Does Dad Owe Ex for Kids' Sports Leagues? | Part 2

[@corneliuswesley6617]

When JJ said “ma’am let’s start with you” I knew this wasn’t gonna go well for her

[@UNCOVR]

Ha, I thought she must have written something dumb in her answer. Pretty close.

[@noniekayokay3166]

yup she never had a chance.

[@SgtMclupus]

Well, she HAD written something stupid in her answer; she claimed the tools were hers and that he abandoned them! 😂

[@christopherclyde7791]

That's the red flag in JJ's court. When she starts with the defendant... the plaintiff seldom speaks.

[@NazriB]

Lies again? Los Angeles Cheap Athletics

[@ryana3679]

The best thing the plaintiff did was remain quiet.

[@323azteca]

Quiet ans honest with his few answers

[@ESGamingCentral]

that's a broken man

[@ryana3679]

@@ESGamingCentral yep

[@markkostka6897]

Worst thing the defendant did was show her vindictiveness and trying to "win" with every word. When a divorced woman thinks she's been wronged she will work 1000 hours to get a nickel from her hubby. So she "wins". Men can too...but they don't have the staying power.

[@ryana3679]

@@markkostka6897 Both men and women can be very vindictive. I agree that women will go to the world to win. Men will go until their attention is diverted.

[@juanitacope9455]

“Kids are turning 18 in March..” 😒so she’s under a deadline & now using their children as WEAPONS to try and punish this man for moving on & having a girlfriend. It really is👆🏼THAT simple🤨

[@Haze1434]

Nail > Head

[@sweetseve1150]

I don't see it that way. Once the kids are in college the child support goes to them. In most cases the support is automatically continued if the kids go to college, but they hadn't reached an agreement for college. With twins the need to make sure that agreement is in writing is pretty important, as even one child in college is a HUGE expense. I think it's in the twins best interest to have it revisited in court.

[@melissaa2337]

​@@sweetseve1150 perhaps it's in the twins best interest to get a job.

[@linexline5763]

It will make you happy to know that my father felt that way too. After he Divorced my Mom and married his girlfriend he never paid a dime of Child-Support and not one dime toward's my college. I worked and went to school at night for 9 years to earn my BA.

[@guccilady1017]

@@melissaa2337o it’s in their best interest to get an education and focus on that and it’s in your best interest to mind your business. See how that works Missy

[@steblair]

The ex wife is clearly trying to punish him for having a new girl friend.

[@hneufvil]

Yep. I don’t understand why he lived with her and later, her mom for all those years. Weird.

[@trekgirl65]

Wrong, just making the father pay his fair share for his children as per divorce decree.

[@afoy550]

How is it punishment to make him pay for half of the kids activities? It seems fair to me

[@codetsfacts2808]

Because it wasn't that big of a concern until he got a girlfriend.

[@SCalvin12]

@@codetsfacts2808 He only stopped when he moved with the girlfriend; up until then, he had been paying. When he stopped is when it became a problem.

[@KC1up]

Why wouldn’t she just let him have his tools in the first place? Seems so petty.

[@SCalvin12]

Why wouldn't he continue to pay half of his kids' sports expenses? Seems so petty.

[@olive.loveee]

probably bc he wasn’t paying his half of their childrens sports so she was thinking she could withhold the tools.. cant rly think of any other reason

[@judithwilber2540]

because he moved out of her moms and got himself a new woman and she was jealous

[@ReyoVR]

She wanted half of the sports money and so held onto his tools as hostage.

[@Fickets]

Because she’s clearly just a vindictive woman.

[@mexicanspec]

I hate it when a parent says "MY" daughter when she is standing next to the other parent.

[@MLife1972]

I'm surprised JJ didn't correct her. She has in the past.

[@MommyLion]

I thought the same thing!

[@ilaser4064]

Yeah, and her 'MY' house, when it only became hers after the divorce. Pisses me off no end the unfair divorce rulings, women are 'entitled' to the family home and compensation. Meanwhile the guy has to start from scratch and pay for the privilege. There's zero chance if I get divorced we aren't halving the assets and debts and I will get 50/50 custody of my kids to ensure both sides are forced to contribute equally. A friend of the family worked out she'd be better off leaving her hubby and doing him for child support, so she could sit on her behind 20 hours per day.

[@sococomfort22s34]

You see how she had a lawyer for the divorce and he didn’t. That’s another things that happens. Women have social programs that give them free lawyers for divorce and men have to pay out of pocket if they can. If they can’t they will get it even worse in the divorce

[@blackbutterflytarot8071]

​@@ilaser4064 he signed the house over to her. He didn't have to.

[@Haze1434]

"You're not allowed in there, tell me what you want" She knows damn well he's not going to be able to name every single item in a workshop. She's trying to steal some of it from him, whether for her to sell or to just be spiteful and throw the rest away. Just let the man in to get his things. Disgusting behaviour.

[@wandasetzer1469]

Or he could have told her what he wanted. Well-drilling tools would not be small.

[@Haze1434]

@@wandasetzer1469 You've clearly never been in a guy's workshop. They'll be hundreds of things, from large tools right down to nails, tacks, screws, widgets, whatyamacallits and thingymabobs.

[@wandasetzer1469]

@@Haze1434 I have my own tools, and since I am divorced I can find them when needed. My husband did not have a tool shed. My aunt was a woodworker and she built a shop (herself) to put all her equipment in, which was worth a lot of money.

[@TheUnseenPath]

@@wandasetzer1469 Or she could not hold his tools hostage and tell him he has no right to be there.

[@traceywett2146]

​@Wanda Setzer I knew you were divorced from your answer 🤦‍♀️...

[@pwl1950]

I'll bet he regrets ever getting involved with this woman. She's vindictive and is retaliating against him.

[@jhutch1681]

You have no idea.

[@gojiberry7201]

I can only think about how JJ hates rustling through papers

[@susanstribe4914]

Poor guy. He'll be paying until he's dead if he's not careful with her. He needs a good lawyer!

[@mattd844]

Shes a toxica!!

[@yvonne3582]

Yes, poor guy living off of his ex-wife for seven years, then his ex-MIL for four. And now refusing to pay his obligations I feel so sad, what a pile of shit. Why shouldn’t he be responsible for money that goes towards his children’s activities? He had already agreed to it in a legally binding agreement, plus she did him a favor by just asking via text instead of going to family court and having a court mandated judgment. Think about why after the divorce he lived in a house where she took over responsibility and then lived for free at the ex-mil, he absolutely looks like a bum.

[@ilaser4064]

@@yvonne3582 🤡

[@prall0915]

I believe that's why Judge Judy asked if they had lawyers. She was giving the x-husband a hint to hire one.

[@TheUnseenPath]

@@yvonne3582 Yeah, his victim of a wife who is bitter, using his kids against him and holding his stuff hostage. He didn't refuse to pay obligations he has his own bills to pay and the kids are almost adults. She's bitter he's moving on when in the future she more than likely will not let him see their kids. He stayed with his MIL, his ELDERLY MIL who needed help, he didn't have to do that. She's a piece of shit. "My daughter" no, it's both your daughters. He has bills to pay she isn't owed shit and she knows the deadline is when they are 18. She looks like an overbearing, bitter witch. He did her a favor moving out. The judge ruled on his side. She sent him a text but was very vague about all of what she wanted. Judge Judy ruled on his side. Period.

[@mgm8675]

Her face twinged when he mentioned the new girlfriend!

[@janus9824]

The plaintiff looks so broken. She basically reset this mans life and now trying to drain everything she can out of him after the fact.

[@trekgirl65]

Wrong. He is the father and made these children and needs to help pay for sports activities to keep the children out of trouble. She is being a great mother to keep them busy.

[@peacefreedom4930]

BS! JJ was so biased. He admitted he stopped paying when he left the mother in law’s. Yet there’s a court order that requires him to pay. He should feel like a bum. He literally failed to provide for his children

[@mslove9191]

I see your point! But he’s always been with his child growing up. Current on child support. He is a part of his children lives. Don’t realize that these sports app for child white expenses. Don’t agree to. You can have some problem… He looks broken and tired…. Good luck to his ex wife in her search for a new man!

[@janus9824]

@@trekgirl65 ​ It’s all about language and her language is all possession. When the judge asked about the cost of the activities at 0:43 the defendant replied “my daughter”. When he asked about the tools at 1:47 she replied with “my property”. She did it again at 3:53 when she said “my son baseballs team”. Her mind is already locked in to Mine, mine, mine and see herself as the sole parent, him as the ATM and the court system as the enforcer.

[@peacefreedom4930]

@@mslove9191 I don’t care about him looking tired. The twins mother isn’t walking around carrying all that extra weight because she’s happy and carefree. Someone has to pay those bills. It’s literally a 50/50 agreement. Yet that able bodied man is leaving the burden on the ex wife. There are plenty of times the custodial parent has to spend more time away from the children to make more money because the non-custodial parents does this. What exactly has him so tired? He isn’t the day to day caregiver. He isn’t taking these kids to their events. What the heck is he doing with all his free time?

[@GardenOfGethsemanie]

It's one thing to make sure the other responsible parent does their part but its a whole other beast when one of the parties is bitter and makes things harder than what they have to be.

[@shelberz1]

Thank you

[@Jermanskitchen]

Sounds just like my mom. She kicked my dad out and held all his belongings for 2 years. Including his passport, social, and other important documents. It was awful! He’s just now getting his belongings back.

[@dinahbrown902]

Why didn’t you help dad?, just curious 😊

[@Jermanskitchen]

@@dinahbrown902 I did as much as I could. He just had to wait out the legal system to finally get his things. She changed the locks and would call the police every time he tried to get his things. Even with a court order to get his things she didn’t let him in. Finally after 3 years he was able to get his things. She laid everything on the front lawn. He’s still missing stuff though. The main thing he needed was his passport, birth certificate, social, so he’s not too concerned about missing smaller items. I don’t talk to my mom to this day. She’s a narcissist and will never change.

[@Xxsorafan]

That is so nasty I’m sorry for that I’m sure it wasn’t easy being in the middle of it

[@markkostka6897]

What sucks is so many times the mom or dad repeats it so many times the kids believe it. I'm glad you saw through the venom and need to win.

[@leniederuyter8177]

Feel so sorry for this man.

[@branbran0609]

He looks so unbothered like... Yep this what I deal with😐

[@MEGIDIOT]

he gives off bum vibes to me

[@TheHunnyBeee]

@@MEGIDIOT He literally pays his Child Support and has a job.

[@ilaser4064]

@@TheHunnyBeee and she got the house and he paid full child support whilst also contributing, yet these muppets claim he's the bum!

[@ms.vasquez1805]

He has a girlfriend that wap healing she gives him is why he is soo calm and just as cool as cucumber 😆

[@Poeticfloetic]

@@MEGIDIOT You are one of those......🥴. A while case is presented with a vindictive ex wife yet "He gives off bum vibes" Lool. You give off Karen vibes.

[@stevecox7075]

Imagine being in a relationship with this bitter, vindictive walrus. 😢

[@ashalangdon7053]

Lol silly

[@alvinlester5698]

Not walrus

[@edwinholcombe2741]

Unfortunately I have known many women like her and I refuse to marry an American woman.

[@mariascott2663]

Sad, very 😔

[@thespear4083]

@@edwinholcombe2741you’re delusional if you believe marrying a foreign woman is safer.

[@silverroses011]

@3:23 it feels like Byrd is giving us The Office look straight at the camera 😂 like "Can you believe this??"

[@saza8993]

The problem I see is this...he moved out of the family home because he was tired of being led by the nose by his ex-wife and wanted to have a new life/ relationship. He moved in with his MIL as she probably needed help due to age. He found a girlfriend, stopped paying for his kids' sports, and started paying for his new life. After all, kids are almost adults now. Now that he has moved out of his elderly MIL'S house, the mom now has to take care of the kids, her mother, and no man to pay or physically assist with any of it. He has a new woman, she has a ton of responsibility and is bitter he is finally moving on and she has no prospects of a future mate due to her bitterness. He should still pay half the sports, but the new court hearing won't force him to pay half the college expenses.

[@sweetseve1150]

They probably won't make him pay for half, but they'll continue the current child support as long as the twins are students.

[@benjaminjackson9449]

@@sweetseve1150 Actually it will most likely lose affect when they’re 18 simply because college is considered a luxury and not a necessity. Children aren’t required to go to college so it’s the mom or kids job to pay if they want to go. He can provide half or a certain amount if he wants, but the courts can’t order him to pay that.

[@thatnytedaez9445]

He gave up his share of the house so he doesn't owe her shit.

[@markkostka6897]

You think the man should pay for sports for his kids instead of himself and his new relationship? That's crazy. Kids are almost adults and he's still supposed to pay for a league or high school team? what nonsense. I suppose he needs to get them the new nice phone as well.

[@michellehernandez818]

She’s petty about the tools for sure, but shouldn’t they as parents be sharing the costs for their kids to be in sports? I’m confused as to why everyone is acting like that’s unreasonable and he’s a victim.

[@peggyharkness6236]

He is just hoping that this is over and staying mute smart man

[@BrianErwin]

18 year old kids, child support is over, and he has a new girlfriend. she's salty 😂

[@kennedy98796]

her mom new he was a good guy and her daughter drove him nuts lol

[@Gunna2Flyy]

Right!!! because who moves in with their ex in-laws

[@aggiebaibe6494]

Do good men stay with women without paying rent? Including staying with a x mother in law for two years? Who does that? N then move in with a girlfriend . He’s not good , he’s a deadbeat

[@cal205]

@@aggiebaibe6494Clearly his MIL was on his side.

[@ourladyofguadalupebotanica6732]

@@aggiebaibe6494 You do not move in with your mother in law after a break up unless you are seen to be honorable. And his mother in law did not charge rent. He must be a nice guy.

[@El_Nombre-e3x]

What a money making circus the world is. All that money to put kids in sports programs and clubs. You'd never think the world had troubles

[@jennifermarie3158]

And then there's the poor working class kids who can't afford to have these enriching experience. No wonder the cycle of poverty persists from generation to generation.

[@brackenrobertson799]

…. If they have the money to do it, why wouldn’t they? They both work. Sports helps kids get into college and get scholarships which actually helps out with money in the long run.

[@kimali7477]

@@jennifermarie3158 that’s not true. There are programs that will help pay for your children to play sports. So many scholarship programs out there for low income.

[@kcarter142]

@@kimali7477 you think there's a scholarship for every kid who wants to play a sport but can't afford it? Lmao Are you living on planet Earth?

[@kimali7477]

@@kcarter142 never said for every kid. The only thing u can do is try and see if your child can get a scholarship. But there are ways for your children to play sports. People find ways to fund everything else.

[@carolerobbins9522]

If she wanted more money from him, she should have given his tools back so he could use them to potentially make that money. Why does she have to make life more difficult for everyone? smh

[@HollyFayHolverson777]

I could tell RIGHT OFF THE BAT that JJ did NOT like the ex wife. Right when she said "DON'T PLAY HERE" or something to that effect.

[@franciscopartida2737]

JJ doesn't like anyone who is trying to pull anything from under her. It's fucking insulting. Ex-wife wanted to play word games and JJ likes to streamline.

[@VisualizeHealing]

JJ judges women very harshly.

[@neojazex]

I'd have to assume her answer painted herself in a bad light. Claiming the tools are hers in her answer and couldn't refute the plaintiff in any way just wasted everyones time. Was funny with her explanation of the second texts she says she doesn't want the husband on her property to fetch his tools, adding to confusion. Probably strategically cut-off the first part of the message to align with the answer.

[@alexkrycek3359]

@@VisualizeHealing I think she is the fairest overall

[@ilaser4064]

Yeah starting off with 'MY' house, when it was 'THEIR' house until the divorce. The entitlement is real, so are the butthurt golddiggers in the comments whining him paying full child support whilst still living in the home with the kids wasn't enough...

[@Les445]

Happy Sunday!!! I'm getting "my fix" of Judge Judy.I watch you every day. Thanks for "being you" Judge.✌️❤️🙏

[@showmestateofmind883]

I love Judge Judy. She's always fair to the men who stay involved in their children's lives and keep up with child support. I'm always expecting the father to get screwed, but she never does that. God bless Judge Judy

[@carlawilkinson5831]

He is on the verge of tears.

[@bogibsimmons]

I hate when people do this after a divorce or breaking up. They’ll all nice and the second you move on with your life they start to become the worst person alive because they’re either jealous or whatever just because you moved on with your life. My ex did this to me and it made me so happy we didn’t stay together knowing this is how she really is.

[@Dailygal]

WHEN BYRD GOES OVER TO TAKE EVIDENCE HE LOOKS LIKE HE IS MAD AT THE WORLD. GLAD JJ DIDN’T ASK HIM ON THE NEW SHOWS.

[@Janine-r3d]

Agreed! How can he always be so miserable?

[@didinakiness]

When he mentioned that he moved in with his girlfriend, it all became clear

[@walterjohnson2713]

Why would people have the potential to kick someone out of their life and house and just think they could keep their things as punishment. You know they’re going to lose just like this lady right here.

[@edwinholcombe2741]

And to lose the way she did was real egg in her face, making herself look disgusting.

[@DawnRoache-y9n]

Why don't the children have part-time jobs especially when they are BOTH old enough to work. They can work and still play games.

[@Sunflower-uy4yw]

Maybe because what grades they will receive from high school are more important.

[@jhutch1681]

Depends on where they live. Rural life can make that more challenging. And who knows if they do work, and maybe are saving for college, or purchasing some of their own clothes, etc.

[@blueknight07]

The ex wife is clearly very unhappy. She needs to get over it

[@HungVu-vs3dv]

She definitely need a new man

[@Westindiangyal1111]

Yes a very vindictive Karen. The husband seems like a good guy.

[@Luffy459]

Yea she seems hella crazy to deal with. Otherwise, why would her own mother let the ex-husband stay with if he wasn’t a good person. The mother prob knew that her own daughter is full of crap

[@trekgirl65]

She is raising the children and he needs to pay his fair share.

[@afoy550]

@@Luffy459 he let him live with her for 7 years. And then he moved in next door with her mother for another 4 years. How is she not being next to him. Neither one of them had a lawyer for the divorce. They came to an agreement. How is it better to ask him to pay for what was agreed upon? He didn't even pay rent when he lived at her mother's house. He said he helped with groceries. I'm so confused by people think asking a man to help contribute to his children is a woman being bitter. He admitted in court that he stopped paying when he moved in with the girlfriend except for the child support.

[@mars9313]

The system shows no respect to men unfortunately...luckily judge judy was able to see that this woman was basically using the system to punish her ex for leaving her.

[@amberbiggs]

He signed over half the house and she's coming after him to pay half of baseball?!

[@ilaser4064]

💯

[@hemag93]

He clearly says "when SHE purchased the house, it was in both our names". He didn't say they purchased it together or that he contributed to it in any way.

[@amberbiggs]

@@hemag93 Yes, but keep in mind if they were married and they lived in the house together, it was the matrimonial home meaning it belonged to them both. Sometimes one spouse makes a higher financial contribution, but the other makes a higher contribution to other aspects of married life, such as the caregiving of the children. Upon separation, both are legally entitled to the house hence why he "signed it over to her". He didn't have to do it, but he did...so I certainly wouldn't be suing him over baseball costs after such a gesture.

[@hemag93]

@@amberbiggs I highly doubt it was a selfless gesture on his part. She probably set it as a condition if he still wanted to live there, that he had to sign it over to her. He got to live there and then subsequently at his mother in law's house for basically free for many years, don't think he was at a loss for anything and could probably easily afford sports fees - as this was a part of their divorce agreement and he has a legal right to fulfill it.

[@frankcb11]

@@amberbiggs I think she bought the house and probably contributed more.

[@8213apice]

Parents kill me thinking 18 is grown and they won’t need help at that age 😂.

[@xtian384]

it's not what parents think, it's what the law make them think.

[@anndeecosita3586]

@@xtian384 Depends. My parents divorce decree said my dad had to pay child support until I was 22 if I was in college.

[@xtian384]

@@anndeecosita3586 yes, but it had to be obtained through a decree, i.e. an exception to what would be normally required.

[@8213apice]

@@xtian384 it is what parents think. I see alot of parents like this.

[@zoelletobin2079]

Legally that’s how it is. Unless they’re foster care, you have to have a case before 18.

[@lorig4871]

Text messages are not proof that she actually needed the money

[@armygurl399]

He looks so broken and she looks much older than him.

[@55hivealive3]

She's upset because she let herself go, and daddy is aging like a fine wine

[@diego5125]

At the end of the day she got a great deal: The house is in her name. That's her house. I think he's a good man...

[@missthang4982]

Divorce is just a living hell. I feel for all involved. ❤️ Sudbury, Ontario, Canada 🇨🇦

[@earthraindove2870]

Brantford Ontario Canada.... Hello ☀😘

[@samazar3876]

Hi fellow Ontarian’s. Cheers from Richmond Hill, Ontario

[@margaretwade]

@@samazar3876 Hello from Ottawa Ontario!

[@missthang4982]

🤗🥰👋👋♥️

[@taylorflegel9677]

London Ontario ❤️🍁

[@jennyvanniekerk9600]

That woman was so SPITEFUL. Karma will visit u

[@kevinedward6132]

Once the man moves on with his life that's always when the ex crazy train starts.

[@labspeciman7402]

The guy has been paid up but that is not enough for the ex. With all the people who don't pay she should consider herself lucky.

[@RealTakerslady]

He doesn’t owe anything, she’s bitter that he moved on and he should not have to pay for college if he can’t afford it, the kids would be adults

[@carmenblk440]

He lives with her rent free for7 years and her mother and only moved out to another ladys house

[@maybellllllll]

@@carmenblk440 you weren’t listening. He paid bills at her home after the divorce, and he paid something at her mothers as well.

[@PaintingandExercise]

In some states, the non-custodial parent also has to pay for the kid's college even though neither parent would have to do so if they were still married. How much that amounts to is related to the non-custodial parent's income.

[@RealTakerslady]

@@carmenblk440 He helped out in her and her mom’s house.

[@RealTakerslady]

@@PaintingandExercise She can request his help, nothing saying he has to pay it or agree to it.

[@mauricetatum2502]

Soooooo….. he signs over the house to you… FULLY…. He is current on child support and not in the rear….. and you still want half of lil Sallie Sue’s sports expenses?!?!? Extra curricular activities are NOT an necessity….. a roof over your child head is ….. the nerve 🙄

[@jhutch1681]

Not nerve where I come from. If the kids had always been involved in sports, and he was involved with them, then he knew what activities they had and what they cost. He knew he was responsible for half. She shouldn't have to give him special notice of things he was already aware of, and they shouldn't have to be pulled out if she didn't duplicate the email he was already receiving from the sports organization. He lived with her and then with her mom at no cost for many years, which was more than generous. His expenses with a girlfriend should not come ahead of his kids sports, which benefit their health, mental health, social life, and keep them out of trouble. He may have signed the house over, but you have no idea who paid what, or how much equity was in it. Would you rather he made his kids homeless? She lives with them everyday and has to pay the fees no matter what. Just because he pays support and isn't in arrears doesn't make him a hero - it means he's owning a basic responsibility. And did you notice that his support is taken from his pay? That says to me that there was an issue.

[@marcodraven9778]

Don't forget while he was living their he paid the bills too.

[@manxkin]

He’s not obligated to pay for college. It is weird that he continued to live with her and then his ex mother in law.

[@beckyl9454]

It depends on state law. Some states require child support through 21 for college expenses. Of course, those orders are tailored for the child support to go directly to the college, based on passing grades, and/or payments going directly to the child instead of the custodial parent.

[@bigtrevdogglbc]

Byrd just seems like he doesn't want to be there. No wonder he isn't on the new show.

[@jimmydasani8922]

The father looks like hes been takin a beating from her every single day since that divorce. Hopefully this case was a big switch around for him

[@CleetjeLovesHusky]

This entire case stinks of jealousy because David moved on. The defendant's "proof" is cut off texts with only her end of the conversation and not a sentence from the Plaintiff. On top of that, she already showed she had no issue with their agreements, up until the Plaintiff had a girlfriend and all of a sudden everything was bad. The entire reason why this woman is taking her ex to court isn't because of the kids. It's because he moved on and is living with a girlfriend.

[@lindapatterson6993]

Wow.... Judge Judy can cut through every fog, wall, pity party, woman card pulling, indignation posing, lack of attention to detail..... I actually looked up what law school she attended. It has a wonderful track record.

[@thesun-N-moon8885]

So thankful that when I chose to divorce the ex I didn’t do anything spiteful. He got all of his tools and anything else I KNEW HE worked hard to buy for himself. I couldn’t put my children through all that bitterness…. Unfortunately it was already a toxic environment. No need to drag it out any further for my children to suffer more…

[@jhutch1681]

No one said that the kids are in the middle of this.

[@peryole]

She seriously thinks a court will force that man to pay child support after those kids turn 18, this woman is delusional. Essentially that’s what she wants, if she wants to ask for college tuition. I paid my own tuition and I filed fafsa as independent, college is a choice. As an 18 yo they are adults, she sounds ridiculous.

[@shandap8310]

Actually if a parent is paying child support and the child goes to college, they are obligated to continue paying child support until the child turns 21. I know this from personal experience.

[@megadoomer5309]

Courts hate good dads . There will be a loophole somewhere lol

[@jennifermarie3158]

I can literally tell you are over 50 years old from everything you wrote. College doesn't work that way anymore, boomer. Please either catch up on modern society or stop having such a loud opinion about stuff you don't know about

[@xoangelicaf0523]

@@shandap8310 yea in some states & I still think that’s ridiculous bc the child is grown at 18

[@peryole]

@@jennifermarie3158 first off I was born in 1987. Second, your message is so vague, I have no idea what you're talking about. Third, the last time I was in college was 4 years ago, so I think I know what I'm talking about. Go back to your Trump trading cards, he loves the poorly educated.

[@JohnDoe-1956]

No parent should be required by law to pay for any college.

[@marthal8862]

Stop having children if you don’t want to support them. A high school education gets you nowhere these days, if you haven’t planned to support your children then stay childless.

[@someonescomment5705]

Well maybe he doesn’t owe her ANYTHING considering she keeps referring to the kids as MY son, MY daughter, not OUR son & Daughter . Hmmmmm Poor Guy

[@Wayniesgirl]

I have a DIL that does that. Annoys the crap out of me

[@someonescomment5705]

@@Wayniesgirl Yeh that would irritate me if I had a dil that spoke like that . I would absolutely call her out each time she said it . Being Italian and having a son , I wouldn’t let anyone get away with negating the fact that they are just as much his children as they are hers . (Before the comments start to flood in that I am claiming ONLY Italian mothers protect their sons , that’s NOT what I am claiming . It is a stereotype that Italian mothers love Their sons fiercely but the stereotype is factual. As much as we love ❤️ them we also don’t take any guff from our sons and will call them out and correct them if they are wrong no matter how old they are ) 😇😁

[@Wayniesgirl]

@@someonescomment5705 Oh believe me, I've pointed it out

[@debbiecharles7912]

In her mind they are only his children when she wants money from him

[@someonescomment5705]

@@debbiecharles7912 Exxxxactly Debbie, Exxxxactly

[@andrejasofrenovic3425]

Not sure what the laws are, but it would make sense for me that the divorced parents should discuss the expanses (clubs, college, etc.), not just the custodial parent signing the kids up for stuff and expecting the other one to pay half.

[@lisafink98]

Typically, these issues are made part of the judgment of dissolution and there is an agreement that they discuss the costs and share them in some agreed upon percentage. All too often the parties forget to address these sorts of issues so if the judgment is silent on it, then one can go back to family court and seek a modification to get some order on these expenses. Typically, support ends at 18 or graduation from high school, whichever comes first, which I think is lousy. My advice, always get a lawyer, a lawyer would protect against this very situation.

[@El_Nombre-e3x]

You can't have lawyers granting money to grown up kids for goodness sake

[@andrejasofrenovic3425]

@@lisafink98 Yes, it's great that courts seek to regulete these things. 😁 I just wanted to say that even in situations where the non-custodial parent has, lets say, agreed to pay for a certain kind of expanse, they should be consulted when the kid chooses to pursue that (because some options can cost more or less, some things can be more or less necessary, etc.), much like they would be if the kid was living with them. For example, when I went to college my non-divorced parents sat down and decided what they could afford.

[@groowanderer]

In my case, either parent has the right to sign up the kids for whatever activities they want to, and the other parent only pays half if they want to. So we both pay half for all sports, and she is on her own for her "horse camp" that is over 800 bucks for 2 weeks of the summer. Basically it's whatever you agree to, not based on any laws. But once it's agreed upon and goes in front of the judge, that's now final and must be followed.

[@lisafink98]

@@groowanderer Similar here. You can’t make one spouse agree to pay for activities that are no essential but once they do, then it becomes binding and enforceable.

[@annamarielewis7078]

Byrd does not look at all happy. Ever.

[@ericcoverdale9523]

What in the hell did he ever see in her in the first place?! Thank God those kids are turning 18, you can wash your hands of her and just enjoy your children now!! 😉

[@NadineAlison-l4t]

so you dont see that he's a freeloader???...bro couldn't even move into his own fricken house for more than SEVEN years!!...he's a loser!!

[@jhutch1681]

He needs to contribute to their post-secondary.

[@Sharonsaidit2024]

Shame on her.

[@Xxsorafan]

She is so obviously jealous like girl yall are divorced let him live how he wants especially if child support is all paid

[@AntoniusReginaldus]

Many people have recognized it before, Judge Judy does not take a crap on fathers who do what they're supposed to do.

[@frenchy1220]

The wrong woman in your life will turn you into a shell of your former self. Trust me I know from first-hand experience, and I can tell by the look in that man’s eyes, he is broken beyond repair.

[@jhutch1681]

Projection....

[@manuelsoares9698]

I hope this man has found peace and happiness because he won't find it with the defendant... the kids will be 18+ in college, he should only help pay for it if he can afford it, they would be adults at that time.

[@kimm6589]

You clearly don't know how college financing works.

[@manuelsoares9698]

@@kimm6589 Perhaps, I am from Canada, it is cheaper here.

[@8213apice]

18 is not grown. Only by law. You can’t even buy liquor. I wish y’all would stop that. They still need help.

[@manuelsoares9698]

@@8213apice You can sign up for the military and kill people, that is grown up to me.

[@sammehbear7895]

She’s a jealous ex wife with 2 kids she can dangle, it’s sad when parents use their babies as pawns. He lived there 7 YEARS after divorcing to stay with his family, she said he abandoned his kids, nah he just is over you and you can’t handle it💀 also taking him to court for college money?? Since when is that a thing?? Paying for college is 100% voluntary, I’ve paid my entire tuition alone

[@petalsjones]

Everyone is pouring on sympathy for the rudegly handsome ex-husband however I'm not impressed with a man who lives with ex for 7 years after divorce, move in with ex-mother-in-law and now moves in with girlfriend. There's a pattern here. When has he stood on his on two feet? After this girlfriend he'll move in with yet another woman. Not saying the defendant is not bitter, but she should move on. This guy is waiting for the next train to pull in.

[@michaelhewinson3886]

That's not the impression I got mine was the fact the woman sued him after he moved in with the gf ect when they had been working together for years.

[@SgrPlum]

If he pays her child support, then she cannot ask him for half of the sports and activities because that’s what child support is already covering. You cannot “double dip”

[@karinalimoges4820]

He is a bum. By divorce order he is supposed to participate half in children activities. JJ is wrong on this one.

[@mimiso2522]

Actually child support in most states only covers 1/2 the children's portion of housing, utilities, food, clothing etc. It is up to the lawyers to negotiate the rest. Some people like me never receive child support and have different arrangements. Sometimes that backfires like it did with my ex LOL (He thought since he paid the house payment and the "free with his job" medical, he would get the house) I received $30,000 equity payment from the sale of the home as payment of my services for 7 years.

[@DawnRoache-y9n]

If they can't afford the money for the the activities they should be able to get jobs and work

[@priscillarobertson6574]

Poor guy! I feel for him!❤️

[@themermaidstale5008]

I’m sorry she didn’t get his half of the children’s sports fees. Both parents should contribute to college education for their children if financially able to - however, perhaps they won’t get to attend their “dream college”

[@annegreenwood3624]

isn’t child support for raising the kids like school fees and other things she just seems very bitter and petty

[@broeheemed32]

Not to mention that he was right there, living in the same house as his children, paying to support the entire household for years.

[@QueenCityHistory]

Funny how all the issues she has with him started when he got a new girlfriend..hmmm. She’s gonna try and make his life hell as long as she possibly can

[@lcam9241]

Funny how you don't know if he stopped paying because of expenses with the new girlfriend🤦🏾‍♀️

[@blackbutterflytarot8071]

I don't think she's trying to give him hell. I feel he's trying to dodge helping support his kids just because you get a divorce doesn't mean you stop supporting the kids in every way that you were supporting them when you were married and in the same home. Imagine how the kids feel she's really not making it about her.

[@wandasetzer1469]

None of you are God's gift to women. We get divorced because we don't want to be around you, and aren't paying attention to who you might be dating. So she noticed when he quit paying the money he owed. Probably wrote her a note or said out loud "I can't afford to pay for the children's sports so I won't."

[@carlgraves4616]

Is she signing the twins up for activities on purpose? She’s mad.

[@VisualizeHealing]

He sponged off from her and her mother for decades and then as soon as he had a new honey, his kids were history! Creep, JJ, he's a sloucher and a creep.

[@ruefullysage]

because judy can’t read she punishes the defendant. it’s obvious she’s asking for him to pay for his kid’s sport stuff. he admitted that he stopped. he’s a bum.

[@lmusima3275]

I’m cracking up 😂 as JJ raises her voice

[@Fogo4Life1]

She’s Sour 😅

[@Messier45_Pleiades]

JJ did not like the woman which is why she found in the man's favour. That sort of bias should not be allowed. The man even admitted he owed for the children's sports teams.

[@Lex-ri8ki]

I believe that he wasn’t paying his part of the sports. But it was the defendant’s job to prove that, which she didn’t do.

[@dinahbrown902]

Take it out of the child support

[@robertfraserthompson9421]

I bet his new gf is slimmer, younger and more intelligent than she ever was or will be.

[@adamacunningham5989]

How about he just pay for half of the children he made??? I can’t stand when a court has to make someone pay for their own children.. the man has had it pretty good .. first he gets to live with his ex wife for years and then her Momma .. now he gets to live off his girlfriend.. I don’t know what JJ is thinking about .

[@queenjocelyn4711]

She was really trying to hold on to that man…lady…let him go ! The kids are almost adults and she could’ve handled this way better. I WISH my ex husband was like him ! He is cool, calm, and cares about his kids so much so that he lived with his ex MIL just to be near them 💛

[@kemery22222]

This was a strange ruling and the comments attacking the woman are ridiculous. If the divorce decree says he is responsible for 50% of sports club costs, it’s not the ex-wife’s responsibility to send him notice of what he owes?!? It seems like y’all want the ex-wife to be bitter but she’s in the right.

[@christinefaulk6531]

Right! I'm not sure why everyone is down on the ex-wife. He lived with her for an additional 7 years, admitted to not paying rent at her mother's house, and stopped paying the agreed-upon expenses once he moved in with his girlfriend. Something is off here.

[@beckyl9454]

The divorce decree probably also mentions that mom is responsible for providing dad with proof of costs. That means costs prior to signing them up or paying for anything, not her cleared checks where you can write anything in the memo. If mom didn't provide proof of costs, dad isn't required to pay unless a judge tells him otherwise. Sounds like dad refused to pay when mom refused to give him his tools back. Tit for tat and force mom to take him back to family court. She chose to wait until the children were almost 18 and dad had new girlfriend before bringing anything to court, and the judge is well within their rights to refuse anything prior to the current year because she waited so long to take him back to court. Also, without proof of costs, the judge has the right not to force dad to pay even though mom has proof she paid. She didn't follow the 1st part of the order; therefore, it's as if those costs never existed according to the courts. Next time, mom needs to follow order, not hold dad's tools hostage, and/or take him back to court sooner. I'm assuming she didn't take him back to court sooner because she would look like a fool, just like she did her, for holding his tools hostage for no reason. She also didn't seem to care until dad chose to move on. Spiteful women is another judges don't like dealing with either.

[@kemery22222]

@@beckyl9454 You’re assuming a lot, I listen to what they both agreed to. They have a divorce decree that says they share the cost of clubs/sports. He paid faithfully for years when they lived together and even when he lived with her mother. He stopped paying once he moved in with his girlfriend. That has nothing to do with her alleged bitterness.

[@beckyl9454]

@@kemery22222 I'm not assuming anything. The judge stated she had to give him written notice. Judge even accused her of bringing him to court because he moved in with his girlfriend. She withheld his access to his tools because he moved out to her mother's house. He withheld payment because she refused to give tools back, and now she's bringing him to court for many years prior he didn't pay because she had his tools, and is only doing so because he's got a girlfriend. She lucky Judge Judy even entertained her part of the case. Usually, she dismisses it and sends back to family court before they can get their entire story out. She must have entertained so she could get full picture of how the ex-wife actually is.

[@kemery22222]

@@beckyl9454 You just said, as he admitted, that he stopped paying. So, he owes the money for the months that he didn’t pay for his children’s activities. It doesn’t matter if he has a girlfriend or what the wife’s character is, he still owes the money. Also, your first line is an assumption. You assumed what the decree says when no one knows that information. You went on to say she “didn’t follow the first part of the order” when you don’t even know that lol

[@astaunchcharacter]

This is a very attractive, grounded man. If he was single and in my community, I would absolutely ask him out on a steady basis. So few that are a full package and take responsible nowadays.

[@here2laff397]

Period ! Can’t get the tools unless you pay up ! That was a good tactic, judge

[@nashae6292]

He already knows how much he’s supposed to pay for the sports. Why does she have to give him notice?…

[@beckyl9454]

Because their court order requires mom to give dad notice. No notice from mom, no payment from dad. It's very simple and I've seen mothers act just like this woman did and then looked shocked when dad refuses to pay. My husband's ex-wife did this very thing many times. She would sign his daughter up for this or that, with no discussion prior to signing her up, and then demand payment. His order stated they had to have a discussion prior to his daughter doing extracurriculars and if a disagreement came about mom had final say. My husband's ex-wife would skip the discussion and expect him to pay. Not how it works. The court order is there to be followed not to be looked at as a suggestion.

[@kemery22222]

@@beckyl9454 Where did it say anything about her having to give him notice? I re-watched part 1 & 2 and didn’t hear that. Do you have the time stamp of where that’s said?

[@beckyl9454]

@@kemery22222 the 1st 30 seconds of part and again 4:00-4:45 of part 2, Judge talks about her giving him notice. All ways of notice mentioned are written forms of communication.

[@okayfornow]

He moved on. She got mad

[@carriebizz]

He should just help pay for his kids sports etc he's their dad he should do it out of love not obligation.

[@The.Love.Machine]

He's a good-looking guy.

[@theteacherwho8366]

She is 44!!! My 63-year old mother looks younger than the defendant, smh.

[@DestielFanGirl22]

From the sound of it she already got the house, I hope she lost the child support for college. Kids should be paying their own way or she can work too

[@DyNaStYCaRl]

She can take him back to family court and attempt to have him pay for 50% of his kids college tuition/books and stuff? Why? College is an elective. You can CHOOSE to go to college and you can CHOOSE NOT TO GO to college School is different. If your child doesnt go to k-12, a parent can lose their child because K-12 is a necessity of education Absolutely disgusting! Also, would love to know exactly why he has to pay for his kids after school sport activity. Unless he agree'd that he wanted his kids to play sports, he should not be liable

[@bigpoppachino3437]

$600 a month man fuck that shit that’s almost a whole check for me

[@Felatay]

I don't understand why sometimes JJ accepts a text or a verbal agreement, but there's a case like this where she wants a written (formal?) notice between them.

[@kepecos]

Because she can smell the personal issues and her animosity/pettiness towards her ex husband.

[@mariea5671]

Here, specifically, it’s not showing where he agrees to anything it’s just her saying he owes her money

[@amyfionna]

Because she can sniff out the motivation behind the lawsuit. The ex wife is acting maliciously. She’s trying to punish him. Holding his tools hostage is the indicator.

[@jesusbeloved3953]

Any of those explanations are stupid and do not hold up in a court of law. I agree with the first commenter, she uses different rules for different people. That is NOT how a court of LAW works!

[@christopherharris3229]

@@jesusbeloved3953 JJ is not a court of law. It is a private civil arbitration that is agreed to by all parties in lieu of a court case.

[@jeffreyklima7612]

Don't get married fellas, nothing good comes from it....

[@joshuaaaron125]

My god the ex is a witch! I aspire to be as relaxed as him in life, I feel for him.

[@ms.vasquez1805]

Its call having a young girlfriend 😆 🤣 That therapy... does wonders .. ✨️ 😌 😅

[@whiteandproud73]

Why should the mother be soly responsible for paying all of THEIR children's sports cost!!? She has house bills to pay too and more than him because she has the kids! Judge Judy was very unfair!!

[@sanelaalic6715]

well she did keep saying MY kids so why should he pay for her kids? 🤷🏻‍♀️ she obviously doesn't see him as an equal parent

[@whiteandproud73]

@@sanelaalic6715 because he doesn't play an equal roll!!

[@sanelaalic6715]

@@whiteandproud73 because she doesn't let him, she is too petty. jelaous because he got a new gf it's so obvious

[@I_Am_RosaV]

Sports are not necessary if you can't afford it don't do it.

[@sanelaalic6715]

@@I_Am_RosaV exactly

[@joecrawford172]

The wheels came off the wagon when he left her mother's house and moved in with his girlfriend. The exwife went into "I don't want you but I'll be damned if someone ELSE gets you" mode.

[@Michael-jw6et]

Bird gets on my nerves. He is a big grump. He acts like it's such a bother to do his job and take stuff to the judge. His job is literally to stand there, and then bring stuff to the bench now and again, and he gets paid way more than 90% of people for a job a kindergartener could do. He needs to lighten up.