Judging Crazy r/AITA **The Finale**

[@JacobHillSBD]

It’s good to hear a story where the mother-in law comes in and goes “Oh okay no my son is very clearly fucking up here let me help”

[@denny3460]

Yess whenever I see these posts where the parent(s) in law isn’t deluded by their kids’ bs and helps the person in the right it makes me jump for joy

[@Shortkingharry]

But this is waaay too far the other way, and that poor new wife, they seem to be punishing her for their sons actions.

[@BlckSWANWhtRbbt]

​@@Shortkingharry I think they are referring to the one with the messy brother

[@FitzyyLives]

My grandmother(dad's mom) tried to stop my mother from marrying my father... needless to say, she didn't listen... my father was an alcoholic con man...

[@HouseMDaddict]

I legit thought it was going to be a trash family moment where the parents keep coming out to "battle each other and defend their kids automatically" but then I was pleasantly surprised that they legit were like "oh, they suck"

[@toastlover555]

The stay at home dad complaining about cleaning when all the things he listed is BASIC hygiene and cleanliness is actually beyond me.

[@Lisaa3124]

FOR REAL like kids are dirty and messy they need to be bathed daily and he wants to skip baths for 3 days sometimes????

[@emmajay2401]

@@Lisaa3124 My mom told me I use to play and try to eat dirt as a toddler, can't imagine a toddler being covered in dirt for days.

[@GreySeashell-j3m]

and they can get _sick_ 💀, just because children live through childbirth don't mean they can't die until they're 80 and you can just leave them to eat spit ridden dirt on the ground for until then, bruh. Simple deceases to adults can be deadly to children who have not yet built up any tolerance.

[@HoneyCat_Comb]

​@@GreySeashell-j3mand they way he didn't wanna clean their surrounding area either. Like he didn't wanna clean the kitchen the floor or the toys... Like those kids would be in genuine danger if not for his wife!

[@tarynsmell4811]

don’t be a stay at home parent and not clean like what

[@maggierappa417]

“Don’t go to events you could ruin” You’re right, she definitely went to this planning to have terrible cramps and false labor. Like what, she probably planned to just have a good time

[@B4466]

And maybe if she said no, the family would have been offended anyway. It was a rock and a hard place so she chose to go. I don't see how people are calling her the a**hole.

[@astrowolvez]

Like there are actual women who plan to announce their pregnancy just to get attention and this is nowhere close to that kind of situation. It’s baffling people don’t realize that.

[@anangi.e]

That comment pissed me off so fucking much, like do u lack empathy? It's not like she wanted to "ruin" the event. And even if she did it was purely unintentional and if anything effected her MORE than the sister in law. Sometimes people just lack consideration on a level beyond my own comprehension.

[@Sam82631]

THIS and also, if my SIL was in pain and had to go to the hospital, even if she didn’t tell anyone about her pregnancy, I would be worried about her not mad!

[@PrincessofKeys]

​@@Sam82631 it's just so strange how poeple think that others in pain are trying to ruin their event without even thinking for one moment.

[@sadiestewart624]

I was in false labor for 2 weeks and hearing you say “ babies and their lies” did more than therapy ever did

[@shoopidly5249]

Honestly same

[@cikka8613]

Yup, I feeel that!

[@TyarnaFallon]

Accurate

[@tibbytobby]

holy shit two weeks? how are you still alive oml

[@sheridanvance7426]

💛💛💛💛💛

[@katiepine3493]

I love how Dylan just refuses to say the correct length of a pregnancy

[@kelly-fp9wg]

I thought I was wrong I started second guessing myself for some reason 😭

[@praptimukherjee696]

to be fair, how is he supposed to know? it's not like he's a botanist...

[@norakropp_]

@@praptimukherjee696AGAHAHA

[@iLikeCok]

@@praptimukherjee696the zootopia video reference 💀

[@mikalawatchesthings]

@@iLikeCok oh that goes so much further back than Zootopia

[@nitabby]

imagine getting mad that the alcoholic dad made a scene after she was told to not invite him in the first place…she has no right to be angry.

[@JNB0723]

Agreed! 💯

[@layabstar]

I can't believe reddit deemed the hiding pregnancy lady an asshole. She was traumatized by her first experience with pregnancy and wanted to wait before getting hopes up, and then when SIL got pregnant she wanted her to have the spotlight. crazy she got made out to be the bad guy for that. and the guy ragging on her, listen to yourself "don't go to events that you could ruin like this" oh no she ruined the party by going into LABOR!?!!?! get a grip go outside ☠☠

[@itazuranakisu]

Normally I would agree except sometimes posters omit information that they sometimes later add in comments because they know if the comment was in the original post it will lead to them being an AH and sometimes posters try to downplay things/reasons for why those around them reacted the way they did (for example, if the poster has an undisclosed history of always wanting the center of attention or in this case denied being pregnant each time they were asked in later months). I do think most stories have some information omitted somewhere especially in cases where the person is obviously NTA because then it makes me more curious if they are holding information back. But yea I've taken time off from reddit aita sub because you never know what day people are going to project their own issues onto a poster. Commenters are rarely consistent. Hot topics such as "is it an AH move to bring food to another person's home" for yourself or your child because the food isn't something you eat, like or can tolerate is a daily toss up..

[@astoldbynickgerr]

And as if she can control her goddamn symptoms!!! Christ! 😅

[@astrowolvez]

And the husband was the one who freaked out because he was probably scared that with her pain getting worse that the baby could be in trouble.

[@moistwrmonastring1017]

Like she could just hold it in or something 💀 if she could’ve, she would’ve, but unfortunately birth happens when and where it happens

[@meiradoeshavealife]

This ain't about controlling symptoms - it's about having responsibility and respect for your hosts. If you had a seafood allergy and someone invited you to a party in a sushi restaurant, you would tell them about your health risk. OP knew her health, her 'condition' and how far along she was. At eight months you hit the point where the baby can actually come anyday. The mother should be ready for good or for bad and OP, knowing her situation, should have told the host about her health. But she didn't and made a scene. Sure, she couldn't control her symptoms but she knew her health history and how much along she was. She didn't prepare the host and in turn took someone else's day - that they prepared and paid for - and made about herself with a huge scene. Of course no one cared about the hosts because who would - someone else are now in an emergency situation and their baby is at risk. Of course the party was ruined and celebrating someone's baby (which was the reason everyone was gathered there in the first place) turned into only caring about someone else's secret baby that was now supposedly in danger. It does not matter if OP meant it or not - she made a babystunt when there as no need for one.

[@marissasalvador9072]

I feel bad for the lady in the second story who didn't tell people she was pregnant after a bad experience and was trying not to step on SILs toes after announcing her own pregnancy. Then proceeded to get crapped on for having a medical emergency

[@NoThankUBeQuiet]

Husband should have just said "Hey she's having a medical issue we are going to the hospital I'm sure it will be fine" rather than she's pregnant.

[@camilas.5294]

@@NoThankUBeQuietbut at the time he couldnt think fast, his wife was having his child???????

[@SunDarling369]

I love how they were like "how dare you show up pregnant!" Like??? It's not an ugly outfit it's a baby!!! People are so insanely entitled and inhuman. Like this shit should be happy and the community should be supportive. Life happens, unfortunately parties are not an exception

[@moren321]

I truly don’t understand the ppl that say yta, like are pregnant woman past 7 months supposed to inform everyone that they are pregnant before setting foot into any event, or better yet ask permission to attend while pregnant?

[@emmytowry7322]

As family, they should completely understand why they wanted to keep it secret since the first pregnancy/birth was so traumatic. She didn't PLAN to have intense false labor AT the babyshower. That's like being mad that someone had a heart attack at a funeral

[@LilRedWitch]

Also you can’t just…. Fake a false labor when it landed her in the hospital 💀 that would be a WILDLY expensive “all eyes on me” scheme. She even gave her husband a gift so she wouldn’t have to go and was still pressured into attending while trying to hide her baby bump. Sweet god what a nightmare for her

[@beanybabyrabie]

Imagine comparing cramping and “false labor” to a literal heart attack.

[@audreyisinjured]

@@beanybabyrabieI mean, they're all things you can't control and happen randomly, no?

[@ohmahgawd8873]

I don’t think you understand that this woman’s cramps were so bad she literally thought she was going into labor. Do you know how BAD and HORRIBLE those cramps had to be?

[@LilRedWitch]

@@ohmahgawd8873 THANK YOU YES. not to mention there are THOUSANDS of cases of women actually having a heart attack because of going into labor? And a lot of women don’t even realize it because labor is more painful than the heart attack. Also less oxygen is being pushed to the uterus during labor since the baby will not need oxygen delivered via umbilical cord that is from the oxygen in the mothers bloodstream. People love to compare labor pain to every other medical issue in the book 😭 just look up labor pains causing heart attacks (or symptoms) and hypoxia for newborns. A million peer reviewed sources are in the front page of google I swear- people just say shit 💀

[@sunnysteph_o]

The responses to the second story legitimately leave me speechless. How on Earth would anyone read that woman’s story and hear about her past trauma with pregnancy and blame her for a false labor that’s completely out of her control. She should be able to decide when to tell people about her pregnancy or EVEN not at all. It’s her business. The sister in law’s response to it is just disappointing too.

[@juniperrs]

THIS i literally paused the video just to express how mad i felt after that story, and they got the asshole label on Reddit like????

[@k0bsessed]

Exactly! I paused the vid in disbelief cos she clearly wasNOT the AH

[@rachaelb1283]

Yeah I agree with this. I feel like she made a difficult call about going/not telling, but at the end of the day its her decision when and how she announces it. And the false pregnancy was not her fault. Its not as if she walked in there all large and in charge, taking over the celebration.

[@spinshocker]

I was looking for this comment. I kept waiting for the crucial detail that turned the OP into the asshole, but it never came. OP said she didn’t want to go to the dumb baby shower, the SIL then pressured her into going. The fact that the SIL’s immediate reaction was anger about her family member “stealing her attention” rather than concern for her health and safety says a lot about that woman, and none of it good. Honestly, I think this was just a case of the wrong people finding this post.

[@miahwebb1135]

I feel awful for her, imagine not being sure about the whole thing after going through another baby scare reminiscent of past pregnancy trauma, then being told that the incident was both your fault and a stunt for attention at a baby shower you already planned to skip, with no concern for your health at all. These people. Ffs.

[@breerutlin3710]

I just find the story about the wife being a clean freak hilarious, shes not even over the top, most people shower/bathe once-twice a day, and the whole time I was thinking isn't that normal to not let your dishes pile up, or wash sheets weekly. I think he's just a messy man

[@wiktoriastolorz4841]

His response is so crazy to me... He said that he will try and HELP more wtf!!!! It's his job to do that, it aggravated me so much. This notion that he only is helping her to do the basic chores around THEIR home aaaaaaa

[@meghanhenderson8417]

He calls himself a stay home dad but straight up doesn't do the job. He should be fired, made to get a paying job and use that money to fund a nanny and a maid or if the wife would prefer to be a stay at home mom then they can switch roles because clearly she's the better housekeeper of the two.

[@wiktoriastolorz4841]

@@meghanhenderson8417 OMG YES ! at this point he is basically just staying at home with kids literally

[@maomi1852]

I was baffled with that story, all her demands/habits are normal!!!! When he said she was a clean freak I thought she washed everything daily and went around the house finding more spots to clean when she had already cleaned the house 😂 Really, just go to work and hire a nanny/maid man... You're not fit for the SAHD job.

[@wiktoriastolorz4841]

@@maomi1852 this ,,man'' is just a f*cking garbage probably smells to xd

[@thecatandrabbit6988]

It's hilarious to me that the wife showed him multiple articles about how he should properly respond to "guess what?" lol

[@JSainte17]

Imagine telling someone, "You're 8 months pregnant and IT can come out at any day and it comes out at your SIL's baby shower? That's extremely disrespectful." WHAT!? Also, if I was the SIL, sure I might be a bit bummed, but my main concern would be, "Oh shit, is my SIL ok?" I mean, she's in the f*cking hospital.

[@taylorllewelyn]

If I was in the SIL's place and I find out my SIL is pregnant at my baby shower, I would be excited for her. Like, what do they mean she "ruined" the baby shower?

[@gracebirnbaum8655]

Probably why the OP was originally so afraid to tell them

[@sammjaisais7135]

I know!

[@JSainte17]

@@gracebirnbaum8655 Yes. Even for Reddit, I am SHOCKED that she was labelled the AH.

[@gracebirnbaum8655]

@@JSainte17 yeah, I think they were on something that day

[@tempeperoni]

I feel so bad for the woman in the second story. A stillbirth is a traumatic thing and it’s not her fault she went through Braxton Hicks ( which is common and random ) at her sisters baby shower

[@mrsstonky.]

do you mean the second story?

[@astrowolvez]

And the way they left quietly as to not disrupt anything. She could have screamed in pain and I would still deem her nta because you can’t predict these things and her family probably would have still been mad had she not come.

[@maomi1852]

Right, I can't understand why she got the Ahole badge. It's her own business, it isn't mandatory to announce your pregnancy to other people wtf. Besides it's just a baby shower... Stealing what thunder?! Smh

[@Tamara-ju3lh]

​@@maomi1852 people are so selfish. They think the world literally revolves around them and that their events are sooooo important.

[@monicasania8539]

Literally I don’t get why she got the A-hole badge

[@hyde3155]

Aint no way are they blaming a pregnant lady for experiencing pregnancy symptoms💀

[@missserenity1090]

As if she could’ve controlled her symptoms and experiences while being pregnant. People are really stupid.

[@sierrarudd2389]

as someone that wants everything about them (as in my birthday, wedding, ect) but if my sil literally almost went into labor at my baby shower i’d be the first person calling 911 and making sure she is perfectly fine..like i can’t believe these people are blaming the lady who was about to give birth any second

[@jamsandwish]

@Highest In the Room the second one 'aita for hiding pregnancy'

[@superkamipopo4469]

Ehhhhh it's reddit commenters, not that shocking honestly

[@sxungmin]

@@superkamipopo4469 most if them are irrelevant.

[@lexhdz5803]

the funniest part abt the "babystunt" story is that she could have not been pregnant. that couldve been apendicitis. or an internal bleed. what would she blame the party being ruined on then??

[@bear9295]

Organ stunt?

[@katemiller3796]

I think a medical emergency occurring vs a baby being born would be very different. Especially considering she is 8 months pregnant and could go into labor early

[@Luluthekitty23]

Come on Dylan, everyone knows pregnant women can't hang out. The babies can get swapped if the moms accidentally bump bellies. That's why pregnant women can't go to other womens baby shower. I thought everyone knew that 😂

[@Imjustkendall]

Yea- this happened to me

[@esther.sandoval]

Yeah that happened to my mom with me now I'm on the journey of trying to find my bio family lol😂

[@zo19967]

He probably doesn’t know such an obvious fact because he’s only 20

[@whenimmanicimgodly4228]

It's actually deeper than that, not only do babies swap if rhe bellies bump but they also talk via Bluetooth to the other fetal ones, so when they come out of the womb they either are going to be best friends and not know each other or have long standing spiritual beef with each other

[@britknee1541]

don't say that to him he might believe you, remember he didn't go to college 😔

[@swanlake694]

For the drunk father one, I absolutely hate it when people act as though you have to just put up with your family members or you're a bad person. I have a lot of extended family that are legitimately terrible. Yet, some people still say things like "but they're your family" or "oh, so you won't even see them? Isn't that dramatic?" You don't always have to fix your relationship, sometimes it would be healthier to just leave.

[@rayrayl.4087]

I couldn't agree more with this comment. So glad the future bride has a supportive partner, though.

[@Shortkingharry]

THIS it actually aggravates me when people have this notion, we wouldn't say someone is wrong for leaving an abusive partner, or ending a friendship that's toxic, being related by genetics doesn't automatically mean anything, sure it can, but sometimes people are just bad for you, and I think it should be applauded that someone values themselves enough😊

[@somebodyoncetoldme2664]

They are NOT more deserving of your time and energy just because of whats in your blood. Noone deserves to be mistreated. If I get disrespected I have gained the self confidence and SELF RESPECT enough to confront them and try and reasonably solve the issue. My bar for disowning a family member is high I will say as it should imo as they are family and you do naturally feel different to them than a random stranger on the street as you naturally should....but you shouldn't put up with the same crap for so long. As long as you reach your position with reason and decide what is best for you and everybody else then I don't see an issue. It's only when the bar is super low that I do like mistaking pronouns so my 17 year old friend who's a girl disowns their parents...like it shouldnt be a light ez decision. Set the bar somewhat high and put in some effort but know when to see the whole image and progress and decide off that when it's time for a change.

[@harnessmadeofhopes]

Yeah that's me with my mother in a nutshell. I suffered through 18 years of putting up with emotional, verbal, and physical abuse. People need to know its okay to just walk away. You don't owe them anything, no matter how much they try to say you do.

[@chrryxwves]

facts. my dad is an alcoholic and can be extremely manipulative. after our last argument i cried for 2 days ignoring his messages considering if our relationship was worth keeping. I confided in my mom and as much as i love her she always tells me the same thing. if the relationship is draining, family or not, save your own peace of mind. i had my turn to turn my dad's hair grey and now he's given me some. shit aint worth it lmaoo

[@Unfortunately_Mickey]

As a parent and ex childcare provider it ticks me off so much when people assume others will watch their kid for free. Watching a child is work. Your child isn’t so wonderful that changes. Don’t assume you’re entitled to someone else’s labor. 😒

[@somebodyoncetoldme2664]

And they are responcible for what happens to the kid. I was 15 when I was put into a position to take care of two 5,6 year old cousins and if they got hurt I'd be crusified...can't imagine as an adult now going through the same thing and expectations I never signed up for to begin and never will.

[@lucybw]

I agree but I do think he made a good point about the OP not setting boundaries. From his sibling's perspective, he had been willingly watching the kid for a while. He definitely needed to set some expectations from the start, or at least when the frequency started to pick up.

[@PoutinePrincess]

Even if he didn't set boundaries, people are entitled to take vacations. He was helping his brother and they got mad that he wanted time off. Even if they were paying him(and it's not clear if they were) he doesn't need to be available all the time just because he has been so far.

[@gooodmorning4526]

And the fact that they were considering having a baby when they couldnt even look after the kid they had?? If you can't look after your kid, don't have another one and especially dont expect the other person to look after that one too

[@gooodmorning4526]

​@@PoutinePrincess yeah even if he didn't set boundaries, they were taking advantage him

[@annastaisahayes9682]

I've heard still born births are one of the most traumatic things, I mean it causes so much grief and insecurities. It makes me angry people thought she was an asshole. She didn't hide her pregnancy intentionally she just was scared she could lose another baby. Hell they probably were walking on glass and then when they intended to tell everyone, they couldn't because she didn't want to steal anyone's thunder. I'd understand if she was jealous and intentionally got pregnant but that didn't happen.

[@kiyasthriftycrafts]

Dude, I’ve been around friends who have birthed stillborns and I can’t begin to tell you the amount of anxiety I have surrounding pregnancy as a result of it. I can’t even imagine how much anxiety that poor woman had.

[@bannahannana9403]

It's mind boggling how people could possibly think that a party is more important than her making decisions that prioritize her feelings and comfort after having lost a child. How can you look at a situation like this and see it as some sort of competition for attention? It's deranged.

[@katrinagaedcke8631]

I wish the kid who took his cousin's wedding photos charged interest instead of deleting them. Deleting them was fair for how he'd been treated, but I bet the reaction to him saying it's $50 today or $100 tomorrow would've been hilarious

[@somebodyoncetoldme2664]

Yh but then he already gave like what 6 months? Then he'd wait another 6 months and get more shouting saying "you are holding my precious memories hostage" and waste more time they wont give him the money at all haha just more time to victimise themselves. Funny tho

[@TheCrayonMaster]

Agreed. Yeah, as a photographer I can't imagine deleting photos...but I also do cousin's wedding photos with my photographer father as a wedding gift. It's a pretty big gift considering the time and the editing involved. People always forget about the hours photographers put in after the event itself.

[@Ciborium]

Or just, a $10 per week late fee. Be generous and give her a month to respond to your emails and texts. After a month, send weekly messages and texts reminding her of the new rate. If they complain, that gives you room to negotiate. "Oh, sure we originally agreed to $50 but because you ghosted me for upteen months, with late fees and storage fees, it's now $2000. But if you pay me today, I'll knock it down to just $200."

[@nattyboh2944]

The verdict in the second story is baffling to me. It feels like everyone who responded is an asshole, not the OP. What’s the big deal about her not sharing she’s pregnant? So what? She went into labor at that woman’s baby shower. And…?? She didn't do anything wrong. Best wishes, good luck, you’ll do great! And now let’s continue with the party. Why get your panties in a wad over that? Sounds like a bunch of people who need to check their impulse for attention grabbing. Jesus.

[@Ash-xt1ej]

I 100% agree. It’s not like she announced it willingly. She tried to leave quietly while in pain! And the fact that the SIL’s first message was anger when this woman was just taken to the hospital makes her the automatic asshole

[@Peayou...]

Yes. In some cultures pregnancy is not revealed until the baby is born and healthy. Which is totally valid. Even if that wasn't her only reason it's her choice how she wants to reveal her pregnancy

[@sarahiviscarra6780]

Ppl should just get over themselves and be more empathetic. All I see is a bunch of egocentric narcissists, specially the SIL. I mean, the person who’s your family is pregnant and in pain, have some compassion.

[@s.cruz._.9384]

Even if she truly went into labour on that day, it's not something that she could have decided either. I don't understand how she got the A-badge.

[@Savikelle]

Also the fact she was traumatised from a recent still born birth, and no one can understand why she kept it quiet? Ffs

[@ivyieldoz5534]

An hour of Dylan is exactly what I needed

[@smremembershineeis5137]

I’m too dirty minded for this comment. I hope he satisfied you

[@exhalestardust]

He cures my depression.

[@BECAUSE_IM_BATMAN]

agreed

[@autumnranaegauthreaux7595]

@@smremembershineeis5137 then you’re at the right place lol

[@amayamarie3334]

ayo 🤨📸

[@thecatandrabbit6988]

The author girlfriend definitely does not need to give him the pen name. If they end up breaking up he could leak information that she does doesn’t want out. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@RoyalKingy56]

she could be writing about him without his permission breaching his privacy

[@CronicAirpodLoser]

@@RoyalKingy56 But he never voiced this hypothetical concern. He felt entitled to something she clearly didn’t trust him to know (for good reason) so he resorted to manipulation and snooping instead of wondering why there’s a lack of trust in their relationship.

[@nanalove3819]

@@RoyalKingy56but he has no reason to believe she does.

[@filmfangirls9163]

​@RoyalKingy56 well given what an asshole he is, he deserves it. And after how he acted I'll bet if she didn't have him in the book yet she will now.

[@carolina7306]

​@@RoyalKingy56 In addition to the other replies to this comment, I would also say that, unless she's writing about him and using his name, which is unlikely, this could happen with any writer. If you don't want to appear, even subtly, in someone's writing, then don't date a writer lol, bc that could happen even unconsciously. Also, she's writing erotica, so it's probably even less likely to be based in reality than other genres, since it's more like fantasy designed to please the reader.

[@KZesty]

Love it when a couple, who can't even take care of their first kid and are always making someone else watch it, are going to make another kid. Love that for them.

[@divinelangene6813]

It?😂😂😂😂

[@arcticawoof7084]

Frfr it’s like they don’t perceive kids as human-beings or something. Why would they irresponsibly bring a life into this world when they’re clearly emotionally unavailable/unable to take care of it.

[@rachel5399]

Literally 90% of parents.

[@the_person_in_the_photo]

My sister is like that, she didn't have much time for her 2 year old daughter but she's now moving in with her boyfriend and his 2 year old son and thinking of having another one soon.

[@TK_Danes]

It's crazy how they gaslit him saying "YOU need to be more responsible, since your an uncle now" like.. fun uncles show up when they WANT to. Not forced. The obviously wanted a free babysitter. Calling his lifestyle childish that is warranted as a childfree life

[@colucloud]

To the guy who commented on the second story: Can you not understand that she would have off-feelings about telling people after her previous pregnancy ended in a miscarriage? It blows my mind that people think she's the A-hole

[@meeldowns41682]

Seriously! That poor woman is unfortunately family with people that also think she’s an A-hole… i feel so bad for her

[@Savikelle]

A still born actually, which is worse 😢

[@meganmcleod6152]

exactly!!

[@NoName-dx1no]

Aita is just strange and stupid with judgements sometimes like sometimes the gender of the OP will affect their judgement even if they are in the exact same situation, they are very individualistic but only when it benefits them, and a good amount of people treat it like “is this legal” but ethics and law aren’t always the same thing, the hypocrisy, and too many people lack empathy and consideration for others when thinking about the judgements, like labor can happen at any time idk how is that OP’s fault

[@azraeloffline]

and it’s not like she purposefully did the “babystunt” like…? yeah sure she just put herself into false labor and immense pain to steal SIL’s attention

[@megurem4935]

The last woman really said "I'm gonna make misogyny work for me" and succeeded! I'm 100% on her side

[@tez228]

right!

[@jimerodriguez8332]

I feel good for that woman ,she gave her daughter things she probably would've wanted for herself and now the daughter is free to choose the lifestyle she wants.

[@stargirl7646]

That woman’s story is heartbreaking and yet so inspiring - could make a movie out of that 😢

[@briannicks7161]

and that womans daughter was Mia Khilafah

[@illenagus]

Yes! I hope she is able to see her daughter again sometime :)

[@Naptural85]

Lol! Siobhan is pronounced “Shevon” it’s just another way to spell it. Also, this entire “extravaganza” is cracking me up 🤣🙌🏾

[@joaa89]

the "see ya, ban!" moment made me pause the video, I couldn't stop laughing (being smart now, ever since I'm watching Succession and knowing how to say this name :D )

[@darylesells19]

I first saw this name written out in a book about a young British boy when I was a teen and only learned how to pronounce it due to College Humor because one of the sketch writers was named Siobhan.

[@violet7773]

It's closer to Shuh-vawn. Also, as an Irish person, please don't spell Siobhán "Shevon"

[@madlie2452]

@@violet7773She spelled it that way because there are people with the actual name Shevon. The names sound the same but come from different origins.

[@womankisserjermaluvr]

@@violet7773theres nothing wrong with spelling out a name phonetically to communicate its pronunciation, dont b a freak

[@Saka_Kishiyami]

Dylan really spoiling us with an hour video on a monday what else could we need

[@official_otaku3074]

Monday?? It’s Friday

[@wiseathena97]

@@official_otaku3074 apologies but you seem to be mistaken, Dylan ALWAYS posts on Monday 😉😉

[@Mbatool110]

Monday?

[@dorian_bee]

a perfect start to my week

[@cocosfilms]

@@wiseathena97 am i missing something? it’s friday..

[@hayliegrimes823]

Joe is the only one that can take Dylans selective humor and amplify it to top tier comedy. Love this duo ❤

[@ihuomaotika2656]

Same😂

[@nakynie463]

Best editing frfr

[@UnCreativeBeliever]

The entitlement to think that your brother/BIL needs to change his entire lifestyle (especially at such a young age) because he is an uncle now... lmao he's not doing drugs or being a bad influence, he wants to go on a trip 😂

[@alliee_20]

frr like why would they expect him to look after their kid and be more 'responsible' over something that shouldn't be his issue at all

[@lyricwatson1824]

facts and I'm wondering why the grandparents ain't helping their own son like what

[@jennerhardin8138]

They seem like terrible parents. They don't deserve to have someone as nice as the OP to help them.

[@Shreyanv]

The last story resonated with me. Being in a super conservative family the only way you are given an opportunity as a woman is if you fight for it. I absolutely understand that this person had an arranged marriage at the age of 18 and was forced to be a house wife and is financially dependent on her husband and it is super commendable for her to learn in that patriarchal bubble and wanting her daughter to not have the same restrictive life she had to live.

[@Shirumoon]

Totally agree here. That woman is a saint. I have her daughter is forever thankful for that opportunity.

[@DarkVoidRealm]

agreed

[@hanaomer4419]

The last lady gave her daughter the life that she wanted and literally set her free. There wasn’t really any other option but deceit. It could be said that the dad was in his own way trying to get a good life for his daughter which is why he spent so much money just for her to marry well.

[@minimalcat1987]

You can't just give out your students' parents' contact information - there are likely even laws against this - collection of personal data and how it is stored and collected.... teachers can't go willy-nilly giving out this information. That is actually crazy the teacher did that..... and that woman could have gotten in a lot of trouble.

[@danivictoria]

Hi there! I studied to be a teacher! It is against the law of education (at least in the U.S.) to give out personal information about students and their parents. Teachers can’t even give info to police if they ask. They have to have a warrant to obtain that info. Depending on state and school district she could be fired. It’s a violation of privacy and security. The fact she just gave it to a reporter either makes her a dumb ass or a bad teacher. And I’m hoping it’s the first.

[@harnessmadeofhopes]

Still, while I agree she could have just asked the parent instead, he didn’t have the right to go around being incredibly rude and disrespectful to the VP who had nothing to do with it. He’s being disrespectful, which is literally what he’s mad at the teacher for being.

[@lebundon]

@@harnessmadeofhopesshe wasnt disrepectul, that wasnt what he was mad at her, she broke the law and gave his personal information to a reporter without him knowing.

[@MrMonsieurManMan]

Yeah, look up GDPR, which is a regulation we have in Europe. In England especially, it is illegal to share personal information that a person has given to an establishment/enterprise without their consent. In the context of a school, the teacher would've been immediately fired.

[@mike90317]

And that lame excuse "she lives online", bye ma'am.

[@AAIVE]

8:39 the fact that that person said ‘u can go into labour any day and it comes out at your sister’s baby shower-that is extremely disrespectful’ as if people can choose when they go into labour or have physiological baby related emergent cramps is equal parts incredible and highly hilarious to me lmao, truly encapsulates reddit/the internet & its peak qualities

[@acorn0]

They are probably the same person that says to "hold in" periods

[@Iotuseater]

Instantly i knew they were a man 😂

[@froggy5748]

@@acorn0 that’s what I was thinking! They’re the same mfs who are like “ugh women just need to grow up, why do they choose to bleed for a week when they can just sit on the toilet and push it out?” as if periods are the same as shitting.

[@katjafrandsen1687]

The fourth story is actually so cute, like this man knows SO much about his wife. So many times on that subreddit, there's husbands that just don't care about their wives, but this guy can literally guess what his wife wants to tell him by just remembering everything she's had planned, and picking out what she'd probably want to share with him. And yeah, maybe he could pretend to be surprised sometimes, but essentially, it's just a man who loves and pays attention to his wife. Very sweet

[@princessofhell4639]

Clearly he doesn't pay enough attention or care enough if he's continuing to do smth after she's explicitly told him it upsets her.

[@JustPraiseHim09]

Well that’s a wholesome way of looking at it!

[@lyricwatson1824]

yes he does pay attention, clearly, otherwise this wouldn't be an issue@@princessofhell4639

[@chronosclaimsall]

@@princessofhell4639 Why is he automatically in the wrong? She likes asking the question and he likes answering it properly, but because he doesn't answer how she wants she called him an a-hole? Why doesn't she just....not ask it? Or phrase it a different way? To me it seems like a very stupid thing for her to be upset about in the first place to be quite honest.

[@stephernoodle]

The baby shower one is absolutely wild. I usually agree with the people in the replies but wtf. I didn’t know you had to get permission to go to events based on your pregnancy status in case you accidentally ruin them with your health 😵‍💫

[@ayannabranchcomb7535]

I would be so excited to find out my sibling was having a baby so close to mine and shocked that she hid it so well. Never would anger even cross mt mind

[@stephernoodle]

@@ayannabranchcomb7535 yes exactly!

[@meganmcleod6152]

exactly

[@Fan_Girl-xd8wy]

I think the problem is they knew she shouldnt go because it would draw away the attention from the person being celebrated, yet she still chose to attend without disclosing that information. The real problem is that nobody knew about the pregnancy untill that moment, and an 8 month pregnancy is something you cant really hide, those looks were not just "some people" everyone was definitely talking about her being pregnant. It would have been fine if people knew she was pregnant beforehand, but everybody finding out that day is what ruined it. If people knew then it wouldnt be a big deal that she had a fake birth during the party

[@stephernoodle]

@@Fan_Girl-xd8wy but who cares if she’s pregnant or not? And why do people make such big deals out of baby showers? It’s just an event to get free stuff for your baby lol

[@Rose-hh7mk]

The cleaning duties one is so frustrating to me. I'm not even a clean freak, but what the wife wants is just what everyone does. Shower daily, wash dishes after you're done with them, clean common areas weekly. He sounds disgusting, and like his mum probably cleaned up after him all the time.

[@Rose-hh7mk]

And as a side note, when children are young, they have sensitive immune systems, so it's important to make sure your house is clean.

[@toastlover555]

EXACTLY.. it was so frustrating to read

[@ElleA.595]

THIS!!! I'm not too much of a neat freak either! Heck when it's too busy I can't keep up with the once a week bathroom cleaning but I ALWAYS try to clean at least 2 or 3x a month sometimes I leave some dishes on the sink. BUT I WOULD NEVER leave anything so filthy. He sounds gross tbh.

[@akitroop23]

OP mom is a real hero in the last story for looking out for her daughter. Kudos!

[@adeleg4759]

She probably sacrificed ever seeing her again so her daughter could have the life she chooses... I admire her so much it's crazy😢

[@akitroop23]

@@adeleg4759 she was truly so brave to do this for her daughter. Some overly religious families are insane

[@TheCrayonMaster]

Right!!! So happy for her daughter, her mother did an amazing thing for her 💕

[@ghulaa]

@@akitroop23 yall are very weird she still lied to her husband and you have no proof if he was abusive or whatever

[@ayy.ess.1935]

YES! woman probably got married in an orthodox family and obviously lying was her only option here. so glad the daughter found her way out.

[@DBasedAlex]

Married 18 and 29 isn’t just wrong because of the implication that they were previously dating. 18 and 29 on its own is disgusting. Idk why people think when you turn 18 you magically become significantly more mature and are not being taken advantage of by the older person

[@silent935]

Yeah my thoughts too. Its worse that they were together earlier but still bad to be 18 dating a 29 year old

[@Geck0GC]

Because it's no longer an issue legally, i think most people would agree it's at least very morally icky

[@carontorliak2760]

I can tell you based on context clues that they are in a culture where you can pretty much get married as soon as you are of a certain age without going through formal years of dating. The women got married to the husband probably within the same year they met and a 11 year gap is not that crazy in most cultures, just not western ones.

[@thisusernameisamazing4184]

I would much rather a 19 or 20 year old date a 17 or 16 year old than dating at 18 year old as a 30 year old or something because they are not so far off that they wont understand each other vs the other one which is either an 18 year old realising they are legal and outting themselves as bait snd people taking yhe bait or some creeper camping outside the school waiting till the coos cant stop them

[@saadhananagaraj2548]

They were probably not dating previously. I think they're Muslim people and its common in their culture to have arranged marriage once the woman is of age. My own relatives have had arranged marriages similarly with a 10 yr age gap (we're not Muslim tho). they are comfortable and happy. don't be too quick to judge

[@devynnbelter4970]

The mom in the last story is a hero. She risked herself to give her daughter freedom over her own life.

[@priscillapowers1014]

Strength isn’t always measured in how heavy of an object you can lift. This mother is a hero. I hope every joy moment her daughter gets to experience in freedom reminds her risking it all will echo on for generations. #weareonlyasfreeastheleastfreeperson

[@bmiller7419]

She’s an amazing mother and I hope she’s able to break free and live the life of her dreams. She deserves that and more

[@projectjupiter5523]

one person raises another! i hope her daughter can get citizenship abroad and bring her mum to live with her

[@goldstarburst1984]

I felt so sad as I realized just what she risked. That lady needs to get away from that man somehow

[@xXXx__.__arthur__.__xXXx]

​@@goldstarburst1984 Agreed. The only way that story could get even better is if the mother joined her daughter.

[@hollypendred]

Can I just say props to Joe for keeping the editing consistent with jokes for the whole hour 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@geniej2378]

Yes! More props to Joe!

[@rebeckajg2862]

Joe is a hilarious legend!

[@CaseyTyler357]

The one about the girlfriend's pen name made me angry. I also write stories and publish them under a pen name because I'm incredibly insecure about my writing and also because my stories are incredibly personal to me. Keeping that anonymity is vital to me and I wouldn't have the confidence to keep writing if I knew people in my own life have access to those stories. It's not like she was keeping it from a spouse or anything, they were only dating. That boyfriend also proved he doesn't deserve her trust by going behind her back and repeatedly crossing a boundary she had clearly set.

[@magnolianight2537]

Even a spouse doesn't have the right to demand secrets be told. It's okay to guard a little privacy in our world and, if it is an issue, then the people involved need to decide whether the secret is worth the relationship and whether the relationship is worth the secret. Healthy boundaries are a good thing.

[@brad1426]

Nobody really has the right to know unless someone wants them to, but also somebody thinking that dating someone for 6 months means they should be trusted with access to their most closely guarded secrets is insanely deluded. Guy actually needs to get a fucking grip, his entire reaction to her not sharing her pen name went pretty far beyond being inappropriate. 6 months isn't shit.

[@RamonaGelosi]

PERIOD

[@RamonaGelosi]

@@magnolianight2537 EXACTLY

[@AIBot929]

Yeah he was really invasive about it, he'd probably confront her about something she wrote even if it's not about him some ish like who's this guy you had mind blowing s3x with, wvwn tho it's just fiction. He's giving listening at the door of your therapy session vibes. Let her publish her work in peace

[@_scaredycatt_]

The teacher story is actually wild. That is so unethical of her, it’s not like she told another teacher about him, she attempted to put him and his children in the public spotlight without him knowing anything about it. If I were in the same position- a stranger calling me already knowing about my work and my children because their teacher gave out our personal information- I would be livid. Nothing about that situation is ok and while I don’t condone his reaction, I certainly understand it. NTA.

[@Isaygoodday5]

It's so wild to me that the principal tried to use "she lives online" as an excuse, as if that makes it better in any way.

[@Kookie-lq9sk]

For the last one, I understand the mom completely. As a person who lives in an extremely religious environment, it's risky talking to people about other lifestyles, especially if they are overly devoted to that religion. It's scary, you can get shunned and socially isolated. The tension after coming out as "different" can last a lifetime and can ruin a lot of relationships. I'm glad she could teach her daughter that she didn't have to live the life that was carved out by others and to choose her own path. I wish I had a mom like that. The Internet really can be a wonderful thing sometimes

[@dannyhotemo]

I agree! My heart goes out to that mom she sounds like a beautiful person and mother.

[@killuazoldyck4532]

in the country I'm from you can get killed if people find out you decided to leave the religion. I guess I'm just super lucky to be born to open minded, not overly religious parents which is extremely rare here.

[@Trosvvo]

I had a mom like that, which was great! My dad is completely religious, doesn't even question it. My mom, on the other hand, has english parents who are not religious. I am not sure if she actually believes in a god, but certainly not the religion, as she hardly participates in the practices. This led to me and my sister doing the same as her, and at twelve, I was incredibly smart and had enough critical thinking skills to see the absolute shit that was my religion. I also discovered some really cool science educators who helped me understand evolution, etc. So i remained an Atheist for the following years, and yet, never told my dad. I am scared what he would do if he found out.

[@gooodmorning4526]

That mother is incredible. She might have deceived her husband but she gave her daughter a life she would never have been able to had otherwise.

[@theamazinganonymous7847]

I was genuinely caught SO off guard by this. Dylan blessing us with this 1 hour long masterpiece on Friday, truly gave me pure happiness.

[@emiliamoise2093]

But- it’s not Friday. Honest mistake, but it is Monday. Why would Dylan post on a Friday? 🤭😌✨

[@theamazinganonymous7847]

@@emiliamoise2093 oh no. YOU'RE RIGHT! oh god! My bad! What a silly mistake, that is! Oh lord! 😅

[@Lover.girl.3000]

I was caught off guard too. He usually doesn’t post an hour long video of AITA’s so I’m happy.

[@Trosvvo]

And yet it was over too quickly.

[@theamazinganonymous7847]

@@Lover.girl.3000 Same! AITA is one of my most favourite series of his and I used to re-watch his same old AITA videos just because I was starving for more AITA. So this made me exceptionally happy but also caught so off guard by it.

[@SuperNuclearUnicorn]

That first one, the mum and brothers are absolute legends for going straight over and looking after their daughter/sister like that. That's some love right there

[@timarahmcintosh3592]

It is so horrendously unethical for a teacher to give out personal information to someone else. Especially information about your children. I would be fuming if someone breached my privacy like that… because it is a breach of privacy. Maybe he was rude about the way he replied but honestly if anyone gave out my info like that I’d be too

[@caitlyngray8564]

It's illegal for a teacher to give out a student's personal information. The teacher could literally lose her license for breaking FERPA laws, FERPA protects all personal information about a student, including their contact information!

[@MILLlWATT]

Fr, but tbh I DO fully condone OP's behaviour in this case - I work a job where I handle very basic personal info like first names and phone numbers sometimes, and it's been drilled that you give out ANY info to ANYONE, you're instantly fired! If a teacher pulled that where I am they'd basically be fired on the spot. Giving out THAT MUCH INFO to someone who's effectively a stranger shows that you're either dangerous and/or a moron and shouldn't be working with kids or personal information

[@danisdeepdive]

The story where the husband was calling his wife a clean freak for the bare minimum of cleanliness and is fine with her being the only one working and then coming home to clean after him. She’s honestly better off single. Also the story of the parents asking the daughter they literally disowned at 18 for being a lesbian asking to live with her, her wife and their child is so ironic. She’s too lesbian to live in your house but now that you have something to gain, you’re begging to live in her house with her house? Loving your children shouldn’t be conditional. You chose to have them, they didn’t choose to have you.

[@missserenity1090]

Agreed with both of them. Good on the lesbian for denying her parents who abandoned her. They don’t deserve her help. With the other girl you mentioned I also was like girl just take the kids, move into your parents for a minute, and leave him. She can find a better man.

[@munazzaaasim6601]

I have no idea why he is so conscious of his harmless jokes. I laughed out loud at the lying babies joke. Also completely agree with Dylans pov of the baby shower thing.

[@meganmcleod6152]

!!

[@marthie7103]

Made me laugh out loud too

[@claireneville1070]

The hush backlash scarred him for life lol

[@the1r1s]

Same x10

[@daniella_otsuki]

Dylan: "Babies and their lies" Me: * laughs * Dylan: "No one's gonna appreciate that joke but me" Me: "I have achieved it. I have Dylan's sense of humor."

[@smaragdapapadopoulou7807]

Lmao not me laughing at the most random shit ever lol

[@slytherindork8459]

Same! I’ve been listening to Dylan for so long, it’s great to find a KZbinr with the same weird sense of humor as you😂

[@sheyannev2757]

Right? Like that was hilarious

[@Ari-fo1tv]

We are the people that laughed hehehe

[@siljenormarkjakobsen7612]

Yesss i laughed

[@kelleyg4894]

That's a bad take on the teacher giving out that guys information. It wasn't just that he had children with a surrogate, she gave the names and ages of his underage children. That's a big violation of safety and trust. I wouldn't have cussed her out, but if someone did that to me, I'd absolutely take it to a higher up.

[@froggy5748]

Not only is it dangerous for the kids (and their parents) but it’s also very explicitly against the rules. It’s illegal for teachers to leak shit like that.

[@Damarai_]

Dylan had one of the worst takes on that story like what the hell? Did he even read it

[@bestpiss]

I wonder how Dylan would feel if one of his fans doxxed all of his personal information. Surely he wouldn’t be angry with them or cuss at them, as that would be hypocrisy.

[@Bushyy7]

His response really baffled me and rubbed me the wrong way. Instead of understanding why he lost it and got angry, he decided to play the moral high ground of “teachers are underpaid and do a lot” when that literally had nothing to do with the situation. Poor guys kids histories got revealed by someone who was trusted and their privacy was insanely breached, no matter what it’s unacceptable and she should have faced some repercussions.

[@Damarai_]

@@bestpiss exactly, but he he would think it was different because it was happening to him

[@chalissinblack9146]

For the one with the waterslide, I feel like they should just weigh everyone. When I was a kid, I always used to want to go on one of those trampoline thingies that were popular at fairs. I was always scared to go on because I was insecure about my weight, but the fact that they weighed everyone made it a little better. You can tell it's just for safety measures, whereas specifically pointing out people who might be too heavy can feel like discrimination. And if you still feel uncomfortable (like I did, sadly), you'll probably have to sit that one out, which sucks, but it's better than getting injured. That way, at least you can't get called out if the same rule applies to everyone. I can't imagine the humiliation of being specifically chosen from a crowd of people, especially if it's just by someone looking at you. You can't always tell how much someone weighs just by looking at them.

[@X0.LA_BRAVA.X0]

I'm gonna be honest It's kinda the girls fault if she deadass looks over 250 pounds in highschool. I mean, how the hell

[@xolaiax]

@@X0.LA_BRAVA.X0the story literally said that they have trouble with estimating how much someone actually weighs. And the girl wasn’t even close to 250 so how is that her fault? Every body is built different

[@X0.LA_BRAVA.X0]

@@xolaiax If some tall, buff guy came in, I'd think he might be over 250 lbs. It's a safety precaution. I'm not going to feel bad for a high school girl who is obese and looks 250 lbs to someone, like how can you get to that point in HIGH SCHOOL. Her fault for being that weight and she shouldnt be surprised when someone stops to check it.

[@xolaiax]

@@X0.LA_BRAVA.X0 did you see a picture of the girl? You might wanna read my comment again. The person had trouble estimating how much someone weighs. She might not even looked like her weight was 250 and it wasn’t… just because the girl was fat doesn’t mean she’s obese. You’re just a judgmental ass hole tbh.

[@ErieRosewood]

yeah especially since muscle is heavier than fat, I feel like a lot of heavy people might get a pass just cause they look skinnier. but I'm also suspicious they didn't mention the actual weight. I couldn't tell you if a 200lbs person was 250lbs or not, but I'd know it if she was only 160lbs. how far off is far off in this scenario, cause that changes things.

[@mariatudoran1970]

About the last story, I'm with the wife. Yes, it's deceitful, but we don't know the marital dynamics. Maybe she's afraid of her husband and the deceit was the only way to help the daughter without exposing herself to potential abuse. I lived in a very religious household and before I went no contact, I lied and hid out of fear of consequences. So context is important.

[@a35362]

Yeah, I like those religions where you have to lie and hide to get what you need to be happy and successful. Don't let women have basic knowledge, let alone an education! #atheism

[@somebodyoncetoldme2664]

She had her foot in the door tho and decided to go all the way to exploit everything out of the man by going to the absolute top uni and drain him of his finances with the power of emotional abuse and exploitation. What she did does not justify anything just because she was brainwashed by a religion or culture. They are both assholes is my best bet with the missing context of what type of abuse REALLY happened I suppose...but even if he was a controlling asshole because of religion and culture you don't be an asshole back and drain them. Not a mature thing to do. She doesn't even care too...if she did she'd tell her to go to an average uni a good eneough one but no she had to manipulate him to pay for an elite one.

[@Trosvvo]

I can relate. I hid my Atheism since I was 12...

[@Trosvvo]

​​@@a35362 dont forget basic rights, oh no, a _human_ with _emotions_ and _feelings_ simply doesn't deserve to be treated with equality, because simply having male genes makes you better...apparently? I hate religion.

[@NodKrai]

Yeap, relatable. I'd consider myself as atheist since I was 14 but I came out at 22 because my mom is religious and I'm still arguing with my mother. She isn't saying shits like I should cover my head or pray 5 times a day but she doesn't accept me as an ex-muslim.

[@mythicsb5170]

The drunk father & engagement party story: I think every car should have a built in breathalyser

[@yukitoma607]

Omg the wife is pretending her religion AND got her husband to not only send her daughter to school period but to a top school??!! That lady truest loves her children for her to put her life on the line like that. She is not the ahole. And I hope nothing bad happens to her in the future.

[@stargirl7646]

Same - I’m worried about her 😢

[@bptherevolution1123]

she’s a heroine 🦸‍♀️

[@emiliadavis2880]

How did she put her life on the line? Her husband wasn't threatening her with a gun pointed to her head and she didn't even describe him as violent.

[@meifennellysieu7510]

@@emiliadavis2880 I'm going to guess that based on some of the context in her post (recently getting access to Internet and technology, wanting her daughter to specifically have a "Western" degree), that she probably lives in a Muslim-majority country. Note that this isn't a rule for ALL Muslim-majority countries (and not all religious countries), but some theocratic governments (if she lives in a country with one) can punish you for not believing in a certain faith. Even without punitive law, obviously some families or communities might ostracize you for not practicing the same faith as well. Even if she isn't literally risking her life to allow her daughter this level of freedom in choosing a lifestyle, she's probably worried that the dad wouldn't have allowed this if he knew their daughter wasn't following certain traditions. Maybe those opportunities don't really happen often in her community, is what I mean. I hope this helped a little.

[@epiphany8429]

The fact you can delude herself to believe that is horrifying. You can believe or not believe what you want but she lied to him in order to take his money. There's no way you're actually defending her for that, you're all insane.

[@catastrophiceuphoria2608]

As a teacher she should've known better than to give out ppls info without permission. She could put kids or families in danger by giving out all that info.

[@klaraxkat_k6454]

I guess if she knew the reporter really well she wouldn't think twice about it because she trusts them

[@suitdoggy4707]

@@klaraxkat_k6454 It doesn't matter if she trusts them. It's someone else's information she gave out without any empathy. Especially about that person's kids.

[@klaraxkat_k6454]

@@suitdoggy4707 I know, I'm not defending her I'm just trying to understand why she had that oversight and didn't clock that she has no right to share someone's information, especially when it involves children! (As you said)

[@klaraxkat_k6454]

@intromed1395 yeah I agree, like in healthcare we get GDPR/information governance training. I don't know how educators get trained but it should be the same principle I imagine

[@sashakarasawa5794]

Buying babies is not ethical. Commodification of women’s bodies is not ethical. Stop surrogacy and give out children like this. Western feminists/libs so fxxking hypocritical 14:50

[@sydneym5595]

story #4: the point isn't that she's annoyed by him not answering "guess what" correctly, it's that he's blatantly ignoring her annoyance to try and feel smart by guessing what she was going to say correctly. it makes him feel smart at the expense of her excitement. her changing the way she brings up the topic isn't going to change his attitude

[@the-berries-and-cream-dude]

but then you can make the same argument for him. you can say she is ignoring the fact he is a logical person and will give an actual answer and she knew this about him and married him. most actual smart people don't do it to feel smart, they kinda just do it without realizing. why doesn't SHE compromises? she can still say what she wants to say without having the excitement taking out and he can listen and be excited for her. i would compare it with when you are complaining about a problem and the other person gives you an actual way to solve it but all you want is to rant, not a good logical and rational answer (even though, it's what would help you solve the problem). it's one of those things that happens when you're married, you don't always love every aspect of your partner and more importantly, i don't feel it's with ill-attempt either side. i don't feel neither of them are in the wrong but at the same time, both of them could choose to compromise.

[@jijitters]

@@the-berries-and-cream-dude If he feels that strongly about it that he has written off her feelings about it then he deserves to be dumped instead of catered to.

[@kphoria1009]

@@the-berries-and-cream-dude being smart has to do with having communication skills and social awareness as well, which he is clearly lacking if he doesn’t understand what a rhetorical question is

[@sparklypri]

at the same time, he just thinks differently about the phrase. he is asked "guess what" and he tries to guess it. there need not be any malice behind that. at the same time, what does it say about her attitude that she expects him to bend around and cater to her simply because she is annoyed?

[@sydneym5595]

@@sparklypri just like how everyone knows not answer “how are you?” with “bad”, everyone knows not to actually make a serious guess when someone asks “guess what.” it’s a social cue thing. even if he genuinely does not understand social cues (which doesn’t have anything to do with being raised by a lawyer as he claims), it’s telling that she’s mad at him about it in the first place. her getting upset at his response shows that its more about the way he consistently makes her feel bad regardless of the phrase used. if it was really a social cue thing, she probably wouldn’t be getting upset in the first place. it’s a deeper issue within the relationship coming out via the phrase.

[@alexbloopydoop]

With the second story, she's not even the one who told them, her husband did. If you're going to say she's an asshole because her pregnancy ended up (key phrase: ended up, not planned to be) announced at her SIL's baby shower, blame the husband. She did everything she could to not ruin her SIL's baby shower. She had a sudden shot of pain and reacted like a normal person. Her husband was likely very distraut and in a fit of panic just spit out the truth when they were bombarding his pregnant wife with "are you okay?"s and "what's wrong?"s.

[@CreatEr1n]

If the third story took place in the US, what the teacher did is illegal. It violates the Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act. Schools do not need written consent to give out information, but they must tell the child's guardian what they plan to do and give them a reasonable amount of time to opt-out. Exceptions are made for law enforcement, school officials, and accredited organizations. A magazine reporter doesn't fall under that umbrella. I think that's why the guy got labeled NTA.

[@FrogWitch666]

Actually police can’t even ask they would need a warrant to even ask.

[@gh0ulgirl]

@@FrogWitch666 no they can ask, you just have the right not to give that information unless they have a warrant.

[@harnessmadeofhopes]

Even then, he sounds a bit too upset, at least in my opinion. VP did nothing to get verbally berated by a parent. I understand his frustration, but his way of going about expressing that seemed rather immature for a literal grown adult.

[@FrogWitch666]

@@harnessmadeofhopes you wouldn’t get upset if a reporter now has all your personal information about you and your literal children??

[@brittanyyoung6501]

People are supposed to be passionate about the safety of their children and when it’s been violated by people their were supposed to trust

[@LilRedWitch]

I find the post of the daughter who got kicked out at 18 to be almost sad when she recommended all of the soup kitchens, housing help etc because she probably used those same places when she was left homeless at 18…… so even if it was sent as a passive aggressive/Petty thing, I’m 10000% on her side.

[@kairi99roxas]

I feel so bad asking my siblings to watch my kid even when they say he's welcome whenever, I don't understand how you can expect family members to stop their life for your child

[@jamiegdubois]

I feel bad enough asking someone to watch my dog

[@dheu]

Exactly, and this guy in the Reddit post wasn't even on a day off or anything. He was trying to work while watching that kid. It's like his sibling drove to his office and dropped the kid off without caring that he was working. Childcare is expensive, sure, but that is on the parents to figure out, not their entire extended family.

[@halfbloodhooman4757]

I love that he read "I'm letting him live here while saving money going to college" as "saving money while getting scammed" 🤣

[@ryke_out]

Can we just take a minute to appreciate the editor, Joe? The editing on this video is fantastic! Chef's kiss

[@MacGhillemhoail]

Agreed. Joe definitely sang very hard for his supper with this one.

[@samantham1859]

The aita of hiding the pregnancy was not deserving of the asshole badge. Like she can’t control her cramps and she’s been through a traumatic experience so it makes sense she’s unsure of having a healthy baby, even 8 months in. Anything can happen and she’s scared.

[@Fan_Girl-xd8wy]

I think they were mad that she showed up with an 8 month pregnant belly to a babyshower in whcih nobody knew she was pregnant. She even says she got a ton of looks, they werent just "curious" they KNEW she was pregnant, you cant just hide it at that point. She probably felt betrayed that OP didnt tell her beforehand and caused a commotion that wouldnt be half as big if people already knew about the pegnancy. She knew it would upset people, there is a reason she wasnt going in the first place

[@whenimmanicimgodly4228]

@@Fan_Girl-xd8wy I think the real issue is not her being pregnant or her not telling others, but she could have missed the baby shower or taken some pills for cramps and instead she went to the baby shower with no precautions

[@brett8259]

The point is that she showed up visibly pregnant and knowing the baby could have been born any day at a shower where NOBODY knew she was pregnant prior to this. The point Dylan made where he compared it to passing out was a bad one because nobody can reasonably assume they might pass out. But OP could very reasonably assume she might go into labor and/or people find out.

[@dheu]

@@brett8259 So? Does that mean she should have sequestered herself? Not go anywhere or enjoy life, and not go to celebrate a baby shower for someone else? Honestly this fuss is ridiculous. She doesn’t owe anyone anything. She doesn’t have to tell anyone about her pregnancy if she doesn’t want to. She was asked to the baby shower because they wanted her there. Does that fact change because she is pregnant?

[@brett8259]

@@dheu Making choices has consequences. She doesn't have to tell anyone anything and she doesn't even have to NOT non-verbally announce her pregnancy. But she can't then not expect people to react poorly to that.

[@mauli.]

at this point Joe just has started his own little cult with the boogies which is full of very-inside , easter egg jokes, raging and laughing over youtubers and roasting dylan to get throught the day... the editor we needed but dont deserve

[@ifyoulikepinacolada254]

right?? like i love joe so much

[@larryjacques3648]

i agreed with everything you said except for the one with the teacher you say that she's not the asshole because he cant expect "everyone to do the proper thing all the time" and then call him an asshole for not doing the proper thing. the teacher was way out of line and released not only his but also his children's private info to a stranger id say he has every reason to be pissed.

[@elisabetstar125]

I think the woman in the last story is really strong. It sounds like she was raised in an oppressive religious system/society/community (whatever you want to name it) and was very likely married off, to a man 11 years older than her at a young age. She didn't want her daughter to fall victim to that system too and get locked in a life she probably wouldn't have much freedom or opportunities to grow as a person and be herself. She's really admirable, in my eyes she "manipulated the system" for a good cause. Would probably even go as far as calling her a true superwoman/heroine, because she definitely is one to her daughter.

[@maggot2259]

The fact that he believed her about the daughter going to a top university for her to get married to a rich guy/elite family says a lot about the dad. If she didn't mention marriage to a rich guy, he wouldn't pay for it. And Dylan mentioned the age gap and timeline of her knowing him and having kids is kinda scary too. She was too young to marry him, and she should have had access to the internet YEARS AGO

[@maggot2259]

Also I don't know what religion or culture they are but I've seen this too many times with Muslim women and Mexican women, like my mom. She was married off very young to an older man and didn't even get to start high school

[@nadanah183]

" she manipulated the system" that is what it is... well said

[@Microme955]

@@maggot2259 Actually I don’t think she was denied internet. I think it’s just because of their country. I live in America now but there was a time I used to live in Nigeria and the internet was not something that everyone just had access to.

[@robbie2138]

It's the most obvious fake post of all time lmao. Clearly written by a redditor with weird fantasies. No 40+ year old women from an other continent is writing perfect english AITA posts lmfao

[@mmessi72]

For the last one, I'm happy for the daughter. She's been given the opportunity to make her own choices. It sounds like the mother doesn't have that luxury. Not the ahole.

[@hopesy12u4]

Her mom's s chad, and her english is excellent.

[@isabelharwood5089]

the second one, the one about a babyshower, was ridiculous to me lmao. how can u be angry at someone for being sick, just cause they're at ur event. im telling u, but people dont become sick willingly, and neither is it scheduled, like she WANTED to ""ruin"" ur babyshower on purpose. so ridiculous.

[@Ash-xt1ej]

Exactly, worst part is she was trying to leave quietly while in pain AND probably terrified. She made the effort to try not to draw to attention to herself

[@Moey_idk]

I think it was more that she didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant, it’s like proposing at another persons wedding for some people to show up pregnant at another baby showers

[@meganmcleod6152]

@@Moey_idk buts she had a good reason not to tell people and it definitely isn’t lie proposing at a wedding she didn’t chose to say she was pregnant she tried to hid it

[@thatonething1287]

@@Moey_idk i think that your analogy is incorrect because proposing at another persons wedding shower is a planned thing, like you KNOW its their thing and youre choosing to plan your proposal for that time and place. being pregnant at another persons shower is different cause most people dont plan their showers until theyve been pregnant for like, six months. op is around the same amount pregnant as her SIL, so there’s no way she planned to be pregnant just to steal the spotlight. plus, the fact that she was trying to hide it means she wasnt trying to call attention to herself. also, i believe its understandable for her to not tell people about her pregnancy considering her past trauma

[@Moey_idk]

@@thatonething1287 I’m not saying that was her intent, I was just trying to use something that would have a similar outcome with this family, personally I don’t think that she’s in the wrong, she can’t control her pregnancy or false labor, the family was definitely in the wrong.

[@CMLink]

23:43 hitting your “funny bone” can cause a vasovagal nerve reaction that can make you feel faint, dizzy, nauseated or sweaty

[@Ray_Vun]

the dude with the girlfriend who now refuses to wash his clothes probably doesn't wipe properly and doesn't even realize it and that's why she's saying his boxers are dirty. from browsing reddit over the years, i've seen so many stories from wives, girlfriends, mothers, daughters/stepdaughters who do the laundry and complain that the men of the house don't properly wipe because their underwear always has skid marks

[@somebodyoncetoldme2664]

Apparently some guys think it's also gay to wash their ass too and "the water gets it pretty good" so that might be one thing too haha. But what they just need is to wipe better and that's the minimum bar bruh.

[@delormerr]

surprised i had to scroll this far to see a comment about this!!!!! definitely skidmarks

[@Ray_Vun]

@@somebodyoncetoldme2664 yeah i've also heard that there's straight men who only "wash" their ass in the sense that water runs down it while they shower, because they think it's gay to touch their own ass, add to poorly wiping and the underwear will always have marks

[@X0.LA_BRAVA.X0]

I think men should do that need to use baby wipes tbh. My ass felt bad after wiping a lot a while ago and I decided to use babywipes

[@hopesy12u4]

PLEASE GOD---- AMERICANS, GET A BIDET FFS

[@Selena-fq6px]

Honestly, the morale of these stories is just to not get pregnant. Ever.

[@animeandcartoonshticks1394]

or get married,lol

[@somebodyoncetoldme2664]

IT'S ALWAY THE PREGNANT LADIES!!!! 😭

[@reniluu9715]

Or just being really careful with the partner you choose 😂

[@filmfangirls9163]

Don't have sex. Cuz if you do, you will get pregnant and die. 😂 Sorry just watched Mean Girls lol

[@eah4452]

Yes the guy should have set boundaries earlier but how're you gonna tell someone they need to baby proof their house and skip their vacations because they have to watch your children for free? Tf?!

[@somebodyoncetoldme2664]

They are assholes yes we all agree BUT it doesn't strip you away from any level of accountability just because other people are assholes like he should still communicate better and speak up earlier instead of letting himself constantly being used and not speaking building up his negative energy then get really mad haha

[@eah4452]

@@somebodyoncetoldme2664 no? You don't get to just blatantly abuse people and then be like "oh well they didn't say anything so I thought it was fine"

[@aneleh6]

Absolutely. If you don’t have the time and means to be parents, don’t be parents. It’s not other people’s responsibility to look for your child for free, even if they’re relatives. They didn’t choose to have that child.

[@tmm4195]

@@eah4452 I get where you're coming from and I'm mostly on his side, but communication is huge. They probably weren't even aware that he felt that way about babysitting their kid because he kept everything bottled up. Some people just aren't socially aware of things and need to straight up be told the truth. Communicating prevents outbursts and harsh arguments from happening. The guy who wrote the post is mostly right, but he is partly responsible by not being honest about how he felt.

[@efrainlagunas]

@@tmm4195 I do agree communication is key and him bottling it would eventually just lead him to burst eventually. That being said, those parents should never assume anybody is just going to stop their plans at the drop of a hat. According to the post, he gave them a heads up that he would be gone for a while, which is fair and correct communication, but they insulted him and tried to guilt trip him 28:55 . This is a situation that even had he set boundaries, them bursting first made it clear they expected their needs to be met above all else.

[@melissalutz9003]

Imagine having to lie to your husband just so your daughter can get an education and run her own life instead of being given to some stranger to be his property.

[@rumaysahshafi9949]

Can I just say, coming from what I assume is the same religious background as the person in this story, that this is not a religious norm but a cultural one. In too many places, cultural norms have become synonymous with the religion when it suits the people in charge. I can tell you, as a woman, that this is a complete abuse of faith and this is coming from a person whose dad is a religious leader. I wasn’t raised like this. I have an education and a job and a husband who I love and who loves me. I assure you that stories like this are not the religious standard.

[@kay-leighlewis9322]

@@rumaysahshafi9949I get that maybe it was a misuse of trust but I think she probably knew her husband would not be on board with his daughter getting an education and probably would have married her off the same way his wife was married off to him. The wife probably wanted better for her daughter as it seems she understands the importance of education. While I can understand how he would feel hurt, I cant say that she’s wrong for wanting better for her daughter and wanting to break a harmful cycle

[@kuroyuki6254]

The baby shower one makes me mad. Instead of asking how she is and worrying about her people decided to get mad at her for showing up to a party pregnant.

[@scarlettthestarlet2162]

AND THE PURPOSE OF THE PARTY WAS FOR ANOTHER PREGNANT PERSON LIKE????????

[@kuroyuki6254]

@@scarlettthestarlet2162 I KNOW! That was o bizarre

[@Itsbriina]

I‘m so confused by people acting like pregnant women can’t come to baby showers without special permission 😭 I literally have been to baby showers were every woman (except me) was pregnant LOL

[@brett8259]

The point isn't that she was just pregnant. It's the fact that nobody knew, she just showed up very visibly pregnant and close to labor.

[@viiiciii]

@@brett8259 okay and? it’s her choice if she wants to tell them or not. it’s really not that serious especially since she left and the party went on, it’s not as if they had to shut everything down because of her.

[@brett8259]

@@viiiciii Revealing you're pregnant for the first time at someone else's event has always been seen as a social faux pas. Of course, she can technically still do this. But her loved ones can also be pissed at her for doing it.

[@viiiciii]

@@brett8259 i would have agreed if she had planned the “revealing“ from the start but it does not sound like it. her family saw that she needed medical care and the first thing that came to their mind was to be mad at her for “pulling a babystunt“??? sounds pretty selfish to me

[@brett8259]

@@viiiciii People had to have known before she went into false labor. She showed up eight months pregnant and even pointed out numerous people were staring. Nobody said anything at the party, but I sincerely hope a woman about to have a kid has the common sense to know that showing up visibly pregnant to a party WILL reveal she's pregnant.

[@harveythepooka]

For the weighing waterpark story, if you are over or sometimes under a weight limit you can literally fly off the waterslide and die. IMO, the water parks should give people wrist bans at the entrance and weigh everyone in a privacy area if they want to go on rides with weight limits.

[@SR-zp4je]

Yeah that's a good idea. I used to go to a waterpark regularly as a kid and would never go on the outer runs of a particular ride as I was afraid I'd fly off and die (normalish weight kid, maybe 80-90 lb) . I'm now an overweight adult and would 1000x rather an employee ask about my weight than risk me ending up dead. Fat and slightly embarrassed is better than dead.

[@skyemadisyn163]

A boy was too light at the worlds biggest water slide in KC. The raft flew up and hit the net cause they didn’t weigh enough and he died. He was 10. They should weigh everyone and I say that as an overweight person.

[@ayeshajogiyat]

I feel like in that moment tho, the life guard could have been a bit savvy n asked them all to step on the scale, tell them they wpuld make sure the no was private n it wpuld avoid the girl feeling singled out

[@1silenthunder1]

Dylan and Joe are a freaking power couple. Laughed until I cried on the whole pizza accent section 😂 This was a fantastic video, congrats guys 👏

[@jessisniff7772]

That baby shower story is ridiculous. Amazing to me how rude people can be when they "are the star of the show". Sorry I had to leave because I was in immense pain and may be giving birth. All while trying not to over shadow her stardom to begin with. Come back down to earth man.

[@jemma927]

When I saw reddit label them the A-hole, I felt like I lost some respect for reddit, cause I'm sorry, clearly OP doesn't plan her cramps at 8 MONTHS PREGNANT and they did their best hide it and not only that, has tried to keep the spotlight off of them THE WHOLE TIME!

[@TheJeannag]

Context as clues for the last story (based on experience cause I'm from a region where this is prevalent): - While religion is mentioned, culture/society is probably the bigger factor - whichever place they're from probably makes it extremely difficult and dangerous for women to be independent, educated, and have agency over their bodies. - There might be laws out there that make it worse, and beyond laws, there will be social "vigilante" justice against women/girls who don't do what they're told. - The age gap probably means it was an arranged marriage, and in that case, the man might come from a family with social status (including connections in high places) and more money. This is especially evident in him treating it like "his" money, not their money. Meaning the wife can't escape him if she tried, she has no wealth of her own and the wrath of the clan comes down on her if she stands up for herself or her daughter. She essentially chose the safest path to get her daughter out of that space. Any other path and she'd have risked both their lives.

[@aminah3910]

Thank you for mentioning the cultural part. In many ways, the cultural norms far outweighs any religious obligation to most people and the overlap can be confusing to people who are not part of the religion and/or culture. And most of the time, people who are part of it can’t tell the difference between religion and culture when it comes to the things they practice in their lives.

[@random_thing-]

yess thank you for this, i too am from regions like this and I wished I could be there in person to explain the context to dylan, so hopefully he reads this and gets a better understanding of the story

[@emman218]

The 1st story UPDATE- the bil wife cheated and said she didn’t want to be a mom anymore… so a lot of drama with that side of the family. Op met with her husband and they had a long talk- he was the one who found her on the floor and first thought she was dead when he found her. He also thought the family would be gone before she even got out of the hospital. They are separated rn but they’re still working on things so it seems like they’ll be able to work it out

[@ayannabranchcomb7535]

I have hope for them because based on the behavior of the MIL, she aint raise her son to be a dummy

[@catarinaoliveira6852]

​@@ayannabranchcomb7535 everyone lovin the MIL ahahah yes

[@Tuvoluntas]

I resonate with the "guess what" story. My husband jokingly calls me a joke dick sometimes. He will try to tell me jokes and often I will have either heard it before or get the punchline first. I know that he wants to tell me a joke that he found funny and I try to remind myself to just let him tell the joke. At the same time, he knows I enjoy trying to figure out the punchline before he gets there and he gets a lot of satisfaction when he manages to get through the joke without me figuring it out. Marriage is about putting your egos aside and compromising so you can both be happy.

[@Bianca-lq9lr]

Joe really puts his foot in the editing. love for Joe ♥

[@mugfrog5732]

love for joe!!

[@bbybluebee]

fr we love you joe

[@autumnranaegauthreaux7595]

Joe you’re my hero

[@ames-inthe-grass]

joe is hilarious, love that guy

[@munioni]

honestly!😭 the editing was so funny

[@8407x]

For the teacher who gave that reporter the dad’s information, his reaction was reasonable. I would’ve reacted the same way. How are you going to tell some stranger, my name, my job location, my phone number and worst of all, my kids name. That teacher crossed a boundary and it’s so unforgivable. Once you work at a school or with children in general, you are told to never give out their information. There are trainings that use scenarios such as this one as examples. That teacher failed and that teacher was rightfully scolded at by a parent.

[@THEDubbleHelixx]

Thank you! I'm blown away by how much the teacher's actions were minimized.

[@larynadams1127]

@@THEDubbleHelixx Right? And then she has the nerve to go to the vp as if SHE WASN'T IN THE WRONG

[@lebasil9933]

She literally just was gossiping with a friend and then GAVE OUT CONFIDENTIAL INFORMATION ABOUT MINORS THAT WERE IN HER CARE. you can't just give out confidential information like that, it's literally a breach of privacy. I get you might vaguely mention the situation to a friend when chatting, sure, that's normal. but you cannot say names, let alone personal contact info, addresses, and more. this person should not be a teacher until she figures how to keep confidential things confidential.

[@massetozacarias5693]

​@@lebasil9933 that's literally how i gossip

[@lebasil9933]

@@massetozacarias5693 it depends on the situation right. if you get access to the private info of people bc you've promised to keep that info safe, then giving it out is not okay. if you've never promised to keep their secrets, that's btw you and your morals lol idc

[@TspeadyslilSIS]

For the 3rd story I understand why the father is so upset, obviously he is not one to post online. So for his name his children's names and where he works to be given to a random reporter is mad invasive. I don't even give out numbers when someone asks me for someone else's number. And since the reporter contacted him she obviously just gave out this man's information and his children's information like I would be livid and the fact that the principal was defending this girl is ridiculous. She needs to understand that you cannot just give out people's information to anyone who asks.

[@haleyadamic]

I think that was addressed though. Yes it was inappropriate and they acknowledged that but he kept going and demanded repercussions (as though as a parent he doesn’t blame the teacher if his kid acts out and gets repercussions). She’s a teacher. She makes horrible horrible wages and if it was acknowledged, move in dude. You weren’t actually hurt by this and yes it’s upsetting it happened because you worry what else she might be doing in poor judgement, but move on or try to see if your other kids can avoid having her as a teacher in the future. How is a teacher going to be punished? Does he expect her to be suspended? That seems extreme. Does he think she shove fired? Also extreme. How else should she be punished for this action? Being informed why we have strict confidentiality policies and being reminded of those is what should be done and if there’s any other issues that’s been happening with her behavior and teaching, then she can be further assessed. I don’t understand people’s need to have others punished. Maybe they didn’t do a very good job at showing concern over the situation so maybe that’s the problem.

[@eryuu4016]

​@@haleyadamic The problem is, it could have. I'm a CNA, and if we give information about our residents, we could have legal action taken against us. This is about children, it should be the same.

[@7thlittleleopard7]

@@haleyadamic She would be fired if she'd worked in the school I'd worked at before my current job, and rightly so. Parent's information is used solely for the sake of contact and emergencies, it is NOT EVER to be given to anyone, even known friends of the family. If a kid wants to invite another kid over and that parent asks for the other's contact info, it doesn't matter if they're your best friend ever, you DO NOT GIVE IT. That is not why you were given the information. The dangers of knowing children's names and having the information of the parent can be terrible. I work in a lawyer's office now - mostly family law - and one of our clients had their children taken out of school by friends of the other parent, moved out of state and then deposited into said other parent's care because they had the correct information on file at the school to do so. That's the power of the information that teacher gave. It's not a small thing! At least in the case of our client the kids are with some family, but consider a stranger did this instead? Fuck that bitch teacher, she put those children in terrible danger just because a friend wanted a fucking story. Disgusting!

[@katrinascarlet5637]

When asked for numbers I just say "I'm not comfortable with that, I can text them your number if you want that."

[@dayshawna]

​@@eryuu4016 then he could've had legal action taken against her instead of behaving the way he did which as dylan pointed out in the video, was really uncalled for

[@KindaKatt]

you just said something that just struck a heart string for me. something along the lines of if i’m the one with the problem, asking someone else to fix it is unfair. especially if i have an easier solution to fix it than making you change. i needed this when i was in my last relationship, because holy fuck that would have helped so much.

[@madisonkathawa5821]

I love Dylan’s take on communication and how to approach problems in relationships. I have to agree with him that Reddit’s responses are pretty terrible lol

[@marissajohnston2726]

Yes! Especially because Dylan points out that we're only reading one perspective/point of view of how things went down, which is very important to keep in mind when labeling someone the a-hole.

[@somebodyoncetoldme2664]

Yes tbh they are way too quick at telling people to cut off people from their lives and justify screaming their heads off at another person over a small mistake that makes them a SLIGHT asshole. Like this is not how the world works or real social interacts or atleast it's not how it should be. Taking "self love" and "nothing matters" (positive nihilism version) and cranking it up to level 100 over the top where it actually just makes them an asshole anyway and isolates them. The level of entitlement these reddit users have is insane, unreasonable and unhealthy.

[@hattyg123]

with the baby-sitting one, it's worth remembering that there is a 7 year age gap between the brothers which is why (i think anyway) the wife called his trips childish, because they are in a very different place in life and i think the couple expected OP to think more like them, but he is child free and unburdened

[@nathalykim1263]

yeah, I think the guy should have given more hints that he didn't want to babysit, but the parents are definitely abusing his niceness by just assuming he would do it all the time it's not his responsability, and they are getting the better side of the ""deal"", this guy is getting nothing for doing so much for his brother, the kid's parents should at least be polite and considerate enough to ASK if it's okay with the dude to keep bringing his child over

[@reneehoenicke4765]

And it is definitely not “his responsibility as an uncle”. Uncles are not free babysitters, they’re family. He can want to help out but there is no obligation

[@Accu91]

I think the OP isn't telling the full side of the story, something feels off. Maybe there is a deal or a financial dependence he is in towards the rest of the family.

[@cookiemonster6816]

For that last family, which are probably muslim, maybe middle eastern, it’s a story that you’d hear quite often with that type of background- a traditional father, a more accepting mother, more freedoms given to the brother, a more restrictive lifestyle for the females who eventually develop the need to leave the nest and once they do and they experience that freedom, there is no turning that wheel back. I mean I’ve lived through that and know so many girls who’ve experienced the same. We love our families and culture, but damn, it’s an exhausting type of love. Didn’t think I’d ever see a story I actually relate to on Reddit.

[@ifyoulikepinacolada254]

I’m also Muslim and since I already live in the west, this story makes me sad. Maybe it’s just bc I’ve learned more about my religion but it’s just very feminist and liberal to me so when I hear stuff about needing to leave Islam to be free it just confuses me. Idk I think people make the culture synonymous with the religion which is where we go wrong. The first university was opened up by a Muslim woman, education is pretty important in Islam… I think it is just misogynistic cultures in all parts of the world that have used the excuse of religion to hurt their women, even if it is incredibly wrong and against said religion :/

[@cookiemonster6816]

@@ifyoulikepinacolada254 I have nothing against the religion, I have everything against people who use it as an excuse to oppress women, and also men. I’m from the Middle East, and though my parents are quite liberal I’m still subject to the culture around me, because of sentiments like “what would the people around us say if you did that, talked like that, dressed like that”. I appreciate your input, but this is my, and many of my female friends’, actual lived experience. So yeah, the culture is exhausting.

[@NodKrai]

@@ifyoulikepinacolada254 Islam pretty much sexist religion. I hate when ppl in the western side of the world think that it's extremly islamaphobic when ex-muslims or just muslim women speak about their experiences in this middle eastern toxic muslim enviroment.

[@maryamcontractor2137]

agree, i live in the US so i'm much luckier on that front, but i am glad the mother got the daughter a live she loves

[@user-ec1bz4jq4x]

this is soo true omg. in my case, i honestly feel like having a religious mother is worse than having a religious father cos you can't even be angry at her. its so suffocating to feel sympathy and anger all at the same time towards her,, and then feeling guilty when your more accepting father takes your side and berates her for being wrong. its like damn I feel sorry for you but also why are u making this so much harder for me.,, "it's an exhausting type of love" truer words have never been spoken 😕😕

[@paigepratt87]

Sometimes I love when Dylan says something like ‘preach kindness’ when in most of his movie reviews he is hoping for violence and cruelty. Dude’s just entertaining 😂

[@83gemm]

What you might not know is that teachers are repeatedly trained not to share parent information. It’s actually illegal. I think the dad in this story handled things badly with zero empathy, but the teacher broke a super serious rule that is NOT a secret. Even if she’s young, she KNOWS not to do that. Also: It’s kind of amazing that the admin defended the teacher. Usually, they do bend over backwards for the parent. They want to appease the parent so there is no lawsuit and so the kid isn’t moved to another school (student population affects funding, especially if a kid is choosing to attend out of district).

[@w1zardelf]

the vp doing literally nothing to reprimand her was shocking to me, you could lose your job over that

[@83gemm]

@@w1zardelf Yeah I had a parent mad at me for something that literally never happened and there was security footage to show it. The parent wouldn’t back down and the admin was STILL breaking their necks to see how fast they could bend over to kiss the parent’s ass. What always kills me is a parent can just post whatever on social media about staff and there is zero consequence. But if we were to respond, even to say, “This would be better discussed in person,” we could get into trouble with certain admin.

[@rebeccahicks2392]

yeah, I'm astounded she wasn't fired.

[@bestpiss]

I think the dad handled the situation with the exact amount of tact that was asked of him. She gave them *the names of his his kids*, that’s fucking insane

[@leahs7799]

Random story this made me think of, bunch of years ago (like 11) my dad (who never really spends time alone with the kids) took me and my siblings to the zoo or something like that and he accidentally left my 5 year old sister there. We went to an ice cream shop, completely oblivious to the fact that she was missing. She was found by one of her kindergarten classmates’ mom, and she needed to contact my dad to return his kid. She called the principal to get his number and she was like “no.” Because that’s the rule, she can’t give out parent information, even to aid in returning the kid. My dad gets a call from my principal like “hey, buddy. Do a head count.” And my dad FREAKS and basically it was funny and schools are strict about not giving info.

[@rinaliny]

38:35 As an overweight woman myself the person at the waterslide was def in the right. I'd rather be embarrassed for one minute than dead or maimed. I'm sure my fam would agree that they'd choose my temporary embarrassment over picking out my coffin and burial plot too.

[@yunjinhotgurl]

As a person who in the past was a teenage girl, who was the heaviest among her friends, i would say that nobody was an a hole in the situation. I do get her insecurities and that she felt embarrassed, I was sorta always scared of rides cuz I worried that I weighed the most and was in fear of breaking it or getting hurt. So I do get that she must have gotten a little sad abt it, but the lady who stopped her and asked her to weigh herself also wasn't an asshole too. Safety is always good, so there's nothing to blame her. Being heavy is complicated, cuz u can't predict when a person is actually being a prick or just wants to help. Especially, since she is just a teenager. It might have ruined her time a little bit, but that's ok, she'll grow up and forget this in no time Edit: there are things that could have been done to protect the girls feelings, maybe the policies or the warnings were wrong. Idk abt that, but at the end of the day, the main argument is just that nobody was an a hole.

[@purpleway1713]

Idk if she will forget.... Also overweight in highschool, I still remember criticism over my weight 10 years later, it's not just "hurting feelings" it's about creating complexes and maybe sometimes destabilizing mental health... She's growing up and forging her own vision of herself. Asking her to step aside for a ride won't be understood as "it's not safe for me" but rather as "I might break this thing because I'm too fat".

[@hannahhannah7002]

From a safety perspective their reason is bullshit though. I'm an engineer, when we design things we kind of assume that people don't know the exact mass or there's for variation. So we work what we expect the structure to handle regularly and then we multiply that by a factor of safety to get what the structure can actually support and withstand. In this case, as it is a matter of safety and life or death a factor of safety of 3 is best practice. So what that slide should be able to handle is 250*3 which is 750 lbs. So either they don't understand the limitations of their equipment or this slide is incredibly dangerous

[@estersilva7804]

Exactly!

[@yunjinhotgurl]

@@purpleway1713 I've had worse instances. I was bullied at my school, by my whole class for being fat. So after I put all details in my head it didn't really feel like, a simple incident like this would haunt her all her life. Her friends were excited with her. After being asked to step out, it definitely must have been embarrassing, but these incidents only become haunting, if her friends made her feel worse after that. So if that happened, yes, she might remember this incident, but even then, the lady who asked her to weigh wouldn't be the a hole, it'd be her friends.

[@yunjinhotgurl]

@@purpleway1713 And yes, I already mentioned the "thinking you'd break it cuz you're fat" and no, I'd like to say that just bcoz of this one incident she wouldn't develop a complex, and if she did develop a complex, there must be more ppl there that do this to her.

[@mamainred276]

Actually you’re wrong, I am 37 weeks pregnant and I have been experiencing false labour cramps a lot recently and I very much appreciated that joke about babies and their lies 😂😂 feel like this baby is messing with me on purpose at this point 😂😂

[@belleofthebayou]

Moral of the story: pregnancy, kids, marriage, divorce, and death will bring out a lot of wild stories on the internet, which make me feel better about the assholes I've had to come across in my life😂 Meanwhile, the last woman is using the internet to educate herself and feels at fault for wanting to give her child an opportunity to have a better life😢 and here I am using it to look up nonsense to buy on Amazon 🤦‍♀️

[@asthajindal5275]

Best thing about the internet, something for everyone!

[@belleofthebayou]

@@asthajindal5275 agreed!

[@jijitters]

Death is always a risk, but videos like this make me relieved I don't ever want kids or to get married lol

[@belleofthebayou]

@jiji my dad died unexpectedly, and I learned the hard way that people will still be assholes to you when you need support the most. If I'm ever fortunate enough to get married and have children, I'm going to be so low-key with announcing it lol. I'm already protective of something I may never have 🤣

[@Kendksowonfs]

It all comes back to pregnancy bc they all came from a pregnant woman so the real Moral of the story is to stop being pregnant

[@munazzaaasim6601]

Me: Wow. The level of emotional intelligence of this guy is commendable. Dylan: *picks up Julius to have a father/son moment*

[@lizturner9692]

I'm constantly blown away by how much common sense this man has. Obviously Dylan is hilarious and jokes around all the time but you can tell when he's seriously answering a question and it always makes sense.

[@Katspearl]

so agree

[@bestpiss]

I would agree, if he edited out the story about the surrogate father

[@BeyondTrash-xe1vs]

​@@bestpissWhats wrong with his take there? Cussing someone out is incredibly immature, especially the principal who was just trying to mediate and resolve the situation. Then ranting about how they're not upset when they clearly are? Father has some anger issues, that's how I'd expect a child to handle the situation.

[@theworldisdescending]

how the dad reacted was pretty appropriate in my opinion. she gave out personal info of him and his kids which could've put them in danger. what she did is a unethical and shouldve got fired for since teachers can't give out personal info about students. if father had anger issues he wouldve done more then just calling her moron (which she is since at her grown age why would you give out someone's personal info)

[@freyja6360]

@@BeyondTrash-xe1vs It's perfectly reasonable. She leaked a personal information of her students. She's so dumb, it's almost hurtful. I'm not a parent but I can imagine the fear a parents must go through when they discover that reckless approach to handling personal info of their kids. For example, someone shows at her class with a camera and a fake media lanyard and gets a kids adress "'cause it will be so awesome to be in the media". Honestly, calling her a moron was mild. Sure, it would be better if he went straight to the principal but come on... And let's not resort to the pop-psychology with the "anger issues" when a person has a reason to be furious.

[@tanzinatasneem9365]

have a hidden weighing scale on the floor. x marks the spot. ask suspected overweight visitors to stand on it while waiting in line. measurement readings should not be displayed publicly but in a way where only an employee can see. tech stuff. keep the scale switched off when not in use. when buying tickets for the park, terms and conditions should include that weight measurements may be taken randomly without warning for safety reasons. their data will not be stored or used for any other purpose than assuring their safety for the rides.

[@bananawal8215]

Coming from a similar culture as the last one, I'm on OP's side 100%. I was actually in the same situation, except it was my mother who wanted me to get married while my father wanted me to go study abroad and live my life. OP just wants her kids to have an equal footing in life and be able to go out in the world.

[@smaragdapapadopoulou7807]

Needless to say I 100% agree with you, but I'm kind of surprised people haven't commented about thus nore-?