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[@JuliaZelg]

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[@kendra4832]

Marriage is supposed to be loving and fun and beautiful, it’s sad you don’t think it’s not much that. I understand there are fights, arguments, a lot of forgiveness. Just don’t forget that you are young, youth is precious and pls don’t waste these young years being sad and stuck and having to travel for an escape. Sometimes love is not enough- I wish you the best Julia. Always

[@kendra4832]

Also before anyone comes at me, I am also married. Marriage can be complicated, but it doesn’t have to be if that also makes sense. The ones that love and care for you wouldn’t result to hurting you

[@angelineg2350]

Watched you for probably 5-6 years on and off. Definitely feel like Eileen leached on to you. You’re beautiful, funny, successful and young. There is definitely someone better out there for you

[@elliewillow4556]

If someone cheats on you once they’ll do it a million times. It’s not the sex with a different person it’s that they chose not to regard your feeling or mental safety.

[@maddiehowarth3339]

Did Eileen cheat?

[@mariemjlassi723]

Wtf who said she cheated?

[@alexandramoyer8785]

Stop making assumptions Ellie . No one said she cheated 🙄

[@KittyCatFurbabiesMaria1972]

@@alexandramoyer8785listen to Julia’s latest song ! It’s about Eileen

[@maxolivia4911]

Look after yourself. No one is owed your forgiveness. You are allowed to choose yourself. It's not failing if its healthier for you to walk away. Your spark is yours. You are so capable and creative. Please choose you.

[@AlynnQuinn]

I love this ❤

[@maxolivia4911]

Honestly, anyone at any time is allowed to leave a relationship. I hope Julia knows that all we want for her is joy. She deserves a partner who brings her unbridled joy and safety and calm and contentment. She's a beautiful little ray of sunshine. The world is all yours, Julia. I've watched you since way before your marriage. You are allowed to choose freedom. No one is going to think you didn't try. We've seen how hard you work and how much you love people. You deserve your own life. You don't owe staying to anyone. ❤❤❤🌈🌈🌈❤❤❤

[@waterwasps]

julia, you are so young, gorgeous, vibrant and full of life. don’t let anyone hold you back. once that trust is broken it’s hard to go back to how things used to be, and just because you’re married doesn’t mean you are stuck, things can always change should you wish. do what is best for you, whatever that may be 💕

[@ivand0007]

She's wasting her life🤣🤣🤣

[@queenbuzybee4074]

@@lyvsix Maybe you should learn to spell properly before commenting.

[@ivand0007]

@@queenbuzybee4074 QuEeN bUzYbEe keep crying. She's wasting her life and you support this garbage. It says a lot about society and how we let weirdos dictate what's acceptable even when it's not.

[@ivand0007]

@@lyvsix she married an old hippo🤢

[@alexandramoyer8785]

@@ivand0007 you are rude af

[@diabolicaldebbie]

Julia, people don't get married to travel and eat alone in restaurants 🍝🍷.

[@c123-i6n]

@@ira6133 If I could do all that alone, then I don’t see the point of a marriage or relationship as they are a lot of work, but benefits would be having a loving partner to do things with.

[@aannalese]

Her wife is also super old

[@tisbleuoctober694]

​@@aannalese what does her age has to do with it?

[@wiki7226]

I do that with my partner 🤷‍♀️ she has work and her own goals and so do I, so yes we are there for each other and support and love each other 24/7 but we don't physically need to spend all the time together, we even need some time alone to feel happy. And that's okay, it works for us, every relationship has different needs

[@alexandramoyer8785]

@@aannalese well you’re gonna be old one day too rude af

[@nataliek1566]

I wish your marriage all the best but there is a difference between cheering yourself up and running (distracting) yourself from the problems. I hope you two are open to receiving help and guidance from others. Much love! 💖

[@nrmmom]

I feel like maybe Julia has to walk on egg shells around Eileen. She seems like the type of person to be really grumpy like 75% of the time.

[@taylahheffernan]

Eileen is a narcissist, it’s visible in videos & I imagine behind cameras it’s a lot worse. Julia you’re so talented & courageous & will flourish further without Eileen’s toxicity

[@JamiylaNour]

You can do better than her.. seriously. I was with an older person at your age.. it’s boring and sucks the life out of you. They didn’t want to have fun and do the things I wanted to. She’s limiting you Julia. Get out of it asap. She doesn’t deserve you. Betrayers deserve to be alone.

[@dianajames4717]

i would have to agree with Lilia Amber that big of an age difference just doesnt make sense. Its way to much of a difference.

[@LeahhhLux]

I dated older too. Definitely energy suckers. And they don’t want to do the things you want to do.

[@tinashort9098]

Sweet girl…marriage may or may not last forever. If you’re finding things hard to forgive, then stop trying to forgive them. You certainly don’t owe us anything, we love you regardless. I love you and Eileen but I can love you separately. I hope that you two can work things out and be happy. Or be happy on your own. Just be happy. Life is too short to be involved with someone that contributes to poor mental health and unhappiness ❤

[@ivand0007]

Seek help if this normal is fine to you

[@tinashort9098]

@@ivand0007 I never said anything about normal or fine. And I don’t need to seek help simply because I choose not to judge someone else’s relationship or stick my nose in where it doesn’t belong. It’s truly none of our business what’s going on with them. Julia chose to put this up for support and I support whatever she decides to do. In conclusion, I don’t need nor do I want “help”. Have a pleasant day.

[@alexandramoyer8785]

@@saramcdonalds9038 you are the one who needs help

[@zaraeraesmith7510]

Trust your heart, Julia. The community that you have built, we will be here for you. I know that a lot of your notoriety came from documenting being in an age-gap relationship, which is really grand. But the viewers that you touched in the process, as time has gone on- we aren't here to see an age gap anymore... we're here because we care about you. Married or single. We will support you

[@Momc2k]

Try therapy. Seriously. We did it for a year. We've been married for almost 11 years now. We've been thinking about going back to therapy. Love and life changes.

[@Mari-qk1of]

Did she cheat on her or something? Julia doesn't look happy anymore and it's definitely not healthy for her to be using distractions to avoid her problems at home.

[@jnhforlife5326]

You don't need to forgive to heal. Some things are unforgivable even if you love someone. You will always come first because you are stuck with you for your entire life! Love you and never lose your spark!

[@MegaOneZer1]

I love Eileen but this doesn’t seem to be an equal partnership. At this point I think you’d be better as friends

[@Jadesjourney24]

I honestly think you’d be happier with someone near your age or someone who treats you a lot better and can connect with and honestly maybe it does have to do with the age difference and though there’s those with healthy age gap relationships sometimes others don’t have the same luck

[@alexandramoyer8785]

Unless they are under 18 age has nothing to do with it. She prefers older women. Nothing wrong with it.

[@courtkendell]

@@alexandramoyer8785 older doesn’t have to be 30+ years older. she could date someone just 10 years older than her or something.

[@alexandramoyer8785]

@@courtkendell 🤡 mind your own life and business you’re wrong

[@alexandramoyer8785]

@@courtkendell y’all need to stop being judgmental. And get a life

[@KittyCatFurbabiesMaria1972]

@@courtkendellage has nothing to do with it ! Love is love ! Stop being judgemental on others lives

[@tonysopranoholdinganeedler1638]

I’m just gonna say it, you can do better than her and she knows that so she wants you to feel beneath her and inferior.

[@c123-i6n]

Yeah, I find it weird because I literally thought the older lady was her mom at first. Don’t waste your youth like I did. I don’t think they are a good fit since they don’t seem to have much in common. Not being mean, I’m just saying.

[@Rebecca_Bailey]

Normally I say if it makes you happy then fair enough no matter the age but this is a prime example as to why most age gap relationships don’t work out, you’re not in the same era, you’re at different life stages

[@alexandramoyer8785]

@@Rebecca_Bailey most? Lol wrong

[@Laurie_Ramone]

I don't know, I hate to comment on other people's relationships because obviously no one can know every single detail that's going on behind the scenes... but Julia, I just feel like it's very telling that you say you travel, work, etc., to avoid thinking about the problems. That's not a healthy mindset and I just... I don't like to see someone sweet and young with so much life ahead of her be in such a bad mental state most of the time. That was me up until about two years ago and it just gets a lot easier once you realize what's holding you back and cut ties. You can love Eileen and still not be right for each other. It's one of the hardest lessons to learn in life. Wishing you much luck

[@antibabe8882]

ultimately the only reason i’ve left harsh comments is because the same thing happened to me in a relationship where i was presented something different then somehow i became tue sole breadwinner-my partner was critical of my cleaning-and also everyone in my life said to leave. i thought they were just haters or judgemental but after my own attempt at life-i realized that i was with a narcissist and even though she loved me-it was taking away my light and my life force. you shouldn’t have to travel and work away from home-home should be your safe place. and eileen isn’t evil but she’s enmeshed you in her own trauma. you are allowed to start fresh-for your sake. i did 1.5 years of couples therapy and i wish i could take those thousands of dollars back.

[@alexandramoyer8785]

Well your harsh comments are still unnecessary

[@lunamonetmonroe]

@@alexandramoyer8785 Exactly. I mean I feel badly that this person had to endure those things, but they didn’t need to project what they experienced onto Julia. J & E’s relationship is their own, not anyone else’s. Also, we all really don’t know everything about them, so we shouldn’t be so quick to judge so harshly. Julia is a mature woman, capable handling things & I can’t imagine all these negative comments helping her already depressed state of mind so…I agree with you!

[@alexandramoyer8785]

@@lunamonetmonroe exactly I agree. I feel no one has the right to judge someone or their relationships and make assumptions that might not be true

[@aaronconway995]

Can’t believe I am saying this but I think you should find someone else Julia

[@jacquelinevillarreal657]

I love you, and I have to be honest. I can see you contribute financially into the relationship, I can see you are the one cooking, cleaning, etc, and I can’t see what Eileen’s contribution is into the relationship…

[@ivand0007]

They're both 🤢

[@angelgirlmari5686]

​@fitrill how is she a weirdo for stating an observation? julia puts her relationship out there because she is close with her subscribers and views her fans as friends. many people have noticed a pattern and are voicing their concerns, and clearly something has come out of doing so

[@jennytimelord9689]

Before they met, Eileen worked I think, then she transitioned to a blogger for politics? I'm not sure. But she does work. She also takes care of the animals and house when Julia is traveling. She just doesn't put her financial business out there 🤷‍♀️ also, I want to point out, Julia is a go-getter, and an artist and she wants to be famous. Not everyone wants that. Assuming because Julia is out there trying to be rich and famous that Eileen isn't contributing enough is wild to me.....they can't both be famous, they'd literally never see each other. Many relationships fall apart when both are celebrities

[@angelgirlmari5686]

@@jennytimelord9689 julia has said herself that she is the "rich" one out of the two (not saying she is rich just in terms of them as a couple she's the breadwinner) and recently said on a livestream that when eileen tried to have a KZbin channel, she told julia she would learn to edit videos and never did. so julia was stuck editing all her videos while eileen did none of the dirty work. it's wrong for people to assume that julia is a gold digger when in fact the situation is opposite

[@paraskevitsoni6394]

​@@angelgirlmari5686 and to think about when they first met people assume that Julia is a gold digger for dating Eileen!!! (Cause the age gap,!)

[@evelyntoglow]

Don’t wanna be rude or smth.. but baby, you’re such a gorgeous girl, you seem so kind.. know your worth 🩷

[@natasharose3176]

I thought something was off for a while, but I didn’t want to say anything & pry. I’m sorry you guys are going through a tough time, and if you’re willing to share more details with us with Eileen then that’s your choice to make. Thank you for being so open and honest with us, we love you Julia 💕

[@ivand0007]

🤢

[@alexandramoyer8785]

@@ivand0007 grow up

[@ginadomenique]

I feel like you can tell what a sweet, kind, genuine person Julia is by how excited those dogs are to see her. When I'm dog sitting I feel like the dogs answer the door like "Yay our human- oh. It's just you. Well okay, come in I guess" but those dogs are like "HOORAY YOU'RE HERE I MISSED THE HECK OUTTA YOU". Dogs always know who the good ones are!

[@adelesmith7827]

Trust me.... life is way too short to be unhappy. You're bright, intelligent, talented, beautiful and young. Choose you! If you ate having trouble forgiving its because you innerself knows that it isnt right. There is a difference in forgiving a thoughless act like buying a hoover for a birthday gift but if you have to forgive for deep things then consider what your innerself is saying!!!! You know all the answers already. I learnt that love isnt enough and trust is everything xxx

[@stacykeener5808]

I’m sorry you and Eileen are having issues. Maybe marriage counseling would help? Thank you for being open and honest about your life. You are a beautiful person, and I just always hope the best for you.

[@ivand0007]

Or maybe they shouldn't be a thing? Ever thought of that?💀🤡

[@carolinehabel]

​@@ivand0007 Or maybe, Ivan, your opinion on their marriage is irrelevant. If they want to divorce/separate eventually, then they will. Many couples try to work things out, such as by using marriage counseling if they both want the marriage to continue, are conflicted, or both still care about each other. I don't see the benefit of using skull and clown emojis unless your purpose is just to be rude and immature.

[@lupehernandez1035]

I honestly just think Eileen hast to put more effort in the relationship, she uses her age as an excuse. You can be old and still be energetics and do . shit. I feel like Eileen tends to be lazy. To be honest, Julia does so much.

[@m.sh.5180]

Julia, something feels off for a while between you and Eileen and we were commenting on it not to hate you but because we are concerned about your mental health. Hopefully you will sort out what frustrates you ]. Remember that everyone deserves happiness and if your marriage does not make you happy it's better to separate with your wife so both of you can find peace and happiness.

[@tandiawiniata7145]

I've noticed it too, that they both have been off

[@Beebee7129]

Someone told me if youre depressed, and you like one thing what ever it is, do it as much as possible, every free minutes full of this thing. Because when you do that you feel your real self real taste real interest and most of times you have talent for it to feel equal to other people, not a worthless useless person full of sadness and despair. And youre focused on something else than otherthinking.

[@atla658]

You are only her senior nurse, sadly...

[@odapunkt]

This was a mature reflection from you. I think a lot of us felt like you possibly were in complete denial about your unhappiness, and that is why we might have been a little rude about our assumptions, trying to give you as much "support" however weird that sounds, to examine things

[@zeballos5757]

You both live in such a small place. I’m sure that doesn’t help when there are times of conflict. Tbh I never comment on your relationship and I don’t slag Eileen when many others do, but there are times when you are both in the vlog and it seems like you’ve just met and or don’t know what each other has been up to. The way Eileen speaks to you sometimes is formal seeming, again, like you’ve only just met. At the end of the day you will both decide when you’ve had enough….or not.

[@wawa5610]

First step in healing is just admitting you're struggling - i thik over the years you might have lost a little of your audience by not being as transparent. (Not that you HAVE to be or SHOULD be) But people respond way better to a more AUTHENTIC you, instead of a you who is just trying to appear happy. Good luck julia, youre special and okay on your own! :)

[@FemmiGirlz]

Sometimes the best healing of all is to let go of situations that are sucking your life force and energy. If it’s bringing your soul down spiritually then it’s time to consider separation wether temporary or permanently. You won’t know how you feel until you have several months away from the situation. The true you will emerge like a butterfly if you give space. That’s for both of you Julia and Eileen. There’s always two sides to the story.

[@malink2448]

I've been in many bad relationships with girls (lesbian) and you can be alone even tho you are in a relationship. Is there a reason you always travel alone? Doesnt your wife wanna travel with you? Do you dont want your wife to travel with you? All I can say is DONT BE WITH THE ONE YOU LOVE, BE WITH THE ONE YOU DESERVE. ❤

[@purpledragonfly4]

*Julia, I beg you honey, please wake up! The way you get treated isn't normal and it IS NOT OKAY!* *A marriage is a partnership with someone who treats you with love, respect, someone who helps you be all you can be. Who makes you feel secure, who helps pick up when you can't, helps around the house because that's what grown ups do, someone who contributes and makes things easier for you. You seem so incredibly lonely and unhappy in this marriage and we only say this because we know it isn't right!* *You deserve so much better and this has nothing to do with the age gap, it's because we don't actually see what she does for you except treat you like a trophy and let you do everything! That isn't love honey, it is manipulation and a major Red flag. No marriage should be this hard or bring you so much misery. Sometimes love isn't enough.*

[@theklav2914]

It takes a lot to share with the world that things are not okay - especially when things are not okay with someone you love dearly. Thank you for being brave Julia. ❤ I hope you do what is right for you and that things turn out in a way that will serve your higher self❤

[@julieroth3347]

If she cheated.dump her.

[@ThisIsMyDiary43]

I don't see her as her wife. But that's my opinion. I see Eileen as rude. Her "joking" jesters are passive aggressive and poor Julia thinks it's her being passive aggressive. No baby girl it's Eileen. I love you from the bottom of my heart. Personally I think moving countries will serve as a make or break point in your marriage. When you are separated by thousands miles for a few weeks or months, you'll start to become more Julia and less Juleillea mash up. Take this time to focus in you and decide what do you really want and need from your wife. If she can't do the same in her end, as I am sure she is very set in her ways, cut your losses and move on. My heart breaks for you doll it really does.

[@ashesforbeauty11]

Trust takes so long to build And seconds to break.

[@selenalee4969]

Do what is best for you! Even if it means change, you deserve happiness and your mental health is very important

[@Sheyann_89]

Yes I agree with you. I love seeing them together and happy but so many people who are in a relationship and are married or dating feel like they can't or shouldnt move on, like its not ok to do so but unfortunately some marriages and relationships just don't work out. Its ok to choose yourself and what's best for you and move on and make a change. Hell there's people who have been together 50 something years and end up splitting up and that's perfectly ok. I really wish the very best for them. I hope they can fix it but if not then I hope and pray their happy and can move on.

[@Oamanda6]

Once the trust is broken, it is rare to recover from it. ❤

[@bransbury2006]

Maybe it's since the whole money / arrest thing. As julia has said she has severe anxiety with having no money etc. And having a warrant out for your arrest and keeping it a secret will cause massive trust issue s

[@speakyourheart8548]

Basically shes a beautiful intelligent woman who can do anything with her life whos settled for a frumpy old woman who represents her mother. It doesnt work and you cant fool yourself for ever

[@HelloCoco888]

🧚🏼‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️Hi beautiful Julia, I ended a relationship with my daughter’s father last year after around 9 yrs. If being with a person is bringing you down then THE best thing is to remove the poison from your life. I don’t necessarily mean the person is poisonous but sometimes the relationship can be especially if it has been tainted with broken trust as that bond can never be fully whole again regardless of how you try to look past it. I’ve never loved somebody that much before and I probably always will - that was my person but I came to realized that although I was the one who had the right to feel hurt, his person was him always was and always will be. I’ve accepted this now and although we have not lived in the same house for over a year now these days we can actually sit at the same table and eat together whereas we could barely be in the same room. I miss the good times with my daughters father of course and that is okay. 🧚🏼‍♀️ PLEASE LOVELY JULIA, if this marriage is causing you depression at least consider a trial separation. You may make it permanent or possibly you reunite but GIVE YOURSELF A CHANCE PLEASE! DO NOT cling on to the good times or “the way it was before”, it is chasing an impossibility and you’ll end up 35 like me, thinking why didn’t I give myself this chance years ago. As I said yes I miss the good times too BUT everyone is happier now and I 100% regret not making this decision earlier. Sending all my love from New Zealand♥️

[@All5AJz]

We all just were waiting for you to see the truth of the person who you believed to be married to VS the real person she has always been.

[@sl2608]

And who is "the real person she [Eileen] has always been"???

[@All5AJz]

@@sl2608 actually you are wanting an explanation when it's years of shady things and as this isn't towards YOU unless your the wife ... I am more then sure this message made it to the one living in silence because she isn't trying to out her wife... a red flag is the fact so won't speak against her out loud and tip toes through it all. First visit to America with her is an insightful vlog. Con artist ....

[@mawmawmakeup3602]

Marriage is not a necessity. .. It is something you both have to want. It takes love..time..patience. It requires you BOTH to do work on each of your sides to make it work together. You have good times and bad times. And the test of how strong a marriage is is how you make it through those tough times together and come out stronger on the other side .. If you want it to work you BOTH have to put the effort in constantly to make it work. Goodluck Julia. I love you and Eileen together and I think you guys can work through whatever it is you are struggling with. I Think therapy can be beneficial. Both couples therapy and therapy on your own.. to both work on yourselves individually and yourself as a couple/team. Sending you both love And wish you guys healing. ❤

[@ivand0007]

🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

[@ivand0007]

You love them together? This is exactly what's wrong with society

[@mawmawmakeup3602]

@@ivand0007 yeah I do. They are both of age consenting adults. They can make the choice WHO they want to be with.... They CHOSE to get married. EILEEN treats her phenomenally. Shes a very nice woman from what I've seen of her. And when they are happy they are both very happy. They had a beautiful wedding and when watching the video you could feel the love between them. I dont think it's your place to insert your negative rude comments into a relationship that has zero to do with you and affects you in zero way. . . Go focus on your OWN relationship .

[@ivand0007]

@@mawmawmakeup3602 go seek help. These fringe uncommon relationships and lifestyles are garbage and you're seeing the effect of it🤣🤣🤣🤡🤡🤡 this poor girl was probably coerced into this situation and look whats happened🤣🤣🤡🤡🤡🤡

[@alexandramoyer8785]

@@ivand0007 grow tf up

[@TheNemesisRM]

I guess you reach the bottom when you tell publicly about how the person you are married to makes you depressed while still being with that person. I don’t think this will help the marriage honestly. Plus, if a person grew up in that way I doubt she’s gonna change the way she relates to people in their late 60s… The only way would be to spend enough time separated to clean both minds and work on yourselves before really trying again. there is always time to recover from a bad relationship but not to have back the years lost trying desperately to make it work.

[@zoooejenkins]

Don’t feel pressured to explain your personal life to us. All I can say is that I never had the courage to commit myself to anyone. I admire your determination to overcome these challenges.

[@scaron4403]

Yeah… the jail thing in the US , the ex at the wedding causing drama…these are just public things, so I can’t imagine what’s going on in private. The thing is , Julia is an open book, and Eileen seems to have a lot of secrets. Anyway, I’m sure they love each other, but I can’t even imagine being in Julia situation. Specifically the thing with the jail in the US. It was her dream to go there…and it became so…. Traumatic. I hope she will be better soon. She does seem stressed, gorgeous, but stressed.

[@earthwerm]

What jail thing?

[@Emily_Easton]

​@@earthwerm Eileen got arrested a while back, on a warrant, when they traveled to the US.

[@rubadub2655]

I love you ❤️ but please get some help. You’re supposed to trust your spouse 😔 I hope things get better for you

[@determineddiva5402]

All marriages have problems. I’ve learned that forgiveness is so important in any relationship. I wish y’all nothing but happiness. Maybe this time y’all are apart will make things better when y’all reunite.

[@icedfancy1994]

Your makeup in the beginning of the video was so pretty! Glad you got to spend some time with your friends dogs, pets always cheer you up. Wishing the best for you and Eileen, I've had tough times in my marriage too but what matters most is both want to work on things 😊

[@rettleasure6550]

Thank You for sharing so much of yourself. I work in mental health. It's definitely a struggle. You have a platform to make a difference. I just want to let you know that you really do Julia ❤. Best. Rett

[@hannahmiller5515]

I feel you..and it takes strong resolve to share with the general public such personal things. For myself in relationships, I feel betrayed and try to sweep it under the rug and then I end up harming myself because I am angry that I feel powerless to protect myself from other people. I prioritize peace and have a hard time being direct. For me I see relationships as a business type decision and romantic love belongs in entertainment not in real life. Hope that's not too depressing lol! Respect to you Julia

[@alessandrajackson3768]

Out of love, you guys should go to couples counseling! I plan to before I get married and I think it’s something that everyone else should too. Most couples issues are due to communication issues and not understanding each other’s love languages. Now that being said, any physical abuse or infidelity in a marriage or relationship should be a deal breaker.

[@ivand0007]

Out of care for society, more people need to say what they really think about this. No way this is normal stuff if so what the f is wrong with the world

[@lunamonetmonroe]

I think so too. It’s sad to see so many people commenting saying things like “choose yourself” or “marriage doesn’t have to last forever” …pretty much showing just how many people nowadays feel like the vows of marriage folks take means little to nothing & they’d rather just give up and walk away before actually trying to resolve the issues with their partner first. That’s sad to me. I get putting oneself first, and that’s ok, but when you’re married the decisions you make and actions you take ought to be a reflection of your union and have your partner in mind, not the other way around. If ppl are just automatically choosing to walk away without actually *trying* to fix things (obv if things are super toxic & abusive then that’s different) then one has to wonder if that person either never really wanted to be married in the first place or perhaps wasn’t exactly ready for all that a marriage actually entails. That said, it sounds like Julia really *does* love her wife and she isn’t just going to give up on things…which is amazing and is also a mature way of handling things, which I commend her for & have respect for. It makes me sad that Julia is down, bcuz I also suffer from anxiety, depression & other mental health issues, so I can relate which sucks. However, I am happy that she is doing things to work on her mental health *AND* her marriage. I really wish them both nothing but the best, whatever the outcome may be!

[@lunamonetmonroe]

@@ivand0007 Just because *YOU* don’t agree with or understand people being in an age gap relationship, doesn’t mean it’s wrong. It’s not for everyone, and that’s ok. But there’s no need to be rude about it either.

[@xxprettylittlethings]

I think it's time the two of you consider getting a counselor to help you guys through this patch. Age gap relationships are really difficult sometimes when it comes to conflict resolution. A counselor can help you guys communicate effectively. Different generations handle their emotions and confrontation so differently that sometimes a little extra help is called for

[@dianadmoon]

You're openness and honesty is always so refreshing ❤ Love you both together, wishing you both the best and sending healing vibes ✨

[@ivand0007]

🤢🤢🤢🤢🤡🤡🤡🤡

[@blousug]

My wife and I have been having marital issues as well. We have been together for 20 years. I’m the Elieen in our situation. But I have hope for you two that you can heal and move forward with your life.

[@ivand0007]

🤣🤣🤣🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

[@danielle6228]

Just know your worth and what you deserve. You ofcourse don’t want to give up easily and in a marriage you shouldn’t. You chose forever together and that means through ups and downs. But… when it comes to a point that it’s time to choose for yourself, make that choice. If in the end it doesn’t work, that’s really sad, but also know that you deserve happiness. Everyone does! And if staying means that you won’t be happy, it’s time to go. Which is different from the ups and downs ofcourse. You will know that difference in your heart. Just, make sure you also consider yourself. And that’s indeed not meant as hate, it’s meant as some kind advice. Because we all deserve to be happy or at least to work towards happiness, happy moments and great memories. Those are meant to balance out the tough times, but it should not always be tough. Hope that helps.

[@yourspookygay]

Let us know in your own time what's going on. I hope your move goes well!

[@angelav4568]

I hope you both do what makes you each happiest and is healthy for both; that being said, if you do choose to move on please take the time to really get to know someone before you get into a committed relationship with them. We will never know everything about a partner of course, but it the longer we take to get to know those we chose to be with, the better we can decide if sharing our lives with them is a good choice. Also spend some time alone before jumping into another relationship. Whatever happens I hope you find happiness.

[@jetta.silence6356]

I felt something was off between both of you. Not just Eileen but both. When i saw you started sporting all long fingernails i was like uh oh trouble in paradise. But the thing is marriage has ups and downs. Only you and Eileen know what is going on. Just dont let it fester. Counseling,each of you keep a diary of what is bothering you or a situation that happend and have"talk about us" date nights where you maybe put on just low romantic intrumental music. Put your comfy lounging clothes on and have tea or coffee sit down at the table and talk about things that you need to get discussed. Having fights,dry spells,yelling matches,walking out for air is normal. But when it gets to resenting eachother and constant bickering and picking at eachother where you both feel drained all the time is when its dangerous and time to make changes.❤

[@sophie-963]

Julia, you are so talented and have a gorgeous personality. I have watched your videos for years, and you need to value yourself higher and allow yourself to have the lifestyle you deserve. To reach your potential, consider ending your relationship and living situation with Eileen. Realistically, and I say this as I care about you, it is reasonable to say that from my observations and having the psychology knowledge, your's and Eileen's relationship will not improve. You need to move on now and stop hoping, trying, forgiving, and kidding yourself that it will improve. It will not. Take care, and keep up your excellent creative work.

[@stephanieu.]

Hope you and Eileen can work things out. Wishing you both the best 💘.

[@adamlewis3729]

Your wife has a whole secret hidden past and found the person who is gullible enough to not see it fully and what it means. However we all see it in her personality. She is a dark woman.

[@OrlaAfikiruweh]

What do you mean?

[@adamlewis3729]

@@OrlaAfikiruweh bro she had major problems with the law

[@OrlaAfikiruweh]

​@@adamlewis3729 Ahhha okay, thank you :)

[@prettypeculiarkatie]

I'm totally lost as I'm a newish sub, what did Eileen do that she can't forgive?

[@nrmmom]

​@@prettypeculiarkatieEileen blindsided Julia when they went to the US and she was arrested after landing. She didn't tell Julia she had a warrant out for her arrest and I believe Julia was the one who paid to get her out of trouble. julia didn't say this was what broke the trust but it could be a factor. Also Eileen has a sketchy past I don't fully understand. she has several aliases

[@FemmiGirlz]

When are you both going to share what happened? You share everything else. I know some things need to stay private but you even suggested in this video getting with Eileen and talking about it.

[@alexandramoyer8785]

She doesn’t have to share 🙄

[@catherinemiss6360]

The America incident is when I stopped caring for eileen. You are so amazing julia I hope whatever you need happens for you. X

[@earthwerm]

What happened?

[@Eco_Grl]

@@earthwerm Eileen got arrested in New York

[@Tim_Shu]

​@@Eco_Grlomg what for

[@laurawakefield8958]

What for? X

[@alam5055]

​​​@@laurawakefield8958 long time ago she kept a rental car for longer than agreed returning date and then just left it by the rental place, without clearing the issue properly and paying fine for keeping it overtime. And she ignored the issue all these years until she went to the US with Julia and got arrested for it during border control

[@tinahatfield8077]

Eileen, get it together quickly. You are on the verge of losing a very beautiful young woman who has a very loving heart. Fix this, if it is at all possible.

[@zephyrr914]

I’m older and I have serious self image issues. I have body dysmorphia and just issues .. anyway .. I just wanted to say that when we get stuck in ourselves we can actually sabotage relationships. Take serious time for healing. If both are selfless we can go without even an argument. She needs to realize what a precious wife she has cuz you are incredible!

[@fredamarshall3627]

Hell yes. Your creativity is stifled.

[@watchthisheadspace]

So sorry to hear it. I know some people make it work and there's other reasons marriages fail but a year or even 3 isn't long enough to truly know someone. Apparently if you marry after 4 years or more together the divorce rate drops a fair bit but everyone's unique. I hope you can work through it, losing trust hurts immensely

[@shizutans]

Can you please make a video about how you manage the color of your hair? Pink hair is really difficult to maintain and I'd appreciate some tips!

[@KittyCatFurbabiesMaria1972]

Me too .! Epilepsy love to know what brand Julia uses

[@Camilla.x]

Lots of love to you and Eileen💖💖 Hope you two will get pass the struggle! xx

[@barbwatchesyt4084]

Julia and Eileen, first of all I want to say, make sure you truly love yourselves or recognise that that is your biggest responsibility in life to learn to do that more and more each day, because you cannot put the pressure on your partner to be that source of love for you. It's a wonderful thing to love each other, but it is a gift, not a compensation for a lack of self love. This is the first step I would advise anyone to have a successful relationship. Recognise also, that you might have different emotional styles and desires from a relationship. Don't assume, that just because your arrangement isn't working, that either of you have failed the relationship. It may be that you've discovered that you've both grown in different directions, and even though you love each other very much, you have to decide amongst yourselves, in all honesty and integrity, that you both want to proceed with the relationship with love and faith and belief, and even learning to love each other's differences. It may or may not be possible. This has nothing to do with failure, just with human growth through experience. Neither one of you has bad intentions, but perhaps your styles don't always match and, if that's the case, be accepting of that, and learn to love your differences. I don't know if this resonates with either of you, but have faith that you can get through any and every circumstances in your life, and that, if you believe in God, or the universe, that beautiful things await you both, and let loose of each other a little perhaps and your expectations of each other, without giving up on the love for each other. It's still a beautiful thing. Become more unconditional, and do whatever makes you both feel good and safe. And if that requires space, then take it, and communicate, above all else. That's just what I channeled :) love you both. Also, water signs and air signs have very different needs and sensitivities, that's not a bad thing, but tricky to navigate. As long as you recognise that and are willing to see each other's point of view without demanding either one of you change, then I know you can both make this work!!

[@Skyesup]

Julia deveria fazer um canal em português mostrando as coisas diferentes de onde mora para os Brasileiros, aposto que ia ficar famosíssima lindaa

[@K-a-n-d-i-s]

Get out of there girl! Life is too short she will hold you back

[@chanellevenes1150]

You’re literally beautiful, charismatic, talented, friendly, loving, affectionate, generous, hardworking, ambitious, stylish, unique, creative, like so so so many amazing qualities & traits AS WELL as being young & gorgeous!!! Darling.. you shouldn’t be in a relationship that’s making you depressed. I don’t believe Eileen is bad, but I believe you should be with someone more on your level princess 💕💕💕

[@Lady_McSassy]

I’m sorry to hear you and Eileen are having problems, but I’m happy to hear you love each other and aren’t giving up. It’s so much work, but it’s so worth it. I’m celebrating 23 years of marriage in May, and 25 years together❤. Trust can be regained.

[@angeleyes5781]

IF YOU LOVE EACHOTHER TRY MARRIAGE COUNSLING WHO CARES WHAT WE ALL SAY LISTEN TO YOUR HEART HUNNY U NO BEST BEST WISHES AND PRAYERS TO U BOTH XO

[@busra5891]

Please divorce

[@wildrabit4996]

I do remeber times qhere i was like wait is eilen trowing shade? And it was so cruel calculated yet small engouth to not be noticable if you haven't experienced abusive relationships(like in general including freinds and family) i jist hope julia has a tersphist who could help her establish whats hers and whatz on her wife.

[@roxxanne6256]

You always complain about the toxicity video ,but I think among the all you have ,this one is definitely the best one. It's not nice for the videomaker that you keep repeating is nothing special etc.. He's done a great job!!

[@myrandaflores4866]

I hope you guys are able to do some therapy together to heal. There's no shame in therapy and if you truly want to work on the marriage I hope you look into it💓 Distractions honestly only cause more damage in the long run, it doesn't fix the hurt. You have to face it head on to get past it.

[@lithia4483]

It's great to open up and talk about your feelings but please remember you don't owe anyone an explanation. I hope you get past these issues because you deserve nothing but the best. Also, your nails are gorgeous 🩷

[@crazycat20101]

If your with the right person, you shouldn’t have to have so many issues it shouldn’t be hard. Thinking of you ❤

[@bx5659]

If she cheated then please consider leaving, I don’t believe once a cheater always a cheater but I DO believe once a cheater in a relationship always a cheater in the relationship, staying just confirms to her that you don’t value yourself highly enough and she can get away with it, there’s a reason why you’ll never see two people in a happy relationship and one of them has only cheated once, they’ve either cheated multiple times or the relationship will never recover and you’ll go through hell until it’s over, you’re young, you still have time to find somebody who deserves you and settle down, because if the reality is that she cheated ok you might make it work for another 5 years but then what? She’ll either cheat again or you’ll still be unhappy and then you’ll wish you had those 5 years to focus on yourself and find somebody else

[@ivand0007]

Imagine getting cheated on by some hippo🤢🤣🤣🤣

[@dawnriddler]

I doubt it's about cheating at all. But if someone cheats, it's important to discuss why, if there is something that they were missing in the relationship that can be addressed or if it was just boredom, lust etc. Also, not everyone is monogamous, she even mentioned before that she's open to including another person into their relationship if both were into her and if she's attracted to both of them.

[@bx5659]

@@dawnriddler you can still cheat when not in a monogamous relationship

[@dawnriddler]

@@bx5659 I am aware, but you are stated it as an immediate reason to break up, which simply isn't for everyone.

[@dawnriddler]

@@saramcdonalds9038 If that's the case, that's literally the easiest thing to fix. But not being happy with the actual relationship, feeling emotionally neglected, misunderstood, not seeing a future or caring about the other person is something that is much harder to address (sometimes even with therapy). If the reason is only based on sexual needs, it's fixable. A compromise can always be made. Sex isn't everything in the relationship, there are usually more things in play. And even if doesn't resolve, it will help you understand the behaviour and know how to prevent and/or address it in the future.

[@heavenleighdollanger]

As a married person it’s hard sometimes!!! Hope u can work it out

[@ivand0007]

Imagine supporting that degeneracy

[@carpincho146]

marriage is a process. it's not always happy and it can't be easy to deal with marital issues in the public eye, especially as you have a non traditional relationship, it brings you even more attention and not all of it is positive. I'm sorry people make so many speculations and say not so nice things. it's not our place to assume and it's not helpful for you. that being said, you have our support and care endlessly! we all want the best for you, whatever that may be. I hope you figure things out and feel much happier soon. you both seem like such lovely people and Julia you're a star! you deserve to shine and feel great raccoon queen 🩷🦝✨️

[@laoctavadimension275]

Thanks for being so honest, it helps a lot to other wifes in problems like me, is a way of feeling less alone and less of a failure for not having the best marriage as we saw in films❤

[@vanessamarie5333]

Julia are u okay in this vlog at the intro part as u look like u have been crying ❤❤

[@bc7846]

Is she gonna tell us what Eileen did that affected their trust that she cant forgive?? Guess not. I hope Eileen did not cheat or was not texting other young girls.

[@amalali529]

@@marycanary3871 yeah but she shares her stuff and we have the right to comment and state our opinions right? we are not haters! We care about Julia that’s why it’s hard for us to tolerate when it’s obvious how Eileen uses her!

[@alessandrajackson3768]

It could be stuff from the criminal past and how it ended up affecting Julia

[@zerenitywhispersasmr]

Her admitting that a lot of ppls concerns was true is a big step. Hopefully soon she feels comfortable enough to share.

[@ivand0007]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 this all has to be a big joke right? No way these people actually exist

[@ivand0007]

​@@THRICELY lesbos🤢🤢🗑

[@PharmacyTechLabs]

The next video will be them splitting up. 😢

[@skylarpaige7227]

I've noticed that something was off between you and Eileen for a little while now. Though I didn't want to pry. Good for you for opening up about it and being real that can be healing in and of itself. Sending you both love

[@odgykins]

Please don’t feel pressured to divulge every detail about your private life with your KZbin audience. I can already see commenters drawing a lot of bold conclusions. If there are serious issues, I hope you’ll seek therapy or whatever it is you feel you’ll need to cope with the broken trust.

[@madeleinemagdidavid4174]

You got married as same time as me and my wife and we have feeling that our relationship is over. We changed a lot, we taught each other but for a while we got stucked..we are not happy , no have intimacy, no same hobby or interests...so we are thinking to separate and just let each other to find happiness because we can not make happy each other anymore ...I understand you. I am European and my wife from Brasil and we are completely different in everything...

[@ivand0007]

Lesbians don't know love🤢🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤡🤡🤡🤡💩💩💩💩🗑🗑🗑🗑

[@valoreVii]

People can speculate about cheating, money, lies - whatever. But what Matters, Julia, is your mental health and if its healthy with you two. If you need to distract yourself by working and by traveling away from your partner then you really need to look at things. Not just for you, but Elieen as well. When you lose trust it can be extremely damaging no matter the reason. And if you're aware of your own negative behavior/passive comments, I think couples therapy is something you should give a chance. If things/feelings don't change then you have a decicions to make, both of you. My genuine advice is to try therapy together before you move homes/countries because if something happens after the move its going to be even worse and more stressful. Both of you look after yourselves and I genuinely hope things get better for you.

[@sarahmckee5994]

You deserve a positive happy brilliant life in england

[@travelwife88]

Every marriage has its own issues, and it is OKAY to work on the marriage and not give up too easily. Your future relationship is not guaranteed to be problem free. If you can forgive the wife and work it out, good luck. If not, move on in your own timing