your chin, remind yourself of your worth and go about the serious business of healing from betrayal with books, videos and a qualified counselor. Blessings. I’m 4 years into healing, post 23 year relationship and who knows how much infidelity that I did not see. List all the things she did that were cruel and keep it as a reminder near by . Look up cognitive dissonance and try to stay grounded in fact. Pray.

[@CallsItLikeISeizeIts]

Painful but now the path forward is very clear as all doubts are erased and worsts confirmed. You WILL come out the other side , juts try to save as much as yourself in the process

[@ChristianWhiteGuy]

How To Get Over A Breakup FAST? Where did I miss the How To Get Over A Breakup FAST?

[@amberklein6893]

EXACTLY! I was about to ask the same thing!

[@golittleworld]

Click bait title

[@charmainedevilliers7194]

Listen again, we can't all be spoon fed...He talks you through it, as if you were in a counseling session, gives you facts, so you can figure out why things did not work and with facts and a new outlook, move on😊

[@xperrience]

​@golittleworld very simple minded comment. Did you expect him to say, sleep well, eat a healthy diet, shake it off and get yourself out there? No he explains that what you are feeling is a complex biological action. The sooner you understand that the sooner your consciousness can say this is normal to feel this way - and I'm over analyzing everything in the relationship. I didn't necessarily do anything wrong but I understand that's why my brain is keeping me up at night thinking I did. The sooner you compute this data and information the easier your brain can over come the "obstacles" he mentions

[@lizzyalexander7429]

Yeah he didn't really say how

[@brandonunknown7396]

For all the people wondering where is the getting over someone fast, it's right there in front of you in what he talks about in the first 5 minutes of the video. He's explaining why you think the way you do, how you analyze and are in the slump you are in, he is telling you the why, it's the root of the problem, if you can understand the root cause other than just "I'm heartbroken", it's clear as day. DO something, anything that is going to shift your mind away, stop over analyzing and focus on anything else that's positive.

[@morganwhite2176]

Wish it didnt have the sad piano music in background, it makes it depressing.

[@GorillaMyDreams]

I agree. Too many people monkeying around with their dreams and relationships.

[@suzanne4396]

Empath+Covert Narcissist. It was doomed from Day 1...but it took me nearly 10 years to get it. Now, I know. And that situation will Never happen again.

[@Sommyie]

You're not alone. Today is day 1 for me.

[@suzanne4396]

@@Sommyie You can do this - toxic energy does nothing but drain the life out of you.

[@rayray2878]

There is evil unseen that torment a person's spirit .

[@formalhault5820]

EVIL

[@beezrey]

Why would they put music in the background.... and so loudly that you can't even hear it properly?! This is an informative talk... meant to be heard 😏🫣

[@kirkalex5257]

So many of them do it. It hurts the ears. This is not a cartoon; not some mindless tinsel town flick.

[@camellia8625]

There are written subtitles and there is a function on here where you can slow the speed down.

[@priscilah.gomes1]

How do you get over all the feelings, memories? throw away or put aside? as if that person never existed in my life and meanwhile my heart hurts and and my eyes fall in tears!

[@CallsItLikeISeizeIts]

Do we ever really? Hard but ya have to stay strong, here’s a hug😊

[@carelminnaar8454]

The 1st minute is sooooo accurate and describes it so perfectly well. That's exactly how it is for me right now, even still after seeing this I feel the failure was on my part... I still feel like I should've tried harder / do better. I have my suspicions on what went wrong, but will probably never really know for sure (though I am 90% sure).

[@chrissv10tfsi]

After long loneliness, I stumbled upon a girl who looked exactly how my dream girl would look like. Then we talked, and I realized she's exactly the same weirdo like myself. Within three weeks we fell in love with each other. I had a few longer relationships, and some deep love but she loved me to my core more than any of my gf's before. So I was on the moon. 2 months passed by in this elevated state, no arguments whatsoever, just freaking pure love. She told me at beginning that she is diagnosed with severe ADHD, so I should know that life with her is like a rollercoaster ride. One day I introduced her to my family, where my family couldn't believe how much love this girl gives to me openly non-stop. I said to them, she does that all the time. The other day she started acting weird, and she said she can't connect with me suddenly. Then few days passed by, and she left with a letter, writing that she is unable to attach herself to anyone long term. My brother, I fucking shattered to pieces. It was the most brutal brake up I ever had, even though it was just a few month. Everything reminded me of her, places, music, small details here and there, it was and still is a nightmare. I'm at day 6 of it right now and today I met with her to talk a littlebit, but she is committed and cold as ice, so she's gone. The last 6 days I completely blamed myself for everything, until today when I realized it's not me who fucked up anything, it's her ADHD. Now I'm reliefed littlebit, my heart still in pain because I'm still addicted to her but I'm sure time will heal it. I see you posted 1 month ago, I hope you are in better shape than I am right now. Wish you and all the poor souls who will read these lines in the future good luck, and energy to heal.

[@Inside_the_Male_Mind]

Like what?

[@Shyuuta]

@@chrissv10tfsi I'm in the same situation as you right now except my ex doesn't have ADHD. She has a severe level of trauma because of the prolonged abuse from childhood and from her ex (physically & mentally). I did try to talk to her for one week because she's perfect to me like your gf to yours and I don't wanna give that up. That one week drained me of my mental and emotions, I couldn't feel anything except pain and regrets. Today I just ended it, I knew it had to be done but I kept holding to the hope that she'll see my reasons. Sorry about the rants, and I hope you're doing well man. Peace to us all.

[@chrissv10tfsi]

We got back together and all went in an even better direction than before, but this time we had to go deep into our traumas to deal with. Childhood as well, on both side. Wish you and your ex good luck, and all the best, keep it up.@@Shyuuta

[@Mow-99]

Chris, I've had a very similar experience to yours. I met her online, and she was the kindest and most loving person I had ever met. She loved me so much, and the way we fell in love was incredible. In just one week, she completely redefined the concept of love for me, especially considering I had been in an abusive relationship before. But with her, I truly understood what love is. Both of us were committed to making our relationship work. We were actively fighting our toxic thoughts and discussing them, trying our best to make it work. However, things took a sudden turn around last Christmas. She told me she needed some time alone. Five days passed without a single word from her. In an attempt to show my affection, I sent her tulip flowers, knowing they were her favorite. She messaged me then, asking why I was sending flowers after we had broken up. I had no idea; my heart was shattered. She had broken up with me and moved on without even telling me why, aside from a vague conversation she had with my friend, where she mentioned being tired of this "bullshit." It's been really tough for me because I saw her as a life partner. We had spent a year together, and I had done my best to make her happy. But this happened, and I can't help but wonder if it's related to a friend of hers from Belgium who started hanging out with her around the same time. I've lost trust in everyone, and this suspicion is only making everything worse. My heart is in deep pain, but I'm trying to navigate through these dark thoughts whenever they hit me. I forgot to mention that she also told me she had ADHD. Despite everything, I genuinely hope she's happy and healthy, and I wish her parents good health as well. it's been 2 month since you commented, I hope you're doing good and moving forward. Edit: i just saw your latest comment 9 days ago, im happy for you and i hope you guys get through everything together.

[@HeidiRobinson-ft7vl]

Most people aren't meant to be in your life forever. Closure is healing though....🎉

[@kayodudu5190]

Yess this is what am dealing with right now, Am crying so bad bevause I have been betrayed for so long., Am just crying, dont know why this happened to me.

[@GalestianMusic]

I love Jordan Peterson. One of the biggest assets of our time.

[@kirkalex5257]

Intelligent. Certainly. Keep in mind no one has all the answers.

[@RantJamz]

This video doesn't answer its own question but it's still good

[@junejune060586]

I thought I was the only one that thought that!

[@clarityml4221]

😂😂😂😂

[@mery.m]

partly it says that you can rethink the relationship and see where both werent compatible

[@NtoV1995]

thats because this channel just stole a video and put up his own title. i guess the maintainer of this channel has something in between 70-80IQ.

[@jamesdoakes4956]

@@mery.mfacts. Then you take your brain out of your head except for the hypoplatupus then put the n a cat brain

[@FallenSummer84]

There is no mental anguish when you know your self worth.

[@kirkalex5257]

Sometimes peeps give their heart to the wrong person (aka player) & it can take time to bounce back. The only peeps who never feel anything toward their fellow humans are sociopaths. This is why/how they are able to cause the pain they cause & walk away with a smile on their face, as if it's something to truly be amused by. No one on here, of course. Speaking in general. Sh*t that happens out there in all parts of the world.

[@kirstisamuelsen3712]

If you are alive and there is no anguish you have to be really superfiscial Having anguish is a part of being human If you feel something

[@FallenSummer84]

@@kirstisamuelsen3712 so you want to WILLFULLY DREAD your existence when you have ways to manage how you feel?

[@kirstisamuelsen3712]

@@FallenSummer84 Oh.Of course you can work on yourself to lessen the anguish. I agree.

[@kirstisamuelsen3712]

Oh yes there is.

[@monicajaramillo1384]

People need to see more positive messages out there on how to fix things just like back in the days, there was no throwing something away because it was broken! Put your mind to something and you can do anything in this world that you want, or else there wouldn’t be people in space, under water, in the air, this is persistence and willingness to overcome hardships no matter what the issue, this is especially true when you have a family and children. We have to ask ourselves what kind of children do we want to raise? The kind that run at the sign of any problem or to face the problems and learn how to rectify and accept any challenge with open arms?! These are the kind of strong resilient humans I would like to see taking over the earth, taking it old school and seeing learning real values, not weakness 😔😭

[@buddhistandthemoney1]

Understand your behavior and know that there is a possibility the relationship didnt work out for factors out of your control. When you can acknowledge this while coupling it with effective introspection it puts the failed relationship in a healthy perspective and allows you to move on.

[@matthewray5343]

Jordan Peterson is the master at using a lot of words to say absolutely nothing.

[@gedwardnelson]

LOL. He is very wordy. Takes a lot of focus to be able to keep up with him. Sometimes I can, sometimes not so much. That being said, I do believe he’s a positive influence.

[@joeyfigueroa4748]

I just went through my first big break up. Life sucks. Trust me, I’m taking the right steps. I started working out, taking better care of myself overall, and I try to stay busy. Still doesn’t mean it’s not hard. Going to bed sucks, I can’t escape the pain.

[@PeaceInChrist23]

Learning to focus on oneself helps, but understanding your maker and then focusing on random things like in this video...starting a new course, or learning a language.....putting your mind on someone else really helps. Mind what music you listen to as well as it can intensify the feelings we have about a person, a situation or ourselves.

[@TreeBloom]

No mention in this video of relationship or getting over relationships. It’s all about brain function, motivation and emotions

[@auriuman78]

About to lose the last 12 years of my life for the stupidest possible set of reasons... Which actually led to a dreadfully valid set of reasons, brought on by the loss of what is right in favor of the desires of the unhappy partner over the one trying to bring peace and happiness. I don't think it mattered, though, looking back you know. I think that even if I had never sacrificed righteousness on the altar of happiness I'd still be in this exact place, it would have just gotten here sooner. I'll be back in a year to let you know how fast fast was. I'm the one that must set up the dominoes and then tip the first. The hard part is the set up, it's easy to watch the beauty of the collapse, and it will be beautiful in a strangely satisfying way but at the same time will be the most crushing train wreck I've ever seen. I just have to tip the first, the setup is pretty well done. Damned hardest tap I've ever had to tap, because I KNOW everything that will be touched along the way... These aren't dominoes strung out on a nice clean table - they're interwoven through the lives of other people's dominoes that I care about deeply. The problem is that they don't care deeply, and they never will until my row of dominoes tips over through theirs. By then it'll be too late, and I have to accept whatever may come from this because it's what's true and I believe JP when he says that living the truth is the most adventurous and best possible outcome for anyone's life. Starting it is just hard as hell.

[@stylewithaltitude]

I was with this person for 8 years and just heard JP mention that number. She did me dirty wanting "space" while cheating.

[@puseletsoish]

I don't know if I ever get over him or stop loving him. I deeply heartbroken and these "how to" is easier said than done.

[@Americanpatriot-zo2tk]

I have fall back before I will fight back again

[@Americanpatriot-zo2tk]

I have fight back before I will fight back again before I will fight back again

[@Msrojo1004]

Good talk but the background music is distracting for me.

[@hamzaahmed1578]

I cant understand completely what he said. But parts of what he is trying to say do hit on a deeper level and made me feel and think better

[@Viper.Twisty]

Ok, so what's the bottomline? I didn't get it.

[@FriendofDorothy]

Neither did most people but he appeals to people who consider themselves deep thinkers so they won't admit it when they don't get one of his presentations. This video headline was mismatched to this video in order to get the attention of people in pain over a relationship failure. If the video was called "The Amazing Machination of the Hypothalamus" no one would click! Pseudo-intellectuals like myself love JP's videos, LOL...

[@vegeta5402]

Married for 18 years. She said she doesn't love me the way i love her anymore.. wants to file separation paperwork... 2 kids.. I've been cheated on 4 times, which i know of. I still wanted to make it work. I can't turn off my heart. I wanted to grow old with her... I've been through shelter homes, combat wounded in Iraq, this hurts more... if i didn't have kids, I'd already be dead right now. The open wound in my mind hurts way more than anything life has thrown at me thus far. Im in shock right now. In and out of bad limerence

[@Belo-kf6yp]

She cheated on you or you cheated on her?

[@vegeta5402]

@@Belo-kf6yp she cheated

[@Belo-kf6yp]

@@vegeta5402 :O, how are you now brother?

[@vegeta5402]

@Belo-kf6yp I'm trying to find strength in myself standing on my own feet. Trying to get my self worth and dignity back. Trying to move on for my kids sake

[@mangoauto8450]

Been there done that . Once I finally let go she wanted back but I was already past it. That’s how it goes

[@LilyOlivia-p3s]

Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

[@Mia1827]

It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

[@LilyOlivia-p3s]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@Mia1827]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Mia1827]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@LilyOlivia-p3s]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

[@barkburton1]

To me along with thinking of them being physical with another person is rough it’s also just as hard knowing they lied to you, they had been lying to you. They were a mirage and for whatever reason you believed them. Then BAM. You are nothing to them and everything in your immediate world is not what you thought it was. Brutal. I just keep reminding myself how evil she is. A normal loving person won’t do this to someone they love

[@Ms.SelfFabulous]

To think you can get over a relationship fast is unrealistic thinking. If you find a person that moves on fast, that's because they already had someone else they were talking to in the mix. I was talking to this guy that I had already known of him, but when we ran into each and he wanted to get to know me. Within 1 week, things had taken a turn down hill. Then we didn't talk for a whole week. Going through that, no contact, he reached out to me. Then, before that week was up, we were right back in the same situation 😂😂😂. For me, only to have engaged with him for 2 weeks, it hurt me. So that comes to show you how people can have an effect on you, and it can hurt you that quick.

[@KRAZEEIZATION]

If I’m lied to and disrespected by a woman, she’s out and that’s it. No ifs, ands or buts! I forgot my ex after the first two minutes of this video!

[@CallsItLikeISeizeIts]

What if it was a man 😂?

[@CharlesBaxter-pf5om]

I'm Forgiven 😊 🙏

[@susancarter3864]

You can please some of the people some of the time. You can’t please all the people all of the time. You hold a bird with an open hand. Some people come into your life for a blessing and some come into your life for a lesson.

[@Superboy1333]

Just broke up with my gf of 5 years and keep having this reoccurring dream where I’m swimming into crashing waves, panicking because it seems impossible to get past them out to the calm part of the ocean. I keep diving down and holding my breath for as long as I can, looking up while the waves crash above me, knowing I can’t stay underwater but too tired and afraid to surface to the storm.

[@EneangEZ1]

No. I don't give up on my family

[@dylanpringle4314]

He covers break ups. He covers post traumatic stress. He covers everything he’s talking about the quickest way to re-reset the pathways the neuropath way in your brain people listen slow down listen to the video when you have nothing to do.

[@light7867]

JP not in a position to advise on a topic he has not experienced. First step is to create a step away from the trauma and go no contact!

[@nightlady2001]

I'm sure JP has experienced a breakup at some point in his life. Who hasn't?

[@tamasjanosi9606]

I have the same , 2years together, we planning a baby, buy a house , now its gone ....forever ... she went to another man ...and it was 2 weeks ago, and now i on my deepest , like the ddepest place in the small black box with my mind...cant focus on my job ....planning to visit my family ...i dont want to end up hanging on the wall...

[@Eden639]

He did not answer the topic, instead we ended up with a lot of information about the hypothalamus, weird…

[@Revedance2002]

Things and people are only borrowed to us, we never really truly own anything or anyone. What is will be, can't force something out of people, espeically when we ourselves can sometimes doubt our own sanity or choices in given real or fake situations. Be a good person, strive towards the light... That is all you can do and expect from yourself- choices made beyond that are not within your control

[@artificialmustaches]

100% pure clickbait

[@daveh9803]

Wow! It’s almost as if our brains weren’t already scattered by the break up. This comes along to ensure that the scattering affects every molecule!!

I've found that getting over a breakup starts 2 steps backward. As time heals, it evens out 1 and 1. Given a couple months and beyond its 2 forward, 10 forward and so on.

[@zoharkiaav]

There is no information on getting over a break up fast. Most channels that post Jordan Petersons videos are this way, it does not follow through on the title of the video and only certain aspects are provided, mostly out of context which will lead to more confusion and less help/assistance.

[@charmainedevilliers7194]

He does not spoon feed, he wants to give you info and make you aware of the fact that you can MANAGE your emotions

[@kellyw6652]

Perhaps those people are too woke to understand.

[@FriendofDorothy]

@@kellyw6652 the word "woke" is sooo over-used and inaccurate. Overly broad generalizations are the preferred choice of lazy minds

[@alicehatzoglou5683]

Wow... The insights Dr. Peterson offers are just great

[@georgesontag2192]

Not sure if he gave any info. I think the real answer is what father told me 20 years ago. He said this to me as advise. If you don't like me, then I don't like you. You will learn to hate them as you dwell on their imperfections.

[@jennifer86010]

I used to watch Jordan Peterson videos several years ago. He identified human problems, and explained how to deal with them in moralistic ways related to intrinsic ethical behaviors such as good vs. bad, helpful vs. destructive, building vs. destroying types of behavior. As years went on, Peterson himself, went through real-life difficulties, including substance abuse and self-destructive issues. Now, several years later, I have watched several of his current videos. In each case, none of the videos have anything to do with the titles given them. In the case of this particular video, Instead of Peterson "revealing How To Get Over A Breakup FAST".... as the title says, Peterson goes through an exhaustive explanation of brain physiology including the hypothalamus, and other parts of the human brain. He then continues describing a cat's brain, then moves on to the subject of DNA's ability to self-repair, and then he eventually describes the psychology of emotion vs. motivation. He says nothing about hot to get over a relationship breakup fast. Additionally, if you listen closely, you will notice that Peterson seems to develop his own "stream-of-consciousness" conversation, as he expresses every thought that comes into his head He travels down every stream and tributary which flows from each of his last last thoughts.....all taking himself and us, farther and farther away from anything which has to to with how to get over a human relationship breakup. If you are a "fan" of Jordan Peterson, you will probably not notice or realize his thought processes in this video, because your adoration of Peterson overwhelms any objective analysis you might apply to him. Most KZbin fans resort to name calling or scolding anyone who might objectively analyze their personal KZbin idols. If, on the other hand, you are someone like me, who has admired Jordan Peterson for many years, and you carefully listen to what he says in his current videos, while being objective, analytical and fair to him, you will most likely realize that what he is saying in this video is a convoluted lengthy description of brain physiology, having nothing at all to do with the subject of getting over a human relationship breakup. Ironically, the KZbin viewers who have written comments about this video, have said far more pertinent and insightful things about how to get over a relationship breakup. Perhaps Dr. Peterson should take his next psychology lesson from the people who have commented on his videos, since they are the actual people who have suffered through real human break-ups.

[@amd8365]

Stop adding music. Some people cant concentrate on both voice and music. Seriously.

[@astroaggregator]

My last ex is a celebrity. The breakup was hard because every time I was feeling mostly over it, I'd see her face on TV and I'd relapse into the breakup pain. I ended up getting rid of my TV and asking all my friends to turn their TVs off while I was around. Some friends obliged, but other friends resisted my request and I was forced to fistfight them, sometimes ending in altercations where one or both pugilants would fall from a balcony into a swimming pool. I ended up in prison and then in therapy, where I found out that I never really dated Judge Judy; it was all just a coping mechanism to deal with how boring it is to live in the Midwestern United States. Eventually I moved away but I never gave up altercations ending in falls into swimming pools - I could never do that to Judy Namaste

[@animatedalbumcovers]

How to get over a break up fast: It’s pretty simple actually.. Be GENUINELY part of the decision. And you will never EVER suffer again. Love you all. ❤ Background: I also just let the love of my life go. And for the 2nd and last time. This time though, I had the balls to take part on the decision and it feels like the best thing I have ever done and learned at the same time in my whole life. Believe me: it works like a charm. Someone will always suffer more. Don’t let it be You. ❤ But be aware! What I’m sharing here is VERY different from DECIDING FIRST and simply not caring about the other part feelings. Take part on the decision; be part of it. You will not regret it and both of you are going to be able to move on in no time. Make. It. Together! Just like you made it happen. Be grateful. ❤ We all spent amazing time together with our lovers and other halves, and that’s the beauty of Life. Just like the end of a movie.. What matters is the journey.

[@HeidiRobinson-ft7vl]

Thank you for this video.

[@shawnvalencia8124]

Thank you.

[@rayray2878]

This is a good subject to have more on Because it goes way back the the biblical time and throughout even woman being shamed for being unwed mother's.

[@Baby-o4h]

Us conscientious people have a little more difficulty in life than our peers.

[@rahulkukar3929]

Does this guy ever get to the point? The Tates would destroy him in any debate.

[@latinaalma1947]

Human brain processing is complex, we arent snakes ...but the Tates possibly are. Dont watch Jordan....you wont be able to process what he is saying..perhaps you are one of the lab cats he mentions with nothing of a brain except a hypothalamus....? Sybil Francis, PhD professor of clinical psychology

[@marlimusrex]

Short attention span?

[@rahulkukar3929]

@@marlimusrex no time for nonsensical waffling with no end-point. I should hire you to summarise for me.

[@babyb7001]

If someone has no consiencesness they will not work in a relationship with anyone until they heal what causes the lack of care. If 2 ppl don't care how will a relationship last...

[@TheMisssy2]

This literally didn't have anything about getting over my breakup...I'm so confused...I love him thou

[@Oneorangejuice]

No, just when I get fully compensated for the damage. I'm like that, people need to be accountable. That's all. When flyed my full body was there, I had to pay for the trip, my body, my emotions and heart and the life of all my owns were there There's real injuries, financial and imaterial emotional, and I keep being chased in the present by him, so each day I deserve more compensation, so no way, or he repairs or he repairs.

[@rayray2878]

Whenever you think everything should be in place and someone eles doesn't that's a huge thing between people you have one taking things out to the garage and the other one is passing you bringing back up the drive .

[@christoph3187]

Sounds like totally minor stuff to me the way you describe it. Big differences for me would be one wants children, the other doesn’t or one wants to live free, hustle and travel the world, the other wants to stay locally and work a nine to five job.

[@robertataylor5794]

My ex husbands ring tone on my phone is the music from Sanford and Son LOL🤣🤣🤣

[@KALEBAS-t7e]

Thank god for everything

[@malikattar9484]

Such a great video 🙏🙏🏾🙏🏻

[@frankwhite1928]

I was over my ex's before they were gone. The one that stayed gave me PTSD when she should have gone...

[@unknowndude835]

Yes my wife decided to tell me she not in love with me after all she has done to me and our kids it hurts so bad having a hard time with this. Shebwas disrespectful, a narcissists lier, always played the victim n i watch her fall in love with another man right in front of my face. I know karma is real but for the sake of me i get to focus on my self now

[@makalani400]

Stay strong for you and your children. Easier said than done of course but you can do it. My ex was the same kind of cheating narcissist. After all the emotional and physical abuse I endured, I finally called the cops on him and now he’s suffering for his actions by being someone’s ass puppet in jail as a soon-to-be convicted felon. Ha!! Karma may not come for her as quickly as it did for him but know that she will get what she deserves. 🤙🏾

[@unknowndude835]

@makalani400 thank you I hope you bounce back

[@Kendo902]

​@@unknowndude835 man bro I felt every word 💔 peace and blessings to you bro, hope you doing well now

[@luke-vr9wk]

Im 33 male in aus my fiance after 5 years just left me out of the blue. We were so happy and i tried so hard, pretty sure shes a narcissist and always makes me out to be the bad guy. We both have trauma and anxiety and we rant/get angry sometimes, me im irish and have PTSD but we were always there for each other, well i was atleast. I feel like im not good enough

[@ta8193]

Maybe not good enough for her, but one day you'll be everything for someone else. Maybe the courtship was too long? just thinking... but cheer up, you're just starting to live.

[@luke-vr9wk]

@@ta8193 she did bring out the best in me. The courtship was never ending even with both of us in constant physical pain. We're talking I'm just full of regret. Things I didn't do and say enough. Respect thankyou

[@cristiangabriel7861]

Same for me ,but is to learn to came back to you

[@luke-vr9wk]

@@cristiangabriel7861 I had no social media and my friends pass away, so connecting again to society is the big one for me haha

[@user-rj1vj5wk9f]

Was that salt on the meat with the cat. Cats shouldn't be eating salt. Yes I love cats.

[@Sweet-T-v2v]

I keep going back to my ex... and nothing changes😢... i just wanna be stronger so i never allow him back again😔

[@Msyztik]

Value yourself and respect yourself, if it’s toxic and continues to be with no change, move on.

[@Jgp4xzdmqnmil]

Until you take responsibility for your behaviour and stop being a victim you will never get better. Get up and get out of his life. Have no fear. You are worth more than this dead end existence. Decide to change yourself not him. Then you ll start to heal. Your self esteem will gradually grow. You were fine before him. Youll be fine after him. Accept he is not good for you. Take care of yourself. You have one life and its too short to waste on the likes of him. ❤❤❤

[@diegomervich7177]

Is it me or every time Peterson talks about a topic he basically always opens new windows and never arriving straight to the point

[@SabinePalmer-n5j]

I know that my motivation is enhanced by my emotions and those are set in motion by God‘s love……

[@johntaylor-lo8qx]

Gr8 show. But sometimes i think some of us just can't get over some really truly horrible things. I can see that im thinking wrong but no matter what, i cant stop thinking it. Its tiring. Truly tiring. What happens when we can no longer walk ??? So tired. Nothing ever changes just goes around in circles. ✌️

[@Oneorangejuice]

When a guy leaves us alone its possible but if he remains chasing you how you can release and allow that to happen?

[@mikedenkinger9570]

The music needs to be 20% lower in level.