Do All People With HIV Think The Same? | Spectrum

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Jubilee np bby🥰

[@zella7756]

You did an amazing job with the video and the people in it were great💗

[@laurenanderson999]

on videos as sensitive as this. there should be no comments allowed. you are endangering people who are willing to speak out, and it would provide safety for those to afraid to speak out. please hear my crys and think twice before enabling comments on such sensitive topics. this channel has a history of toxic comments so please be careful and protect those people who are suffering and in dispare.

[@Nebraska2927]

Jubilee should do one for pro abstinence and pro safe-sex.

[@hanaharuka247]

I'm here 😄

[@purettyzz]

Undetectable or not, I need to know. Period.

[@pinkiebeee2045]

I recommend you get a screening from a doctor for stds / sexually transmitted diseases on ur partner before doing any intercourse, it's better to be safe than sorry.

[@Ikari1212]

@@pinkiebeee2045 That's actually what my partner and I did just because we were also planning to not always be safe. And it's so much more fun to fool around with knowing for certain that you are not gonna catch ANY STD at all. :) Not orally nor any other way.

[@dominoislegend]

Exactly

[@Ikari1212]

@Oscar Asso'o You can never be certain of that but my partner won't ever cheat on my using unsafe sex. If they cheated that is. I can be very certain of that since they also didnt want to get too intimate before we both got tested. :d

[@nodeue]

No you don't. If someone is undetectable, you can't get HIV from them. Most new cases of HIV are transmitted from people who don't know they're positive yet, so you should assume EVERYONE you sleep with is positive and act accordingly.

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

I really hate admitting this, but contracting HIV is one of my biggest fears.

[@shellybee9322]

Don’t mind me. I’m just afraid of everything. Mine too. And my dear, due to “undercover men” and the low use of contraceptives, we are the highest risk group 😔

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

Shelly Bee Aw, man. Now I’m never going to be exclusively sexually active.

[@davtran8023]

Take care also of blood (transfusion, hospital, dentist, tattoo, etc...). 10% of the contaminations are by blood. Everybody forget that and think just about sex transmission

[@vh024]

Thankfully they do have preventive medicine for HIV now, doesn’t seem like many know about it, though :(

[@Angell_Lee]

You guys can take PREP (Truvada) is a pill you take 1 to 3 days (ideally) before you sexual relations, it will prevent you having HIV if you sleep with someone who has HIV. When I was wild sexually I was taking it.

[@Furiouspenguin27]

Even if you’re undetectable you should always tell your partner, I’d feel so violated if I found out someone withheld that from me

[@RaifDerrazi]

If someone is Undetectable and CAN NOT transmit the virus. It's not necessary to disclose their status. It has nothing to DO with the other person at that point. And not everyone who has sex, has sex with someone they're going to see again, can trust etc. So imagine being in a small town and HAVING to tell someone u have HIV...and turns out, that person doesn't like you anymore and goes out and decides to, with malicious intent, tell EVERYONE your private medical business. You can't force a person to give that much power over your private medical issues to anybody. I highly disagree ON a moral stance, I always disclose for myself. Cause i just prefer 100% openness and honesty. But you have to think about the real-world implications and a lot of people here are only thinking from a place of fear for yourself. When, if you're undetectable, you can't get it anyway. So that's ungrounded fear....aka stigma...hence, purpose of the video

[@Furiouspenguin27]

Raif Derrazi there’s always a chance you can transmit it because you’ll never have a 100% confidence of no transmission. If you don’t tell someone, you’re not only a douche, but it should be a criminal offense for possibly ruining someone else’s life. Also, if it can affect the other person it is no longer your “private medical business.”

[@RaifDerrazi]

@@Furiouspenguin27 The CDC as well as many world groups/organizations have agreed the SCIENCE shows there is no transmission. everything else is just opinion and fear at this point. There are, however, 19 states where you MUST disclose...but it's limited to those states. Your opinion of whether someone discloses or not is fine with me...i'm just concerned with the role of the law

[@tannermichels5451]

@@RaifDerrazi You don't just become "Undetectable"! It's not an end all be all. You maintain being "Undetectable" by taking your meds regularly and not skipping dosages. Just because you are Undetectable during one blood test does not mean you are for the rest of your life. I agree U=U, when and ONLY when the individual is taking their meds consistently. You don't just become undetectable and it's done. Maintaining and undetectable status is a journey that must be continued with medication, consistent and consecutive taking of one's Medication.

[@Hknasw]

@@tannermichels5451 Exactly. This is why people with HIV should disclose. Being undetectable is not fullproof

[@chriss.2978]

"The heat of the moment" is a lame excuse. There is no excuse to conveniently leave out information like that. When you have sex with someone they are trusting you on a pretty deep level and the least you can do is be open with them.

[@angelanguyen3372]

I agree that your should disclose it to the person, but I don't completely blame them for doing it. Although I would blame them if they do it more than once/often. The guy in the video had a valid reason (although wrong), but he learned from it (hopefully) and never did it again.

[@Jeremy-wp4yh]

@@angelanguyen3372 there is no valid reason unless you don't know yourself. If you do know it's criminal

[@dirtydan5399]

And sex is a two way street so seems like both parties should take accountability for disclosing/asking instead of assuming everyone’s Hiv negative

[@anndyx9423]

@@dirtydan5399 Very true the other person is also responsible for themselves.

[@gabriellesimoneau9958]

In canada it’s actually a crime

[@kay049]

even if it’s undetectable and you can’t pass it, you’re partner has the right to know and make the choice

[@jadejaguar69]

Your partner does, but not a random hookup

[@MariahRose1]

Julius Caesar a random hookup has the right to know. It’s absolutely ILLEGAL to not tell someone you have an STD. You can go to jail for giving someone an STD if you knew you had it and had sex with them without telling them about your STD

[@kay049]

Julius Caesar every type of hook up or partner you have should know the risk. it’s illegal to not tell someone and knowingly pass it on.

[@jadejaguar69]

@@MariahRose1 @bi quirk I think people are having a hard time understanding what undetectable means. U = U is a term coined meaning undetectable = untransimisable. You can not give HIV to someone as long as you're under medication. There is no risk involved

[@jadejaguar69]

@@kay049 I think people are having a hard time understanding what undetectable means. U = U is a term coined meaning undetectable = untransimisable. You can not give HIV to someone as long as you're under medication. There is no risk involved

[@breezeblocks9389]

I can’t even imagine what it must be like being a child/teen who was born hiv+

[@KarinKarin]

ironicaly, the majority of adults with HIV who was born hiv+ (and who got it) are not afraid to have kids. such an ignorance.

[@laserface3021]

@Linus did either of you watch the video?

[@AH-ih7cs]

Linus you clearly don’t know much about HIV, with the right treatment people can have kids without passing on the virus

[@roguekitty9671]

@Linus From my understanding the large majority of people who gave birth to hiv positive children did not know that it would pass on because it was early into the aids crisis and there wasn't scientific understanding about it or they likely did not know their status when they got pregnant. Now there is more understanding about how to prevent transmission and rates lower than 1% have been reported by the cdc (although their are discrepancies related to race likely due to class and healthcare disparities).

[@beautythroughmyeyes]

@@KarinKarin Why would it be an ignorance if in 14 years, not one child has contracted through birth? It's proof. It's science. Its impossible to pass to a child or partner when Undetectable.

[@mbalibengu9765]

shout out to Jubilee for having really great content this year

[@PHlophe]

flower

[@IenChi]

aw thanks!

[@Gsthompson84]

Mbali Bengu I totally agree

[@sak-r7t]

Facts💯🔥

[@mogabriel5238]

@@IenChi why do gays have hiv

[@elizabethsharp225]

If you know you have an STD , and you don't tell someone, that is illegal.

[@estevao8354]

STI***

[@rain-cy6ve]

@Kelli Maiolo only that they cannot trassmit it if they are undetecatable, hold your horses guys

[@thiswowzer3217]

@@rain-cy6ve if they take their medicines properly, if the virus doesn't get stronger and fights the medicine, if they don't get another disease that makes them able to transmit their disease to you even if they take their medicines. Don't sweeten it, you can perfectly infect your partner, there's not a magic medicine to make you unable to transmit the disease. If you love even a little bit your partner you won't risk them to get an incurable disease

[@rain-cy6ve]

@@thiswowzer3217 and why would a positive person not take their meds considering that can endanger their own lives? Plus a person can become transsmitable after a few weeks of not taking the medicine, it s not something that happens so easy. The 2nd thing, the HIV virus is not like the flu virus, it doesn t have an outer capsula to exchange genes so easily and there are not as many steains plus it is not airborn so no way it can mutate that easily (this is a scientific fact, look it up). What is the connection with getting sick with something else? There is no connection, if they get a damn cold there is no risck for them to trasmit the deasese. And i m not talking about a partner, but if you re untrasmitable, should you be oblidged to disclose your status to a one night stand? This is just sick honestly.

[@rain-cy6ve]

@@thiswowzer3217 and wtf, "magic medicine". Look up scientifical facts, if you take your medicine, you just cannot trasmit it. I think i know enough about it since i m a medical student, anything besides the scientifcal facts are just 2 things: fear and prejudice.

[@caseh4235]

"Do all college graduates think the same" Could ask questions about if they feel their degree was relevant to their job and if they think it was worth going to college

[@hpm06]

That’d be interesting

[@mabi3om959]

college drop outs could be interesting too!

[@crystalchandelier22]

It's worth going to collage if you don't do women's studies or gender studies.

[@angelamartinez5495]

Yesssssss

[@trenicejohnson15]

Bored im Really Bored or film or art... basically anything out of STEM lol (I’m bias because I’m studying biology)

[@Amethyst8x]

“I was so desperate to connect with another human being”.

[@RaifDerrazi]

I really was. I feel like a LOT of people can relate to that too, ya know? I'm super honored they asked me to talk about living with HIV w/ some amazing people

[@powerpufflesbo]

Raif Derrazi i’m proud of you

[@Chris-fe1kx]

Raif Derrazi thank you for sharing your personal story and for sharing your intake about hiv/aids. You have honestly educated a lot of us!! ❤️❤️

[@Amethyst8x]

Raif Derrazi that was one of the most touching moment I’ve seen lately. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@TheFunnystuffwebshow]

Raif Derrazi we all are so desperate for human interaction. I feel you 💙💙💙

[@artificialgummies7416]

Curse anyone who knows they have this illness yet they continue to intercourse without telling their partner and with the intention of passing it. Edit: Due to popular demand, I decided to change “Screw anyone” to “curse anyone”. It seemed a bit contradictory anyways 😅

[@elijahtrent21]

Facts

[@cielphantomhive2197]

That is so scary

[@lalalae_]

*say it louder for the people in the bacc*

[@smollsquishytaeil]

Yes

[@hayes2132]

you probably shouldn’t screw those people

[@pogchamp3846]

Zebra guy is on a whole other level of cool- fr, i think that outfit literally only works on him

[@crumbsoda9088]

he has a yt channel its lbtwink

[@503zzach]

His outfit remind me from the 80's era.

[@alexoliveras2947]

At the start of the video my eyes kept going to him thinking 'he looks so cool' lol

[@miicah1k592]

cali cieffi it doesn’t tho 🤮

[@pogchamp3846]

Miicah1k ok...well i think it does. you don’t have to.

[@cammie8927]

Jubilee coming out with some interesting videos, I’m living for this

[@RaifDerrazi]

Yayyy, glad you appreciate us all talking about our lives

[@triton6083]

Otosaka Yuu yeah very empty ;(

[@morningcoffee9429]

cammie ok

[@sweetsalvation7143]

Live for Christ. Please

[@TicklishCrown]

To not disclose is completely unacceptable. Enough said.

[@martialartsnerd7673]

👏 👏 👏 I think it’s a felony in some states.

[@RaifDerrazi]

@Leachking PLA Mmmm...i'm gonna say the person who killed a woman is the one who is selfish and evil lol...

[@RaifDerrazi]

you're arrested for first-degree clownery luv That’s right 🙏🏽

[@baileyvdm04]

@@RaifDerrazi Of course killing someone is evil, but it is also evil and cruel to not disclose your HIV status to someone before intercourse.

[@martialartsnerd7673]

Bailey Khan It’s actually a felony in my state

[@humansatan9968]

“Do all depressed people think the same?” I’d really like to see that being done🖤

[@alexacosta3655]

I read dressed lol 🙈

[@TheAustynCr8on]

alex acosta I read desperate lol I’m tired

[@natalie9641]

they did suicide survivors

[@ismaenciso301]

They did so suicide survivors think the same so its similar

[@TheBoeboe]

@@natalie9641 you dont have to be dpressed to be suicidal

[@Nate-vk7gu]

Lying about you’re status to a partner should be a felony

[@Vrjm81]

It is a felony if you pass it to them

[@Nate-vk7gu]

Vanessa Rodriguez only in some states

[@ntb1132]

Lol we have the same name

[@souppastes5519]

It is.

[@Mulletmommy_]

It’s actually illegal

[@kylledeguzman1587]

"you aren't your diagnosis, it's not who you are" a lil louder for the ppl at the back!!

[@RaifDerrazi]

Right?! Glad you agree. Super honored they asked me to talk about living with HIV w/ some amazing people

[@ashton370]

flase

[@justshady]

Say for the mentally ill

[@noodles1291]

Kylle De Guzman I think this applies to everyone with a serious diagnosis, very wise words

[@joshneumann2513]

Well I mean you are if you dont want to die

[@CmamaL]

"i found out because my doctor let it slip" that's so unfortunate that you have to learn something like that about yourself because of someone else being careless with their words especially a child. that's not just something you blurt out.

[@femininechaos4931]

Um that’s his doctor? His doctor had a responsibility to discuss his illness, his parents shouldn’t have been so over protective

[@SnazzyArcade]

@@femininechaos4931 he was only ELEVEN and dealing with a highly stigmatized, and, at the time, possibly fatal illness. Would you want your kid to worry about the possibility of them dying? Clearly his mom would have talked to him about it at some point.

[@beatriceolivier8438]

the mom should’ve told him

[@femininechaos4931]

SnazzyArcade I’m sorry but the sooner you tell a child the better. If he grew up knowing he had HIV since he was little it wouldn’t have been traumatizing because that’s all he would have known. Compared to lying to him his whole life and then drop a bombshell that he has HIV. It’s more hurtful to a child to create a false reality for them and tell them their whole life has been a lie.

[@joelcampos8795]

Honestly, that was the perfect time for him to find out. He was about to hit puberty and possibly become sexually active.

[@3103-q6z]

love these “taboo” topics being discussed making the world a better place✊

[@RaifDerrazi]

Hell yes

[@aspiknf]

They haven't been taboo topics for years, these things were taboo decades ago...but since the noughties these topics haven't been taboo imo

[@gerra0112]

Taboo? Nope its not taboo

[@sweetsalvation7143]

Yeah . And stop screwing around

[@T1mesAreHard]

In Canada, its a crime to not disclose your HIV status before engaging in a sexual activity. Yes, it requires a "realistic possibility of transmission" but the HIV virus mutates with every replication. Just because your viral load is low now, it may not be in a month from now regardless of what you may be doing to treat it. Unless you get tested every day how likely is it that someone always knows their viral load status at the time of sexual activity? Just disclose and let what happens, happen, rather than potentially ruining someone else's life.

[@trevor_corey8037]

This is actually somewhat true in regards to the replication and mutation. The antivirals actually stop the replication cycle . It doesn’t get far enough to mutate. So there is no transmission risk is someone is atop their medicine. Purely speaking from a molecular biology POV. No word on the Canada law

[@T1mesAreHard]

​@@trevor_corey8037 Sure, I'm not doubting the effectivness of HIV treatments in general, but can you definitively say that they work perfectly 100% of the time? As with most things in medicine/microbiology, other factors, environmental or otherwise, could negatively impact the treatment's efficacy. If only one person got infected with HIV due to the treatment not fully working as intended, then the law still serves a very important function in this regard.

[@trevor_corey8037]

@@T1mesAreHard well to that I say well said. I’m actually surprised there is such a law in Canada and not the US. I agree it is immoral to not let someone know

[@reginaldmerriweather4713]

Yes it does work all the time as long as you stay on top of your medicine

[@tipusensei]

This was a dark topic. But it was something that had to be discussed.

[@RaifDerrazi]

And that's why it's so important too! It shouldn't be a dark topic. I'm super honored they asked me to talk about living with HIV w/ some amazing people

[@Ghyybu]

I’m going

[@meena9134]

I think this discussion proved that it isn’t a dark topic at all✨

[@hinde64]

Not dark. I’m glad we got to learn more about it through these amazing people

[@tamtamr9081]

@@RaifDerrazi are you straight or gay?

[@fr0stmourn3]

I don't care if it ruins the "heat of the moment" you technically have not received full consent because that partner might not want to have sex even if they know its not transmittable.

[@unluckyomen13]

I can understand that it is difficult suffering from HIV and their is a stigma attached to it. BUT it isn't ok to LIE about your status. Like you said, it feels like full consent wasn't given.

[@jameson6789]

Worldwide JIN-tleman! Yeah, I didn’t get hiv but my ex did not tell me what diseases she had from being a recovering addict. & ultimately it was transmitted to me. I take medicine and it doesn’t affect my daily life but I wish I was told. I would have still dated her but I would’ve been safer. But 🤷‍♂️ live and learn.

[@adelmoricardo7745]

I was waiting for someone to correct him! It’s selfish and all about consent

[@MrCorky911]

I agree it's wrong. But I also understand why they don't want to tell if they're undetectable. Even when you're undetectable the vast majority of people won't have sex with you so basically because you're doing the right thing, you will never ever have sex again. I think it must be incredibly frustrating being shot down time after time because other people are paranoid and are ignorant of what "undetectable" means.

[@joetroutt7425]

@@MrCorky911 what about not only informing your partner about your status but also the possibility of your partner who you have confided in going around telling all their friends who may some of your friends who don't know about your status and then getting weird looks, whispers, sideways comments and even teasing bc you told one person.

[@stephanieramas4859]

Is still wrong to not tell your partner about it.

[@meldonuk4101]

StephanieRamas yes

[@lwolf101]

StephanieRamas it’s illegal

[@kendallpoorman6926]

Yes, it’s actually extremely illegal, so much so that every new HIV infection is reported to the CDC (I believe).

[@TheFishWhat]

i think its fine if they know theyre undetectable. who cares

[@serenahopes7130]

TheFishWhat. relationships should be truthful 100%.

[@richardswinton5436]

Damn that's scary, they don't feel like they have to say they have HIV/AIDS before sex.

[@PrinceRageta3]

Richard Swinton you don’t have to tell them if you’re viral load is undetectable

[@ZanayaNishale]

crazy world...I feel like thats a moral responsibility...

[@KayKashi]

That’s all you got out of this

[@aanyaprabhu9612]

she explained the whole 'u = u' thing

[@mistym0rning]

@@aanyaprabhu9612 -- I would still want to know before having sex. Because if we start a relationship and someone tells me after weeks or months, it would make me feel that perhaps they're keeping other things from me as well. It would just break all trust.

[@d_a_n_a.]

“Do all single parents think the same?”

[@alyssalove113]

No, no one cares.

[@somonyratana]

@@alyssalove113 isn't it ironic that you actually take your time to reply on something that you 'don't care' about. I mean if i were in your place, i would just ignore it lol

[@s.j.t6006]

@@alyssalove113 the likes strongly disagrees with you

[@Ghyybu]

Ratana OnceMoo stfu

[@somonyratana]

@@Ghyybu Sweetie. You don't speak that kind of language with some random strangers on the internet. If you can't be nice, be quite 🤫🤫

[@ansleymoore9716]

A video idea: “Do all people with Borderline Personality Disorder think the same” It is a highly stigmatized disorder and I think a video would be so moving and necessary.

[@theyoutubeanalyst3731]

Do all bipolar people think the same would be cool too

[@Stelasl99]

Yes!!

[@njux1871]

Fantastic idea. :)

[@imid3440]

yes please! i volunteer as tribute

[@alexandrucristian8797]

Do a video about OCD

[@germanmarine6582]

I wish they asked, “should giving someone hiv unknowingly be a crime?” Edit: what I actually meant was that the person with hiv knew, but didn’t tell their partner. Edit 2: I know it’s a crime in the US, but the question is: should it be?

[@morgan7463]

3:36 no I think the question is you know you’re giving HIV but the person receiving it is unaware, thus allowing the virus to be transmitted without the persons knowledge.

[@breonawarren1507]

It wouldn’t be considered a crime if You didn’t know that you had HIV, and passed it on. They still chose to have sex with you or share needles with you. Like if this was a trial discussion they will literally tell you that both of you chose to do something potentially dangerous (sharing needles or unprotected sex). Not a victim blame but you aren’t technically a victim. *I’m answering this as if the person who has HIV doesn’t know it & passes it

[@joshuaenzo1282]

in canada it's illegal to lie or not tell about your diagnosis so you can actually sue the person who gave it to you

[@sarahvand3628]

@@joshuaenzo1282 same as in Australia (a big case happened where a guy was lying and gave it to about 15 ppl) he is serving alot of time

[@sarahvand3628]

@@breonawarren1507 it is a crime to not tell a sexual partner if you know you have HIV in many parts of the world now (including some states I believe.. but im not american so I'll leave the Americans to speak on that) there are documentarys on youtube about it "bug spreading"

[@Novah13]

The woman with her whole “why do I even have to say it? It’s undetectable :D” is a little concerning I’ll admit

[@WhatEver-mv6qi]

She is like a loud vegan. Cant stand her. Like okay it shouldnt be stigmatised, but it isnt a cool thing either.

[@Kriistiee]

If nobody asks her why say it.

[@rain-cy6ve]

She said she never lied but i guess she s literally frustrated cause of the stigma. Honestly, i m HIV negative and i wouldn t mind to not be told if the person is undetectable/untrasmitable. If they are not at risk to give it to me, why tell? Seriously, it is a legit fear from them, especially if they live in a small community, think about how shitty it woupd be for everyone to know they got HIV (not AIDS, they are different)

[@jaque1511]

She said she never lied about it. So why are you concerned? Of course she’s gonna be frustrated about her situation

[@09kenedy]

Extremely Concerning!!!

[@rimasaba]

I feel so bad for Joseph & Lexi because it was all out of their control .

[@nimbzclowd]

Yeah ikr the girl too

[@BlueberrySummertime]

Rima Saba , what about the girl?

[@RaifDerrazi]

Don't feel bad for him! He doesn't feel bad for himself. He's happy and living his BEST LIFE.

[@chrisroseman2684]

@Oscar Asso'o that is not what she implied at all oml. They feel bad because they never got to know what it was like NOT to be anything but it. They immediately started out HIV positive

[@rimasaba]

Haha oops ! I didn’t watch far enough in the video to know that she was born with it .... just watched the rest & made the edit . Absolutely am not implying that the rest is at fault , I just said that the two had NO CONTROL .

[@millyk6184]

I disagree. They should totally tell their partners. Disgraceful

[@krazy8653]

MONEY/SUCCESS 10Million it reeks of clownery and homophobia

[@cowmcmoose94]

@@krazy8653 It's true, unfortunately. Not clownery at all.

[@ozurking4748]

@@everettfanor1989 ok boomer

[@duality9930]

Coming out to tell your parents you have hiv can be extremely hard for some people. A lot of people are gonna treat you like you spreadable virus they have to be away from. People just can’t come out and say it because the embarrassment and how some people will think of them.

[@millyk6184]

@@duality9930 weird they treat you like you have a spreadable virus because YOU DO

[@mr.t.1237]

"Do all self-made millionaires think the same?" It would be interesting to see them answer questions about money and life Edit: by self-made I mean they were never rich just average income or below (poverty), then they made their way up

[@EricMtuhuru]

And a middle ground with self made millionaires and family wealth.

[@sperdie8428]

I agree

[@jasminebrown4201]

no millionaire is self made

[@sperdie8428]

@@jasminebrown4201 That's not true. You're honestly saying that to make yourself feel better.

[@ramzy4458]

Get Stephan Graham on here!

[@16ieebet]

"do all asexuals think the same?" Would be pretty interesting to see cause we know so little of asexuality in general.

[@keiltree2710]

Being one, I would love to.

[@erinllwyd2827]

Wait this is such a good idea , i would love to see this!

[@theopulentone1650]

It would be interesting because it's a pretty layered subject. I am an asexual non-libidoists meaning my sex drive is near zero, but many asexuals do enjoy sex despite the lack of sexual attraction. Also, some asexuals are sex-repulsed, I'm not, and despite having no sex drive I enjoy read erotica sometimes. I just find sex to be fascinating, even if it's not my cup of tea lol.

[@obamaslastname7867]

THEY JUST UPLOADED ONE

[@snoopy4554]

@@theopulentone1650 same here!

[@abigailt8231]

Never 👏🏼 ever 👏🏼 lie👏🏼 about👏🏼 your 👏🏼 status👏🏼

[@alexwasike979]

I like that emoji

[@joelmiller2601]

Its not a crime in California.. absolutely ridiculous.

[@kingutoyama9599]

Joel Miller Lol thats sad.

[@riripari2042]

All I need to say is: protection, protection, protection. If you do random hookups and get in some hot and heavy relationship then no matter what use protection and also start taking those HIV prevention pills to be better safe than sorry because they have those now too.

[@geupelboi]

If somebody is inclined to lie about their status, then I don't think you saying what you said is going to compel them to do otherwise.

[@isabellashelburne3525]

Video idea: “Do all people with autism think the same?” I have a large number of family members high-functioning autism, specifically Aspergers, and I know someone with severe autism. I think it would be a really interesting video to see, and also give a voice to those with autism. :)

[@leticialeclair7464]

Isabella Shelburne I was JUST thinking this. My 4 year old son has autism. I would love to hear views from adults with autism.

[@lnbni]

Isabella Shelburne Jesus Isabella, that’s a very nice idea but no need to shout..

[@bsvv252]

no, they dont think at all

[@thtboyjosh_]

vloas bruh

[@Lexightonportia]

And they need to do the whole autism spectrum, this would be interesting.

[@rilyn8934]

"Do all virgins think the same?" This would be interesting. Like if u agree

[@marlonmoncrieffe0728]

Yeah. And it is too bad they are not in New York City; I would volunteer for such an episode.

[@cutiepatutie9742]

This would be so good,good idea

[@ciaras3170]

Short answer no end of video

[@h3llboyyy407]

Adult virgins* no one wants to hear teens talk about virginity lol.

[@rilyn8934]

@@h3llboyyy407 ya

[@ney9400]

Two videos I’d love to see: - Do all sexual assault victims think the same? - Do all feminists think the same?

[@summerrayne9213]

kasimir second one if a no because there r like stages of feminism there are the crazy blue hair girls who think girl should rule the world and there r the reasonable ones who think we r equal

[@char5285]

I know not all feminists think the same. There are good ones, like the ones that preach equality and stuff and the ones that are reverse sexist and invalidate problems of non minorities and stuff :/

[@hh-hq8ns]

@@summerrayne9213 lmfao how many SJW cringe comps have u watched to form that opinion?

[@ashleyford7932]

tracy Star wdym “actual victims”

[@gem6105]

h h none, just life experience

[@kneegah6136]

Karen: I'm HIV positive Co-worker: I thought you were American

[@ge5493]

HAHAHAHAHAHAH

[@wd5739]

I feel like it should be *Co-worker:* I'm HIV positive *Karen:* I thought you were American .....fckin Karen🤦‍♀️.. lol

[@rollindown95]

DEAD

[@faithfaith5154]

Who is Karen?🤔

[@jessican6451]

@@faithfaith5154 karen

[@SimplyFreshdew]

Jubilee’s videos just keep getting better and better 😭 props to your crew for all the hard work!!!

[@RaifDerrazi]

Glad you appreciate this one. Seriously, awesome...and i'm super honored they asked me to talk about my life with HIV

[@IenChi]

Much thanks! Kudos to our director Bonnie who did an amazing job directing!

[@MsHnBK]

And the brave people

[@triton6083]

Nope

[@UrbanDecayLova247]

They been puttin in work! Definitely has gotten better and more interesting over time.

[@mig636]

"I have lied about my status." *disagree* "Well there was that one time..."

[@CruellaDeVil.]

@Leachking PLA Its not that deep if it cant be passed at the time

[@lunenoire7238]

@@CruellaDeVil. Doesn't matter. It's very serious. At least if the person suggests unprotected sex, be upfront about it, otherwise okay

[@CruellaDeVil.]

@@lunenoire7238 true

[@catherinerainville4232]

Someone I know got genital warts because her short time BF didn’t tell her.... she is now scarred for life!! So fn’ wrong!

[@jadejaguar69]

@@catherinerainville4232 that's a completely different issue. If you're undetectable there is no possibility to pass it on

[@Gemini_Woman]

The guy in the zebra print looks like he's time travelled from 1985 and I love it 😀

[@probablynot1368]

It looks like he put a lot of thought and effort into the overall ‘look’. I appreciate that he dressed for the occasion.

[@gentlerob0t]

his instagram is @lbtwink he's also a youtuber :)

[@JoeCnNd]

Lol, I was thinking he looks like a member of steel panther.

[@UnionAdvocate]

And yet they didn’t have anyone who was over 18 in ‘85 on this panel. It appears to be all millennials. Like Gen-X and boomers were literally on the AIDS battlefield.

[@t.s.1156]

Absolutely one of the best casts you guys have ever done. Everyone was sweet and patient and really listened and created great conversation. Loved all of them.

[@RaifDerrazi]

Yay glad you think so! We all had such a blast working together

[@triton6083]

No

[@RaifDerrazi]

@@triton6083 Trollsies 👋

[@jasminewatson7190]

It’s sad that there’s still a stigma. My boyfriend is hiv positive(blood transfusion) it’s sad how scared he is to reveal his status. This video help shed light on hiv.

[@PureFilth23]

There is still a stigma with hiv/aids, which is a reasonable fear people have. I think its important that more people learn about how it is much better these days it is to treating hiv/aids. I would feel the same as him too. Hope he is going okay.

[@ayofro3377]

Jasmine Watson it’s a reasonable fear

[@kenhollis6197]

@@ayofro3377 I don't see why, really. The vast majority of positive people respond well to treatment and become undetectable, which makes it nearly impossible to transmit the virus. Between that, responsible safer sex, and the fact that there is now preexposure prophylaxis, those of us who know our stuff are pretty damn unlikely to contract it.

[@MsDudette21]

@@kenhollis6197 Yeah, *NEARLY*, but not completely. I wouldnt take the risk and I think that's beyond reasonable.

[@sneekz07]

@@kenhollis6197 Let's not pretend that it is as simple as having a cold. Downplaying HIV is doing a disservice. Yes, it's not a death sentence and it can be managed but more education needs to be done to avoid contracting the virus.

[@s.stasiaa]

"Why do we even have to say it, we're undetectable." "It was just the heat of the moment, I didn't wanna ruin it." This is absolutely disgusting. It is extremely wrong to have sex with someone KNOWING you have an STD without getting their consent first. The fact that people even think like this truly terrifies me.

[@nombre1248]

Stephanie Feagin it’s UNTRANSMITTABLE

[@s.stasiaa]

@@nombre1248 So what? The person still has it, regardless. You can't make that decision for someone else on whether or not they would be comfortable being intimate with you knowing you have a disease. Consent matters.

[@sfprettyboi]

I think you're bashfully taking this out of context. Yes, it's wrong. But when the guy said that he admitted that this is when he was fairly new to the diagnosis and was learning to deal with it. There's no excuse, but the reality of the fact is that we often forget that emotion can trump logic when we're in the moment. These are truths, so instead of being bashful we need to be solution oriented.

[@s.stasiaa]

@@sfprettyboi I'm not taking anything out of context. Part of the solution is for people to learn to be more mindful about these kinds of things. If you're aware that you're HIV positive, emotion cannot and should never trump logic when it comes to your sex life, especially if you engage in casual sex. Knowingly putting someone at risk for an STD just because of "the heat of the moment" is horrific. But yeah. It happens. That's why everyone should practice safe sex or don't have sex without the other person agreeing to get tested. You just don't know how other people think.

[@Tootiredforthis14]

So you are basically saying that a person should disclose ANY type of disease before intercourse...diabetes, asthma, heart disease? Those are non-transmitable just like she was saying her diagnosis is.

[@MrMettajin]

This is how many people who understands HIV and totally accepts HIV patients as normal people but do not have an immediate friend who has HIV 👇🏼

[@juanaabad7315]

Not a lot... a lot of the comments are ignorant

[@abbykober866]

horngry that’s ignorant it’s not so easy to transmit that you shouldn’t go near them.

[@giwtaki2000]

I'm so frustrated by the comments. I though I was the misseducated one on this subject , but after reading the comments, I realized that there is still so much ignorance and stigma. So sad..

[@sevag9314]

when raif got emotional i- SOMEBODY HUG HIM PLEASE

[@RaifDerrazi]

Haha, i'll take ALL the hugs!! But thank YOU for the support and the love

[@diaverna]

@@RaifDerrazi I am curious, what is your ethnicity? You seem like many at once haha.

[@tamtamr9081]

yes!!

[@triton6083]

No

[@sevag9314]

Raif Derrazi omg you’re welcome❤️❤️

[@angelantoinette2381]

Aw I loved this. It opened my eyes up a lot more about HIV. I’m happy they don’t let this discourage them from living their life!

[@RaifDerrazi]

So glad you appreciated it Angel! Super honored they asked me to talk about living with HIV w/ some amazing people

[@mrIpodmagic]

They have a lot of balls just to be there.

[@SL-ul3yr]

And even more balls to be the guy admitting that he sexually assaulted someone by lying about his status in order to get consent... and to be every single other participant who didn't call out how wrong that is.

[@lovethetruth953]

@@SL-ul3yr you don’t know what sexual assault means then ... clearly you’re very ignorant . It’s been a year now so i hope you educated yourself since then.

[@phoebecarios5179]

The girl disagreeing that she was ashamed of having HIV yet says that she doesn't have to inform her partner about her status was really interesting tho.

[@essnjora9904]

She didn't say that at all. She said she lets the partners decide whether or not to use condoms

[@joannajourneys]

@@essnjora9904 comprehension skills in the comments are scary lol

[@brookeh21]

@@joannajourneys VERY scary. That's what 4 years of Donald Trump does to the youth. Lol

[@stoopwoop]

@@joannajourneys These comments have so many likes too.. yikes

[@mjvybz]

@@essnjora9904 okay.. so she's letting them decide? Did she tell them before & then let them decide afterwards?

[@sylvie4916]

Joseph seems like a very understanding person. I admire that.

[@RaifDerrazi]

Yes, he's got such a good head on his shoulders. It was so great to work with him on this

[@JosephandCarey]

Thank you so so much for the kind words. 😊

[@DAWAHOVERDUNYA2]

@@RaifDerrazi Hi raif love your videos

[@sydney1657]

“Do All Millionaires Think The Same?”

[@klemensvonmetternich4442]

They’re not gonna waste their time on this lmao

[@JojoBusta]

@@klemensvonmetternich4442 there are more millionaires than you think

[@mayfia]

@@klemensvonmetternich4442 they're doing a spectrum episode with 6 middle class people and 1 millionaire.

[@OfficialNinjaSkillz]

sxpernova A lot of KZbinrs are millionaires nowadays. Having money doesn’t mean you have better things to do 💀

[@dylanccarr]

this is a great idea

[@joydamabel596]

It bothers me that the lady thought it was okay to not tell someone who their having sex with that they have HIV. This was eye opening for me but not in a good way... Edit: I know that the lady said she always tells her partners but the fact that didn’t believe that other people with HIV don’t feel the need to tell their partners is wrong

[@danaliu3295]

She said some times she thinks. But she has always told her partners hence why she stood on the disagree side.

[@melsyoutube]

why? because you don't believe it's actually untransmittable?

[@ahmadshamroukh4008]

she said she understood where he was coming from however she stood on the strongly disagree line, also the guy who did stand on the disagree said that it was only one time when he first got diagnosed.

[@jameson6789]

-- I agree

[@llamaliammm]

Ikr i would feel so cheated. Exp if i made it pretty clear to ask if theyre negative or positive

[@hannahspencer5430]

the dude w the stick is so attractive idek why his face is just perfect

[@paracozms]

yesss

[@nl7887]

exactly what I was thinking, and the way he spoke and portrayed himself doubled it

[@motivationing1012]

yesssss, i like himmmm

[@gldnkltz101]

I don’t understand how Raphael could disagree with “I have lied about my status” when he’s lied about his status...

[@percabethlumity]

Well it was one time when he was still new to his diagnosis and might not have been very educated on it. From what he said, it sounds like he never did it again

[@mayasurbeck1772]

jubilee out here giving us content we didn’t know we needed

[@RaifDerrazi]

Heard that! And super honored they asked me to talk about living with HIV w/ these amazing people

[@momoIand]

@@RaifDerrazi wait did you pass hiv to another person

[@ceaser8999]

2058: “Do all aliens think the same”

[@TJ-jk4ut]

😂😂

[@arbsan8366]

BunchoStuff I SWEAR IF THEY HAVE THIS IN THE FUTURE😂😂😂

[@alexanderchong1916]

BunchoStuff if we had really raided area 51 we would’ve already gotten that video😂

[@rainboebaggins]

BunchoStuff lmfaooooooooo

[@myms9681]

hhahahah yes

[@akarb7]

I can’t even get past how hard Thomas is slaying in that outfit

[@alanwilliams1837]

“Do all therapists think the same?”

[@mckennareeves2764]

The guy said his school taught him “normal” intercourse. Hah my school taught me all about that abstinence.

[@catflores311]

McKenna Reeves !!! My school went through most things! Same sex, regular intercourse, STDs, anatomy, using protection during oral sex (which I didn’t know was even a thing!). They didn’t preach abstinence, they REALLY made sure we knew our resources for testing and birth control. And most importantly, which is to utilize them!

[@fmjjjjn7510]

I was never taught I'm 15

[@abbygriffin9105]

My school taught us about some, but I am not sure if they taught us much about protection. In the 5th grade, they separated the girls and boys and taught us each, separately, about our bodies and how we were expected to develop. They taught us about sex and about man parts and lady parts in the 4th grade and a girl passed out.

[@karligrace3838]

@@catflores311 yep, you gotta be careful with those mouth herpes 😅

[@karligrace3838]

I was taught about heterosexual sex cause I didn't even know being gay was a thing back in grade 5 😂 They did preach abstinence though lol

[@pcprinciple3774]

2:25: "don't touch that gum, you'll get AIDs" "I do have AIDs" "dude, i said don't touch it"

[@beautythroughmyeyes]

You can't pass aids. AIDS is a zone your immune system is in. lol

[@emmanuelowino5062]

😂😭

[@fatoumata930]

@@beautythroughmyeyes holy crap you're the girl

[@beautythroughmyeyes]

@@fatoumata930 hihi

[@ravenyoudontneedtoknowmyla1283]

@@beautythroughmyeyes not gonna lie it also went over my head

[@EnvoyArcher218]

11:01 Love how he just speaks from his heart/lets down his walls to share something so personal. It couldn't have been easy to do that in a room full of strangers but it was humbling to listen to his story in such a raw fashion.

[@jayleej457]

“You are not your diagnosis “ Say it LOUDER for the people in the back👏👏👏

[@RaifDerrazi]

THASS RIGHT! I am NOT my status

[@manchester777]

Difference between HIV and other immunodeficiencies is the means of contracting it. And it is a HUGE difference. At least to me it is.

[@isaiah3872]

@@manchester777 I just reached that part of the video and my response was exactly the same

[@salimparks4506]

Pavlos P you can contract HIV through so many different ways...so how is it different to you?

[@malding8643]

you may not be your diagnosis but the diagnosis is part of you.

[@mr.t.1237]

"Do all diagnosed psychopaths think the same?"

[@commondirtbagz7130]

Mr.T 123 no

[@imnotaweebyounormie547]

Yes. Mental illness is so put under the rug.

[@alyssalove113]

Yes!

[@342O85]

Or sociopaths, it might be hard to find only psychopaths

[@saikisgreenglasses2291]

Orange Juice it might be hard to even get real ones

[@lfcoolg]

"The biggest thing that I can do in my life is give [my father] that forgiveness"

[@virgosrus5733]

Tears

[@teaunnagray2135]

Wow, that person who answered the first question differently than everyone else made SUCH great points. HIV/AIDS can absolutely be a death sentence for some- stigma, lack of access to resources, privilege, education, and so much more can be the difference between life and death for millions who have HIV/AIDS. Great perspective.

[@rachelapostolico3781]

this has to be my favorite episode so far. such real people talking about something everyone is always hush hush about. good job jubilee

[@RaifDerrazi]

Yayyy, glad you liked it Rachel! super honored they asked me to talk about living with HIV w/ these amazing people

[@agni_oh]

@@RaifDerrazi okay but you're so hot omfgggg

[@RaifDerrazi]

@@agni_oh haha daww 🙈

[@JosephandCarey]

So glad you enjoyed it!

[@positivitea6688]

It's scary how casual they're taking it. Undetectable or not, everyone has the right to know this sort of stuff before engaging in it

[@Sofi_821]

But like it's like disclosing any other health issue. Like if you're about to have sex with someone, would you say "oh btw I have a heart condition"? They cannot pass the virus!! I feel like a lot of people forget that.

[@Randomperson-fr1qg]

Sofii Unlike heart conditions, you can still pass on HIV even if you’re undetectable. There is a lot of upkeep involved in staying undetectable and just because you’re undetectable today doesn’t mean you will be tomorrow, or next week. Someone can easily forget their medication and you can become detectable again. So no, it’s not the same thing at all.

[@jadejaguar69]

@@Randomperson-fr1qg you literally cannot pass on HIV if you're undetectable. Even if you happen to miss a dose by one day, your viral load is still going to be low enough to not pass it on. I feel like the people who say they need to disclose don't understand the diagnosis so well and are still afraid of it.

[@Randomperson-fr1qg]

Julius Caesar That doesn’t mean that you’re undetectable for life. Being undetectable one day isn’t an end all be all and there is still a risk to the other person. They need to be notified, period.

[@marshapple]

Even if it's 0.0000001% I need to know.

[@faithfaith5154]

I feel so bad for the guy and the lady who were born with it. Bless them.💞

[@Delano715]

And the woman too... But it gives them a valuable perspective on the issue

[@joyg95]

@@Delano715 the girl never said she was born with it

[@carter-wu7hk]

Joy Gummalla yeah she did

[@davidv.3856]

Joy Gummalla yeah she did that why her and the guy both strongly disagreed

[@faithfaith5154]

Oh yes when I commented i had only heard the guy’s story. I felt bad for him because it’s probably the virus that led to his deformity . Having to live with the virus and deformed... wow it’s a lot

[@bobloblawslawblog5104]

The guy who said he only lied once about having HIV should be in STRONGLY AGREE. It doesn't even matter if it's only once. You lied. You could have transmitted it.

[@denied7616]

well, he couldn't. that's the whole point

[@maheraxo]

You never know crazier thibgs have happened

[@Sapphireia]

You're less likely to contract HIV from an HIV positive person on meds (undetectable) than from someone who hasn't been tested in a while (which is most people).

[@Yihooni]

I bet he lied more than once🙄

[@wishii_3387]

people change hun

[@mial3033]

I think a really interesting one would be “do all comedians think the same” because it would allow the conversation on censorship we witness today :)

[@mayaaa3140]

omg yesssss

[@logan_nowicki]

There is a really good open forumn discussion on KZbin with some really prominent comedians. I believe it's called in the green room. There's a discussion between Bill Burr and Kathy Griffin about censorship and intent vs how a joke is perceived by an audience. They cover all sorts of topics and it's Very worth a watch.

[@_aryyy]

the only thing I'll disagree with was the "it's the same as any other autoimmune disorder" comment... like no it's not. You can't have sex with someone and transmit lupus or hoshimotos... there's a certain level of responsibility and accountability you need to have with hiv

[@bluejunegraduate]

ᴀʀʏʏʏ ღ Agreed!

[@themaxtails]

Her point was that when it's undetectable = untransmittable, THEN it's basically like any other immunodeficiency. It's a disease that affects your immune system but which can't be passed on to another person.

[@bluejunegraduate]

My issues is that I feel like the average person watching this video may not know much about fibromyalgia or autoimmune diseases like MS at all, and may start to associate these with HIV or with being sexually transmitted. Its definitely a misconception that people can already have about these diseases.

[@ifiwsaflowridbearose]

​@@themaxtails I love how you're pulling random facts out of your ass. "undetectable = untransmittable" no it doesn't. You still have HIV and it can be passed on to someone if you are not medicated. That literally implies to everyone that has HIV. It is a TRANSIMITTABLE disease. Just because it effects your immune system doesn't mean anything.

[@Ray03595]

@@ifiwsaflowridbearose You just have poor reading comprehension actually. He said "when it's undetectable". Implying the person is taking their medication as prescribed. And in those cases the chances are essentially zero.

I thought raphael was lying about it during a job interview or to a relative. Jesus he lied to someone he was about to have sex with. That's just awful, dangerous, insensitive and kinda selfish

[@themaxtails]

Not dangerous if you can't pass it on. Also, the other person just asked and trusted him blindly whatever he would say? "You're healthy?" is the stupidest thing you could ask before sex, because someone might be afraid to tell you or they might not even know they have a disease. Just insist on having safer sex and you're good.

[@mrybird4044]

Markus Fuchs, you’re really blaming someone for not assuming they are being lied to when being intimate?.. what a weird cold argument.

[@joetroutt7425]

I was curious at his admittance bc it is deemed a crime if you don't inform your partner about your status.

[@devin7703]

Of course it was selfish. His action was purely self serving. It did nothing to the other person besides strip their rights to make a well informed decision that could effect the rest of their life

[@devin7703]

Joe Troutt it is in deed a prosecutable crime! Along with hepatitis and any other incurable std. people who don’t think it’s dangerous are insane. These diseases, forget low levels, are called INCURABLE for a reason. Furthermore, To reduce these levels you have to ,at the very least ,take medication for the rest of your life. It IS a crime to make that decision for another person.

[@blackice3022]

Undetectable or not, if someone has an STD they should tell the person that they are in a relationship with.

[@K3LM4]

Even when you're undetectable you should tell your partner, he or she deserves to know your situation and don't be afraid, imagine if they find out for someone else and think they're going to get it

[@ChiaraBells]

You should. It's also your chance to tell them that, as the WHO states: "These data have led to an increasing consensus that people who have achieved and maintained undetectable viral load cannot transmit HIV sexually to their partners."

[@whatever5922]

you MUST*

[@theguywhoisaustralian1465]

If someone knowingly gave me HIV or didn't tell me before we had sex I think I might just have to beat them to death.

[@jonathanwennstromm1578]

@@theguywhoisaustralian1465 doubt anyone gives you a disease on purpose. Could imagine people are scared about people they like running off though.. They know nothing will happen, they tell something about it in the first date and more then one person won't continue dating. My guess. Not saying it's right just assuming they thought process...

[@triton6083]

Just use condemns

[@eoeorc8537]

9:59 even if its undetectable the partner still has a right to know...

[@eoeorc8537]

@s b 😬 what if they didnt tell you and now you have some booboo illness😂

[@TaraJ950]

@s b It is, in majority of states it's against the law if you don't inform your partner that you're hiv+.

[@Rubyvipr]

@s b wtf?.. it's not like fibromyalgia where you cant pass it on. It is an auto immune disorder that can be passed

[@RaifDerrazi]

@@TaraJ950 Incorrect, in MOST states you DO NOT have to disclose

[@RaifDerrazi]

If someone is Undetectable and CAN NOT transmit the virus. It's not necessary to disclose their status. It has nothing to DO with the other person at that point. And not everyone who has sex, has sex with someone they're going to see again, can trust etc. So imagine being in a small town and HAVING to tell someone u have HIV...and turns out, that person doesn't like you anymore and goes out and decides to, with malicious intent, tell EVERYONE your private medical business. You can't force a person to give that much power over your private medical issues to anybody. I highly disagree ON a moral stance, I always disclose for myself. Cause i just prefer 100% openness and honesty. But you have to think about the real-world implications and a lot of people here are only thinking from a place of fear for yourself. When, if you're undetectable, you can't get it anyway. So that's ungrounded fear....aka stigma...hence, purpose of the video

[@marmaladehouse7831]

A new friend once told me she was HIV+, and I started to tear up. I thought she was telling me she was going to die young. Then she told me that she was doing well and it was under control. I really didn’t know much about it.

[@RaifDerrazi]

Thanks for sharing...it's such a common thing for people to experience. so glad u appreciate the vid, and super honored they asked me to talk about living with HIV w/ these amazing people

[@kenyannprincess]

That girl pissed me off. If you have it idc if it’s not detectable you should disclose that information.

[@matheuslanerre2895]

Why?

[@kristinakane7968]

@@matheuslanerre2895 Because there are people who don't want to sleep with someone who has HIV: even if the viral load is undetectable, you owe your partner that information.

[@brookeh21]

She said she does. You are a terrible listener.

[@legendaryunclecabral2522]

@@matheuslanerre2895 because you have it... surely if its undetectable its should not be a problem to say it right?

[@matheuslanerre2895]

@@kristinakane7968 Not wanting to sleep with someone just because they got an undetectable virus, is messed up!

[@andreacastro5437]

This was a fantastic episode. Props to jubilee! I just wish there was somebody older, that maybe lived through the 90s crisis

[@RaifDerrazi]

It's true. We don't give enough voice to the older generation that went through some of the WORST of it. I wanna go into depth with that more on my channel. Super honored they asked me to talk about living with HIV w/ some amazing people

[@gematoledo9226]

Yes!!! You have great ideas!! They should do a video with all those people who have lived during that crisis!!! I think it will shed light on what it was like to live during that time.

[@gematoledo9226]

@@RaifDerrazi yes!!! You were amazing!!! Thank you for speaking out!!

[@sophian9105]

I think it’s sadly because very few lived through it.

[@joneldiaz3264]

These taboo topics are awesome, I love it. Thanks Jubilee for sharing this.

[@RaifDerrazi]

And that's exactly the point in this case! It SHOULDN'T be taboo

[@lukydot288]

It's not a taboo though?

[@ASLUHLUHC3]

What's so taboo about just another health issue. Everyone has unprotected sex.

[@ThebigGLRams]

Taboo? When?

[@isaiahsilverstein4412]

Nothing taboo about HIV and that's outdated thinking. In 2013 I self-infected with HIV to diversify my life experience, and if I ever have children, I would want to share this part of my identity with them. It's 2019 and we need to be better.

[@rg-rz3kv]

“Do all cancer survivors think the same?”

[@kearrahabrielle7366]

Sis🤦🏾‍♀️ UNDETECTABLE OR NOT.. it’s still HIV/AIDS...🙄

[@liahamilton8931]

@@ramy8338 If you find out that the person you’ve been having sex with has HIV and didn’t tell you, whether undetectable or not, you’d probably be upset. At least I would be. It’s incurable virus. If you point a gun at my head, I’m gonna be freaked out whether it’s got bullets in it or not.

[@ayoubdado7927]

literally none of these people have aids

[@obitouchiha4739]

@@ayoubdado7927 rewatch the video, you missed someone.

[@m-gd6v]

@@obitouchiha4739 who?

[@ayoubdado7927]

@@obitouchiha4739 which one?

[@lindstheteacher1611]

“You are not your diagnosis”, as a person with Aspergers, I love that. Much love to all these people.

[@RaifDerrazi]

Much love back at you!

[@JusttStoppingBy]

Ass burgers?

[@Andyontherocks]

@J D3 contagious or not having Aspergers is also a difficult thing to deal with in a relationship.

[@scarlettrobinson557]

J D3 but aspergers is a diagnosis which is what the original comment was referring to ?

[@RaifDerrazi]

@J D3 If you are undetectable with HIV you CAN NOT transmit the virus...and at that point, it IS very much like other non-communicable diseases

[@jamyamitchell2766]

When Raif got emotional I was like “SOMEONE GONNA ASK HIM FOR A HUG!”

[@RaifDerrazi]

HAHA awww, i'm a cry baby

[@user-wj1hc4bm1r]

Raif Derrazi bless you

[@selenacasper5691]

Yeah but he was talking about not practicing safe sex which is VERY selfish when you are hiv positive, i have no empathy.

[@raisetheroof1492]

@@selenacasper5691 You could tell he regretted though... I mean, the man cried. Everyone makes mistakes when they're young, and I'm sure he moved on from that experience and changed.

[@RaifDerrazi]

@@user-wj1hc4bm1r Bless you too!

[@erenozcilingir5918]

People who lie about having HIV are like the characters in a zombie movie that hide their bite from the rest of the group and end up putting everyone else’s lives at risk. Edit: Wow, this comment took off. Thanks for the likes guys.

[@sinis5731]

nope, if they are untransmuttable they aren't putting anyone elses life at risk... quite a huge difference u know

[@erenozcilingir5918]

Sini S just because you got a test saying you’re untransmuttable doesn’t mean you are 100% safe. There is always a risk.

[@harryk8696]

@@erenozcilingir5918 there is no risk. unless you stop taking drugs. there has been 0.000 cases where an undetectable person has transmitted the virus

[@waminette]

Sini S you should still tell the other person

[@johnpepperoni1021]

Nope, not the same thing. And I thought this video was meant to educate The ignorant lol

[@Leslie-qo7hy]

wtf they should ALWAYS tell their partners they have HIV.

[@NINAKRAWCZYK]

I think the people that said that are the ones with undetectable hiv (which means you can't pass it to other people)

[@Leslie-qo7hy]

@@NINAKRAWCZYK they should still let their partners know that they have HIV even though it’s undetectable.

[@NINAKRAWCZYK]

@@Leslie-qo7hy I agree with you

[@HanakinSkywalker25]

@Shay Reade there's nothing wrong in letting people know... HIV isn't a joke. It's putting someone's life in danger. When you lie about your status, your partner wouldn't bother to do a HIV test, what if it proceeds to the AIDS level? I mean, they wouldn't take any medication if they assume they don't have HIV, would they? You never know what can happen 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@HanakinSkywalker25]

@Shay Reade there may be no requirement, but its unfair for the partner, isn't it? You can't lie about STDs 🤷‍♀️

[@emilyschultz6437]

If you have time to be “in the heat of the moment”, you had EVEN MORE TIME to disclose that information.

[@AlissahKat]

Exactly, this whole "not talking" thing is honestly a huge problem in society. And it becomes *especially* harmfull when you can actually hurt someone with it.

[@Mariet31]

Or contain yourself, walk away, cold water.... you know.

[@dirtydan5399]

Just like the other person had EVEN MORE TIME to ask/verify about each other status

[@1983OneThe]

but it’s not romantic....imagine: person A: Oh baby I want you person B: Hmmm can’t wait to get a taste of you person A: wait and see what I’ll do to you😉 person B: just one sec... I am HIV positive... but it’s undetectable! Don’t worry kidding, of course you gotta say, when the moment is right 😆

[@wishii_3387]

i agree but if you have never been in his shoes you have no right to judge him- you may or may not have done the same thing if you were in his place, so dont judge others for what you may have or haven't done aswell

[@bdavis5833]

I love how you all aren't afraid to talk about any topic!

[@RaifDerrazi]

Thank you so much! I'm so passionate about creating more visibility around the topic

[@bdavis5833]

@@RaifDerrazi we need that so much now a days!!

[@toxiclollipop5822]

B Davis It’s almost like they signed up to talk about it?

[@RaifDerrazi]

@@bdavis5833 YES, everywhere!

[@RaifDerrazi]

@@toxiclollipop5822 We were approached on social media. we already talk about it. that's how they found us. so it goes hand in hand

[@jasminewatson7190]

I loved when none of them said they were ashamed.

[@RaifDerrazi]

NEVER! we're all totally confident in who we are and know it doesn't define us ;)

[@simonsidorov8315]

@@RaifDerrazi You rock! I do hope scientists eventually are able to come up with a complete cure of hiv

[@triton6083]

Yeah I would definitely be ashamed and I bet they are too

[@RaifDerrazi]

@@simonsidorov8315 Thank you!!

[@RaifDerrazi]

@@YourMom-ny4ri yea wasssup?

[@alexismehr5165]

Could you do one with the Herpes Virus? I feel like people need to be educated on that topic aswell. Because it is something that can also go undetected if you don’t know about it.

[@Andi_andI]

But literally everyone has HPV in some form or another.

[@DAWAHOVERDUNYA2]

But pretty much everyone has a strain of herpes like oral herpes almost everyone has it 99 percent of the world does

[@Isaacdempster1]

Cool Man actually about 85% of America has oral herpes with about 15-40% having the other one. It’s hard for them to find out when most people who have it have 0 symptoms

[@NSGLiv]

80% of the world has herpes lol if you’ve ever had a cold sore or chicken pox in your lifetime than you have herpes you more than likely have it and don’t know

[@kayisokay2253]

Yes!!! Because people also don’t know that HSV-1 can be contracted through oral sex onto the genitalia!

[@stasiam770]

I love that zebra vibe. He’s serving looks.

[@sierrabrooke3444]

Stasia M he has a youtube channel :))

[@sierrabrooke3444]

snuffie -! LB twink

[@bluegod2517]

He looks like a jjba character

[@star-gy7vg]

@@bluegod2517 i was legit about to say that lol i love it

[@sydneyreyes7852]

I’ve watched thomas for a while I was like is that him in the thumbnail?? Lol💜

[@sirstanko]

When he said he didn't have the time to educate his partner and lied about his status and they endorsed it is straight up lying. How can you hope to build trust with someone and grow with them if you can't be honest upfront.

[@myAinAutistic]

It sounded like he didn't intend to do that, it sounded more like a one-night stand situation... I think, that if you are trying to have a special connection or a relationship with someone, is vital to tell them, because is an important part of who you are and your history, but if you don't know and trust the person, is a one encounter situation and you are undetectable and it is not possible to transmit it, it becomes personal sensitive information, and it becomes a choice whether or not to share it

[@yaeli_i_guess]

I agree. Its never excusable. Even if its a one night thing. Even if its undetectable in the moment.

[@1st_b]

nightdreambell27 Disgusting mentality, there’s never justification to not share that level of info.

[@karnalgirl5062]

I mean at least he admitted to lying

[@themaxtails]

Maybe if HIV wasn't so stigmatized, people wouldn't have to lie so much about it. I decided to tell everyone upfront, I even put it publicly on my dating app profile (it's easier than explaining it every time in person for me). But it took some courage to get to that point and be comfortable with it.

[@weenayohannes8428]

Please do “do all school shooting survivors think the same”!!!!

[@triton6083]

Dry af

[@triton6083]

3:36 That I’d watch... good idea 🥳👍

[@mangosaidno]

3:36 yeah like school shooters would be roaming about ....

[@triton6083]

Alana Rabinowitz have some faith in school shooters. Like wtf.

[@mangosaidno]

Capped Anime you have to be kidding me.

[@Isaacdempster1]

How he lied about having HIV but still went to the disagree side..

[@tenten3577]

If it was years and years ago and he is a different person now he can stay there, people change

[@wishii_3387]

..... okay but if you have never been in his shoes you have no right to judge him- you may or may not have done the same thing if you were in his place, so dont judge others for what you may have or haven't done aswell

[@Sophia-fg2dq]

@@wishii_3387 the whole point of the video is to judge and learn from this and yes people will judge if you lie about not having hiv

[@wishii_3387]

@@Sophia-fg2dq ofc people will judge, thats obvious...but should they, especially when its not their place? and the point of the video was supposed to be informational, not to judge others-

[@muzumbwechinganya7557]

This was a good discussion. But I wish they brought more people on that weren’t part of the lgbt+ community. Often I feel what adds to more stigma about hiv is the fact that some people still categorise it as a “gay disease”.

[@engeltjebaleno]

Indeed. And to make it worse the only woman had it by birth

[@Hknasw]

@@engeltjebaleno Yeah. I was kind of disappointed that it was mostly gay men on this episode. Heterosexual men can get it too. I think it reinforced the gay men get HIV stereotype

[@Marie-er6lu]

So true, it's definetly not just gay men.

[@emilycornfoot521]

something like only half or like 60% of ppl have hiv from man on man sex yet it’s seen as a Gay Disease especially during the aids crisis which was NOT good for both gay people & straight people with HIV

[@themaxtails]

While I agree that it's not a "gay disease" and can affect basically everyone, there are social groups that statistically are HIV+ more often in the US and Europe: amab people having sex with men, drug users and sex workers.

[@Demiedren]

The fact that they think it's ok not to to say anything and take that choice away from their partner is horrifying

[@alialahmad4329]

Well yes but from another point of view it can't be transmitted

[@nimbzclowd]

@@alialahmad4329 I love comments like this because if it can't be transmitted then there is nothing to hide right? Why not tell them? And educate them? "Oh but what if they freak out and don't want to have sex with me" well you ain't the first person who struck out haha

[@Demiedren]

@@alialahmad4329 I put it in the same category with the trans people who take away their partners ability to choose if they want to engage in relations. Even if you're ok with it, doesn't mean you have the right to decide that someone else should be ok wit it too.

[@wheatandtares9764]

@@alialahmad4329 Sure it can. Semen viral load is higher in many cases than blood viral load...

[@allisonrapnikas9100]

Ali Alahmad but it’s still so important to be transparent about that kind of thing and let your partner know. Even if you can’t pass it, it shouldn’t be something you hide from them

[@trialsoflife2220]

This one kind of scared me when they talked about not telling there partner or not . You literally to away the someone chance to say no. I dont care if it was heat of the moment or not. Yes I understand undetectable and I have knowledge on h.i.v in being apart of the lgbtq community. So I know about prep and the morning after pill. Yes, it is an auto immune disease but this isnt something you just have ( I know some people are born with it). This isnt something you just develope out of nowhere .H.i.v is passed from person to person unwillingly. I feel like you should have charges brought against you for not telling someone you have h.i.v. Alot of people said they would have made a different decision or the same decision if they would have known but the point is they had the choice to make for themselves. Regardless of how you feel about this disease. People do live full long lives but takening away someones right to choose because your undetectable is unacceptable to me. This isnt something you can just brush off like 'oh well your not going to die from it anymore' . They just seemed so nonchalant about it .

[@sholos4478]

you do usually get charged for not telling your partner having HIV, but in the state they're filming, California , they usually don't.

[@saltlessbread]

Wtf were you expecting? Them to be full despair mode their entire lives? One learns to accept their condition, learn about it and find peace with it. Specially because it is true it's not as worrying as years ago

[@sammierose1150]

TrialsofLife how would you feel if the person was born with it (in other words they didn’t have a choice and learned of it later on)? I’m genuinely curious 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@koala2587]

@@sammierose1150 still tell their partners?I mean either if one is born with it or transmitted by someone else later on they should still tell their partners became you can't consent properly if this info is withheld

[@salimparks4506]

sholos that’s not true, knowingly transferring an std is still a crime in california. passing HIV is just no longer considered a felony

[@kelsa.m.1993]

This is probably one of my favorite Spectrum episodes. Everyone was so optimistic and positive about their diagnosis, and they were so honest and raw with how they approached it. Good on them. Beautiful people

[@camilasuarez4596]

When Raif said he was desperate to connect with another human being it touched that sensitive fiber inside me so bad!!

[@RaifDerrazi]

😭 i'm such a cry baby hehe

[@RockyPoncky]

I literally wanted to cry

[@fmjjjjn7510]

Damn thats sad

[@selenacasper5691]

Wtf?! So risk the other person’s life just because you want a “connection “, that’s just awful!

[@dopamineh3846]

@@selenacasper5691 think he meant before he was diagnosed, he put HIMSELF at risk by not having safe sex because he was that desperate

[@annalisastrub4272]

Isn’t it like lowkey really scary to have this?

[@Flummi1998]

More like high key

[@RaifDerrazi]

Hey Annalisa! Not at all if you get treatment you can live a long and healthy life

[@noahcann7755]

Not even close to being lowkey my friend

[@myermayhem2520]

Not really. It's has become a manageable with medication and is not transmittable if you consistently take the medication.

[@kotosqoposrly]

The scary thing is the ignorance towards it. This fear abstains people from testing themselves making the virus more prevalent because when treated, it is virtually impossible to infect others with it. That is scary.

[@medlprnt]

Jubilee, you put me on the floor crying with the first statement, “Being HIV+ is a death sentence. “. To see those beautiful babies all walk with confidence to the “disagree” side flooded my heart with absolute joy! I grew up in the 70’s and 80’s. By my high school graduation in 1988, I had lost more people than I could count on my fingers and toes. This was beautiful to see🥰 Thank you💋