How To Recover From Burn Out

Burnout is a big issue and something most of us who have high expectations of ourselves, or take on other people's expectations, have to be really mindful of because both of these things put us at high risk of burn out.
Burnout is caused by mental and emotional exhaustion - all of which are created by feeling trapped, helpless and powerless to the circumstances we find ourselves in.
In today’s episode of GoodForMeTV, we are going to talk about what the risks and consequences are of burnout and how to recover from burn out if we're right in the middle of it.
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[@katebender4745]

I'm 100% getting burnt out right now. Even when I try to make room to relax and rest, I'm still feel like I need to go-go-go. I want to have fun and do stuff I enjoy but I'm just so tired all the time and feeling exhausted 😩 I love the idea of focusing on just a few things!

[@jessxo8591]

Burn out is absolutely terrible. I went through it really bad last year. I didn't even realize it until it just got so bad I had to quit my job. I just couldn't handle it anymore. Burn out is no joke! Make self care a priority people! It's so important!!!

[@gailquance6273]

It IS a biiiig deal...have learned the hard way through years of adrenal fatigue recovery; something I had never heard of...burn out is real/serious!! Have listened in for months now.....love your spunk, expertise, encouragement!! ❤️

[@marybethmarlar]

Gail quance hey! Was wondering. What did you use or do to heal from adrenal fatigue/heal the adrenal glands? Thank you!!

[@kristinagann4301]

Hi Julia, My name is Kristina. You are describing myself in this video a couple of month ago. My Job has been draining me to a point where I found myself sitting at my doctors office crying and saying that I just hate people that are surrounding me or talking to me. I have never felt like this in my life time. I am so glad that I started to cut down and getting some therapy. I allowed myself finally to say I am done of being perfect. I am a human. Thank you, Julia

[@scooterscat3309]

I'm so burned out I cant even think straight.

[@GirlMomma]

Hey - just so you know, I don't feel you should pressure yourself one bit as far as answering everyone's emails and comments. As much as we would all love it, you're already giving us so much with these free self-help videos on KZbin that are priceless. I think it would be rude if anybody expected anything more. You could go crazy trying to answer every single person you are helping. Because you have a fantastic gift and a lot of people are naturally going to be drawn to you. You can't possibly answer them all. You're only human.the fact that you desire so much to be able to do so, shows so so much about your soul. You're a beautiful person, Julia! So thanks again!!💜

[@thespuditron9387]

I’ve been watching you for months now and I don’t know when I first found you, but I’m glad I have. I’m Liam and I’m from Ireland. Greetings to you all. ❤️

[@sophiadavenport3959]

Self care is extremely important make time/commitment to take care of yourself. 💡

[@juliakristinamah]

Yes sister - I couldn't agree more.

[@アレクサンダージュニパー]

This whole video was me. I was almost brought to tears to hear everything that I struggle with be laid out in front of me. As a psychology undergrad who is about to graduate, the amount of research and presentations I have to do along with keeping money flowing so I can stay alive, as well as maintaining friendships, all this while living in a foreign country are all are too much for me. Starting tomorrow (it's night time here), I'm going to start prioritizing things and cutting away what isn't important to me.

[@wolfdogos5274]

I am Gunta from UK. I am commenting firt time, but I have been watching your videos for few months. I want to say thank you for all your videos, they have helped me to recover from depression. You are such a inspiration, thank you

[@pamelagreen795]

Hi. I am Pamela from Dallas, Texas. As a Registered Nurse I am experancing Burnout all the time. With no engergy to enjoy my personal life. I am happy to have found you here on Utube. Thank You!

[@HumansOfVR]

I would bet that hustle culture probably increased the rate of burn out

[@juliakristinamah]

I would totally agree.

[@Evernia6181]

I've been to places where places are closed on weekends and after 5:00 pm, no 24/7 stores, and wow, life goes happily on.

[@tafedits]

So true

[@owenthomas1935]

This hustle culture gets me bad, running a roofing business solo and boxing training like a professional for years takes all my energy, physically, mentally, emotionally. I know I need to take a break when all the signs are there but then you have all these people on KZbin stuck in your head telling you your not working hard enough and you should push through when your mind wants to rest cause resting won't bring you success. Personally i think these hardwork motivation videos are good for people who are lazy and would benefit from working harder than they are currently doing but when your already doing far more than enough and putting in 100% then having that in our minds ontop is making us feel worthless for feeling like we need a break. These motivational / hustle speakers are good to a point but i believe they become toxic beyond that.

[@angiebrown6473]

I appreciate your videos so much. I experienced burnout and left my job in June 2019. I'm ready to return to work but scared I'll start feeling the same way, anxiety, stress, and burnout.

[@vivie_savitri]

I am that...demotivated, dreadful to work, anxious about not doing right, worrying about last minute request and cant sleep because of that...have to do 3 people jobs because of understaffed. have tried to talk to my superiors but they said this is what it is right now. I couldn’t really relax when I was on leave, even when I had to accompany member of family for surgery, my office still asked me to do some works (eventhough i said i couldn’t because I was at the hospital and taking care of my family). It’s gotten worse since we have to do wfh, no more boundaries between work and home. Only recently I realized that I cannot do this anymore, I feel trapped and hate it so much...and that’s big warning for me because I know what self-love is... I am taking risk right now because I am putting boundaries and it could me look like I am not doing my job because somehow i have so many pending matters. Well...i am not a superhuman, I cant do everything at the same time and just like you said...I am told to suck it up and stop complaining. I should be grateful because I still have job when many losing theirs... I should be giving the best OMG... I am at the stage when thinking about waking up, cleaning the kitchen, making coffee and making breakfast in the morning has already exhausted me and made me want to cry...but everybody keep telling me to be patient I dont even know what to say anymore...🙈🙈

[@jclandry6933]

I've experienced so many burnouts in my life. (Even to this day) The idea of being this "superhuman" hit home because I felt I didn't not just have limits, but always aim to break those said limits. Let alone the fear of underachievement and failure. This led me to realize I was doing a disservice to one important person in this world: me. I appreciate your insight and advice on each level of burnout. Now I look to take a step back and realize when to slow down and be chill. Thanks Julia.

[@sandg5248]

Needed it. This today actually burn out (care giver) people don't believe that this is a real issue.

[@Bambinohead1]

As a care giver you a constantly giving giving giving and may be receiving little back because of the nature of the person's disability.

[@GirlMomma]

Oh lord is it! I've been a caregiver to my mama since I was 19, I'm almost 40. I am so burntout.

[@GirlMomma]

@@Bambinohead1 you've got it. it's like we get to the point where you have literally nothing left to give, but no matter, we still have to do it. I feel like my days are just ran on autopilot.💜

[@ErikaK]

We tend to put so much pressure in ourselves, we want to be perfect, we want to do it all, we're always busy, always tired. Take time for yourself to release the stress and pressure, take some time off from your devices, to-do lists and responsibilities. Take some time to heal and recover. Organise yourself in a way you can manage the workload and put yourself and your best interests first. Take care of yourself !!!

[@michellekelley5358]

Thank you for this video! I’ve watched it 3 times in the last 24 hours! Every. Single. Point. 100%. It helped me to put a label on everything I am experiencing. I am among many (restaurant worker) during Covid who is consumed with stress and burnout, trying to keep going and energize others around me!

[@jacebeleren1703]

Hello there! I'm Panos, from Greece, just found your while trying to see how to get through my current burnout, and im soooo glad i found you! Keep up the good work! Personally, i think a thing that greatly contributes to burnout is the inherent expectation placed upon us to "have as much physical stuff as possible" , in terms of commodities, and that consequently causes you to need to work harder, longer hours, etc etc Again, I'm just so glad i found your channel! I've really been feeling the symptoms of burnout for a few months ,and acknowledging it is the first step in overcoming it! Meditation tends to help me a lot with it's symptoms, so imma integrate it more in my daily routine. And i'm already feeling just so much better because of that.

[@PracticalInspiration]

Great subject, looking forward to watching this. I loved the last video

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad you're finding these helpful.

[@PhillipRajcany]

One of your best videos yet. Hits home for me, especially having the emotions up to my neck.

[@juliakristinamah]

Glad it connected. Is there something you can start on now that will help?

[@PhillipRajcany]

For me, hmm, reevaluating/ simplifying my "few" priorities is key.

[@jennifercable661]

This video is such a relief for me! My boss has been stressing me out for a long time. I've been trying to talk to him and explain to him that I have been struggling with everything you just mentioned in your video, but he just doesn't seem to get it, and he won't let me take a break or any kind of sick leave. I don't want to quit because he and I have formed a close personal bond with each other since I started working for him two years ago, and I'm afraid that if I do, he will never speak to me again.

[@roberttweten]

Same

[@marissaking9512]

Hey Julia! My name is Marissa and I am truly burnt-out! I have just realized this when I put a loved one in a nursing home after caring for him for the past 3 years. I now can breath and slow down a bit not stressing and thinking about his immediate safety, well-being, and overall quality of life. I am thankful that I was available for them, but my heart goes out to every caregiver that has no consistent support working with them!

[@millies.8810]

Thank you for this video. Acknowledging is the first thing. My friend worked for the USPS and the stress/pandemic has had a terrible toll on her. I myself have dealt with a larger volume of work while being remote due to the pandemic. I started exercising regularly and go to bed earlier one day a week to recuperate mentally. I forgive myself if everything is not perfect.

[@karenfiggins7808]

I definitely need more sleep! Thank you again. I forget things continuously. I am retired.

[@rajeshmanchanda4001-g1w]

Very well elaborated on how the burnout happens. Thanks for the inputs

[@juliakristinamah]

Glad it connected.

[@TsgeredaGebregziabher-q6t]

Currently I am going through a burn out which is extremely annoying but I am keeping positive to recover quicker. I will be good to myself if only I can get out this uncomfortable burn out symptoms. I like what you said. You can do it all but it can not be at the same time. Thank you

[@MissVestergaard]

Hi Julia 👋 First time watcher here ^_^ I’m Anna, and I’m from Denmark. I came here to learn how to help my fiancé cope with anxiety. We are having a hard time recovering from a miscarriage, and me being admitted to the psychiatric hospital afterwards. His anxiety is untreated, which is about to be changed, but the way there is long and slow. So I’m hoping that I can learn a little from your videos on how to make life a little easier for everyone at home while we recover :)

[@JimMurray2]

Feeling exactly as you described, long term mental and emotional exhaustion which has dipped into depression. All work related. Trying to right the ship to a sustainable path. Thanks for the video.

[@clutch4141]

Hi i'm new here, i have g.a. and depression i've been going to talk therapy and am on meds, your channel helps me when i'm between session. Thanks for doing this.

[@GreenspudTrades]

So glad you've posted a follow up to last week's video! You left us with an unsatisfied cliffhanger last week!

[@juliakristinamah]

Glad it all feels complete now.

[@beckymaynard5933]

This video couldn't have come out at a better time for me! Thank you!

[@zeruszephuros5419]

Here I am having a really severe burn out for years......and this vid came just right in....Thank you Julia xD!

[@juliakristinamah]

You're welcome. What can you do today to take care of yourself?

[@babygonda1226]

Pray and confess to GOD the HOLY SPIRIT that you need strength, wisdom, protection and self love..

[@naylorz28]

I subbed over a year ago after I watched your video covering emotional abuse....it was such a very well put together video that I would watch a lot...I came across a covert narcissist and that video gave me validation...I enjoy your channel a lot thank you

[@KM-yw2yb]

Set time boundaries to create balance. Thank you as always.

[@admirbarucija2018]

Your videos are always the best part of my week!! ❤️ Thank you for helping me change my life for the better.

[@juliakristinamah]

Glad you're here!

[@admirbarucija2018]

Julia Kristina Counselling Thank you so much! I hope you’re having a lovely week!

[@katsthoughts8171]

I realized watching this video I have been burned out for way too long. I am so grateful to have seen this video. 🙏

[@patrycjaszlachta9603]

Thank you for all your videos. I am so grateful that i found you in 2022. You have helped me a lot🙏

[@jayandrews9457]

Thank you. And definitely in the middle of one.

[@juliakristinamah]

I hope you now have some tools to get yourself back to feeling like you again.

[@jayandrews9457]

Thank you ma’am.

[@I.m_glad_you.re_here]

Hi! I’m Nik and your video was in “watch next” on couple of prior videos I watched on burnout. I appreciate the quality of information presented and the passion with which you presented it. You are a beautiful human being, both in and out and I very much appreciate your work!

[@haakonnilssen7151]

Hi Julia , thank you 🙏 hope everything is good for you ; take good care 👋

[@donnaiovine2123]

I had an overbearing, demanding boss. I suffer burnout it is hard to concentrate sometimes. It helps to hear a positive comment from any coworkers. I think I turn to food sometimes too. There's some people you just can't reason with. If you work long days it is hard to take care of self.

[@kristinawilhelm6164]

My friend tells me that I push myself too hard, and that is why I am sick alot

[@roxii123]

My name is Roxana from California! I actually watched your video as an assignment for my psych class and I was hooked after watching it! Liked and subscribed ☺️

[@sandrakavarana6793]

Could identify with almost everything you said.Never seem to have enough time for myself.Julia, you are like a lighthouse for those lost in burnout waters. Sandra Kavarana, India

[@lesliengo8347]

So glad there are ways to manage burnout. While on the job you can say to put something to the side, in school, especially in high school, we can't say, "no, I am busy doing a few assignments and volunteering as well so I would prefer to take on it later." We tend to feel pressured about marks when the whole purpose of going to school is to learn, not get high marks. I'm in post secondary in Downtown Vancouver and it is not easy to say no because if I don't do what I need to do, not only will I risk failing and having to take the course again, but also add to my tuition. I wish schools can be a bit more flexible to what subjects students want to put more time on.

[@lylahboling6383]

This WHOLE thing is chocked full of great things thank you thank you

[@kaepin1]

What perfect timing! This is exactly what I needed to hear and work through. Thank you so much, Julia😊

[@DRAAAICA1]

Hi Julia and everyone else! My name is Denni and yes I believe I’m the poster child for this section. It’s very upsetting that I’ve let this go on for so long “thinking” it will get better. I have actually started seeking counseling and felt like I was doing so well and in reality I find myself reverting back. I’m sure you never hear anyone say that before! 🙄 Truly Happy about finding your happy group!!

[@sgwdavidson2011]

Your videos really help. I’m feeling overwhelmed with anxiety and sure I’ve got burnout

[@emmagrace030602]

25+ years as a sales leader in the medtech field. Several team members are feeling this way... I am trying to provide tools to recover. Thx for the video.

[@tainaadam2038]

This was spot on. Thank you!

[@AngelaKelly-b8m]

Angie. Live in Scotland. UK

[@thenebraskan6977]

Thumbs up 👍 Julia I, I get so much from reviewing your videos. More and more sinks in to the command center in my cranium. Stay safe out there !

[@ItsBeautifulMe16]

Thank you for making this video! I needed this message today.

[@yourmomishere331]

Thank you for this video❤

[@Lily-hu5oy]

Thanks Julia it's healing as always

[@carlahamman1391]

Hi Julia!! I need this!! Thank you!!!

[@wilfigs9705]

Thanks for the advice

[@lylahboling6383]

WOW yes!! Thanks for your help all the time.

[@I.m_glad_you.re_here]

I REALLY enjoyed the presentation! Thank you!

[@MJ31579]

🙋‍♀️ explains my life. Have a toddler and an infant. Infant waking every 1-2 hours at night. I work 8am to 6pm non stop, back to back meetings, doing reports while in meetings, having heart palpitations. Starting to think I cant trust anyone and people just want more and more, but I know it is a stress response.

[@Sky-zg8lz]

Hi there mam, I'm from Africa and I saw your video on my recommendations.

[@tfpp1]

Kevin, from SoCal. Found you quite by happenstance as I started looking up videos about being burnt out. I think I've been experiencing burnout since 2017, possibly even longer than that if you consider the build up UP to that point. I'm experiencing basically all of the symptoms you listed. It's probably mostly to do with work (and maybe a tiny little bit some other stuff too), but I've been watching a bunch of videos defining it, ans it makes so much sense to me. Thank you for what you do. I just started talking with my therapist about it. Hopefully, I can take steps to make some long overdue, necessary changes.

[@nancymasaba7157]

The one about the ego really felt real. I am on a school break right now, I am in theatre school and I can feel how tired i am only when I am off and have free time. I also feel like during those stresfull times, I am not in my body so I can 't really feel my limits or needs. I will be taking a step back on focus on 1 goal at the time instead of taking all these extra courses. And I am starting therapy soon. It still feels very unnatural to scrap things from my list so yes the ego thing really struck home to me.. thanks for your video :)

[@yogadave100]

I love all your videos. David Patterson from Okc.

[@edengarden6811]

I have a burnout for 8 months now. I worked i worked and i worked. Everyday stress on the job, and then at home i had a lot of stuff to do as well. I NEVER relaxed. So i was in stress mode all the time. And i NEVER said NO, i always said yes even when it was impossible. Relaxation, balance, is so important. Many people don’t understand how i feel so that makes it hard. I have never felt like this, i am not myself anymore. My husband says you are different. Talking with people is exausthing me the most. I sleep 9/10 hours a night, still feeling like a zombie. Sleeping 1 hour in the afternoon. Going on my bike is exhausting, i need my rest. Now my neighbours have a new dog who barks every single morning around 6, while i need rest. So this is also stressful. Now that corona is here, i am almost 3 months at home, does not work either. Need to go back to work next week, 7 hours a day, 3 days a week. I have no idea how. I lash out, emotional, crying, angry. It’s the hardest thing i have ever battled. I was always soooo happy and a lot of energy, now i am nothing. Always sad.. depressed. I have no idea how to get back on track, help did not work, i visited a shrink, does not work. I need to work on saying no, thinking about myself, relax, don’t take my work with me to my home, find another job when i am ready. Also i am not on a contract at my job, so in order to keep it i have to work and say yes more than no. This is the new problem! Flex workers, many end up burned out because if they do not step up at their job, they get fired easily. So the workload is a lot and weighs down on us. I have no kids btw, thank God.

[@atikaputri7521]

Hi Julia, I'm Tika and I'm 20 I'm so glad that I've found you. Your videos helped me a lot, the way you talk and the way you look to the camera, it proves that you really love your job and that you care a lot about people you haven't met yet. I'm struggling with burnout issues right now, I have no passion in doing things I once loved. (I am a college student and I like to contribute to LOTS of stuff so hm, yeah :') ) And I really wanted to be my old self. After I watch this video, I apply your suggestions, start doing what you say, and start to change my boundaries and perspective. The result, I am back to normal and I feel excellent right now :) Just, thank you so much for your videos and I really hope to be able to meet you in the future (though I don't know how) 😁 Lots of love from Indonesia❤

[@lylahboling6383]

Yes I even made that statement to an aquaintinances a couple of weeks ago

[@saadlaaribi1862]

Hey! Thanks for the video. I've found you while doing my research on KZbin on how to recover from a burnout l was chronically suffering from. Your content is great and very interesting. So thank you again!

[@silascochran9705]

Hey Julia great video excellent timing I'm experiencing the depressions the fatigue the anger pretty much all of those I will tell people yes I could do it but I'm not going to I'm taking a break thank you so much for being out there for us and Silas smiled😁🤸‍♂️🌴🏚🌴⚓🎗 PS a lot of these pressures I put on myself my ego I tell myself I can work miracles and I do but I pay for it later emotionally physically and mentally and so do other people because I have one hell of a temper even when it's rained in people see it

[@captaindan1000]

You mentioned something about limits and now I will. I once knew someone who said "know your limits." I think he said that's what John Wayne used to say. My grandfather once had a sign he hung in his bedroom that I'll never forget. "There are no limits, only barriers."

[@ravenherrod2291]

I am Raven Herrod Portland Oregon and I just was looking through KZbin 🙂

[@AshSchultzArt]

Great video. I’m just realizing I’m dealing with burnout a few days ago. Just so much going on while dealing with my generalized anxiety issues and I see it now for what it is. Procrastination tends to buildup a backlog of things to do and stress. I don’t achieve much of my goals, but my to do list is ever growing. I’m not taking time to recharge my batteries. Trying to apply these, and other strategies now

[@lylahboling6383]

You are my coach thank you very much!

[@lylahboling6383]

I actually have no one like that. Scheduled maybe never thought of that. Thank you.

[@deborahmeyers7839]

Julia this sounds like my cancer journey! Love your videos and tips 😘

[@bonkahermitakaintjudge9228]

Again another great presentation showing the importance of not biting off more than you can chew and the importance of when you have to chew, chew slowly lol. Thanks again

[@juliakristinamah]

Ha! Love that so much.

[@bonkahermitakaintjudge9228]

Thanks again for your response lol. I am glad that you like my comments.

[@MariaSantos-gm7ps]

Thank you I love it.

[@persevere6326]

Great video

[@awrightlove]

Spot on for everything in this video 🌹

[@jeffreyfrazier694]

Thank you

[@ilacirpianojr]

Hello Julia! How are you? I'd like to share a little bit of what's going on with me, I'm a teacher and I'm REALLY burned out for months, for me everything feels like it's going down, and my creativity and all the stuff is going away. I do have major depression, and now I'm doing new plans to take care of my health and routine. I'm quitting my job and going to look for new options, and even bring a Uber driver, but my goal is to start a new degree (in psychology), because I want to be a therapist. The point is, sometimes we need to be humble about who we are, and be brave to take some risk, in order to be okay with ourselves, and to make some change on the world. Thanks for your insight, it's always great to hear from you :-)

[@carolinelanders9662]

Yes

[@jennagallant5239]

I love listening to your videos!

[@LAUREL5785]

I'm new. THANK you for your channel... I love your perspective and approach!

[@candicebranella4193]

Hey Julia! I’m new here and just want to say great presentation! This is very helpful content, and you delivered it extremely well! 💜

[@LynetteYoung]

I'm tuning in to see how I can bounce back from burnout WITHIN MY OWN COMPANY...

[@Bambinohead1]

Burnout happens within YOURSELF

[@marialicemorgan19]

I’m I trying to recover from burn out. Saying no to many things.

[@juliakristinamah]

Good for you. No is so necessary.

[@marialicemorgan19]

Julia Kristina Counselling Thank you for your videos. They are helpful and encouraging.

[@stephanieleslie7685]

You’re awesome, I love your videos!

[@trevorbagaaakler9692]

Beaumont Alberta Canada . Love your videos found you about year and half ago and have helped me with a few things . All these things are happening with me and iam trying to decide about a career change at my work .

[@daniepicnerd]

Hi im Danielle, 29 year old from Washington. Found you from my new roommate. Im a corporate office girl living in this crazy world.

[@dayzm6708]

Very helpful thank you a lot! ^^

[@holedplot]

Forgot the last time I felt something, really. Life is work, no social life, no nothing. I'm pretty dead inside.

[@delilapanjeta1339]

You're great! Thank you :)

[@margaretbennett4520]

Hi. It is true, I do get burnout, but people demand that you not be in a w/c and set boundaries for your disability limits, and yes, they have no idea because they don't have this universal set, so very few people don't lash out at unfamiliar boundaries!

[@nimnim309]

Yes!!

[@pselife]

Everything you said is happening to me

[@annav61]

All of them !

[@axlfox4048]

I think I need to work on start saying no more at work. I've been taking on so many extra shifts cause I feel guilty saying no and now I feel like I'm definitely burnt out