Judging UNHINGED people on r/aita

[@slyd33r41]

The first story is WILD. He didnt even notice the baby was gone until he actively searches for her damn

[@LittleSparklingStars]

dad of the year for sure

[@ganarygirl4557]

But isnt it an old story? I think I read this in my AITA phase, which was some months ago 🤔

[@ashoat2388]

I think it was an episode of Law & Order SVU. Overworked and fed-up mother “abducts” her daughter to give to her sister, while her stay-at-home unemployed artist husband paints with headphones on. In order to get divorced while not having to pay alimony.

[@radhiadeedou8286]

@@ganarygirl4557 does it matter?

[@mischr13]

@@ashoat2388 art imitates life and life imitates art

[@sunnyM42]

the thot story is INSANE. how is it even a big deal if she was UNINTENTIONALLY involved with friends, and HOW is it any of mike and his friends business? and HOW ON EARTH is it such a heroic action from mike to "get over" her "colorful past" that isn't even that colorful, it's beige at best. those people are insane are they still in high school or why are they so damn immature lmfao

[@juliii_g]

This!!

[@emilytonk]

turns out the guys she was with before were rich and bf isn't even close to rich but his friends convinced him that op is dating him for money. jessica told the bf that op will leave him for a rich guy and jessica will sleep with him to get back at op.... like this friend group is unhinged.

[@sunnyM42]

@@emilytonk oh my god that sounds like the most toxic friendgroup ever. good thing op got away from them

[@emilytonk]

@@sunnyM42 100%. i don't even remember the entire update but i remember the bf was like full on slut shaming her then was confused on why she was dumping him lmao

[@Wawagirl17]

"it's beige at best" That's pretty great.

[@CherryJuli]

Ignoring crying toddlers/babies in the first two years of their lives gives them attachment issues for the rest of their lives. This is super messed up, not just the part that the husband is a complete jerk. He’s literally traumatizing the baby.

[@Lucifronz]

Even if that weren't the case, a 4 month old needs constant supervision. Human babies are immensely fragile. It only takes one little accident for the baby to just straight up fucking die. Taking a nap is one thing, but blocking out your baby entirely for your own benefit is selfish, stupid and recklessly irresponsible. At around 4 months, I would think a baby is capable of grabbing things and putting it in their mouth. Not effectively, but the possibility is likely and only gets more likely each day that passes. That means the baby can find something nearby and potentially choke on it.

[@shioramenrabbit]

Aside from that, it's unlikely he's feeding the baby on the correct schedule (especially as there were signs of neglect when taken to a doctor) which is its own whole can of worms in regards to potential to cause long-term health impacts.

[@rubyrichardson2887]

And the fact that his child was literally taken from his house and he didn’t even know until hours later is shocking too

[@XxDragonSlayerrXx]

Me personally i agree with the husband. Like I have to take care of a child? like just go change yourself or somethin lik dat. bro has more pationts then me. me personally i would just play football with the baby go to the championships ya no. and if da baby (No les goo) dies then ima just have another one (No dj khaled) and if my wife says no, well i didn't ask. dats just me tho

[@caleighhraee]

@@XxDragonSlayerrXxis this an XQC alt account?

[@mirandalenore7331]

If you’re going to not tell people it’s a wedding, and on top of that give the party a costume theme, you can’t get mad at what people wear!

[@Hungarycloud]

The issue is the husband! He lied and said he told them to change and they refused, which is probably why she was so hurt and angry. It changes the whole context of the situation and why she was upset.

[@rcr257]

Nah, it should be common sense not to wear a wedding dress to anything wedding related, or at least check in with the bride first, not when you've already dressed up

[@mirandalenore7331]

@@rcr257 i see you forgot the part about them not knowing it was a wedding.

[@rcr257]

@@mirandalenore7331 they knew it was an engagement party. that's why i said "wedding related"

[@noorashiraz9046]

@@rcr257 not really, I mean, maybe in a normal party but a costume party would bring out alot of white outfitted characters , she should've also noted " stay away from the colour white" and put a theme for the party so no one could mistakenly wear something that would outshine her

[@Leonsrealwife]

the thot story is CRAZY. she unintentionally dated two people who know each other. honestly Jessica might very well have feelings for her boyfriend.

[@chrisybxxx]

Even if she was an actual prostitute they have no place calling her names like tf hope she removed those people out of her lives

[@animeisawesome11]

Not to mention her bf intentionally chose to date her. Wouldn't that make him a thot for dating a friend's ex?

[@lastquarter3992]

@@animeisawesome11 Ngl it's likely they didn't realise when they got together

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Last story: Dylan, it IS completely unhinged. He makes 200k+, she has a TRUST FUND, and he's dressing up as homeless man to go steal food. It is the literal definition of unhinged.

[@rice-hero-VS-hungry-monster]

I completely agree with you, but I do want to clarify that he doesn't make 200k, it's their combined income. He still makes a ridiculous amount though considering she's a teacher going through university.

[@RandomSwiftie13]

Yeah now that I think about it, he seems like the type of rich person who will pretend to be poor and stay on a street so people would pitty him and give him money or food. There are people that actually do that. 🤦🏽‍♀

[@HeatherHolt]

I haven’t even heard the story yet but I agree with you already

[@SelenaY.1331]

just to let you know there probably is a better way to explain how someone's outfit. There's people experiencing homelessness that dress decently. Also when someone says "homeless person" its basically saying they are their situation when they are not. I'm just educating you on being mindful with your words.

[@joelzabik1341]

@@SelenaY.1331everyone knows what he meant. Wtf are you talking about? Anyone who uses the phrase “educate you” in any form has a superiority complex, and I hope you know it makes you look like an asshole. Just educating you to be more mindful with your educating of others. Keep up the great work!

[@natalienewlands8155]

Dylan should have a talk show. No guests just problems

[@24shineon]

“No guests just problems” sounds like the perfect name for it too

[@annieeames2282]

With this editing

[@racheldeschaine]

So cool that a 20 year old is so wise and understands how to help people with their problems

[@jacklyntree7752]

You know what they say about old souls

[@racheldeschaine]

@@jacklyntree7752 very true

[@GoodTimeForARoll]

Damn, I'm older than Dylan

[@racheldeschaine]

@@Vattey-ob3cw right it’s almost as if he is 32-suspicious🤔

[@melissastevenson1014]

with his following now, it’s hard to imagine how popular he’ll be in 10 years when he turns 20

[@kosewa27]

You sometimes gotta traumatize your parents back because thats the only way they’ll understand the impact it has

[@pinkfox7051]

What even is daddy issues? Just traumatize your dad back😂

[@pogpurin]

Exactly. Their parents argue every day and the dad causes so much disrupt in the household, sometimes you have to give someone a taste of their own medicine so that they can notice what theyre doing, even if theyre dealing with something, isnt okay. Because they can ver easily turn a blind eye to just words, but i think him seeing that even the younger sibling recognised that the sister was pretending to be their dad is an important thing. Whilst yes they could have gone about it better, so could the dad and not bring so much trauma to the family

[@kiIIuazoldyck]

"An eye for an eye, and the whole world goes blind." Then so be it. I'm not going to be the bigger person, lmao.

[@W-I463]

reverse daddy issues by giving your dad daughter issues 💪🏻💪🏻

[@eggshells652]

oh my god 💀

[@Bones1220]

Takes two people to make a baby! She “stole his youth” as much as he “ruined her body”

[@raziyadamenova4921]

: ) :D

[@stuffwithsoph8264]

And mandem was in his mid 30's with I assume an infant. Had the kid when he was like 33, not 19 or even 25. 33 💀💀

[@weradorkable350]

Not a fan of the language that a woman’s body is “ruined” after pregnancy.

[@raziyadamenova4921]

@@weradorkable350 omg you guys are cracking me up … so serious lol

[@gints2766]

@@weradorkable350The point of the comment is that neither are true and they’re both putting blame on the other person for their own perception of their own situation. Having a child should be the result of a deep connection with a person you’re willing to be life long partners with, not some horrible traumatic event that your partner has put on you…I agree the language is harsh but people have said “you ruined my body” to their partners.

[@bananawal8215]

Joe's editing has truly gone off the walls. 10/10 experience

[@goldenageofdinosaurs7192]

Yeah, it’s been so good! He’s a funny mf’er.

[@nadiamerry8855]

Top teir mini inside joke moments

[@laziibonez]

right!! i love all the little inside jokes and the “quirky” stuff 😭

[@CatGuyNeko]

I really enjoy Dylan, but his editor is 50% of why I enjoy the videos, tbh.

[@gwendolyn2442]

@@CatGuyNekoediting can really make or break a creator tbh. Creator could be super funny but if their editing is dog shït then their videos will suck

[@arrowheaded]

Last story boils my blood. That level of entitlement and selfishness from a wealthy person _IS_ *"completely unhinged".*

[@user-yy4ux9zf4r]

Nah I agree with the last comment Dylan talked about, its not unhinged from the wealth-hoarding perspective. You can never save too much or have enough saved up to care to infinite future generations of your family… anything can happen, a recession, a war, an environmental catastrophe..so there is always more saving of resources to be done. Put yourself in the perspective of father, and the future prosperity of great grandchildren and beyond could reasonably outweigh the value of disadvantaged people being forced to pay for their food.

[@mewaw-mp5ht]

​​@@user-yy4ux9zf4ridk I think it's still pretty unhinged. Especially since taking from a food bank won't even help his "future generations". Most of the food he gets goes bad and the wife has to throw it out.

[@sammynichaya]

@@user-yy4ux9zf4r bullshit, no it doesn't???

[@LyaJen]

⁠@@user-yy4ux9zf4rwealth hoarding is unhinged and extremely problematic

[@lunacouer]

@@user-yy4ux9zf4r You mean the man who takes food out of a child's mouth, but then never eats it? He's doing that for his imaginary great grandchildren? Nah, he's just evil.

[@thanatoslives6799]

That last woman should purchase double the cost of the food the husband gets from the food banks and donate it back. Every time he does it. And let him know that she's doing it. Either she breaks him of the habit or the food banks end up with more food than he takes. Win win.

[@CatGuyNeko]

That's actually kind of brilliant.

[@silverkyre]

I was thinking that too

[@Poufkimashoula1]

If they had a joint account, it would be great, but I think she said they use their own money and he makes way more than her?

[@kait_3]

Bro that's so smart

[@beccawellert4896]

Using his money tho ofc

[@erima4270]

I disagree about the mocking the dad story. She already tried talking to him but he didn't even listen. It sounds like making him see his behavior-- and the fact that even the youngest recognized he was acting like a jerk-- to finally even get through to him. Man deserved much more than getting his feelings hurt, at least he got a much needed wake up call.

[@TheQueen-sw4th]

He didn't have a wake up call. He just acted like a victim and expected her to apologize

[@emilythorne4119]

Yeah, "I'm sad because my boyfriend cheated on me" and "I'm going to yell at my wife every day in front of my children because I don't know how to use a microwave or turn on a shower" are no where near the same thing

[@LaydiNite]

Agreed. That was a terrible comparison.

[@gymnasticsgirlie0647]

This is honestly the first awful take I've seen from Dylan.

[@robertaaukstikalnyte916]

is it the first one tho :( I feel like he's so funny but seems to have kind of a weak moral compass...

[@bummie]

@@robertaaukstikalnyte916 i agree. he seems to value humor over morality.

[@LaydiNite]

@@robertaaukstikalnyte916 Some of his comments seem to come from naivety. I get the feeling he's never had to deal with anyone who was actually a narcissist or sociopath, and assumes people who have and see the red flags are just overreacting.

[@mars_is_cooler]

For the “thot story”, turns out the running joke with the boyfriend and friend was that OP was a gold digger since her previous boyfriends had money (even though the current one was no where near rich) and they were all waiting for OP to leave him for a richer man

[@nothanks5162]

So, he's insecure and jealous of her exes? Therefore, logically, insult her instead. He's so smart and emotionally mature. A true gem.

[@schwarze_wand]

i just can't with them calling her like that and saying she had a "colorful" past. thats not colorful at all :D shes an adult and can sleep with anyone she want's and its none of his or their business.

[@jacklyntree7752]

@@schwarze_wand My thoughts exactly. Like it's two people who happened to be friends, not the whole college football team (even still, not their business)

[@goldenageofdinosaurs7192]

@@schwarze_wandRight? Circus performer/high altitude mountaineer/adult actress is a ‘colorful past.’ Having had a couple previous boyfriends is the acme or normality. Those folks sound basic af.

[@lNoWayAroundItl]

Seems so weird to complain to his friends that she had relationships prior to him. I don't know if that is normal but it seems really odd.

[@lauraaa3049]

I disagree about the pretending to be the dad one. It must have been miserable for everyone in that house to not only be nagged on constantly but to see their parents fight everyday. Definitely not the most mature decision but she's 16 and desperate to make a full grown adult understand how they're all feeling and have him still not get it.

[@emmawagner8915]

Yeah it’s really telling that even the mom was laughing

[@Janjones7735]

Sometimes you have to fight AH with AH. 😂 She’s a hero.

[@purpleplatypuspalm]

This "horrible father" who only complains, yells and doesn't listen to anyone gets mocked and his response is to take some time and then say that they hurt his feels and he doesn't feel appreciated. The picture the daughter paints of her horrible misogynist dad doesn't make sense at all with his actual response. We need more context but looks like the daughter is exaggerating and invalidating her dad to me. He's a "breadwinner" in quotes because she doesn't appreciate him supporting the family. If he's getting cold food he probably works long hours, coming home after dinner, but you won't see the daughter putting that in the story. It's also miserable working long hours to come home to a dirty home, cold food and a family that see's you as a credit card.

[@tobywood00]

@@purpleplatypuspalm ok but sahm's work all day too, all unpaid work to add to it. childcare and housework isnt exactly easy, especially the former. to put in all that work, waiting for your husband to get home so he can enjoy the meal you made just to complain because theres a dirty spot on the carpet or the food wasnt ready the minute he got home. because of traffic, food can either be 10 minutes early or 10 minutes late if you make it when you expect him to be home normally, and you know he would complain if he had to wait 10-15 minutes for his dinner to be finished. its people who dont see maternal work as actual work, and just expect it be done. they probably said "breadwinner" because thats the term for someone who is the sole financial support of the house, but hes not actually aware of the work his wife puts in like a real breadwinner should

[@QuikVidGuy]

The comparison was really weird too. "Your boyfriend who cheated on you dresses up like you and starts complaining about the cheating boyfriend," like who exactly is being judged here? Is the implication that being involved with the housework is in the wrong?

[@NecoNiko]

About the obnoxious dad that got schooled by his daughter by “mocking” him: The daughter said she tried talking to him about it before but wouldn’t listen so I agree with her feeling like she had no other choice but to show him how he acts

[@xoluciaxo_3721]

That wedding dress story; the fact that they are 19-20 y/o makes so much sense. It’s literally children convinced that they are grown-ups. But then you read the story and see just how immature they really are😂 They’re all a bunch of overreacting and dramatizing young adults, who should NOT be getting married yet

[@lastquarter3992]

This 100%. I laughed when I read the age because I was like "well, this explains a lot". It's just a very dumb situation. Avoiding problems like this is exactly why people thoroughly plan weddings. And don't get me started with the husband...

[@RamonaGelosi]

The girl from the "mocking dad" one is an icon. I totally stand by her. (Also she said that she tried to communicate first by talking but it was pointless). She just showed the mirror in front of that man and he didn't like what he saw, I bet he will never act like that again.

[@LaydiNite]

That's unfortunately pretty unrealistically optimistic, in my opinion. From the sound of it, he is already insisting that he was the one that was wronged and demanding an apology. He seemingly learned nothing and is just using it as an excuse to portray himself as the wounded party instead of realizing that he was experiencing the same things he put others through.

[@RamonaGelosi]

@@LaydiNite damn, that's true

[@mandeanraje2300]

Yeah I don’t think she’s wrong. As a 16 year old, I shouldn’t have to be more reasonable than you at 46. I hate that whole telling the truth is impolite and disrespectful thing. Like… she mocked his behavior after work, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t appreciate allll the things he does. That’s what toxic parents do. You bring up one thing they do that’s harmful, and they’re all like “what? Are you calling me a bad parent? So I never did anything right??” Nah, I’m talking about this specific thing. And the fact that she’s a teenage girl is even more important because she’s standing up against patriarchal harm and both her parents modeled poor behavior when dealing with a call out. They should start saving for therapy.

[@choosehappy9224]

@@LaydiNite That sounds like my dad. Acts like a jerk, then when he gets called on it he gets upset and gives the silent treatment while waiting for an apology.

[@arsena5209]

Knowing my dad who's the same exact type of person.... no, he is not going to stop acting that way. People like this will never stop until you kick their sorry ass out of your life. I wish it wasn't that way but with how that guy's behaviour was described he sounds like the type of person to never listen and never see anything wrong with his behaviour. The only advice I have for people with someone like that in their lives to kick them out of your life and never look back if you're financially stable or never depended on them to live.

[@nicoleadel]

As someone who HAS been food insecure in the past, and volunteered at a food bank to not feel so shitty about accepting their assistance, that last story pisses me off to no extent. That man is absolutely disgusting for literally stealing from poor people. He's like a reverse Robin Hood!

[@faustine8457]

Time for judgment : this guy shows 0 empathy for his community, going so far as blaming people’s tardiness/lack of quick reaction for not getting food when he is the one responsible for depriving them of that opportunity. Time for compassion: going to food banks when you earn a lot isn’t the way people stay rich, and I don’t think anyone goes to such extremes being self-aware. Since we have no context, I’m inclined to believe this behavior stems from past trauma around money or limiting beliefs. Looks like the answer would be 1. Therapy and/or 2. Experience what the local community is going through to be more empathetic & heal his relationship with money 💰

[@hleebeg]

I said that too! Reverse Robin Hood!

[@socialfreak2]

​@faustine8457 thank you for this it was informative 👏

[@LaydiNite]

@@faustine8457 I don't know. He could be reacting based on past experiences, but there are people out there that will abuse every system they can to get ahead, and view themselves as being smarter than everyone else for doing so. There are millionaires and billionaires who just refuse to pay for goods and services they receive because they know they can get away with it and the people they screw over can't afford to fight them in court. In my experience, people who have been poor or experienced food insecurity in the past tend to be MORE empathetic towards those struggling, not less.

[@fleurr92]

This story made me SO mad also wow

[@natachamazerolle2756]

I understand that the way the girl decided to intervene may not have been the best, but in my opinion no 16 yo should have to try and come up with solutions to fix a household problem. That’s the responsibility of the parents and they shouldn’t let it affect their children’s lives (eg the constant arguing in front of them).

[@thesingerintheshower]

Wow, I think you're right. I didn't stop to consider that hearing her parents arguing every night is affecting her. I see now that she expresses frustration when she mentions it in her post. It's almost like a cry for help.

[@anushkaa]

This is exactly what I wanted to say and the mom then slightly reprimanding her saying it hurt the dad's feelings like no. Go tell your husband to grow up and pay attention to how his behaviour is affecting your family. It feels like they fully put all the responsibility on this poor kid to not only speak up to the authoritative figure in the house that clearly doesn't listen at all, but to also hold the emotional baggage of dad's feelings and mom's feelings. It's ridiculous.

[@maem7462]

Very true especially because hearing parents argue constantly can be draining for everybody in the house

[@neliabedelia]

I am 20 now and I still live at home, but I was a 16 year old who lived through this. I don't know what her mom is like, but for me, because they were always fighting, my mom was always stressed out and angry, and she would take out her frustrations on us the same way my dad treated her. The strange thing is it really fucks with you psychologically because your mom is the one who's always home, so you feel closer to her because she's the one raising you. I grew up really hating my dad because I felt like I needed someone to blame for my mom yelling at me, but also, maybe because it was easier to understand why my mom was angry. I can't understand why my dad chooses to act the way he does. Even now I still get so angry when I see my dad criticizing my mom, dismissing and ignoring her, while he's on the couch doing hardly anything for us or the house. Maybe the girl is an AH, but she's totally justified and I can't be mad at her. It honestly makes me so mad how our parents expect us to be okay growing up with emotional chaos, but then they're offended when we're mad at them for it. And it must have been cathartic, so good for her. Edit: I typed this up really quick at work, so I edited my comment a bit so it would make more sense

[@hnichole]

@@neliabedelia I'm also 20 years old, live at home (but am moving to school in a couple of weeks), and lived through a similar circumstance. My mother was abusive though, so I almost understood why my dad never did anything around the house/stayed out of the house most of the time; doing something "wrong" or not to her specifications equaled abuse, so he just left when possible and they avoided each other. When they did talk, they fought, oftentimes in front of my sister and I or in an enclosed space like a car. Very scary when you're a little kid, even more so when you have younger siblings looking to you to protect them when the adults get violent. It makes you grow up fast. People underestimate how even if the anger isn't directed at the children themselves, arguing in front of your kids has the potential to psychologically fuck them up for years. Especially repeatedly over time. I think the 16 year old is doing the best she can in an unstable home and desperately hoping that her parents will grow up and do their jobs, so that she won't have to. (I did the same thing until I turned 14, where I kind of just gave up that things could ever change.) I think she's hoping for the sake of her siblings that her dad will realize that his behavior is directly affecting her and the other kids and that he'll change for their sakes. I honestly wish her and her siblings all the best, it's a hard way to grow up that you don't really understand (like Dylan) unless you've lived it.

[@antonialea2549]

To the dad coming home from work: I used to see that too before I moved out. Dylan what often happens in these scenarios is that fathers like come home want everything to be perfect, while they make the most mess. My mom worked her ass off, and my dad left everything a mess after eating or in the bathroom. Then she had to work again. Which resulted in her going late to bed. And afterwards he is mad, because why isn't she coming to bed with him?!!! And even when she started working again, he still expected her to do all the work. And on the rare occasion he did work around the house he wanted us to praise him all day for it. On some days I had to do it, because sometimes she had to stay longer at home and he just sits around, and I was cleaning around him while he complains. It makes you feel like a servant. So I like the girl in the post for having the guts to treat her father, how he treats them.

[@IgnisPhantasma]

I feel like every person who has had to live with a dad like this will stand firm with NTA. When it's comes to openly mocking the dad in an attempt to get him to see the error in his ways they are knowingly risking the wrath of an already angry and bitter person, you can trust the family has already tried almost every other avenue to communicate the effects of their behavior to them.

[@AIBot929]

Yeah, no one wants to deal with a man who is like that. I'm sure he fancied himself as a good husband and father before the OP did that. He now knows how they see him and I'm sure he'll be surprised when they don't visit him in the nursing home.

[@marthaschmidt6445]

I am totally opposite becouse while my dad was working and mom never got a job becouse she didnt want to she also wasnt much of a satm. House was never clean. I never could have friends over becouse of it. She rarely cooked, and as a small child i would need to wash bowls to make cearlar for dinner for me and my Brother we would make cearal or instant noodless, till dad came from work late and made some pasta and store bought sauce etc. And mom had a new hobby every month doing whatever, but also play the victim all the time. She would complain to us about dad working too much but then not want to go anywhere as a family either. House would only be cleaned every few months after dad lost it and shouted. The op didnt mention if the house is actually very clean or whatever there are small siblings the mom spends time taking care of. Its possible the daughter spends more time with mom and dad is the one always shouting so will side with her when the situation is the mom actually does close to nothing the whole day and eg. Refused to get a job which i saw a causing a lot of resentment and few divorces in my life.

[@hf3023]

​​​​​@@marthaschmidt6445OP obviously has no problem with the state of the house and if the husband is complaining about a shower not being ready for him right as he walks in the door, I doubt he's walking into a disaster zone. She mentions her youngest brother says look its daddy. Sounds like a fairly young child and obviously has younger siblings other than that one if they specify the youngest. OP even said her mom and siblings laughed so there are multiple children at the least. We have no reason to believe the house is messier than average. His complaints were a dirty carpet, cold food, food when he gets home, keeping the kids quiet and having a shower ready. If it were worse I'm sure we'd hear about the dishes and kids toys and such. We have to go on what the post says

[@kylanchandler6]

The dad one was just proof that people can go their whole life without growing up at all. working doesn’t mean you get to be a dick to everyone in your life, especially the few people you chose to have around you and the woman that’s constantly working to take care of your kids and keep your house nice. Like it doesn’t matter if your day was stressful or you work hard you don’t get to take that out on your family that’s immature. The kid was GOATED for that move.

[@rugbug531]

Heh. Might have more experience with that then I’d like to admit…

[@rugbug531]

Heh. Might have more experience with that then I’d like to admit…

[@IfyouBelleve]

In the story about the daughter pretending to be the father, there was a moment she said that she tried her best to talk to her dad about it but it wasnt sinking in. I think humuroous moments like this can help the person think about their actions, but maybe not all the way or with an audience. One time my dad was asking for something in a not nice tone, and I ended up joking saying "please forgive me" on my knees pretending to cry. Next time he did try his best not to talk in that type of tone.

[@Kjf365]

Honestly, that sounds like the way to get through to unironic edgelords lmao.

[@BeyondTrash-xe1vs]

I think it's worth noting that you can do this, be totally justified, and still be an asshole. Like at the end of the day, you care about this other person and hurt them. You already got your point across, isn't okay to apologize now?

[@discordiasreturn1222]

i feel like AITA at this point is 60% amateur writers practicing pacing of a story 😂

[@thenameless9947]

😂

[@emersyn444]

gearing up for their next fanfic😂

[@Moey_idk]

R/Aita is AO3 for middle aged men

[@undercover_idiot]

​@@Moey_idkOMFG this is the best metaphor 😭it literally IS

[@ShaSha239]

@@emersyn444st😮😮tftt

[@helloimrhyana6872]

That last one irks me so much. It grinds my gears. I am not in a situation where I need to go to a food bank. Because my parents had to go through what they call the “struggle” growing up they worked very hard to provide for their children what they didn’t have. But when they were kids they did have to go to things like food banks and use food stamps. And just hearing that someone is going around and taking food when they don’t need it and have the means to go buy the food they need is really irritating.

[@emilybrackpool1535]

Literally. That man needs to be exposed to the food bank volunteers and have his photo put up so they nevet give anything to him again. They are literally there for those who need them, not some ahole who could buy a new tesla more than twice a year.

[@Velvetvixen22]

I wonder if the wife started regularly donating to the food banks if it would turn him off of it since he’d be taking food she paid for 🤔 but banning him from the banks would be great too

[@kiraphobia222]

As someone who can buy food but finds it much easier and affordable to go to food banks and save a couple hundred a month on food, I myself feel weird even going to get free food from there, for someone who is literally rich and also doesn't even eat the food isn't just he's a bad person, he's satan himself, it's simply taking food from the poor for the sake of them not getting it, it's not even like he's not trying to spend as much money on food, he's NOT EATING IT AT ALL AND GETTING EVERYTHING THEY HAVE.

[@maem7462]

Right and he is also just wasting the food in general so it is completely pointless to do. The only reason he would need to go to a food bank is if power went out in their house and none of his food was good anymore and then they actually need more food

[@squiggles7833]

​@abigaillantz8041 if it's right the post I think she does actively donate food to food banks

[@user-rl7is9iv2j]

Still can't believe Dylan is only 20

[@nicolasmagalhaeslussim2711]

Oh he 18 huh 😉😏

[@Lynner2210]

20 with 12 years of experience. 😉

[@EnderTricks]

My good sir that’s clearly a new born

[@owengibby]

U guys are being mean he’s not even born

[@here.s_shivangii_]

I will be 32 after 10 years but Dylan will still say 20, talented king 👑

[@juju-kn6rx]

that 16 year old kid dressing up as her dad is absolutely hilarious. it might not have been the best way to address it, but i don’t think she intended any malice. if my kid would do that i’d love it tbh

[@zzeroara9511]

also she's 16, the DUMBEST group of people who have ever lived. anything she does, she'll look back on and be ashamed of it in 2-4 years

[@BeyondTrash-xe1vs]

Absolutely true. I think it's fair to call her an asshole, but it's a pretty mild dick move all things considered. If her intent was to just mock the dad, then genuinely she would've been a huge jerk. But she was trying to help, just a pretty immature method as you might expect from a kid lol.

[@gianmarcovinals483]

I doubt you'd love it if your kid did that in front of your wife/husband and your other child

[@juju-kn6rx]

@@gianmarcovinals483 disagree

[@gooodmorning4526]

...so...did the husband tell the guy in the dress not to get changed bc he knew it would piss off his wife? Knowing it would ruin her night just so that they could cut this friend off like he seems to have wanted?? Thats so awful omg

[@Kjf365]

That's not out of the realm of possibility.

[@abigase135]

definitely waiting for her divorce to offer a shoulder and a whole lotta other body parts

[@vdovii]

I think it was more of her thought she would be okay with it and then when he realised he's wrong decided to shift the blame

[@hpdanfan14]

I think I do disagree with you on the ‘mimicking the father’ one. The post did say that the daughter tried to talk to him about it before she decided to put on the show. Of course, we don’t know what she said or how she went about saying it, but the father was at least made aware of the problem first, and didn’t change his behavior at all. 16-year-olds may not have the best tact, but dad’s the adult here.

[@naomicamacho5674]

Agree

[@JV-ic6to]

She might be a justified asshole, but she was still an asshole.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Teenage girls are expected to show more tact and maturity than adult men. Nothing new here 🙄

[@am48383]

Also, if the dad is arguing with Mom almost every night, that shit gets old and annoying real quick. The dad is an adult and his responsibility with mom is to create a safe household and not an emotionally draining one. He needs to learn how to cope with his stress and communicate his needs and wants effectively. If he is able to do that then he can teach his children how to do the same. And maybe, just maybe he won't have his child mocking him for his behavior. They will be safe enough to go to him and have a conversation about their gripes.

[@NotLaura-Baka22]

Plus dad gave her silent treatment so childish 😂

[@PercyBoom69]

"aita for mocking my horrible father?" Absolutely NTA. Some people only learn if you take it a step too far

[@AlienZizi]

@@trashrat1234 "people only change when they have to"

[@Loverera2023]

I think it depends if the kid is being truthful or not! With stories like these we need someone else side, not the fathers. Like the mother or siblings

[@yulana990]

@@Loverera2023 Well you're never gonna get anyone else's side when it comes to reddit AITA stories, the whole point is that they write it secretly to get advice. All you can assume is that it is real, or is some made up story which usually people pick up on because its so similar to other ones. But in general you could say everyone on AITA is lying, and all these stories are technically one sided and can never be 100% truthful as people always even unconsciously are biased towards themselves ofcourse. Discussing whether or not she told the truth or not isn't doing anything, you either believe her or you don't, but these are all the info we got, and to me the story we got would be NTA. If you believe what she said, then to me she is NTA as her own mother and siblings didnt even stop her and instead seemed happy about it, as if relieved someone fought back against the father. That indicates it clearly was a necessary step towards someone refusing to budge, who then instead of trying to change, still just victimized themselves. Just a toxic home environment.

[@Loverera2023]

@@yulana990 yeah…. I’ve seen AITA before and read them before! It’s just fun for me too pretend their real….. escapism if you will! Lol, I agree with u, but I’m just tryin to embody opinionated Dylan mode.

[@CV20000]

My mom had a fiancé once who sounds a lot like that dad. From my experience, 100 percent assholes

[@KdeeBUBBLES444]

The husband in the last one is downright evil in my opinion. I would be taking those groceries right back to the food bank when he isn't around, and giving them a photo of him so they don't serve him in the future.

[@tabathaalshalhoub1653]

That’s what I was thinking. In the comments where people are asking if there’s any left, I would have outted the husband and explained that this man (with photo) took some and makes $200k a year. Downright shameful.

[@emme2141]

Either that or donate any groceries she buys to the food bank and only use the food he brings home so it doesn’t go to waste, and then he just ends up bringing home what she bought anyway

[@tabathaalshalhoub1653]

@@emme2141 excellent point.

[@crazybiogeek]

All of that, yes. She also should tell all the area food banks to block him on social media, so he's less likely to find out about stuff like the produce availability in the first place.

[@Bittarig]

Priscilla also being the first name to come to my mind when he said P gave me the confidence to believe that Dylan would also say Sarah for the fiance's name. I wasn't ready for Salamander.

[@valencamps5980]

The 16 year old said she tried talking to him to no change from his dad. So if that "mocking" (She wasn't even mocking, she was mirroring what he did everyday.) was the only way for him to actually put a thought about his actions, i completely agree with her.

[@withLoveJoyKing]

I know Dylan doesn't like when people use extremes when describing Reddit stories, but the last dude was so vile. The amount of greed and entitlement that man exuded disgusted me and I can't imagine how OP could ever put up being associated with that type of person. He is the literal definition of gluttony.

[@Tink00]

If the word "unhinged" is apparently reserved exclusively for premeditated mugging, then what do we call defrauding a food bank? An oopsie?

[@fayealh]

My guess is the husband grew up not so rich and now he has a bad hoarding mentality JUST A GUESS DONT COME FOR ME

[@boomyn]

@@fayealhin the post she says that he never experienced food scarcity, so I don’t think that is it.

[@fayealh]

@@boomyn i missed that! thanks! damn is this just plain greed and selfishness

[@alexhika]

The girl making the "dad's parody" absolutely slays. Imagine being so frustrated by your family situation and seeing your mom so helpless that you have to come up with something like this. I think the fact she talked to him before is already so brave, it must have been so hard to find the courage to do that. As a father, the fact your child feels compelled to take action like that should have been a big alarm bell that the kids were suffering from the situation. I am sure it wasn't fun for the dad to witness the "parody", but the point wasn't for him to be fun, it was a desperate, last attempt at catching his attention. It might be a good father in other moments, I don't think the daughter was ever implying he is an horrible person through and through. I hope he realises his daughter was just trying to help the family.

[@z3ny156]

I disagree. How is the mum completely helpless? Like..she's a sah mum, the whole point of that is that the house is your responsibility (mostly) so if he is complaining that she's not doing the work how is he terrible and how is she helpless? Your own child mocking you like that is so disrespectful. He clearly doesn't just lounge around and complain, he's literally coming back from his job where he's also been working all day.

[@itsamina2152]

⁠@@z3ny156I think the point is that the fathers complaints are affecting the kids as well and the parents arguing is more of a problem rather than someone isn’t fulfilling their responsibilities. So maybe the daughter wanted the arguments to stop but needed to do it in a more respectful manner 🤷‍♀️

[@z3ny156]

@@itsamina2152 yes, I can agree with that, but I do think that while she may have meant well, her actions and how her dad must have seen it happen make her an asshole, just because her intentions were right doesn't mean what she didn't isn't wrong and disrespectful

[@ihavenoname330]

@@z3ny156 I STRONGLY disagree. There is only so much yelling and arguing a kid can hear before they explode. The dad is very immature for using the silent treatment when he could've talked it out with them and apologize for his already childish behavior. Parents need to take in account how they treat their kids. Another thing: If you haven't lived the experience, then its best not to speak on it. Just saying.

[@z3ny156]

@@ihavenoname330 firstly, I have lived the experience. My parents were in an arranged marriage and aren't the happiest couple. Regardless of that, I'd never disrespect my mum or dad like this. Next, refusing to talk to them actually might be the more mature move, if your kid did that, maybe he was very angry but didn't want to let it out unhealthily so chose not to talk. It's not a bad thing. Also, he could've just felt reasonably disrespected and not wanted to talk which in my opinion isn't a bad thing. If you mock someone, even with good intentions chances are they're not going to be completely understanding of your intentions right away. Lastly, if there genuinely was stuff to complain about in the house, then after getting home from work I can understand bring frustrated. However if not, then I agree the dad's behaviour outside of this incident is childish, but we didn't really get much clarification on that

[@blue.is.typing...]

Honestly that 16-year-old girl is my hero. Obviously I don’t know for sure but from my experience, dads who talk like that are usually sexist authoritarian assholes and I really get the vibe that this is exactly what’s happening here, especially considering the daughter tried to have a conversation first and was ignored. Bad sign.

[@emersyn444]

honestly reminded me of my dad-absolutely impossible to have a conversation with unless you call him out in front of an audience, only when he feels embarrassed would he want to “talk in private” like you haven’t been trying for ages

[@bensmith5581]

lol

[@charlie8904]

i absolutely agree, she tried to have a mature conversation with him about his behaviour and it didn’t work. a lot of the time with misogynistic men the only way to get your point across is to hurt their feelings and this man was clearly making his family’s lives a nightmare with his sexist behaviour so it’s fully deserved

[@bensmith5581]

@@charlie8904 don't be a misandrist. Men bad oooga ooga, girls good ooga ooga.

[@charlie8904]

@@bensmith5581i have no shame in my hatred of men as someone who is oppressed by them, cry about it xo

[@shioramenrabbit]

That middle one was wild. The society we live in that made that woman think she needs to disclose that she dated best friends by accident as a "colourful past". That's not a thot, that's not colourful, and that guy was virgin levels of inexperienced if he thought it was something he needed to overcome. That is the pettiest frigging bullsh*it, they cannot be serious.

[@Lilith-_-]

Wearing a Corpse Bride costume to a costume themed engagement party seems very appropriate and funny.

[@joelledieduksman]

you're wrong about the father one. As someone whose father does the EXACT same thing every day, I can appreciate this person going out of their way to try and get it through to their father. Our entire family has tried telling my father about his behaviour being out of bounds (my siblings, mum, aunts, uncles, family friends) and nothing anyone said has gotten through to him. If being mimicked in a rude or uncomfortable way is how the message gets through to him, then so be it. People don't like seeing the error of their ways, and will often be as blind to it as they can, so sometimes they need a big wake up call for them to realise their mistakes.

[@panda2290]

Completely agree. My father's the same way and no amount of serious conversations have ever gotten through to him. Despite making my entire family miserable, he won't even entertain the idea that he needs to change... So yeah, what she did was rude and still probably won't work (goodness knows my father would just focus on how unreasonable *I* was being without an ounce of self reflection) but at some point you just feel like you have to try anything you can think of, hoping something helps.

[@poorvabharambe2041]

yh honestly same like he's not going to learn unless someone says something, and with people like that they are so stubborn and always think they're right. Also I feel like dylan saying 'think about the dad' is fucking stupid. He is a grown ass man and can deal with things, think about the CHILDREN who have to see their parents fight.

[@limnaee1812]

He said he was gonna do the opposite for this episode guys 😂

[@lillapapai4981]

I don't think that op is in the wrong although I want to push on "two things can be true at once" one can be an asshole and still be in the right.

[@ganymedehedgehog371]

In other words you want a petty “victory”

[@XxMaddieCat]

As someone who experienced food insecurity as a child this last post boils my blood. If it weren't for our local food bank my mother and I would have starved. In fact my mother did go hungry many times. Over a decade later, with a husband with a good income, she now runs a homeless shelter. Gives back all she can, now that she can. That kind of selfishness is so upsetting.

[@HeatherHolt]

That’s amazing she’s giving back like that! What a lady ❤ ❤ I remember going to food banks as a kid with my mother, and also with my fathers mother (my granny) and using food stamps when it was actual coupon books you had to use. Anyways now my mother has money, yet she still acts like she’s poor and broke. She’s so stingy, she gives used things as gifts, or dollar store items as gifts like I remember one year for my birthday she got me marked down Easter window stickers from dollar tree (like why), one time she bought me used shoes from goodwill that weren’t even the right size and tried to pass them off as new. And she knows my size bc her and I wear the same shoe size. She does it on purpose even tho I told her time and time again don’t buy me anything for Xmas or bdays, yet she still would buy me some jank and then hold it over my head for months 😂

[@lovediedin2009]

honestly i gotta agree with you on that salamander story. either OP is lying or it really did happen and they just have a knack for hyperbole & making everything sound like fanfiction

[@Lucifronz]

It's Reddit, you might as well just assume it's all fake. Pointless to even speculate, there are a lot of wannabe writers out there.

[@ortiz789]

Personally for the mocking dad one, I think NTA. Their story is similar to my family. My dad comes home everyday to berate my mom for not cleaning. He constantly complains that we don’t clean and that we leave the house a mess, but he’s a hypocrite as he’s the one always leaving dirty dishes and dirty napkins in the sink, leaving the restroom dirty, and leaving dirty foot tracks across the floor after we’ve told him countless times to remove his shoes before entering the house. If someone were to simply tell him to stop doing that, he wouldn’t listen and would get offended. So I thinking taking it a step too far with the mocking would be help him realize the type of person he is.

[@layabstar]

I wonder if dylan will realize while reading the comments how unequal the comparison of "complaining abt being cheated on" is to "complaining about the food my wife cooked being cold when I get home"

[@Michelle-qg7kn]

The one with returning boyfriend's PS5 gift, OP should absolutely throw this boyfriend and his whole friend group away in the trash. Like why does it matter who or how many people she dated? and the fact that the boyfriend doesn't even defend her from her friends and even agrees she's a 'thot'. Absolutely not. He's disrespectful and she deserves someone that's not a freaking child. Jessica is also a pick-me girl.

[@faeb.9618]

as far as i remember from the updates she did, the entire friend group was toxic as all hell and telling him she was a gold digger and jessica wanted to sleep with him to get back at her

[@Michelle-qg7kn]

@@faeb.9618 ugh! I knew it. Thank you for updating me

[@Rikrobat]

I don’t know if I’d have the guts to take back a gift I’d already given, but I’d be done with that person for sure. This antiquated idea that women need to be “pure” when entering a relationship is so tired. Dude needs to get those insecurities checked.

[@excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339]

Right? Especially because most of these purists also want said virgins then to be good and enthusiastic their first time. Also, they still want to be able to f women, just not “the one”, so what happens with/ to all the “used, impure” women?

[@viiviviviiv]

pride wouldn't allow me to take back the gift lol but yeah that would be the end.

[@taeminislove]

You honestly SHOULD build up the guts to take back a present you JUST gave to someone who doesn't deserve it. Pride should be the least of your priorities when you're already being berated behind your back.

[@dheu]

I would take it back for sure. It was literally just given, PS5s are expensive as heck, that money was from her savings, and if the relationship isn’t going to continue, why leave him a great gift he will spend years enjoying? It would hurt my pride more to imagine him playing on the PS5 and not caring at all about the broken relationship.

[@Rikrobat]

@@taeminislove - It wouldn’t be pride holding me back, but anxiety. I’m working on building those guts, but it’s a long road.

[@kiya2511]

The mocking child was NTA imo. I've been around a lot of parents like that and they make life insufferable and sometimes you have to take drastic measures to make them aware of what they're doing. If the youngest child can recognize the dad's shitty behaviour as normal then it's definitely something that's been going on for a long time. These kinds of parents won't listen if you decide to "talk" to them. This way, he can't dismiss how everyone in the family views him. Hopefully, he can work on it and their relationship gets better. I can't blame the kid, they're young and they don't have the capabilities to confront parental figures in what we think is a proper way. They're doing what they can and kudos to them for even trying tbh.

[@taschenlara]

Yes and also she said she tried to talk to him before and nothing changed so she tried the normal way of confrontation and it didn't work so she was desperate for a different way to communicate her issue.

[@Lucifronz]

Exactly. My father is the same. Spends all day complaining yet contributes nothing. Trying to have a genuine conversation gets nowhere. You *have* to belittle them. Their ego is the only thing that matters to them, they have no empathy.

[@gfandbflove]

For the birthday one, I believe that Jessica is that jealous friend. My fiancé has a couple, he doesn’t hang out with them anymore and when he does it’s with mutual friends, who have tried insulting me or gets jealous of other girls like they’re his girlfriend. We’ve been together for 8 years and it’s honestly amusing to me to hear those stories. Crazy how delusional some people can be.

[@thylionheart]

There was an update to that one; OP dumped the guy but before she did she asked him if he and Jessica had ever hooked up before. They hadn’t, but he said that Jessica had offered to get “revenge” on OP. The update is honestly a rollercoaster, turns out the now-ex BF became obsessed with finding out who Adam & Jake were, found them on socials, and then became convinced that OP only dated them because they’re rich, and that she’d left Adam for Jake bc Jake had money too. He literally concocted this whole narrative in his head, enabled and partially created by his friends, and held all that fiction against her.

[@Kjf365]

​@thylionheart Never get tied up in a narrative you make up yourself. A buddy of mine, my crush, and I work at the same place, and my buddy and I were having a conversation. By crush walks in to talk about something work related and it took my friend's attention and he had to leave. She asked if she was interrupting anything and I said no. A little time passes and I start to worry about if she was implying something, then following that line of thinking I started to worry about if she thought we were gay or something. After a little more time, I realized I shouldn't worry about something I literally just made up in my head. I have no idea where that line of thinking would have taken me, but it wouldn't have been good.

[@jbizly9584]

21:13 well she did state earlier in the post that she’s tried talking to him abt his ways before but nothing ever changed so this was actually “a different approach” sometimes u have to hurt someone’s feelings to get them to understand how they hurt urs

[@merykhan97]

The 16yo is not an AH. I believe she got the message across despite the pettiness. The dad probably got hurt but he hurts the moms feelings everyday.

[@BeyondTrash-xe1vs]

"The dad probably got hurt but he hurts the mom's feelings everyday." That's such terrible logic, c'mon man. It's not healthy to have this attitude. Also, you can be right, you can get a point across, and you can still be an asshole. Now just to be clear with you, I actually agree. I just thought your reasoning was poor.

[@yerinbaekscandlelight]

@@BeyondTrash-xe1vsI actually think the dad deserved much worse but you wouldn't want to hear about that.

[@victoriacv4338]

i think it was assholy but sometimes we need to be assholes to assholes, it's the only language they understand

[@fillyreports]

That last one threw me for a LOOP. I feel like if it were me, and I couldn't get my husband to stop, I would honestly fight back by donating the food we buy for groceries. Also probably going to the local food banks with his picture and ratting him out. Sorry, but that's insane lol

[@M1AH]

I may be wrong but I've heard this story being read by an other channel and they mentionned something about ratting him out. Don't remember for sure if it was just them talking about what she should do or if she actually did that, but either way I like to think she did haha

[@shelby4771]

If I were in her position, I would 1) Donate $, time, and/or food myself only IF I were to stay in that marriage. 2) Go to the food bank and tell them not to serve him anymore 3) Get some marital counseling because he needs to learn some fucking empathy for people in need. I can relate a tad, (not to the having $ lol) my ex was like that, wouldn’t even let me give a homeless man $ the entire time I was with him and refused to volunteer when I would because he didn’t want to “get sick”. 🗑️

[@hannarfp]

what the teenager daughter did was immature but her dad's reaction was equally immature and he's the adult. it's different to mock bad behavior of a roommate who might be going thru shit and mocking bad behavior of a parent who might be going thru shit but is also supposed to raise you

[@taschenlara]

And I think with his roommate thing he forgot the most important part which is that the dad's behaviour affects other people not only the one roommate. The dad's behaviour hurts the mother and badly influces their children. And all of them could be going through some stuff while the dad is just adding up to that And also your house and your family is supposed to be a safe space and when you're parents are arguing a lot that's kind of not the case.

[@Lucifronz]

And it's also what a 19-year-old would do. Insensitivity and immaturity is to be expected at that age. The father can't honestly be that surprised. His ego was just bruised.

[@bensmith5581]

how do you know his behaviour was bad

[@jammiewhammie]

also the teen made it sound like this is a daily argument so i feel like it was an effective way to get him to self reflect because evidently the talking wasn't doing anything lol

[@v_doll]

I love the point of the daughter acting immature, as if her father isn't?? What grown adult needs someone to heat up their dinner and prepare a bath for them? That's not your husband, that's a toddler.

[@MichelleAlina91]

The fiance not wanting the daughter there is the biggest red flag. It's his daughter. Wtf?

[@m.e.881]

Dylan I'm completely with you on the weird vibes from the wedding dress guy! He absolutely secretly wants her to leave the husband, and he'll be right there with a shoulder to cry on. I have a handful of platonic guy friends who have been there for my husband and I through thick and thin for over 10 years. In the past I thought I had more, though. I had to distance myself from some guys who I thought were my platonic friends, but would do similar things like the wedding dress guy. Allllll the vibes are there. These kids are so young it might be hard to notice it. Sometimes it takes experience for women to develop their radar for this sort of behavior. Hope she realizes what's going on here between these two men.

[@ChronicallyofflineRavenclaw]

Yes, I agree!! I’ve had a lot of “platonic guy friends” who end up not being platonic and I’ve seen a girl who was platonically friends with my husband get these weird vibes too, it’s hard to even describe sometimes- but when you know you know. My husband and I had to cut a few people out who we could tell were not the platonic friends we once thought they were.

[@oceanshells88]

I completely believe the story about the stepmother not wanting the daughter in the wedding. It's exactly what happened to my sister and I when my dad got remarried. She was real nice to us until she got the ring on her finger.

[@erinaa9486]

Sorry 😢

[@alexsmart2612]

Did your write about it on reddit though, that too in almost real time?

[@Isarai1705]

I totally get it. My dad remarried and the new wifey wasn't a fan of mine. She kept calling my dad when he was out with me (i live with my mom). She got upset when my dad had to do some last-minute emergency ride with me (medical stuff) and she would get angry if my dad spend back-to-back days having lunches or dinners with me. Anyway, they are divorced now for other reasons, still she wasnt nice ever.

[@kayomi8304]

I dunno if the 16-year old went about the "right" way or whatever, but i can tell you it does drive one insane to live with a parent like that. my dad is also like this even though my mom also works full-time. so he comes home and still complains about the house or dinner not being made. it really chips away at you and builds this hatred inside. so i really feel for her.

[@carocaro_v]

i have to disagree with the dad one. imagine if it was the mom saying stuff like "we'd have a nicer looking house / better food if your dad was better at his job and made more money". its so not ok to talk in such a disrespectful way about the work your partner does all day, and it shouldnt be a kid's job to point it out.

[@melodye14]

Definitely not the kid's job.

[@patroclusOW]

yeah, that last story really boils my blood. i've been homeless twice in my lifetime and have experienced food insecurity for most of my life (including right now). my s/o and i have used the local food bank several times. the idea that some rich fvck is going to food banks and *intentionally* cosplaying poverty to get food that will end up going to waste absolutely fills me with rage. i hope she leaves him. i agree with everyone else - that man IS unhinged.

[@rollingwithmoore]

I hope she divorces him, and then he loses his good paying job and Now has to work paycheck to paycheck; When he goes to get his food, all of the other people take all of the good food And leave him with the nasty shit. That will hopefully teach him

[@d.o.vitelli5855]

I LOVED the one with the daughter imitating her dad's behaviour. I hate it when men act like that, and honestly I don't think she went too far at all. This type of people don't get it until they're the one receiving this treatment so it's both a clever and funny way to send the point across. I also have a dad like this, and honestly, being a woman makes it so much infuriating to witness. Nothing will make him understand it, trust me

[@simona_merkinin]

Yeah, that girl is not the ahole for mocking her father. I wish I had the courage to stand up to my father like that back when we were still living together. Imagine how it feels to never hear a good word about anything that you do. The house isn't clean enough, food is bad ect. The dad was treating his wife like a maid and not a really good one, imagine how it must feel. Of course, maybe he has some trouble at work, but it doesn't excuse coming home and complaining about every little thing, especially with the kids around. If one of the partners is not satisfied with the other it needs to be discussed in private goddamn.

[@n.j.1894]

And when it becomes so overwhelming that the child has to do something about it you know something is just wrong (speaking as a teen living in a similar household situation)

[@annapugh5542]

Dylan’s humility is truly one of the many great wonders of the world

[@bazalmorani6557]

so why didn't the boyfriend get mad at Jessica for making the comment and for him losing his little gaming system?

[@jessbeingme8155]

There was an update the little friend group had a running joke that OP was a gold digger, even though OP had been with the ex for 4yrs they've been saying she'll be leaving him the moment she finds another rich guy, one of her ex boyfriends had money.

[@asareirene]

​@@jessbeingme8155the gold digger spent money buying her bf a ps5? Is that what gold diggers do these days? I need to get myself one then

[@sheisaMachine]

@@jessbeingme8155 hopefully she leaves him for a peace of mind. friends seem like they suck, which means the bf probably does to. lay with dogs don't be surprised when you get up with fleas

[@sheisaMachine]

@@asareirene -0 IQ

[@sydneyice]

OP asked the ex bf if he has slept with Jessica before and he said no but that jessica suggested that they hook up if he ever needs to “get back at me” in the future

[@blesseth7360]

Having a healthy childhood seems nice. You deem everything as “fixable”(like saying the dad probably just needs someone to talk to🥺)😭😭😭✋🏼

[@HBQ]

omg the "her answer full on shocked me" immediately made me think the story was bs,, and i was so glad you caught on at the same time

[@cherry9475]

my regular dose of giggles is Dylan’s unmatched humour.

[@delaneyprangley8142]

Both my stepsister and I were flower girls in my parent's wedding. My mom (my step sisters new stepmom), my step-sister and I all got ready together in the bridal sweet. It was an amazing bonding moment for us. There's no reason that Salamander should be keeping Priscilla from participating in the wedding.

[@Tink00]

This comment was so wholesome, and then I got to Salamander and I completely lost it. He really shouldn't have named her that 😂

[@aavacada]

I remember reading the wedding dress cosplay & the food bank ones when they were posted to Reddit. Both of them are infuriating tbh. An engagement party & wedding are two totally separate things & if it was that much of a concern to the bride, they should have set a dress code. You don’t get to masquerade a surprise wedding as a costume party & get upset if people wear a white dress as part of their costume. With the food pantry one, I can understand being frugal. But the moment you decide to intentionally dress like a homeless person & drive around in a beat up car, that’s when you know it’s gone too far and that you’re a selfish, problematic AH. It is not simply just HIS money to decide what gets done with it, it’s both of theirs. The fact that he’s so controlling over finances that he has his own money & he still gets say over how her money is spent. That’s no longer being frugal, that’s bordering on financial abuse.

[@magdalenehagey4079]

And the person wearing a dress WAS A MAN.

[@deannascorner8112]

The food bank one still makes me so mad. I grew up in poverty and my family needed to use the food bank and was turned away sometimes because of lack of food. We were a family full of young children, so he’s potentially not just taking food from poor adults, but poor children. Just wrong and I can’t believe there are people that are like that or would justify that.

[@hinrinn1788]

I really get the ick from the idea that straight men and women have difficulty being friends. As a bi person, that would imply that I can't have a plain and simple platonic relationship with *anyone*. It's just not how it works. People can be friends without having conflict over actual/potential romantic or sexual attraction!

[@rmjl1793]

I'm not usually one to immediately jump to "dump him" because there's so much more nuance to relationships but for that last one, Holy shit man. I don't think I could ever get over how he fundamentally puts himself above all others (including his partner since he clearly doesn't care that this is something she's morally opposed to) and they way he clearly views the less fortunate. If it was me, I think I'd be out

[@-kassy-2423]

As an older daughter who relates to the dad doing nothing in the house and the mom doing everything. That kid had every right to lock her dad. He is a fu(king ahhhole and he should be more grateful for what he’s got.

[@gamingwlithcarloisbest1167]

He pays for everything while the moms cleans the house he doesn’t have to come home to clean a house if the mom really wants the husband\dad to clean so bad she should just get a job

[@AlienZizi]

@@gamingwlithcarloisbest1167 thats cute, you think the mom just cleans? look up how much a maid, nanny and personal chef cost, then tell me how much money it would take for you to do all three of those things at the same time? also, you dont get any time off.

[@-kassy-2423]

@@gamingwlithcarloisbest1167 the mom cleans, washes the dishes, takes care of the children, does the laundry, cooks, has to take care of a man child, goes grocery shopping, supervises everything in the house, bonus point if she actually has a job. A stay at home mom works so effing hard, more than you can even imagine. This is tiering and exhausting. Don’t underestimate that. Yes the dad makes money but that’s all he does, but that selfish jerk can do more than complain.

[@-kassy-2423]

@@gamingwlithcarloisbest1167 you are just a kid and have no idea how a family works apart from the exemple your parents set. If one day you get married you have to take responsibility in your family life.

[@Black.Spades]

@@gamingwlithcarloisbest1167 If there's two parents living in the same house with their children, then both should do chores and actively spend time with their children. Of course if one parent stays at home more often (part time job, no job etc), it makes sense for them to do a larger share of housechores and childcare. That doesn't mean the other parent doesn't need to do anything because they have a job. With this logic people might as well apply the 8 to 5 mentality to housechores and kids for the SAH mom or dad?

[@xapokalypse]

AITA for mocking my horrible father: I still dont think that the daughter is the AH here. She just tried to show her father how he's being perceived and he obviously got called out which is why he didnt even say anything and just left the room. Sometimes you have to use methods like those to see how negative a person is being. No one likes to be called out but it was necessary when he treats his wife like trash. People think being a stay at home mom is easy because you can just chill at home, do a bit of cleaning and taking care of the kids is soo easy, but it's really not. I'm sure if he switched places with his wife then certain things would also not be perfect. Complaining about cold food is crazy...like just put it in the microwave. The dad is the AH.

[@juliii_g]

And didn't it say that she tried talking to him before but it didn't work? 🤔 She's not the AH

[@AmYellowCow]

idk i think they're both the AH lmao i agree that the dad shouldn't be coming home to complain and be snarky with how his family handles things when he's at work, but on the contrary, the daughter shouldn't have mocked him but instead take a different route and try to understand his pov in some ways, the mom is lowkey the AH too, she should be more mature as to not have her children have to act as adults and enjoy their time as kids (not saying they shouldn't do house chores n stuff, just mean they should have to meddle in the parents business) basically the mom and dad (maybe the eldest daughter) should have a sit down convo to try and understand what the problem is, because like dylan said, if someone's getting home all grumpy like that, they're not actually mad at how dirty the carpet is and such, theres something else wrong- this also stacks with the fact that since they live the classic "mom cares for kids at home while dad makes the money" story, men in those situations often don't/can't properly handle their personal problems and keep everything bottled up which causes them to lash out at things that don't really matter

[@mewaw-mp5ht]

​​@@AmYellowCowhow did you come to the conclusion that the mom is making the children act like adults when the dad is the one coming home and berating/causing arguments with his wife over a dirty carpet. Dad is obviously the one who pushed his kid to this point. The youngest even caught on. The daughter did try to talk to him, it didn't work. The daughter is not in any way responsible for her father taking his stress out on his wife. It's not the wife's fault either, being a sahm mom is stressful, ESPECIALLY with 2+ kids. Why should the dad get more sympathy when the mom is being berated everyday and the kids have to hear it?

[@AmYellowCow]

@@mewaw-mp5ht what does the children acting like adults have to do with the dad coming home like a grumpy ass? my whole point with that statement was that kids shouldn't have to fix their parents issues, if the adults are mature enough, then they should find a way to fix their shit on their own which is why i said the mom was partially the ah because she could've steered her daughter in a better direction... i also always hate when people say they "tried talking" to someone, bc 99% of the time its just them talking about all of the bad things and not making the person in the wrong want to listen (literally the post is called "mocking my horrible father"), the comment Dylan read on the post was how to handle it, basically butter them up, make them WANT to listen, then try and sympathize to try and get the person to understand why they're wrong- do they deserve it? not always, but it's the favorable route for all parties involved i never said the daughter was responsible to her father, my whole point was that she shouldn't be i never said the dad should have "more sympathy" than the mom, i'm saying he should receive SOME sympathy... like i said, assuming you actually read my full comment instead of glancing though it, "if someone's getting home all grumpy like that, they're not actually mad at how dirty the carpet is and such, there's something else wrong," and "men in those situations often don't/can't properly handle their personal problems and keep everything bottled up which causes them to lash out at things that don't really matter" as someone who grew up with parents who constantly fought and divorced when i was only a few years old, i can sympathize with both parents in this situation- even more-so when my mom was raising 2 kids on her own while working 3 jobs 🤷‍♀

[@okrasamwich]

I think its also telling that the mom found it funny, cause they might be biased and only see the bad but if I mocked my dad for his shortcomings my mom would defend him and tell me not to disrespect him. So since the mom found it funny the she probably thought it was called for

[@sashaalis8283]

I actually laughed out loud at the short staffed joke 😂😂😂

[@muchomango11]

How do you throw a surprise wedding and get upset that people aren’t wearing the right thing 😭😭😭

[@astrowolvez]

And like they think it’s a costume reception, I feel so many people out there would wear a wedding dress costume as a joke.

[@bookbabe0402]

Can we all take a moment to appreciate the way Dylan highlights the paragraphs as he reads? 👏🏻

[@RedCaio]

Probably the Editor but yeah

[@jolonghthong]

no its him with his cursor

[@thestitchwithsami]

What the first mom should have done is packed all her shit, recorded her husband sleeping with noise-cancelling headphones, and played it on loop in the baby's crib for him to find when he woke up on his own lmao

[@grasshopperye3593]

For the food bank dude, why doesn't she just threaten to spend twice as money buying more groceries to donate to the food bank every time he steals donations? Since she obviously doesn't want to leave him, that would at least neutralize the harm he does while providing incentive for him to stop. It's still really, really weird and messed up that he does this in the first place though lol.

[@LaydiNite]

Because he would likely cut her off entirely, and use the fact that he's the primary earner to force her to act the way he wants, or he'll withdraw his monetary support. That's how financial abuse works, unfortunately.

[@sammyursula]

@@LaydiNite She isn't dependent on his income though. She said she's never used any of the money he earns and has no plans to as she both works and has a trust fund herself. Honestly, I was thinking of the same solution. And--bonus points--it takes away some of his control over how she spends her own money. Ideally, anyways.

[@LaydiNite]

@@sammyursula I guess I misheard, it sounded like the trust fund was his and she made a lot less than him.

[@sammyursula]

@@LaydiNite It’s no problem! She does make less than him, presumably at her actual job, but she said that it was her trust fund ensuring they stayed financially stable. For reference, here are some time stamps where she says she has the trust fund (29:45) and she doesn’t use his money (30:16). Dylan told lots of stories though, it’s easy to mishear or twist a detail or two. I’m curious, however, if that changes your mind on this idea of donating twice as much food as he steals. Or if, because he’s still trying to control the money even when it’s not his, you think it could still backfire in a similar way…?

[@LaydiNite]

@@sammyursula I think it would help lessen the impact of what he's doing, but it won't stop him. I still think the best solution would be to go into the food banks with a photo of him and tell them what he's doing so they know not to give him the food in the first place.

[@MajesticAngel13]

Dude, if someone came to my wedding in a corpse bride cosplay, I wouldn’t be mad, i would find it ballsy and hilarious!

[@LaydiNite]

The person saying they've "been in a committed relationship with their husband for 17 years" likely just means that they weren't married for all that time, but were still in a serious relationship. She's just including the time before they were married when describing how long they've been together.

[@Jadedkiwis]

The wife in the last story should go to their local food banks and inform them of what her husband does

[@Beqeeangel]

The daughter shouldn’t have dropped the act. She should’ve spent at least two days pretending to be her father until the father was so pissed he storms out of the house and the family can finally have a nice afternoon together without him

[@d.o.vitelli5855]

I agree with her (and you), but personally I would be scared with him answering this provocation with violence. So idk if I would advise this

[@fayealh]

I love the dedication for pettiness LOL

[@kaldurskipper6821]

​@@d.o.vitelli5855Exactly. It's good for people to see the error of their ways, but if they are determined not to and are angry people, that can just backfire more on the other person

[@mariaeduardalyra3143]

Dylan: always complains about how redditors go to the extreme with their conclusions also Dylan: this guy is in love with his friend and wants them to divorce just to be with her

[@freakyyyyyyy1618]

Honestly I can't believe no one is talking about how unhinged dylan was here lol

[@ziggyzoo9335]

29:25 he isn’t the A hole for the dress thing but he is for posing it on Reddit and showing her comments about her husband on it

[@laurajaynenolan2149]

33:17 this guy is like the anti Robin Hood. A lot of people rely heavily on food banks and some families just won’t eat because he’s taking food meant for them. If I were the wife I would either re-donate the food or go shopping and donate new food every time he does this. There’s no reason for people to starve because he wants to save a few pennies.

[@Saka_Kishiyami]

Dylan is genuinely one of the funniest people but idk if I should tell him bc of his insane 20 year old ego

[@endees1317]

No but, seriously, Dylan's thought patterns truly surprise me (in a good way!) whenever I watch these videos. All of his jokes aside; he's very balanced when giving an opinion and does a great job at putting himself in another person's shoes.

[@Om3194]

The first story is insane. I personally wouldn’t have pulled that stunt but I would definitely divorce him and keep the baby away from him. He’s clearly neglectful and a POS

[@marisafernandes9259]

for the last story, if I was the wife I would take the food back to the food bank along with some of our stuff and show a pic of the husband to them and explain to them "this is my husband, we're well off, do NOT give him food". Then I might even buy less groceries than usual, just enough that he's slightly uncomfortable, so he can understand even the tiniest bit by showing him that discomfort is nothing and that's why the food banks are so important.

[@rollingwithmoore]

👏👏👏👏

[@thatsarcasticone1267]

The thing is I cannot tell if Dylan is purposefully mixing up frugality and fragility or doing it on accident 😂

[@honeybunlena]

the lack of editing from joe makes it very confusing lmao

[@pitterpattery]

The “thot story” made me so mad. Like bro wym “colorful past”? Literally all she’s done is date 2 guys at two different times, and then be single for 2 years before being in a relationship with him for 4 entire years…like her past is a black and white photo in this day and age 😭

[@a.a.2752]

definitely biased of me to think the kid who mocked her dad isn't a jerk lmao like kudos to her i'd never have the balls to do the same lol i just hope going forward her dad is willing to work on the issues they're having

[@christianevrye]

As soon as the word "short-staffed" came up I KNEW that joke was coming. The surprise was that you felt the shame it deserved 😂

[@jaywolf4824]

‘She waited until the moment he was getting out of the shower’ Does she time his showers? What, do you think she just knows when he’s going to be stepping into the room? Is she psychic? How on earth would she even be able to do that?! Is she just crouching outside the bathroom like a gremlin?

[@marlowcram7068]

“Crouching outside the bathroom like a gremlin”… that’s a beautiful picture you’ve painted there sir!

[@z912]

about the story with the girl mocking her dad, she’s already spoken to her father about his behaviour to no avail. people like that will not change just from words, they need to experience their own attitude, even her speaking to her dad after she mocked him would not have any success. seen so many parents like this so humiliating one parent that humiliates the other parent is an eye for an eye 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@aleenaj3586]

for most food banks in the uk, you have to have a special slip issued by charities, governments, outreach programs etc. that shows whether ur entitled to food there, how much you can get (like if you need more for a dietary reason or because you have dependants) and if you have any allergies etc. so food doesn't get wasted and more people can be helped. tbh i think more countries should adopt this thing because it really helps out the most people it can

[@tomatopotatu8137]

Yea but these things take time to issue and it won't work perfectly. I've been in a situation where I could barely afford 2 meals a day (I was 15) because my father wasn't paying alimony and my mother was unemployed. Because on paper I had money, I wouldn't have qualified for the food bank

[@jijitters]

I understand this but the reason that's not the standard is that you have to go through a lot of effort to achieve that and a lot of poor people either don't have the time and resources to do that or don't even know how. In the US for example (where I assume the story took place) food banks don't have such rules because it's meant to be available judgement-free and available with ease for any hungry person to just walk in and get food right when they need it. Sometimes you only need help for a little while or you find yourself in trouble very suddenly without warning. The time it takes to get the help is too long. These long wait times for help are a common criticism about the UK.

[@catsmom129]

Lots of American agencies work the same way. At my workplace, customers/beneficiaries have to send in lots of documents - income verifications, bank statements, birth certificates/passports, etc. etc. - to determine whether they qualify for aid. It’s time consuming for both customers and staff. The upside is, some folks can access a wide range of services. The downside, it’s a confusing process to navigate. The more extreme someone’s situation, the harder it could be to focus on that process. If someone is truly hungry, I’d rather they get food first. Then they can think clearly enough to handle the rest. I think there’s a place for both kinds of systems.

[@lavanyailankovan]

yes, even in India there are ration shops where people from "Below Poverty Line" get ration cards and regularly get some amount of food

[@TCt83067695]

​@@lavanyailankovanit feels dehumanizing to me. You gotta prove you're worthy before you get help and support

[@nckanime3994]

I wish I thought of that "mimicking the father" idea as a teen. Maybe it would've gotten the point across to my own dad. I grew up with a father and grandfather exactly like the man described. Genius and not the a-hole.

[@munazzaaasim6601]

Since im from another country, these reddit stories just seem so crazy to me. A guy in a wedding dress threatened the bride, was so funny. In our culture recently married women wear their wedding dresses to others' weddings all the time, especially if they're close relatives although it does cause confusion, there's no social law against it instead you just expect that you'll see 3-4 brides in an event.

[@withLoveJoyKing]

Same for mine except we don't have specialty wedding dresses. Well we do, but it's a more fancy version of our traditional clothes and its more the combination with makeup, jewelry, hair, and attention that help indicate who the real bride is. So re wearing your wedding dress to another wedding is still common.

[@QVESTMusic]

28:28 I bet that the husband actually did want the OP to change outfit and that one small lie in this otherwise factual story paints the OP as the good guy, even though he probably wants the "childhood friend" narrative for himself.

[@aspisarma5779]

My favourite part of this video is Dylan not knowing the meaning of frugality