Marriage Full of Cheating and Abuse

[@britt7138]

if the relationship was toxic while dating, why in the world would you marry him!!??🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️ marriage is not gonna change anybody toxic traits 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@PrincessPearl65]

Exactly, that's really a no brainer

[@blackestknightx8881]

Lol

[@TheBlacktygar]

Crazy people 😅

[@diofiglio1]

Why would he marry her, she was a bartender?

[@blackestknightx8881]

They're both dysfunctional so no surprise there

[@blackspider1405]

The relationship is toxic, so let's get married. Makes sense to me.

[@viviandufe2247]

😂💔

[@KennorisGreen-p4b]

🤣😂🤣

[@Only1QueenOfEverything]

Don’t do it! 😂😂

[@ladypmarie]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@Kpjulian]

The fact that those docs were able to save her sweet baby at 23 weeks gestation. So blessed. Most drs don’t consider anything less than 25 weeks as viable and won’t try to intervene. Blessed beyond measure.

[@miznik79]

Absolutely I have an amazing 23 weeker who's now 14. She does have CP, but a very mild case.

[@shesuniqueinherownwaybenja7647]

ABSOLUTELY, the Almighty Father is definitely good 💯🥰😍

[@varshaytrice3941]

​@@miznik79🙏😍🙌

[@varshaytrice3941]

​@@shesuniqueinherownwaybenja7647 AAAAAAAAMEN!🙌🙌🙌

[@beautifulspring7210]

God's babies❤❤❤❤

[@deejai1173]

She started accusing me of cheating, meanwhile he has another child. You gave her a reason to think what she did.

[@Orlandoloc83]

Regardless if that was the case at wat point do u used ur deal breaker ? I no she have a deal breaker smh

[@jimmcdonald9490]

@@Orlandoloc83 no she don’t tho. She needs major therapy way before him

[@benishamathurin3243]

😅😊

[@deejai1173]

@@Orlandoloc83 I understand what you mean.

[@malcolmrivera305]

She Just Bitter

[@Missypooh5]

If it’s a toxic relationship it’s self , then why get married and then put a kid in the mess ???🙄

[@jplaya2023]

She said he filed for divorce to get her attention? If he has to do that then her lights are on but no one is home in her

[@teegreen3909]

Delusional

[@shwandarichardson1866]

Poor thing 😢

[@Bih1stOfAll]

She said he filed twice prior so he had history of doing it

[@BigBecky25]

He stressing her out so bad she can’t even carry her baby!!! 😢😢😢

[@calleciaelam3076]

but, yet she kept trying to get pregnant

[@shanee585]

SMH Marriage will never resolve issues, they only intensify... Love doesn't fix everything.

[@sereneamani1713]

This doesn't seem to be love

[@God-Love-Freedom]

Love fixes everything. But their relationship wasn’t love.

[@bovinityleak2066]

But what if she has a baby? Surely that will fix everything magically. 🙄 People are stupid.

[@beverlyhall4578]

Both people must want the relationship to work. Marriage is like a job you must work it everyday. Judge Lynn Toler.

[@mrmrsturner5980]

It's funny how he talked about everything she did but not what caused it 🚩

[@Jmarie0134]

That’s what the majority of ppl that cheat do 😂

[@theredwhoop9372]

Wgaf what somebody else do that doesn't give her the right to act crazy you simple minded mf

[@wanderlustly313]

That you think the way this woman acts is somehow justified because of what someone else does is the problem with women today - zero accountability and indeed a red flag. Thank you for properly labeling your comment.

[@TishaCooper-o2n]

That's why I am single because that's what they do.

[@wanderlustly313]

@@TishaCooper-o2n 🧢

[@clyderay9961]

Toxic but still got married anyway? Yikes! 😬😬

[@deejai1173]

She was desperate and he conniving.

[@kimf442]

Right!!! That part 🤦‍♀️

[@marquishoward3529]

Ikr, that part exactly

[@wandabellamy6120]

They sounded like a match made in heaven, they deserved each other

[@blessedgal6901]

Things that seldom fix a toxic relationship: 1) Moving in together 2) Having a baby 2) Getting Married You want to do these things in a healthy relationship and should try and get away from a toxic person.

[@MyNameIsCorey]

The biggest investment in ones life is the person they lay next to and this case proves that...

[@ambzcloud]

I will never understand people like this. You're in a crappy relationship, so you choose to get married and have a child. Why? Being single is way better than the stress these people force on themselves.

[@neshamojanay9423]

My mom's been single since my biological father passed away when I was real little but at first, my mom was actually married to other dad way back in the 80s when my much older brother was a kid but it's a long story though.

[@1SummerSpeaks]

They're reasoning skills are terrible. How you marry someone to make the relationship better?? How that work? Then, he got somebody else pregnant and he had to file for divorce? 😂

[@OneNationUniversal12]

She better off putting him on child support, cause he does not give no Fs about her or his kid

[@sylviabranch4201]

I agree

[@wellthatsinteresting1]

Bad credit, disloyal, liar, philanderer, deadbeat & disrespectful....yasss sis what a catch 🎣. Hoping for a successful marriage w/a manchild w/all these less than stellar characteristics is the epitome of *cognitive dissonance* in her case. Nothing a little therapy cant help with.

[@RacieRain]

She caused herself all that stress.

[@VANITYISFARE]

He’s a snake . And he got someone pregnant while they were married .

[@theredwhoop9372]

So what you hyena

[@sereneamani1713]

Have you ever heard of the song called "The Snake" by Oscar Brown and/or Al Wilson? Its parting lyrics are "you knew darn well I was a snake before you took me in".

[@reginaharrigan7454]

So what he got someone else pregnant that normal now a days

[@naika9101]

These comments did not pass the vibe check 😳..on another note I agree such a snake !

[@shawntadix4224]

@@reginaharrigan7454 you are a 🤡 who says that’s “NORMAL NOWADAYS” chileeeee I pray GOD gives you more Sense than you currently have

[@PrincessPearl65]

She seems like she was just thirsty to get married and have a baby.....she kept stressing the toxicity but yet stayed and even had a baby....her behavior screams STALKER......saying HIM filing for divorce was just to get her "attention"....He never wanted her, and she played herself with that car and the "verbal" agreement that meant NOTHING....🤪

[@queenb2713]

Exactly

[@jasonallen3678]

Sho you right Ray Ray..

[@thinkglobalactlocal4898]

ok PRINCESS PEARL YOUR o point, glad your not bias, however as a GROWN INDEPENDENT MAN myself, bro need to handle his priorities, HIS OWN CRIB< JOB< CAR prior to courting , dating, less more marriage !!! TOOO many men aren't STABLE and i mentor young men and DUDES in general to "GET SELF ESTABLISHED 1st", they move in w GFS, BMS, MOMS, Gmoms any1 they can bc they avoid strict independence.. MEN NEED TO DO BETTER in that area

[@thinkglobalactlocal4898]

long enough delay to reply

[@Sigma2HisAlpha]

🤨

[@natasha12th]

Women needs to learn how to be ALONEEE.. y’all be going out sad behind these dudes.

[@Eltown33]

Lol u the leave him alone single friend huh😂😂😂

[@Bih1stOfAll]

​@Eltown33 Shiiiidd me too. With Black femicide at an all time high....I welcome more women to single life

[@muhammad17115]

So much domestic violence leading to death you are correct✌️

[@Nevaeh1]

Sad over men who do not care anything about them

[@Eltown33]

@muhammad17115 so after listening to this case u think the man is dangerous 😳

[@lovetolaugh1453]

Sidebar - she’s so calm, so fatal attraction. Like many of my fellow posters have said, she knew the relationship was toxic from the beginning, and still she barreled ahead. Not buying her “victim” position.

[@thinkglobalactlocal4898]

FACTS... i had a few JUST like her, pretty, gorgeous and CRAZZZZY like JEZEBEL, devious. I'm on single Grown man time strictly on my OWN, now married wife neighbors, and women always trying to holler at me, i be like i'm cool !!! I established my LIFE where i'm set for life, i be Dam i let a crazy chic take it alllll away. My hard earned success.!!!

[@thinkglobalactlocal4898]

He was cool calm collective at the end, she was scorn and devious, just like my ex, "beware of the pretty, sexy, Gorgeous chics, real rap !! Look at all these celebrity athletes and other dudes, getting took to the bank off IG models and other scandalous chics trying to secure the BAG $$$

[@diamondbarnes7506]

He's not right either

[@lovetolaugh1453]

@@diamondbarnes7506 okuuurr!

[@lovetolaugh1453]

@@thinkglobalactlocal4898 you ain’t NEVUH lied 😂😂😂. These floozies don’t want you til you got somebody. Stay strong my brother!

[@lizbobo1]

God bless you. You don’t see your daughter and all you have to say is “God Bless you”? She’s already blessed when God helped her through that 1.5 pound baby. Keep it moving my sister he Surly will regret that he doesn’t know his daughter. Prayers for you & your daughter.

[@illiel2879]

He said what he should of. Not get on national TV and make a fool of himself. I would have limited my response as well. Smart man!! Say less than necessary (48 Laws of Power by: Robert Greene).

[@scottrogue946]

Please choose love, but not struggle love 😢😅❤

[@leelew.1462]

Choose loyalty over love

[@sereneamani1713]

This was "imaginary" love. Delusional love. Hallucinatory love.

[@susiesolangesimpson2828]

The relationship was toxic but you decided to marry him? Yea that’s real smart.

[@blackestknightx8881]

Dysfunctional people like Dysfunctional people

[@justsobrandi1142]

Plus kept trying to have children together.

[@marquishoward3529]

Yeah, very smart smh

[@sereneamani1713]

@@justsobrandi1142 That's the saddest part.

[@lovetolaugh1453]

Oh my God!!! What’s with this moving in with strangers. You don’t know if he beat his last 3 girlfriends, you don’t know if she poisoned her last 3 boyfriends. If you think I’m being judgmental, I’m good. Yes, that’s right if you’ve only know a man/woman for only 2 months, they’re a stranger. Couples with 25+ years under their belts are always learning something knew about their other half. Everybody has charm, manners, and charisma in the beginning. Been there done that many times before I learned about real love. Real love can’t be learned in the movies or on a so-called reality show. What I do know is physical love has an expiration date. Trust and believe there’s an extremely thin line between love and lust and the two are often confused.

[@jasonallen3678]

Common sense would have told you that she is the actual abusive partner, but carry on ..

[@blackestknightx8881]

@@jasonallen3678 nope both are 🤡s

[@jasonallen3678]

@@blackestknightx8881 Yeah,but she doesn't deserve to be called a victim at all and you will find out that simple fact after you lived and learned a little more..

[@papillonnoir255]

💯 Facts

[@YoungHaveNot]

He had good "D" thats all most black women care about. He can be broke, no ambition and jobless.

[@Datpmf112]

Pitiful relationship the man wasn’t a protector or provider & abusive. She’s a single mom & wasted him time.

[@jasonallen3678]

He obviously wasn't the abuser, just retaliated towards that interesting and abusive woman..

[@sylviabranch4201]

No he wasted her time

[@Youniquenubian9913]

"I wish you the best" 🙄 As if they don't share a child 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@ninadavis5517]

The one theme with women in here is the "moved quick and moved him in". Are you ladies that lonely and need a man in your life that you dont even learn who he is, just move stranger in your space, then get mad when things fall apart or they get abused or have a baby and hes gone. LADIES, LOVE AND RESPECT YOURSELF ENOUGH TO DATE THE GUY FOR A WHILE. Learn to love your own company. Yall wanna be booed up so bad. I dont care how good the sex is or how cute his smile is, he aint movin in and getting wife duties, making me a single mom or using me for punching bag

[@Jsarmy87124]

They need hobbies not men ....

[@msvee2455]

Our relationship is f'd up. Hmmm, but let's get married and that will solve all our problems! Wtf

[@beverlyhall4578]

Women, please stop moving in or wven marrying these dudes. Just to say I have a husband. But not a real MAN.

[@tiasway]

I hope she goes further with this because he clearly knew what he was doing and he had no intentions on doing right by her

[@greatone275]

Oh stop it she loony tunes

[@squawprincess]

Some things DON’T need to be said out loud….BUT SINCE SHE DID….let this be a lesson to all the other little boys & girls watching. Having a baby and/or getting married will NOT fix a already toxic relationship 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@DCDc-ot1gn]

It's admirable that you want to help but they won't listen. Everyone believes theirs will be different.

[@maesams6212]

Bro, u know that's not right! MAN UP!!!!!

[@GoogleUser-wy2vv]

He cant ...he a Kang

[@missbrownskinlady23]

Misery loves company 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@jasonallen3678]

Yeah you can tell that she is miserable..

[@clarkwinters8299]

This is a crazy case if you know the relationship is toxic from the start why would getting married help any.?? Make it make sense 😵‍💫🙄

[@undertakerfanz628]

Nobody can start up a statement these days without saying so being their first word 🙄

[@misterbee66]

Or well. Lol

[@undertakerfanz628]

@@misterbee66 I think that one is even worse

[@MsBizzyRae]

So…😂😂

[@Jmarie0134]

Or um 😂😂😂

[@lesasimmons8637]

Any MAN.that is .this BIG that claims he is afraid of.his WIFE BEHAVIOR is DEFINITEly a. CLOWN

[@opulence_prime]

Had her speech pattern been different JM would have found her more credible. This man is calculated and malicious. If a man maces a woman knowing he’s stronger and could just as easily call the police it’s vicious, dirty and low down behavior. JM caught it though, he played her. I hope she realizes that JM advised her on how to get her money for the car and what to say. He used her and the manic behavior he accused her of was more than likely reactive. He’s a snake.

[@jasonallen3678]

Nah,he wanted to save her,but couldn't because it would have went against the law..

[@somebody701]

When you choose to physically attack someone it’s not up to anyone else how they choose to defend themselves.

[@thinkglobalactlocal4898]

@OPULENCE_prime, eh hem, listen to ms sista silky, he calculated malicious etc, STOP being bias, he cool calm and collective, how u know she like a HOST of other devious conniving controlling, drama filled JEZEBELS (bible) as he said falsely accused him of cheating and being a barmaid who knows what other (BAD influences) she has/had . I'm single BY CHOICE, STRICTLY INDEPENDENT, Retired early and successful taking care of MY OWN responsibilities, omitting crazy women in my life due to as he said inhumane women behavior. Your entitled to your synopsis, i assume the middle course on who's to blame in their FAILED TOXIC RELATIONSHIP marriage, feel me sista silky? men need to become STRICTLY INDEPENDENT, and be on GROWN MAN time with LIFE in entirety prior to courting women, time frames can't even guarantee the WOMAN won't show her true colors after though, it goes both ways. I play it safe and own my home, assets and prioritize my responsibilities, DIVORCE is @ a ALL TIME HIGH !!! ppl and they families are CRAZZZZY, after marriage sometimes the signs and red flags exist before marriage. He kept it classy at the end, she appears to be scorned,

[@darrenbennett9132]

@@somebody701 Thank You That's why it called self defense protect your self at all cost by any means

[@darrenbennett9132]

@@jasonallen3678 yup I bet he back in the chambers and cry and cursing at the same time cause his hands where tire🥴😠😩

[@cynthiaward4512]

The only thing marriage changes is your last name..Judge Lynn Toler

[@riarealness]

Ridiculous. I can’t even with her. My mama always says, “you have Hell before marriage you gonna have Hell during the marriage.”

[@TheBlackHouse357]

He filed for divorce to get your attention? 😳😳 that's the wildest thing I've ever heard 😂

[@marskeins]

She just wanted marriage. Marriage never changes a person. Just enhances the badness already there.

[@themadmillionaire]

Sad and pathetic 👩🏿‍⚖️

[@bernardtalbert6729]

They got married at the justice of the peace which tells you something about how close she is with her family.

[@Nia_Mack16]

Fathers, please take care of your daughters

[@demitra5148]

Why u trying to gave a baby with a man that’s horrible towards u .. why bring a baby into such a toxic situation…

[@Dub4Lyfe]

Yeaaaa I've been to that same courthouse plenty of times in the past..

[@kbrowne7]

Something about her is giving crazy lol. She met a man who triggered that crazy and he probably did things to her with no remorse. It’s a shame at the end he did not respond to her saying that he barely sees his daughter. You can tell that he moved on and has no interest in being a father to his child with her.

[@thomashilson4158]

Getting married to solve a toxic relationship. SFB, please make me understand that logic!!!!

[@Blacknmild1971]

Desperation for a relationship will end with the desperate individual losing out financially and emotionally....best to be alone sometimes and learn to love yourself before inviting others in yo circle!💔

[@marquishoward3529]

The relationship was so toxic but she still decided to marry him? Most hilariously ridiculous crock of bs I heard all day lmao 😂

[@indigorose1270]

The quick move is not a sign of desperation. She saw his presentation as very nice. Then it was too late. When she found out he was a cheater. Unfortunately she reacted negatively to his behavior. He took no ownership to his behavior. And the end shows he doesnt care about his parental responsibilities.

[@JacksQueen.]

She sounds crazy. 🥴

[@laterriasgilbert469]

I hate when they be like I wish you the best, do you really??

[@barbarapaton4005]

Wait! Two people in a toxic relationship then decide to get married to make their toxicity better??? Are they for real?? Phew!!!

[@Edward_Strong1982]

The fact that people think getting married will make A bad relationship better is mind blowing . and I believe both of them was fighting each other. My sister has done some crazy stuff over men so I believe everything he said she did… but he also is just as toxic

[@ANGELAKCLAY]

He thinks he's smarter than what He is ❤🙏🏽☝🏿🙌🏽

[@bluejayloyal2293]

If a woman climb up a building of any kind trying to get to me we done! 😂

[@dcspace7198]

He never loved her and he's nonchalant about their relationship as if she never meant anything to him. She should count her blessings that he is gone.

[@susanmetcalf8009]

They both have issues.

[@neshamojanay9423]

True

[@CoryBurrell]

She Is Crazy ASF 🤣🤣🤣

[@brooklynmobley5449]

The defendant sounds like Foghorn Leghorn 😂😂

[@Tena714]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@bing7play]

You can tell he's been tired of her and you can see that she is crazy as hell!

[@Steviie11]

I hate when a men treat a woman badly and then call her crazy.

[@michaele5588]

As usual the woman makes herself look like the victim 🙄

[@iamakeemb]

@@michaele5588exactly

[@calleciaelam3076]

she was crazy to marry him

[@_MoneyMike_]

That’s no excuse for her to act crazy…she’s an adult

[@getbusydrizzy5296]

YALL WOMEN MORE IMPRESSED WITH IMAGE THAN SUBSTANCE IN THE PERSON

[@twill1007]

You said he was toxic , but married him , if he’s a sorry father, you need to apologize to your daughter because you knew how he was before you had her

[@sereneamani1713]

TRUE! TRUE! Some of the best advice that I've ever heard. Many people need to apologize to their children based on this principle.

[@nomadictravelerfromTx]

When "Looking good in pink" goes wrong....😊😊😊

[@karendorsey4780]

Their relationship was a mess! Why in the entire world would they get married? Then have children!! Prayers for their children!!

[@mistasofly]

Doesn't this defendant know that Judge Mathis is the smartest man in the room, ALWAYS, and demonstrating ANY knowledge of the law in front him will bruise his little ego, and get you on his bad side?

[@wadilotus]

💯

[@sereneamani1713]

Spoken like a true JM hater. JM seems to have come a long way with his little ego. Those who drink hateration holleration Kool-Aid should dare to dream and come so far.

[@mistasofly]

@@sereneamani1713 Sure. whatever you say😴

[@KayB-l5h]

For some people toxic is what they need to survive. I don't feel sorry for these desperate folks coming in court trying to get sympathy after staying around and making babies within these toxic relationships. They all of a sudden can see after they're no longer wanted in a relationship. They saw the whole time and just turned their head.

[@Nicolethomas51312]

People who go outside of their marriage has no SELF CONTROL and that's sad. They are weak individuals.

[@kurtgrotz]

"I wish you the best, god bless you ." Sure thats true.😂 "oh ,shes right, I haven't seen my daughter in 3 years."

[@nataliemscrzysxycoolharris]

He barely sees his daughter. I wonder why. 🤨 Honestly he needs to go to Family Court and establish everything pertaining to his daughter.

[@alfredalove4610]

She had very low self-esteem.

[@Amy-ej2px]

That sarcastic intro. I had to rewind it to make sure that I heard it right. 😩🤣 "While dating the defendant, their relationship was toxic. So, they ended up getting married bc they thought that it would help things."

[@justsobrandi1142]

To get her attention. No he didn't want to be with her. Why try to have a baby or put anything into your name.

[@BREEZYM6015]

Marriage is always the answer to pre-marital issues. 😂

[@360chillspace]

For him to say I wish you the best…but barely sees his daughter..bull sh..

[@champdavidson1492]

I’ve always said when things are going wrong in a relationship… a baby or a engagement will fix it

[@michellewilkinson2909]

After a while, some victims fight back. "I'm going to get you before you get me." I'm glad she got out of the relationship.

[@calleciaelam3076]

she didnt leave, he did

[@Dshipp25]

She still hurt😂😂he moved on lol that's life

[@shanzi9009]

😅😅😅like

[@timned]

“They thought if they got married it would fix things” 😂😂😂😂😂

[@sherryannist]

Roommate looking at him like why the hell did I come here again 😂😂😂😂

[@tashabr801]

He is a piece of work.

[@jimmcdonald9490]

Fast talking ,deflecting, and lying. Avoid her at ALL COSTS

[@cymbolichuman433]

She trusted the wrong person and look how that turned out.

[@queenb2713]

Why marry knowing both of y'all are crazy...

[@damianu4082]

To believe a toxic relationship before marriage will get better after marriage is more or less self-deceit.

[@AshMo9044]

Triflin dog smh

[@memem5976]

It's a shame people think that marriage fixes problems. You need to make sure that certain issues especially those big things are figured out and talked about ahead of time before you get married. Marriage is not the solution.

[@eleanormcgee1507]

He intentionally left it out

[@bovinityleak2066]

Whos the lucky kid to be born into the toxic relationship?

[@lindarankin2625]

That's a blessing 23 weeks my daughter was born at 23week doing very well 3rd year in college God is so awesome blessing to you and your daughter ❤️😘

[@chancest.thomas5160]

Smh 12 Seconds in "Met @ Her Job" "Moved Him in After only 2 Months" Lol @ "She has Inhuman behavior"

[@queennola3039]

I don’t consider him a narcissist…I feel he showed her the entire time who he was… she wanted something that wasn’t there…so there’s not a whole lot of sympathy for her. He showed her he wasn’t into her before and during marriage.

[@kgames1748]

When Judge Mathis hit that "yes you did" I laugh every time 😂

[@kentthomason6285]

Judge get so dame deep in his feelings, cause the guy said Marital property. He's done it before, if someone state a legal term he claim they're trying to teach him

[@ilovesports5468]

She acts a little slow

[@therealshebajordan8395]

Moving too fast 🚩

[@cherieshepherd3491]

You climbed up a building looking for him. No, your honor. Yes you did 😂😂😂😂

[@jaylawashington3162]

them thinking getting married will fix their toxic/abusive relationship is the stupidest bs i’ve ever heard