JUDGE FINDS ENTITLED BRAT IN DIRECT CONTEMPT OF COURT AFTER VIOLENT ATTACK ON HER OWN MOTHER

[@rickhaffner6851]

“I get paid enough to deal with that attitude, Probation Officers do not,” states Judge Hayward, “and I am not going to put this on them.” She is AWESOME.

[@kylezLand]

As someone that could be a probation offticer in another life I love that she said that. Such a real judge

[@skyn0va]

An undeniable show of empathy

[@thatguy4311]

@@kylezLandas someone that could be a unicorn in another life, I agree.

[@catherinemoore2188]

She did put it on probation though..

[@Anonymous38572]

I said the same she’s just awesome. Said straight up she’s not a fit mother and it’s true she acts like a child! The entitlement is crazy

[@thermscissorpunch1787]

A wise woman once told me “Raise your children & raise em right or you’ll have to raise your grandchildren”

[@purplelover9633]

I’ve heard that too

[@DocBree13]

Exactly - her mom is still trying to protect her from her consequences. What a shame.

[@4dyamondx745]

@@DocBree13 the real shame is all of these illegals coming across the border.

[@CeCeMe1]

WHEW!!!!

[@laranditooks9924]

Society is raising these kids now days. I know of parents that raise their children right and they still go astray. That's not true!

[@brendamartin7119]

Her mother needs to stop and let the Judge do her job.

[@Tright2024-e7c]

FAKE COURT CASE. FAKE JUDGE, FAKE ACTORS

[@josedavis4658]

Facts

[@changeintheair9648]

Judge: she is "not fit to be in polite society." LOVED THAT. Haven't heard those words for years. Love this judge and how firm she was with this mouthy, rebellious, and head strong 21 yr old mom.

[@janesmith4h]

Hugs and High-5's all around! She's awesome.

[@lostsauce3855]

How was she a firm judge? She gave a speech instead of actually giving consequences to the woman’s actions. How is “giving a stern talking to” actually going to change anything? Typical soft judge afraid to hand out justice

[@glammaog1love56]

Head wrong not strong😂😂😂😂

[@Esther-lm6pm]

​@@lostsauce3855Exactly! This is all she does..... Walks them to the door and wishes them well in their "relationship"

[@peg530]

WHY does Miss Walker sit in the bathroom when on Zoom with a judge. The young woman has ZERO respect for authority, her kind mother's or herself.

[@ladyejustice9320]

This woman is out of control in part because her mother continues to make excuses for her. She needs to be jailed and take responsibility for attacking her mother.

[@clairebarriault1263]

Best comment EVER

[@hoptoit5910]

Her mother was also talking over the judge and interrupting. What is wrong with these people. The disrespect judges are shown in the court room is just disgusting. The female judges seem to cop it the most and it’s just not on.

[@lifesyphon1]

Exactly! 👏🏼 it’s like the judge can tell her mother won’t ever hold her accountable, do the courts gonna step in and do it for her!

[@PAMELAPORTER-ci7mr]

​@@hoptoit5910 I clerked in a criminal district court when I was in college. Of course, that was then and NO one interrupted the judge, ever. Are people just not taught to respect others?

[@jessicascott6413]

@@hoptoit5910the mother apologized to the judge numerous times. She was just doing her mother instincts cuz she knows how her daughter acts out of control . It's a reflex. Yet u want to focus on the actual victim .

[@bordereau1]

Her mother needs to stop making excuses. The girl needs to go to jail.

[@patricialawson7212]

I’m about to go and hug my 22 year old daughter and thank her for being so kind and respectful her entire life and for being so easy to raise. Every time I watch one of these videos I know just how blessed I am 💖

[@luerodgers1795]

🙏🏾💯💪🏾💪🏾💯💪🏾💪🏾💯💪🏾💪🏾💯💪🏾💪🏾💯🙏🏾

[@bernadettesweeting9888]

Hi​@@luerodgers1795

[@pettiestbettyart]

I always say I have better kids than I have ever deserved, and my youngest (23) went to school and was friends with kids that were addicts and acting out having sex, getting pregnant… and my daughter was the parent of the group, taking care of them, making sure they were eating and hydrated… the only thing she has ever used is the occasional weed, which is legal where we are. I was suddenly paralyzed when she was 18, and this kid has jumped in to be everything from my nurse to my hairdresser 😂 and I make sure the last thing I say to her every night before she closes my door is "thank you, boo" Like I said… better kids than I’ve ever deserved.

[@xDankNuance420]

@@pettiestbettyartPlease find someone else to care for you. It is not your child’s duty!

[@pettiestbettyart]

@@xDankNuance420thanks, they know it’s not their duty… I had another caregiver for a year, and they worried themself into an ulcer. They are adamant about staying with me now, and it’s not like all they do with their days is taking care of me, they have a partner, a social life, they go out on weekends. … it’s maybe 90 minutes of their day, and that’s for a busy day. If I’m ever fully helpless, I’ll carry my dusty ass to a nursing home, but right now, we’re taking care of each other, and that’s ok.

[@MiciousDawn]

“No one deserves your bad day. No one deserves my bad day.” Love this. Everything she said was gold.

[@k3ionafloyd]

That girls entire face changed when the Judge said this!

[@Fletch7453]

She didn't hear a word you said, your Honor.

[@PassiveAgressive319]

Yep. She heard ‘blah blah blah’😅😅

[@shanewilson7994]

Ok I absolutely love this judge, she throws a tantrum and she's going to face consequences for her bad actions.

[@Bongofurry]

You love everything.

[@preacherbillf]

her mom is an enabler

[@lola1372]

Yet she didn't!!

[@brileygabriel4949]

If only her parents had given her those kinds of consequences when she was 2... smh

[@patbooker4328]

She is so lucky she didn't get another kind of judge.

[@horrorluver565]

The foresight that she had for the probation officers just speaks volumes to her character as a judge 👏👏👏

[@phoenixlee7949]

But she still got assigned one

[@SquatCobbler-Cry]

To bad she still gave her probation.

[@ellxdee]

She has an IEP..she has special needs..she needs all the support she can get. I understand the Judge position, but her IEP should warrant a psych eval for her to understand her behavior

[@Anonymous38572]

Still gave her probation though so it’s just talk at the end of the day you judge by actions

[@beepbopboop7727]

@@phoenixlee7949She will violate parole anyway.

[@seemenomore8900]

It took me a looong time to understand that we are not required to be held hostage by our children or any family member.

[@zubetp]

tell me about it. it's hard to unlearn, though, you know how you're not allowed to leave when a parent or a teacher is yelling at you as a kid? i struggled unlearning that as an adult.

[@timelessnow84]

Yes so true. Guilt is no longer my friend

[@IMWeira]

Same here. When I saw the tendrils of cruelty wrapping around my first born , I talked to my husband and he had a big sigh of relief and we moved a thousand miles away. Never looked back. Life has been good.😊❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@davidponseigo8811]

I really like this Judge. She actually seems to care about the people who come through her court.

[@streetleveltech]

She showed firmness and compassion for both the defendant and her mother, as well as concern for whoever might have to serve as her probation officer.

[@jodiforeman3314]

The daughter won’t stop talking on mute

[@pelerin8526]

Great judge

[@GenX1968]

She so wise and puts the message out there so well. God bless her.

[@stephaniecarter5973]

In my opinion, I think she really does care because unfortunately most likely the majority of the people who come through her court are black youth somewhere in this world the black adults we messed up and our kids are paying the price now most young black males and females actually have a criminal record before they turn 18. So yes, I believe she cares. I also believe that she is so tired of seeing our young people come before her court because of some of the things that they have done and can't change it. It can't be undone because somewhere in their life someone did not really, really get it into their mindset that your actions have consequences and you need to be mindful of what you do or how you react when someone has done something to you because we get one time to f****** and that might be our only time and after that it's too late to change it😢

[@marcrose3403]

If she can’t respect her own mother, she will never respect her anyone else. She can’t control her emotions

[@Tybby22]

You don’t get respect for birthing someone. I’m sure there is a reason she don’t respect her mother.

[@robertsari]

Maybe maybe not. You don't know. People act out for no reason. I was rude to my mom for no reason sooo hush​@@Tybby22

[@Skeletongunz992]

This isn’t true at all 😂

[@silvers_ink]

​@@Tybby22A decent person who is mature respects their parents even if they don't think they deserve it. Your parents don't earn your respect, and that's exactly what's wrong with the youth today! They have a false sense of entitlement and think the world owes them something. If you don't respect your parents then you're a 💩 person

[@babygirl0806]

She didn’t have respect for her mom, her mom’s house, her mom’s car and the judge. She doesn’t deserve to have a child. I’m so very glad I didn’t raise a disrespectful child like her.

[@tonyplummer6841]

The fact she hit her mom is despicable!

[@sbl9467]

I clapped 3 times during her speech/lecture. Yes...this judge is Golden!

[@j.103]

This judge should give classes to other judges….they could learn a lot from her……

[@istandinawe6319]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Dleefrlula]

Meeee too!!! I was like “preach” 🙋🏻‍♀️

[@TheRealFumigator]

That statement the judge doesn't want to burden the probation system with her attitude... oh man that was amazing to hear.

[@HorsemenFoundation]

Mom has a "Can't shut up problem" too!

[@Ysndeed]

Exactly

[@denicarobinson7154]

Or she has a trying to save her child problem..

[@josedavis4658]

That's where the daughter got it from

[@susanengel-ix8bl]

This young woman really needs to be ashamed of her self!! Hitting your mother?! That's as low as u can get!!

[@dcg590]

Mother raised her.

[@foxybrown1742]

Couldn't be me. Lol.

[@ElizabethDewey-si6sh]

Well this young woman has never had a spanking which she needed my cousin had so much trouble with his two youngest he took them to a psychiatrist because they weren’t going to be able to go to school and the guy said they needed spankings just a swat on the but to get their attention

[@4dyamondx745]

@@dcg590 that is not always the case. What about these little pink toes children that tell there parents NO, I HATE YOU, AND KILL THEM?

[@4dyamondx745]

@@ElizabethDewey-si6sh BUTT, I totally agree, we got spanking ad it did not hurt us.

[@changeintheair9648]

Her mom played a role into her daughter being way she is - always rescuing and placating. You don't just launch out and punch you mom, take her keys - take her car , then upon return, bust out window unless there is a history of mom going easy on her, giving in and no boundaries. Then mom puts up a boundary - BOOM - get's punched in face, etc. Now with a grandson, grandma is going to be even more compliant with daughter so she doesn't punish her by withholding contact with grandson.

[@seknightime5662]

The daughter is such a manipulator that’s what she’ll do. Use her son as a means to get what she wants from her Mom. Poor child.

[@peopleincourt]

Oh, my God, I don’t know if I was just too offended by her attitude to think that hard, but you’re absolutely right. And that didn’t even occur to me until I read your comment. Well said.

[@peopleincourt]

Yep. 100% agree.

[@staffryte951]

Cannot let her borrow a car or anything else....enabling her ....

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

Mom/Grandma needs to stay firm and consistent. And if she has any inkling that Miss Walker is mistreating her child, she needs to take action to protect that little one.

[@keedinah]

"She's gone learn tuh-day!!!" LOVE THIS

[@debdanton2295]

Absolutely. She learned that if she lets the judge blather on she’ll get none of the consequences that the judge said she would. No jail sentence on the charges or jail time for the contempt, no report to CPS, and she did indeed dump her on a probation officer. If asked, the defendant probably could not repeat one thing the judge said. I wonder if the judges get as tired of hearing themselves speak as we do listening.

[@SweetLilypad]

Her attorney just gave up.

[@marilynseptember21]

He gets paid either way so better not to do much.

[@nikkinicol78]

Her mama gave up too, that's why she is the way she is

[@Autisticbanmeforbeingdifferent]

He looks like he’s getting a migraine

[@PassinGas9934]

He never tried. PD never do.

[@GeorgeJetson1991]

⁠you just like her if you believe that

[@whitejodeci8926]

She needs jail time This young lady has ZERO respect

[@kelleycourtney7485]

Get the poor kid OUT OF HER CUSTODY!!! and at least save him

[@F1obsessedchica]

She’s not a young lady. She’s a young thug.

[@melancholygirl840]

Yeah I'm not sure if momma just worked a lot or if she just has no empathy for others or is just plain mean?

[@nbd6213]

That’s not going to change anything, you’re clueless

[@Tybby22]

Yeah no this judge was on bs

[@MrsLovelyPendragon]

THIS JUDGE NEEDS A WHOLE SHOW! Love her advice ❤

[@grandmakris8935]

Judge Hayward, I believe every child would benefit from listening to what you said today! You are making a huge difference in so many people's lives! God Bless!

[@peopleincourt]

Amen

[@jillspence7227]

Not just every child, every person. I am 72 and I am genuinely thinking about what she said, what a lovely judge, and lady.

[@lauriesisson2625]

Amen!

[@Uncle-Ruckus-]

If the parents would, oh I don't know, PARENT THEIR CHILDREN, maybe this kind of thing would happen less.

[@Theoriginalsparkythemagicpiano]

You know she won’t read what you typed, right?

[@deannablais5845]

This woman isn't sorry for anything. She's just agreeing with the judge to get this over with.

[@wildbil8914]

Thought it was me. Here's to you!🍺

[@purplelover9633]

Is she still a teen?

[@missmandy2049]

@@purplelover9633only mentally.

[@purplelover9633]

@@missmandy2049 exactly why the age of adulthood needs to raise 21-25 smh

[@missmandy2049]

@@purplelover9633 I have to say I disagree with that one. I didn't act like this at 14, let alone 18, my children didn't either, in fact, many people act their age & are responsible, well behaved citizens. If that were to happen, there would be even more violent criminals, including murderers, that would be able to be charged as juveniles, which would mean little punishment, therefore even less of a deterrent than it already is.

[@godlydansr]

Mom needs to be quiet too.

[@michellesimien7727]

I think she needs someone to talk to. I don’t think she’s trying to be disrespectful or an inconvenience.

[@godlydansr]

@@michellesimien7727 I can see that. You may have a point.

[@percyjackson5417]

She’s frustrated and needs to rant

[@dionst.michael1482]

Yup. The defendant was taught well. Lol

[@sustainableplanner]

She’s codependent

[@NotMeGworl]

"You may need to advise her what she needs to do, to undo, what im about to do" Took me smooth out 😂

[@peopleincourt]

lol yup. She’ll do that to you

[@hellothereyouall]

Weak I apologize. I wouldn’t accept it

[@tawanabrown8908]

This was it for me!!!!

[@sociologynut8033]

Tammy Hayward is an extremely admirable judge. She is fair, but firm.

[@jodiforeman3314]

She’s my favorite female she’s like the judge mom and judge Stevens jr They actually do their jobs and give great advice and consequences

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

👩🏾‍⚖️😍🍿☕

[@hannahx3719]

I feel so awful for miss Tremble. You can tell shes just so worried about her grandchild.

[@edy1544]

Mom, is the issue, sweetheart

[@65cj55]

Damn, she's her own worst enemy.

[@keeper6458]

No doubt

[@vagabond251]

It's no surprise to me.

[@Dgafsranger]

That's how it usually is people just can't shut up and listen 😂

[@naesews]

I remember being this angry. the chip on my shoulder could have ended world hunger!

[@jodiforeman3314]

Wait her mom can’t keep quiet either I see where she got this

[@bethroesch2156]

We desperately need more judges like this. So many judges would've just argued with her and let the plea stand. This judge is a BOSS

[@MrsMont91]

Loved the advice from the judge! Everything she said was on point.

[@lyndamac1058]

That judge is brilliant and I was looking at the daughter hoping she was taking it in but I actually don't believe it will. The daughter will break her probation and she will play the victim.

[@thaboomer53]

Once this girl leaves the cameras, she will never comply with her sentence. She thinks she knows better. There is no way in heck this "know it all" will ever complete one part of her sentence.

[@philipem1000]

@@thaboomer53 You might be right but I'm hoping something the judge said sinks in; and if not to her to her mother who will stop trying to run interference for her daughter and just focus on raising the grandson well. I think mom has done the right thing by separating herself from her daughter. OK I'm not optimistic. But 21 is still young, the cognitive and emotional control centers of the brain are still developing. I've seen people make big changes at 25, 35, 45 years of age; sad it didn't happen sooner but it does happen... if not to everyone.

[@Sassyglbeauty]

I mean, there’s a tiny Ray if hope. At least she came back and sat through around 20 min of being schooled.

[@pr1blue18]

Her mom irritating me talking over the judge I see where her daughter gets it from literally 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@luerodgers1795]

💯💪🏾💪🏾💯💪🏾💪🏾💯💪🏾💪🏾💯💪🏾💪🏾💯💪🏾💪🏾💯

[@Henryjohn01]

That’s what I was thinking

[@edward11762]

Indeed. That's where her disrespectful nature comes from. She interrupted the judge too many times

[@CrazyBlogMoments]

I had the same thought when I heard how much her mom talked over the judge.

[@4dyamondx745]

@@CrazyBlogMoments the mom was trying to save her daughter from jail, and most of you people will and have done the same thing to save your child from trouble, it was a bad choice, but the mom is worried about her grand child, b/c I am sure there is no daddy around!! I think that she can turn her life around after this!

[@MarySmith-bc7mf]

This girl will never follow the orders from the judge.

[@missfluffydiva2120]

The defense lawyer is just sitting there rubbing his temple thinking "WTF am I here for?"

[@babygirl0806]

The mom needs to stop trying to help her daughter. Her daughter hit her. Baby stop that crying! I know you love you disrespectful daughter. You’re a mom but it’s not your fault. She’s grown! Mom you’re in the courtroom not your home. You’re safe in the courtroom.

[@coacht1738]

The mother is worried because she don't want her daughter to stop her from seeing her grandbaby.

[@SS-tg8lf]

Which I completely understand 👍. Why would any grandparent want to lose a connection with their grandchildren? I felt sorry for her because of all the daughter put her through.

[@tamipri6841]

However if she is incarcerated, she could more than likely see her grandchild or have emergency custody

[@teddiev2720]

Can relate to that. Just love, love, love my grandkids❤️❤️❤️!

[@Mariem090]

All 50 states allow grandparents to file for get visitation rights

[@debrasamaha3896]

Me and my youngest daughter 29 now had a fight 4 years ago and she still won’t let me she my grandchildren 😢

[@coils4eva]

I really needed to hear this today. Thank you.

[@nickalexander1288]

At first we figured the judge folded after saying 20 days. But the judge knows she'll get violated and end up locked up. If she doesn't violate great. Either way the judge can say she gave her a second chance. These older judges have wisdom one can only learn from living life. Kudos to this judge.

[@SupportTheArts-yo8ox]

Yep. A masterclass.

[@lisala72170]

perfect on purpose by the judge setup to fail cause judge knowsshe wont complete the classes or do community service girl was right mad about that

[@thomasschwartzman4671]

This judge is amazing. I have road rage but she's right, no one deserves my bad day, and my actions might take me from my family that I support. I need to do better. Thanks judge.

[@jodiforeman3314]

I don’t want her walking around I don’t even think she should have this child … well done judge Cps… help this kid

[@pambeforethestorm9784]

​@@jodiforeman3314 CPS is absolutely WORSE for kids unless the parent is an addict or beats them, they 90% of the time do the same in Foster care...Trust I worked with kids in that system. Abominable

[@Loyale1229]

@@pambeforethestorm9784Agreed! And I was in foster care before I got adopted… my foster mom would put me in the basement and throw a pail of water at my head (just the water, the pail wasn’t included) because I wouldn’t stop crying ( I was scared of being in the dark by myself). Foster care is the worst!

[@pambeforethestorm9784]

@Loyale1229 I am so very sorry you had to experience that!! 😢 so happy you were adopted and I pray your family helped you to heal and are still healing! People say "foster care!" As if it is this great things for kids and 9 times out of 10, it's the worst Nightmare! 💖💕💖💕🙏🏽

[@SSmith-eu9vw]

The daughter feels like the kind of girl who wins arguments with a kitchen knife.

[@heatherbaker8596]

This girl has no Idea how lucky she is to have a mother that despite being beaten by her will still stand up and ask for leniency. she is so selfish.

[@peopleincourt]

She’s insanely selfish. The more time I spent with this video editing it, the more angry I got. I feel like the judge did this as a Hail Mary to give them a Hail Mary. I think she’ll be back in jail and mom will raise her grandson. I really hope I’m wrong.

[@timmah7874]

Agreed. There are parents out there that will sell their kids for a pack of cigarettes, who will put them on the street to make a new boy/girlfriend happy. Having parents that love you and still try and help you at your worst is a blessing and this girl has absolutely no appreciation for what she has.

[@DocBree13]

I don’t know, I think her mother should have asked for restitution and held her accountable instead of trying to keep her from facing consequences. I think her mother has enabled her her whole life.

[@DocBree13]

@@peopleincourtI agree - and I really hope we’re both wrong.

[@beekeeper8474]

Mom is supporting such behavior

[@msblaqueink]

When the judge said, “she gone learn today”, I hooped and hollered, the liked and subscribed. This judge out here preaching from the bench of justice and I’m here for it! 😂😂❤❤

[@peopleincourt]

She’s awesome, isn’t she? Lol 🩷

[@AsherSmith-h5t]

Did you also crip walk and jive?

[@queenkoopaa]

@@AsherSmith-h5tdoes it make you feel good to be blatantly racist and ignorant? No? Your poor mom.

[@ashleygalati8013]

I’ve never seen this judge before but I’ll be looking now! What wisdom and insight. Love it 😊

[@vaejoviscarolinanus]

This judge is wise beyond her years, I respect her and I hope she is able to mentor young people who need her help.

[@voiceofreason9238]

Respectfully, I feel like the judge is wise because of her years.

[@jodiforeman3314]

She can but only if they let them and miss Walker won’t

[@SeekingGreetings]

Damn, does she have the wisdom of 100-year-olds ? 😂

[@avanjackson2562]

Justin was just over her and her attitude 😂🤣😂🤣

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

It's his face for me😹😹😹😹🤦🏾‍♀️

[@UntilNecessary444]

Right! I felt that the moment this zoom started 😂

[@avanjackson2562]

@@kayshawnsimmons5585 ok he was like I’m so sick of her and her mess

[@avanjackson2562]

@@UntilNecessary444 IMMEDIATELY he was done

[@hellothereyouall]

Justin needs a vacation 😂

[@bhotism]

The mom can’t be quiet either🙄

[@chanelgodd]

Whole family can’t shut they ass up!!

[@jeanettewoods1724]

My mom told me the same thing when I wouldn’t listen, “you gone need me more than I need you” and she wasn’t lying. I got myself together really quick once reality truly hit. Thank you, mama!

[@belindalee4626]

Mom, I know you heard some people need tough love & you are not the one any more to issue this tough love & this is why the judge,social worker, probation officer & jail will.

[@NonperfectionPerfectionist]

Good for you happy you made a change.

[@colleenlepe1660]

I love this judge.. she has her heart in what she is doing. Bless her ♥

[@troy8485]

This judge understands the concept of hard love. She is awesome and has likely helped many.

[@lydiapaddie7763]

Tough love

[@BigSimpin420]

I can’t believe how some of these people behave in court. It’s just nuts.

[@CODM_AITA_Reddit_Stories]

These people?

[@BigSimpin420]

@@CODM_AITA_Reddit_Stories you don’t understand English? Or you just dumb? Or what’s the problem? These people. It’s right there in plain English Einstein.

[@aliciatargaryen]

Ever since I watch court cases on KZbin I’ve never been so entertained in my life lol

[@mrs.bforlife9279]

What if you encounter them on the street or in a store or in a restaurant. Oh the shenanigans.

[@sheenaperez1882]

I think she have some type of mental illness her mother said she had an IEP in school.

[@hmark29]

Beautiful speech Judge!

[@gregng024]

I could listen to that judge all day. She giving out invaluable life advice by the second. Amazing judge.

[@hiyellagal]

That girl appears completely detached from emotion; yet her mother is sitting up there crying and wiping tears. PLEASE!! Mamma you dropped the ball on raising this child. Coddling children harms them more than you can imagine.

[@fredv7349]

Correct. She didn't raise her child good enough and now the courts are. It's all relative.

[@kelleycourtney7485]

What are talking about??? The brat is a symbol of her upbringing and the mother who saved her and didn't let her have her own consequences. @tf_u_talking_about

[@CxxxTyda]

As scary as it is.. it really can happen to anyone. Don’t excuse her behavior by blaming her mother.

[@PassiveAgressive319]

Nurture vs nature. That girl has a behavorial disorder

[@janicewhites7350]

@hiyellagal What makes you think this 21 year older was coddled by her mother. We don't have the background, don't know how many times she has hit her momma. Who wants to call the cops on your own child? Grown kids make their own choices. Doesn't matter how well you raise them.

[@_beautifullyflawed144]

With all do respect mom, give her some tough love, and a lesson in accountability. YOU need to be the one to start her wake-up call. Coming to court crying and defending her after she stole your car, busted your window and FOUGHT you, is only opening the door for her to do it all over again. What you have to realize as a mother, is that the people in the streets, don't and won't ever feel what you feel for your daughter,. And if she tries that mess with the wrong person, you'll be back in court crying, while giving a victim impact statement. Tough love ma'am, tough love.

[@robertjandorf8125]

Amazing judge. Love the fact that she recognized the defendant was short of an apologetic attitude. We will see this defendant again.

[@QueenOfEverything69]

I wanted to blame the mother so bad BUT as a mom myself, I know first hand that you can raise a child to the best of your abilities but once they grow up around so call friends and change of environment as an adult they can change and become someone you didn’t even know. It’s sad. She seems like a great mom and grandmother

[@tricetaylor7918]

Exactly 💯. We can only raise them right, but once they leave it's up to them. Mine GROWN they know right from wrong.

[@Angie-ci1lp]

There is NO GREATER love than that of a MOTHER🙏🙏❤️

[@prettyangel0921]

This right here. It’s like ppl forget kids have a mind of their own and don’t make their own decisions.

[@michaelpopchuk7432]

from my experience you need a father figure that can step up to behavior later in their life

[@captainmycaptain8334]

@@michaelpopchuk7432 lol. most of the men are just as useless. still being coddled by their own parents well into their 50s. just saw one of these where a 45 yr old had his mom show up to court while he ran off with friends.

[@geriwilliamson1967]

That was powerful. It resonates deep in my soul even at my age-75 yo.

[@PatrickSBellSr]

Well done, Judge. Thank you.

[@awilkins5827]

I see hard lessons in her future. I wonder if this is a situation where the mother indulged her and then tried to set boundaries after it was too late. Awesome judge!!!

[@Collageartist69]

I would be apologizing profusely and begging than she not send me to jail. She is not going to make it. Horrible attitude. When your mother moves away from you for peace, that says a lot.

[@adoculos4521]

According to psychiatrists, If a child is not disciplined/boundaries set by age 9, it's too late.

[@ppw2393]

The mother moving 3 hours a day so she wouldn't be there to enable the daughter, shows that she understands what is needed. Knowing her daughter was placed on a program in school in an attempt to control her bad behavior, shows she has been involved in attempts to straighten her out. The daughter is just willfully contemptuous. Just a solid brat.

[@patriciacook3981]

Her Mom is most the problem!! Stop fixing stuff for things she needs to be accountable for!!!

[@user-kt9ir6bo8z]

Finally, a judge that doesn’t put up with any bs!👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@alaroche]

Thank you Judge. I feel bad for this mother cause she has to deal with this POS just so she can see her grandchild.

[@chickenlittle5095]

You just know she is the type of person to withhold a child just to be a b!tch. The level of disrespect to astounding.

[@thaboomer53]

This is a common problem everywhere. A good grandmother has to put up with a "wild child" just to see a grandchild. very sad.

[@therocinante3443]

She's probably exactly the same, just old enough to have the smarts to pretend in front of a judge. Lots of practice.

[@ghostdemon7936]

She gave birth to her pos!

[@dcg590]

Why do you feel bad? She raised her. I don’t hear anything an about a father. This is her fault. She prob acts the same way. And no husbands to speak of. Welcome to single mothers and the consequences and the repeating cycle of single motherhood and welfare

[@dianefrench1721]

OMG! This is the most respectful, brilliant, caring, individual EVER. AND to be a judge is absolutely the best. This is what our judicial system needs desperately. I wish this judge many blessings!

[@gailmorra]

The judge doesn't need to give a damn speech

[@britbrat1127]

@@gailmorraIs all you do complain? Good Lord, I bet you’re a drag to be around. That judge was amazing. Her reactions to what the girl did to her own mom was great! She couldn’t believe her ears.

[@juliustodd1025]

That young lady is thinking, “Well, if my mother had just given me the car, none of this would have happened. It’s her fault.”

[@colleenpeck6347]

Unfortunately, her entitlement and her mouth are her detriment.

[@CluelessClozie]

This is my first time watching this judge, and oh my goodness is she a blessing! She is firm, doesn’t allow foolishness in her court, but she also tells the defendant before her that they’re not a lost cause, that there is hope and that they can turn things around if they set their pride aside. Can’t wait to see more of her!

[@samprofiler1511]

She wasn't listening, she just wanting the judge to shut up.

[@sethimonfiresis5846]

My mother passed away from cancer about 10 years ago. We had our issues because I was an ungrateful teenager but I wouldn’t even consider putting my hands on her or even raising my voice. The time I spent being her caregiver as a young adult in my 20s after she got sick I’ll forever be grateful for, I hope she knows she was and still is loved and appreciated. I feel like the judges speech has something in it for EVERYONE not even just a stupid ungrateful child like this one. I work in emergency care and it gets hard sometimes but she’s right, NOBODY deserves my bad day!

[@michaelhole5834]

Bless you ! Your patience is beautiful :) doing gods work you are !!!

[@salomewilson9032]

OMGOODNESS! "She's not fit for polite society. "

[@richland99354]

This judge needs to speak at all graduation ceremonies!

[@SeekingGreetings]

🤦🏽‍♀️

[@Angie-ci1lp]

Amen

[@BCNeil]

what to all the white kids?

[@Bigdaylevi]

No 🤣

[@cheyann555]

​@@BCNeil she's eloquent enough to speak to young people of all persuasions. Something tells me she has enough control of the English language to speak to anyone in need of guidance and affirmation actually

[@mrsdsparky]

That judge’s speech got me and my life together and I’m not even on trial

[@ZeeTheFinickyFoodie]

I think this is the first time that I've ever seen Judge Long Hayward, and I love her already. "Nobody deserves my bad day, and nobody deserves yours". I feel so bad for her mom. You can feel the pain she's feeling. She clearly loves her daughter and wants to look out for her and support her. I like to see the goodness in people, so I hope this girl is able to change her life around and gets the help she needs. She clearly has a strong support system.

[@christicovington]

This judge has a beautiful soul. You can tell she really cares about people. I pray for her safety, and much peace and joy in her life. God bless her.

[@nobatime]

That lecture needs to be taught in classes. Wonderfully done!

[@BeckyG-ip2ns]

Love this judge. Moms interference is not helping. I pity the poor child. Sorry, but Granny needs to detach. I've lived through these situations.

[@limeamoeba7664]

I feel so sorry for the mom pleading with the judge.

[@leeroyjenkins6061]

The judge wrongly assumes that this girl actually cares about her son.

[@susanp6057]

Judge Tammi Long Hayward, I like your style. I like the way you handled this case. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Jdwele]

Just Wow. That Judge needs a standing ovation. Everything thing about that Judge was done with pure CLASS. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@megl8566]

This judge is FANTASTIC, she should do talks in schools

[@stephendowling9050]

Judge is powerful to speak for the child!

[@kendallw-tube1754]

PHEW! This judge is auntie! It all came from love and a desire to help this young woman. I love it.

[@josephzubert1688]

That poor mothers heart is broken. God bless

[@Wildmoonlite]

She let her get that way. Even now, she fighting her battles when she knows she’s wrong.

[@washingtonrl]

It’s obvious she gets it from her mother. The mother can’t listen either.

[@britbrat1127]

@@washingtonrlNow where did you get that from? 🙄 the judge was on the mother’s side, and said no such thing.

[@jazzygirl4140]

​​@@washingtonrlYeah, she kept cutting off the judge. That was annoying me. What's the issue with just being quiet ? I'm now understanding how I've managed to get out of tickets and things. Maybe because I act normal and don't speak out of turn. It's maddening.

[@jbuggin8811]

​@@jazzygirl4140she wasn't cutting her off being rude. She was crying & just expressing herself calmly after her daughter did what she did. Yall just be nit picking.

[@ESims-kt5gt]

This young lady isn't listening. It's going in one ear and out the other her body language says it all.

[@angelcltr2]

That’s the most powerful lecture this judge could give…amazing person and someone to look up to.

[@CaemanPadgett]

All of that and the Judge backed down. Breaks my heart that she gave her all that excellent advice and then backed down. If ever someone needed some jail time to reinforce a lesson it was this woman. I was so optimistic. Where will she be when she doesnt like what someone else says and really hurts them?

[@b.g.5965]

I've worked in this field and you honestly never know who is gonna finally hear you and have it click. Give people a chance to prove you wrong. 90% of the time, they won't and you'll see you were right. But every once in awhile someone you thought was a lost cause gets it and turns it around. And those 10% stick with you way more than the 90% who never get it.

[@phoenixlee7949]

She's not one of the 10%

[@NikkiKNuvo]

she had to because of the "my phone went dead" rebuttal. It was a valid defense, unfortunately lol. Prior to that, the judge thought she had just ended the call out of disrespect. That's what prompted the punishment. When that was negated -- on the record -- the judge had to withdraw the punishment.

[@marieross]

Waste of space daughter. Mum you stop enabling her behaviour. Feel sorry for the child.

[@azmenjohnson7669]

Teachable moment....hope it works out. Not convinced but you never know.

[@jmrenza]

Hi Granny , Nancy and husband.....I absolutely loooove how your family interacts with one another! Nancy I can just hear the love you have for your precious Mom every time you giggle. Soooo adorable. I can just tell how much you adore your Mom. I lost my Amazing Saint of a Mom in 2014 ....God Bless her....and I would have loved to have the chance to do EXACTLY what you are doing.....preserving your Mother's memories! I can't tell you how many times I wish I could hear her sweet voice and laughter again! God Bless all of you. Happy Easter to you Granny and your beautiful family. I love your genuine personality and I'm also happy you recovered from your surgery. Xoxo. Julia from Buffalo.

[@marcusyoung2081]

Special education needs in school with behavioral issues then violent behavior issues and jail time as an adult. She either has a long hard road or a short sad road ahead of her. 😔

[@antdogg5041]

This is embarrassing and her mother has allowed this behavior now it’s out of control 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@KeoniProductions]

How do you know that. We've seen shitty posters with great kids and great parents with shitty kids. We all grew up with friends. I've seen good friends as teens just turn into assholes and I've seen the opposite.

[@Mrs-O]

​@Wheeler63 Now you know he ain't at work 😒

[@JAM661]

Why are you just blaming the mother. Where the hell is the Dad? Where is the hell is society? Did you ever hear it takes a village to raise a child. The fact that 80% of black babies are born out of wedlock tell me that the black community has a huge Dad problem. Meanwhile sometime kids turn out bad especially with single working mothers. A single mother working cannot watch the kids 24 hours a day and kids get a lot of outside very negative influnace parents cannot control. Even the best parent can have kids who are irresponsible, get into drugs and big trouble. I certainly do not blame my Mother for my mistake as a adult so why would you blame the mother for her daughter? The mother was concern about the no contact part of the plea because she wanted to see her grandchild. And you are blaming her for that? But I also think the other problem I find in so many of these hearings, is that the defendants are at a huge disadvantage in these zoom hearing. One problem is it does not feel like you are in a hearing. There are usually things happening around you that can be distracting because you are in your home and not a courtroom. Also because the judge want to see a upclose of you face they can take every expession on your face as being a snarky comment when in a courtroom you would be far enough away the judge would not be so overly judging every facial expression and taking it personally. In a courtroom you can write something on paper or wisper to your lawyer if you have a qustion and they can sort of guide you when it is OK to speak ect. I also wonder how many are being advised by there lawyer about courtroom etiquette how to behave in dress and they should see a zoom meeting just as if they were in the courtroom itself and treat it as such. When I went in a for SS disability hearing my lawyer spent a 30 min meeting with me telling me what to wear, he went over my answer over the question most likely to be asked and how to even how to respond if the judge makes a joke. Smile but do not laugh to much because your are in pain. Then I have seen some judge throw a fit getting really mad when there are connection problems or the defendant has a problem with unmuting the phone or something. None of those thing help the defentant. Maybe more convient for the lawyer and everybody else but if you're in court it's best to actually be in court instead of doing this crap and hoping you have no problem with your phone and then get a bench warrent.

[@JAM661]

​@Wheeler63Chances there is no active Dad since 80% of black babies in this country are born out of wedlock. You can raise the best kids and then they get in the wrong crowd in school and find the wrong site on the internet and even the best kids can go down. If anything this mother seem fairly responisble because she showed up. She was the victim and she could have dropped the charges or not show up and the state would have to drop it also. She could have said no contact and screw the grandchild. You must think we live in the 1950's today.

[@therocinante3443]

I bet her mother is exactly the same, just old enough to pretend in front of the right people.

[@gloriawelch3603]

This is a really knowledgeable and great judge.

[@rickhaffner6851]

What an insightful and caring Judge. I’d love to see her in an in depth interview talking about her role and experiences on the bench.

[@jasmine7744]

This mom needs to stop interrupting the judge. This is too much.

[@similik101]

This judge was so amazing. Nothing but facts.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

💯💯👩🏾‍⚖️🥰

[@KB-90]

The judge knew EXACTLY what she needed to do. She gave this lil girl who thinks she's a grown woman a second chance because she KNOWS she's gonna fck up again, and when she is back in court, she wont be able to blame anyone but HERSELF when she's taken into custody. She can't use the excuses that the judge was biased against her, that her mom was out to get her, or that her lawyer failed at representing her. The judge set her up to succeed by agreeing to probation, but we ALL know she's gonna fail... I give it 2 weeks... she gon' fck around and find out 😂

[@elainemcginnis7361]

We need so many more judges like her. All kids needs to hear this ❤

[@roxannehouse4408]

OMG, this human has a child?!?!? Poor kid is doomed if she doesn't change her ways!!

[@roxannehouse4408]

... And love this judge❤

[@caroldelaney4700]

A fantastic judge and also so diplomatic.sensible and direct

[@starzmwl9327]

thank you for your lecture. I appreciate it.

[@maryherbst3693]

This judge ~ 5 🌟 She's got a lot of wisdom to share with the world!!!!!