Judith's Betrayal | The Psychology of Temptation Explained

[@expressculturetv]

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[@tash8492]

I feel that she should have tried counseling with her husband before she even cheated.

[@Ellewoods3189]

Yes that’s all she had to do and if things didn’t change she should’ve divorced.

[@dynastyvickers750]

The birthday part gagged me, cuz bffr. Yall married 👴🏿👴🏿👴🏿 how you forget that woman’s birthday!?

[@KingComp67_-io3iz]

I agree with you 😂😂, at least put on a small alarm to remember

[@joshuamcdowell9745]

And they have known each other since childhood

[@ventingwithvonda7097]

Forgetting 2 years in a row is screaming, neglectful husband 😢

[@Tbaby9361]

I don’t think it was even about the fancy gifts at first with Judith. I think that it was the fact that he was pouring into her dreams, unlike her husband.

[@DrineThePoet]

facts

[@blarab3697]

So you have to put into a woman’s dream or else she’s gonna cheat on you and yall say women are more loyal than men 😂😂😂😂

[@johnjames6817]

Well in that case she got what she wanted

[@mizsevenoneeight685]

This movie was ridiculously rudimentary and unrealistic 😂 It was literally released at a time after HIV treatment was a thing, hell there were 100k walking around with it & looking perfectly healthy in Atlanta alone! So contracting HIV had Judith aging 30 yrs and limping around like Ms. Sophia on parole, but Brandy’s character didn’t age at all??? 😂 Tyler was unhinged way back then but y’all wasn’t ready to admit it 🤣

[@expressculturetv]

@@mizsevenoneeight685 I totally agree! 🤣 Thank you for watching!

[@Dr.Beetlejuice110]

Glad someone knows this truth

[@mizzkayoss]

“Ms Sophia on parole” lmaooo

[@candice5186]

She was limping because she was injured by Harley I always thought

[@Msbellared]

😂😂😂😂

[@deloresartis8415]

Bryce was a neglectful husband, forgetting her birthday and leaving his wife emotionally unfulfilled in their marriage. Bryce was equally at fault for the demise of his and Judith marriage!

[@jbabylucus1641]

That is a cop out answer. Her choice was her choice. She didn’t have to cheat on her man. She could have filed for divorce and then found herself with somebody else.

[@craigwapples4200]

Let’s be real tho she was emotionally cheating before the birthday thing they both suck because he seemed like a roommate than a life partner

[@youngbrandon654]

@@jbabylucus1641The justifications these folks are making is obnoxious. 💀

[@koryshepard770]

​@youngbrandon654 just like the woman that posted this video

[@JMac7395]

At the end of it all if you're unhappy in your marriage speak with you spouse, repeatedly. If you're spouse is unwilling to acknowledge the issues within the marriage & dismiss your feelings, just leave. Don't concern yourself with the longevity of the relationship or what people will think. The longevity is irrelevant when someone is unwilling to do the work within the relationship to repair it. Other people's opinions about your relationship is irrelevant because you're not married to them. Just leave. Legally sperate or divorce

[@expressculturetv]

Yes. I think that’s also the point of the story. It’s the advantage of hindsight and retrospect that we have that helps us make better choices moving forward.

[@blueskykayzee9009]

This is the reason why most marriage fell apart. Lacking communication, unsupported, the attraction fades away, emotional support, & neglected.

[@tashawilliams8093]

I feel like they got married too young.

[@KingComp67_-io3iz]

Aka " *They didn't get to explore themselves before getting married* ".

[@lenanash798]

​@KingComp67_-io3iz not just that. I don't think they had the proper tools to be married. Their communication sucked. The taken each other for granted. I personally believe everyone should do premarital couple therapy before you get married. Cuz the part that killed me. Is why didn't Judith tell her husband she was unhappy and started finding another man appealing. That would've woke him up

[@KingComp67_-io3iz]

@@lenanash798 C'mon now, when she/a woman says "she is unhappy" is when she mentally left the relationship and or left the relationship not directly to his face.

[@RealTalk1411]

​@@lenanash798 I completely agree with you. Brice and Judith got married way too young. You have to bare in my mind that Judith grow up very sheltered. It was just her and her mother, her mother was extremely religious, always going to church so that's all Judith ever really. She didn't know life outside of Brice and her mother. Judith didn't have the experiences that normal ppl did. So when she got a taste of Harley's world, she went wild. Neither Brice nor Judith were ready for marriage. Judith was bored in her marriage but that still isn't grounds for cheating. If Judith was bored, she needed to express that to Brice, this is where the communication comes in like you said. Brice was also very unsupportive of her dreams. Judith wanted to open up her own marriage counseling business but Brice kept on telling her no, to wait until they are more financially secure. Brice also forgot her birthday and that pushed her away even more. In spite of all of this, Judith is still majorly wrong.

[@annavineyard7350]

I agree I think they got married to young however Judith made vows to her husband to stay faithful and I don’t care how you put it she deserved the ending she got.

[@dynastyvickers750]

JUDITH!!!!!! JUDITH!!!!!!

[@abeltesfaye_]

😂😂😂

[@mulesalumina7220]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@ARaebow]

MY WIFE IS WITH HIM 😭

[@i.am.king89]

I read this in his corny ass voice 😂😂😂

[@yageshabazz3456]

The way he just stood there yelling her name had me on the floor rolling even though it was supposed to be serious! 🤣😭

[@candice5186]

It made no sense how fast and recklessly she fell for Harley.. she was an educated woman who could've got a better paying job in a different environment.. plus her going on business trips and working one on one with Harley was bogus as hell ..yea Bryce was rigid and didn't have her back on many levels ...i agree with everything you said and enjoyed this immensely ❤

[@Ellewoods3189]

Yes I also hate how Harley manipulated her he was a a literal demon and I also hate that she fell for it so quickly.

[@annavineyard7350]

Although I feel bad for Judith’s character I think TP wanted to convey to the audience to be cautious of the lure of temptations because it can result in disastrous consequences. Instead of giving us the Hollywood forgive and forget fairytale he wanted the audience to understand that when you choose the acts of betrayal which only serve to satisfy one’s own desires although you might be forgiven by a partner it does not mean you will remain with the one that you betrayed. I think we as woman feel A type of way with this movie because Judith the wife was the adulterer and not her husband. Where usually it is the husband who is the cheater. But despite the fact that Judith remained HIV and lonely she was forgiven by her husband and she accepted accountability for her actions hence Judith’s circle of betrayal and forgiveness was full circle.

[@expressculturetv]

I understand his sentiments, but I don’t agree with his execution through this particular story given the circumstances of her background. Thank you for watching! I appreciate your feedback. 😊

[@vanitysmirror]

​@@expressculturetvI agree. For instance "Good deeds" has a similar storyline but with a man having an emotional affair with his employee. In good deeds the male character got to ride off to Africa with the woman of his dreams and his ex fiance being perfectly fine with him just dumping her, but I guess.

[@Reshme77]

I don't blame Bryce for not addressing the three blokes It's 3 against one. He was never gonna win that You got to live to see another day If it were one person then yeah I could see

[@expressculturetv]

True. I think Tyler Perry intended for that scene to demonstrate Judith’s perspective on being unprotected. But I wouldn’t advise anyone to engage in a situation like that.

[@Reshme77]

@expressculturetv oh yes, even the martial arts instructors always say that if you can get away from a fight, just get away from it, and they're not kidding me because you never know who the other person may be affiliated with

[@jadacampbell9331]

Uh oh! Looks like some folks took this the wrong way. In tp media, husbands do much worse to their wives and don't go out bad like this. At least charles would eventually get to live a healthy life. Mike was dying of cancer, but wouldn't have to live with it forever. The punishment is a cautionary tale that simultaneously seems rooted in misogyny

[@famouslc838]

Great overall breakdown but i disagree at the end . The husband had flaws but under no circumstances should anyone be cheating on their spouse especially more than once. And at the end i mean she did contract a virus so it would be hard for her to be with someone else.

[@expressculturetv]

Thanks for your feedback and opinion! Glad you enjoyed the review.

[@Dr.Beetlejuice110]

I agree. Judith was wrong anyway you slice it. I don't think the wrongs her man did measure up to the wrong she did to him. Yes, he could have stepped up his game but that doesn't mean walk out on your husband after cheating on him multiple times. What he was doing doesn't compare at all to what she did.

[@Jayyahu15]

@@Dr.Beetlejuice110well said 💯

[@Dr.Beetlejuice110]

Both were wrong but bringing his wrongs up in the same space as her wrongs suggests comparison and the two do not compare at all. Its like saying i blew up his car because he keeps forgetting to bring home what im asking from the store. I know thats not what they are saying its just bringing up mistakes both of them did in the same conversation without making the distinct clarification that we are talking about two separate mistakes that do not compare suggests comparison. Though i do agree that the point of origin of judiths unraveling was her man taking her for granted. BUT all marriage counselors and people who have successful relationships know thats when you soeak up and talk your talk to your person and they should make it up and change. Not go on a cheating spree and destory the relationship the two dont compare or go together at all.

[@expressculturetv]

This deep dive isn’t on comparison, it’s an analysis of cause and effect. Which is why Brice’s role in the film only appears in 1/4 of this video.

[@asiamwithraenetteleepodcast]

I 100% agree with you like wtf is this 🙃she was 10000% worse than his wrong 😑

[@FABOfficialTV]

This movie had such a good message and moral lesson. And it was good to see him, his wife and child in the pharmacy, very wholesome, where he's in a healthy good relationship, which is what he deserved after what he had to go through. I think people were just upset over the ending, because the so-called victim was a woman. Overall, this was a very good movie.

[@marylynrealty7784]

Tyler Perry's movies always go a certain way lol. Unrealistic most times

[@lstarsabb]

This was clearly a men revenge story. I don’t condone cheating but I don’t like that Tyler lets the men cheat with little to no consequences. But the women he has to cheat they get the worst kind of punishment. She cheats on her husband and just happens to end up with an abuser with hiv?

[@yogidabruh9050]

Men gettin the better end of the stick has never been a M.O. in any T. P. production. The women always benefit. You can't be serious. 😕

[@nenep1872]

She definitely deserved better, yes she was wrong for what she did, but for him to just leave her and then get this supermodel wife and kid is ridiculous... no restoration, no redemption... Tyler Perry is supposed to be a Christian but never makes movies about restoration because God restores... It's just sad

[@tiajordan7218]

What do him being a Christian have to do with stories he create. A marriage will not be happy 24/7 Judith was wrong ended up with hiv and y’all wanted him to stay

[@rinad5915]

You want him to restore a relationship with somebody that has hiv? Would you do it?

[@Ellewoods3189]

Lol wym leave her he didn’t wanna leave her even after she left him for days to be with Harley he was still willing to work it out. Then at the end when she wanted him back the damage was already done so he had no choice but to leave her. I mean the girl had HIV I don’t think anyone would stay with a person that betrayed them and on top of that caught HIV during the process.

[@brittnykeahnnah]

I've always felt this way and agree with every word that left your mouth. If ANY husband of mine forgets my birthday twice in a ROW!! "WE'RE DONEEE!!" I don't care how you want to sugarcoat it. And I don't care how bad you're with dates. No excuses!! And if I can't feel safe with you or around you when being verbally attacked. Smh Why am I even married to you? #YIKES

[@nenep1872]

@brittnykeahnnah marriage isn't about remembering your birthday, unfortunately it's way deeper and means something to God

[@brittnykeahnnah]

@@nenep1872 I agree with you. I'm not just discussing a birthday remembrance though. Especially for Jehovah's witnesses. Anniversaries, it could even be a critical doctor's appointment for our autistic child. Forgetting dates, appointments and being emotionally and mentally absent causes issues. Anyone knows this.

[@brittnykeahnnah]

@CWB-ke4md I appreciate and respect your opinion. We're discussing the movie and what happened in the movie. Based on the events that happened in this movie. It had nothing to do with her running her mouth. He did a few things, she did a few things. Enjoy your day.

[@ncivey]

I always gloated this movie. Judith made mistakes but she didn’t deserve that ending. Just trash.

[@mandyads]

Despite her "initial reservations"... just thought I'd reiterate that. We almost ALWAYS know. That's our queue to get away before we have the chance to be love bombed, manipulated and distracted.

[@candice5186]

He told her 10 to 15 years BUT in hindsight if she was 26 36 to 40 is still young to start a practice but i understand her disappointment

[@Ellewoods3189]

Right and she still ended up being a marriage counselor in the end. Still felt he could’ve poured more into her dreams and desires tho instead of being so dismissive which could’ve saved the marriage.

[@LionsPrideTV]

I totally disagree with you, I don’t even like Tyler Perry, but I love the message in this movie mainly being one bad decision can ruin your life. you falling into temptation, no matter what the situation is, is never a good thing. Technically, she got the ark that she wanted by still being able to open up her own business as a marriage counselor, even though you can clearly see aids has definitely taken a toll on her. he definitely has to share some of the blame for the downfall of the marriage, but he admitted that already to Brandy before finding out about the man having aids that’s why he was crying because he felt like it was his fault. Brandy was telling him that it wasn’t. he did learn from his mistakes. People today are still not being able to reach or have a chance at their arc or peak potential because of mistakes and decisions they’ve made wow young that is reality. That is the message that is being shown in this movie

[@Ellewoods3189]

Yes I think people intentionally be oblivious to the message of this movie because there’s a woman doing the wrong doing so they try to justify her behavior. But I feel like if the genders were reversed and Bryce was cheating on Judith and he caught HIV they would’ve been like he deserved it.

[@imjustbreazy26]

I think the misconception of HIV/AIDS is due to changing society mindset. Judith could be living a bountiful life whether being HIV. She could still have healthy children, a healthy relationship. Educating all communities is that HIV/AIDS is not a death title. As long as a person takes their meds and be safe for themselves and for others. Shame on Tyler Perry for setting this message out.

[@tonymolatto1904]

I agree. She got screwed over in the movie and everyone acted like she was cray. Overbearing mom and boring lowkey aggressive hubby. She was a good person who wanted a lil fun in her life instead of antlyfe.

[@NibariOshima]

At the end of the day she could have divorced him she cheated and you reap what you sow

[@tonymolatto1904]

@NibariOshima they didn't reap. Based on what you're saying she'd be solo.

[@MafiaLaneCrenshaw]

I don't feel sorry that girl God brought her back to reality! Because of her sins she could died and went to eternity but God spared her life! I don't feel sorry for her!!

[@tonymolatto1904]

@MafiaLaneCrenshaw I do feel sorry for her. She should've got a divorce before stuff went left.

[@Ellewoods3189]

@@tonymolatto1904 she should of communicated properly with her husband or went to counseling I mean hell she wanted to be a marriage counselor and went to school for it but she let temptation win

[@acoqueran]

dodged a bullet from the husband???...wow...he just left her, the lover gave her a1ds....she didn't dodge a bullet from her lover ...she got a life changing disease and that was HER CHOICE, she took that bullet SQUARE IN THE CHEST...for all the short comings she ended up where she needed to be and BRYCE...dodged the bullet...wow...if avoiding accountability FOR WOMEN'S BAD CHOICES was a video, this is it.

[@Libragirl95]

Facts

[@shawnlyric9432]

Judith!! Judiiith!!! 😂

[@adeOLUWA]

At the end of the day, it was her choice how she decided to handle what she felt. I say the same when it's the man that cheats.

[@cristinamedina8278]

I think people are missing the real problem here... yes, she cheated and that was wrong. But, she knew Harley was sleeping around, she confronted him at his house after the park incident. At the beginning of the movie he said that he was "in between relationships". Then, why didn't she used protection, she could easily gave HIV to Bryce. I'm a Christian, I don't agree with cheating under any circumstances, but if someone decides they are going to do it at least take precautions. People keep saying Tyler pushed too far bay including HIV. I don't see a problem here, that's a real disease, one of the most common STD. Over 1 million people have it just in the USA... I don't see the problem about a movie who is reminding people to be careful who they are sleeping with and the decisions they make in life.

[@dynastyvickers750]

I watched this with Ollie and we was both like “he been buggin’ since the beginning”

[@theshow5986]

I feel like this movie was a scare tactic. You not happy leave, take time for yourself. She went about so wrong

[@shininbright1315]

Thank you for this video essay and breakdown. ❤

[@acoqueran]

wow...Bryce is a flawed and unsupportive spouse...so yea...you justified to cheat and get a1ds...he's selfish...talk about IT'S ALL HIS FAULT...WOW...

[@djenzo2450]

This is exactly what happens when you get married too young and fail to grow into love when the spark is slowly fading

[@poodahlu]

This was excellent! I thoroughly enjoyed your breakdown! 🥳

[@panpolyamcommentates]

Great commentary!

[@mcdonaldlekhoaba3255]

havent watched this movie in years, i dont remember every detail (or maybe i was oblivious to them). For me at the time of watching the woman was completely wrong but hearing a different pov im realising so much went over my from both parties.

[@MafiaLaneCrenshaw]

Who bout to go back to a cheating wife who got sick acting like a demon! This just like that movie Acrimony,the women don't take accountability for nothing! TOXIC! PLAY STUPID GAME WIN STUPID PRIZES!!

[@nonnonbutlove1642]

I remember watching this movie and feeling like judith was cheated and that TP could have done so much more with that movie.

[@bricbrac28]

An when she walked away at the end she had a limp, like how low y'all want her to be😂

[@Deavonj]

Every one hating on this movie. Most likely loves watching diary of a mad black woman. lol yall just hate to see a woman get the man treatment and get a taste of her own medicine lol

Honestly this movie pissed me off. I’m not saying what Judith did was right but she didn’t deserve to get punish for getting HIV. She deserved better

[@FFENDII4]

This is reality though ask single old women and you will see

[@micalaking1904]

Me and my brother always talk about this. Judith got one of the worst endings.

[@CieraPerdue]

What's Movie About?

[@Fgaentertainment]

We get one dark skin hero in a Tyler Perry movie and here we are turning him into a villian. Tsk tsk 😂😂

[@expressculturetv]

Hmm, Really? You think he’s a villain? Go figure. 🦹🏾‍♂️

[@tishellelara4280]

I don't think he's a villain just a very flawed individual

[@Ellewoods3189]

@@tishellelara4280yes he was a good guy just not a good husband

[@DrineThePoet]

Well done!

[@anthonytunstall2147]

You do know that Harley had HIV and potentially gave some to Judith as well

[@marissawilson4644]

Technically, she could have used PEP after an exposure.

[@emanuelclark443]

Cause it didn’t give the woman a happy ending it’s the worst movie 😂

[@expressculturetv]

If reading is fundamental, critical thinking is a master class. Thanks for watching. 😃

[@jadacampbell9331]

Similar deal with the family that preys. Yes, Andrea is wrong, but that was still her money and her ex had no right stealing it when it was clearly in a separate account. That never sat right with me. All the while, in diary of a mad black woman, Charles gets taken care of while, Helen's happy ending involves being the struggle bus. Even in family reunion, Carlos still has his.money after a temporary punishment of horlt grits. Smh

[@likhwezititus]

​@@ORISHUNFILMWORKSTVno she did not

[@reabetsoepitso546]

I mean ...so for her to not get HIV she shouldve stayed with in an unhappy marriage with a man that neglects her ?😢

[@jelligurl02]

I liked the movie.