Jonathan Haidt: Raising Anti-Fragile Kids - Joe Rogan

[@AlexSmith-gr4hp]

Toughen your kids up. Force them to make an unironic Tik Tok video and force them to watch every reply.

[@FREAKout59]

calm down satan

[@kartikmessner2868]

Hahah

[@Enrique-peralta]

What is tik tok

[@unitedwestanddividedwefall3521]

Alex Smith lol damn. Very true

[@micahjohnsonboxing6409]

@@Enrique-peralta A site for pedos and bullies.

[@Jerubicarmus]

Dont try to pretend to your kids that the world will kneel before them and opportunities are endless. Set realistic expectations for the world. Tell them that they have to work to earn something and that the world is not as PC and straight forward as someone might tell them. The world is not simple, its harsh, its diverse, its complicated. But always encourage them to figure their own way out. Thats how you build realistic expactations and confidence.

[@Garrus1995]

True. Kids have to understand that things don't always go as planned and that failures will come along with successes. No one has so charmed a life that they never make a mistake or face rejection. The world won't always be our friend and parents/teachers/guidance counselors should make kids understand that. Kids need encouragement but they also need guidance.

[@micahjohnsonboxing6409]

Sounds like you're saying raise a loser, this is America, you can actually be wildly successful here.

[@joekidd7872]

@@micahjohnsonboxing6409 Fuck a sellout.

[@jimmydane34]

Well according to Joe. Kids will stick forks into outlets so you cant let them be independent and make mistakes. Being able to be completely free to socialize and interact with your 10 year old peers by hanging at the park or walking together to the nearest bagel shop from 3pm (after school) till dark (6pm) when street lights come on cause you know pedophiles and abductors in the badass streets of his multi million dollar suburban town.

[@pakpala1]

How about we make the world a better place.

[@RJ-qs6nm]

My parents let me Do whatever I wanted but early on they said if I drank and drove, got someone pregnant or got addicted to hard drugs I was out of the house. Shitload of freedom and pretty easy rules to follow, and I think not being sheltered helped me in the long run. Being sheltered is just as harmful to kids as anything in my opinion .

[@alexkirrmann8534]

Same, I never saw my dad til I was an adult. It gives you perspective and worldlyness. Not expecting some ominous father figure to help you out or tell you how to think. Not just biological.

[@RJ-qs6nm]

@@alexkirrmann8534 yeah. I was lucky...had two parents that gave me a lot of freedom. I think my worldlyness come from when I joined the Marines, lived in 5 states and deployed all over the world. I'd never advocate joining the military but it definitely helped me expand my views and experiences...but doing that was made easier by the freedom my parents gave me growing up. Not feeling like you're on a pre-designed path isn't something I was necessarily thankful for as a kid but as an adult I realize just how important that was

[@alexkirrmann8534]

@@RJ-qs6nm agreed, I joined the army and did overseas stuff. But I have a philosophy which comes from one of our founder fathers. I study war and politics so my children can study philosophy and science. I don't wish the military on anyone but it made me strong. I'm not scared of anyone and it's not because I think I'm better then anyone either. Which is hard to explain and it gets me in lots of trouble in the civilian world. I have known human beings that make bosses look like children and it's hard to take orders from people like that.

[@alexkirrmann8534]

That sounds really narcissistic.

[@RJ-qs6nm]

@@alexkirrmann8534 I get it. I'm sure most people who are ex military feel the same way at one point or another. I once had to answer to a major who looked like Ronnie Coleman and killed a shit ton of people, now I answer to some fat guy behind a desk. But it's two different worlds, which is hard to see sometimes.

[@GMGBlackWhiteMUNGEY]

This dude is smart and very articulate on these important concepts.

[@pakpala1]

Hmmmm! He is trying to sell his BS ideas in his BS books...

[@Hyperpandas]

He's done great work on American political traits too.

[@Notinserviceij]

@@pakpala1 sounds like you are selling propaganda, let me make up my own mind to whether or not his ideas/books are bullshit By all means disagree with his ideas, but don't tell me what i should do (implying i shouldn't listen to him because YOU think it's bullshit)

[@notinthemoodfornames8033]

He's an idiot who talks about science without understanding it. What was done on the allergic kids is a poorly controlled experiment (not that the researchers were bad but just that experimenting on humans is intrinsically difficult) with a small sample size. This experiment needs to be widely repeated on different kids with different ethnicity, countries, living conditions, and many other variables to make the conclusion appliable to all kids. Just because this experiment got a result doesn't mean we can jump to "giving peanut power to kids prevent allergy." Right now what he is scientifically allowed to say is just "these particular kids, who are significantly different from the general population of kids in that they're predisposed to allergy, seem to have lower rates of allergy when given nuts." These findings are interesting and prompt further studies, but they are not sufficient to establish such general conclusion as "giving peanut power to kids prevent allergy."

[@manicpepsicola3431]

I dont really know who he is but i love him lmao

[@mikefelty2625]

I had a conversation with my 9 year old about 20 minutes ago about other kids being mean and not liking her. Nearly everywhere we go, a kid (almost always a different kid) that she goes to school with will see her, and go out their way to say hi to her. I told her that she's popular, and she argued with me, and said all the other kids hate her. I told her if that was true, then those kids wouldn't be so eager for her attention outside of school. I think sometimes children will get a negative idea in their head, and will develop a certain level of confirmation bias when it comes to that negativity.

[@2000dpdpdp]

TheSwoleBroscientist 😭🤣😭🤣😭🤣

[@kaiw.s6053]

@TheSwoleBroscientist the way people talk shit over the internet never ceases to amaze me

[@mikefelty2625]

@TheSwoleBroscientist 🤣🤣🤣

[@mikefelty2625]

@FuckYouAllToPieces I don't think the P.C. culture has as much to do with it as the fact that people can get away with saying whatever they want to whoever they want without worrying about that person beating them unconscious. It makes them feel better because they can finally treat someone the way that someone treated them when they were growing up, and they didn't stand up for themselves. Bless his heart.

[@mikefelty2625]

@Irving Ceron Yeah that was blatant trolling. I was stating most people doing the trolling wouldn't actually do it to someone in person, and I stand by that. I'm guessing you assumed I was threatening the guy. I thought it was pretty funny. It's obviously a joke.

[@KazeVongola]

"Maybe... maybe if touching a nut kills you, you're supposed to die." - Louis CK

[@RaySquirrel]

Louis CK touched a nut and he didn't die, but his career did.

[@wackpendejo3000]

@@RaySquirrel what are you talking about? he just came up with a special

[@upvotecomment2110]

@@TheGunmanChannel amen

[@TheBorwig]

RaySquirrel the nut touched him

[@daddylonglegspidersdontexi3210]

@@wackpendejo3000 its a joke

[@JaxBlade]

This feels like an ASMR ep cause that dude has a very calming voice haha

[@TinaJung0218]

Was thinking the same 😁

[@pakpala1]

He modulates his voice to sell his books and his BS ideas.

[@earthatom7]

😂😂😂

[@earthatom7]

@@pakpala1 so were you bullied or the bully? LOL

[@pakpala1]

@@earthatom7 Stay on topic. The guy is trying to sell books. People trying to sell stuff say the darndest things.

[@tjbonesla8248]

Joe “can’t hydrate my guests” rogan

[@dacrd]

Cotton mouth clicking

[@kingflirt100]

Guys voice and the lip smacking and mouth noises were to much for me to watch

[@AK1776-]

tj bonesla 😂 right!

[@TheJDeuce]

Yea man, great subject matter that they are discussing, but it's very challenging to tune out the knob-slurping SFX going on here.

[@jessLaughBro]

@@dacrd lmao!

[@nothere9551]

LOVE THIS GUY.... What a nice change to have a voice saying "Kids need to be kids"...

[@btbarr16]

When I was in 6th grade (I'm 33) me and my friends were on some swings. Behind us were a few first graders that were gonna play soccer. One kid was like, "no pushing, no shoving, no hitting." One of the other first graders looked at him and said, "you're a pussy." It was fantastic.

[@Modernhabitus]

Hah I give you my Reddit gold

[@sibusisofaya7874]

😂😂

[@BD-yl5mh]

I mean, it is soccer though :P

[@aleynamutlu4206]

In where I live boys are brutal they play football like it is judgment day they even warned me like hey sista move ! You are close to our goal post.

[@V.D.22]

Pushing and hitting are not allowed in soccer (football)

[@gcxred4kat9]

I grew up in the 70's. We we're RELENTLESS to each other. Sad to see how parents are today when you know instinctively what this guy is saying.

[@haleytruslow7200]

I 100% agree with this. I am a former teacher and the way the school system coddles kids is crippling them in every way.

[@TriteNight1218]

Why did you quit teaching? I’m just curious because I know a lot of teachers that have left the field.

[@londonspade5896]

Schools are excluding the kids from going home with me in my van after school instead of their parents, this bullying needs to stop.

[@mikeywhtshoes2353]

Fuck that!! BDS BITCH!

[@erickfernando18]

lmao

[@basmachandour7702]

Schools that "ban bullying" punish someone for sticking up for themself. At my high school and my former middle school, if someone hits you (and whether you defend yourself or not) both people involved get suspended. So they have punished standing up for yourself and the only way to handle conflict is to go to the guidance counselor. Even then they probably won't do anything and just tell you to ignore them

[@Lifebeinglilly]

I’m sorry... what? 😧 both kids are banned? Kids should’ve encouraged to handle their own situations I mean in real life there is no guidance counselor. Gosh I hate hearing that

[@chasehicks535]

When I was in high school and you did something embarrassing you just switched school or prayed it only got spread around to a small group of people. Social media insures that all of your embarrassing and social escapades remain immortal. No wonder juvenile depression is skyrocketing today's culture expects perfection and ostracizes those whom fall short...

[@peter0071000]

*ensures

[@l.w.paradis2108]

THIS. Social media is ubiquitous and potentially immortal. Anyone on earth can see it. This is an entirely different environment for a child approaching puberty, who WILL have overly sensitive moments. The point is to not get stuck in them, and not be shaped by them -- and not have the whole world see them. When I was a kid, it was rare for journalists to get permission to take a picture of a famous person's child. Use of children in advertising was frowned upon and regulated. People were appalled at stage Moms, and felt that child actors deserved special consideration and protection. And the kids weren't cry babies at all.

[@snakejunt]

And there are no statute of limitations on anything either! You can lose your entire career and never work in your industry again over a decade-old Tweet you made when you were 14. Absolutely bonkers.

[@l.w.paradis2108]

@@snakejunt Yes, and it is heartbreaking. Parents have GOT to say no until their child graduates from high school, and warn warn warn after that. Offers of admission to Harvard have been withdrawn over tweets and such.

[@l.w.paradis2108]

There isn't a 14 year old on earth who never did anything they would want to put behind them. Not one.

[@joedubner5846]

When I was young my parents were super protective. Every time I got a sniffle the doc told them to pump me full of antibiotics and of course they did because good parents listen to their doctors. Well when I turned 10 I was diagnosed with a late onset severe peanut allergy. On top of my countless allergies to polling and cats and all that. Now I've undergone the Oral Immuno Therapy treatment and I have toeat peanuts every day to keep my tolerance up. Moral of the story: don't coddle your kids or they have to eat peanuts every day of their life so they don't have to live in fear

[@TheBerkeleyBeauty]

When my daughter was about two months she developed a fever. Being a first time mother, of course I took her to the pediatrician (he also happened to be my pediatrician when I was little). He told me not to give her Tylenol because her body was trying to fight something off and I needed to give her a chance to do it. He also told me not to run after her wiping her nose in her hands whenever she got dirty, but a little dirt wasn’t going to hurt and that it could even strengthen the immune system. Made sense to me, so I decided right then and there that I was not going to be a helicopter mom, and I have two great, well-adjusted kids, 25 and 24 years, who have never had anything more than sniffles, and TRUST me when I say they were into EVERYthing when they were kids.

[@Mredgreen001]

Dirt dont hurt

[@tree453]

It's so soothing to listen to an erudite with such a nice, friendly voice. What a great podcast this was.

[@calrich768]

Nice word use! Gonna make that my word of the day.

[@l.w.paradis2108]

Everyone later laughs about the times they were teased in school. No one who was bullied laughs about it, ever. They are not the same thing.

[@meowth8050]

yeah but you do laugh if you got payback or if it was a rivalry that was later resolved

[@l.w.paradis2108]

@@meowth8050 That is true. Or at least a good possibility.

[@meowth8050]

@@l.w.paradis2108 can honestly be a mixed bag of emotions. i think most important thing is try to grow from it and dont take it personally at the end of the day. cant get through life without growth

[@l.w.paradis2108]

@@meowth8050 I wasn't bullied until adulthood. Workplace bullying is a criminal offense in a lot of countries. Here, it means tough luck, look for a new job. I don't care about "growth," so called. My family is abroad, I need money to retire and emigrate.

[@meowth8050]

@@l.w.paradis2108 thats a different story all together if its work place bullying which i know about, being a victim myself and seeing it done to others. its a shame how ignorant we can be even as adults. theres many ways to deal with it but its hard to eliminate. some people hate themselves so much they have to put others down to feel good

[@Garrus1995]

If I ever have the chance to be a father, I'll do everything in my power to empower and support my kids but I'll also try to teach them that life doesn't always go the way you want it to. There will be people who are assholes, there will be rejections, and there will be days when you just don't want to do it anymore. But the key to living a good life is moving forward despite the disappointments we may face, not letting our fears drain us and keep us from pursuing the things we want.

[@rolandshabani15]

This guy's voice can put an insomniac to sleep.

[@mmooraj]

I love his voice

[@piticfilms]

Avocado and banana use to make my tongue and lips swell really bad when I was 7 years old. My dad told me: “Eat little amounts every other day and your system will get used to it”... I did, until today I absolutely love avocado 🥑 and 🍌 bananas; no swell whatsoever.

[@crussteasock4047]

Good thing u added those emojis. Otherwise i wouldnt have known what u meant

[@piticfilms]

@@crussteasock4047 Ah! The always welcome cynical comment. Enjoy your 🥑 🍌

[@crussteasock4047]

@@piticfilms you're a good sport

[@paulcorda]

Many many parents today are weak parents, not saying that they are bad parents, some are very good parents in being providers, care-givers, fun, trips, presents etc.., BUT, in teaching kids how to be strong, confident, enforcing discipline, being the bad-guy when necessary, teaching self-reliance, teaching life skills, offering guidance, teaching how to overcome challenges, etc.. many parents are failing. Many parents are teaching their kids (whether consciously or sub-consciously) weakness. Tough pill to swallow but its true.

[@Janeedsleep12345]

That’s exactly it well done on your perspective ❤ never olwould of thought of it like that

[@Abc123hdbr]

You don't have kids do you when you wrote this self righteous shit

[@halflife352011]

We need more strong men and women teaching in the classroom who understand this principle and less of these weak lefty women and men who are full of good intentions and bad ideas.

[@Berked2Hard]

Honestly I was raised in a sheltered household throughout my childhood years because my parents were too poor to let me experience more in life, (ex; summer camps, driving, not many friends ) made me realize that lifestyle gave me a lot more anxiety and depression and made it more difficult for me to try and control my emotions but as I became more self aware of it all, it really helped. If only things weren’t so expensive for everything so I can experience more and be exposed more then I wouldn’t be having so much anxiety problems...

[@Berked2Hard]

Sorry if my English grammar sucks, it’s not my first language

[@kicknadeadcat]

I remember being bullied as a kid by a couple of guys in my class. Only a half a dozen people seen it and knew about it. Today you get bullied online and the whole school knows about it the next day. No wonder these kids are depressed all the time.

[@vincecanino6119]

This reminds me of the black mirror episode where a mother went through a program where she can control what her daughter can see and hear via technology. She decided to filter so much of life to where the daughter growing up was definitely altered.

[@xdavier31]

Was the episode Arkangel?

[@justicejones7646]

Taking away someone's stress doesn't help them because stress is inevitable. Teaching someone to deal with stress is helpful. Life is full of challenges, so we have to challenge our kids and reward them for pushing through those challenges.

[@Abc123hdbr]

How can somebody take away stress?

[@frankruiz3151]

Reminds me of that Black mirror episode where the mother gets her daughter that implant in her head

[@gabrielleperez6548]

He's the kind of professor I wish I had.

[@nlegall33]

Joe "I have a friend" Rogan

[@Shadic4101]

That's what happens when you actually interact with people instead of sitting on your ass on youtube all day

[@loganstolberg2743]

No it’s Joe “I have a shit ton of friends” Rogan

[@bmphil3400]

I grew up in rural Appalachia...... problem solved........

[@virgie4715]

Same.

[@jt9300]

"We couldn't prove it, so we didn't put it in the book" Do you know how important this sentence is? So they did the research, but the results didn't agree with them. They dropped it completely! They didn't make unfounded claims, they didn't manipulate the outcome in order not to waste all the research they'd done. This is an honourable thing! If only more authors, influencers, etc had that level of integrity

[@tyrfree5733]

This is why sending your kids to martial arts school is extremely important. Because three times a week your children will be challenged and different ways. And these challenges will prepare them for any kind of social interaction including of course attacks on their physical. This guy is right on the money, we all need challenges in life to see what we're made of and when we fall from those challenges, it gives us a chance to do things better the second round if we're lucky enough to get a second chance. Nobody should be bullied but every kid should have healthy challenges. Build a stronger human race that way guaranteed

[@MarcoBonechi]

No. That's baby sitting glorified. Soccer is the only sport. It's contact. it's team. It's winning and losing against strangers. It's all socio economic and geo. It's the closest to real life kids get until college.

[@MarshallLore]

outdoor activities and face to face communication are recommended

[@HumansOfVR]

*That which does not kill us makes us stronger*

[@PaleGhost69]

Ok, sure, but what about raising Anti-Fragile Babies? The last time I dropped one, it broke...

[@germcampbell9469]

You win!!

[@pakpala1]

Yep! Finally I person who can see through the BS this dude is trying to sell.

[@propagandacritic5511]

You're supposed to gradually introduce the dropping. Start from a lower height next time.

[@hinteregions]

Must have been a dud. They are meant to bounce. Be honest, you didn't throw the baby did you?

[@wisdomfruit7162]

Really I just turned it on and off and it worked again

[@TheBanshee90]

over protective parents and kids having allergies/fragility has been a trope for a reason... Art Imitating life

[@zacdoohan5609]

Discipline at home is so god damn important. These little brats that are running around disrespecting their family and the public all missed out on a good spanking when they were young. Expose them to the unfortunate realities of life as they grow, but to a certain extent - being fairly young myself, I can confidently say a large number of young people suffer from depression and anxiety because they have been shielded their entire life and they don't know how to handle the inevitable issues life throws at them.

[@MrB1923]

Can you reason with your child? No. So why are you smacking them? Can you reason with your child? Yes. So why are you smacking them? If you have to discipline your children with violence then YOUR the problem.

[@isaacswan]

Good intentions but spanking is a bad idea. Hitting a child is literally hitting someone that doesn't have a fully developed brain. Would you hit a retarded person? That sounds kind of fucked up. Maybe we should look at some of the science before we publicly encourage hurting kids physically. Especially the ones that are dependent on us for their survival. Have you seen this interview The Science of Spanking! A Conversation with Dr. Elizabeth Gershoff - kzbin.info/www/bejne/Zpypc4Kbpr-VoNU Spanking is abuse, medically speaking: * „Psychologytoday” - by Darcia Narvaez, Ph.D. In terms of whether parental aggression (spanking) decreases aggression in the child, the answer is no. In fact, spanking tends to increase child aggression. ” "Spanking does not convey positive guidance on how to behave in a particular situation, only how not to behave if a threat of punishment is at hand.” „ Long-term compliance is decreased after spanking (Gershoff, 2002; Gershoff & Grogan-Kaylor, 2013).” „It destroys trust. Children trust their parents just a little less. ...Spanking is harmful for even more reasons, the review indicates: Spanking destroys mental health. Spanking increases delinquency and criminal behavior. Spanking makes it more likely the child will be physically abused.” - www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201309/research-spanking-it-s-bad-all-kids * Molly S. Castelloe, Ph.D. in The Me in We „Spanking erodes developmental growth in children and decreases a child's IQ, a recent Canadian study shows. This analysis, conducted at the Children's Hospital of Eastern Ontario in Ottawa, offers new evidence that corporal punishment causes cognitive impairment and long-term developmental difficulties.” - www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-me-in-we/201202/how-spanking-harms-the-brain?tr=MostEmailed * SMU, psychology professor George Holden talks with Journalist Anderson Cooper about spanking as part of the „Anderson” show. - Should Children Be Spanked? * „Daily Mirror”: fbcdn-sphotos-g-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash3/q71/557517_613922561964346_639753957_n.jpg * „Medicalnewstoday”, - „ The study, published in Psychological Science and led by Professor Dieter Wolke of Warwick University in the UK and Dr. William E. Copeland of Duke University Medical Center, is the first of its kind to investigate the effects of childhood bullying on adulthood. The results of the study show that of the four groups, the bully-victim proved the most vulnerable group of all, suffering several adverse consequences in adulthood, including: -Increased likelihood of psychiatric disorder diagnosis -Increased likelihood of smoking on a regular basis -Slow recovery rate from illness -Poor academic achievement, struggling to keep work, low economic wealth -Less likely to form saving habits in young adulthood. -Difficulty in maintaining friendships and positive relations with parents.” www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/265905.php * - stopspanking.org/resources/

[@zacdoohan5609]

@Brendan Frieders thanks for the input but you just are wrong - pre-teens these days are well out of order, I know its a huge generalisation and it doesn't speak for a lot of kids out there but the general consensus is that they simply don't have the fear factor of a leather belt or wooden spoon instilled in them like we did.

[@TheZatchmo]

Manwell so why is there such an increase in anxiety and depression? My sisters and many of their friends all have depression. They did all the things Haidt talks about.

[@BlindRambler]

@@MrB1923 there are ways to discipline without violence. There are also many ways to help people learn that without being judgmental and virtue signaling. Make them sit at the table doing their homework until it's finished, even well past their bedtime. Make them wash their hands before touching anything even if they were outside for 3 minutes. Slowly give them more responsibility. Taking away the xbox when they're not behaving. No field trips. Kids NEED some sort of discipline.

[@kurtoskolack1201]

You don't want your kid to be bullyed? Take him to some martial arts classes. Not because you want him to fight the bully, just for the confidence needed to stand up for himself, and the bully will back down in most of the cases.

[@VenomBGR]

Same with peanut allergies as with Lactose intolerance. I am from Bulgaria and we have a long tradition of consuming deary products, mainly yogurt and white cheese. I know of NO ONE that is Lactose intolerant, but i constantly hear of people complaining about it in the western countries.

[@kicknadeadcat]

Kids need a lot of understanding and love along with the constant beatings

[@mikej8198]

I love the u.s. as religious as any place in the world. As many issues as it has.. Deflects all blame to the rest of the world while simultaneously saying beat your children constantly. Pretty glad the u.s also has freedom from religion so i don't feel cohersed into having children. Thats what religion likes to do. Always that slick cohersion.

[@panama1942]

Mike J Lol have you seen how parents treat their kids in India. US is so tame compared to other countries, idiot

[@lotfibouhedjeur]

I get his point but I beg to differ. If you observe kids long enough you'll realize that very often they are brutal with each other and sometimes down right evil. Parents and caregivers have a very good reason for freaking out about bullying.

[@askmitch]

This reminds me of one time in elementary school i was playing soccer with kids my age, and one much younger kid joined us. I think i might of taken the ball away from him once in a fine soccer move, and then a teacher pulled me out of class later that day to told me what I did was wrong. When the teacher was telling me this, I was extremely confused because it wasn't like i was overly mean to the kid, or picked on them specifically, just a case of being way too protective.

[@captindo]

I'm a vet so, I walk that fine balance of being kind but, I know the world ain't a kind place so I try to develop confidence in real areas in their lives like building things with their hands, don't start a fight and if ya have to fight you win at all cost and protect those being bullied. I want strong independent kind kids that go out of their way for others and to lead, but, it's on them in the end to use what I teach them. Love your children but, they are stronger than they look and can bloody well clean their rooms themselves.

[@qwerrrttjkl6735]

Joe "one punch man" rogan

[@BlueBloodPenn]

Send your kids to public Scottish schools, that'll fix 'em

[@howard1852]

That bad huh?

[@wisdomfruit7162]

Or Mexicans remember blay blades 😂

[@dustinj0129]

Get this man some H2O!!!

[@hurricanebrenda]

Bullying is done for unreasonable things. Bullying doesn’t equal conflict. They can still experience conflict in this world and it will shape them in good or bad ways. But bullying shouldn’t be tolerated at all!! Bullying is a direct result from adults children are surrounded by. Not parents but any adult they learn that trait from. We shouldn’t allow that. Respect and Toughness is a learned behavior. Just like bullying we should always strive for respect. To get it and to give it.

[@tonydiaz9458]

i still cant believe seattle didnt run the ball

[@matthewmallaber7213]

How do you not run the ball in that situation!

[@tonydiaz9458]

@Matthew Mallaber...bcuz sumtimes we think we r smarter than we really r, one time i took the streets to get to work bcuz i saw the line gettin on the frwy was a little long so i thought id b smart n take the streets since its minimal stop n go @ traffic lights n stops signs n what not...got to work 25 min late that day, n i am NEVER late to work, co worker of mine who takes the same frwy to work in the same entrance got on it 10 min after i drove by it n was @ work already brown nosing the boss, who is gay, but thats neither here nor there, u run the ball broseph!!! cost them a ring

[@matthewmallaber7213]

You give the ball to Marshawn Lynch! Just like everyone knew Michael Jordan was going to take the last shot of the game. Give him the ball and your trust that everyone else on the team will do their part and live with the outcome.

[@tonydiaz9458]

@Matthew Mallaber...fucken A brother...peace n blessing from Upland Ca

[@matthewmallaber7213]

@@tonydiaz9458 back at ya from Western NY.

[@836dmar]

Joe, We just had the same situation last month. Flying back from Charleston it was announced that due to a passenger with a nut allergy there would be no peanuts served and we were asked to not consume nut containing snacks on the flight. We happened to have a can of peanuts with us. I was quite surprised that the concern of one suppressed that of 87 others.

[@allisonlefkowitz1205]

There is a line between “kids fighting and working through issues” vs bullying, which I don’t know why no else says this, is, in some instances, socially sanctioned child abuse. It’s not healthy and can be damaging.

[@Taken1000x]

I just packed both my grade school age kids peanut butter sandwiches for lunch, no issue at all, and they attend public school in New York. On the other hand, my older son asked for a piece of cake for breakfast, then called me a bully when I said no.

[@Enrique-peralta]

You bully give him the cake

[@cerberus3447]

I disagree with Jonathan about the playground monitor. I always hade one throughout primary and high school in australia (k-12). You are not 100% protected from being bullied or whatever due to the enormous number of kids and there are usually 1 or 2 adults on patrol, they cant be everywhere at once and its a good thing they cant be. So there is an element there where you are exposed so danger but its always a good thing to know that if you fall off something and get seriously hurt or someone wants to cave your head in you have somewhere to run to to seek help quickly.

[@tilaw6397]

100%

[@DrSupes]

Written in history, Indian king Chnadragupta Mourya from Mourya dynasty was said to practice 'Mithridatism' which was the practice of consuming snake's venom on a daily basis in small amount to develop immunity and later when his enemies tried to posion him, he alone survived and his wife died. Clearly a great example for the above reference.

[@spiritmama]

So what about the pregnant moms who ate peanut butter and a huge variety of foods, and also gave it to their child.... but the child developed a peanut allergy anyway? 🤷‍♀️ Coming from someone who deals w their child having nuts allergies, I have my own suspicions... #1 his allergy reaction to peanut butter started immediately following his MMR vaccine (no, I’m not antivax, but it shouldn’t be off the table that something went wrong there since both have to do with immunity). #2 doc told me to take Zantac twice a day while pregnant for the worst indigestion/reflux I ever felt, and I never had those problems before or after pregnancy - only during. Makes me think something was a already wrong with the gut (me or my child’s) and possible the Zantac and MMR could have been what made the cup spill over, so to speak. Immune system might not have been able to handle that vaccine or so many at once, and the Zantac probably made my gut worse... because it actually didn’t help at all when taking it, but the doc insisted that that was all I could do. I also didnt start having the indigestion or reflux until after they gave me a flu shot while pregnant. I never get that shot, but I did when pregnant because the medical ppl were bullies when it came to that... and it really wasnt a big thing like it seems to be today w all the propaganda pushing to get flu shots every year. I think there is something to be said about how the pregnant mom feels when she is pregnant, esp when it comes to digestion. The problems were prob already there.. my child probably couldnt handle foods that I was eating for reasons I dont know. And the prenatal vitamins I had to take before bed were terrible.. made me sick to my stomach, which is why I took them before bed. For reference.. this was all back in 2005.

[@saxrach]

Definitely think you're onto something there. The Vs can cause these sort of allergic reactions in children.

[@HoodieProduction]

I grew up with fragile parents and that has in turn made me fragile in some ways. I'm 25 now and the last couple of years I've really have been trying to improve myself. I've started sticking up for myself, I've started to advocate for myself, I've started to be more assertive, and I haven't been shying away from confrontation. It's been a real eye-opener how little opposition I've faced because of how rare genuine self-confidence is. It's nice to have that advantage, however, I have never felt more alienated in my life. People are afraid to interact with me in any way that might cause conflict, so they usually avoid me or just default to agreeing with me. For the first time in my life, I actually crave a fight.

[@aycook]

Literally your villain origin story🤣

[@finnlacy1629]

just tell them “the people online don’t know anything about you, they’re only insulting you based on their own thoughts and feelings, not yours” reach this from a young enough age and they will be content with themselves

[@sweet_southern_gal]

This is interesting I told my coworkers that my Mom as a Teen would allow me to get a daily bus pass and go around town by myself. They were shocked! I saw it as an adventure.

[@joeyboudreaux3934]

You have so much reach to your viewer's. I look to you for so much. Thank you.

[@FREAKout59]

I was bullied from primary till the end of middleschool without threat of violence (except the last 3 years there was a threat) as a boy and it fucked me up! I've been able to recover from the trauma for the most part but i'm still working on it as a 20 year old

[@imaoldamanthatloveallwomen1239]

@bryan joiner Bryan is great craic!!

[@chrismccaffrey8256]

Its is not your job as a parent to make their life a living hell. Dont be mean to them, dont let things happen and have them deal with it by themselves. They NEED a loving and healthy support system. All children need to be taught (and have it modelled) how to deal with conflict. Their inner fesilience will first and foremost come from healthy self esteem and boundaries. No healthy boundaries at home, they wont know how to handle people crossing their boundaries outaide of home.

[@letsgoBrandon204]

Exposure therapy. I get pretty bad social anxiety and it has screwed with my life. The way to get better is to expose myself to uncomfortable situations while dropping safety behaviours until I get bored with the exercise. Then I move on to the next thing I am afraid of. Progressive desensitisation. I am a whole lot better than I used to be, but this shit carries a fuck ton of baggage with it and it's a real pain in the arse to sift through it all.

[@letsgoBrandon204]

@@SL-zg9zi Just look for a book on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Doesn't need to be social anxiety disorder specific. It's slightly different than exposure therapy, but the stats apparently seem to say it gets the best results

[@seancovert8320]

Joe, please assess the fatherless household.. I personally think this is a huge problem leading to fragile children.

[@OneWhoDreamsAwake]

Hey! I heard about this from Jordan Peterson first, but yay more sources and specifics. 😁

[@jdavidtz85]

America needs to address everyone being able to sue anyone for anything anytime. Stupid

[@pjizzlevizzle]

Agreed. If we adopted a "loser pays" principle, our litigious society would change very quickly.

[@micahjohnsonboxing6409]

That's a myth actually, judges often throw out frivolous cases.

[@micahjohnsonboxing6409]

@@pjizzlevizzle that sounds good but that basically means corporations would never get sued. What if Walmart does something to hurt it's 10 dollar an hour workers? They'd have to risk everything just to sue.

[@laurieclark4349]

There are no peanut allergies in any person born before 1989. That is when “adjuvant 65” also know as peanut oil was put into childhood vaccine ingredients. Peanut oil injected into the bloodstream of an infant is the perfect way to cause an immune response and anti- bodies for peanuts and other nuts. The peanut allergy epidemic started in 1989. The theory of pregnant mothers abstain from nuts was to counteract the allergy epidemic, it didn’t cause it.

[@flamingosketches1372]

Stop coddling them

[@loganstolberg2743]

Unfortunately it won’t happen. It’s going to get worse in the future.

[@michellebadillo7574]

Let your daughter walk around NYC by herself at 8? Just because she has a watch that has tracking and calling. You could easily remove that watch and snatch her. Careless parenting. Just because statistically kidnappings have gone down according to this guy doesn't mean they don't happen ALL the time. Maybe kidnappings went down because a ton of kids stay inside on the computer? I mean, does that not make sense?

[@makiserpunkt2179]

My best memories from elementary school is when I got into fights during the breaks 😅

[@shrapnel77]

My buddy is a bubble wrap parent. He had three kids. The oldest girls is a SJW that graduated college with a degree in gender studies. She is my godchild. Gave her $500.00 for graduating high school and $250.00 for graduating college. She has spoken less than 50 words to me over the last ten years (she gets nothing now). His other son and daughter have both flunked out of college in less than a year. His gf told me that his daughter had a crying fit because she could not fill out an application (could not read and understand it). My friend sat down and filled it out for her. Glad I am not him and that I have no kids.

[@MayorSom]

Sounds very... MmmmMm... "plausible" Up there with, "My mate works as a bank cashier/teller and you'd be surprised to learn those who flex the most are living beyond their means; whilst the rough bastard looking is a Millionaire" 💩👀

[@thorstenscherber4826]

exactly .... i could trust my parents ... i had it save ... got a lotta stuff when i behaved ... but i also got beaten and yelled at like crazy for shit i did ... and that may caused me to be easy to walk over at first (in school) but with that conflict i steadily learned how to function properly in social aspects and in how i perceive myself .... with that ... and my nurished interest in learning ... i was able to grow into a „proper“ person (at least relatively speeking) kids and parents nowadays... its way to hard i guess ... all those 1 year olds already capable of browsing youtube as if they always did it .... fuck meee ... children are the future ...and my generation was deemed worthless and spoiled by games and shit already .... and i can see where that came from BUT SHIT FUCKIN HELL i worked 2 years as a volunteer at a elementry school and a public teenage centre ... and all i can say is if these kids are out future we all are majorly Fuckkkked Wronlgy guiding children ... to spoil them with those fucked up advertisements and children tv channels in general ... Should be considered Treason and severly punished

[@vs71597]

Ich ficke Alphabet apparently your parents didn’t teach you fucking anything about punctuation. Jesus Christ

[@truthseeker6377]

Good call out Elizabeth!!! Here's a brownie badge for YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You little superstar you ;-)

[@groovygamers1]

@@vs71597 or spelling.

[@Swimmer-rw7qb]

My elementary school needs to see this. If anything their policy about conflicts is worse at this point...

[@BeRoyal37]

I played football and baseball from age 8 to 20. I always knew where i stood. I always understood i was replaceable and i grew thick skin. Getvyour children in sports or activities and away from devices

[@scottrichter7511]

We knew where we stood as well "children are to be seen not heard". The horror!!!!!!!

[@sparklingwiggle]

"Are you suggesting we raise a generation of super kids? "

[@Sanamononoke]

Fix your mic's there ligit pickin up every sound every slerp and mouth slappin

[@kingflirt100]

bigwillsrides literally couldn’t watch because of that.

[@AlmightyUniden]

Not the mic fault, he needs to drink water forreal

[@deadarmd]

Better than not hearing him at all I suppose

[@magnaphoria3022]

Not if you like ASMR ( ͡~ ͜ʖ ͡°)

[@SoapSenpai]

Didn't really notice, now I can't stop hearing it

[@jamesfreeman7954]

LOL uncle joey was right about the allergy thing 😂🤣

[@brianomdahl8377]

I wish I could show this to the students, parents and faculty at the school I teach at....

[@ruthlessreid9172]

If you can't eat peanuts in an area with others allergic to them they need to die.

[@IrishRunningVlog]

Reid Plyler 🖕🏻

[@ruthlessreid9172]

@@IrishRunningVlog wow crap genes and bad attitude.

[@earthatom7]

Darwin agrees lol

[@jcmoney11111]

My second son has a peanuts allergy and my wife used to snort peanut dust, it didn't help build a defense.

[@earthatom7]

@@jcmoney11111 I can't tell if you're serious/joking/trolling... Good job 👍

[@williehughes1690]

When it comes to bullying in schools Chris Rock said it best bullies do half the work if you are not use to the relatively lax bullying at school how are you going to survive in the real world where there's no teacher or playground monitor to keep them in line u need to have that healthy level of social conflict to build your defense mentally and physically some kids get into martial arts and gain discipline because of bullying.

[@melodysafo5437]

Yeah, but most kids become suicidal because of it

[@mingxuanfan]

It was raining that day and I overheard a little girl asking his dad for an umbrella getting out of the car, the dad said “I gave you a jacket already”.

[@pathacker4963]

Teach them critical thinking skills and individuality instead of measuring them against everyone else. As a toddler I had an allergy to strawberries, but my mom was told to feed me small amounts of strawberries gradually. I love strawberries today. No allergy now.

[@cahenderson0812]

Just called my lawyer, I'm suing this guy for making me sad.

[@andrewlabat9963]

He speaking of the very reason why we have so many snowflakes in this country that are ruining it for the future

[@loganstolberg2743]

and if Biden wins in 2020 then we are in deep shit trouble.

[@ryanpalmer19]

Kids back in my day who used to get bullied just listened to Korn or something and rock out, they wore their hearts in their sleeve and now that i think about it was a very courageous coping mechanism, nowadays kids either deny it and become part of the problem or go inward and fetishize and glamorize being bullied, its very bizzare and sad, its like no room to even just be a loner anymore because of how suffocating social media has made society for them.

[@SMM_NAA]

Or, we could just release all the bans on peanuts and let things work themselves out... Just a thought.

[@golden6283]

Where tf kanye

[@MrB1923]

Talking to himself in the toilet while dribbling on his $5000 shirt like a small child.

[@RC_random_vids]

MrB1923 everything is gonna be alright man

[@fspsyco1]

one thing i taught myself in middle school is to differentiate between judgments based on malice and ones based in concern, kids say fucked up shit to one another just to get the 1up on someone.

[@Looseskru]

Once he brought up bullying the guests just started talking in circles. Got to be pretty redundant listening to this guy nitpick what’s defined as bullying after he’d just explained a little adversity actually helps shape people. Idk just wanted to speak on it 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@Shadow-nz1dm]

Because of people like you who will misinterpret the concept

[@Looseskru]

@@Shadow-nz1dm misinterpret what exactly? Do you even understand what and who I was referring too? Bc I made an observation about how someone was talking in circles

[@isaacb5968]

This is one of the few guests where Joe actually read their book

[@seancollins8681]

If you relieve people at a young age from virtually all stress, then as they grow, when they get into very stressful situations, they won't know how to handle it.

[@Nightdiver20]

Most people need to learn things the hard way but we're about 2 generations into not allowing kids to do that.

[@teamgitusome]

picogram

[@reyzephlyn105]

Put them in an XBL lobby

[@philmay7834]

One thing here really resonated with me. Talking about peanuts, and Joe relates a story about being on a flight and someone was allergic blah, blah.....anyway, planes always serve nuts, and here we have one person controlling the actions of the whole rest of the plane. So anytime this person flies , the whole rest of the plane has to be respectful of their allergy. Fuck that! Take the train, drive, bike, walk or stay home, but no way should the whole plane be subject to the restrictions of one. Period!

[@bigfatno]

This guy hit all the nails on all of the heads. Excellent commentary!

[@ludwigvonsowell5347]

“You’re not a man until you’ve beaten the shit out of someone and gotten the shit beaten out of you”~Gavin McGinnes

[@FormerMoonGod]

I hope this is clear how nuanced my opinion is: I think Jonathan Haidt is a necessary perspective for individuals regardless of political leaning. He will go on record to say he does not speak for conservative values, he is merely arguing for how multiple cognitive distortions play a role in how ideas with good intentions lead to unintentionally bad outcomes. Haidt, like many human beings, has a decent amount of nuance. The book co-authored by Greg Lukianoff is a challenging read because the authors themselves have to be careful about their own cognitive distortions (it can be argued some of this comes through through their dedication of detail regarding certain stories over others). So ultimately, there is the ultimate challenge of this book: can you read this, pick out and understand the argument, but also allow yourself to utilize the tools here to create a counterargument to the book you just read, that just taught you this stuff? I respect what Haidt has given to the psychological discipline, but I also disagree with him too. I wish he talked more about the limitations of his research; some of this is glossed over momentarily when looking at specific surveys about "words as violence" (I will say I have not completely finished this book so there's my own limitation). Omitting some of this for the sake of talking about the overall findings to push support for a particular argument does not paint a complete picture. It's confirmation bias in which a psychological researcher pulls from the research the most important pieces to confirm their viewpoint, rather than utilizing a study with a similar validity to unearth a possible limitation.

[@es8375]

I was bullied pretty badly from like 12-15 or so, maybe effects me a little today but think it's evolved my character and perception in a more realistic view of the world

[@DeepDuh]

even the broken glass is helping kids (from a certain age). my 3yo has gotten more careful after a while of getting glassware.