Jordan Peterson ~ Why Some Things Trigger You Emotionally

[@lifeisgood070]

Moral of the story: verbalize or write your emotions and feelings until you understand them, otherwise they get trapped in a child-like state that distorts your reality.

[@lifeisgood070]

@@annab8189 He wrote about what happened not how it made him feel. Big difference.

[@lifeisgood070]

@@annab8189 Interesting. I always thought lack of growth came from ignoring some feeling, struggle, pain, advice, or sign within you. Interesting to know lack of growth can still come when you actively seek advice, change, feedback, opinions, and that which you are afraid of.

[@lifeisgood070]

@@annab8189 probably from not feeling accepted

[@NodnarbRS]

Take the emotions, feelings, thoughts to God in prayer. It’s hard to get corrupted or to get stuck in a bad place if you continually take everything to Him.

[@johngoldsworthy7135]

@@lifeisgood070 No, you're right. It's paradoxical

[@mlawren7]

Whoever filmed this is a cinematic genius.

[@hididdlydee]

Hahah this made me laugh

[@AaleenMurtezaa]

Michael Lawrence low resolution representation

[@elstevo1993]

Hit the blunt then go to class vision

[@bgbg4431]

Peterson Unplugged

[@CC-vj6dd]

Haha!

[@maidinulster]

Everything this man says strikes a cord in my life.

[@janicedenisar3008]

Yes, yes, how true.

[@ScottishLeo]

As a woman, I've found when I'm working thru a problem or situation, all I need is to talk it over aloud (with myself) & have someone actively listening but not provide solutions. My husband finds that difficult as he's a natural "fixer" but he tries lol

[@Empoweredblondie]

I am the same way!

[@ScottishLeo]

@Kyle Rook Exactly! Which is a wonderful feeling, knowing that a man's 1st instinct is to help "fix" whatever is upsetting his love 🤗 When I just need to vent, I give an upfront "warning" for him to just open his ears 😆

[@adeelali8417]

@@ScottishLeo that's smart. I'm glad you communicate what you want with your husband because our immediate impulse is to fix the problem for you when really all you want is to vent your feelings.

[@ScottishLeo]

@@adeelali8417 It's upsetting to a woman if he starts giving solutions, seems he just wants to shut her up 😆 Which isn't true of course so telling him, & I have to every single time lol, makes it alot easier on us both

[@natedoherty3462]

In defense of good men, who want to provide a solution. It's in our nature to have a problem. Or a thing and actually do something for the problem or thing. To do is what most men see. To talk it over just to express frustration...is something us guys are poor at. Though us men have other productive ways to let out stress

[@TheTrueNarthumpulous]

Is the camera drunk?

[@corporatristulnr1]

Is a function in KZbin creator that you can activate to cancel the camera shaking. The result is always this

[@TheTrueNarthumpulous]

@@corporatristulnr1 Nah it's definitely drunk.

[@rettarere7998]

😂 😂 😂

[@kostaslemis9600]

no , it's propably the cameraman

[@erfanpoison7618]

My thoughts exacrly xD

[@seerguru]

I love you !!! No one comes close to how this man is life changing. I am forever grateful

[@jenniferklopman2557]

I really truly hope that Dr. Peterson will be ok. He's such a treasure truly. I read 12 rules and I'm reading maps of meaning right now and it would be really awesome if he wrote a book about psychotherapy

[@craigsimmons1153]

Thank you

[@suzanne.laflamme4740]

I think he is giving us a psychotherapi now

[@donnafox7964]

New to. Dr. Peterson and his videos. Why do you say you hope he will be ok?

[@donnafox7964]

Chase Palmquist thank you for your explanation. I very much appreciate you taking the time to reply.

[@rebeccafrankenstein3575]

So true about verbalizing your 'thoughts' in order to actually think them out. I've often thought that may be the reason that journaling can be so helpful, as writing out full sentences feels similar to talking to someone in that you're made to actually think thru your thoughts.

[@AnaVerona_]

Indeed Rebecca!

[@richardhawkins2647]

I find writing things down makes it more concrete than saying it. I could tell 10 people the same thing and still not feel that I have expressed what I wanted to say, but if I write it down, it's done. I guess 'cathartic' would be the word!

[@sbqntlyawake3813]

I am journaling 20 yrs now, and sometimes I review my thoughts 5 yrs ago, for example, and I must say, I am quite funny when sad. 😛

[@LukasCZdev]

I’ve been journaling daily for over 5 years now; I’d highly recommend it!

[@Drumcomedy]

Dr. Peterson always says what I need when I need it.

[@charlesdahmital8095]

Talking it out-loud to yourself can be very helpful. When I have issues I am unsure of how to handle I talk out-loud to myself to see if what I am thinking 'sounds' right. When the words come out of your mouth and re-enter your mind through your ears, another level of 'bs' detecting is added. And I often get the response of 'who you trying to fool' when I realize I am preaching to myself instead of really dealing with the core issue at hand.

[@BecomeConsciousNow]

That's interesting. What triggers me is when someone shouts at me or tells me off or puts me down when I don't deserve it. It really really makes me angry. This is because my mother used to do this to me throughout my entire childhood. So, I guess I need to calm myself before confronting that person and tell them calmly not to do that... but it can be incredibly hard!!!

[@siyaindagulag.]

I too ,think they need to be told. Not for their sake ,but for your own. I am forever lowering my expectations ( mostly of common human decency) , of others.

[@dianac113]

I relate to this too, my childhood was similar and it’s hard to calm down and expressing our discomfort to people but let’s keep trying

[@Anthony-rx1cv]

It looks like the mushrooms are kicking in....

[@kirkjohnson9353]

So powerful even I am affected.

[@happynewspring]

me three

[@domimacetas5337]

😄🤣😁

[@MA7-6585]

LAUGHING ON THE FLOOR...

[@GuuMonster]

I knew I was not the only one that thought of that lmao

[@cjbrah4540]

I was ACTUALLY just going to post on Facebook about how I believe we should encourage ppl to ask their self questions... Out loud. As opposed to DISCOURAGING it. Jordan Peterson - ty for validating my experience

[@henkverhaeren3759]

Great info about emotional triggers, I have to learn how to not impulsively react, it is so difficult

[@aafreenkhan729]

hella difficult thing...

[@AnaVerona_]

In my case, some triggers like songs or movies get me really emotional, I cry... I'm working on those triggers.

[@Heathershayfanpage]

Working on this myself.

[@jonsmith8083]

Respond vs react

[@No_Enemies_Kale]

Difficult, but the fact that you're starting to recognize this is pushing you that much further towards knowing and composing yourself. Keep on keepin on!

[@giaatta9303]

I love and miss Jordan...I pray for his recovery. Thank you Jordan!!!❤️❤️

[@qdllc]

Dad passed about 3 years back. He was the most abusive person in my life, yet he did love me. I understood his pain, his demons, as I had to deal with the same issues (he was abused as a child as I was). He could never face his demons...he lived in denial. I was happy when he passed. To this day, I don’t miss him or mourn him. What hurts the most is that I want to let go of the sad/painful memories and hold on to the good ones, but we never had much of a father/son relationship and good memories are hard to find in all of the bad ones.

[@Empoweredblondie]

That type of pain is really hard to let go. Very similar situation for me as well. My mom passed away 15 years ago and I’m still struggling with it :(

[@donnafox7964]

qdllc I had a similar experience with my mother. It was only after I started referring to her by her first name was I able t to gain more effective change in our relationship. She struggled as much as I , I think , and when I took the perspective of her being a loving parent to my sibling or a devoted person to her church I was able to let go of the resentment, some of it anyway. I found I was holding on to disappointment and fear that I wasn’t good enough but that belief wasn’t the truth about me. Perhaps find a new perspective to “yet he did love me”. Be well, be healthy. You sound like you are very strong and resilient.

[@diehardtats6510]

Same here. Perhaps u havent much good once but u do. And understanding him knowing that je was abused etc. Makes u already better person and should teach u compass to self and love as you have this realization and you can compare self to him and knowledge tp change it. Coz u see it. And he probLy never had a chance to resd to listen such stuff .. u moving fprward with ur life in better way and urs offspring can help you

[@Lcab-bh3wx]

Forget and forgive. At least he didn't kill you

[@kanteannightmare]

I study people and I'm pretty good at understanding them. Person just gave me a profound piece of the puzzle, "people aren't really thinking, they are thinking it loud when they talk" it make so much sense now…

[@6gunbeaufordiii514]

Anger is a punishment we give ourselves for the mistakes others have made

[@carlrouth7842]

Brilliant! The next step from Sigmond Freud, and paraphrasing “ it’s not a repressed emotion, that makes you highly emotional, it just an idea or thought that hasn’t been thought trough yet”! Logical, since we are all born knowing nothing, hence we are always child-like and learning, whether we realize it or not.

[@AManofBalance]

I think out loud and it has been a great help. I’m kind of a natural psychologist or counselor

[@plutonium120]

dear god, thank you for dr peterson. what a gold mine.

[@thesisypheanjournal1271]

A fantastic way to figure out what is really bothering you is collaging. Take a nice big piece of blank paper and a bunch of magazines and just cut out pictures that seem right and glue them on the page wherever it seems right. Eventually you'll recognize that you're finished. Then articulate what's on the page. I've never seen it fail.

[@amazingyear9042]

Thinking is in fact More Effective when You say it out loud. I call it rambling until... until I have the epiphany!

[@plutonium120]

LISTENING IS HARD, AND PEOPLE ARENT TAUGHT HOW TO DO IT. nothing but facts from dr jp.

[@amazingyear9042]

solution : talk about your problems to someone who cares.

[@hellavadeal]

Sometimes all a friend need do is just listen.

[@MA7-6585]

Yes. That is so true!

[@explodingheadtrick2350]

There’s deep issues with that - talk therapy has a tendency to become a feedback loop just holding onto and reliving issues instead of moving on. Also, who really cares? Also if someone does care why would you snare them into sharing your misery? It’s best to face life head on

[@New-Moderate]

It helps if a friend is also wise and very experienced in life. Too many friends listen but then say “Don’t worry about it” or “Just be yourself” or “It will all work out on the end” or other inane platitudes.

[@letsgoBrandon204]

To all the people who don't have friends: this is why psychotherapy exists. Same deal with charitable organizations - they care, and will listen

[@elsaberhe9704]

Thanks again my brilliant brother. Agree! May sound impossible, but we only need agreeing with Self that's only 'Present '. We are upset because we let our ego rule (fear and insecurity). Love thy Self Jesus's way.

[@vernonhedge4530]

I saw the exact same thing the other day when I woke up on a hospital trolley.

[@jesseburstrom5920]

The shiver of insight might be just that, shaking of your shoulders the identity markers of the surroundings, i agree.

[@FrancesShear]

I like this. Everyone has a few kinds of situations which trigger people emotionally. That doesn't mean that the person is disordered if only one kind of situation triggers them or if out of boredom they are seeking experiences from tme to time so they can do some fast switching of emotion back and forth in a kind of intellectual shadow boxing. It is only disordered when the person is obsessed with doing so or if it is causing ongoing problems in their own life.

[@a.m.c.3181]

1:20 This is the Essence of the AA Shared Story. That when we say it outloud our brain recognizes what we speak as being of significant importance.

[@desireecoad7557]

I hate talking when I am “manic”. It’s like my brain is throwing up when I’m talking. I need to listen more intently to my child when we are on the phone. Being aware and present is so difficult 😔

[@dkorwood]

Everything that’s still emotional need to be dealt with

[@JJ33438]

this guy...is a genius!

[@cue_khb]

Jordan "Like what the hell man" Peterson.

[@rain-qb2xv]

why is this so relatable

[@sara7li]

he needs to write a book about parenting

[@stateofblitz]

Yep. Deep down I know what the problem is but I blame the way I'm feeling on something else or what someone else is doing. I get it. People can still be assholes though and the simple fact is that they shouldn't be. People with different morals can't live together. It's time to be honest and figure out a way to exist separately.

[@EmberAsh]

Oooof. What's with the fun house mirror effect going on here? 😆

[@raymundhofmann7661]

A kind of warping image stabilization software used, possibly the original shaking picture is less distracting.

[@MA7-6585]

Camera on lsd

[@jesseburstrom5920]

I think i had a revelation that i have to know myself deeper. But somehow i have had those thoughts of anger deprived of emotions. How to fulfill emotions when i get them not?

[@jesseburstrom5920]

Just like an AI with inputs overloaded, you can always only add, never really subtract information so it took long time to get to the concept of zero or negative since really everything always just adds

[@MrArlenBrazill]

What really triggers me emotionally is that video camera.

[@ip-sum]

Why though

[@suhukishinden9888]

My therapist always stops me when I’m talking a lot /: saying that we’re trying to make me less analytical (which I don’t believe will ever happen).

[@hearty1240]

The way this was recorded makes you think that Jordan Peterson was giving lecture in a public bathroom.

[@lanotte7454]

:))))

[@janmichael-vincent7585]

😂😂😂

[@Richinwisdom]

🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

[@pamelafaulkner3903]

Jan Michael-Vincent Wow. Cool name u have. Just Like The Actor

[@Jennifer_Boyer1]

Lol

[@scottsather1041]

I’m laughing too hard! May I please be excused? I’ll be right back. Jordan’s spot on

[@JAMES45229]

Waking up triggers me emotionally

[@goghphucough6410]

That camera..... makes me feel like I’m watching Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas.

[@CC-vj6dd]

The image going back and forth makes me feel seeing Peterson in a dream, or alucinating or having an LSD trip. Nice.

[@Maggot1077]

Ironically I asked for someone to talk to and the doctor gave me pills before I spoke to him at all it should not be so hard to get help after a concussion.

[@Zer0ne-Infinite]

Yk I was in a rlly bad mood. Then I talked about it. And I felt better

[@ilfautdanser9121]

Stephen Porges explains this much better through polyvagal theory

[@lilongge1304]

Listening is hard, but people aren't taught how to do it.

[@simev500]

“…ppl not thinking as they talk…”. Yes, I’ve seen and interacted with a good share of them, at home and in the street. They are mostly children, and I am not even a grade school teacher by profession. D;^p

[@dreamworld6]

Interesting.

[@katyarn3751]

His "client" just wants him to listen and the client talks and works it out. This is why I just talk to myself. It's cheaper that way.

[@endlessnoodle3056]

Was there even a single time when Jordan would agree with Freud?

[@OvaChicken]

Why whould he ?

[@endlessnoodle3056]

@@OvaChicken Idk, just for the fun of it

[@user-uh5tb9er4o]

is there a distortion feature added to the orig? can we go without that, my guy?

[@wendygo7962]

Now we just need him to explain to SJWs why EVERYTHING triggers them emotionally.

[@TheBaconWizard]

Because they are living in a hedonistic society, run by narcissists and psychopaths, who are worshipped by sociopaths, constantly surrounded by disgusting, immoral, corrupt,, hypocritical behavior which they can't deal with because they were raised by lazy, self-entitled, inept, self-aggrandizing parents who were given everything for free, or easily, yet can't stand to see their kids do any better than they did, and act to prevent it. Kneecapped and then deemed lesser for failing to run as fast in a race that was fixed anyway.

[@caleuxx9108]

If a person has the time, emotional space and geographical space and compassion then listening is not hard. It becomes hard, when there is a lack of one or more of these things. Listening for 50 minutes straight can be hard, but in normal interpersonal relationships that is not healthy - right?

[@anbo5928]

...and sometimes you should have a friend (someone who shares his 'me' with you) to tell him/her about a problem. And while you are talking and here your yourself talking, you can get a better understanding about where you are and how to go on. Listening with awareness to yourself an others is something you learn from your parents or from your depression. 👻

[@Philposting]

cool!!!!

[@jesseburstrom5920]

Or see ever love at all, might be my loss, never ever have seen love

[@caleuxx9108]

EMDR helps process triggers.....

[@brianjoyce9742]

The content of importance is what's said. Please forget the camera

[@tomscottland2463]

Anyone know what he’s reading from at 3:05?

[@jesseburstrom5920]

I can see other people have not that problem, maybe i'm just too analytical and want the world to be like i want etc...

[@dencandela]

I'm going to show this to my friend when she's high. I have to test her reaction. Has anyone seen this altered or showed it to someone altered?

[@Jewiceee]

I’m smoking and watching as I type lol

[@MA7-6585]

Title is sexier than the speech

[@mirzamay]

People need to learn to talk to. Nobody wants to listen to 40 minutes of negativity, complaining repeating stories to infinity, gossip about people you don't know or drama you don't care about. Not getting a word in edgewise. Listening to that will make you mentally sick. Some people are unaware of how toxic they are and they could be talking to you or a wall and they wouldn't notice the difference. Some people can rant and talk it out and some people should carry an app that has a timer and cues everywhere. It should turn on if the offender talks for thirty seconds and then every ten minutes it should say it is now time to look your companion in the eyes for thirty seconds and let them talk, have a thirty second timer that says your captive has recieved their obligatory 30 seconds and the only person here of importance may now resume. At the end of 40 minutes it should say it is now time to mercifully release your captive. Captive, you have 3 seconds to exit or another 40 minutes will resume automatically.

[@chesterullrich2525]

Wow he is dead on

[@julieenzo6557]

Therapy in a nutshell

[@caseyschipper5667]

Warp stabilizer much?

[@Alaskathelastfrontier]

😂😂😂😂

[@roqueserey646]

Shrooms with Jordan Peterson

[@kanteannightmare]

Can you "lay the cards out in your own mind"?

[@r.b.ratieta6111]

No joke, no sarcasm, buy a cheap but durable notebook, and write down the things that are weighing you down when you feel negative. Then ask yourself why you think you feel that way and what the factors could be and write those down. As you write them down, you'll free up "more space" in the brain and then, believe it or not, you'll have new thoughts or solutions that you hadn't thought of before. I'm aware it may not work for everybody, but it did wonders for me. Helped me figure out who the toxic people that were "adding weight" were and the good people who helped carry or take away from it. Then it helped me formulate a plan. What was once raw anger and emotion became a careful diagram of what to avoid and who to cut out. Literally saved me from making decisions that could have gotten me into a lot of trouble. But like I say, just because it worked great for me may not mean it works great for all. But I would say it's definitely worth a try. Personal recommendation: 1. Do this in a private place where it's just you. 2. Write down how you're feeling at that moment, and write it as if you were talking to yourself aloud. If you have to swear, curse, say a couple of fucks, damns and cunts, do it. This is just between you and yourself. 3. Ask yourself why you feel that way, and answer what you believe truthfully. Don't answer how you think others want you to respond, answer your own damn questions with your own damn thoughts. 4. Write something like "Answers" or "Solutions", and listen to what your mind comes up with. You might be surprised. After becoming more in line with yourself, your mind will think of other options it hasn't considered before. You might even solve your problem, or at least come up with better ways of dealing/facing it. Like I say, it may not work for everyone, but it worked for me. Your call though. If it sounds cheesy, I get it. Little sidenote, though, I actually got this idea from a serial killer documentary. The serial killer in question was really good at evading authorities for 15+ years because he meticulously wrote down his plans for kidnapping and necessary materials in carefully hidden notebooks. By doing this, he was able to plan ahead for almost every move the cops might try, and my somewhat twisted mind saw this and thought, "That might be good for mental health."

[@fangchloe2559]

I could not focus on his speech because of the camera Lol

[@urinay]

Does anyone have the link to the original lecture from JBP’s channel?

[@thebests101]

It's in the description now

[@urinay]

THE BESTS Thank you so much !! Keep posting these short vídeos, you are doing a great job. Greetings from Brazil ;)

[@jesseburstrom5920]

So giving anger outlet in mind is wrong? I do it all the time.. so... hmmm ...

[@Brukner841]

I feel it encourages more of the same anger to build up.

[@albertareal6222]

Wrong title - nothing to do about Triggers a result of Injuries. Everything to do about life choices a result of environment.

[@josephdominguez4219]

Thats the working class

[@spencerricketts8025]

Great knowledge, but this video is making me seasick😂

[@darcyh3220]

Dr. Jordan B. Peterson is a modern day Ubermensch!

[@NaedMalario]

am i high??

[@jesseburstrom5920]

Ok i talk about it might be the first step in understanding, but then what, is there a cure against non emotional state...

[@kellytrowhill681]

Jesse Burström help me understand what you are asking. Are you talking about numbing or depersonalisation?

[@jesseburstrom5920]

is it too late, just assume i'm lost they are all emotionally connected right and i'm not. Lots of negations maybe i'm right just defense mechanism or what, not really likely, i need help i think to see love again

[@mamin_mojtahed]

3:10 Text: “…or his fear of atom bombs of Russia” Peterson: you can tell that this is a little old 2022: …well this fear isn’t as old anymore :(

[@StephenDoty84]

This relates to Amy Cooper -- the central park Karen who called the cops on the black bird watcher. I wonder what Jordan thinks of her over reaction. What triggered her really?

[@kathyreno2603]

I'd like to know that too!

[@itchyscratch3829]

My guess is she scores high on narcissism/anti-social traits. The man's calling her out on her entitled rule-breaking caused narcissistic injury (which brings out anger or narcissistic rage) and she then did everything she could to bring him down using lies (playing the victim) and using things like his race against him in the hope that the police would take her side without question. Despicable behaviour.

[@OvaChicken]

HATE

[@StephenDoty84]

@@OvaChicken FEAR, I'd say, the more you understand women. Their watchword is "safe."

[@joaenahyewonGFM]

Where can I find the full lecture?

[@SkitzoBenjamin]

Joaena Hyewon Ryu I do believe all his lectures are here on KZbin. The hard part will be finding this exact lecture. I know that doesn’t help but there’s hope lol. If you do find it, please share it here!

[@SkitzoBenjamin]

Never mind, it’s in the info up top, there’s a link.☝️

[@joaenahyewonGFM]

@@SkitzoBenjamin Ahaha, thanks!

[@patriciaedwards2833]

I can’t see the info on the videos. It is not shown on my device. Can someone provide the title of the full talk so I can google it ? I have been caught with dodgy links with viruses in the past.

[@swamindamninandpaminswamin4853]

🤯

[@Jedry.s]

Like what

[@georgefindlay4399]

I am totally triggered now.!!! I was cool before watching this !!!🤣

[@robtathome]

Dr. Peterson, what is your discipline? (Evolutionary...psychology? You said in a video but I forgot)

[@jijik3901]

ROB.T. Clinical psychology

[@robtathome]

@@jijik3901 Thanks!

[@ivandfwm]

Is this a recording from his class?

[@janmichael-vincent7585]

Yes

[@jesseburstrom5920]

Inside my head i want to baseball heads, come on not really good thoughts

[@jeremylynwood3604]

Huh? What do you mean by "to baseball heads"?

[@archaicsoul4597]

Oof. rough time in this comments section lol

[@brent3569]

Wtf is with the bad lens filter on this video

[@myndos007]

where s the pepsi ?

[@ikawinner960]

My boss want that I will be his lover, he say it me, leave your friend , I promise it will be good, I answer: I don’t interested. So he started to humiliate me, search me, and that I will fell down

[@jesseburstrom5920]

Like cold analytics gives baring like carrots promising truth.

[@FuhqEwe]

I wish idiots would stop using KZbin's automatic ''movement correction'' feature for uploads.

[@scallywag1716]

I told my boss “no” once and he responded with, “you don’t say no to me”. Shocking that he is getting fired soon...goodbye asshole!

[@mixingrecords]

6:45🤯