Parents Want Wedding Refund from Son! | Part 3

[@2010mceric]

There's more to this than just the money. You could see the resentment on the mother's face.

[@tate6809]

For sure, it's a very difficult thing for some mothers when they can't play god over their children's lives anymore, you can hear it in her voice when she argues with JJ :(

[@AdaraBalabusta]

@@tate6809 I can see where the parents would perceive that they had been "played," in a way. I mean, the son and his girlfriend finally marry, but then they cannot manage to keep it together for even a few months. It's weird!

[@marcc8837]

I agree, mom needs to let go and allow the cpl to find their way in life. Good luck young people

[@504ever4]

And the discomfort on the father's face, who didn't say a word the whole time.

[@JBJB992]

I wonder if son made a major purchase....like a truck or a trip....and that was the final straw and pushed them for repayment.

[@stormca1972]

Don't have money for a lavish wedding... go to the courthouse.

[@kimm6589]

The mom clearly was pressuring them to do all this stuff.

[@stormca1972]

@@kimm6589 be an adult and stand on your own two feet. Otherwise... entitlement.

[@ygpwnxd_xd752]

@@stormca1972☝🏾👍👍👍 Sadly Their marriage ended within few months, they were living together for 4 years and shld hv continued their live in relationship instead of getting married

[@LuluRay77]

They should’ve had a BACKYARD wedding! 😮

[@dddtrump]

They should've had no wedding at all !

[@victoriadove3363]

🎉 Right 🎉

[@sandrakaye54]

Agree

[@beverlyvantull8452]

4 year relationship before wedding vs 2 month marriage before seperation I hope they work it out and find a way stay together or get back together

[@user-oi9to7ux7k]

@@beverlyvantull8452 Me too. You could tell in the video that they are comfortable with each other and there's still something good between them.

[@Shibbylovess]

That mom’s smirk at the end…says everything we need to know about her

[@vortex7937]

Ikr

[@nonyenwachukwy1652]

What does it say?? So I’m on the same page

[@jazzywarrrior1414]

That she’s petty and just wanted to see them suffer.

[@tinydancer7426]

I round it interesting that Cody's father did open his mouth. His mother did all the talking.

[@newsflash7609]

It's amazing that this couple were even thinking about buying a house when they clearly didn't even have the means to buy a pack of gum.

[@marcc8837]

You are correct!!

[@MissBLally]

😂😂😂

[@overcominglifestrials5316]

Sounds like the MOTHER was pushing all this. She seemed to have her hand in a lot and mad it didn’t work out. It’s more to it than what we’re hearing.

[@gigga143]

i think it was more them doing what his mother wanted. they shouldn’t have went for it as they’re grown but the fact she planned the wedding she wanted them to have and decided they needed to pay a mortgage rather than rent shows she was driving a lot of these decisions.

[@stratfordbaby8572]

No, that's what SHE SAID they were planning to do.

[@CookieWoods.]

Mom must've decided that she doesn't like the daughter-in-law anymore. This whole situation just doesn't feels right!

[@TheCosmicVagabond]

The father is as silent as the Sphinx, It's all very strange.

[@CookieWoods.]

@@TheCosmicVagabond agreed.

[@SelfMadeBum]

I wouldn't like a daughter in law who I helped financially and paid for her wedding, only to have her stiff me and break the marriage soon afterwards either.

[@morganburky6828]

@@SelfMadeBumlol but not the son??? Besides that if that’s how you were going to feel you shouldn’t ever have paid in the first place. Easy peasy, I always float under I only loan money if I’m okay with never seeing it again.

[@bubbaXzone]

Maybe the daughter being in debt along with her personality traits is something the mother didn't want for her son? Also it has said the plantinffs met the girls parents at the wedding event...the first time meeting them. Maybe she didn't care for her parents? something is misssing? something isn't right!

[@kberistain]

The parents were in there to take revenge on her for leaving their precious son. The smirk on the mom’s face when JJ ruled says it all.

[@vessaj4482]

Agree!!

[@sothathappened]

i don't blame the parents for suing. money doesn't grow on trees so for these two idiots to waste the parents money and not give a crap shows the selfish a-holes they are. no good deed goes unpunished

[@shambolicrhetoric6143]

Judy is so inconsistent. They were MARRIED when the debt was created which means it is marital debt and he should have to pay half or leave it to the courts in the divorce.

[@mikes6853]

@@shambolicrhetoric6143it wasn’t marital debt she had that debt coming into the relationship

[@LostSeeJay]

​@@shambolicrhetoric6143they both appeared as defendants so I assume it is considered marital debt

[@neisci]

She's a helicopter parent. She's too involved in their lives. What made her think that someone who cannot pay $1900 is an a position to pay back the money for a wedding? Mother should have minded her business.

[@neisci]

@LuceliaBerger true to that, they are both leeches however, their leeching ways wouldn't have caught the parents had they stayed in their lane.

[@neisci]

@LuceliaBerger I understand,but expecting that from professional leeches it is not a good idea. Some people have no sense of shame nor self-awareness. They are professional takers They'll take until there's nothing else to take. Best not "to give them nothing ". I hope parents have learnt their lesson.

[@AnnaSHLMIAN-t1y]

i am same way my 7 years old son i am like helicopter mom

[@neisci]

@@AnnaSHLMIAN-t1y Good , you are having an opportunity to both foresee your future. Don't waste it.

[@hollystiener16]

yesssss

[@sunnysunshine6271]

So the son hangs out with his parents EVERY week and then the parents decide: Let me sue you on JJ? Sounds like a scam to me.

[@crpsaiyan]

For the wedding, yes. For the house loan, no.

[@tonyhoward7004]

Scam on the loan, yes. The show pays the $1,800 - not the bride.

[@vessaj4482]

When jj said 1800 balance to P, mom smiled as she gathered her papers. Got the $ from the ex (figuratively).

[@alvaro.martinez]

People don't ask to have their cases held at Judy's court. The show picks real ongoing cases in small claims courts all over the country and transfers them to Judy's court. So it's very unlikely that it's a scam.

[@sunnysunshine6271]

@@alvaro.martinez Incorrect, you have to apply to the show! Always been like that.

[@ransom182]

The mom is very pushy and likey interfered in this relationship in every possible way.

[@hollystiener16]

Yeah she seems to be a big part of the problem

[@lachell257]

With as much money she gave them she should have a say!

[@rebekahquin3658]

I’ve been married four months. My husband and I got married in a courthouse. We both had money which we could’ve spent on a wedding but we cared more about being married and saving that money to buy a home. End of the day, I’m married to a good man who treats me well and loves me and goes out of his way to show his love and we didnt need to go into debt to commit to eachother.

[@AlexisRamirez-y8p]

I don't get why people plan weddings and rehearsal dinners when they don't have money it's just dumb.

[@1stp4ward]

Exactly

[@pitch-darkpositivity]

Oh come on you know it was his mom pushing all of this on them.

[@whismerify]

Momma pushed them to get married but they couldn’t take care of a goldfish let alone take care of their bills 😂

[@ImOnAJourney]

The Ps never taught him financial irresponsibility, they just keep opening their wallet instead.

[@popculture4664]

@@ImOnAJourney I think mom was trying to run their lives and kept pushing them.... Get married... Buy a house.

[@peryole]

​@@popculture4664my godmother did the exact same thing, her son now lives in an apartment, is 1/2 million in debt, separated and filed for divorce. She's been divorced for 25 years, not the best person to pressure someone into marriage. He was 19! He had no experience in life. He's 27 now and is lost, he wants to live his life now and does not want to marry again. I have 37 years of experience in life and have been on my death bed 3x's, coincidentally it was all brain injuries, hit by a truck when I was 11, meningitis when I was 21, massive brain bleed and brain surgery at 35... I've traveled the world and worked in various industries, I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up.

[@bubbaXzone]

@@ImOnAJourney I realize learning a bit about money management is very important. I always bought shit i could afford and make sure i have money for the things that need to be paid. I lost my job and i struggling right now but I made some cuts and trying to lower bills and not really going out to eat or buying any nintendo switch games cause i really dont wanna be in debt :(

[@ImOnAJourney]

@@bubbaXzone Stay the course! Live minimally, get yourself another job, live within your income, only buy what you need and not what you want, don’t run your credit card balances up, work yourself into better positions or jobs as you can - even asking for a performance raise doesn’t hurt as long as you are willing to work for it. You’ll be ok … I can feel it in my bones! I wish you all the best in your journey!

[@edsalgado8134]

If you can’t afford a celebration don’t have one, pay for your wedding license and get married that’s it

[@kevinduffy5644]

exactly did a wedding for 1,000 euro and used money saved to buy a house and lasted more than 3 months :)

[@hollystiener16]

The parents could afford it

[@JJPrizeDistributionComittee]

Remember: If someone gives you a gift and then wants to make it a loan, making a payment makes it a loan. I believe the son who said it was offered as a gift, but those are the rules of the game.

[@jedimasters1462]

If the female defendant could have shown the text messages that prove harassment for what was supposed to be a gift, Judge Judy may have ruled differently.

[@mariesmith1616]

I don’t think it was a gift.

[@elvickRULES]

@@jedimasters1462she didn’t even really describe what happened. JJ gave her the chance to describe it and she didn’t even say much of substance about it.

[@jjoh158]

As soon as they said she paid $100 and she said "I’ll pay you back when I can" I knew that was it. Once you say you’ll repay or begin to repay JJ considers that a loan.

[@jdsiv3]

it was definitely a loan

[@thomasludwig9117]

The dad didn't say a word, like maybe he didn't want to be there in the first place.

[@mikeyisbombable]

Can you blame him? Living with his wife seems like torture

[@docfmb1]

With a wife like her he probably never gets a say in anything

[@mikewaters6980]

@LuceliaBergera lot of men are told to stay quiet. Does it look like he would be able to get a word in?

[@joecrawford172]

And on the way to court, SHE drove.

[@mikewaters6980]

@LuceliaBerger a fair point indeed.

[@palasheeafrin7650]

My dad paid everything on my wedding. My husband and I felt so bad. The gift money we received was a huge amount so we decided to hand the money to my dad. My dad refused at first but my husband convinced him said it is small contribution that we can do. Parents do so much for their kids but sometimes we take them for granted.

[@PositivitySpeaks101]

Thank you for saying that!! Sometimes grown children thinks they’re parents owe them or obligated to spend their money.. you are a rare child!! You need to speak to mine .. lol

[@sassygirl340]

Lies! U didn't "hand your dad the money" let's be real! U gave him back SOME of the money if the story is even true

[@palasheeafrin7650]

@@sassygirl340 Thank you for your comment. You don’t know me, I don’t know you so please don’t say anything negative. Yes we did give him some of the money back.

[@lachell257]

I'm glad you said that. I was shocked when the son said he didn't owe the parents any money. Even if he didn't have money to give them, he didn't show any sympathy.

[@MaSin-ih2yz]

So your dad took the money back ?

[@nicoler3687]

So, if they were not separated, and happily married, would the parents still take them to court to pay for the wedding and the "loan"?

[@_Y.Not_]

mother said yes, and I believe her, I think even if they were still married they'd still be in court

[@hollystiener16]

@@_Y.Not_ I don't think so. SHe is the type that likes to be in charge and involved in everything. Controlling

[@lachell257]

No! The financial investment would have been worth it. But now the paid a debt for someone that isn't even a daughter in law.

[@stefania8635]

They lived together they could have paid for their own wedding and what family doesnt meet after 4 years of dating? Thats crazy

[@CorsicaLily]

Mine. Dated 4 years, I met my MIL 3 months before my wedding. Never had a family relationship with my husband's family, and nowadays, I still see her very little. My daughter is 17 and she still struggles to remember her name. It happens.

[@caseyking0917]

The epitome of dysfunction.

[@AshleyFromTX]

The Mother sure did seem to have her hands all over this situation for some reason. Seems like she pressured them to get married when they couldn’t afford it, and it didn’t work out so now she thinks the couple owes her money.

[@josephmburu9337]

Don't lend people more than you can afford to lose

[@Alphaphotographer]

Hope he doesn't need anymore money from his parents anytime soon.

[@billmoran3219]

Well they do have an extra $1800 bucks now

[@LostSeeJay]

If he doesn't grow up soon she's gonna make sure he's dependent on her the rest of his life.

[@TheJeanean]

lol Colonel Sanders over there keeping his mother shut 😂

[@cherylblancher5984]

My first thought

[@nadiabrstak5646]

They should have got married at kfc..a lot " cheaper"😅

[@bravo2966]

Together 4 years, married 2 months. Like a lot of people it seems they fell into the trap of thinking a wedding will fix the problems they were having in their relationship. It doesn't work that way. The wedding is the best it ever gets, so if you're already having problems at that point the marriage is doomed.

[@jedimasters1462]

I'm beginning to think that his parents became the problem, especially his mother. I have the gut feeling that she became more controlling once they were married.

[@andreabradley5837]

That's what I thought when I was 18 and got married. Believe it or not, things actually got worse. I had no idea in my little 18 year old head how ugly relationships could be.

[@shambolicrhetoric6143]

Not necessarily true. I was with my partner for 9 years - very happy - and then we decided to get married. Literally the DAY after we were married, he slowly started changing. He became possessive, verbally abusive and racked up insane levels of debt on our credit cards / emptied the bank accounts. Changed passwords. When I confronted him he said “what are you going to do? Leave me”?. You bet I did. Then he tried to ruin my life to prevent me from leaving. I ended up with nothing but a suitcase and sleeping on the floor at a DV centre. If you had told me that is where we would end at my wedding, I would call you a crazy liar. Some people change after they get the “ownership” set in stone.

[@chrishernandez4266]

At least hopefully they don't have any children together.

[@overcominglifestrials5316]

Sounds like an OVER BEARING mother that NOW has hurt feelings things didn’t work out. People talking about what the defendants COULDN’T afford, but they seem to be the ONLY ONE’S that knew they had financial issues. The defendant mother was too busy “planning” a wedding and talking them into buying a house, as if how much they’re playing for rent is her business. There’s more going on here. She’s pissed off at something, but SHE started paying for stuff a year prior KNOWING the defendant’s financial status. JJ made the right call. JJ was generous to give the plaintiff the “loan” back to clear up her daughter in law’s credit to buy a house the plaintiff was pushing them to buy. 🙄🙄🙄

[@AshleyFromTX]

Exactly! Seemed to me like the mom pressured them into it and now she’s mad and is trying to make it into a loan.

[@AshleyFromTX]

I think the mom coerced them into it tbh. That’s the vibe I got.

[@brigittejoan7139]

My husband and I got married... WE paid for the wedding because WE wanted to get married. Any money that came at us was in a gift card.

[@jenem9618]

Same here. I get irrationally irritated at wedding entitlement.

[@nancybez]

@@jenem9618yes! I think it’s kind of insane when parents throw thousands and thousands of dollars to pay for their kids’ weddings. If you’re grown up enough to get married, then you’re grown up enough to pay for your own wedding.

[@BK-tp6jf]

so what others have diffeent traditions and others have their weddings paid by family and we re all happy to contribute, but in my culture people have the decenc to stay ussually married for a few years at worst

[@JohnFender]

Daddy didn’t say a word. Mom Karen is in control of everything!

[@satiashaw1857]

Wow. Toxic much? The most disturbing thing to me is that he still hangs out with them weekly. The mother complains that the venue wasn't her gift *because* she covered the fiance's bad debt. Then she says that that was a loan too! What exactly is she suggesting she actually gave for the wedding, then, if everything was a loan -- and they didn't ask for anything back for over a year until after the relationship ended? Give me a break.

[@JRspeaking]

Ouch. Defendant should have kept her mouth closed and not agreed it was loan after she already said it was a gift.

[@MaryleeUSA]

I’m glad she did slip up. She was trying to stiff her.

[@QAsession]

Never pay for your kids wedding. You want to get married? You have to be financially able to pay for the wedding and your lifestyle after marriage. She was foolish to have spent all that money on those two.

[@CanadianMonarchist]

Most parents don’t want their kids just to go to a courthouse.

[@ilkka9385]

The biggest joke here is old people telling young people to buy a house. 😅

[@AmandaTexas]

Yes. Unless mom and dad were going to pay for upkeep. They couldn't afford the $1900 bad debt, they sure as heck can't afford upkeep on a house.

[@devonmiller2406]

You also have to remember that this was back in 2018 which is now 6 years ago... many things have changed since then. Hopefully the son has escaped his mother by now.

[@albertafarmer8638]

@@devonmiller2406 Whey should he "escape" from his mom?! This is wicked.

[@lewisedwards4058]

The Mom feels betrayed and feels like a fool- that’s why they’re here. Not so unjustified, but she doesn’t have a case.

[@chopkong]

How do you live together for 4 year, plan a wedding, get married, and then separate 2 months later??? They sound like a foolish couple.

[@jedimasters1462]

Most likely it's due to his mother.

[@sshms414]

Happens alot

[@MelissaBlue]

​@sshms414 exactly. Maybe the longterm relationship hit a plateau (or starting to get a little rocky). An engagement re-energizes the flagging relationship. Then they get married and discover that didn't change any of the issues they were having prior. Heck, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie were together for a decade, finally married, and divorced only 2 years later.

[@Palmstreet-u7x]

will never understand this too, why get married in first place

[@surpresopikachu-tb3xj]

Sometimes things just don’t work out, my angel. Doesn’t mean they’re foolish.

[@acousticshadow4032]

Life is too short & precious to take my kid, &/or their ex, to court over wedding costs.

[@glenngatlin8475]

I think they just want money from the bride. To be petty.

[@sooz5703]

sometimes when you loan people money, them not wanting to pay it back makes you petty

[@JulieBirTV]

Shame on the son for not paying back his parents. Shame on his upbringing. Kids should take care of their parents when they are older, not mooch off of them. Parents take care of you, raise you, give you identity and you want to rip them off of their money? 😠 😮

[@alexcooper1216]

No, the Mom overstepped and offered unsolicited advice and help. He accepted.

[@k.robertrichardson6779]

The parents don't have a leg to stand on as far as the wedding, but yes, daughter-in-law owes them for a personal debt they bailed her out of for the sake of their son, whom she left after just a few weeks.

[@catea2551]

well mother in law was the one pushing that they needed to buy the house. therefore the debt had to be paid off. maybe she should have butt out of their lives a bit.

[@gypsyhermitishtarot]

Stop giving him money. period. Let him grow up...

[@berlina3662]

Not sure why he would still visit his parents especially when they take him and his ex to court.

[@stwida91]

Remember kids, if you don't want to deal with a counterparty, do not meet them halfway, or any FRACTION of the way. As soon as the defendant paid $100 "related to" that personal loan, she had formally indicated that she agreed that it was something she should pay back. As soon as you set a precedent, you are held to that precedent. If she wanted to argue that the $1,900 was a gift and wasn't owed back, she shouldn't have repaid a dime. As soon as she began paying it back, even in just a small increment, she indicated that she understood and agreed the whole thing was owed back.

[@DIDYOUSEETHAT172]

1:02 This is the face of a LIAR!! Why Judy didn't call her on it I don't know. 2:36 I repeat LIAR!! LIAR! LIAR!!

[@kberistain]

So much things and debt that is part of the pressure this new marriage has. No wonder they separated.

[@zuritribe4844]

[@raymondpaddy7004]

Step one: don't name your kid Dakota. Step two: don't meddle in your kid's wedding plans. Step three: show up for the wedding nicely dressed and bearing a carefully wrapped salad-spinner. Make a moving toast. It's that easy.

[@docfmb1]

The mother is too intrusive in her sons life. She needs to find something else to occupy her time. Mother is a Buffalo

[@jamesr1703]

More like elephant.

[@lovej6854]

Right and if you can't afford to get married don't ask mommy and daddy.

[@docfmb1]

@@jamesr1703 elephants are nice buffaloes are not.

[@stratfordbaby8572]

@@lovej6854 WRONG. People get their parents to pay ALL THE TIME.

[@Aaaykaay]

😂

[@carlathomas6257]

If can't afford to pay for own wedding they shouldn't have gotten married...

[@hollystiener16]

Most people do not pay for their own wedding, the parents do

[@ellenrja]

That marriage had no chance of survival with that mother in the picture!!

[@hollystiener16]

he needs to get away from his mother

[@lachell257]

They should be grateful she gave them a lot financially.

[@linedanzer4302]

Defendants are *pretentious* (champagne attitude on a beer budget) and *delusional* (want to buy a house with bad credit). I wonder why they didn't make it...

[@horseandcart5978]

What sort of revolting parents would sue their own kids???

[@MarryOnChain]

Marriage is a sacred union between two individuals, a lifelong commitment to love, support, and cherish each other. A wedding is a beautiful celebration of this bond, a joyous occasion where family and friends gather to witness the beginning of a new chapter filled with love, happiness, and unity.

[@peryole]

My godmother pressured her boys to get married, the youngest got married at 19, he came to me for advice and I told him it was a huge mistake and he knows nothing about the real world. The wife was my age, 10 years older than him. They separated and his mom pressured him to buy a house and get back together, here we are 3 years later and they're getting a divorce and he lives in an apartment. She pressured her older son to get married, his wife was arrested for domestic violence against him. My godmother doesn't give the best advice.

[@McKelT]

The math ain’t mathin. They wanted to get married and buy a house but they couldn’t afford it.

[@silentmessiah1]

Mortgages are cheaper than rent, but only if you have insanely good credit. That is why people are stuck in the renting cycle instead of owning.

[@PrincessZaire100]

No it sounds like they were doing a rent to own arrangement, and the mom came in decided she didn’t like that, so she wanted them to do what she wanted

[@AshleyFromTX]

Idk, I get the impression that the mom wanted the wedding more than both of those kids did. Seemed like those two were the only ones who realized how broke they were, the mom was coercing them imo.

[@PrincessZaire100]

@@AshleyFromTX and judge Judy suspected the same thing when she asked who picked out the table runners and etc. Sounds like they wanted something very informal (if at all) and mom just HAD to have her way

[@CanadianMonarchist]

It doesn’t cost very much to go to the courthouse, but most people want a somewhat fancy wedding.

[@sunnyd6931]

They raised a moocher then he married one. They seem like they were perfect for each other. they live together for 4 years before they even got married they did everything backwards.

[@ImOnAJourney]

I kind of wish JJ would’ve asked if they had children - that would be a disaster for the children 😳🤦🏻

[@lovely-777]

Amen!

[@ariadnaaviles3098]

its actually not backwards. i find it better to live with your partner before before marriage, so you can workout your differences beforehand.

[@lysiaray]

Stats show that the likelihood of your marriage ending in divorce increases when you live together before marrying. I don't know why this generation seems to want to reinvent the wheel.

[@monicavillarreal3902]

Shame on the parents. There supposed to pay for the wedding and expect nothing in return. if it didn't workout well that's life. But them to want their money back. WTF.

[@monnieluna1673]

Thank God the mother got some money back. The couple seem like they gladly had their hand out for money. Like every time they need to pay a large expense they have no money for it. She deserved to be paid back and should have had them sign a promissory note.

[@ФАКДЕМОКРАТ]

This is why I am not married. If I can’t afford to have a wedding , there’s no way I am excepting money from my parents.

[@lynnzucco5049]

Same💯

[@CanadianMonarchist]

You can just go to the courthouse; you don’t have to have an expensive wedding.

[@cogitoergosum5070]

There is more to this than what we are being told!?

[@edcampbell7484]

Shame on the son for screwing over his parents on a “marriage” that only lasted two months.

[@hakunamatata1192]

He didn't screw them over

[@oceanbreeze34]

Which kind of son is he? He should be ashamed of himself letting his parents support them and thinks he doesn't owe them anything. Get a f.... job and pay at least something in return and grow up! Take responsibility for your life 😶😶😶😶

[@CanadianMonarchist]

Most parents try to help out their kids a little after they move out.

[@truelife974]

It was for a wedding, not his dream car. The $1900 was her debt, not his. If they've lived together for nearly 4 years that clearly exhibits a level of independence.

[@creolelady182]

If they can't manage their money- everything else will fall

[@jasminecarroll9788]

If you legitimately don't think you owe on a loan DON'T PAY. "They were harassing me." "I just wanted them to leave me alone." "I felt bad." Paying any money on a loan is an acknowledgment of the debt. I personally don't think the $1900 was a loan originally. The plaintiffs said so themselves that they knew the defendants couldn't afford much. Had the daughter-in-law NOT paid that $100, the judge would have dismissed that part of the case as well. She nearly did it already because she already believed it was BS. The plaintiffs are miserable people. Your son is already going through a separation after probably being pushed into getting married by the mom, who damn near planned the whole thing, and now you're suing him? Sounds like a good way to lose a son to me.

[@mariesmith1616]

Pair of entitled ungrateful people.

[@rdl8878]

The kids have no honour. Sarah should repay the $1,900. My parents had no money when they married. Nothing fancy. A church wedding and the reception at my grandmother’s house and catered by relatives. They were happily married for 58 years until death parted them.

[@joline2730]

I've seen this so many times where a couple live together very amiably THEN get married and it all falls apart. I think the feeling of being 'tied' to one another is a burden they can't accept. The adage "the looser the knot, the tighter the bond" springs to mind. Then, of course, the horrendous expense of doing a wedding also plays a big part of this stress 😏

[@jedimasters1462]

Or she couldn't handle being that tied to his mother.

[@AnnaSHLMIAN-t1y]

i live with my fiance we are togther almost 4 years

[@pennanthills]

Its really sad to see parents, who are clearly ageing, and who have done so much for their children go through so much mental anguish. I agree that these parents should probably not have dragged their son (along with their family’s dirty laundry) onto national television. But I guess the desperation of the situation must have led them to do this. I can see a lot of people blaming this mother, and some of the assumptions people are making could be true - but we don’t know that. We don’t know what really happened and what anyone’s intensions were. What I do know (being in my early 40s and who has parents in their late 70s / early 80s) is that I would never make my parents so unhappy and disappointed that they would have to drag me to court. We need to respect our parents and instead of taking money from them - actually look after them in all manner - physical, mentally and financially support them if required. Even if parents are willing to help kids financially to kick start their lives (they are only doing it from the goodness of their hearts - it’s not business for them)…we should always consider that as a loan of some sort and we should repay it back in some form or manner. If I can’t afford to have a big wedding (because I am living pay check to pay check) - I would not be borrowing and accepting handouts for a big wedding, from anyone.

[@AmandaTexas]

If they could not afford to pay the $1900 bad debt, they couldn't afford to maintain a house either. Houses need stuff all the time and that takes money.

[@kimm6589]

Mortgages in themselves are usually cheaper than rent. By hundreds of dollars a month.

[@AmandaTexas]

@@kimm6589 That's true, but they already don't have the money for the purchase of the house. Or the wedding. Or to pay the past due bill. And they probably wouldn't be able to qualify for a mortgage through a traditional lender, which is why they had an option to buy the house through their lease, "real estate contract". So a rental with option to purchase, if I heard them correctly. Those arrangements usually involve high interest rates. Now throw in an unexpected $10,000 furnace replacement, or the sewer line breaks between the street and the house (two of my personal fears lol). I'm not saying they can't but they probably shouldn't.

[@ligbzd837]

The biggest lesson a parent will learn in life is this: that your adult kids will never ever return the love and money you put into them. So, better be smart on how much you give...

[@bhornannawindeedeigh5007]

I love Judge Judy. She's fair, but firm. It's too bad that the kids' relationship didn't work out; they seem like a cute couple. Good call, Judge. ❤

[@iSheree]

I can’t afford a wedding, I am not having one. That being said, the parents should not pay if they are expecting any money back. If they can’t afford the wedding now, what makes you think they can afford to pay it back?

[@ImOnAJourney]

Champagne thoughts on a beer wallet - they both have grandiose ideas and zero funds to fuel them. If they had bought a house, they would have never made a mortgage payment. Why should they when mommy and daddy open their wallet for him at every turn? The Ps waited about 18 years too long to teach their son how to be independently financially responsible. I suspect her parents did the same. They’ll never learn now. Too set in their ways.

[@elliebellie7816]

Sounds like to much parental interference from sonny boy's mama.

[@MyFellowUncouthAmericans]

Judge Judy has the ultimate MOM look, that special look that can make a POW spill all the information with a single look.

[@blakemrolfsensanchez547]

Sounds to me they were not ready to get married but his mom pushed them into it like they pushed them into buying a house

[@truelife974]

Bingo! I see a lot of people are missing this one.

[@tiffanybrown1001]

I suppose JJ ruled for the plaintiff to help the defendant get out of debt to them

[@electronictrip]

i'm suspicious of the daughter in law lol

[@papril3704]

Judge Judy thank you so much ❤

[@FunWithTheGame400]

cho chung toi thay tinh yeu chien thang tinh yeu dat nuoc

[@stratfordbaby8572]

It's time to move on.

[@cita_m]

Those kids needed to go to the courthouse on their own to get married if they wanted to. Those parents are overly involved in their grown son's life. Renting is not throwing away money. There are smarter ways to invest, but there are equally smart reasons to rent. Cut the cord, everybody!

[@njerikiarie8928]

“The money for the loan?” “Yes”. “And that was 1900 dollars.” “Yes”. Case closed. 😂

[@truelife974]

It's unfortunate that many are failing to realize that this young couple was not interested in getting married. They wouldn't have waited 4 years if they moved in together after only 2 months of dating. Mom wanted the wedding, so she paid for it.

[@peacefreedom4930]

Mom was doing everything JJ: tell me about this $1,900 Son: my mom, my mom, my mom. Mom said this. Mom thought that. Mom did this. JJ: Who selected the flowers Mom: I did JJ: Who selected the decorations Mom: I did Ma’am you were all up in the middle of everything pushing this forward. Stop meddling!

[@jdsiv3]

hmmmm...... I don't think they made a gift of the wedding venue, but JJ wanted to dismiss them altogether. This is a case where her mind was nearly made up and she really didn't want to give the money on the loan either, but felt she had to.

[@rodirogue8187]

Its crazy that people can be together for 4 years, get married and divorce in 3 months and its not uncommon at all

[@OkayMaybe-vq4yr]

How does a marriage last 3 months? Mom clearly not happy with her son's ex.

[@agatanakonieczny2213]

2 months actually

[@hilary729]

I’d say Judge Judy hosts fantastic weddings. No expense spared 😅

[@kemzyacco5629]

His parents sound like meddlers, and bec their investment didn't pan out they sued.

[@SkyDiverTO]

Im guessing the grooms mother is controlling in some sort of way. Hence the quick divorce. Just my guess.

[@sharonv4633]

Get married at the court house.

[@556uwv]

The parents should just take it out of his inheritance lol

[@guygardner8308]

Son just "destroyed" his whole lifetime relationship with his parents over 1800.00, but...sees them every weekend? Wait, what? Something doesn't add up. That's so Raven.

[@anthoneymahateva5851]

Who knows, had they not married, the relationship would have survived. Maybe they would have had children too. Kind of sad that it ended up this way.

[@felixc914]

This mother of the groom will going to repeat her doing to her son future wife. She so controlling until the father have no say. They was separated because of his mother. I knew someone like that in my life. No shame at all.

[@itsnadaaaa]

The mother is undoubtedly a pot stirrer who was meddling in their relationship. Once things went south, she decided to file a lawsuit to get some money back/out of it

[@sweetiepie3359]

Why should the mother pay the girls bad debt.

[@drewizkoollikeicecre]

Although I see the legal aspect, they paid off her debt and was only married for a couple of months. I can see why they were upset.

[@Callidus7SSM]

Same. If their son had any moral compass he would give them something back to make them feel less taken advantage of. I hope they realize that and refuse to bail him out financially in the future.

[@katiejon17]

It is so much easier to just tell your adult kids how much money you have to put towards their wedding, then leave it at that. All of this “loaning”, without any proof of it either way, just ruins relationships.

[@CanadianMonarchist]

Having watched Judge Judy I would NEVER loan money to a friend or relative. Just give them what you can afford.

[@lovej6854]

They owe something because that's messed up.

[@ajfoodiesaiyan]

This whole thing is the mother’s fault. They’re probably not together anymore because of her.

[@aiox82]

And Dad just stood there...

[@miriamkivlehan3498]

I think mom wanted them married with a mortgage and so their four-year playing house was legitimised. I suspect the couple was steered towards marriage and when the deed was done realised that they weren't lifers. Either that, or one of them had an affair.

[@ashleya8532]

You want to be repaid for paying for your child's wedding? What a joke. haha. I'm glad Judge Judy laughed when she heard that haha