Jordan Peterson: The Ideal Woman & overcoming fears

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[@glennlewman1377]

I meet the idea women and married her. The strangest thing happened. She is actually more amazing than I thought she was when we meet. My goal is to be the same for her.

[@LeratoM98]

Are you a woman?

[@pierrem6699]

Lucky as hell...that’s awesome 😎

[@bobbyseasons451]

ya right glenn. she probably a fatty. we're all fucked. and even you are lying.

[@HaneefaTheHaneefa]

Damn , so she settled for less is what you’re saying?

[@pepimar5236]

Healthy and smart goals: to be your best self 👌🏼

[@stefanms8803]

JP puts the cameraman to work

[@samuelgelabert6284]

Facts

[@miguelmejia4656]

it's just a kid with a phone.. let's not overcomplicate things here

[@bungabungabunga4285]

Many universities have cameras in lecture theatres to record lectures, these cameras automatically follow the lecturer.

[@tsun2beculturd33]

haha well left right left right aint too much work tho 😆😆🤔

[@robbiecale3327]

@@miguelmejia4656 still a cameraman. A man with a camera

[@wanderingwade8877]

The ancient Greeks thought romantic love was like an illness. Picking a mate based mostly on physical attractiveness is a really bad idea.

[@wanderingdeer1114]

Wandering Wade Still is a bad idea. Glad to see another "wander-er"

[@tuleybee2425]

Wandering Wade yes physical has got me a whole lot of dud stud muffin

[@meiko431]

Thats not romance i see it more as an infatuation

[@mikelucey5035]

@@FC-ku4ez But there is always a new model on the horizon. If your most well developed and most obvious quality is your physical attractiveness you might be worse off.

[@nicolej8502]

Physical attraction to someone and romantic love are Not the same thing

[@Slaxbox]

I'm glad that this guy seems to understand that he doesn't understand everything. That's surprisingly rare.

[@fakename9500]

Slaxbox he's agreeable

[@jacquelineworthington9585]

That is what brilliant people do. Rare but delightfull

[@blacklight4415]

@@fakename9500 Him being agreeable is not the reason, its because hes humble

[@EWexperience]

the thing is, the more you know, the more you see that you know so little

[@frederickhoward5598]

Although imperative

[@xxczerxx]

I can't imagine how weird/surreal it must be walking into class, having Jordan Peterson as your lecturer, knowing he's an internet icon and modern-day philosophy hero with a cult-like following....yet all the students seem to be pretty nonchalant about the whole thing!

[@YoooMelvin]

Mac I believe these lectures are a bit old. On JRE podcast he mentioned that he hasn't taught since the whole gender pronoun scandal since winter semester 2016.

[@alanamaria100]

Mac I showed up to a couple of his lectures last year and his students clap at the end of every class, which is super sweet to see & a lot talk to him after the actual class so I think it’s recognized but everyone’s just chill during lecture.

[@cadens.308]

He’s important but he’s still a person. Treating him as anything else would be unhealthy.

[@user-dd9eo2wz3h]

How do you expect them to act. It’s good they’re not taking notes and listening

[@user-dd9eo2wz3h]

i hate everyone like me hahaha. The ‘next’ Steve Jobs

[@nicolewheat5564]

I am a 44 year old women and Jordan Peterson has taught me so much I love him as a fellow human very much and am very thankful that humanity has him

[@Noutelus]

I do not understand why this guy is considered right-wing, he seems pretty balanced to me.

[@afonsodeportugal]

In these times, if your not a leftist you belong in the alt-right.

[@s3m4jno5w4d]

Only idiots think that

[@mouthpiece200]

People that deal in facts and reason tend to get a right-wing association.

[@ericanwin]

I do not know for sure what he would self describe. I highly doubt it would be right wing. He is appropriated and misinterpreted for other peoples purposes and agendas. Its tragic in a way.. to be a public figure is risky. I think he knows he is getting used by political vampires from both sides.

[@mouthpiece200]

Regardless how he self describes, the positions he takes are very right leaning, and many of them would trigger dirty leftists. For example, everything he has to say about gender.

[@11FruitCake11]

I love all these JBP lectures, but why are all the video titles so utterly inaccurate. They should all be titled, "Jordan Peterson goes off on another wonderful tangent".

[@sednafloating7027]

because he never basically sticks to a subject. and they have to use something as a clickbait.

[@bionmccool]

...ans if you think about it, he answers the clickbait question. The answer is just different from what you expect in clickbait titled videos.

[@thabolwethutemaiimaphosa1849]

😂😂😂

[@noellecannon1411]

I knowww

[@saathvikanand8817]

Well you can't have the same title for every video now can you😂

[@jeramydavin4061]

You won't find the perfect mate. Relationships are a skill. Like piano. You have to put lots of time and practice into one to be proficient and happy.

[@liam606]

Not only that. No piano can ever be perfectly tuned ....neato huh

[@AlchemistHealer]

true. no one is perfect. we all strive towards perfection as a golden mean in nature 1.618. yes, skill, if you master yourself first you can give more. giving is receiving and thats where most relationship problems stem from neediness. lets be proficient

[@ricodiva1477]

Beautifully put. I might steal this and put it on twitter. I'll quote you

[@Gimipork]

Sure, but some people are better relationship material than others.

[@GrnXnham]

Relationships require constant maintenance. If you perform the maintenance you can be rewarded many times over. Many people don't do the required maintenance and then complain about why relationships never work for them. Married 25 years and our marriage is better now by far than it was 25 years ago. Maintenance.

[@amandasligar9269]

I have finally found a person who can describe what it's like when a creative individual is not encouraged to be creative. Happened to me in my early years by my father who wasn't helpful with my interests. Been fighting depression and anxiety all my life. Haven't given up. Never will.

[@sylviasaxby5768]

If you haven’t given up and you never will. YOU HAVE ALREADY WON! Congratulations

[@yasmin.h668]

Same girl same.

[@nomadicgamer9466]

omg, I hadn't realized *that* was what he was talking about! My mind kind of glazed over a little at that part. T_T I'm creative. Parents were both practical. Wasn't encouraged much - or rather, wasn't encouraged in a realistic sense. I always thought I was never good enough and it all kind of ended with that. And *then* it became - you must be practical because I said so, tripe. Have had depression and anxiety for years. Just sad. I'm still creative though - I'll always be creative and for those that are creative, too, keep that alive. Even just a small ember has the chance to become a bigger flame later on.

[@griffydz1789]

You father probbaly wants the best for you, it is indeed difficult to make a living from creativity, maybe you should go half way, listen to him half way (try do what he wants) and keep the other half for realizing your goals.

[@Flamingpiano]

"The unconscious meets the unknown with imagination". What a beautiful phrase. 😍

[@mahamsiddiqui8158]

The perfect woman is definitely not the one in the pinned picture.

[@maxalain9948]

@Belle R. Oddly specific

[@nik228803]

You're right, that bitch is crazy

[@5050TM]

@@mahditr5023 She'll actually chop your finger off and make it somehow your fault. But that was pretty close lol.

[@briang.2218]

Perhaps that's precisely the point. Or if it wasn't, then it's quite miraculous how it all works out: people may look to Amber Heard and perceive a "perfect woman", but the truth is so far removed from the perception that it boggles the mind. That is quite a key component to Peterson's words here, really, that no woman matches the ideal Anima the way we may anticipate or yearn for. Part of maturation in one's approach to romantic pursuits is to recognize that.

[@jegeriufanen4415]

Just shows how being physically attractive does not equal being beautiful on the inside. Met many people, men and women, who are very attractive, but have shit personalities. So yeah.

[@xiereteefv2235]

He's a true teacher.. what's his class called "everything a human being should know" ?

[@npsck1802]

I can’t believe that he actually takes his clients places. I had no idea that psychologists did that.

[@applebee6455]

Same here. I bet it's rare though. I bet most would say they're too busy or make 101 excuses not to.

[@gitman3486]

Really good (and probably expensive) ones do

[@janinebohl7488]

depending on what it is, it is kinda common actually. With phobias most of all. For other mental illnesses there's probably not as much reason. But I don't know what individual psychotherapists actually do. I can only tell what I learned in a lecture.

[@elyse443]

I’m pretty sure it’s the standard therapy for agoraphobia. They need to go out into open spaces a little at a time.

[@Mojo1800]

You can bet your ass she paid for it.

[@oh_k8]

The ideal woman: puts picture of Amber Heard in the screenshot.

[@mynamesjeff5330]

Thumbnail

[@ianmarkcarmichael1286]

Thought it was some gag. And it probably is. I mean, it`s Amber the Abuser Heard. And this is 2020.

[@Menaceblue3]

Amber "No one will ever believe in Johnny Depp because I'm a hot woman" Heard

[@jalapenopizza9505]

In a way its kind of fitting. Because he talks about when the fantasy dosnt match the reality. Amber Heard a beautiful famous actresses who turns out to be an abusive wife is a good example of that.

[@ThePortugueseAtheist]

@@jalapenopizza9505 Exactly. It turned out to be the perfect thumbnail after all.

[@vickyoli]

“Perfect child, evil teen” AMEN 😂

[@officialstevenma]

Thumbnail aged very very well

[@nick_angelopoulos]

1:47 “extend pseudopods of imagination and fantasy into the unknown” Peterson is a poet in casual conversation

[@SearchIndex]

curiosity reduces anxiety

[@andrewdomo]

that's really interesting actually.

[@JihadAlAnsari]

I find that to be very true. Instead of being intimidated of failing the optimal scenario that you have created in your mind. Go into the situation instead knowing that you have no idea what's going to happen.

[@crackerjack6454]

not entirely... sometimes, at least in my experience when I was a teen, curiosity kind of invoked anxiety..... (like being curious about what others are thinking). But, sure enough that faded, and I no longer care.... At least minimally....

[@maxwinzar7928]

I disagree, curiosity leads to new experiences which leads to anxiety. Not giving up on curiosity thou

[@whatvlogz]

Exercise your curiosity in a safe way. For me, I read books. When I have to focus on reading comprehension I don’t have the capacity to also be anxious.

[@haylei2804]

The only reason for anyone to dislike Dr. Peterson is that they don't accept the goodness in life.

[@guloguloguy]

Finding the "ideal" person, is like finding a gemstone on a beach. Yes there might be one out there, but, you're going to spend a whole lot of time sifting thru a lot of sand, and glass, to find one, and even then, it will likely be flawed, in several ways.

[@frederickhoward5598]

This is why you become the love you wish to discover ( find)as a friend lover partner

[@whatdoesthisthingdo]

^ This. This man has it figured out.

[@rog69]

@@tomislavkol5296 ok so u hunt all ur life? Or never settle down? Seems kinda sucky too

[@sonofhibbs4425]

What happens when you are already married and then meet that ‘’gem’’ of a person?

[@geoffreylynnegambrelljr.4132]

The ideal woman in my mind is rather practical, she is the one that can wear her Soul for me to see and not be afraid of judgement. She is also willing to bare witness to my Soul knowing that we both come from the same place. She is courageous and honest so that she never falls prey to the endless lies. She doesn't manipulate me or anybody because she knows that by doing so, she would hinder the experience of witnessing life unfold in front of her.

[@marisa7976]

Sounds like a man

[@geoffreylynnegambrelljr.4132]

@@marisa7976, It's a pretty unisex description really.

[@Alphacentauri819]

Sounds like an enlightened woman...one who refuses to drink society’s koolaid! One who might more likely follow Eckhart Tolle than the Kardashian’s. One who challenges the false narratives from childhood and is connected to herself and therefore isn’t desperately seeking...but comfortable, secure and discerning :) Blessings in attracting the type you seek and creating a different level relationship🌸

[@geoffreylynnegambrelljr.4132]

@@Alphacentauri819, Exactly, well spoken. And thank you for your blessing, I will you find someone who completes you as well.

[@Just.The.Next.Step.]

Find a Venus in Scorpio dating app-

[@authenticallytrish]

Rofl “my lectures go everywhere and are not very orderly” 🤣

[@mophead_xu]

spoken right in the midst of a transition from topic of "projection of ideals to other people" to "how one prepares oneself to face the reality of life".

[@sarahmichaels2117]

The bible says that man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.

[@ENFPerspectives]

❤️💯

[@omathitis8498]

Amen.

[@omathitis8498]

"Wealth are inherited from parents, but a good wife comes from the Lord."

[@sarahmichaels2117]

@@omathitis8498 Amen!!

[@martinroberts508]

Your parents had intercourse. Nine months later, you were born. What follows is chance and choice. Facts.

[@meltemo.4139]

Omg his description about open people and their creativity was spot on. I feel so understood lol.

[@Lyonessi]

That felt like a hand on the shoulder. Reassuring

[@genevieverachele6511]

The embalming story made me both laugh and cry. I was moved by the absurdity of the situation and the resilient growth of his client.

[@monkspot561]

This is why I love Jordan Peterson. He is a philosopher, mining ideas with the pic axe of his mind. And it is a joy to experience his digging. His true audience is on the journey along side of him. He is doing all the heavy lifting but there is still plenty of work for his listeners to do.

[@osiris1309]

The thumbnail says "what's the ideal woman?" And shows Amber Heard😂😂😂🙊

[@calex6294]

I clicked on the video without noticing the date, thinking it was some ironic shit.

[@nejcpanic6704]

i love this guy! speaks to my heart like no one else. God bless you Jordan!!!

[@raycamm2777]

he just described my most sincere problem with being creative.

[@86sineadw]

My favourite lectures/talks from JP are in this classroom

[@SC-vb2ui]

Admire dr.Jordan Peterson 😇 Rare Integrity 🙏🏼

[@trcsonic]

The ideal woman it's not Amber Heard for sure. Johnny Depp assures.

[@amadeusarkham909]

Yeah lol

[@funkykenan]

Made me chuckle. And made his finger bleed with a liquor bottle lol

[@sweetpotato1794]

Johnny depp is a disgusting drog addict . amber still look and is amazing

[@nemooutis-marcusboateng7459]

She gave Leo no probs.

[@Brandon-nz7pd]

EXACTLY. So does Elon Musk

[@SugaryPhoenixxx]

I never realized how much it benefited me to grow up in a hunting family. As a little girl my dad would bow hunt whitetail deer & he would have me go with him to track them after he shot them. I learned to follow a blood trail & when we found the deer he would have me hold its legs as he field dressed the deer. I was never really perturbed by it because he was always very respectful of the deer he harvested & explained to me that this is where food comes from. In fact when I was so young I was fascinated by seeing its organs & muscle tissue. I would help him clean & butcher the deer, making it into steaks, burger, & roast, & package it for the winter. The deer fed our family all winter & even into the spring. I have very fond memories of those times I spent with my dad in the woods. But even I would have a hard time walking through a slaughter house. At least the deer my father would harvest got to live a natural life as a wild animal, & had the chance to avoid being killed if they were smart, & some did just that. The cows in the slaughter house live in small cages & never have the opportunity to get away from their captures. But I understand it is a reality of feeding an entire nation of people. I am in no way a vegetarian/vegan so the fact that animals have to die to feed us is not a perturbing thought. Just the environment of a slaughter house.

[@stevelauda5435]

I grew up just like you did, and loved it.

[@ChristosAnesti33]

That’s pretty amazing. I wish I had that - a wise person to guide me as a kid; a kind grandma or grandpa, an encouraging mother, a father who could show me what it feels like to be loved by a man in a non-sexual way. Honestly your life sounds fascinating to me 🙂🙂

[@michelemcnaught3816]

Jordan is my utmost go to for all good deep dialogue. Hes great.

[@epdOctarina]

Man, this is extraordinary. Thank you so much for uploading.

[@PorcupineGirl]

Love is not about finding a perfect partner. It's about knowing your partner well and knowing yourself, and being certain that you are able to handle and tolerate their poor or less desirable qualities. When things get rough you're not thinking about all the reasons that you fell in love with that individual, you're completely annoyed, pissed and focused on their flaws. If they are characteristics that you just fine revolting, relationship will never work. You have to love that person for all the good things, what makes them attractive, but more importantly You really love someone, you love them for their flaws and in spite of them.

[@aristotelischrysosdigitalf6802]

Having Amber Heard in the thumbnail was the ultimate prediction. The ideal woman that turned out to be a abusive and manipulative at best....

[@egg...0603]

I'm watching his stuff and this video is actually hilarious for me. I'm a mortician. I never anticipated this being a topic of conversation!! Good stuff!!

[@eldonbgrove]

These kids are so lucky to have a professor like Mr. Peterson.

[@ChristosAnesti33]

God bless Jordan Peterson

[@aryka922]

I'm looking into becoming a "death doula". Thanks for the consistent validation JP 💜

[@shellyritter8047]

I wish that I would have had Dr. Peterson in college! Love his lectures! 🙂

[@ian_strachs]

Interestingly, surveyed palliative care doctors have the highest job satisfaction levels of any medical speciality. I guess because in every other branch of medicine, death is the worst possible outcome whereas it's the set conclusion in palliative care, so making the transition out of life as pain free as possible can probably give a kind of satisfaction that's unavailable in other branches and also the doctors have come to terms with patients dying regularly as part of their job. Just some thoughts.

[@LeratoM98]

Very well said. Also, I never thought about that branch in medicine. I'll look into it...

[@jedomi00]

“You fall in love with the image..” #justiceforjohnnydepp

[@MissTina62]

I must be one of the MOST OPEN person as I LOVE watching his lectures! xo

[@bellahnemetona5924]

That embalming story is perfect. I was thinking about this myself. I still want to do it.

[@dadadadave9652]

I can't imagine sitting in his class and keeping my eyes down on the desk; my eyes would be glued in interest at his lectures

[@sarahalessa78]

This screenshot didn't age well. But it does reinforce his point that an ideal is an illusion.

[@samiam5434]

I’m pretty sure he chose her because his point is that amber is super attractive and so he chose a beautiful person but who is she really?? He only chose her for the physical but is saying that she is likely not an ideal partner and as we know...the world knows that he was right.

[@melik2625]

That thumbnail didn't age well

[@AntiRiku]

lol at all

[@mishkaw9983]

I wish I could find a therapist like him!!

[@dabluehuman]

I love how Amber Heard is the thumbnail for ideal women description 😂

[@heatherfeather9951]

He gets paid to listen to people's dreams; he's got a good hustle going.

[@PLHarpoon]

The thing with Peterson's videos is that even if you can clearly see that the title is a clickbait you know that the actual talk will be about something else and also much more interesting. :)

[@kiliankiel3844]

He himself had an initiation - very honest! Great work!

[@lolabrini3758]

JP is the best!🌸he really seems like he cares for the world

[@eugenetkd]

I like how I'm just seeing this now that johnny depp won😂😂

[@kathleenphillips6445]

I had a teacher/mentor in high school who took me to a funeral home because I’d never seen a dead person. The person in the coffin was a little lady painted with rosy cheeks, wearing pink. I was scared and wouldn’t get too close but I remember Mrs. Stein smiling kindly and saying “See? No big deal...” I’ll never forget.

[@aprilthomas1489]

Falling in love doesn't necessarily mean that you see a person as perfect. My hubs is far from and I never thought of him as such. I just love him because of how we connect mentally. Over ten years and our feelings haven't changed for each other. Is this REALLY that rare?

[@TheGeorgeD13]

Human beings rarely want to put in the work to do so. It takes listening and a genuine interest in people to accomplish this. The majority of the species has neither of those traits.

[@noobiewatcherz9938]

Yes. The reason you can only watch your favorite best in the world TV show episode once, twice, 3 times ...... but not 4 ,5, 6, 7 , 8 times because people get bored despite how amazing something is.

[@butterfury]

If it was so rare, how did we survive as a specie. I think the normative action is to concatenate not solo.

[@aprilthomas1489]

lol, he isn't much of a talker, unless we are having an actual discussion about something mutually interesting to both of us. We have, since day one, been experts at the whole "alone together" thing, that I think I have heard Perterson talk about a few times. It comes natural to us, not something we have to create or force. We can be in the same room all day and say practically nothing to each other, then maybe suddenly a conversation will spark for whatever reason, or maybe not. No feelings about it. It is nice to be with someone and not have to endure them nor entertain them.

[@bernibeckmann9753]

@April Thomas, you are lucky to have that. Growing up (I'm male not gay) I had a few guy friends like that. I thought it was natural so I assumed one day I'd have a life partner like that. All the women so far have been way too demanding to achieve that.

[@thequietkid1548]

It feels pretty weird seeing Amber Heard next to a title about "ideal women"😂

[@clivehandforth3531]

Aw man itd be so cool to lucid dream like that.

[@Chascoso]

half of this stuff is obvious or should be but when you hear it laid out like this it makes it so much more clearer

[@KeltorRochridge]

So the perfect woman is a vegan who lucid dreams?

[@Amy-ti1pm]

Lol that's me. Can confirm, I'm flawless.

[@Lvl22Cowboy]

Amy Christine found the vegan

[@Amy-ti1pm]

chiki briki- What an original you are! Very clever. Did you come up with that one yourself?

[@RadicalAngel]

This is just funny bc I've been vegan 15 years and wrote a little ebook about my astral travel experiences during meditation. Perfect! Haha jk

[@amanpreet1111]

But he didn’t talk about Vegans.. did he??

[@OscarGeronimo]

Daaaamn... first words and he's already killing me. I'll have to do a Phoenix on this one. 😂

[@jackleentoop121]

Omg sense with humour all wrapped up together.

[@Birthdaycakesmom]

Your use of the “amputated” reifies the post-modern utilization of category as service of and to power.

[@coachvlad9731]

This is very very true and important to know

[@Ligerpride]

I think I went to about 50% of my lectures in college, and I can safely say that if they had been recorded then it would have made absolutely no difference to the amount I'd have seen. Yet here I am, grateful that this was recorded and uploaded to KZbin, and I had no interest in studying this stuff.

[@StephJ0seph]

God am I grateful to have these videos recorded and accessible🙏🏽💖 Thank you.

[@Sweetpea1128]

His client should have just gotten a BSN. I have seen things, heard things and done things I had previously thought not possible. Now, nothing shocks or surprises me. It taught me to “cope” quite well.

[@MarkNiceyard]

Indeed essential truths.

[@robhamada]

Well. This thumbnail...

[@gombesho1]

the thumbnail for this video being a photo of Amber Heard is perfect

[@peterbee9954]

Smart man that words things in a manner that is clearly true

[@brightphoebus]

That's really good! I'm surprised they allowed you to view the embalming. I used to work for a funeral home and they were very strict about not letting anyone but the initiated into that room. Not even I as a sales employee was allowed to peek.

[@shyeline5007]

This thumbnail aged badly

[@brynleytalbot778]

The ideal woman is a fantasy all men dream of, and for the other sex likewise in men. The reality is we're married from birth into an idealistic society fixing unrealistic ideals into us and in relationships they're more prevalent. The ideal dissolves but from that reciprocal respect can emerge and then, as Jordan says, a lot of talking. But talking formed from lifestyle pages or Influencers isn't genuine. It's paper thin because talk challenges. I doubt many couples actually have dialogues for fear of revealing true feelings and emotions which could drive them apart as the ideal breaks down irretrievably in their partner. The sad fact is that the unreality attracts and couples build on everything but their happiness. False ego driven lives with individualistic aims for self gratification built through using the other to proliferate that and, sad to say, many marry still lost in this delusion. Idealism can open doors to growing each other to the best they can be or destroy one to the benefit of the other who believes they're doing the other a favour by being with them. In Western advertising led societies idealism is a lifestyle aim. A fake one. But we buy into it without rationalising it logically.

[@markweimar4807]

Brynley Talbot Your written take on this is well thought out and very true. Well done.

[@aion2177]

that's deep bro.

[@AzazelHash281]

Brynley Talbot you’re like a constant downer huh?

[@brynleytalbot778]

Rodney Hill Quite the opposite. When you ditch the idealism nonsense you start to genuinely connect.

[@Ferelmakina]

not really

[@lauryn2868]

This lecture is so interesting

[@EllyKallan]

Dr. Peterson you are a dangerously good man.

[@sgtpaloogoo2811]

"Ya gotta get used to it man! Otherwise you can't live in the world!"

[@betterburial]

As a Funeral Director, I find this video very interesting.

[@katenka_ana3997]

Damn the asking the things in your lucid dreams is really interesting

[@darlachief7446]

That would be an amazing venture

[@diesect33]

Yeah im on borrowed time lol. I'll offer this with regard to death. REALLY knowing that you not only can and will go at any moment....sure makes a gourmet meal out of cheerios! Every moment is vibrant and intensely beautiful. No I'm not happy all the time but my general positivity in the face of what we consider horror (and/or mundane) is to a point I'd describe it as such, that i am indeed happy MOST of the time. Sadness overcomes at times but even that i taje a measure of joy in today because tomorrow i may never feel that, with all it's apparent flaws, that thing which is to be human. A silly phrase i conjured up at ten regarding the human condition. Perfectly imperfect, in a perfect way. Yeah, even cheerios arr for ME gourmet. Very nice lecture.

[@mariamk2059]

The screenshot didn’t age well

[@TheIslandRiders]

or maybe it did, as the image you projected on to her crumbled as we all got to know her

[@TheIslandRiders]

@Green _ Goddess She's beautiful no doubt. But I've learned that, no matter how gorgeous /hot/cute/beautiful someone is, the second your respect/interest drops for them.... none of that superficial beauty matters... they fade and you wont be attracted to them in a plethora of ways simply because of that psychological factor.

[@smonline631]

so true

[@Greetingsearthling22]

I criticize myself out of existence. I’m doing it less frequently now but I’m going to be experiencing a major change in the coming weeks and I’m afraid the change will reignite it.

[@hillmanhung3846]

Good luck out there

[@fitafries7274]

Is that a Amber Turd on the thumbnail?

[@asdfasdfwae]

Thumbnail Aged Like Milk

[@lolitamorris2943]

Peterson is a very bright person ...

[@plesniartlaboratorij5174]

well balanced JP great

[@abrahamwinston5376]

Just saying, the ideal woman is not the one you used as a thumbnail. 😂

[@BA-mf4gi]

How can one prepare herself to be useful in the face of death? I wish the clip didn't end so abruptly

[@deirdreberger1363]

“High in openness” people was an interesting description.

[@hadassah356]

Oh! Had Dr. Peterson seen who the woman in the picture was back then!

[@whatsthetruth_review]

There is no such thing as a ideal man, woman nor relationship. It all comes down to getting to know what that person's character is.

[@nurtured-channel2953]

This is great ... but I have always wondered on the fact of some individuals " Knowing" from the first moment they saw their partner, that they were the one ... And still happilly married for a life time!!!!!🤔

[@deirdreberger1363]

It’s interesting you said people who work in palliative care wards are “tough.” My mom had said my sister is tough. She is an MD that ran a pediatric palliative care wing. She explained to me she felt helpful to families and the children who were slowly dying during life and when transitioning to the afterlife.

[@srkwixdraw]

Reminds me of watching an autopsy during police academy. There are some of us practical jokers who would see a fellow recruit starting to go green around the gills and ask him or her to pass us the ash tray ( the top of the deceased’s skull). Usually resulted in projectile vomiting or a dead faint. It sounds harsh but it’s not much compared to a lot of suicide, homicide or accidental death scenes we went to. Life sometimes ends horribly

[@yosha2467]

"The halo effect" also relies on people projecting an imaginary ideal want on those who find attractive.