Why Women Travel Solo and Why You Should Too

If you've been waiting for a sign to book that solo trip, THIS IS IT! Or have you ever wondered why women travel alone? And should YOU travel alone? I've been traveling by myself for over 20 years and it's one of the best things I've ever done for myself and for my family. I'm sharing today exactly WHY I think EVERYONE should travel solo at some point and why it's so good for. Book that solo trip!
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[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

To watch my Solo Travel Tips and Tricks video, head here! kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJmng2eCmZ6JkLcsi=RqAs6wGsNaud5knB And comment below what's been your favorite solo travel destination? I'd love to get some inspiration for my next trip!

[@susanseeing9948]

I travel solo twice a year and get the strangest looks when I tell people! It is so relaxing just carrying myself and no one else's expectations! I always stay in hotels/inns, never Air B&B's for extra safety and amenities--it's worth the extra money. I spend hours in museums, go to plays every night and take tours that probably no one else but me would enjoy. It is just heavenly! I text with family, so they're included and know I'm safe. I think when I go on vacation with other people, there's this need to keep everyone entertained that leads to overscheduling activities. I never feel like I need a vacation after my solo vacations!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

This exact thing!! They are truly restorative!

[@livelaughlove6283]

Very well said ❤

[@DC-pr2bq]

Amen, sister.

[@ElizabethH1231]

1000% agree! This is the same approach I take and I absolutely love it! 😊

[@Natalie_11188]

I agree. I travel solo myself and stay in hotels. I’ve always enjoyed it.

[@lucyparr5366]

I’m going to get my friends to watch this video. I’m currently on a solo trip 3 hours drive from my home. I’m British and staying in a shepherds hut, (look on Airbnb) it’s a tiny cabin on wheels, on farmland. All I can currently hear are the bird singing and the occasional tractor going by. It’s completely magical. I got here on Sunday, I took a deep breath and just relaxed. I’ve napped on a blanket in the sunshine, been on a scenic walk, eaten alone in pubs. It has been glorious and rejuvenating. I have felt completely safe, the owners home is right next door. I would absolutely recommend everyone take time to travel alone, it’s just good for your soul.

[@lollygee172]

I am taking my biggest solo trip to France this fall for 7 weeks! As a never been married woman in my 60s i have given up trying to find friends with similar interests, or waiting for a mythical partner to come along. I know what I like and am looking forward to the challenge of travelling with public transportation a d navigating the language. I’m also finding apartments for $50 a night! Cant do that in the US. 😊

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I love France! Enjoy every minute!

[@themissbrandi1279]

I love traveling solo because I’m an introvert and a bit of a people pleaser. I get to control how much people interaction I have and I can easily change my mind without worrying about how it impacts other people. My first solo trip was to WDW about 10 years ago and it opened my eyes to the possibilities! I’ve been on many solo trips since then and I feel much more recharged when I get home.

[@lynnleipold2617]

I took my first solo trip in Dec.’23. I flew to Buenos Aires and boarded Viking Jupiter. We went on the around the horn voyage to Santiago, Chile. This was a trip my husband wasn’t interested in. I met many lovely people and never felt lonely. The wildlife and scenery were amazing. I am 78 years old.

[@donnasmith3798]

Just a few minutes ago, I booked a solo trip to Cologne , Germany, for Dec.7-14. I've always wanted to go to the Christmas Markets. My husband was a UPS pilot and was able to go to several Christmas markets during his time flying. I'm 76 yrs old, and I'm looking forward to this trip.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Donna I hope you enjoy every moment!!!!! Have some Gluhwein for me!

[@kathysutler90]

WOW! I feel like you were talking to me! I lost my job in November, and at 61 years old find that no one wants to hire me at my age. Married for 42 years I am finding myself now having no purpose... I became a Certified Disney Planner in Feb and am having a hard time getting my name out there.. I love to travel, and man oh man do I want to get out there by myself now to find myself after being a wife, mom and employee for so long.. Thanks Jen...

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Kathy I knew somebody needed this TODAY! I’m so glad it was you. I’m very excited for your next chapter - you’re going to rock it.

[@Magically--Jennifer]

After going back and forth about a solo trip for the fall you’ve convinced me it’s finally time. Finalizing my plans tomorrow!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

LOVE TO HEAR IT!

[@sarahcooley104]

Yep, I've started dabbling in solo travel myself and I love it! I ended up doing a complely solo trip to Disney when a friend (We were staying on her DVC membership.) couldn't come at the last minute. They still wanted me to use the points and take the trip so I did. I was by myself in a 2 bedroom at Bay Lake then moved over to Animal Kingdom Lodge. It was pefect because I felt totally safe and know WDW like the back of my hand. I was unstoppable! 😀 Now i have Disney friends in Florida and have enjoyed going down by myself and meeting up with people. I'm looking forward to many more adventures! Thanks for the inspiration Jen!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

YES this is me at WDW too - I can truly relax!

[@amandadalby8310]

Great video Jen, it has taken me over 25 years to pluck up the courage to do this, but I arrived home today following 10 days solo at WDW. It was the best trip ever, I swam, read 3 books and also wandered around the parks without going on any rides. I feel rejuvenated, and would highly recommend ❤

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Rejuvenation is the correct word and now I wish I’d used it because YES and I’m so happy for you!! Magical!

[@norma8001]

I’m single so don’t have a guaranteed travel partner. Enjoy being able to have experiences that no one would ever want to do. I spent a week in NYC seeing Wagner’s Ring Cycle, 5 operas in 7 days!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

That sounds incredible! I love it!

[@DonnaKay-kq3jo]

I went on a trip to Disney World by myself when I was in my 20’s. I am now 62. I can’t remember which hotel I stayed in. But I remember sitting on a bench in Fantasyland, people watching, and eating cotton candy. I had a good time. Only one awkward moment (for me) was when I was walking toward Adventureland and a man walking in the opposite direction assumed I was a Mom and said, “Can’t find them, eh?!”

[@CyndiAKADisneyqueen]

I don’t see myself traveling alone, but I have found a new appreciation for spending time for just myself. And therapy has definitely taught me the importance of putting myself first from time to time.

[@emilyjohannes7007]

Solo travel (especially at Disney!) is so freeing! My biggest fear when I started was dining alone. I started easy with casual quick service and worked my way up to full sit-down meals. I always have my Kindle with me for an easy distraction, or sometimes I just like to sit and people watch! Once I learned that literally no one cared that I was there alone, I felt less self conscious about it

[@bw5911]

I am 61 and just traveled solo to over 20 countries in 2 months and had a blast! I am an experienced traveler, but I grew even more and gained even more confidence. Learned that I am pretty much a badass!❤

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

The confidence piece is huge!!

[@kat22885]

Love this! I’m a knitter and no one else in my life knits. There’s a big festival I wanted to go to. I knew it would bore my husband, so I went by myself instead. I filled my cup, didn’t have to worry about him, and didn’t miss out on something that I wanted to do! 10/10, would recommend (and I’m planning on going again next year!)

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Yes I love this so much!!

[@thejaevlog4998]

"I'm becoming just like my grandmother and I don't care!" Yes!! Fabulous video, Jen!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I mean she was pretty amazing so I embrace it fully! Thanks, Jill!

[@Allthingsglamxo]

Dipping my toe into solo travel tomorrow. I need to be at a conference on Saturday, so figured why not go a day early?! Stay alone, eat dinner alone, and just relax. We’ll see how it goes! 😬🤞🏻☺️ Thanks for the encouragement!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Stick with it and enjoy!

[@carleneziegler3622]

My favorite solo trips are spa vacations….sometimes you just need “me” time!

[@sylviajordan4187]

Hi Jen, My first solo trip was to WDW. I treated myself to 4 nights at the Grand Floridian. I’ve taken my kids and husband many times to Disney but could never afford a deluxe resort. It was an experience I’ll never forget, absolutely beautiful. Then I felt empowered and went on my first trip to Europe solo. Paris and Rome, unbelievably perfect! I regret waiting so long to do so, always waiting and begging husband/ family to travel with me. I totally believe that everyone should at least once in their lives travel solo. I love your channel, thank you for all your content!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Sylvia I love hearing that!! Your trips sound so wonderful and I’m so glad you took the leap!

[@user-on4ni5hj8t]

This needs to be shouted from the highest rooftop!! As a 44 year old stay-at-home mom who has done two solo trips to Walt Disney World, it is hard to describe how much I enjoy it. I will always put others’ needs and wants over my own in every situation…but being completely solo takes that option away and forces me to prioritize myself and my wants. (It took some adjustment - “meeting” myself again). I think an added bonus is just the planning for the trip! Getting to think about and plan those solo trips is a huge mental lift, even months before they happen - the anticipation alone helps get through the harder days. I found my guilty pleasures while traveling alone included getting a meal to take to my room and eat on the bed watching tv, sleeping with the tv on and going to the bathroom in the hotel with the door open (why does that feel so luxurious?? 😂) Thanks for what you do, Jen.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Absolutely! You have no choice but to put yourself first! Love that persepctive.

[@Natalie_11188]

I love solo travel. I find it restorative and relaxing.

[@rhillyermiles]

I travel solo for a week every January after MLK for the past four years. Three times in North Myrtle Beach and this year in Orlando to use our Universal annual passes. I also attend writers conferences by myself at least once a year. I really enjoy my alone time. ❤

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

It’s THE BEST! Love it

[@sarairvine9622]

I travel solo for work often and have for pleasure a few times. Can’t wait for my solo cruise in 6 months!

[@Benasboysandgirl]

Was this maybe my favorite video of all time? I had such a similar experience with my first solo travel for my 40th birthday. My husband wrote a nice note about us traveling together in the future but what I really needed right then was to go away alone. He had booked me one night in a nice hotel around a half an hour away from my house and had set up a massage there, and arranged where I could order food from and I had about 30 hours all by myself. It was amazing! I could hear myself think! I read a book! At the time my kids were 10 1/2, 5 1/2 year-old twins, and 2-year-old twins. I haven’t done it completely alone since (and that was over 10 years ago) but I am actively thinking about taking a solo trip or two in the coming year. The idea of Disney all by myself sounds amazing!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

BOOK THE TRIP!🤣❤️❤️❤️

[@esquared2346]

Jen, you are my new hero! I travelled alone during my, first (yes, disastrous) marriage, just to make some space for my own needs. Many years later, I yearn for that freedom again, but experience such judgement about it. I am a geek, with very particular interests (Bronze Age Greece and Scandinavia, Viking Era, Botticelli, and well, much more) and no one can can exhaust my enthusiasm in a museum. Sadly, I make my way, but dragged along by others who just ‘want to get on with it’. THANK YOU for validating this choice for women.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Wow thank you. That’s a beautiful comment and much appreciated!

[@RUSSELLHAND-lg7mk]

You should be on tour as a motivational speaker. So down to earth and articulate. Such good advice. I don't travel much but do live alone and love the freedom to do whatever I want. I love my own company. It's a great topic. Thanks for sharing, honesty you are one if the most comforting person I've watched on UTUBE. Like comfort food. Thanks again. God Bless. ❤

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

You're too kind!

[@Lindsay41980]

YES! She’s so soothing. She’s like a glass of wine and warm bath for me, honestly. I watch her videos to recenter myself at the end of the day. 🖐️ Mom of five here so I need lots of recentering lol

[@lisacastillo7220]

In regards to the lonely issue. I will be seeing or experiencing something beautiful or fun and think oh I wish my son and/or husband was here for a moment . And you're right, it passes. To me it only reaffirms my love and appreciation for them and makes reuniting that much more special.

[@BrendaBowden]

I recently returned from a 16-night solo trip to Disney World myself (including a couple nights at Riviera). Our family trips are wonderful, but my solo trips are also pure gold. I resonate so much with everything you said.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Yes! Pure gold!!!

[@fabavb]

That solo round through the Magic Kingdom sounds absolutely magical. Unfortunately I have always been too scared to travel by myself, but with your encouragement and positive description I might try. You sound like a good friend who says that everything will be ok and even better… Thank you for this video!

[@CarissaHelmer88]

Nothing like a good solo trip, honestly haven't had one since I had a kid, but I do take daily walks by myself and boy do I notice a difference in my mood if ever I skip those. Incoporating regular alone time into your daily life is so important.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

My daily walks are essential too!!

[@awgnaw]

The closest to solo travel I came was a trip to Hanoi. A friend who had a work assignment there for a month invited me to join her. I flew by myself to join her. I explored the city by myself during the day, lunch wherever I want, day trip to Halong Bay by myself, and my friend and I met up for dinners and evenings together. Technically not solo travel, but I did enjoy myself very much and had many cups of assorted Vietnamese coffees.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

That sounds just lovely.

[@dawnturpin]

I had the BEST time on my solo Disney trip! I would do it again in a heartbeat

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

It’s just fun in a different way right?

[@JanaFlaig]

THANK YOU Jen! This video prompted me to talk with my husband about my need to go away by myself, even if local for 1 day/night. He has ALS (Lou Gerhig's Disease), I'm solo caregiver & desperately need a break. If he can briefly lower his standard of care - dressing, grooming, meals, etc - I can pull it off. Love your valuable tips!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Jane I couldn’t be more pleased. YES you need the breaks and regularly!! I hope it’s restorative and something that can become a regular part of your routine.❤️

[@heatherwhitley8058]

Thanks for making this video! I’m actually going to share it with my husband. He often thought it was about me wanting to get away from him- which isn’t wrong! Lol but it’s not that I don’t like or love him! It’s hard to explain and this is super helpful! We’ve had lots of conversations in couples counseling and that was a huge help! This helps even more - it’s just so that I don’t have to make decisions for other and take a break from being “needed” all of the time.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

YES absolutely - sometimes I think they just don't understand how hard it is to put ourselves first!

[@Luv2Pplwatch]

I love Solo traveling!! I get to recharge and do ALL THE THING I ENJOY ❤ THANKS JEN for leading the way ✈️💯👍🏼🥰

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

YES re-charging FOR SURE.

[@adarita305]

OMG! I feel the same sense of inconveniencing whoever I am with when I am in a museum or if I want to go into a few shops. You are not alone.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Right? Only on my own do I feel like I can truly take my time.

[@valkyr8]

I decided to take a solo trip to Iceland in Feb. I did book a tour so I did spend most of the time with a group, and I made friends with other travelers that I encountered. I like exploring places on my own and when I get home sharing stories and photos. I am fortunate that my partner is fine with me traveling without him. He is also not a flyer so it's an easy decision for me to go without him.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Sounds like an incredible experience!!

[@sharrietech4256]

My husband and I love WDW but he doesn't like leaving the room much before noon. If you're traveling with someone who has different schedules than you this is a good time to practice being solo in parks, restaurants, etc. I go to the parks by myself all the time when we're there. I just spent a glorious day in EPCOT in the pouring rain! I did a leisurely photo walk, hopped on one ride, ate macarons, people watched, it was wonderful. He was very happy to be cozy and dry in the room. A great way to "practice" being alone as you say. (I DO love being alone).

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I love it! YES a great way to get a tiny bit of solo vacation to see if it suits you.

[@trisha7449]

One thing I would like to add that I don’t remember if you mentioned. I felt so incredibly empowered after my first solo trip. There is a real strength in enjoying your own company.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I didn’t get into it but it was absolutely a big part of my therapy work. 💯

[@Ashleew]

Travelling alone is amazing! It really energizes me. With my anxiety, it’s super important to push myself outside of my comfort zone so that afterwards I can tell myself I can do hard things and they are fun!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Absolutely! This was a big thing for me, too!

[@donnabaardsen5372]

As said earlier, my bestie and I began traveling at 17, in the 1970s. This was the beginning of years of independent solo travel. So many happy memories and experiences.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

The best! Love to hear it!

[@DC-pr2bq]

I've been traveling alone since I bought my 1st car at 20. Traveled for business and extended trips to tour a new city. Took a 2 month cross country and back road trip. Just booked a 3 week tour of europe. There will be plenty of solo time to explore and, this time, I won't have to deal with a travel partner's needs. Just having my own room every night lets me recharge. If you are an introvert like me, it's necessary in order to not feel frazzled.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

YES this is why I don't room with people on trips any more. I need my alone time!

[@evercuriousmichelle]

I go solo camping twice a year, it’s wonderful and cheap!

[@janinepaim1488]

I am currently planning a 22 days solo trip to Disney + Cruse. Just can’t wait! And the reason is that: I just want to do whatever I want! ❤❤❤

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Oh my goodness, that sounds dreamy! Enjoy!

[@brandyward9677]

I live in Kennebunk, Maine. In the summer, it is our high season. I will go to nice restaurants by myself, and when they ask if I want to eat at the bar, I say no. When they try to head me towards a corner or side table, I ask them if this table, in the middle of the room open. They are surprised. People will look and admire me for being able to enjoy the night, the meal; and, yes, dessert with me.

[@neresq]

I have loved my many solo trips over the years! Freedom, space, solitude (when I want it), enjoying me (because I like myself). It's been a while (pre-covid) since I've taken one, so definitely time to do another one, or two, or ten.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

BOOK. THE. TRIP! Sorry, didn't mean to yell. But you know what I mean . . .

[@neresq]

@@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge 💯❤

[@gaillittle1700]

I have taken an over night bus trip by myself and loved it. A night in a hotel with time for me, to do what I want I want. A little nervous at first but I loved it. To travel without my husband, which I do in June for a week, with a friend. Just away from the responsibilities of life.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Absolutely - we have too much of that and we need more play!

[@kristin.o.cooper]

My first and only solo trip has been to WDW. I went to celebrate my birthday since my husband was out of town for military stuff. Thankful my best friend of 20+ years lives in Orlando, and I was able to meet up with her for a day. But it was so freeing. Even when I made mistakes navigating or happened to get a little lost, I felt completely safe. My husband was a little upset, because we have shared so many memories at Disney together. We love to travel together and I’m not sure if I could do international by myself, but he gets tired and overstimulated in a different way than I do. I get overstimulated, but I prefer to be up early and going.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Because I evidently don't know how to do things small, my first major solo trip was to . . Paris. It was incredible and definitely gave me a ton of confidence but yeah, it's a lot.

[@lisasproul8027]

Great video. Lots to think about.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Oh I’m so glad!!

[@reneeburich9497]

I wouldn’t want to travel alone. If my husband had to stay home for whatever reason, I’d still like to go either way someone. However, I also feel I wouldn’t have to spend every waking moment with that person.

[@michellecrookston3748]

Thank you soooo much Jen! I needed to hear this!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Love to hear it, Michelle!

[@LyssCAnonymousSinger3]

Jen, you are simply the best! LOVE this video, and all of your others!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Thank you so much!

[@andreaannscreations1629]

So glad you are talking about this.I have started to travel by myself to WDW…TY

[@veronicamartini9659]

I needed to hear this … peace is so important!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I'm so glad!

[@maryneilan6986]

Just discovered your travel videos while doing research on river cruises. But I found this one and practically cried! Thank you for your thoughtful insights and storytelling. Time to have an adventure just for me!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Oh I'm so glad you enjoyed it! And YES BOOK THE TRIP!

[@eHeersink-fd7bx]

This was a great video. And I really needed the reminder that I am my own best friend, and I should treat myself as such

[@kimt8162]

I think in my case. In my early twenties I had to move to another city alone for a job and had an apartment on my own. It was this way for like 2 years. During that time, I HAD to learn how to make it on my own. Stressful at the time, yes. Makes me stronger today, also yes. Then marriage, kids, and NO alone time. Not really the sorority/book club type. I do know friends who cannot do anything alone, and I respect that. But, I've become a loner; I"ve had people mad at me for "not talking much". I'm just sitting there content. But for women travelers, I would say be cautious. AT Disney, you CAN feel safe. In Mexico, NO.

[@JenB-qn2jk]

I had the most amazing time in Scotland all by myself! It was, like you say, life changing! My significant other was totally cool with it (he's the best!!) but it was interesting to see that there were a few people who couldn't imagine why I would want to go alone. This video explains it so well!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Yeah, it's definitely a if you know you know situation . . I just feel that all of us (humans I mean) need to get comfortable being with ourselves!

[@Meg-nq3hs]

Love this!!! My husband was near me when I started watching this video and saw my face light up with this idea of a solo trip.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Oh that’s lovely…

[@emilypressler7543]

Oh Jen, I love this video so much. You are so encouraging! I have been thinking of doing a solo trip to WDW but have been nervous about the whole thing. You have really put me at ease! I’m going to look at booking something now! ❤

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Emily, BOOK THE TRIP!

[@susanritzenthaler4502]

Mindful content - very thought provoking and inspiring. Thank you for sharing (running to book a spa retreat - for ONE).

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

What a kind comment, Susan, thank you!

[@michellemurray4044]

Very inspirational- i need to practice more being on my own for adventure

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

YES practice makes perfect! For me it's been such a confidence boost.

[@Kim-dv1sq]

I really enjoyed this video. I haven’t traveled completely alone in a long time, but my last Disney World trip included several days on my own and I loved it. When you read the response of “Peace” as a reason to travel alone, that resonated with me. Thanks!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

YES peace, especially these days, can be so challenging to find!

[@dndrusso]

Heading out in June solo for the Greek isles on the Dream. Same cruise you vlogged about. Loved your video and can’t wait to see it for myself.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Oh enjoy every moment….it really was magical!

[@loumay80]

Not sure why but the main thing I can’t do solo is a sit down restaurant.

[@bethifoody]

I love this one, Jen! I've not yet had a successful alone trip (I always have friends join me, lol. Not a bad thing, but I will do a solo trip one of these days.)

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

It can be a tricky but so worth doing even if just for a night or two!

[@queenblackfrost5513]

This January, I took my first solo trip, and I am doing another in July! Thank you for normalizing the idea of solo travel.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Oh I love that! YES!

[@BellePullman]

Thanks, Jen, now I have "My Own Best Friend" from Chicago playing on loop in my brain! I'm halfway there, I'm quite happy to travel on my own but to meet up with friends at least some of the time at the destination. I'm lucky, living in London, I hopped on a train and spent a couple of nights in Amsterdam - having an evening to myself I was very indecisive, and ended up riding the trams through the city and then burning my mouth on super-hot hot chocolate! Having no real plan in an unfamiliar place doesn't work out great for me, I get decision paralysis and end up doing nothing, then regret the missed opportunities. But I can always go back to Amsterdam, maybe even when it's not raining cats and dogs the whole time!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

That sounds wonderful! YES plan the trip!

[@lindamiddleton6785]

You are so on point! I crave alone time and love being by myself! I am very lucky in that I do get opportunities to be alone from time to time.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

It's so restorative!

[@wandaevans9756]

I’m taking my very first solo trip in July, I was nervous at first but now I’m excited.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Oh I love to hear that! Hurray!

[@lilyellens]

Yes Jen! Love this 🙌 Best character interaction I had was solo too (it was Olaf in HS) - character attendant was great, I was treated exactly the same as everyone else even though I was a 30 yr old on her own. Loved it!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

YES. The truth? Most Disney cast members ALSO enjoy the parks on their own from time to time so you are among friends.

[@lilyellens]

@@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge they really are the best 💖 and part of the reason I feel so comfortable solo in Disney!

[@allisonhorton330]

Love this, Jen. Recently I took just a day to myself - walked a long New England beach, visited neat shops, enjoyed a picnic lunch. Even just a few hours on my own doing only what I wanted to do proved to be so restorative and worthwhile.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Absolutely heavenly! I need to do that more right here at home!

[@allisonhorton330]

@@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge And I will try a trip away at some point!

[@user-on4ni5hj8t]

Just remembered an added bonus - your family will get a chance to miss you! As a stay-at-home mom, I’m ALWAYS available and that can get taken for granted. The appreciation and gratitude (and relief 😂) my family told me they felt when I got back home made my trip that much sweeter.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Oh absolutely yes to this!

[@livingpositivelytoday]

I had been really scared to solo travel but my first trip since the empty nest is coming up in December. I'm not going too far, just Mexico, but I want to definitely work myself up to International. Thanks for sharing.

[@caireann1]

I really enjoyed this, thank you! I'm cruising with my husband and son to Spain on the Disney Dream this summer, and I've just booked a back-2-back for myself on the seven night cruise straight after that one. So I'll get to wave them goodbye and then stay on the ship by myself for an entire week 😱 My first proper solo trip! And this video has made me even more excited for it! ❤

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

OH MY GOODNESS that sounds AMAZING.

[@ForeverSunshine2009]

Can I just say how much I loved this video? You summed it up beautifully. I get pushback on traveling alone a lot but I also get people telling me how envious they are that I’m brave enough to do it. I started traveling alone to prove to myself that I am absolutely capable of standing on my own two feet and that I can not only make a living alone but provide myself the opportunities to explore what I find interesting. I watched the majority of the women in my life be unable to stand on their own for various reasons, and while I don’t fault them for their circumstances in any way , I needed to prove to myself that I could do what I needed/wanted to by myself and be happy doing it. I tried explaining that to others and most just didn’t understand, but I’ll never forget my mom saying “I am proud of you for doing this for you.” I hope more and more people continue to travel alone so that eventually no one will bat an eye when some says they’re going to do it.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

YES. I think for MANY of us it empowers us and gives us confidence in a way nothing else quite can! LOVE this comment.

[@acbetka]

12:01 I gleaned lots of advice from this video, which I find true of all the videos you create with a focus on women! Appreciate you 🙏

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I'm so glad! I purposefully tried to make it not JUST about women but as you know, when it comes to solo travel, we do face more pushback and security challenges. Thanks for the encouragement!

[@anniedonnelly7416]

My younger sister did a solo week in Vietnam a few years ago and LOVED IT! she said it was so nice to just do her schedule

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

It's powerful and lovely!

[@be83]

Love your videos!! I have done Disneyland and Universal Hollywood (I live in Washington state) several times by myself. I have also gone with family. Both are fun. My solo trips were because I was the only one who could take the time off. I had annual passes and didn't want to waste the passes!! I had an acquittance who had never been to Seattle by themselves. I didn't think it was that unusual to travel alone, but for some it is unheard of. Love your videos!!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

YES some people react very strangely to it and I'm always thinking hmmmm I think maybe they need it more than anybody! Being afraid of being alone is not good.

[@jo1956]

I’ve traveled solo to Disney a few times since been going there for a while and feel comfortable there. As the one who does the Disney planning it is so nice to not be concerned with what anyone else wants to eat or do and I can do whatever I want. Wake up early, sleep in, swim, parks so many choices!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Such a great point - I’m the planner too and this is a big deal

[@FiveHungryTravelers]

I love this so much! I’m still in the thick of it, in terms of my kiddos needing me non-stop. But my solo travel days are coming sooooooon and this makes me truly look forward to it.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Go now! Don’t wait! Go now! They will be fantastic without you for a quick 24-36 hours and you need it NOW

[@FiveHungryTravelers]

@@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge yes ma’am! When Jen repeats herself I’d better listen. ❤️

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

@@FiveHungryTravelers this is what I’m saying. I feel like I know your husband well enough (virtually anyway) to say he would be all for this

[@FiveHungryTravelers]

@@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge oh, he would definitely encourage it. @nickfromfivehungrytravelers, Jen says so!

[@ElizabethH1231]

This is so timely! I just returned from a couple of days at Disney by myself - stayed at the Dolphin, got a massage at Mandara Spa and went to Epcot After Hours. It was a last minute tag on trip to having just visited family - flew all the way to Orlando from Ohio just to have two nights to myself! I've made solo travel a real priority for the last couple of years and I could not agree more with everything you said!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

OK how was the Madera spa? Disney has permanently closed the one at SSR so the only one left now is the GF which is great but small.

[@ElizabethH1231]

It was very nice. It was actually my second time, and both times I had really good massages. It's a fairly large space - probably 10 or so treatment rooms, a nicely appointed changing/shower room and a huge relaxation room. I don't have a whole lot of spa experience to compare it to, but I really enjoyed both of my visits!

[@aoefeable]

I travelled solo to Europe for a month last year, it was incredible! I’m off to do another solo travel trip in July.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Amazing! Have a wonderful trip!

[@cathymichaelson1507]

I’m a good floater too!! ❤

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

NOTHING LIKE IT. We should start a floating appreciation club.

[@nicolef9456]

It was either go alone or stay home and I have no desire to stay home.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I get this and absolutely!!

[@willcooper6980]

Hi Jen. I'll be meeting my co-workers in person for the first time next month in Tampa Bay area. I'll be on vacation for 4 days + travel day until the team building activity where we'll all be together. This will be the first time I've done a land vacation solo for longer than a weekend. As you know, I've done 2 cruises solo and enjoyed he last one thoroughly.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I hope you have a wonderful time, Will!

[@janine36]

I so feel you on this. I haven’t taken the opportunity to travel solo, but my husband occasionally travels for work. Usually, it’s during the week and with me working, I don’t get to fully experience being on my own. However, he is on extended trip with his mom this week, which gives me 10 days on my own including weekends. My good friend reached out to me to see if I wanted to have dinner with her family on Mother’s Day. This was my response- “Thank you for the invite, but I I have plans on Sunday. I'm not sure what they are, but they could include staying in my pjs all day and binge watching something or binge reading trashy novels or working on my quilt. There will also be ice cream and possibly buttered noodles.” I so understand needing to be on your own sometimes.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I have plans but I don’t know what they are is my new favorite response!

[@jkolkemo]

I 100% agree with you. People ask me all the time why I want to travel solo and my answer is because I get to do what I want to do. The sense of freedom and the ability to make my own decision for myself is the best thing ever after years of taking care of a husband and kids and then finding myself divorced in my 40s I re-entered my life into thinking more about myself and what I like and what I want. Now in my 50s, some of my best trips have been the solo trips.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

It just hits different doesn’t it?

[@debbieschmidt1661]

So, glad you have put this out there. I once said I went to Disney without my kids (now 19 & 23) and some people said HOW COULD YOU GO WITHOUT YOUR KIDS! come on peeps. Some times you need, as you said, time to recharge from working, house keeping, stress from all the noise good or bad......just relax and recharge. Good for me and even better for them, Mom now aka Grandma can be there with a smile and energy.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I secretly think people who respond that way are just jealous;).

[@deniseann3012]

I’m single and just returned from a 2 week solo trip to Italy. Overall I enjoyed it but not gonna lie, I felt lonely at times.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Two weeks is a long time I think I would get that way too.

[@heathergray7315]

I really enjoy watching your vlogs! Because of your encouragement, I took my first solo trip in January to Disney World (I’m also a DVC member). I thought I was doomed from the beginning! I was standing near the gate at my home airport and couldn’t get my bottle of Dasani open. I literally had to ask a couple passing security guards if they could open it for me (I felt better when they struggled too 😂). Then I had a layover in Atlanta which I have done many times with my husband so I knew I’d feel comfortable finding my way to the next gate. What I didn’t count on was the escalator not working. I didn’t see an elevator so I thought I could pull my carry on and underseat bag down the steps no problem. Boy was I wrong. The escalator was so steep so I felt like I needed to hold the railing with one hand but 1/4 of the way down I realized I wasn’t strong enough to carry both bags with my other hand. I was so thankful when the young man behind me offered to carry my bags down for me! Once in Orlando I took Mears to the Boardwalk where I was staying. I had a lovely evening walking around Epcot. I have never stayed in a hotel room by myself and wouldn’t you know it, someone tried to get into my room just as I was getting ready for bed! Fortunately I think they realized they had the wrong room and moved on. I piled a bunch of stuff next to the door after that. I spent most of the next day by myself until a local friend joined me that evening to go to the Moonlight Magic event at Epcot. She then stayed with me the next three nights. I don’t know that I enjoy traveling by myself but I now know that I can do it if I need or want to again. It definitely was a good confidence booster for me. I can so relate to your comment about trying to figure out who you are and what you like after raising your children. I am 55 and have spent the last 30 years revolving my life around my husband, my 3 children and now 4 grandchildren. While I may not do another DVC trip alone, I do encourage my husband to bring his golf clubs when just he and I come. I’ve found I really enjoy doing my own thing while he golfs. So far I’ve enjoyed horseback riding at Fort Wilderness and floating around the lazy river at Typhoon Lagoon. Thanks again for doing what you do. I feel like we have had a lot of similar life experiences (thyroid issues, horrible experience with a church youth group leader as a teenager, DVC to name a few). I’m always surprised when you bring things up that I am also thinking about. 😃

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I hope you give it another try!

[@lcflngn]

Lol Jen, I had a day last yr at Disneyland a bit unexpectedly by myself. Met up with some friends and their grown kids for a ride or two, but wasn’t rly on their schedule, so I took off on my own. My daughter had gone off with her bf for the day and she felt SO bad about it. I did feel weirdly alone at first, but I had the world’s best day. Just sitting, shopping, taking some photos, watching the parade again… Taste of real freedom there, it was super lovely. Almost felt bad to tell my daughter how happy I was! About ready to do a whole trip on my own, it was that relaxing. 🤗

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I have had many people tell me over the years that their first solo travel was accidental like this. I'm SO GLAD you enjoyed the time and YES book a whole trip! You won't regret it.

[@lcflngn]

@@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge Thx! Feeling ready 🤗

[@jeanmacfarland1428]

Popcorn, a little stroll and people watching on Main Street...sounds perfect!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Yeah it really was

[@cindynelson4824]

I’m 67 and have been divorced for over 20 years. I’ve been solo traveling all my life, except for when I was married (20 years). I do car trips to national parks, and have found a couple of women’s travel groups that I adore. I’ve been all over the US and Europe. Africa this winter! For me the key is to find a group that fits your goal of excursions versus solo time. I love to explore museums and churches wherever I go.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Cindy, it sounds like you've got a great combination of community around you and the completely solo part. Perfect.

[@lindamiddleton6785]

Saw this book on Amazon today. Looks interesting. I don’t think I can attach a link or photo, but from the description it sounds like it would be a good read. It’s called “A weekend to change your life: find your authentic self after a lifetime of being all things to all people”. It’s by Joan Anderson who wrote “a year by the sea”. I might check it out. Has anyone read it? Joan actually took a whole year “off” and went and lived by the sea!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Linda, I'll check it out!

[@TammySkipperTV]

As the oldest child of a divorced-family-in-the-80s followed by marriage and babies in my 20s...the fact that I'm restored in a truly unique way by solo travel now that I'm in my 40s, is almost self explanatory.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I almost got into the whole trauma recovery piece of it but decided that might be a bit much for most people. But I feel like if you know you know.🥰

[@carriesanders9757]

That’s it: I’m booking Paris!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

HURRAY!!

[@Chelle99]

We chose Riviera for our couples trip. Never stayed there with the kids & the kids have basically no interest in staying there either!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Yeah I have friends with kids who love it there but I feel like overall it's got a much more grown up vibe.