Coercive Control, the Invisible Basis of Abuse | STUFF YOU SHOULD KNOW

[@dawnsongz4u449]

5:53 my ex used to wake me up from a dead sleep every night for decades .There were times he would blast the lights The sleep depravation definitely took its toll. It’s all about keeping you off balance so they can control you. It’s called leverage.

[@vron5000]

Thank you for sharing what you know and making it applicable to all kinds of people and relationships. I've been lucky enough to find my way out of coercive control and it's never as simple as walking away. I hope your information helps someone.

[@Itsbigbear1987]

I agree that's it's likely to be largely male on femal dominant, but I can also can confirm from experience that it can and does happen both ways. Again not always, but it often just gets swept under the rug.

[@yourgooglemeister6745]

You will never hear these two simps say that!

[@HELLO.1ENGLISH]

Thank you so much ❤❤❤

[@katem6139]

Maid is based on the book by Stephanie Land. You credited Margaret Qualley’s performance. Not to take away from Margaret, but I think it’s unfortunate that you didn’t also mention Stephanie; the woman who actually dealt with abuse and then wrote such a compelling book about her own experience.

[@andrewcvre]

Wow, makes me think of TWO former friends of mine..

[@lilpeachplease]

Interesting topic that has been on my mind after watching Baby Reindeer thank you for picking this one!!

[@roisined]

Can someone find the show notes on the movies and series they mention?

[@dawnsongz4u449]

It’s like bread crumbing Positive reinforcement

[@MarinaM-o6p]

there is no such thing as both people abusing each other …..one abuses and the other is the victim .Have a great day .

[@dawnsongz4u449]

There can be but usually it’s reactive abuse

[@dawnsongz4u449]

relationships like that don’t usually last long..

[@cowmath77]

You’ve just described how half a billion women living under the Islamic faith are currently living, and it’s normal and regulated by the government in those countries where it’s practiced. I have no idea how you didn’t mention Islam once in this podcast…

[@aricurtis1365]

The fact that you took a fairly universal concept and made it about your Islamophobia is … telling.

[@cowmath77]

@@aricurtis1365 I’m not afraid of Islam, this is a simple fact of the religion. The fact that you can’t accept that is very telling. There is nothing universal about half a billion women being forcefully covered, denied basic education and rights in 2024. It happens under 1 commonality, and that is Islam.

[@cowmath77]

@@aricurtis1365there’s nothing universal about half a billion women living under forced veil, without basic education and rights in 2024.

[@DeanRobertson-cs8dy]

@@aricurtis1365 writes the woman free to speak however she wants and not wear hijab. so brave. take a flight to Jeddah and walk around in tight tshirt, alone, and show some awrah. let me know how that goes.

[@tkoteacher1707]

@@aricurtis1365 anyone who makes an intelligent remark about Islam is degraded by the likes of you and given discrimatory labels because you are blind to the awful reality of certain religions that for some reason we are not supposed to criticise ..particularly islam and Judaism...probably bcs they are the worst

[@STEPHANIEDK13-bn7hp]

😢🎉

[@tsmith2858]

I’m sorry but as a woman I find some of this to be a bunch of bs. People come up with anything these days. If a person tells you to not spend all of the household money they say coercive control, if you say you have to work, coercive control. Some of this is just plain silly. This is truly a sign of the times.

[@yourgooglemeister6745]

The to simps are becoming insufferable!

[@BigBucketBliss]

two* and who are the simps?

[@kristinbrowne8756]

It's a myth. Nobody sticks around to live with this shit!

[@tsmith2858]

I’m sorry but as a woman I find some of this to be a bunch of bs. People come up with anything these days. If a person tells you to not spend all of the household money they say coercive control, if you say you have to work, coercive control. Some of this is just plain silly. This is truly a sign of the times.

[@Candlelight777]

Listen to what you are saying if a person agrees to work it's coercive control when a person or group threatens , track, is harassed or forced to quit when they have a right to work and not be plotting against and forced to quit. To even harass a person to work part-time time then try to force others things to do that then person in their own power and freedom don't have to do so you do certain things claiming to add pressure until they cooperate and do it is harassment and coercive control. Only a person who is guilty for doing this would go against it. You also don't harass a person to take care of a person and manipulate the individual to do your will and verbally abuse anything that is considered contact with someone with the intent to highjack and force corporations to do something against they're will and even defamation of character to manipulate someone to get into action is also coercive control. Abuse is only crazy to abuse and people with Narcissistic personality disorder a need to control a person they will also twist the story and try to blame the anger of the person being mistreated as the one who is hostile. So they use the reaction as rather than the what causes the person so respond in anger while tell the attackers and harass to stop. So this is stupid only to abusers honey.

[@dawnsongz4u449]

Those are examples of coercively controlling behaviors . It’s about manipulators utilizing strategies to leverage control. While you speak of low key events.. there are people like myself who have barely survived the extreme cases .. Many do not.. Many have their lives taken from them.. Along with their children .. Rooted in entitlement by way of a belief that they are superior.. a God Complex so to say.. Some take their own lives to escape… I almost did..